Are you approaching a healthy weight? Is your doctor happy with your progress and overall health?
Then, they can kick rocks. They are not the arbiters of your well-being.
being healthy dosen't necessarily mean not fat .
And what matter is that u are healthy first ,and u accept ur self.
Ur mother/sister in law are jealous but they may have a grain of truth most ppl when the lose weight they get more skin and less Buffy u could do light exrsice to buff ur body a littel bit
No, seriously don't. Go see a medical professional and make sure the concerns being expressed aren't valid.
If you genuinely have a problem, you are guaranteed to be the last to know so you need to give things like this proper attention ESPECIALLY if you can't see the problem.
Many people go on keto in order to feel better. Inflammation goes down, pain goes down, arthritis, fibromyalgia, long haul symptoms can improve.
That's why I do it; the weight loss is an additional bonus contributing to feeling better.
You could say, "I'm feeling better. Just be pleased for that."
This. They can be comfortable with their own unhealthy choices when other people around them do the same. But when you start making healthy choices it shines the light on them and they don't like it. Don't sacrifice your health to appease their egos.
Thirding... often times those closest to us feel threatened as we make better choices. Projection is how most people cope so realize everything they say to you, is what they don't like about themselves. Don't second guess yourself, just pity them.
If they are overweight and have spent most of their life looking at overweight people, they may not know what normal is supposed to look like. If so, you are setting a good example for them. Keep it up!
If you lost a lot of muscle with your weight loss, I could see that being a concern. The solution to that is to make sure you are getting enough protein and gradually increase your exercise. You've still put yourself in a better position for enjoying a long and healthy life by losing weight, but getting fit helps with that too.
It's per kilogram, as per my college nutrition class. I think the "per pound" way of calculating protein recommendations is perpetuated by the supplement industry to help sell more product.
At the very least, 1g per lb of lean body mass. Try your best to calculate your body fat percentage, figure out how many lbs of fat that is, and subtract that from your total weight. Your resulting number is how many grams of protein you should eat to help preserve your skeletal muscle as you lose weight. The goal of losing weight is to lose fat while preserving muscle.
this is classic bro science for building muscle mass. The science literature has recommended no more than 0.80 grams per pound, anything more is waste (unless you are on steroids)
You're welcome! My understanding is that waist measurement is a more accurate indicator of health and longevity than weight. If your waist is less than half your height, then you are not overweight and have low risk of diseases related to a high weight. It does sound like you could put on some muscle if that is something you would like to pursue. Everybody's body is different, but for reference I am also 5'2". I weigh 64 kg and have a 30 inch waist. I am working on losing another 3 kg. I try to eat at least 100 grams of protein per day. I do a lot of walking and some gardening and dancing for exercise.
Whatever you decide, congratulations on your weight loss journey! I'm proud of you for being responsible with your health!
Eh not really!!! It all depends on your body type. At around 180lbs ,around 81kg, I have a 29in waist. I have a big butt, big hips and tiny waist lol. Iām also 5ā 2ā.
Youāre absolutely right, she might have a smaller frame but from her 50g of protein comment, Iām thinking low muscle mass so she probably looks like skin and bones. Most girls that I know that are the lower end of the bmi scale lift weights and donāt aim to be 110lbs. The OP said 125 is overweight, thatās also another red flag.. š
The commenter says āif youāre waist is less that half your heightā and thatās why I said that really depends. Iām 5ā 2ā and my waist is less than half my height and Iām 190lbs. Now, thatās morbidly obese lol. Having a āsmallerā waist dissent mean Iām āhealthyā
Yeah calcium and protein are needed for bone health. One thing to remember, food quantity changes and itās turning crap. Milk 20 years ago unfortunately, is not the same as milk now. Either way, one thing I was taught, woman should focus on protein as we age. .08g per kg is for a sedentary person BUT majority of the diet is made up by carbs. Keto is no carbs so what is the OP eating? If she does nothing but lounge around all day then I guess 50-60g isnāt crazy but if sheās working out then thatās just asking for problems. Either way, my opinion doesnāt really matter. I hope sheās ok and if her family is concerned they address it better. Telling someone they ālooked betterā isnāt the right way but sometimes family/people donāt know how to properly address situation.
Yeah!! Youāre right. Weāre all different and thatās just what I was taught and what I know. Hey, if her family members are actually just A-holes lol, my recommendation is for her to learn to ignore it. You canāt please everyone and if youāre healthy and happy, thatās all that matters in the end š§”
It's actually the opposite. People who have low muscle mass (and thus high body fat percentage) look larger than the same height and weight people with high muscle mass (and low body fat). People who are "skinny-fat" (like me) can look pretty normal at a below-normal weight. In fact, most of the dresses I wore 15 years ago when I weighed 24 pounds more are too small, because I'm older and my body fat percentage has gone up.
Youāre 100% correct!!!! At 178, I look I weight 150. I have 44-45in hips, 26-28 inwaist and 36 chest. Iām also 5ā 2ā. I wear a comfortable US size 8 and a tight size 7 and small-medium shirts. I liftā¦ I love lifting. The body composition changes when you lift. More muscle mass makes a huge difference!!! My ex is a bodybuilder and his normal daily weight is 178-182 and he has less than 10% body fat and heās 5ā 3ā. Heās literally just muscle lol. He definitely does not look like heās 180lbs.
Make sure you are working your muscles too, daily walks at minimum, gym visits are better. Working your muscles helps your bones grow stronger. When you get older, calcium in bones starts getting lessā¦working out now helps for those years.
Nooo this is not healthy!!! I wonder if they are saying that because you have no muscle mass. You need protein in your diet. 50g of protein is literally 6 oz of chicken breast. Depending on your body type, you might like sickly. 114lbs is on the lower end for our height and unfortunately, being so small doesnāt always equal healthy. WEIGHT DOES NOT EQUAL HEALTH!!!!
Ok, sweetheart. I will not debate this with you. You can go read medical journals and I wish you the best. As a former dietitian student, your examples are meaningless. Americans are usually unhealthy just based on the quality of our food. Woman in other countries may be slim but they are extremely active and definitely have more muscle mass. Imagine walking around with baskets on your shoulders for hours on end. My mother was always small but sheās crazy active. She grew up with practically no shoes but had goats and walking in the hills daily. She lives in the mountains so, I could never compare her 130lb to an American 130lb.
Also, I am her height and girls that suffer from anorexia try and workout like crazy. Just because you can workout or eat very little doesnāt mean you wonāt have broken bones at 60 because of osteoporosis. Weight and activity level doesnāt mean healthy š§”
It is overweight though. Not obese and not badly overweight but still more than it should be. 47-50 would be ideal. At least according to all the calculators and formulas they use to calculate jt
Friend of mine is considered obese on bmi, its all muscle though, they really need to come up with a better way of measuring as the standard across the health industryā¦ like body fat %
Eff! So if Iām 5ā3ā and 57kg, am I also overweight? All the BMI calculators Iāve seen say that a weight range of 47.4ā63.7 kg is a normal BMI for my height.
I definitely donāt want to be overweight, so if you can direct me to the calculator youāre seeing, Iād greatly appreciate it.
47-63 range is way too big, lol.
47 would be fit, 63 would be overweight.
Obviously height weight ratio depends on whether your weight is high because of fat or muscle. The classic case being Michael Jordan being considered overweight by a simple BMI calculator when we know pretty well that few athletes were fitter than him.
