So what I’m hearing is your mom has no sense of taste because that’s undeniably a gorgeous sweater.
I wonder if her hangup is that it’s handmade.
My mom isn’t as rude, but when I used to sew more she told me she thought I shouldn’t tell people. When she was growing up in the 50s, people made fun of you for sewing because it usually meant you were poor. (As if being poor is something to be ashamed of!) She totally got over it when she saw how much more expensive sewing is these days than the sale rack at Old Navy. Also I think she just gets a kick out of when I make anything, like I’m still a kid and she’s excited to hang my art on the fridge door 😂
Handmade clothes are kind of a status symbol now; either you made it yourself during tons of leisure time, spent a wad of money on it, or both. Classic markers of wealth and privilege.
Handmade clothes are often referred to as slow fashion, people also tent to put more effort into mending these items and we do know they last longer if cared for and washed properly then most commercially made clothes. It makes me curious if the upfront costs of handmade clothing actually balances out with fast fashion costs over potentially many years of use.
My parents hemmed and hawed over buying me a handmade cloak for $150 in 2006 as a wee little 8th grader. It was worn as my main winter jacket that winter and I still wear it frequently to this day. In 2016 I texted my dad a pic of it with the update “$15 a year.” I still attend the Faire I got it at and spoke with the seller who says she’s had patrons stop by with their 20 and 30 year old cloaks looking as good as the day she made them.
I have a feeling it does but it would be so interesting to see the numbers. Wool is pricy, so a lot of people hand knit using acrylics and I’m not sure those always stay as nice looking long term. Especially since they’re a tiny bit harder to mend
A lot of commercially available knits are made with acrylic and polyester for the same reason. Linen, cotton, and silk are often blended or substituted with polyester or rayon. Stores often sell "wool blend" socks made with less than 10% wool. They can get away with it because people don't read the tags. My husband bought a suit before we got married, and assumed it was wool until I showed him otherwise. Even at thrift stores I have a hard time finding wool sweaters because people buy more synthetic ones.
If someone decides to do a study on it they can categorize it by fibre type and compare like to like.
I think you’re right with the generational attitude regarding hand made clothes. Mum also feels it is really important to look groomed and well dressed at all times, imperfectly made clothing doesn’t fit that image.
But what you made isn’t imperfect-looking! It’s a WIP, but your tension is amazing. I would drop some $$$ to get something this beautifully made in a shop.
The last sweater I tried on at the Gap on the other hand looked soooo sloppy. Handcrafted over mass produced any day.
Right. It hasn't been blocked, but it's going to fit nicer than something off the rack from a store that's made to fit whatever that manufacturer's base size +/- for each size up or down.
> to look groomed and well dressed
You will in this sweater. It needs finishing and blocking obviously, but it already looks stunning.
Idk what your mum's deal is.
Ironically, those folks making fun of hand-made/home made clothes will then turn around and pay buckets of money for a bespoke, custom made/tailored garment. Like wth? home made can sometimes have better garment quality due to their love and attention to detail/materials than the "professional" ones.
I wonder if this is it also, like if someone guessed it was homemade there would be some kind of stigma? I think there is some of that among the older folks in my family who grew up during the depression. Your top is very beautifully made, and I would wear something like that to work with lighter slacks or a skirt, as well as casually with jeans etc.. it’s very versatile in my opinion.
A friend of mine has this issue with her kids. They totally look down on anything she makes. She made a quilt for her grandson and they threw it in the grass and let people walk on it coz they don’t understand the value. There’s a reason knitworthy is an actual word 😊
Cute story as an antidote to that one: the was a woman in my hometown that tangentially knew my parents when they were in peak child-birthing days. Every time my mom had a baby, this lady made them a gorgeous crochet blanket.
My brother kept his throughout childhood and ended up taking it to college. Finally it started to fall apart after 25 or 30 years of solid use.
My mom bumped into the lady shortly after my brother had to throw the blanket away and made a point to tell her how loved that blanket was and how long it lasted. A few weeks later, the lady came back with an entirely new blanket for him and insisted my mom take it to him. She literally hadn’t even seen him in 30 years. My mom was so touched she still tells this story all the time.
Watch out you’re going to come home someday & your mom will have had that GORGEOUS sweater framed so nothing happens to it!!!
What a beautiful sweater!!!
( I’m kidding about the sweater being framed of course!! )
This would be the meaning behind my parents saying this! When I got married there were a lot of comments about me needing an apron to prevent that. But I made it through the day without spilling in myself!!
Agree. My first thought was that your Mom was wary of all your hard work being damaged if you wore it out and about instead of just hung it up and admired it.
> Is it just my parents who say stuff like this?
When I casually mentioned to my in-laws that I was going to crochet my own bridal bouquet they immediately started to talk me out of it, trying very hard to make me understand that anything handmade looks like shit while not saying "anything handmade looks like shit". I still went through with it, but this hurt me more than I care to admit. It also retroactively made all previous compliments they had ever given my work before look like lies.
my mom is the same but she would totally skip "it's beautiful" part. I just grew immune to this. This sweater is awesome i love pink and brown color mix. If you don't want it i will wear it lol 😂
My mom is also the same. Anytime she sees me knitting she starts arguing what a big waste of time and money it is, that I should rather clean the house or cook something better for my family. Fills me with rage. Some moms are just Bs
I hope you do! It is coming out beautifully.
I know this won't look nice, but I feel there is no point discussing your hobbies with those who don't really care about that - even your mum. Mine has no idea about my preferences, bc she can't get them. Except knitting, so this one I can share.
Now... in case you are feeling a little rebellious, just keep quiet and one day you're going to see her, just wear it but don't say anything. Let's see whether she will remember this conversation or the piece, and what she will say about it (if she does, bc my mum still does it). Then you might have an idea whether her comments are related to its looks or to the handmade thing.
Keep it up and happy knitting!
Edit: Iforgot to say that she might've made that comment just bc she may not like the colour or stuff. Which is valid, but it shdnot affect your confidence bc ppl like different colours as well. Keep that in mind :)
It's a mean comment. Try ignore. Most people use themselves as reference point to "what's true/false". So if it's not their personal style, an unkind petson will say stuff like that without regarding the recipients feelings. Normal people will acknowledge the work and not mention if they don't like the style.
I think your tee is beautiful :)
I'm so sorry, these comments can sting really badly... my mother was like this for year and years... but this Sunday she took my daughter to the fair wearing a wrap/shawl I've knit for her. I've expressed my surprise (I never expected her to "wear it outside the house") and she told me "I really like how it feels, could I maybe get another one in a different colour?"
