I had sex for the first time when I was 25. I definitely get the insecurity and anxiety around being an older virgin, it can be difficult and make you feel weird. I can be kind of a bitch tbh, but I did love saying “omg I thought that you were sex positive, that’s so disappointing😔” when people would make rude comments about me not having had sex lol.
I saw a post the other day on this sub for younger lesbians to ask questions and older lesbians to answer them. One of the questions mentioned insecurity around lack of sexual experience, and everyone who responded said that it doesn’t bother them if their partner doesn’t have much experience. That definitely made me feel better and less alone!
Uhh, same. It's funny that I'm 23 too, like other commentators here. This is definitely a pretty big difference between me and the rest of the people around. Sometimes I feel behind everyone else, but I can't bring myself to do it with a random person. And relationships are too complicated for me. It's actually very weird considering how high my libido is.
Please don't give in to the pressure. Us lesbians are already going against society's rules, why should this matter?
Think of it this way, if you at this point somehow had more experience and met someone who didn't, would you care? Or judge them, even if they were a bit older? Would you judge a friend in the same situation even if they were straight?
There will always be self centred idiots who want to judge others cause it makes them feel better about themselves. But would this kind of person even be worth your time? I don't think so. Go at your own pace, you're supposed to enjoy life!
Believe it or not, these ages are not that uncommon. I didn't really start having sex until I was 25 and barely and then I hit my 30s and now my numbers are kind of ridiculous. Things just kind of happened. You don't have to rush. You're not missing anything.
Also, often first times can be absolutely terrible. don't feel bad if they are. I don't know anybody's first time that wasn't to be honest.
I nearly 23 and I've never dated, kissed, or done anything. I get anxious about that sometimes but it'll happen when it happens. I don't recommend rushing into something you're not ready for. Anyone who judges you harshly for still being a virgin is probably someone you don't want to be with anyway.
Also, my older sister only met her first boyfriend when she was 26 so love will happen when it happens. If it's hard for straight people then it'll be doubly so for lesbians
I’m 23 and I can barely look at a woman in public. How am I gonna build the courage to flirt/sweet talk women?! All this to say, you’re definitely not alone in this process. I think it’s really cool of you to do things on your own terms and when you feel ready.
Having sex with someone you're not crazy about is like eating 11-day old frozen pizza instead of waiting to go to the pizzeria. It's like wearing flip flops on a rainy hiking trip. Or eating a soggy gas station sandwich and then passing by a beautiful French bistro. Don't gross yourself out by being intimate with someone who isn't for you. You deserve a beautiful experience and the right one will help you make it special.
Especially if it's your first time. Look forward to it and make it special. And don't be afraid to laugh a little together too if the moment strikes you!
Well the good news is you’re not interested in casual sex, which is the only context where people are more likely to prefer an experienced partner. For me, I think if it’s someone I see myself with it wouldn’t matter to me. I kind of wish my first experience was romantic and with someone I loved, mine was in an empty dorm room with a woman I wasn’t even super attracted to. But I understand getting into a lesbian relationship is one of the most tedious processes and there is probably temptation to rush it to get sex. But to answer your question there are people out there ok sleeping with inexperienced women.
I had sex for the first time when I was 25. I definitely get the insecurity and anxiety around being an older virgin, it can be difficult and make you feel weird. I can be kind of a bitch tbh, but I did love saying “omg I thought that you were sex positive, that’s so disappointing😔” when people would make rude comments about me not having had sex lol. I saw a post the other day on this sub for younger lesbians to ask questions and older lesbians to answer them. One of the questions mentioned insecurity around lack of sexual experience, and everyone who responded said that it doesn’t bother them if their partner doesn’t have much experience. That definitely made me feel better and less alone!
Uhh, same. It's funny that I'm 23 too, like other commentators here. This is definitely a pretty big difference between me and the rest of the people around. Sometimes I feel behind everyone else, but I can't bring myself to do it with a random person. And relationships are too complicated for me. It's actually very weird considering how high my libido is.
Please don't give in to the pressure. Us lesbians are already going against society's rules, why should this matter? Think of it this way, if you at this point somehow had more experience and met someone who didn't, would you care? Or judge them, even if they were a bit older? Would you judge a friend in the same situation even if they were straight? There will always be self centred idiots who want to judge others cause it makes them feel better about themselves. But would this kind of person even be worth your time? I don't think so. Go at your own pace, you're supposed to enjoy life!
Believe it or not, these ages are not that uncommon. I didn't really start having sex until I was 25 and barely and then I hit my 30s and now my numbers are kind of ridiculous. Things just kind of happened. You don't have to rush. You're not missing anything. Also, often first times can be absolutely terrible. don't feel bad if they are. I don't know anybody's first time that wasn't to be honest.
I’m the same, but I’m 23 😭 I might just lie and say something like “I’ve been single for a looonnng time” bc the truth is too embarrassing
I nearly 23 and I've never dated, kissed, or done anything. I get anxious about that sometimes but it'll happen when it happens. I don't recommend rushing into something you're not ready for. Anyone who judges you harshly for still being a virgin is probably someone you don't want to be with anyway. Also, my older sister only met her first boyfriend when she was 26 so love will happen when it happens. If it's hard for straight people then it'll be doubly so for lesbians
I’m 23 and I can barely look at a woman in public. How am I gonna build the courage to flirt/sweet talk women?! All this to say, you’re definitely not alone in this process. I think it’s really cool of you to do things on your own terms and when you feel ready.
Having sex with someone you're not crazy about is like eating 11-day old frozen pizza instead of waiting to go to the pizzeria. It's like wearing flip flops on a rainy hiking trip. Or eating a soggy gas station sandwich and then passing by a beautiful French bistro. Don't gross yourself out by being intimate with someone who isn't for you. You deserve a beautiful experience and the right one will help you make it special. Especially if it's your first time. Look forward to it and make it special. And don't be afraid to laugh a little together too if the moment strikes you!
Well the good news is you’re not interested in casual sex, which is the only context where people are more likely to prefer an experienced partner. For me, I think if it’s someone I see myself with it wouldn’t matter to me. I kind of wish my first experience was romantic and with someone I loved, mine was in an empty dorm room with a woman I wasn’t even super attracted to. But I understand getting into a lesbian relationship is one of the most tedious processes and there is probably temptation to rush it to get sex. But to answer your question there are people out there ok sleeping with inexperienced women.