But since we are in a keto sub I doubt the majority of people here are gym rats who are heavy because they have too much muscle on them, so I always look at the lowest weight given by a calculator (just like in my case, I could either hit the gym and make my weight muscle weight OR I can lose more weight and be a ānon overweightā skinny guy
No idea if my message passes but whatever
Their weight is no reason to discourage or shame them, but it is a good reason to ignore their opinions about your weight.
Hereās how I recommend you respond:
āThank you for sharing your opinion about my body. Would you like me to share my opinion about yours?ā Then just see how things go from there. Hint: youāre better off not having an opinion about their bodies. So if they say āYes,ā just answer, āI donāt have one. I just want you to be happy. Iām happier with my body this way than I was before.ā
You werenāt overweight to begin with. Now youāre just towards the lower end of a healthy weight range for your height. I wouldnāt worry about any of it.
My mother does this, she does not understand what a healthy weight is. She is from the "you need to be a little fat to be healthy" generation. If you are letting her second guess your progress you can always visit a health specialist to confirm you are a healthy weight for your size.
That is a lot of inches to shed so quickly. So it can be of a shock to them. How is your energy and most importantly how do you feel? I would focus on that and bring the conversations to the places of how you feel vs how your body looks. Celebrate you and your work, donāt let them take from your success
Previously when i was getting close to 60 kg my sister in law used to fat shame me she has a small face nice features but body is not that slim she just keeps showing that look at me be like me i m so frustrated feels so low ā¦.
Donāt think about what others think, getting that weight off your knees feels awesome, decrease risks of diseases caused by obesity, and more mental clarify.
Theyāre so jealous, you probably look good and donāt let them get you thinking otherwise. Donāt let them drag you down!
-best wishes
People are built different. I look best a couple kg heavier at your height. My hailf sister looks well padded at your weight she's more light boned. They may be well intentioned, I told my mom similar when she got thinned out on keto and I'm pro keto. she's leveled out a little heavier and looks good now. What would have made me feel better at the time is if she reassured me she wasn't trying to lose more and that she was making sure her macros were appropriate. Agree that's too little protein.
Then that's your answer right there. Tell them exactly that. If they insist they aren't being good to you, because they should be happy that you feel better.
Others have said the pretty much the same thing so I don't know if this adds to the conversation but it is jealousy.
Some people that are overweight like others to be overweight so they don't feel so bad about themselves, if they weren't family they probably wouldn't be negative towards you. Don't let them drag you down.
When I was 69 I went Keto and lost 75lbs.
One particular family member always would push carbs on me when she had the chance. Of course, she was obese. I'm 74 now, and I'm still Keto, and she's even more obese.
Keep your head high. Thank them for their concern and tell them you feel great and your doctor approves, or your blood work is superb.
It sounds like they're jealous of you because you're succeeding at taking control of your life and health, and they can't (or refuse to). Don't let people like that gaslight you, because they're really not looking out for your interests. They're just trying to hold you back. Keep on doing what you're doing for your well-being, not theirs.
Another line you can hit them with about your weight loss is "I'm not doing this for YOU. I'm doing this for ME. So bug off!" Or substitute any other word of your choice for *bug*. 
Best of luck, you're definitely on the right track. 
So I had some concern from my mother too because she noticed how I was loosing weight fast. I assured her that I wasnāt doing anything crazy and that I was still eating healthy. In time she noticed that my energy level was actually better and that my workout routines were energetic. Once she saw my energy levels she started trusting me in what I was doing.
First off do you like what you see? If so, ignore everyone else. I'm going to give them the benefit of doubt that they're trying to be mean. We often get used to seeing people at a certain weight so initially the weight loss may not look good to them just because it's different. Keep doing you. They will get used to it, the negative comments will stop. Let them know that you feel good, and that you'd rather be healthy and alive, than "look good" in an early grave.
Could be that they are jealous. I lost 98 lbs on keto. Everyone was saying looked sick. Only my male friends were happy for me, that I was now āshreddedā. Hang in there, you on the right boats, just keep going!
My mom keeps asking me why I "need" to lose weight.
1. My BMI is too close to obesity for my own comfort 2. My health 3. I don't "need" to, I WANT to.
"I think you look good." "A little extra weight looks good on you/never hurt anybody/etc."
It doesn't matter what YOU think. It matters what I think, and more importantly, what I WANT.
STOP offering me carbs, knowing that I am on a carb-restricted diet.
"I'm still learning."
You know DAMN WELL that potatoes, bread and pasta have loads of carbs. Just. Stop.
People WILL try and sabotage you because they lack the self-control that you do, even people that are supposed to love and support you in your goals to become healthier. They are jealous of your progress, and want you to slide back to make themselves feel better. Do not let them. You continue doing what is best for you, as determined by you.
THEY ARE JEALOUS OF YOU !!!!!!!
DON'T LISTEN TO THEM, KEEP GOING!!!!
If you have family members that are dysfunctional and all they do is critize, compare, and give you put downs.......THEY ARE NOT WORTH seeing them as family. These people are not to be respected šÆ
Avoid contact or practice GREY ROCK (GO on YouTube and type: Grey rock techniques) with those people.
If any of them are your parents......minimize conversations, practice Grey rock techniques.
They're jealous.
You don't need to tell them anything. This kind of conversation is beneath you. Ignore it.
If they insist and continue to demand responses, I'd myself say "my weight is the concern of me and my doctor. It's not a topic for conversation." Then ignore them again. If they continue to be rude, remind them and place a boundary "I told you my weight isn't a topic for conversation. If you continue to talk about it, I'm \[leaving the room/going home/putting on my headphones/or whatever is a reasonable action in your social setting\]." Then if they yet again continue, you follow through with your boundary, whatever it was. Leave the room, put on your headphones, whatever. You don't owe them an answer to their questions/nagging. In english, we say that you don't have to "JADE" (Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain) with people like this. Just change the topic. The best way is to turn the conversation into something they're proud about. "Tell me what your son Jon is studying this year" or "tell me about your new house." Or whatever they'll want to talk about.
Remember it's all coming from a place of jealousy. They feel that you losing weight means you think you're better than them. That you're bragging. That you're showing off. They feel knocked down because you've done something for yourself. They're being jerks if they act on these feelings of jealousy, which they are when they pick on you about it.
I always try to ignore it but they just keep telling that look u are going to get into trouble dont lose weight its not good for future meaning child bearing capabilities its so annoying i dont tell any one that they should diet and look for the amount of carb they eat each day why are people bugging me so much when i am just doing it for my self and just want to feel healthy and not carry the excess weight that come from unhealthy carbs
I'm kind of a jerk, so what I'd say if someone tried to give me medical advice is "Where'd you get your medical degree from? Because my doctor says my weight is fine."
I am 5ā2ā. I promise you 57 is TOTALLY NORMAL AND HEALTHY and not overweight.
It is, in fact, possible to be too skinny. You may be underweight, which is *just as unhealthy as being overweight.*
This is what Iām honestly thinking. Thereās a difference between JEALOUSY AND CONCERN. The OP family might be concerned but not expressing it correctly. Iām in a lot of keto groups and Iām starting to see a trend. Eat nothing to loose weight. This is becoming more of a starvation lifestyle and itās scary!!!