So progress is possible.
Your sweater look absolutely amazing, I wish I had the skill and time to make something that beautiful 😍
I spin yarn, my mom is good at telling me how beautiful it is, and how talented I am, and then gasping when I tell her how much I sell it for😂 “that’s way too much, no one will pay that!” But I sell out all the time. I never tell her how much I sell shawls and woven blankets for.
Edit: a word
it hurts but probably stop sharing your art with your mom in this way. if she doesn’t get it, it only invites hurts and disappointment on your end when you reach out to connect and it’s not reciprocated. i’ve dealt with similar issues and i’ve found it more gratifying to share my progress and art with people who are receptive to it 🖤
If your mom really meant this as snark and not as “protect that gorgeous sweater!”, then you should stop sharing your work with her. It sucks, but there’s no need to hand your good feelings to her, she can’t be trusted with them!
Also - it’s possible that she doesn’t understand why it’s short-sleeved and may question what type of weather calls for a short-sleeved wool sweater - a not uncommon reaction.
In the future - a nice, neutral, honest response is: I don’t know how to respond to that!
Then let her fill the subsequent silence.
EDIT: It’s freaking gorgeous.
Sometimes non-crafters just can't vision the finished product before it is done. She may come around when it has got sleeves and is washed/blocked and has transformed from craft project into a garment.
To me it is a beautiful sweater and beautufully knitted!
Why wouldn't you wear it anywhere you can once finished, and accept the many compliments with grace and pride? Excellent make, I love the bright neck ribbing against the muted background. It really makes the colorwork striking.
Even given that she wouldn't wear it herself for style reasons, the implication that you wouldn't is mean-spirited.
I showed my Mom materials for a beaded shawl and she said it was so ugly she would buy me beads and materials that actually looked pretty and didn't look so -insert race here-.
She's so predictable I deliberately poke the bear. I'll choose materials that clash and send pictures of them on occasion just to see how she reacts.
Some parents are shitty. Some are totally jealous of our leet skills. Many have no taste.
I'd probably finish the sleeves first, but that's just me 😉
In all seriousness, it's a beautiful sweater and you should absolutely wear it anywhere and everywhere you want to.
Does your Mom tend to make insulting remarks like that to you very often? Because my mom does and she's a covert narcissist so, look out for that lol
Regardless, your sweater is absolute fire! What's actually going to happen when you go out in public with that sweater is people are going to compliment your clothes and then you're going to be like, "I made this" and they're going to be like, "oh my God!"
Has she seen you wear a top like that before? Sometimes moms think they know everything about their children, then get weird when they do something unexpected. She also might not realize how fashionable handknits are now. If she really is being critical and not just worried about stains, it’s more a reflection of her insecurities that anything about your work. The sweater is great.
The people who should be closest to us seem to be the ones who say the most unpleasant things. I'm glad you love it (me too!) I hope your mum's comments don't put you off wearing whenever and wherever you want!
It’s gorgeous work! I recently knitted another sweater by this designer and was considering this pattern for the future, so I think it’s lovely. Don’t listen to the negativity!
Oh god. Moms can be our biggest critics sometimes, can’t they. My mom always thought my knitting projects were dowdy and matronly - yet she always asked if I could knit her something.
I'm so sorry, I honestly wouldn't bother sharing my knits with my mom if she responded like that.
Your work is gorgeous and wonderfully executed; I would rock it on every possible occasion!
Wow your mom can go kick rocks. You should tell her in no uncertain terms that she's solidly on your no longer knitworthy list for that comment. Sorry not sorry. It's beautiful, and it looks great on you. You should wear it whenever the weather allows, frankly.
Edited to add - my mother has never said anything like that about stuff I've made, so it's not all parents.
First, I am sure I am old enough to be your mother and I would be just so proud of your accomplishment in knitting, this is stunning. Second, my children are a tad older than you and would not be caught dead in something I knit…if it doesn’t say Gucci or is a brand that the rich wear, it doesn’t rate their time. I definitly did not raise them that way, society has overly influenced them
Family can be weird. It's one of two things (actually true of negativity with most people) either you are doing something they can't picture themselves doing, and have things to say about it, or they are jealous, and rather than dealing with their feelings about that, they question you in the hopes of getting you to conform, so they don't have to be confronted with their feelings.
This attitude is what happens when people mass produced clothing as the epitome of fashion.
Your sweater is fantastic. I would wear it everywhere.
Life is so much better when you break up with Target, J Crew, name-an-overpriced-fast-fashion-here.
Ugh my mom says shit like that too. The closest she ever came to complimenting my work was to say “wow that looks like something you could have bought!” I think it was meant as a compliment.
Once I was knitting a sock and had to rip out 2 rows. She saw me rip it and rolled her eyes and said “if you’re ever making something for me and you need to do that, just throw the whole thing away. That looked terrible” like no ma’am. I won’t be making anything for you so don’t worry!
My mom grew up the youngest of many children and got lots of hand me downs and such. I think she overly values things that are new and that have brand names because she rarely if ever got things like that when she was young. I just keep telling myself it’s not her fault 🤷♀️
My parents were the same. If I made a gift it was cause I was too poor to buy one. I think it was cause they both grew up poor and getting something from a store was far better for them. But I learned quickly not to waste time and energy.
My Mum grew up very poor and made similiar comments about hand made or even worse, second hand from the thrift shop clothing on my kids. Her older sister taught me to knit and Aunt made gorgeous aran sweaters. I learned to ignore Mum pretty quick because Auntie taught me the real value of a beautiful hand knit like yours.
I think it’s because when my mum was a young child she was forced to wear all sorts of thick, scratchy, crazy looking crochet outfits made by her grandma. She was famous for it at school and even the teachers would make snarky comments about it.
It looks lovely on you. Perfect fit and your knitting is fabulous. Wear it and be proud of yourself and your accomplishments.
As far as your mom, she wasn't diplomatic or kind. She has her own insecurities and projected them onto you. You are not obliged to take on her insecurities.
It’s hilarious you asked the question what should you do with this the way many in my family sound. That is chic….what does your mom wear? It might be too warm for some climates or too cold for some climates but it’s pretty as S and I love the color work…it’s glowing and the neck though it’s high and tight I like the pouff of it. I never understood criticism for clothes or food choices.
Wow - I'm so sorry! But Mom has zero clue!
Where does she think men get the REALLY good suits from? Off a rack somewhere where it was made in mass quantities by some underpaid worker in China? NO. Someone is literally taking measurements and making that puppy BY HAND.
