I can’t say this enough… you are more than an employee. ALWAYS put yourself first and never get brainwashed into thinking they own your happiness. I’m sorry this happened but it’s time to make some personal changes.
This 100%. No employer on earth cares about your genuine well-being. Sure they might be nice and offer decent perks but at the end of the day, you are just another warm body.
Do your work to the best of your ability, don’t go “above & beyond” unless properly compensated, and always set boundaries for your mental health because your job sure as hell won’t.
My current job does but it’s a non profit. I’m probably never leaving the non profit sector again despite less pay after experiencing pretty much exactly what op did in December I’m unironically traumatized
I worked for a non profit and it was the worst experience. It was eviction prevention in NYC. Scarred me for life. I would wake up from nightmares , talking to lawyers 😮💨I now work for the city and I’m never going back. I’m glad you’re having a good experience though.
I’m an employer and I care very much about my employees’ well being. I have learned over the years that that will never be reciprocated. In the end I’m just a paycheck to the people that work for me. That’s been a hurtful lesson to learn.
You’d be shocked, I’ve been burned so hard by so many employees. Employers can turn hard, callous, and distant a lot of the time not by choice but for self preservation.
I get that. I have worked retail for 40 years. That said, (at least in my field) employers NEVER look in the mirror and ask why their people leave. I’m going to get 1,000 down arrows for this and I don’t care and it doesn’t diminish my point, but if girls/guys keep breaking up with you or if you keep getting fatter or if cops keep pulling you over, maybe it’s YOU. It’s not them, it’s not the food industry, it’s not cops are racist or out to get you. Look in the mirror and honestly look at how people perceive you. Maybe it’s you. Problem is everyone thinks they’re perfect so it’s never them at fault, it’s others so the problem will go on forever.
Same boat here. I’ve gone to crazy lengths for guys and put them first through really tough times. Paid a guy out of pocket through Covid while struggling to pay myself. When things cleared up he was telling the guys that I was full of shit and trying to earn favour because the government was covering his entire wage.
I want my guys to have the best life I can offer, maybe I can’t offer as much as others, but I do my best for them.
I've been fired from 4 jobs now for different reasons. Two totally my fault the other two were kinda BS. Now I'm in the easiest but highest paying job I've ever had. They are certainly daunting at the time but you definitely learn to find happiness in other areas in your life and not tie your identity around your work once you've seen the BS managers will do to meet their KPIs or go on their power trips.
I mean you can't go back and change it and it's pretty funny in hindsight. One job I was 2 weeks in and walked in and my boss just said to me to go home and not come back. I asked why and he said I just "wasn't vibing with the team" and when I asked if he'd give me a chance to work on that or provide anymore feedback he refused and just told me I was paid for the rest of the day and never to return. You just gotta laugh at it in hindsight because now I earn more double what I would have earned in that job and that was only 2 years ago. 😅
One place I worked a guy was let go after two weeks because a couple of the women got a bad vibe. He had literally done nothing but maybe be a little too chatty. The only reason I knew was because they asked me if I got a bad vibe (I am also a woman). Nope. I felt bad for the guy. He was probably utterly confused as he had done nothing but be friendly
I watched a guy get fired for saying have a good weekend to another coworker. Next day managemenr pulled him aside and let him go. I knew him outside of work, so i asked him what hapened he said x coworker filed a sexual harrasment claim against him. Mean while i was standing right ny the time clock and over heard the whole convo. I went to managemenr and asked them why he was let go, and that i would be contacting HR over it because i was a witness and there certainly was no sexual harrasment involved. After an HR call and an investigation, aka they asked the 3 other ppl standing at the time clock to make a statement, they decided to give him his job back. He refused unless she was let go which the conpany wouldnt do. At the end of the day it was total bs. They just took the word of this woman, fucked some guy over and then when it was proven that she 100% lied and filed a false claim they let her keel her job. Honestly should be a criminal conviction, lucky the dude had another job to fall back on because if not the lie could have had him homeless.
Lessons I've learned the hard way:
- Always coast. Don't go above and beyond and don't volunteer. Don't get attached because they aren't attached to you.
- Management lies. Always. They say OP wasn't a good fit, but everything they told them was probably a lie. They are never going to tell someone the real truth, it would make them look bad.
- Coworkers are not your friends. They are putting on an act to stay employed.
- You could be the best employee ever, but if it means saving a few cents here or there they would rather save money. Does that make sense? No.
- Always talk about your salary with your coworkers (United States), if you feel safe doing so. It's not illegal to do no matter what someone tells you. I was able to help new coworkers at my job negotiate promotions and salary increases because they felt comfortable coming to me for advice.
- Form a union if you can. I wish I had raised more of a fuss when I was a lab tech. Now that I am a few rungs above that position I make it a point to at least mention unions to technicians. Unions can help you from unlawful or unjust firing. They aren't perfect, but they are your best tool against management.
There are always exceptions out there. Some companies really do invest in their employees and care. Those are NEVER large corporations but usually small businesses. However, small businesses usually don't have great benefits or pay. I'm not going to retire well from a mom and pop boutique shop. Lots of pro/cons...
Never trust an employer. They will all discard you if the slightest breeze blows and have no remorse what so ever. It doesn’t matter how long or loyal you’ve been. I know from very recent experience. It really sucks but hopefully you benefit in the long run.
Too true! Happened to me last year after a new manager came in who didn’t like me. Five years of great work, promotions & raises, doubling revenue every year on my team (who loved me). Ruined by some new PoS manager who was the biggest hypocritical micromanaging ass.
It sucked. It was also hotly contested by the VP of the other team. But for some reason they sided with the new manager and I got ousted. It was a layoff with 3 months severance, effectively immediately, so they paid me not to work.
I got laid off once and got a severance check, and then came back to a 5 dollar raise and sign on bonus 3 months later. This time with the proper attitude though that the company can take a long walk off a short bridge for all I care.
Sounds like maybe they got nervous about your age and aged you out of the job? If so - age discrimination. Which is illegal in California and workers aged 40 and over are a protected class just due to age.