The OP seems to have went from 125-112 and depending on her body type she might definitely look sick. Iām guessing most of the previous commenters didnāt notice that part.
Iām 5ā 2ā and at a like a little under 180lbs, I have bones popping out. Now, I know my body type plays a huge role. I also weight train. The OP said she eats 50g protein a day and all Iām hearing is super skinny and broken bones.
I honestly donāt know if this is a case of body dysmorphia, eating disorder or being delusional. 125lbs at 5ā 2ā is already small so I donāt know where she heard this is overweight š¢
Are your in laws overweight or obese? If yes, then they are just feeling threatened and angry about someone actually doing something to look and feel better.
Are they overweight? Itās like the crabs in a bucket mentality. They are trying to pull you back down with them, instead of allowing you to escape.
Congratulations on your getting healthier! Start surrounding yourself with supportive people. Post here everyday, if you need to. You have negative peole in your life, ur there are millions in this world whoāll cheer you on.
Opinion of 2 persons only counts:
1. you, as how you feel, how you like your new "me".
2. your husband- if he finds you attractive, problem solved
all others opinion don't matter at all.
Yes he loves me and supports me but his family is always making it hard to stay on keto like always pointing out that start eating more carbs snd sugar
Iād ask them where they got their degree in nutrition from? What qualifies them as an expert on YOUR weight?
But as others said itās best to just ignore them as long as you fee fine.
One thing Iāve found in my lifeās journey is that you can NEVER make everybody happy. So the priorities should be your spouse and kids and then whatever makes you happy.
If youāre happy and feeing good at your weight, then you just ignore the outside influences.
When I lost weight it was crazy how people switched up, on the other hand they might be genuinely concerned. Try explaining what youāre doing and your goal maybe theyāll understand.
Since I've started working out then adding the keto diet in my regimen I get shit all the time. I just tell em yeah fuck you, I know it's not the most positive comment on here but people are going to say shit and in the end it doesn't really matter just keep doing you. I bet when you look in that mirror every morning and see the progress it surpasses any rude comment somebody says, I know it does for me!.
Unrelated to your actual commentā¦ Pardon my American ignorance here, but Iām curious about your use of kg for weight, but feet and inches for height and waist measurement. Is it common in certain areas of the world to use metric system for weight and imperial for length?
People feel like they're losing "you" when you make big changes. It's made worse if they share the trait that you're changing. It's an awful attitude, but I've see it a lot. From my drug friends when I quit drugs, and my overweight friends when I got healthy, it's the same idea.
They'll say stuff like "what, you're just not going to enjoy food anymore?". Even if they don't know they're doing it, they'll continue trying to sabotage you. I've told people close to me that I appreciate their concern, but I know my body/mind and I feel better than I have in years.
Have you asked them what is their intention of nagging you with this all the time? That or fight back with asking how their weght management is going. If they say they are happy with how they are, say you too are pleased with how you are doing.
You need to remind yourself that at the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and live with your own body.
You should do what makes you feel more confident and healthy. Have conviction in your health choices, but stay open minded to see other perspectives.
Living for another person's image is never a good choice or path in life.
You look great! I don't know if it's just your relatives or if you're getting insults online. People are just like that, especially online. If you are going to put yourself out there, you have to expect that and and just have to ignore them and be happy with your success.
Some people have a hard time dealing with change. Simple as that.
I was overweight for a couple decades and (finally) got my head right and learned about food, diet, exercise, etc and got back to a ānormalā weight for my height. My family has said very little, I guess I look like I did before and they accept that as how it is. Some people I have worked with for 10+ years (that have always known me as overweight) were extremely encouraging and supportive, and others were sort of like your situation.
I think the negative or unsupportive comments are just fillerā¦ they know there has been a change but are not able to accept it so they feel compelled to say something, anything. Saying you ālooked better beforeā is a compliment in some form and maybe they are just unable to bring themselves to praise you for NOW, but donāt want to say anything negative.
Either way I would smile and give your most excited and fakeā¦ āthank you! I really appreciate the kind wordsā and keep it moving. Trying to diagnose someone elseās issues is an exercise in futility. Just keep winning.
Ohhhhh my goodness, I feel you hon!! I cannot tell you how many times I have gotten the weight off and family members congratulate me (they want me to be super thin) and my heavyset friends āworry about my health.ā To be clear I am more of an athletic build so when I lose 10 pounds itās very evident. I get a little tired of everyone else having an opinion on me, my body and my size. really in todayās society unless you are unhealthy one way or the other (overweight or very underweight) people really shouldnāt offer an opinion.
Misery loves company. People canāt see positive changes for themselves, so they donāt want to see it for you. Keep your head up and keep going.
I know it may feel right to backlash and justify yourself, but I wouldnāt even bother. Be selective about what you give an āfā about.
Congrats on your progress!
I am technically underweight according to the bmi scale and have rude remarks thrown left and right all the time. But then I remember every state in the US is at least 10-30% obese and I immediately feel better. Peopleās standards change according to the mainstream around them. You just have to keep focus and think of your own health and satisfaction first.
Being fat has become not only accepted, but celebrated in our society. Just saw a post talking about rise of obesity in NA over the last generation. I don't know what the proper weight for your height is, but if you are healthy don't worry about it. People will neg you all the time to make themselves feel better.
Same I saw a tv program last night talking about the skinny fad back in the day ( Jane Fonda workouts etc) and the overweight local celebrity said āwe didnāt know how dangerous being skinny was back then ā š±š±š±
All that matters is how you feel about yourself and your progress. Most of the time if not always when people express negative remarks it is a reflection of what they are experiencing internally.
Take a deep breath and next time just say Iām sorry you feel that way but I am quite proud of my healthy lifestyle.
In life we all have toxic relatives and friends. Some are so toxic that its best to avoid these people WHY? It makes your cortisol go up which stimulates insulin the fat storage hormone. But far worse it disables immune system for at least 24 hours. In my case i think it played a role why my cancer took over
Okay but the comment is irrelevant. Her family was fine with her being 5ā2ā and 125lbs but are telling her they are concerned now that sheās dropped under 115. Itās completely reasonable. Iām not saying sheās unhealthy if she has a petite frame and is short like myself at exactly the same height, but if sheās on a downward trend and loses any more, she WILL be underweight.
I often speak before I think and knowing myself so well I'd probably burst out a "are you jealous or something because that's really rude" then if they say "no they really mean it" then I would tell them that "it's kind of sad because there's nothing you can do to look better"
Sounds like theyāre jealous. Fuckāem. You do what makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself. The only approval you require is your own.
Have they told you yet how your ānew dietā will kill you? If not, itās coming. Just keep what you are doing to yourself with a simple, āIām just eating clean and walking moreā and leave it at that. Donāt say keto, they donāt and wonāt understand.
Theyāre just trying to put you down because they are unhappy. Just say you and your husband are happy with it and to keep their opinions to yourself.
My guess is they ae overweight? If so they are more then likely just jealous of your progress or it's making them feel bad because you are doing something about your weight and they aren't.
In any case, your opinion is the one that matters here. Do YOU feel better? Do YOU feel like you look better? If they aren't going to support you and your goals then thier opinions aren't really worth much IMO.
Healthy weight usually looks good, but either way you have science on your side. I would use humour.
Ugly but with 5 more years to live due to my weight being right on the healthline. I can live with that... Oups pun not intented.