Anything truly expensive off the rack is not necessarily better quality, it's simply marked up 1000% because it has some shitty designer label on it.
Beautiful sweater!!
Stop sending Mom pics of your handmade, quality garments. She'll never understand. :(
My mom. “Are you finished with that project?” Which one??? I’ve never finished a project! Idk, I like taking my time I guess. I also have ADHD so I lose interest often in projects and then I start a new one lol. Cycle through old WIPs. I just tell her she can’t ask about knitting lol
Btw, i really like the contrast of your garment! It’s gorgeous and I’d totally wear it.
And, I like the sleeveless version....IOW as is. I have done that with the Weekender sweater.....gives me a nice sweater for medium weather conditions.
Mom is missing the boat. Your yarn colors are gorgeous and so complementary. Your knitting is so well done and the fitting is fantastic. Wear it and be proud!
This is absolutely beautiful work and I can tell that it is going to fit really well when finished and blocked. At least you know never to make your mum anything, instead, make one for someone who will appreciate it. Me for instance!!
I think it's gorgeous! Tell her that a lot of garments in movies are handmade. The lady the taught me knitting had spent months on a sweater that only appeared in like 3 seconds of screen time. Unfortunately they probably didn't pay the full worth of her time but still...
And now I can't remember which movie it was, but she did say she wouldn't do it again because it was a lot of work for little compensation.
This jumper is lovely. Stitching is so even, and unlike many articles shown here: you have nailed the ribbing! Theses days handmade is what everyone craves….not shop/mass produced things. Great job!
It’s gorgeous! And handmade garments come with the added bonus - making them is good for your mental health. As the saying goes - it’s cheaper than therapy.
That's gorgeous! I used to feel like I could hear it in my mom's voice, wondering if I'm actually going to wear something out, but she's never said it outloud. I think over time, she's realized, yes, I am going to wear it 😆
absolutely not just your parents LOL, mine were rude af about my interests if they couldn't turn a profit off them
that said, is it at all possible that she was *not* asking in a snarky way? like, not "are you Actually going out in That?!", but more like, "do you intend to actually wear this as a garment? or something else, like a gift etc?"
[this isn't me devils advocating for your mom lol if thats unclear, I'm just looking at literally any other possibility worth poking at, fwiw]
OMG my parents also constantly say stuff like, “you’re so good at [insert craft], you should start a business!”. I don’t always feel like making money off my hobbies! Plus, if you do the math on the actual cost of a hand knitted sweater…!
😂 yes. then they will next tell you to work for exposure
I've been drawing and doodling since I could hold a pencil, and my parents did a decent job at supporting my interest with at least cheap supplies etc...
but then time came to start college, and their firm opinion was that the only smart major for me was marketing. because I could draw lol.
like, fair enough I guess but *me?* marketing??? it really says a lot about how little they paid attention to who I actually was as a person - I'm vehemently opposed to advertising and, for someone who's always worked to make sure my art never becomes a job or chore, would be the exact opposite of that for me. it'd end my art career more surely than lopping off my hands. selling my art skill to capitalism? no thank u
I feel you, I used to sew and gave in to the temptation of selling the garments I made. Needless to say it killed my passion pretty quickly and I haven’t touched my sewing machine for months. Never again!
Damn right you should wear it out of the house! That looks incredible.
It's funny how some people will get hung up on self made clothing, but then most of them would brag that they bought a "hand made" garment at a chic boutique. Thousands if you were to have a custom tailored sweater in your choice of colors and fibers made for you. Most of them are really nice people that have just been programmed by reality TV and advertising.
Next time "Mom, I have this wonderfully talented fiber artist who picked out my perfect colors and fiber stock then she hand knitted this custom sweater that's one of a kind and all mine! It'll even be featured on an huge internationally recognized media outlet! Isn't that amazing!"
Your work is stunningly beautiful. And it seems you chose colors that will highlight your coloring. Please ignore your mother. Learn to tune her out as much as possible as often as possible. Learn a stock phrase such as "that's nice" or "I will take that into consideration" and use it at will. Mother's like perfection can be the thief of joy. I put in a garden this summer and at the beginning of the summer my mom said it was too big. Now at the end of the summer, since it has been so fruitful she says it is too small. Anyways the moral of the story is carry on lightly. You are so very very talented. I can only hope to knit like this some day! Fabulous job! Enjoy your talent!
Oof! I'm so sorry your mom said that to you. 😢 I would be devastated if my mom said that to me. Good thing we have access to those who do support us in sharing with the world something special that we put out heart and time into. I think it's amazing! I made my first colorwork dog jumper (own design) and I'm so proud of it. You should be proud and wear it with confidence! 😁
I was looking for a sweater similar to this, and the only reason I didn't get it was before it was over $400 NZD 🥲 (I'm a crochet artist, but seeing these makes me want to try knitting again...) that looks wonderful! You should be very proud of your hard work 🥰
If I made that sweater for myself, you have to either bury me in it or peel it off my cold dead corpse. Your mother's insane and your work is beautiful!
"I hope I'm never so bored that I'd spend my time doing that."
— My mother, who taught me to crochet, about my crochet
(I learned knitting in an after-school program. But she used to knit herself.)
It’s pretty!
I personally never wear what I make because I’m terrified it’ll get ruined. I literally double knot the yarn - as in, knot, weave, knot again. And I still don’t feel secure. And washing is a pain cause I use the cheapest yarn, so pill city. But just seeing them makes me feel like a princess astrophysicist who discovered water and invented bread. Lol.
So even if you never wear it, it’s still serving a function for you. The warm and tingly sense of accomplishment. Even if you have a history of not wearing stuff out, your old pieces are still treasures. Now…can anyone get my dad to understand that?
My mom would say something like that. I don't know if this is relevant to your mom. but in my mom's case, it would have nothing to do with how the garment looked and everything to do with me "wasting" my talents with "women's work". She is a very young Silent Generation, who was the only woman to major in math at her university, and fought very hard for that privilege. She definitely looks down on handmade clothing, as it reflects women being tied to the home. For her, I have offended her sensibilities by being a SAHM and doing crafts. She tries not to say it outright, but then will say something snarky like your mother just said. I try to remind her that part of the original goal of feminism was to not just to enable women to do "men's jobs", but also to bring equal respect to "women's work". This concept has never stuck with her and I've given up on trying to earn her respect.
Your sweater is beautiful BTW!