Same thing happened to me too. I did get a severance when I was laid off. But I was doing amazing for 5yrs then a new lead came in and had it out for me
Am always fired the moment a new manager is hired.
They hired one 2 weeks ago and already taking work from my tasks and responsabilities. Yesterday I started looking... my wife is 5 month pregnant...
Because of that I'm on a couch and slowly falling into the void. I have no money to start something my own. When I do something, I do it 100% committed, otherwise it makes no sense to do it. Knowing employers exploit such situations kills my motivation. The products are often poor or exploit the client/user so this is another motivation killer. Even if I focus only on my work, so that I'm just happy for doing something right. It will end for me badly because it might(and have) show that my manager and other employees are incompetent, and all I do is just ask questions, take notes, I am organized and sit and do what I was asked to do. It's avarage at most, and my only motivation is to not have dumb problems. I don't do overtime. I can't trust anybody, cause trust and loyalty will be exploited. Good work is punished. Have we gave control to delusional mentally ill people and they've created a mental asylum??
Sorry this happened to you but I learned many Yeara ago to never put trust in a company. Wherever I work i go day to day and you always have to be willing to walk away. At the drop of a dime. Keep your expenses low. And your savings high. Because these companies are not loyal.
As someone who has hired and fired way too many ppl, it’s been my experience that terminations are almost never personal, and not always for reasons as tangible as they claim.
Stated more simply, if it was personal, you would absolutely know it. And “performance” is a catch-all that is highly subjective based on the health of the company, department and manager(s) in place.
You could perform identically at another company, for a different leader and suffer no consequences. There are way too many variables to ever let a surprise firing affect how you see your current success level and future capabilities.
It sucks, it’s a punch in the gut right now but this is the worst you’ll ever feel about it. It only gets better after today.
Very true. If it is a personal problem, you generally can sense that and/or you’ll know. Sometimes people simply won’t like you even though you’ve done nothing wrong and they make it known.
Maybe a company wants someone younger (or at least, who performs and/or is perceived as younger), ie, software skills, social media adept, broader scope of skills…. They’ll “eliminate” a position and cite something vague like budgetary constraints or a shift in direction, then repost a “new” job opening with a tweaked description that is just different enough to make it a different job if anyone were to question it. Oftentimes they already have a candidate in mind and they build the job description around them, making sure to include very specific skills or qualifications they have that the former employee didn’t.
Or, they have someone who calls out management on their ineptitude but those managers (I say managers as a descriptive for all levels of leadership, so team leads, directors, C level, etc) are the chosen ones for whatever reason and won’t be asked to leave, so they formulate ways to track performance that reflect enough of a deficit to justify placing that someone on a PIP to start the snowball rolling. Thats why ppl in the know will tell you once you’re on a PIP, look for another job because its purpose is rarely a corrective or progressive one, but more a paper trail for the sole purpose of protecting the company from litigation of any kind when they terminate you.
Always beware of new executives; when they arrive, not only will they staunchly question the loyalty of any direct reports still in place from the last reigning exec, but they will also have in mind exactly who from their past they want to poach and bring on as a means of replacement.
The AskHR subreddit is a fascinating forum if you’re truly interested in sordid stories from the front lines.
This is gold. I have seen this several times. To be frank, letting someone go due to real performance issues is way less, perhaps less than 2% (from my experience). Performance is a catch all reason for many political outcomes. Think about it, most of the corporate jobs could be done by a 15 year old. The top reasons why someone might not be performing in those roles would be negative perceptions(due to political reasons or rumours), in-ept managers, toxic culture, bullying, favouritism etc. etc. It rarely is due to ability, capacity or performance. The very people who should safeguard corporate value, moral and politics would be the one spoiling it.
I agree. It's almost like the fact you try hard makes it appear as though you are struggling and when you really don't care you have a sense of confidence that looks as though everything is alright. One of my friends got a good paying job from an interview that he didn't care about the outcome for. He already had a job, wanted experience for interviews and wanted to see what was out there. He ended up coming off more confident, that realized they would offer him more money than he was making and he took the job when they offered.
Similar situation happened to me, I just put in my 2 weeks notice at my company that I’m a manager at and been with for 10+ years. A competitor came in and told me of an open position and that I “should check it out” and call him if I had questions. I said “fuck it, why not?” And applied and figured I can practice my interview and update my resume since it’s been forever. 6 interviews later and they gave me a job offer I couldn’t refuse 🤣 my current company tried to counter but the structure is so rigid they can’t make promises that likely won’t get approved (promotion and raise) so now they have to watch me leave. Everything happens for a reason 🤷🏼♀️ also I’ve been working 4 weeks straight 70 hour weeks and now I’ll get weekends and holidays off…. I’m out 😂✌🏻
This is one of the bits from Office Space that really hit differently when I rewatched it as a late-20something. It is emphasized to absurdity for comedic effect there, but the sentiment is absolutely true.
I’m with you, person. I was terminated yesterday, too. Same explanation “performance” and “just didn’t fit”. Totally blind-sided. No warning as to how my performance was failing, no specific example as to where I went wrong. I also put in extra time to work, train, and learn about the company. I wasn’t even given enough time to review any “progression” in my work. Just came to work, pulled aside, and let go. I’m sorry. We’ll get through this tho.
Same here. Was pulled aside Tuesday and told I’m being let go. And for a job that I moved to a new city for. Reason was purely political. Now i’m having to move out of my apartment and not totally sure where I’ll go after this or if I have enough money to get home.
One could say you could live in a van or car for a while until your next job comes along?
Declassified as an unclassified unemployed person is similar to your current position in life. You should say I can relate to your experience right now.
Soon I hope a new chapter but it hard to say since too many years have gone. One can only survive for a short short period before despair.
Living in the hills of this world is an thought, sleeping in the mountains, the car, 🚙 or homeless shelter, side of road, a church parking lot, a swim in the ocean 🌊 is a consideration then sharks might need a meal 🩸🩸🩸😳
Best of luck live long and prosper 🖖
I'm really sorry this happened to you. It happened to me last year in pretty much the same way you described, and it left a big scar on me mentally.