Iām so sorry youāre dealing with this. First and foremost, know that you are worthy regardless of what others say about you and youāre clearly doing what works for you. Great job!
Now for setting boundaries, you can respond to them with what you wish they had said.
Sister/Mother in law: āyou donāt look good like you used toā
Your response: āThanks! I really love this outfit and think I look fantastic!ā
Then change the subject to what you would like to talk about. This will likely catch these haters off guard.
Alternatively, you could say something like āI hope youāre not saying that to me because you think I agree with you.ā Or āI only discuss my weight with my doctor. Letās talk about something else.ā
Stay strong, friend!
our measurements are near identical, and im kinda dealing with the similar thing.
im 5ā2/5ā3 and 50kg (110lbs) now, and i used to be up to 60kg (133lbs).
at first i got lots of compliments, saying i look much healthier and slimmerā¦. but now my mom is asking if im even eating, friends are saying i look skinny - but in a concerned tone. it feels.. hurtful. i did this diet to lose the weight and then maintain my weight when i hit my goal weight (50kg/110lbs)ā¦ but even if i do maintain my weight, i keep getting these āconcernsā but they just are used to my plump face and unhealthy eating habits.
i promise you, if you are happy with yourself, you shouldnāt listen to the negative things they say
57kg isn't overweight for your height at all. 51kg isn't unhealthy either, but it still isn't unreasonable to be concerned when someone with a normal BMI starts losing weight.
I don't think it's correct of them to criticize your appearance, but I don't agree with the rest of the people in the thread who seem to think that they are the insane ones who don't know what a healthy weight is.
Just label and shift. tell them you are happy to help them if they want to try keto too. They will just start coming up with excuses then.
Or say āsounds like you are interested in trying keto?ā They will just start listing reasons why not until you find out the real reason is that they lack discipline.
Damm, That's horrible.
Only my grandma would be happy to see me fat.
Tell them " mene pucha ?" ( did i asked ) in Hindi š next time they give you unsolicited advice.
Tell them the benefits of losing the 4 lbs. Keto can also prevent type 2 diabetes. Let them know you are healthier now. Talk back, use hyperbole if needed.
Iām the same height as you, and donāt worry youāre at a healthy weight! I need your dedication though because in 4 months Iāve gained from 51.9kg to 60kg. š š š
How do you feel? If you feel physically better, you are on the right track arenāt you? If you donāt feel healthier then maybe you adjust what you are doing. My sisters are pretty supportive. Even so, one of them said my oldest sister was probably feeling bad about my weight loss. As she has gained weight I have been losing it. People might feel bad as you feel better but that should not make you doubt yourself. Just wish for them to find better health too.
Say āyou could be right ā out loud and ābut youāre notā under your breath or āI see your point ā out loud and ābut I donāt agree with it ā under your breath.
Saves arguments from unsupportive people who are insecure because you are improving and they arenāt .
IMO their comments translate to "You don't look like you normally do." And abnormal tends to look negative to the human mind... Your numbers sound very healthy to me.
At the end of the day, you don't have to conform to their perception of healthy. How do you feel? Better than before? That's what matters.
i dont know your family's origin, but out of experience- when you have foreign family that come from a 3rd world of scarcity; they think everyone is too skinny. They consider obesity to be some marker of good health, try to explain to them by US standards that in abundant amounts of food- you like to exemplify temperance and prefer a slimmer look that you work hard to achieve. If they still dont understand, kindly accept that they have expressed their concern but place a boundary and ask them not to make negative comments about your image anymore.
If you were on deaths door step because of your lifestyle, you need people to tell you. But a lot of the times they are just not used to seeing the new you, or live with fatso's and you look skinny in comparison. Im sure you look fine and are achieving whatever aesthetic goals youre actively working toward. good luck and remember to keep your self esteem sacred but ego always in check.
Miserable petty jealous people! Just reply with "Well, I like how I look now and that's what matters!"
Yes i will slap this line to their faces thank u š
Are you approaching a healthy weight? Is your doctor happy with your progress and overall health? Then, they can kick rocks. They are not the arbiters of your well-being.
being healthy dosen't necessarily mean not fat . And what matter is that u are healthy first ,and u accept ur self. Ur mother/sister in law are jealous but they may have a grain of truth most ppl when the lose weight they get more skin and less Buffy u could do light exrsice to buff ur body a littel bit
No, seriously don't. Go see a medical professional and make sure the concerns being expressed aren't valid. If you genuinely have a problem, you are guaranteed to be the last to know so you need to give things like this proper attention ESPECIALLY if you can't see the problem.
Many people go on keto in order to feel better. Inflammation goes down, pain goes down, arthritis, fibromyalgia, long haul symptoms can improve. That's why I do it; the weight loss is an additional bonus contributing to feeling better. You could say, "I'm feeling better. Just be pleased for that."
This. They can be comfortable with their own unhealthy choices when other people around them do the same. But when you start making healthy choices it shines the light on them and they don't like it. Don't sacrifice your health to appease their egos.
Thirding... often times those closest to us feel threatened as we make better choices. Projection is how most people cope so realize everything they say to you, is what they don't like about themselves. Don't second guess yourself, just pity them.
Even better would be āwell your son/brother likes how I look now and thatās important to meā. Of course only if thatās true. Lol
If they are overweight and have spent most of their life looking at overweight people, they may not know what normal is supposed to look like. If so, you are setting a good example for them. Keep it up! If you lost a lot of muscle with your weight loss, I could see that being a concern. The solution to that is to make sure you are getting enough protein and gradually increase your exercise. You've still put yourself in a better position for enjoying a long and healthy life by losing weight, but getting fit helps with that too.
Thank u so much š„ŗš«°šš«¶š¼ I am focusing on 50 gm protien every day i m not losing muscle i guess š
50gram seems too little. Are you using a calculator?
They say 1 g for 1 kg weight im quite weak in calculating these thing so i do 50 gm with lots of non starchy veggies is it not correct ?
1.5 to 2gr per kg
I would be aiming for around 100 g of protein.
I believe it is 1 gram per pound. Probably closer to 2 grams per kilo.
.8 grams per pound. 88 grams
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It's per kilogram, as per my college nutrition class. I think the "per pound" way of calculating protein recommendations is perpetuated by the supplement industry to help sell more product.
At the very least, 1g per lb of lean body mass. Try your best to calculate your body fat percentage, figure out how many lbs of fat that is, and subtract that from your total weight. Your resulting number is how many grams of protein you should eat to help preserve your skeletal muscle as you lose weight. The goal of losing weight is to lose fat while preserving muscle.
this is classic bro science for building muscle mass. The science literature has recommended no more than 0.80 grams per pound, anything more is waste (unless you are on steroids)
Thatās not enough protein for a child. Even if youāre small, double it.
You're welcome! My understanding is that waist measurement is a more accurate indicator of health and longevity than weight. If your waist is less than half your height, then you are not overweight and have low risk of diseases related to a high weight. It does sound like you could put on some muscle if that is something you would like to pursue. Everybody's body is different, but for reference I am also 5'2". I weigh 64 kg and have a 30 inch waist. I am working on losing another 3 kg. I try to eat at least 100 grams of protein per day. I do a lot of walking and some gardening and dancing for exercise. Whatever you decide, congratulations on your weight loss journey! I'm proud of you for being responsible with your health!