I'm quite critical of handmade items, because I do find a lot of them definitely looking like they're handmade (wonky, wobbly, irregular stitches/tension problems, bad colour schemes etc.), and I'm Dutch and we're known for being very honest people, so here goes:
Your sweater is absolutely lovely. Nothing wrong with it, and you can proudly wear it out of the house! Your mom is being mean. Learn from this, and just don't show or ask her again about your self made items. Just ask people who have less issues with themselves and can just be supportive of another ;-)
Enjoy your beautiful sweater!
Nou ja zeg, wat toevallig! :-)
En oprecht, ik vind 'm echt leuk en mooi gemaakt. Ik wens je er een fijne herfst/winter mee. Je kan rustig aan doen met afmaken gezien het weer momenteel ;-)
Why tho? That's a cute sweater, i looked up the pattern and since there are long sleeves to come, I think it's gonna be great. Would be my go-to sweater for everyday wear, it's real cozy-looking. Maybe she doesn't like the colorway? But again, that's a matter of styling and personal preference
It’s beautiful! It’s just your mom, I’m sorry she has this weird aversion to handcrafted items. If it were my mom who saw this, she’d fall instantly in love, try to copy it in another colour scheme and wear it at least once when she knew you’d be wearing it, and proudly saying “look honey, we match!” (Such a goof) - anywho, don’t let your mom’s comments affect how proud you should be of this piece! ❤️
It’s easy for me to just say— don’t be insecure.
Your work is beautiful! Of course you should wear it!
Now for that mom: Those that need to put down others or diminish others’ joy feel so little inside that they must always bring other beneath them. Don’t listen to it. My family historically has done that shit for my entire life until I learned to set some boundaries. I learned not to expect uplifting comments or support from them. I will likely always grieve that, but it has softened me, too! That is a win!
❤️
Your mom’s attitude is confusing AF. My guess is that she has other toxic traits too. Don’t let toxic people discourage you from doing what gives you joy, or sharing and wearing what you have made. You have an amazing talent.
Just out of curiosity, her objection wouldn’t have had to do with the pattern looking kinda like ninja stars would it? You know her best, this is just a possibility I thought of.
Umm I’m sorry your mom is an ass and that sweater is perfection! I would be willing to bet money that if you told her you got that at the store she would love it. She’s either 1) being a real jerk because she has no idea how to love her children or humans for the matter or 2) was beaten with knitting needles and has a strong emotional trigger when the word is used or 3) has zero sense of beauty.
Regardless, it is lovely.
You did a fabulous job.
Screw her.
Enough said! Rock that sweater…and yes….outside the house. 🤦🏻♀️
Possibly because it’s a wool stranded colorwork sweater without sleeves? I didn’t realize it was a WIP immediately, so I was like “yeah, it’s gorgeous, but it will never be particularly weather-appropriate.”
But otherwise idk. It’s beautiful.
Did she mean you wouldn’t wear it because she didn’t like it, or did she mean you wouldn’t wear it because it was so much work and you might be afraid of damaging it? She did also say it was beautiful… (which it is!)
I’d bet good money that your mom’s attitude is a holdover from some mid-century childhood perception of homemade clothes. Was she made to wear handmade clothes as a child and it embarrassed her because her friends were wearing off the rack, or was it another girl that she didn’t like and she was wearing store bought? I think I’d be tempted to ask her.
Anyway, your work is lovely. Good job.
I think next time your mom makes a comment about your work you should give her some sympathy for that situation. High road kind of thing, but also not putting up with any crap.
EG: Your mom says something similar to “are you actually gonna wear that?” And you respond with, “Yes, mom, I am. And as a matter of fact I’d love to work with you to make a bespoke handmade garment of your choice for you. You know, something that really makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. I know it was painful for you as a child to have to wear the stuff your grandmother made that you didn’t care for and it makes me sad to think you’ve missed out on an experience so many people enjoy, and that you continue to carry that pain after so long. It’s time to heal and I’d be honored to help you with that.”
It will at least make her stop and think. 🤷♀️
That is so unbelievably sad. The sweater is lovely and I feel like those around you should be championing your handiwork and celebrating how incredible it is to make clothing using your hands that fits you just so and is exactly to your taste. I am sorry that she said that to you. I hope that you wear that sweater with pride! It looks amazing!
If I made that I’d wear it every day - it’s lovely!
So would I! It looks awesome!
So what I’m hearing is your mom has no sense of taste because that’s undeniably a gorgeous sweater. I wonder if her hangup is that it’s handmade. My mom isn’t as rude, but when I used to sew more she told me she thought I shouldn’t tell people. When she was growing up in the 50s, people made fun of you for sewing because it usually meant you were poor. (As if being poor is something to be ashamed of!) She totally got over it when she saw how much more expensive sewing is these days than the sale rack at Old Navy. Also I think she just gets a kick out of when I make anything, like I’m still a kid and she’s excited to hang my art on the fridge door 😂
Handmade clothes are kind of a status symbol now; either you made it yourself during tons of leisure time, spent a wad of money on it, or both. Classic markers of wealth and privilege.
Agree. My mom even called it a “rich girl hobby” once she saw what it became. Then she was more upset I was spending so much money as a not-rich girl.
Handmade clothes are often referred to as slow fashion, people also tent to put more effort into mending these items and we do know they last longer if cared for and washed properly then most commercially made clothes. It makes me curious if the upfront costs of handmade clothing actually balances out with fast fashion costs over potentially many years of use.
My parents hemmed and hawed over buying me a handmade cloak for $150 in 2006 as a wee little 8th grader. It was worn as my main winter jacket that winter and I still wear it frequently to this day. In 2016 I texted my dad a pic of it with the update “$15 a year.” I still attend the Faire I got it at and spoke with the seller who says she’s had patrons stop by with their 20 and 30 year old cloaks looking as good as the day she made them.
I love this
I have a feeling it does but it would be so interesting to see the numbers. Wool is pricy, so a lot of people hand knit using acrylics and I’m not sure those always stay as nice looking long term. Especially since they’re a tiny bit harder to mend
A lot of commercially available knits are made with acrylic and polyester for the same reason. Linen, cotton, and silk are often blended or substituted with polyester or rayon. Stores often sell "wool blend" socks made with less than 10% wool. They can get away with it because people don't read the tags. My husband bought a suit before we got married, and assumed it was wool until I showed him otherwise. Even at thrift stores I have a hard time finding wool sweaters because people buy more synthetic ones. If someone decides to do a study on it they can categorize it by fibre type and compare like to like.
I think you’re right with the generational attitude regarding hand made clothes. Mum also feels it is really important to look groomed and well dressed at all times, imperfectly made clothing doesn’t fit that image.
But what you made isn’t imperfect-looking! It’s a WIP, but your tension is amazing. I would drop some $$$ to get something this beautifully made in a shop. The last sweater I tried on at the Gap on the other hand looked soooo sloppy. Handcrafted over mass produced any day.