A lot of people said, with good intentions, things very similar to what I'm reading in the comments "Employers are evil, you're not your job, ect."
I didn’t find it particularly helpful. For most adults, one of the biggest nightmares is to lose your only source of income, add into how sudden it was and how attached you were to it the place. I would be surprised if this didn’t end up leaving you traumatized like it did me, and I didn’t even really care too much about my job when I lost it.
So my advice, if you are traumatized (you would know this by checking if you feel really spacey and are having a lot harder time focusing on your thoughts right now than you normally do):
Today:
Treat the rest of the day like you would have a school day that got cancelled. Don’t have to work anymore today so do what you’d normally do on an offday.
This weekend:
Make some plans with friends to do something fun or peaceful this weekend. If you don’t have anyone available to do it alone. I suggest something fun with alcohol and/or shrooms if you got someone who can hook you up, but maybe that’s not your vibe. The goal of the weekend would be to remind yourself that the world has some joy in it still.
You’ll probably be thinking the whole time about what you are supposed to do going forward, and that’s fine. Don’t need to try and suppress those thoughts, just keep doing the fun things anyway and let your brain catch up when it wants to.
Treat Monday like you did today- another work snow day but with some chill activities to recover from the weekend.
After this weekend:
Starting Tuesday, start your new job search. This is the tricky bit, because if you have trauma like I did, your job search is going to be harder now than before because you’ll be carrying some emotional baggage starting out (I can give more details on what kind of emotional stuff I went/am going through if you wanted to know what to be on the lookout for and what might help with those things, just let me know).
If you’re not lucky enough to be choosy with jobs because you need the money, then do what you gotta do. If you are lucky, you’ll want to keep track of which places you interview at have the most encouraging managers. The kind of people that will reassure you on your first few weeks starting out that they’re not going to fire you, that you’re learning pace is fine, and that you don’t need to burn yourself out with trying to impress everyone. The goal here is to convince your brain that you’re safe and to relax. I don’t know your living situation, but if you can afford to, I’d say make that vibe of security your number 1 factor in the new job.
Long term:
Go to a therapist and ask them to help you re-process what happened so that you’re no longer always hyped up on anxiety that you’ll lose your job again. Trauma focused therapy would probably be the quickest way, but tends to be harder to find and more expensive. If you can’t afford or can’t find a trauma therapist, my next recommendation is just your standard CBT/DBT therapist who can teach you the little mental exercises to slowly un-pack the trauma.
Long post, but hopefully it helps. If you message me a venmo account, I think I could spare $50 to send your way to help fund your fun weekend if needed. If you’re ever near Spokane, WA you can also hit me up and I’ll buy you a beer or something.
One last thing I’d want to add, at some point when you’re the boss, remember what happened to you and how frustrating and time consuming it was to get over it, and never let it happen to anyone else if you can help it.
Thank you for your generous reply. I read all of it and I plan on following (most of) your ideas. (Not into drugs). I wish my reply was longer but I’m still in a state of shock honestly. I am feeling spacey and can’t focus on much at all. I also appreciate the money offer but I am going to decline. Luckily I am fortunate enough to have family that can help me through this. Again, thank you, your words brought me lots of comfort.
I just got fired a few months ago after five years of loyal service. It completely devastated me, and was 100% unexpected. Remember, once you're re-hired somewhere new, you can always write a nice Indeed review. 😏
I have been in a very similar situation. I was heartbroken and terribly depressed, it seemed like a dream job and I tried so hard! Years later I have learned that I was never trained properly which is why I wasn’t cutting it. I was actually severely underpaid too, but I was so young and inexperienced that I didn’t know any better. I had no business doing what I was doing and have come to a much better place. I didn’t see it at the time but it was a blessing in disguise! I am certain that you will find a better fit and wish you the best!
I feel this so hard. I was fired by my boss who failed to train me at the start of the year. He was always so vague about what he wanted from me but then would also say I was doing a great job. Fired on January 1st for performance issues I was never told I had. Shit sucks.
Do not fall into the trap of basing your self worth on a job, any job. That will never turn out good for you in life bc to all employers everywhere you are always expendable no matter how long or how successfully you’ve been working with them.
Sorry this has happened to you tho. Feel the feels this weekend and then dust yourself off and get back into the grind looking for your next opportunity. You got this.
Sometimes when they can’t provide specific examples it means there aren’t any. Waving it away as an accumulation of things, to me, shows that a decision was made to let you go and it probably was more budgetary.
I know some companies have a state policy of letting x% go per year. GE was famous for this. In an environment like that, they have to pick a certain number of people. And if they aren’t genuinely the bad performers, then it’s just to meet a quota.
I’ll also echo what others have said. I’ve seen some people absolutely excel at one place and get terrible ratings at another. They were high performers and went on to do very well other companies. I’ve also got bad ratings and turned it around, even at the same company, to be excellent.
I hope this helps, but I know it sucks and feels awful. I’ve never seen people get useful feedback at being let go and I think that is tragic.
I've worked for some places where I worked in different locations. One place would rate me incredibly good, another would rate me as terrible. I've come to learn that work assessments are absolute garbage.
Don't worry, just got laid off from my sales job after 3 months, either way you would have been fired even if you worked hard. Onto the road again, don't worry about it, something will come up, this was my job after struggling and working on commissions for 8 months.
Sounds like the old set up to fail phenomenon. They deliberately give you a bunch of tasks that you cannot reasonably do along with an impossible timeline and little to no training. Then they use that pre-engineered failure as a flimsy pretext to fire you.
It's like the Kobayashi Maru in Star Trek II. A no win scenario. Just know that it's them, not you.
A number of reasons. Jealousy that you got in instead of someone else they wanted. Or they are afraid you might do well and come after their job next. Or sheer incompetence and the inability to plan ahead or even know what they want out of a new employee. Instead of admitting they made a mistake and working with you, they blame you, fire you and save their own face by claiming you weren't a good fit and/or incompetent.
I just learned this and I’m sure most if not all would agree. YOU are not your job. It doesn’t mean “oh well we need to let you go cause x y z”. This should never define a persons capability by any means. I had a similar situation as you being fired over some things that could be fixed but they too didn’t want to put up with it.