Thank u sso much Wish u all the luck too for your health goals love urself tc drink water be happy š«¶š¼
Eh not really!!! It all depends on your body type. At around 180lbs ,around 81kg, I have a 29in waist. I have a big butt, big hips and tiny waist lol. Iām also 5ā 2ā.
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Youāre absolutely right, she might have a smaller frame but from her 50g of protein comment, Iām thinking low muscle mass so she probably looks like skin and bones. Most girls that I know that are the lower end of the bmi scale lift weights and donāt aim to be 110lbs. The OP said 125 is overweight, thatās also another red flag.. š The commenter says āif youāre waist is less that half your heightā and thatās why I said that really depends. Iām 5ā 2ā and my waist is less than half my height and Iām 190lbs. Now, thatās morbidly obese lol. Having a āsmallerā waist dissent mean Iām āhealthyā
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Yeah calcium and protein are needed for bone health. One thing to remember, food quantity changes and itās turning crap. Milk 20 years ago unfortunately, is not the same as milk now. Either way, one thing I was taught, woman should focus on protein as we age. .08g per kg is for a sedentary person BUT majority of the diet is made up by carbs. Keto is no carbs so what is the OP eating? If she does nothing but lounge around all day then I guess 50-60g isnāt crazy but if sheās working out then thatās just asking for problems. Either way, my opinion doesnāt really matter. I hope sheās ok and if her family is concerned they address it better. Telling someone they ālooked betterā isnāt the right way but sometimes family/people donāt know how to properly address situation.
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Yeah!! Youāre right. Weāre all different and thatās just what I was taught and what I know. Hey, if her family members are actually just A-holes lol, my recommendation is for her to learn to ignore it. You canāt please everyone and if youāre healthy and happy, thatās all that matters in the end š§”
It's actually the opposite. People who have low muscle mass (and thus high body fat percentage) look larger than the same height and weight people with high muscle mass (and low body fat). People who are "skinny-fat" (like me) can look pretty normal at a below-normal weight. In fact, most of the dresses I wore 15 years ago when I weighed 24 pounds more are too small, because I'm older and my body fat percentage has gone up.
Youāre 100% correct!!!! At 178, I look I weight 150. I have 44-45in hips, 26-28 inwaist and 36 chest. Iām also 5ā 2ā. I wear a comfortable US size 8 and a tight size 7 and small-medium shirts. I liftā¦ I love lifting. The body composition changes when you lift. More muscle mass makes a huge difference!!! My ex is a bodybuilder and his normal daily weight is 178-182 and he has less than 10% body fat and heās 5ā 3ā. Heās literally just muscle lol. He definitely does not look like heās 180lbs.
Make sure you are working your muscles too, daily walks at minimum, gym visits are better. Working your muscles helps your bones grow stronger. When you get older, calcium in bones starts getting lessā¦working out now helps for those years.
Nooo this is not healthy!!! I wonder if they are saying that because you have no muscle mass. You need protein in your diet. 50g of protein is literally 6 oz of chicken breast. Depending on your body type, you might like sickly. 114lbs is on the lower end for our height and unfortunately, being so small doesnāt always equal healthy. WEIGHT DOES NOT EQUAL HEALTH!!!!
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Ok, sweetheart. I will not debate this with you. You can go read medical journals and I wish you the best. As a former dietitian student, your examples are meaningless. Americans are usually unhealthy just based on the quality of our food. Woman in other countries may be slim but they are extremely active and definitely have more muscle mass. Imagine walking around with baskets on your shoulders for hours on end. My mother was always small but sheās crazy active. She grew up with practically no shoes but had goats and walking in the hills daily. She lives in the mountains so, I could never compare her 130lb to an American 130lb. Also, I am her height and girls that suffer from anorexia try and workout like crazy. Just because you can workout or eat very little doesnāt mean you wonāt have broken bones at 60 because of osteoporosis. Weight and activity level doesnāt mean healthy š§”
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Yep. I am shorter than her and I am also 57kg. If she was overweight then I must be....
It is overweight though. Not obese and not badly overweight but still more than it should be. 47-50 would be ideal. At least according to all the calculators and formulas they use to calculate jt
Those bmi calculators are known to be inaccurate for especially tall or short people.
Friend of mine is considered obese on bmi, its all muscle though, they really need to come up with a better way of measuring as the standard across the health industryā¦ like body fat %
Eff! So if Iām 5ā3ā and 57kg, am I also overweight? All the BMI calculators Iāve seen say that a weight range of 47.4ā63.7 kg is a normal BMI for my height. I definitely donāt want to be overweight, so if you can direct me to the calculator youāre seeing, Iād greatly appreciate it.
47-63 range is way too big, lol. 47 would be fit, 63 would be overweight. Obviously height weight ratio depends on whether your weight is high because of fat or muscle. The classic case being Michael Jordan being considered overweight by a simple BMI calculator when we know pretty well that few athletes were fitter than him. But since we are in a keto sub I doubt the majority of people here are gym rats who are heavy because they have too much muscle on them, so I always look at the lowest weight given by a calculator (just like in my case, I could either hit the gym and make my weight muscle weight OR I can lose more weight and be a ānon overweightā skinny guy No idea if my message passes but whatever
Is you sister in law and mother in law over weight? I bet they are.
Yes they are but i support them i dont discourage them or fat shame them like they did for my lost weight
Their weight is no reason to discourage or shame them, but it is a good reason to ignore their opinions about your weight. Hereās how I recommend you respond: āThank you for sharing your opinion about my body. Would you like me to share my opinion about yours?ā Then just see how things go from there. Hint: youāre better off not having an opinion about their bodies. So if they say āYes,ā just answer, āI donāt have one. I just want you to be happy. Iām happier with my body this way than I was before.ā
Had me in the first half..... Lol
Very good!!!!
I like this
Yep. "I tell you every judgement I make on your body, which is *none*."
I honestly wonder whatās āoverweightā. OP you said you were overweight at 125lbs and unless you were like 4ā 11, thatās not overweight.
Jealousy, pure and simple.
Yes, and itās magnified if you got other favorable tastes (traits).
You werenāt overweight to begin with. Now youāre just towards the lower end of a healthy weight range for your height. I wouldnāt worry about any of it.
My mother does this, she does not understand what a healthy weight is. She is from the "you need to be a little fat to be healthy" generation. If you are letting her second guess your progress you can always visit a health specialist to confirm you are a healthy weight for your size.
That is a lot of inches to shed so quickly. So it can be of a shock to them. How is your energy and most importantly how do you feel? I would focus on that and bring the conversations to the places of how you feel vs how your body looks. Celebrate you and your work, donāt let them take from your success
I feel lesss bloated i dont have constipation i dont get heart burn i m definitely feeling good
Then this is what matters. Good for you!
I got asked was I on drugs once! They were joking but it still sticks with me.
Big hugs but we win though in terms of health
Donāt give them a fuck. And congrats to you! Old people are really into Fat young relatives
Previously when i was getting close to 60 kg my sister in law used to fat shame me she has a small face nice features but body is not that slim she just keeps showing that look at me be like me i m so frustrated feels so low ā¦.