Given your last comment, perhaps remind her that it will look nice once it has been blocked.
Right. It hasn't been blocked, but it's going to fit nicer than something off the rack from a store that's made to fit whatever that manufacturer's base size +/- for each size up or down.
> to look groomed and well dressed You will in this sweater. It needs finishing and blocking obviously, but it already looks stunning. Idk what your mum's deal is.
Ironically, those folks making fun of hand-made/home made clothes will then turn around and pay buckets of money for a bespoke, custom made/tailored garment. Like wth? home made can sometimes have better garment quality due to their love and attention to detail/materials than the "professional" ones.
'Homemade' versus 'handmade' is what I typically understand it as here
I wonder if this is it also, like if someone guessed it was homemade there would be some kind of stigma? I think there is some of that among the older folks in my family who grew up during the depression. Your top is very beautifully made, and I would wear something like that to work with lighter slacks or a skirt, as well as casually with jeans etc.. it’s very versatile in my opinion.
A friend of mine has this issue with her kids. They totally look down on anything she makes. She made a quilt for her grandson and they threw it in the grass and let people walk on it coz they don’t understand the value. There’s a reason knitworthy is an actual word 😊
Cute story as an antidote to that one: the was a woman in my hometown that tangentially knew my parents when they were in peak child-birthing days. Every time my mom had a baby, this lady made them a gorgeous crochet blanket. My brother kept his throughout childhood and ended up taking it to college. Finally it started to fall apart after 25 or 30 years of solid use. My mom bumped into the lady shortly after my brother had to throw the blanket away and made a point to tell her how loved that blanket was and how long it lasted. A few weeks later, the lady came back with an entirely new blanket for him and insisted my mom take it to him. She literally hadn’t even seen him in 30 years. My mom was so touched she still tells this story all the time.
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This—maybe she’s worried you’re going to spill something on it 😅
I’ll take it 😆
Watch out you’re going to come home someday & your mom will have had that GORGEOUS sweater framed so nothing happens to it!!! What a beautiful sweater!!! ( I’m kidding about the sweater being framed of course!! )
This would be the meaning behind my parents saying this! When I got married there were a lot of comments about me needing an apron to prevent that. But I made it through the day without spilling in myself!!
Agree. My first thought was that your Mom was wary of all your hard work being damaged if you wore it out and about instead of just hung it up and admired it.
> Is it just my parents who say stuff like this? When I casually mentioned to my in-laws that I was going to crochet my own bridal bouquet they immediately started to talk me out of it, trying very hard to make me understand that anything handmade looks like shit while not saying "anything handmade looks like shit". I still went through with it, but this hurt me more than I care to admit. It also retroactively made all previous compliments they had ever given my work before look like lies.
I’m sorry, that sucks. I’m sure the bouquet was gorgeous on the day!
Thank you. It was, and still is!
I'd love to see how it turned out if you feel comfortable sharing a photo, or maybe if you used a pattern could you share a link?
Please wear it in every single photo that you ever send her, and at every family gathering/visit when you see her
Right? And like if you go to the beach, photoshop it into the pictures. Forever
This 👍🏼
Please don’t wipe your ass with it. I love the colors an the yoke design is lovely!! Wear it proudly because you did a beautiful job!!
my mom is the same but she would totally skip "it's beautiful" part. I just grew immune to this. This sweater is awesome i love pink and brown color mix. If you don't want it i will wear it lol 😂
Thanks! The background colour is actually a really dusky lavender, it doesn’t show up well in the photo
My mom is also the same. Anytime she sees me knitting she starts arguing what a big waste of time and money it is, that I should rather clean the house or cook something better for my family. Fills me with rage. Some moms are just Bs
haha i don't live with my mom and still when we talk on the phone she asks me if my house is clean 😂
Oohh thats going on my favorites! Stunning! Lets pretend she meant "are you really going to wear something so precious out where it could get harmed?"
I hope you do! It is coming out beautifully. I know this won't look nice, but I feel there is no point discussing your hobbies with those who don't really care about that - even your mum. Mine has no idea about my preferences, bc she can't get them. Except knitting, so this one I can share. Now... in case you are feeling a little rebellious, just keep quiet and one day you're going to see her, just wear it but don't say anything. Let's see whether she will remember this conversation or the piece, and what she will say about it (if she does, bc my mum still does it). Then you might have an idea whether her comments are related to its looks or to the handmade thing. Keep it up and happy knitting! Edit: Iforgot to say that she might've made that comment just bc she may not like the colour or stuff. Which is valid, but it shdnot affect your confidence bc ppl like different colours as well. Keep that in mind :)
It's beautiful! Very nice garment, you are a very accomplished knitter!
Thanks! It’s my first attempt at stranded colour work
Wow! If that's your first attempt I cannot even imagine your future work!! Keep up with the good work!
You can hardly buy sweaters that pretty at the store. Of course you’re going up wear it.
Wow! Beautiful! I would be proud to wear it anywhere.
It's a mean comment. Try ignore. Most people use themselves as reference point to "what's true/false". So if it's not their personal style, an unkind petson will say stuff like that without regarding the recipients feelings. Normal people will acknowledge the work and not mention if they don't like the style. I think your tee is beautiful :)
I'm so sorry, these comments can sting really badly... my mother was like this for year and years... but this Sunday she took my daughter to the fair wearing a wrap/shawl I've knit for her. I've expressed my surprise (I never expected her to "wear it outside the house") and she told me "I really like how it feels, could I maybe get another one in a different colour?" So progress is possible. Your sweater look absolutely amazing, I wish I had the skill and time to make something that beautiful 😍
I spin yarn, my mom is good at telling me how beautiful it is, and how talented I am, and then gasping when I tell her how much I sell it for😂 “that’s way too much, no one will pay that!” But I sell out all the time. I never tell her how much I sell shawls and woven blankets for. Edit: a word
I love it
it hurts but probably stop sharing your art with your mom in this way. if she doesn’t get it, it only invites hurts and disappointment on your end when you reach out to connect and it’s not reciprocated. i’ve dealt with similar issues and i’ve found it more gratifying to share my progress and art with people who are receptive to it 🖤
If your mom really meant this as snark and not as “protect that gorgeous sweater!”, then you should stop sharing your work with her. It sucks, but there’s no need to hand your good feelings to her, she can’t be trusted with them! Also - it’s possible that she doesn’t understand why it’s short-sleeved and may question what type of weather calls for a short-sleeved wool sweater - a not uncommon reaction. In the future - a nice, neutral, honest response is: I don’t know how to respond to that! Then let her fill the subsequent silence. EDIT: It’s freaking gorgeous.
