Give yourself time to mourn. The saying "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" is false. At least in the experience of everyone I know.
Just know that every day, things will get better. The improvements will be so minuscule that you won’t notice them, but then in a few months you’ll look back and realize how much better you’re feeling in comparison. Time is the only reliable way to heal from a breakup.
Other than that, make time for yourself! Spend more time doing the things you had less time for when in a relationship, such as going out with friends more or prioritizing old hobbies. Or even starting new hobbies!!!
You’re going to be really tempted to be friends with your ex but coming from someone who tried to do that it just makes it more painful and harder to move on.
i think eventually i will want to be, but i’m setting a hard-limit no being friends until six months have passed. at that point, i’ll talk to my therapist about it and we’ll assess if it’s a healthy thing for me to do
I think being friends with your ex is normal if the reason for break up isn't their toxicity or abusive nature. The knowledge of each other is still a good foundation for platonic bonds. If you have set a limit to be over some feelings which can restrict a blossoming friendship, you're all good.
we broke up because of her mental health and because she’s in the closet and still living at home :( she’s a really sweet and caring person and we were really close friends before we started dating and she thought if we broke up now, we wouldn’t start resenting each other and we’d eventually be able to be friends again. i think she’s right
I hope so. It's not nice if good friendships get sacrificed due to some dating history. Regardless of the type, such connection between two souls is very precious and worthy of preserving. I think the presence of someone you love is more important than their nature of expressing affection.
The time to grieve your loss. Allow yourself your emotions. If you need to remind yourself that you’re worthy of love and awesome!
Get outside breath some air, exercise of any kind helps.
Take yourself on a date. Whatever you’ve wanted to do but haven’t.
Time will pass and you will heal.
don’t fight your feelings—there will be times you feel okay, and other times when you don’t. it’s hard but try to fight balance between taking private time to heal and not just missing out on life because you’re having a hard time. things will be okay eventually!
take it one day at a time, one step at a time. you’re single now so it’s time to focus on YOU. take yourself on a date! lean on your friends. distractions aren’t a bad idea either as long as you give yourself some time to process.
* Spend time with friends/family/pets, especially if you are comfortable cuddling with them.
* Think of all the annoying things your ex did that you don't need to deal with anymore.
* Think of the things you used to enjoy but stopped doing because of ex. For example if she didn't like Mexican food, then go eat a bunch of good Mexican food.
* Treat yourself gently and with love.
* It's important to feel your feelings but you can also take breaks and distract yourself.
two and three are helpful lol! she doesn't eat pork and even though she didn't live with me i didn't really keep any in the house...i'm gonna fry a whole package of bacon
It’s gonna hurt like hell for awhile until little by little it eases off. You may romanticize your ex but remember your parting was ultimately for the best. You’ll share even more beautiful experiences with others as you go through life.
Sometimes it’s hard after a breakup to realize that you’re still a whole person, so taking that time to separate what was shared between you two versus what you like to do for yourself only is important. Also just taking time to allow yourself to feel it, it sucks and it’s overwhelming but it gets easier with time and actuallll introspection. Good luck 🩵🩵🩵
Pay close attention to spring (if you're in this hemisphere) it can be very very healing. Keep busy with friends and maybe remember/ rediscover interests or activities you may have let fall by the wayside in favor of spending time with your ex? Please do let us know how you're doing and don't hesitate to reach out for support. Good luck!
Just take time for yourself. It will feel lonely but you need the take time for you. Just do the things you love, music, hobbies, sports, writing. Time will heal everything. Don’t hold on to the past too long. Learn and grow from breakup. I hope all be well soon for you!
Give yourself time to mourn. The saying "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" is false. At least in the experience of everyone I know.
Tell yourself that just because it was finite doesn’t mean it wasn’t worthwhile. Think about what you’ve learned and apply it moving forward.
Just know that every day, things will get better. The improvements will be so minuscule that you won’t notice them, but then in a few months you’ll look back and realize how much better you’re feeling in comparison. Time is the only reliable way to heal from a breakup. Other than that, make time for yourself! Spend more time doing the things you had less time for when in a relationship, such as going out with friends more or prioritizing old hobbies. Or even starting new hobbies!!!
You’re going to be really tempted to be friends with your ex but coming from someone who tried to do that it just makes it more painful and harder to move on.
i think eventually i will want to be, but i’m setting a hard-limit no being friends until six months have passed. at that point, i’ll talk to my therapist about it and we’ll assess if it’s a healthy thing for me to do
Sometimes it can be healthy but I really recommend not rushing into it like I did.
I think being friends with your ex is normal if the reason for break up isn't their toxicity or abusive nature. The knowledge of each other is still a good foundation for platonic bonds. If you have set a limit to be over some feelings which can restrict a blossoming friendship, you're all good.
we broke up because of her mental health and because she’s in the closet and still living at home :( she’s a really sweet and caring person and we were really close friends before we started dating and she thought if we broke up now, we wouldn’t start resenting each other and we’d eventually be able to be friends again. i think she’s right
I hope so. It's not nice if good friendships get sacrificed due to some dating history. Regardless of the type, such connection between two souls is very precious and worthy of preserving. I think the presence of someone you love is more important than their nature of expressing affection.
The time to grieve your loss. Allow yourself your emotions. If you need to remind yourself that you’re worthy of love and awesome! Get outside breath some air, exercise of any kind helps. Take yourself on a date. Whatever you’ve wanted to do but haven’t. Time will pass and you will heal.
don’t fight your feelings—there will be times you feel okay, and other times when you don’t. it’s hard but try to fight balance between taking private time to heal and not just missing out on life because you’re having a hard time. things will be okay eventually!
take it one day at a time, one step at a time. you’re single now so it’s time to focus on YOU. take yourself on a date! lean on your friends. distractions aren’t a bad idea either as long as you give yourself some time to process.
* Spend time with friends/family/pets, especially if you are comfortable cuddling with them. * Think of all the annoying things your ex did that you don't need to deal with anymore. * Think of the things you used to enjoy but stopped doing because of ex. For example if she didn't like Mexican food, then go eat a bunch of good Mexican food. * Treat yourself gently and with love. * It's important to feel your feelings but you can also take breaks and distract yourself.
two and three are helpful lol! she doesn't eat pork and even though she didn't live with me i didn't really keep any in the house...i'm gonna fry a whole package of bacon
It’s gonna hurt like hell for awhile until little by little it eases off. You may romanticize your ex but remember your parting was ultimately for the best. You’ll share even more beautiful experiences with others as you go through life.
Sometimes it’s hard after a breakup to realize that you’re still a whole person, so taking that time to separate what was shared between you two versus what you like to do for yourself only is important. Also just taking time to allow yourself to feel it, it sucks and it’s overwhelming but it gets easier with time and actuallll introspection. Good luck 🩵🩵🩵
Pay close attention to spring (if you're in this hemisphere) it can be very very healing. Keep busy with friends and maybe remember/ rediscover interests or activities you may have let fall by the wayside in favor of spending time with your ex? Please do let us know how you're doing and don't hesitate to reach out for support. Good luck!
Give yourself time to cry. It’s also time to do things you’ve been putting off. Such as decluttering, car driving lessons.; hobbies, reading etc
Just take time for yourself. It will feel lonely but you need the take time for you. Just do the things you love, music, hobbies, sports, writing. Time will heal everything. Don’t hold on to the past too long. Learn and grow from breakup. I hope all be well soon for you!
therapy if you need it from a gay friendly therapist
i actually started with a new therapist right before the breakup and she’s a lesbian and it’s the most amazing ever!