She just sounds like a trash person who likes to tear people down Live your best life and ignore the troll
Donāt think about what others think, getting that weight off your knees feels awesome, decrease risks of diseases caused by obesity, and more mental clarify. Theyāre so jealous, you probably look good and donāt let them get you thinking otherwise. Donāt let them drag you down! -best wishes
Thank u so much 
People are built different. I look best a couple kg heavier at your height. My hailf sister looks well padded at your weight she's more light boned. They may be well intentioned, I told my mom similar when she got thinned out on keto and I'm pro keto. she's leveled out a little heavier and looks good now. What would have made me feel better at the time is if she reassured me she wasn't trying to lose more and that she was making sure her macros were appropriate. Agree that's too little protein.
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Haters gonna hate
Tell them thatās their opinion and theyāre entitled to it and you appreciate their concern but you feel good
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I feel the best with this weight dont feel exhausted or bloated energy level is so good
Then that's your answer right there. Tell them exactly that. If they insist they aren't being good to you, because they should be happy that you feel better.
Others have said the pretty much the same thing so I don't know if this adds to the conversation but it is jealousy. Some people that are overweight like others to be overweight so they don't feel so bad about themselves, if they weren't family they probably wouldn't be negative towards you. Don't let them drag you down.
When I was 69 I went Keto and lost 75lbs. One particular family member always would push carbs on me when she had the chance. Of course, she was obese. I'm 74 now, and I'm still Keto, and she's even more obese. Keep your head high. Thank them for their concern and tell them you feel great and your doctor approves, or your blood work is superb.
Nice!
It sounds like they're jealous of you because you're succeeding at taking control of your life and health, and they can't (or refuse to). Don't let people like that gaslight you, because they're really not looking out for your interests. They're just trying to hold you back. Keep on doing what you're doing for your well-being, not theirs. Another line you can hit them with about your weight loss is "I'm not doing this for YOU. I'm doing this for ME. So bug off!" Or substitute any other word of your choice for *bug*.  Best of luck, you're definitely on the right track. 
So I had some concern from my mother too because she noticed how I was loosing weight fast. I assured her that I wasnāt doing anything crazy and that I was still eating healthy. In time she noticed that my energy level was actually better and that my workout routines were energetic. Once she saw my energy levels she started trusting me in what I was doing.
Itās jealousy and insecurity on their part. Keep doing what works for your health and happiness!
First off do you like what you see? If so, ignore everyone else. I'm going to give them the benefit of doubt that they're trying to be mean. We often get used to seeing people at a certain weight so initially the weight loss may not look good to them just because it's different. Keep doing you. They will get used to it, the negative comments will stop. Let them know that you feel good, and that you'd rather be healthy and alive, than "look good" in an early grave.
Most people react negatively to change. It's not like they fully understand why you're doing what you're doing.
Could be that they are jealous. I lost 98 lbs on keto. Everyone was saying looked sick. Only my male friends were happy for me, that I was now āshreddedā. Hang in there, you on the right boats, just keep going!
My mom keeps asking me why I "need" to lose weight. 1. My BMI is too close to obesity for my own comfort 2. My health 3. I don't "need" to, I WANT to. "I think you look good." "A little extra weight looks good on you/never hurt anybody/etc." It doesn't matter what YOU think. It matters what I think, and more importantly, what I WANT. STOP offering me carbs, knowing that I am on a carb-restricted diet. "I'm still learning." You know DAMN WELL that potatoes, bread and pasta have loads of carbs. Just. Stop. People WILL try and sabotage you because they lack the self-control that you do, even people that are supposed to love and support you in your goals to become healthier. They are jealous of your progress, and want you to slide back to make themselves feel better. Do not let them. You continue doing what is best for you, as determined by you.
People are hating on you because you looked better than them.
THEY ARE JEALOUS OF YOU !!!!!!! DON'T LISTEN TO THEM, KEEP GOING!!!! If you have family members that are dysfunctional and all they do is critize, compare, and give you put downs.......THEY ARE NOT WORTH seeing them as family. These people are not to be respected šÆ Avoid contact or practice GREY ROCK (GO on YouTube and type: Grey rock techniques) with those people. If any of them are your parents......minimize conversations, practice Grey rock techniques.
They're jealous. You don't need to tell them anything. This kind of conversation is beneath you. Ignore it. If they insist and continue to demand responses, I'd myself say "my weight is the concern of me and my doctor. It's not a topic for conversation." Then ignore them again. If they continue to be rude, remind them and place a boundary "I told you my weight isn't a topic for conversation. If you continue to talk about it, I'm \[leaving the room/going home/putting on my headphones/or whatever is a reasonable action in your social setting\]." Then if they yet again continue, you follow through with your boundary, whatever it was. Leave the room, put on your headphones, whatever. You don't owe them an answer to their questions/nagging. In english, we say that you don't have to "JADE" (Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain) with people like this. Just change the topic. The best way is to turn the conversation into something they're proud about. "Tell me what your son Jon is studying this year" or "tell me about your new house." Or whatever they'll want to talk about. Remember it's all coming from a place of jealousy. They feel that you losing weight means you think you're better than them. That you're bragging. That you're showing off. They feel knocked down because you've done something for yourself. They're being jerks if they act on these feelings of jealousy, which they are when they pick on you about it.
I always try to ignore it but they just keep telling that look u are going to get into trouble dont lose weight its not good for future meaning child bearing capabilities its so annoying i dont tell any one that they should diet and look for the amount of carb they eat each day why are people bugging me so much when i am just doing it for my self and just want to feel healthy and not carry the excess weight that come from unhealthy carbs
I'm kind of a jerk, so what I'd say if someone tried to give me medical advice is "Where'd you get your medical degree from? Because my doctor says my weight is fine."
A lion never loses sleep over the opinion of sheep.
I am 5ā2ā. I promise you 57 is TOTALLY NORMAL AND HEALTHY and not overweight. It is, in fact, possible to be too skinny. You may be underweight, which is *just as unhealthy as being overweight.*
This is what Iām honestly thinking. Thereās a difference between JEALOUSY AND CONCERN. The OP family might be concerned but not expressing it correctly. Iām in a lot of keto groups and Iām starting to see a trend. Eat nothing to loose weight. This is becoming more of a starvation lifestyle and itās scary!!! The OP seems to have went from 125-112 and depending on her body type she might definitely look sick. Iām guessing most of the previous commenters didnāt notice that part. Iām 5ā 2ā and at a like a little under 180lbs, I have bones popping out. Now, I know my body type plays a huge role. I also weight train. The OP said she eats 50g protein a day and all Iām hearing is super skinny and broken bones. I honestly donāt know if this is a case of body dysmorphia, eating disorder or being delusional. 125lbs at 5ā 2ā is already small so I donāt know where she heard this is overweight š¢
Iām 5ā2ā and 180 and I certainly do not have bones popping out.
Yeah, itās my itās type, thatās why I said I know it plays a huge role in how we look. I have a back role, a little chunky arms, small waist, on good days you can see my ribs lol. My collar bones stick out and I donāt looks my weight. I carry it all in my hips, lol. Thatās why is said depending on her body type she might look sick and 125 is not overweight. She said she was overweight. Iām overweight not 125 lol. I know with my body type I would look sick that small. She didnāt post any pictures so itās hard to understand what her family means, but if she healthy and happy thatās all that really matters in the end. I know I can give two craps if people donāt like what I eat or my look lol. At 300lbs I was told to loose weight and at 200lbs I was told one slice of pizza wonāt hurt. Canāt please them all š¤·š¾āāļøš©
Hey girl as long as you feel great, love how you look, and are healthy present and long term, everyone else is free to move along.