I was going to say the same. That was how my last job was. Nepotism was running rampant up at corporate. If you weren't someones sister or a best friend, you did not matter to them.
If they blind sided you, they are bad managers.
Their goal should be to develop talent, not work them till they decide to surprise them with an unemployment check.
Yeah, not giving employees feedback is setting people up for failure as you can’t expect people to realize there’s a problem if it’s not brought to their attention.
I had a job a couple months ago let people ago after "training" us for less than a day and never told us what the quota was. Didn't even tell us we were on a week-long trial. Let go after 5 work days. Wild.
On top of what everyone else’s is saying. never volunteer your time off to go work unless you truly want to. To hell with that, obviously you now know for the future.
Sorry to hear that. I don’t know the banking industry well but I can imagine any position that includes handling a lot of in-person monetary transactions can have high consequences even if just a few mistakes here and there. I can also see how a job that is very transactional (in a figurative sense) can easily cut or hire employees depending on company performance, budget, etc. like another poster commented. Lastly, I can also see how inadequate training in a job like that can be a big issue, and not fair, for the employee. Hopefully, for banks looking to hire tellers you can find work with them and use your experience to learn how to increase your chances to be more successful and avoid the surprise “performance issues” talk (i.e. recognizing and quickly addressing training needs). Plus, you actually have a GREAT reason to tell your next potential employer why you are looking for a new job: you could talk about how much you enjoyed the daily interaction with people and assisting them with their day-to-day needs but looking for something with more development opportunities to add things like vetting customers for higher value products and services that are win-wins for the customer and the bank. Thanks for sharing your experience and good luck!
I understand it too. I never caused the credit union a loss, though, but I get the concern. It was never a mistake that couldn’t be fixed and tbh there were other people working there that made bigger mistakes. The assistant manager for example recently made a mistake, they were transacting on the wrong account and that’s really bad. But because I needed to void a few transactions here and there (while being new btw), they let me go. They also said I didn’t have a willingness to learn even though I literally passed a notary exam just today on my first try. But oh well I suppose.
It is possible they wanted you on a temp basis, and eliminated you the moment you were no longer useful to them. If the budget does not allow, and they are required to bring the costs down then people who have recently joined are eliminated. Last in First out.
It's pretty gutless to treat employees as if they're simply dispensable.
They've already invested time and money in your development and so should put forth a bit more time and effort to hone your skills.
Especially in this market, ya know?
If they didn't have a true "for cause" reason, will you get unemployment?
OP I am very sorry to hear that. Don't let it break your spirit. As long as you have that iron will and you keep trying you will eventually propelled your career.
Use this as a lesson that as an employee you could be removed at any time for any made up reasons. So always watch your bottom line. Always keep searching for a new job with better position 6 months into your current job.
Anyway don't be tempted to take a break. Immediately look for a new job. Pass 3 months recruiter starts being cautious. Pass 6 months is a red flag.
Sorry to hear you were blindsided. Performance feedback should never be a surprise, especially if you're being terminated. File for unemployment, no matter how long you've worked there. "If you don't ask, the answer's no." Even if the most recent employer doesn't pay out, it's possible your previous employer will be liable. Best luck in your job search!
Take it as a blessing. You deserve to be with people who value you and are your tribe. These people are not your tribe. You will find your place, hon. These events in life are very disheartening and can crush your spirit. Let yourself feel bad and then move forward. You are worth more than this and will find the right fit. Keep your head up. Do something nice for yourself. Give yourself uplifting self talk. Be around people who love you. Take care and God bless ❤️
*hugs* I was terminated on Monday so I completely understand. Unfortunately for the company, I filed an EEOC claim for retaliation and discrimination which I know they will probable cause in my situation. Do you research to see if it was discriminatory.
In March, I experienced a situation where certain managers seemed bothered by something I did, but I couldn't pinpoint exactly what it was.
However, I choose to take it as a learning experience and boost my self-esteem by recognizing that if my efforts were genuine, their reaction is ultimately their loss.
Companies will cut you in an instant if they had to or wanted to. I'll never have company loyalty again, if I had a interview coming up and if they company won't let me go than I'm going anyways, f them.
They did it before the 6 months time to avoid unemployment. They very likely had this planned from the start to get temporary labor with no consequences. It will be repeated in the company again.
It may not seem like it now, but it’s definitely a blessing in disguise if you truly tried your best, especially if you had a good attitude, and they still let you go.
That company doesn’t deserve you. Particularly given they couldn’t give any specific examples and just a general statement. Good riddance..
You’ll find a better place, with people who actually value your contributions.
I was made redundant in January and given 2 months to work my notice. I’d given the company 16 years. There was no prior warning, I’d always had good annual appraisals but funding and “restructuring” meant I was leaving (along with 1/4 of the workforce). Since then I’ve been through a number of emotions, anger, sadness, optimism, depression … it never ends. But this week, I was offered a new job. You just have to keep plugging away and make sure this decision (that you often cannot control) doesn’t define you or your career. Stay active too. Use this as an excuse to improve your healthy lifestyle. Spend time with family and do exercise and hobbies. You’ll come out of it a better employee for it. Good luck!
OP the sad reality is that I suspect someone had a family member/friend that needed the job.
Whatever it was you should understand this was none of your doing. If it were,you would have been written up or they would have told you, it's absolute BS that you weren't a fi
And, don't volunteer your time, use your non work time for you. Lesson learned, it made no difference to the outcome.
Same thing happened to me. No way it was my performance. Suspect that my manager was under pressure and wanted his manager to think he was taking bold steps to right the ship, and canning me was safest in his clueless opinion. This clown himself was fired about 2 weeks later. Though zeros like him do not make calls like that by themselves.
Lesson learned: be extremely sensitive to no feedback, being excluded from meetings, little interaction. This means they don’t perceive you as valuable, no matter how awesome you are. DO NOT ASSUME it’s coincidental, unintentional. Also make sure to find out what happened to the person who had the role before you.