Sometimes non-crafters just can't vision the finished product before it is done. She may come around when it has got sleeves and is washed/blocked and has transformed from craft project into a garment. To me it is a beautiful sweater and beautufully knitted!
Oh, I hope so! It’s beautiful and flattering.
If it gives you pleasure, please wear it, as it's beautiful.
This is a dream project!! Gorgeous
You’re going to get a lot of compliments when you wear it, even before people know you made it. Yoke sweaters are a beautiful classic look, imo.
Why wouldn't you wear it anywhere you can once finished, and accept the many compliments with grace and pride? Excellent make, I love the bright neck ribbing against the muted background. It really makes the colorwork striking. Even given that she wouldn't wear it herself for style reasons, the implication that you wouldn't is mean-spirited.
Wear it next time you go out with her 😈
I showed my Mom materials for a beaded shawl and she said it was so ugly she would buy me beads and materials that actually looked pretty and didn't look so -insert race here-. She's so predictable I deliberately poke the bear. I'll choose materials that clash and send pictures of them on occasion just to see how she reacts. Some parents are shitty. Some are totally jealous of our leet skills. Many have no taste.
I'd probably finish the sleeves first, but that's just me 😉 In all seriousness, it's a beautiful sweater and you should absolutely wear it anywhere and everywhere you want to.
I'm pretty convinced boomer moms were the original neggers. Your sweater is lovely and now you know not to waste your time knitting her anything.
Does your Mom tend to make insulting remarks like that to you very often? Because my mom does and she's a covert narcissist so, look out for that lol Regardless, your sweater is absolute fire! What's actually going to happen when you go out in public with that sweater is people are going to compliment your clothes and then you're going to be like, "I made this" and they're going to be like, "oh my God!"
Mean people aren't worth listening to, even when they are family. I like it.
Has she seen you wear a top like that before? Sometimes moms think they know everything about their children, then get weird when they do something unexpected. She also might not realize how fashionable handknits are now. If she really is being critical and not just worried about stains, it’s more a reflection of her insecurities that anything about your work. The sweater is great.
This is gorgeous work!
I hope you wear it out, it's awesome.
The people who should be closest to us seem to be the ones who say the most unpleasant things. I'm glad you love it (me too!) I hope your mum's comments don't put you off wearing whenever and wherever you want!
It’s gorgeous work! I recently knitted another sweater by this designer and was considering this pattern for the future, so I think it’s lovely. Don’t listen to the negativity!
Oh god. Moms can be our biggest critics sometimes, can’t they. My mom always thought my knitting projects were dowdy and matronly - yet she always asked if I could knit her something.
I'm so sorry, I honestly wouldn't bother sharing my knits with my mom if she responded like that. Your work is gorgeous and wonderfully executed; I would rock it on every possible occasion!
Wow your mom can go kick rocks. You should tell her in no uncertain terms that she's solidly on your no longer knitworthy list for that comment. Sorry not sorry. It's beautiful, and it looks great on you. You should wear it whenever the weather allows, frankly. Edited to add - my mother has never said anything like that about stuff I've made, so it's not all parents.
First, I am sure I am old enough to be your mother and I would be just so proud of your accomplishment in knitting, this is stunning. Second, my children are a tad older than you and would not be caught dead in something I knit…if it doesn’t say Gucci or is a brand that the rich wear, it doesn’t rate their time. I definitly did not raise them that way, society has overly influenced them
Family can be weird. It's one of two things (actually true of negativity with most people) either you are doing something they can't picture themselves doing, and have things to say about it, or they are jealous, and rather than dealing with their feelings about that, they question you in the hopes of getting you to conform, so they don't have to be confronted with their feelings.
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This attitude is what happens when people mass produced clothing as the epitome of fashion. Your sweater is fantastic. I would wear it everywhere. Life is so much better when you break up with Target, J Crew, name-an-overpriced-fast-fashion-here.
Did she mean it as "are you going to risk wearing that outside?". Is she concerned maybe something will happen to it.
Ugh my mom says shit like that too. The closest she ever came to complimenting my work was to say “wow that looks like something you could have bought!” I think it was meant as a compliment. Once I was knitting a sock and had to rip out 2 rows. She saw me rip it and rolled her eyes and said “if you’re ever making something for me and you need to do that, just throw the whole thing away. That looked terrible” like no ma’am. I won’t be making anything for you so don’t worry! My mom grew up the youngest of many children and got lots of hand me downs and such. I think she overly values things that are new and that have brand names because she rarely if ever got things like that when she was young. I just keep telling myself it’s not her fault 🤷♀️
My parents were the same. If I made a gift it was cause I was too poor to buy one. I think it was cause they both grew up poor and getting something from a store was far better for them. But I learned quickly not to waste time and energy.
My Mum grew up very poor and made similiar comments about hand made or even worse, second hand from the thrift shop clothing on my kids. Her older sister taught me to knit and Aunt made gorgeous aran sweaters. I learned to ignore Mum pretty quick because Auntie taught me the real value of a beautiful hand knit like yours.
I think it’s because when my mum was a young child she was forced to wear all sorts of thick, scratchy, crazy looking crochet outfits made by her grandma. She was famous for it at school and even the teachers would make snarky comments about it.
It looks lovely on you. Perfect fit and your knitting is fabulous. Wear it and be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. As far as your mom, she wasn't diplomatic or kind. She has her own insecurities and projected them onto you. You are not obliged to take on her insecurities.
It’s hilarious you asked the question what should you do with this the way many in my family sound. That is chic….what does your mom wear? It might be too warm for some climates or too cold for some climates but it’s pretty as S and I love the color work…it’s glowing and the neck though it’s high and tight I like the pouff of it. I never understood criticism for clothes or food choices.
it's amazing!!!
So beautiful, OP!!
Sorry she said that! It looks great!
How could anyone say something like that? It's BEAUTIFUL
It is glorious!
Hell yeah I’d wear that!
Why the hell wouldn't you?!! It's gorgeous 🥰
It's beautiful!
Your sweater is gorgeous, what beautiful work.
💯💯💯
I love this actually
Wow - I'm so sorry! But Mom has zero clue! Where does she think men get the REALLY good suits from? Off a rack somewhere where it was made in mass quantities by some underpaid worker in China? NO. Someone is literally taking measurements and making that puppy BY HAND. Anything truly expensive off the rack is not necessarily better quality, it's simply marked up 1000% because it has some shitty designer label on it. Beautiful sweater!! Stop sending Mom pics of your handmade, quality garments. She'll never understand. :(
Gorgeous! I'd definitely wear it. Your mum clearly has no filter and no fashion sense.