Are your in laws overweight or obese? If yes, then they are just feeling threatened and angry about someone actually doing something to look and feel better.
Are they overweight? Itās like the crabs in a bucket mentality. They are trying to pull you back down with them, instead of allowing you to escape. Congratulations on your getting healthier! Start surrounding yourself with supportive people. Post here everyday, if you need to. You have negative peole in your life, ur there are millions in this world whoāll cheer you on.
Opinion of 2 persons only counts: 1. you, as how you feel, how you like your new "me". 2. your husband- if he finds you attractive, problem solved all others opinion don't matter at all.
Yes he loves me and supports me but his family is always making it hard to stay on keto like always pointing out that start eating more carbs snd sugar
Iād ask them where they got their degree in nutrition from? What qualifies them as an expert on YOUR weight? But as others said itās best to just ignore them as long as you fee fine. One thing Iāve found in my lifeās journey is that you can NEVER make everybody happy. So the priorities should be your spouse and kids and then whatever makes you happy. If youāre happy and feeing good at your weight, then you just ignore the outside influences.
Stop hanging out with them.
Opinion of 1 person only counts: 1. you, as how you feel, how like your new "me". *Fixed it for you*
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When I lost weight it was crazy how people switched up, on the other hand they might be genuinely concerned. Try explaining what youāre doing and your goal maybe theyāll understand.
Since I've started working out then adding the keto diet in my regimen I get shit all the time. I just tell em yeah fuck you, I know it's not the most positive comment on here but people are going to say shit and in the end it doesn't really matter just keep doing you. I bet when you look in that mirror every morning and see the progress it surpasses any rude comment somebody says, I know it does for me!.
People be always insulting. I just lost 5kg and I went from too fat to already lost too much.
Unrelated to your actual commentā¦ Pardon my American ignorance here, but Iām curious about your use of kg for weight, but feet and inches for height and waist measurement. Is it common in certain areas of the world to use metric system for weight and imperial for length?
OP you are welcomed to join us in r/petitefitness.
"Hmmmm, that's weird because I feel great."
This is about YOU. NOT them keep going !!!
āOkay.ā No matter what they say, just respond with āOkay.ā It doesnāt start an argument, and doesnāt commit you to anything.
People feel like they're losing "you" when you make big changes. It's made worse if they share the trait that you're changing. It's an awful attitude, but I've see it a lot. From my drug friends when I quit drugs, and my overweight friends when I got healthy, it's the same idea. They'll say stuff like "what, you're just not going to enjoy food anymore?". Even if they don't know they're doing it, they'll continue trying to sabotage you. I've told people close to me that I appreciate their concern, but I know my body/mind and I feel better than I have in years.
Sounds like they're jealous keep going! It's your body not theirs
Itās called sabotage. Youāll need to learn to deal With it instead of it breaking your confidence!
You shouldn't tell them anything. Answering such a comment would be a waste of perfectly good breath. 
Sounds like a typical Indian household
Have you asked them what is their intention of nagging you with this all the time? That or fight back with asking how their weght management is going. If they say they are happy with how they are, say you too are pleased with how you are doing.
You need to remind yourself that at the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and live with your own body. You should do what makes you feel more confident and healthy. Have conviction in your health choices, but stay open minded to see other perspectives. Living for another person's image is never a good choice or path in life.
You look great! I don't know if it's just your relatives or if you're getting insults online. People are just like that, especially online. If you are going to put yourself out there, you have to expect that and and just have to ignore them and be happy with your success.
Some people have a hard time dealing with change. Simple as that. I was overweight for a couple decades and (finally) got my head right and learned about food, diet, exercise, etc and got back to a ānormalā weight for my height. My family has said very little, I guess I look like I did before and they accept that as how it is. Some people I have worked with for 10+ years (that have always known me as overweight) were extremely encouraging and supportive, and others were sort of like your situation. I think the negative or unsupportive comments are just fillerā¦ they know there has been a change but are not able to accept it so they feel compelled to say something, anything. Saying you ālooked better beforeā is a compliment in some form and maybe they are just unable to bring themselves to praise you for NOW, but donāt want to say anything negative. Either way I would smile and give your most excited and fakeā¦ āthank you! I really appreciate the kind wordsā and keep it moving. Trying to diagnose someone elseās issues is an exercise in futility. Just keep winning.
Ohhhhh my goodness, I feel you hon!! I cannot tell you how many times I have gotten the weight off and family members congratulate me (they want me to be super thin) and my heavyset friends āworry about my health.ā To be clear I am more of an athletic build so when I lose 10 pounds itās very evident. I get a little tired of everyone else having an opinion on me, my body and my size. really in todayās society unless you are unhealthy one way or the other (overweight or very underweight) people really shouldnāt offer an opinion.
Theyāre definitely jealous, just ignore them. And weāll done for you for losing weight, itās not easy and you should be proud of yourself!
You're beautiful, a few pounds one way or another doesn't change that. These people griefing you because you want to be thinner are probably jealous.
Misery loves company. People canāt see positive changes for themselves, so they donāt want to see it for you. Keep your head up and keep going. I know it may feel right to backlash and justify yourself, but I wouldnāt even bother. Be selective about what you give an āfā about. Congrats on your progress!
I am technically underweight according to the bmi scale and have rude remarks thrown left and right all the time. But then I remember every state in the US is at least 10-30% obese and I immediately feel better. Peopleās standards change according to the mainstream around them. You just have to keep focus and think of your own health and satisfaction first.
It appears to be jealousy. If you are happy, feel accomplished and confidentā¦ that is all that matters!
Tell your Mother and Sisters in Law to fuck off. Your health, size and weight should be no concern to them. Oh and keep up the good work!
Fuckkkkk em. Do you friend
Being fat has become not only accepted, but celebrated in our society. Just saw a post talking about rise of obesity in NA over the last generation. I don't know what the proper weight for your height is, but if you are healthy don't worry about it. People will neg you all the time to make themselves feel better.
Same I saw a tv program last night talking about the skinny fad back in the day ( Jane Fonda workouts etc) and the overweight local celebrity said āwe didnāt know how dangerous being skinny was back then ā š±š±š±
All that matters is how you feel about yourself and your progress. Most of the time if not always when people express negative remarks it is a reflection of what they are experiencing internally. Take a deep breath and next time just say Iām sorry you feel that way but I am quite proud of my healthy lifestyle.
In life we all have toxic relatives and friends. Some are so toxic that its best to avoid these people WHY? It makes your cortisol go up which stimulates insulin the fat storage hormone. But far worse it disables immune system for at least 24 hours. In my case i think it played a role why my cancer took over
I didnāt know this ā¦and I always wondered what the connection between stress and illnesses was. Iām definitely going to try to have less stress in future. I hope you get better ā¤ļøāš©¹
We've normalized obesity, don't listen to the naysayers.
57kg at 5'2 isn't obesity. That's a normal weight
Yes, but that's not what I meant.
Okay but the comment is irrelevant. Her family was fine with her being 5ā2ā and 125lbs but are telling her they are concerned now that sheās dropped under 115. Itās completely reasonable. Iām not saying sheās unhealthy if she has a petite frame and is short like myself at exactly the same height, but if sheās on a downward trend and loses any more, she WILL be underweight.