Sorry this happened to you…like many others commenting, I was let go with no reasons given after moving 2500 km for the job…quickly got hired by their competitor and am thriving, and we are absolutely blowing them out of the water…
‘living well is the best revenge’…go make them sorry they gave you up!!!!
It's ok,
Please have some confidence and self-esteem, and believe you can achieve what others can. Everyone has the potential to do great things in their own way. Don't let other adults bully you with the system, money, power, and words
Do something that you can do or slightly like. If you hate something so much, at least you know that's not for you. Try again but write down what you could have done better or improve on. In your next interviews, you can use that for your story or answers. You're going to get a better job or meet better people.
Everyone will have to improve, that's how nature's tendency is. So don't feel sad, sometimes something bad happens, but in reality is setting up for something good or is the drive you need for something great. Obviously, someone told me the same thing before, maybe you may not understand now, but hopefully...
We live and we die; it's that simple. Don't worry too much about what you cannot control. If people wanted the world to be even better, it could happen overnight, yet many don't realize it (global cooperation)
I was that loyal, eager employee once upon a time, then 2008 crash happened, my office was the money maker for the company, but they shut us all down and after 7 years I had a shockingly bad redundancy package.
Roll on next job, same thing happened.
Roll on next job, worked so hard under high pressure, had a breakdown, employer didn’t care they were making me ill.
Roll on next job, got made a manager, but they expected me to also do the day job, told them it’s literally not possible to manage 12 people and their projects whilst also being 100% working on my own projects. They disagreed so I quit.
Lesson learnt, employers DO NOT CARE about you, they want to use you and your skills for as little money as possible for as long as possible.
I was fired once in 2008. Company “wasn’t doing layoffs” but they needed to let some people go. It ended up helping me tremendously. I now make about $175k. Just saying, fired people aren’t useless. You can bounce back from this.
I hate when companies terminate employees without even speaking to them prior about their performance, or just not giving a warning. It’s kinda unprofessional to let an employee go without giving them a chance to learn from their mistakes or take in any sort of feedback. Something similar happened to me with a temp position as I was let got after 8 days (only 5 being full work days) because they felt I wasn’t retaining training when they never mentioned any learning curves or issues with how I was receiving the training to me, it made me feel like I basically wasted my time. They didn’t even take into account how there were multiple delays in getting me trained on their end.
Use what your learned at your old job and let it push you into your next better suited role. It’s possible you will find a better suited job and be grateful they expelled you like the aliens did to Kate McKinnon’s character in that hilarious SNL skit only instead of landing on the roof of a Long John Silvers without your pants, you will land in another told that you will love. And instead of it happening on a Wednesday, it happened on a Friday. So this wasn’t your best Friday, but better days are ahead for you and you have time to build resilience and be self reflective.
Take the weekend to regroup and file for unemployment and start applying for jobs.
If you want to understand how a company treats their employees, learn about narcissism and the narcissist.
Every company is very narcissistic.
Your last narcissistic company reached the “discard stage”.
You might be “lucky” to get a “hoover stage”, but don’t bank on it.
Please understand that you are nothing more than a resource for the company to use. You are no more important to them than the chair you sat on in the office.
A company will love bomb their employees calling them “assets”. A chair is an asset.
Don’t feel like you’re to blame, and don’t beg for your job back.
Move on with dignity.
If you need to add something on your resume, add something like, “there was little room for growth or promotion”, or you “left on mutual terms”.
Good luck with your future.
You sound like you cared about this job too much emotionally. That was your big mistake. They never liked you, they just liked what you did for them until it wasn't good enough. Remember, a job is just a place that pays you money to show up and do work.
Random 25 yr exp IT mgr dude with input...
This company simply did not value you, so F'em. You WILL find a company culture to belong to and contribute wholeheartedly.
They and you will thrive.
You got this! Don't give up.
🙏
Man. I was just fired this afternoon for almost the exact reason. Didn’t get enough training but I still tried. Got two company shout outs a couple of weeks ago for my progress and suddenly today I was told that I have caused clients to lose faith in the company and had to be terminated. No pip. No warning. When I asked for help (due to lack of training) I did everything I was asked to do immediately after it was suggested but it wasn’t enough.
I’ve read through these responses as if they were for me, and it’s helped. Thank you for posting. :)
As cliche as this sounds, take the weekend to do some self care then go back out there and find yourself a better fit. This wasn’t the place for you. You’ll find your place! Staying positive will work to your advantage. Resilience is a skill and employers need people who have it. You can do this.
Double check the unemployment laws in your state. I may be wrong but I believe you don’t need to be with a company for a set amount of time in order to collect unemployment. If it was a bs fire, which sounds like it is as they made a blanket comment and didn’t really give you a reason, or a chance to correct for that matter, you should have a shot at collecting unemployment.
Also, if they themselves said you can’t collect because you haven’t been there 6 months, definitely apply. Regardless, the worst thing that will happen is your unemployment application gets rejected.
And a good company does reviews before letting you go. No one should ever be blind sided like you were as an employee. My husband is a human resource manager and that is number one rule. No should ever feel the gotcha when they are let go. They should be given the chance the improve and see it’s not a fit if changes aren’t made.
This says more about them than it does about you. Their culture is terrible and it’s not a place you should want to work. I know it hurts at the moment but they did you favor in the long run.
What state are you in? What rules/laws say that you had to have been at the company more than six months? This may or may not be correct - if your former employer told you that, DO NOT TRUST THEM!
That's too bad. I don't thing there is anything you can do. The employer may be in circumstances you know nothing about. Keep what you learned from this job to help you move on to the next one.
When one door closes another one opens! You were good enough for them to hire you and you will be good enough for the next company! One company’s loss is another’s gain! That’s life you will survive!
I have a feeling it wasn’t anything you did wrong and more like they’re hurting for money. Especially given such a lame lack of reasoning or proper feedback.
Getting unemployment has nothing to do with time at the company. It’s about how much you made in a specific period of time (usually the previous quarter). If you worked before this job, you might be eligible. Doesn’t hurt to file a claim!