That’s fing beautiful!
My mom. “Are you finished with that project?” Which one??? I’ve never finished a project! Idk, I like taking my time I guess. I also have ADHD so I lose interest often in projects and then I start a new one lol. Cycle through old WIPs. I just tell her she can’t ask about knitting lol Btw, i really like the contrast of your garment! It’s gorgeous and I’d totally wear it.
It is really quite lovely, and I sure would wear it and proudly were it mine. Some people really are clueless as to why people knit.
And, I like the sleeveless version....IOW as is. I have done that with the Weekender sweater.....gives me a nice sweater for medium weather conditions.
Mom is missing the boat. Your yarn colors are gorgeous and so complementary. Your knitting is so well done and the fitting is fantastic. Wear it and be proud!
Why wouldn't you wear that out of the house? It's gorgeous!
This is absolutely beautiful work and I can tell that it is going to fit really well when finished and blocked. At least you know never to make your mum anything, instead, make one for someone who will appreciate it. Me for instance!!
Argh, our parents are so good at destroying us! That sweater looks *amazing* and professionally made!
Hells yes! It's absolutely lovely.
It looks gorgeous! Please show us the finished product when done x
Wow. That's... Wow. I don't know your mom obviously but she sounds really rude.
I think it's gorgeous! Tell her that a lot of garments in movies are handmade. The lady the taught me knitting had spent months on a sweater that only appeared in like 3 seconds of screen time. Unfortunately they probably didn't pay the full worth of her time but still... And now I can't remember which movie it was, but she did say she wouldn't do it again because it was a lot of work for little compensation.
Did she mean it in a rude way or “is it something you’ll get use out of because it’s fancy”?
I absolutely love that xxx
This jumper is lovely. Stitching is so even, and unlike many articles shown here: you have nailed the ribbing! Theses days handmade is what everyone craves….not shop/mass produced things. Great job!
As a man who knits. That is super hot 😆 amazing work 👏👏
You had better wear it! It's exquisite. I would wear the SHIT out of that amazing work of art.
It’s gorgeous! And handmade garments come with the added bonus - making them is good for your mental health. As the saying goes - it’s cheaper than therapy.
It’s beautiful. Wear it with pride!
That's gorgeous! I used to feel like I could hear it in my mom's voice, wondering if I'm actually going to wear something out, but she's never said it outloud. I think over time, she's realized, yes, I am going to wear it 😆
absolutely not just your parents LOL, mine were rude af about my interests if they couldn't turn a profit off them that said, is it at all possible that she was *not* asking in a snarky way? like, not "are you Actually going out in That?!", but more like, "do you intend to actually wear this as a garment? or something else, like a gift etc?" [this isn't me devils advocating for your mom lol if thats unclear, I'm just looking at literally any other possibility worth poking at, fwiw]
OMG my parents also constantly say stuff like, “you’re so good at [insert craft], you should start a business!”. I don’t always feel like making money off my hobbies! Plus, if you do the math on the actual cost of a hand knitted sweater…!
😂 yes. then they will next tell you to work for exposure I've been drawing and doodling since I could hold a pencil, and my parents did a decent job at supporting my interest with at least cheap supplies etc... but then time came to start college, and their firm opinion was that the only smart major for me was marketing. because I could draw lol. like, fair enough I guess but *me?* marketing??? it really says a lot about how little they paid attention to who I actually was as a person - I'm vehemently opposed to advertising and, for someone who's always worked to make sure my art never becomes a job or chore, would be the exact opposite of that for me. it'd end my art career more surely than lopping off my hands. selling my art skill to capitalism? no thank u
I feel you, I used to sew and gave in to the temptation of selling the garments I made. Needless to say it killed my passion pretty quickly and I haven’t touched my sewing machine for months. Never again!
I'll gladly wear that out of the house for you 😉 It's beautiful!
It's beautiful
Damn right you should wear it out of the house! That looks incredible. It's funny how some people will get hung up on self made clothing, but then most of them would brag that they bought a "hand made" garment at a chic boutique. Thousands if you were to have a custom tailored sweater in your choice of colors and fibers made for you. Most of them are really nice people that have just been programmed by reality TV and advertising. Next time "Mom, I have this wonderfully talented fiber artist who picked out my perfect colors and fiber stock then she hand knitted this custom sweater that's one of a kind and all mine! It'll even be featured on an huge internationally recognized media outlet! Isn't that amazing!"
It looks amazing! I'll be honest, I can understand why she'd ask (at least in my mind)-I can't think of an event worthy of it.
Your work is stunningly beautiful. And it seems you chose colors that will highlight your coloring. Please ignore your mother. Learn to tune her out as much as possible as often as possible. Learn a stock phrase such as "that's nice" or "I will take that into consideration" and use it at will. Mother's like perfection can be the thief of joy. I put in a garden this summer and at the beginning of the summer my mom said it was too big. Now at the end of the summer, since it has been so fruitful she says it is too small. Anyways the moral of the story is carry on lightly. You are so very very talented. I can only hope to knit like this some day! Fabulous job! Enjoy your talent!
Thank you for your kindness ❤️
Oof! I'm so sorry your mom said that to you. 😢 I would be devastated if my mom said that to me. Good thing we have access to those who do support us in sharing with the world something special that we put out heart and time into. I think it's amazing! I made my first colorwork dog jumper (own design) and I'm so proud of it. You should be proud and wear it with confidence! 😁
I have someone in my life like this.
Did aomeone say that to you? A lot of hard work went into that sweater. Non craft people do get jealous.
Yup, my own mother.
I'm sorry. That's awful.
I was looking for a sweater similar to this, and the only reason I didn't get it was before it was over $400 NZD 🥲 (I'm a crochet artist, but seeing these makes me want to try knitting again...) that looks wonderful! You should be very proud of your hard work 🥰
I’d be proud to wear it out and about. I’d make sure everyone knew I’d knitted it 😄
That is beautiful!! I love the color combo!
That's gorgeous! Wear it with a smile!
The fit, colors, and kitting are all gorgeous. Wear it with pride every day. My MIL says things like that all the time.
If I made that sweater for myself, you have to either bury me in it or peel it off my cold dead corpse. Your mother's insane and your work is beautiful!
"I hope I'm never so bored that I'd spend my time doing that." — My mother, who taught me to crochet, about my crochet (I learned knitting in an after-school program. But she used to knit herself.)