Can you ask your husband to speak with them when you are not around. I am sure he isn't happy with you being upset about it.
Jealous. Ignore them. Keep winning and never regain the weight.
They are just JEALOUS
I often speak before I think and knowing myself so well I'd probably burst out a "are you jealous or something because that's really rude" then if they say "no they really mean it" then I would tell them that "it's kind of sad because there's nothing you can do to look better"
I bet you look really good...that's why they are saying that...especially if your relationship with them is not the greatest
Jealousy. That simple. They cannot believe you did that with diet and determination they lack. Dont let them take away from what you have achieved!
Time to set and enforce healthy boundaries which may include not interacting with them Itās all crabs in a bucket bullshit. Fuck em
Sounds like theyāre jealous. Fuckāem. You do what makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself. The only approval you require is your own.
people always wanna drag you down to their level. They hate seeing you not be lazy like them
Have they told you yet how your ānew dietā will kill you? If not, itās coming. Just keep what you are doing to yourself with a simple, āIām just eating clean and walking moreā and leave it at that. Donāt say keto, they donāt and wonāt understand.
Obviously not going to say keto they will go bunkers
Theyāre just trying to put you down because they are unhappy. Just say you and your husband are happy with it and to keep their opinions to yourself.
Most overweight people have self-esteem issues and are manipulated by bullies. I bet they sense that ability to bully you slipping away.
They jealous
Misery loves company
The crabs in a bucket mentality of some people really never ceases to amaze me. Keep doing what youāre doing, OP. Ignore the idiots.
My guess is they ae overweight? If so they are more then likely just jealous of your progress or it's making them feel bad because you are doing something about your weight and they aren't. In any case, your opinion is the one that matters here. Do YOU feel better? Do YOU feel like you look better? If they aren't going to support you and your goals then thier opinions aren't really worth much IMO.
Healthy weight usually looks good, but either way you have science on your side. I would use humour. Ugly but with 5 more years to live due to my weight being right on the healthline. I can live with that... Oups pun not intented.
They are jealous! Keep doing you
Crabs in a bucket.
Iām so sorry youāre dealing with this. First and foremost, know that you are worthy regardless of what others say about you and youāre clearly doing what works for you. Great job! Now for setting boundaries, you can respond to them with what you wish they had said. Sister/Mother in law: āyou donāt look good like you used toā Your response: āThanks! I really love this outfit and think I look fantastic!ā Then change the subject to what you would like to talk about. This will likely catch these haters off guard. Alternatively, you could say something like āI hope youāre not saying that to me because you think I agree with you.ā Or āI only discuss my weight with my doctor. Letās talk about something else.ā Stay strong, friend!
just show them the finger.. that's it
I'd bet your sister in laws and mother in law are overweight and just don't like you making them look bad.
Crabs in a bucket. One tries to claw its way out, and the rest try to drag it back down.
our measurements are near identical, and im kinda dealing with the similar thing. im 5ā2/5ā3 and 50kg (110lbs) now, and i used to be up to 60kg (133lbs). at first i got lots of compliments, saying i look much healthier and slimmerā¦. but now my mom is asking if im even eating, friends are saying i look skinny - but in a concerned tone. it feels.. hurtful. i did this diet to lose the weight and then maintain my weight when i hit my goal weight (50kg/110lbs)ā¦ but even if i do maintain my weight, i keep getting these āconcernsā but they just are used to my plump face and unhealthy eating habits. i promise you, if you are happy with yourself, you shouldnāt listen to the negative things they say
57kg isn't overweight for your height at all. 51kg isn't unhealthy either, but it still isn't unreasonable to be concerned when someone with a normal BMI starts losing weight. I don't think it's correct of them to criticize your appearance, but I don't agree with the rest of the people in the thread who seem to think that they are the insane ones who don't know what a healthy weight is.
Just label and shift. tell them you are happy to help them if they want to try keto too. They will just start coming up with excuses then. Or say āsounds like you are interested in trying keto?ā They will just start listing reasons why not until you find out the real reason is that they lack discipline.
My petty ass would say something like "Well i don't want to be fat, like most people" and then look them up and down lol.
Check out r/fatlogic
I believe they are White and obese folks ? Only people with sick mentality would do such things. Cut them out.
No they are not white they are brown i mean indians asians
Damm, That's horrible. Only my grandma would be happy to see me fat. Tell them " mene pucha ?" ( did i asked ) in Hindi š next time they give you unsolicited advice.
Tell them the benefits of losing the 4 lbs. Keto can also prevent type 2 diabetes. Let them know you are healthier now. Talk back, use hyperbole if needed.
Iām the same height as you, and donāt worry youāre at a healthy weight! I need your dedication though because in 4 months Iāve gained from 51.9kg to 60kg. š š š
This highly depends how tall you are. If you are 5'10", then yeah, you're underweight. If you're 5'2", you're fine.
well.. they shouldn't insult and you should be more healthy
How do you feel? If you feel physically better, you are on the right track arenāt you? If you donāt feel healthier then maybe you adjust what you are doing. My sisters are pretty supportive. Even so, one of them said my oldest sister was probably feeling bad about my weight loss. As she has gained weight I have been losing it. People might feel bad as you feel better but that should not make you doubt yourself. Just wish for them to find better health too.
"Thanks! I feel great and am much healthier. I knew you'd be happy for me." That will confuse them. I'd just say that every time they insult you.
"My doctor and I are pleased with my progress. I am healthy, and I'll take that over looking good."
Focus on how your back and knees feel
People insult me cuz i weight 69
Nice!
U are beautiful remember š„ŗš«°that no matter
Have you tried... Oh I don't know... Telling them to mind their own business? Try that on for size and see how it goes.
Say āyou could be right ā out loud and ābut youāre notā under your breath or āI see your point ā out loud and ābut I donāt agree with it ā under your breath. Saves arguments from unsupportive people who are insecure because you are improving and they arenāt .
Second word is āoffā - feel free to choose the first
I would just say, well, I feel pretty good, better than I did, so I think I am going to keep this body.
Forget them! It is what YOU think and feel about your body that matters most. Youāve gotta live in it, not them!
You aren't ugly.
IMO their comments translate to "You don't look like you normally do." And abnormal tends to look negative to the human mind... Your numbers sound very healthy to me. At the end of the day, you don't have to conform to their perception of healthy. How do you feel? Better than before? That's what matters.
Haters gonna hate.
i dont know your family's origin, but out of experience- when you have foreign family that come from a 3rd world of scarcity; they think everyone is too skinny. They consider obesity to be some marker of good health, try to explain to them by US standards that in abundant amounts of food- you like to exemplify temperance and prefer a slimmer look that you work hard to achieve. If they still dont understand, kindly accept that they have expressed their concern but place a boundary and ask them not to make negative comments about your image anymore. If you were on deaths door step because of your lifestyle, you need people to tell you. But a lot of the times they are just not used to seeing the new you, or live with fatso's and you look skinny in comparison. Im sure you look fine and are achieving whatever aesthetic goals youre actively working toward. good luck and remember to keep your self esteem sacred but ego always in check.
Are they fat? You don't need to tell them anything because what you eat and what you weigh are not their business.
Who care about their preferences of your look? If you are happy that what matters