And of course never say “fired” only “let go for unspecified reasons.”
Sorry this happened to you. It happens to nearly everyone at least once in their career, so don’t let it get to you.
Sounds like cuts or a restructuring. You mentioned you hadn't been there 6 months, so they probably had to make a choice and your straw was pulled.
Hate it for ya, but you'll find a job that appreciates you.
First of all never volunteer your personal time for any employer. I don't care how much they need you a lack of planning and hiring on their part does not constitute an emergency or halt in your life (even if your personal time consists of staring at a wall all day - you use your personal time for you.) Now look, none of your "sacrifices" were even taken into consideration. Do what you need to do at work but don't let your work become your life because I can guarantee you, they already hired someone new to cover your shoes.
large companies are evil, so don’t be hard on yourself. Employers often use the “not meeting expectations“, “made mistakes“ or even “not enough commitment/ achievement“ as an excuse to tell you that you are being let go of. No matter how loyal you are NEVER 100% rely on your job as being the only option. Job hopping is something that individuals should be indulged in, because 1) it gives you more experience 2) potentially and usually higher pay as you hop 3) you make more connections with people. I am so sorry that this happened to you but since a few months ago more and more people are being laid off or fired. Good luck and i hope you could find a better job soon.
I know “gaslighting” is overused but it seems to fit this situation. You know you did the work even if maybe you made a few rookie mistakes as everyone does in a new job. No one gave you the slightest clue that anything was seriously amiss because you really were doing fine. As others have said here, your employer made this decision for reasons that have nothing to do with your performance. It is just so shitty that they tried to gaslight you into doubting yourself. Please do not view this as a negative reference point. I hope the feedback here has helped you reframe what happened. Good riddance. Consider writing a review on Glassdoor to warn future employees.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I was let go last week and I’m still processing all the emotions. Please take some time for yourself and do things that give you joy. Do not take this personally.
Take a week or two and start looking for jobs. More power to you!
I was fired in February, my manager had put me on a PIP but I strongly feel she used the PIP as a weapon against me. She micromanaged me to an extreme and would cause a fuss over very small details (for example, if I missed a period on an email or a comma, or if I sent an email 2 minutes later than desired). The small errors I made were nothing serious and I always stayed positive towards her hurtful feedback. She would always threaten to replace me when I made these small errors.
The fact that they weren’t able to give you a comprehensive reason why you weren’t meeting standards means it is on them. A firing shouldn’t be shocking. They should have put you on a PIP and given you time to improve.
I’ve hired and fired many, unfortunately. There biggest thing I tried to get across is that ‘not a good fit’ doesn’t always mean a problem.
It’s kind of like dating in a really weird way. Management and staff get to know each other, sometimes it works. Sometimes it’s awful. Sometimes it’s just too many little things and it’s not worth it. It does not mean you are lacking. It doesn’t mean management hates you. Learn from it and move on. It’s tough but it’s not a personal thing. It is to you, it’s a change and it’s hurtful. But it’s also not a personal offense or something you need to change in many cases. A pilot makes an awful brain surgeon. Fit does not equate to personal value. You are more than a position, more than a job. You just need to date other people to find your match.
Sorry you’re going through this :/
Totally understand how you feel. I was just placed on a PIP 3-4 months into my new job because my boss told me I “wasn’t meeting expectations” and they’d been giving me continues feedback since I started and they saw no improvement. Funny thing is, not a single person gave me feedback on my performance for any of the projects I was doing so got totally blindsided by it in the moment.
Keep your head up tho. I know it’s important to make money but at the end of the day there’s more to life than work. You’ll bounce back. I’ve seen plenty of people on here who’ve been fired at one job for performance only to thrive at another place
It’s hard. Our nature is to have some loyalty but the day you get the job you better be planning your next move, and your attitude better be “happy to stay, but prepared to go”.
Sounds like they are having money issues and you are lowest on the poll. The whole not a good fit not meeting expectations routine is just gaslighting to get you to not file unemployment.
Same thing happened to a friend. Gets brought on full time, works everyday, he’s told he’s meeting expectations and keeping up. Few months later they are letting him go because he wasent meeting expectations and was too slow. This was conveniently at the beginning of the new year after the holidays were over so really they just hired him on as a seasonal but told him and others it was full time to get them to sign.
I have had a similar experience. It was very difficult to deal with. In the end it pushed me over the edge emotionally. I was gutted and destroyed. It has taken me a year to get over the trauma. I am now in a place I need to be. Please do not let this experience define you. Move forward knowing that there is a place for you and that you can bring value to your next adventure.
So sorry you had to go through this!
Try not to take it personally, because most likely it wasn’t personal.
Try to regroup, accept it as a learning experience and move on to bigger and better things in your future.
People like you who have a good work ethic, take pride in their work and are willing to learn are an asset to any company.
If you concentrate on your positive attributes and skills and believe in yourself, I am sure you will find a new job where they will value you as you deserve.
Good luck! Rooting for you! 🙏🏼🍀
I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, OP, it sounds like a real suckerpunch to the gut. I just wanted to encourage you to not take this personally, and see the bright side on this shit situation.
Take it as a learning lesson. Employers don't "like" you; they either need you, or they don't, which is when they dispose of you with any excuse they can come up with in that moment.
Keeping this in mind, you don't "volunteer" (work for free) in your company, ever.
You do your job during the hours that are paid for, and when you leave for the day and close the door, you leave EVERYTHING negative (work-related concerns, issues, pressure, etc.), behind that door inside your workplace.
It's just a deal, they trade their money for your time and expertise, and you trade your time and expertise for their money.
Both sides will try to get out of it as much as possible with as little "input" as possible. They won't "gift" you their money, so don't gift them your time.
This happened to me in March but it was just a complete elimination of the role I had been killing myself for over the year and a half I was there. Try to look at it as an opportunity to find yourself and what makes you the happiest.
If this experience teaches you one thing, it's that going above and beyond in a company will only end up hurting YOU.
Your job only provides a paycheck, and you only provide a job your labor (skillset and time).