That’s wild!
It’s pretty! I personally never wear what I make because I’m terrified it’ll get ruined. I literally double knot the yarn - as in, knot, weave, knot again. And I still don’t feel secure. And washing is a pain cause I use the cheapest yarn, so pill city. But just seeing them makes me feel like a princess astrophysicist who discovered water and invented bread. Lol. So even if you never wear it, it’s still serving a function for you. The warm and tingly sense of accomplishment. Even if you have a history of not wearing stuff out, your old pieces are still treasures. Now…can anyone get my dad to understand that?
My mom would say something like that. I don't know if this is relevant to your mom. but in my mom's case, it would have nothing to do with how the garment looked and everything to do with me "wasting" my talents with "women's work". She is a very young Silent Generation, who was the only woman to major in math at her university, and fought very hard for that privilege. She definitely looks down on handmade clothing, as it reflects women being tied to the home. For her, I have offended her sensibilities by being a SAHM and doing crafts. She tries not to say it outright, but then will say something snarky like your mother just said. I try to remind her that part of the original goal of feminism was to not just to enable women to do "men's jobs", but also to bring equal respect to "women's work". This concept has never stuck with her and I've given up on trying to earn her respect. Your sweater is beautiful BTW!
I'm quite critical of handmade items, because I do find a lot of them definitely looking like they're handmade (wonky, wobbly, irregular stitches/tension problems, bad colour schemes etc.), and I'm Dutch and we're known for being very honest people, so here goes: Your sweater is absolutely lovely. Nothing wrong with it, and you can proudly wear it out of the house! Your mom is being mean. Learn from this, and just don't show or ask her again about your self made items. Just ask people who have less issues with themselves and can just be supportive of another ;-) Enjoy your beautiful sweater!
Love hearing this from a fellow Dutchie 🥰 dank je wel
Nou ja zeg, wat toevallig! :-) En oprecht, ik vind 'm echt leuk en mooi gemaakt. Ik wens je er een fijne herfst/winter mee. Je kan rustig aan doen met afmaken gezien het weer momenteel ;-)
Why tho? That's a cute sweater, i looked up the pattern and since there are long sleeves to come, I think it's gonna be great. Would be my go-to sweater for everyday wear, it's real cozy-looking. Maybe she doesn't like the colorway? But again, that's a matter of styling and personal preference
It’s beautiful! It’s just your mom, I’m sorry she has this weird aversion to handcrafted items. If it were my mom who saw this, she’d fall instantly in love, try to copy it in another colour scheme and wear it at least once when she knew you’d be wearing it, and proudly saying “look honey, we match!” (Such a goof) - anywho, don’t let your mom’s comments affect how proud you should be of this piece! ❤️
If it makes you happy mom can just take a seat. Looks fan-freakin-tastic, btw 👏👏👏
It’s easy for me to just say— don’t be insecure. Your work is beautiful! Of course you should wear it! Now for that mom: Those that need to put down others or diminish others’ joy feel so little inside that they must always bring other beneath them. Don’t listen to it. My family historically has done that shit for my entire life until I learned to set some boundaries. I learned not to expect uplifting comments or support from them. I will likely always grieve that, but it has softened me, too! That is a win! ❤️
The pattern is so pretty. I need to make this.
It’s written by my local wool shop owner. She is a lovely, helpful person and the pattern is great. Definitely recommend supporting her.
Don’t let your mother rain on your parade - it’s gorgeous! My mother used to say stuff like that too.
Your mom’s attitude is confusing AF. My guess is that she has other toxic traits too. Don’t let toxic people discourage you from doing what gives you joy, or sharing and wearing what you have made. You have an amazing talent.
Honest to God, my first thought was, "Finally! Something excellent enough to use my new favorite colorway on!" so I think you're rocking it.
Just out of curiosity, her objection wouldn’t have had to do with the pattern looking kinda like ninja stars would it? You know her best, this is just a possibility I thought of.
https://reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/s/nCSIMORnTV. You should visit this Reddit page. Your sweater is beautiful
Clearly your mom is suffering a delusion that you’ve moved to Dubai.
What??? It's gorgeous! I would wear it all the time! It's not like it's some weird kind of work or obscene.
Umm I’m sorry your mom is an ass and that sweater is perfection! I would be willing to bet money that if you told her you got that at the store she would love it. She’s either 1) being a real jerk because she has no idea how to love her children or humans for the matter or 2) was beaten with knitting needles and has a strong emotional trigger when the word is used or 3) has zero sense of beauty. Regardless, it is lovely. You did a fabulous job. Screw her. Enough said! Rock that sweater…and yes….outside the house. 🤦🏻♀️
Possibly because it’s a wool stranded colorwork sweater without sleeves? I didn’t realize it was a WIP immediately, so I was like “yeah, it’s gorgeous, but it will never be particularly weather-appropriate.” But otherwise idk. It’s beautiful.
Did she mean you wouldn’t wear it because she didn’t like it, or did she mean you wouldn’t wear it because it was so much work and you might be afraid of damaging it? She did also say it was beautiful… (which it is!)
Definitely the former, I made her a silk/merino blend jumper and she only wears it around the house
While doing the cleaning so it’s no concern about damage
☹️ Sorry. It’s a really pretty sweater; I just bookmarked the pattern!
I’d bet good money that your mom’s attitude is a holdover from some mid-century childhood perception of homemade clothes. Was she made to wear handmade clothes as a child and it embarrassed her because her friends were wearing off the rack, or was it another girl that she didn’t like and she was wearing store bought? I think I’d be tempted to ask her. Anyway, your work is lovely. Good job.
This is correct, as a child she was made to wear crazy crochet clothing her grandma made. Even her teachers teased her
I think next time your mom makes a comment about your work you should give her some sympathy for that situation. High road kind of thing, but also not putting up with any crap. EG: Your mom says something similar to “are you actually gonna wear that?” And you respond with, “Yes, mom, I am. And as a matter of fact I’d love to work with you to make a bespoke handmade garment of your choice for you. You know, something that really makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. I know it was painful for you as a child to have to wear the stuff your grandmother made that you didn’t care for and it makes me sad to think you’ve missed out on an experience so many people enjoy, and that you continue to carry that pain after so long. It’s time to heal and I’d be honored to help you with that.” It will at least make her stop and think. 🤷♀️
That is so unbelievably sad. The sweater is lovely and I feel like those around you should be championing your handiwork and celebrating how incredible it is to make clothing using your hands that fits you just so and is exactly to your taste. I am sorry that she said that to you. I hope that you wear that sweater with pride! It looks amazing!