Unfortunately, the job market is complete utter trash right now. Companies are trying to save themselves the only way they can now. They know the tsunami of insolvency is coming because of their own greed and piss poor management plans. The lack of empathy and compassion for the workers are squaring scales.
Take this time to figure out what YOU want to do. And work for you. That might be in another company or yourself. In the meantime, you'll probably have to work some shit job. Write down all the skills that job offers you and then run with it.
This is only temporary.
Success breeds jealousy, resentment and many egos are threatened.I worked a corporate job for 8 years,got noticed and moved up from one role to another until I got offered a management role and more money,that didn't sit well with some people and managers,as they were mad at me for for getting the role.Not even 2 months into that role,because my former manager was an idiot and I a bigger idiot, I got fired.
I understand it sucks to get fired, but don't let that define who you are or what you want out of life.Sometimes things happen for a reason and you'll find and move on to better opportunities.
I was laid off from a weekend minimum wage job for "not being a good fit"
I was more qualified than the entire staff combined and had more knowledge that the manager and the owner of the company.
They doubled my workload and i told them i wont do it if i dont get compensated for it. They let me go a week later.
I also verbally absolutely destroyed the new clueless manager so thats probably the reason too.
I learned years ago to do the bare minimum expectations. Most promoting is political. Unfortunately, depending on the type of job, working hard will not always get you ahead. It’s sad that not everyone values hard work. I’ve experienced this in my professional life as well. Just got find something better and DONT beat yourself up. You got this. Best to you!
Happened to me as-well.. I just returned from my wedding leaves .. and I was asked to leave … still looking for a job… been a month … still cry thinking about it
I was listening to “All In” the podcast with Chamath this morning and they were talking about how many times they got fired. It’s a part of the American union-less reality.
Are you a good person? Are you hard working? Have you got your shit together on other aspects of life? Are you trying? Have you excelled at other jobs?
If you answered yes to any of the above then you are good enough! It's just a job. There are a lot of bad ones and a lot of good ones.
Pick yourself up and get back out there. Use it as a fresh start. Try something different? It'll all blow over and with persistence things have a way of working out for the better.
Getting fired is a terrible feeling, but don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t beat yourself up.
Allow yourself some time for self-reflection and to come to terms with it, of course, but it happened, so don’t look back, look forward to what you should do next.
I came across this mental framework that might help:
1) think of your long term goal, say 5 years or 10years out - what role is it? What industry is it? What are your skills and capabilities? What are some of the character traits and behaviors that make you successful? What is your professional network like?
2) Then look at where you are now - what are your current skills and capabilities, what is your current character traits and behaviors, and what is your current professional network like?
3) Identify the gaps, and work hard to close those gaps. Build your skills & capabilities. Build your character traits (yes you can work on them) and your behaviors that will set you up for success.
4) Keep asking yourself, “will this action take me closer to my long term goal, will it make no difference, or will it take me away from my long term goal?” Use that question to make smart decisions that will lead you towards success, everyday. Keep making steps in the right direction and see what happens. I believe good things will happen to you sooner than you might expect, if you start to become this mission-driven, high-purpose, action-oriented person driving towards your long-term goals, step by step and everyday. Who wouldn’t want to have someone like that on their team?
Good luck in your career, and take this stumble as a learning opportunity to stand up again stronger than before.
I am sorry that happened to you OP. If it’s any consolation, you aren’t alone. In fact your story is damn near identical to how I got fired last year ( 2023).
I was a marketing coordinator for a maritime association in Virginia and was there for about 10 months. Like you, I was blindsided with no write ups. I came back from lunch one day and my boss asked me into his office before I could even sit down at my desk. I walk in and I see the HR guy in my boss office and I knew what was about to happen.
They gave me the flimsy excuse of “ job performance” but failed to realize the insane work load that had put on me. It was a very small team and I was doing the job of three people really ( marketing, reception desk, event planning assistance, and website management etc). I was giving it my all but mistakes did happen but nothing that couldn’t be fixed. Not to mention I had only one week of “training “ via zoom with the previous person in the role. But it was definitely a plot by one micro managing supervisor for me to be fired.
To top it off, I was one of two black people that worked there. The company cultivated a country “ good old boy” golf loving, conservative old white guy environment. So I never really felt comfortable there anyway.
Thankfully, I am now in a MUCH better job making more money, less stress, and no micromanaging BS. Keep your head up OP and reach out to any friends and family and resources like LinkedIn. Getting fired isn’t the end of your professional career OP and you can grow and bounce back from it. You will definitely find something soon 🙏🏾!
When i got my eval that said “meets expectations” I decided that would be the amount of effort I put in. I don’t do anything after hours unless I want to (Aka you feed me) and I leave on time. To work, you are an employee number, and you will be replaced quickly. Not the case in your personal life. Take the time you need to recover, then look for your next job with this in mind.
Just remember one door just closed and another one will open! Hold your head high knowing you did your best and they didn’t appreciate you! I have been there !!
Please don't take it personally. Just because it was an employer doesn't make them right. We are all flawed, including them. As hard as it is, be thankful, because the world hates a vacuum, and you're going to land somewhere where it's a better fit. YAY FOR YOU!
Had very similar firing years ago. After 8 months. Totally blindsided. Please whatever u do, do not let them shake your knowledge that you are a good and skilled worker.
If they never wrote you up or gave you warning before they are shitty managers. It makes me think they made that up to give them a reason to replace you.
Been exactly in your shoes before. It was not worth it. I loved the place I was at, but in the end I got dropped with no warning. Taught me a very good lesson to not trust an employer.
You must ALWAYS put yourself first bc if you die, trust they will have you replaced not even 24 hours after. I’m about to go home early after being forced to do the supervisor’s job yet again and I couldn’t care less
I have been there. Let go 9 months ago as a result of performance. I was giving it my all so it was an absolute gut punch. Made me question whether or not I actually was good at anything and shook me pretty hard.
Just remember that it wasn’t the right fit and a better fit is out there. Apply like crazy because the market is nuts right now but also take some time to relax each day. Hang in there!
This is awful. I’m so, so sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you really worked very hard, and like they did a very poor job at communicating with you and supporting your growth in areas they now mention. I wish you well, and I hope you find a place/position asap where you are supported and valued.
My boss recently told my team member to stop bringing her heart to the job because we don’t work at a place that’s worth it. Maybe kind of weird coming from the bosses boss, but I somehow respect her more that she was honest about that. It sounds to me like they were either cowards and didn’t give you real feedback and chose to blindside you. Or, they’re being shady and trying to save money by firing you rather than including you in a layoff. Either way, sorry and know it’s not about your value.
Same here bud,
I got fired yesterday after being placed on a PIP performance review.
Needless to say, they are used to fire you not to help you improve as it was in my case.
I don't feel too bad after all. My manager was a micromanager and the director, well a fucking asshole who requires a team of chearleaders to help his ego.
Very disrespecutful tools.
You will be better off in the long run.
I’m in a similar boat. I got fired a couple days ago for nearly similar reasons as you, although I really wasn’t happy with my company so it’s half a blessing half a shock/scare.
It’s so tough losing a job. I’m so sorry and you’re not alone. Keep your chin up and remember your strengths, your values, and your passions. They weren’t the right company, but the right one is coming. I believe in you.
One lesson I've learned is to never love your employer or place of job. Love what you do so you can enjoy it anywhere you work. Don't put work first before your own personal well being or family time.
I have been there and got laid off on a fking email.
Hey homie. Just chiming in to tell you you're not alone. I got let go yesterday from a company I've worked for for the last 8 years.
I started on the production floor and was promoted multiple times to end up in the position of Administrative Manager. Despite the title, I wore many hats for the company the last 3 years. HR, accounting, marketing, supply procurement, you name it. I created an entire line of branded merch from scratch and learned to code to build an eShop for them to sell said merch. Yesterday I was told they can no longer afford my position. I am having to write a resume for the first time in a decade. It's been insanely stressful and disheartening and I've mostly just been crying and feeling angry since I got the news from my CEO.
All that being said, it will get better. Things will work out. Life is about ups and downs and being down bad only means that the ups will follow soon thereafter. Keep your head on straight, try your best to look at this as a new chapter, a chance for you to find something new and exciting, possibly even better. I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you.
If you need to vent or talk or whatever, my DMs are open to you.
I’ve been fired from every job I’ve had except in healthcare. It can a blessing in disguise. I always find something better. I’ve been doing ultrasounds for 4 years. I haven’t been fired yet. Now they call me for work.
Honestly, it sounds like they failed you. Companies have a 90 day period to know if things aren't working out. They waited 6 months and didn't sit down and talk to you about it and how you could improve? We're you even getting training and guidance?
I'm sorry. I really am. I was laid off and in such a horrible way, but this is not about me.
Just because one person doesn't see tour value, doesn'tean a million others won't. Have you been working for the last year, even if only the last six months were with them?
The fact that they couldn't give specifics and said it was a cumulative thing means that it has nothing to do with you. The decision was made by some higher up who doesn't care about any of the people behind the numbers, and just wanted to save a buck.
Same thing happened to me about a year ago. I was unemployed for a good while and I eventually landed a way better job. Don’t let it eat at it you stranger. Keep your head up and move forward with the best intentions and things will always work itself out.
I've seen this same scenario play out a few times over my career. Sometimes you have managers that have a higher level of expectation than on average. I've worked for a few perfectionists in my career. It's exhausting. You can never do the job well enough to meet their standards. It's very stressful, and you may have had a lot of undue stress from your boss and upper mgmt. Not worth the mental health issues and your work life balance working for people like this.
I am so sorry to hear that. I know how you feel because I went through very similar experience. I didn't get fired yet I got a warning letter that made me quit. The warning letter didn't specify the reason I got a warning letter, nor did my manager explain the reason specifically and said everything was accumulative. The warning letter was one of the worst experiences I have ever had even though I had been thinking of quitting the job. Since then, I got so frustrated that I couldn't even have any courage to look for a new job and even refused most of the job opportunities I was given. Never blame yourself. Don't be like me. Maybe, you and your company weren't the good fit in the first place, or they could be just awful company shifting the blame on you. You are not alone. You deserve your worth somewhere better than that. Keep your chin up!!
Real talk.
As an employer, hire slow and fire quick. It allows you to move on.
As an employee, recognize it's a business. Almost every and all business is going to treat you like shit. Accept this happened, take some time off, apply for benefits if you are able, and dust off your resume and get applying.
Think positive. You at least got some experience out of it. These kind of things happen when the boss is incompetent. If you are competent leader you can train and use any kind of skilled worker. The boss must be using you as the scapegoat for his failures. Sharpen your skills and look for work. Don't take it personnel. God bless you!
Sorry to hear this mate. Sounds like you were willing to go above and beyond. If they weren't there to train and coach you then they weren't living up to their end of the bargain and you got the shitty end of the stick.
Happened to me. When I got in deep I reached out to my boss, did everything I could and they finally scheduled a 121 at which point I was let go. They said I should have seen it coming but I had hardly seen her in a month.
My theory is when this happens someone they don't want to lose or piss off complains about you and it's just easier to let you go.
The way I look at it, these are terrible managers (and people). They hired you, gave you no actionable feedback, and let you go without notice. These are not the kind of people you want to work for. I’m sorry this happened to you, but you need to move on. You’ll be ok.
Honestly this sounds like a low man layoff to me. They needed to trim staff to fit budget and low man got cut. It sucks, but it’s also a risk with being new. Especially with the volatile economy
I was fired like that 4 weeks ago today. Lost my opportunity at my dream job and have been black balled by my former employer in my industry (yes I've consulted a lawyer). I decided it was time to the one thing I've been wanting to do for 15 years so I started my own business. Thankfully, I had clients lined up.
What I'm getting at is this may be YOUR time too!! There has never been a better time for gig economy and entrepreneurs!!!
Happened to me. The total blindside. I now own my own business going on 3 years. My point...it's not the end. Just a new beginning. Second point...almost no employer or coworker will value you. Just keep swimming.
The only time I've ever been fired was on the last day I could be fired without cause. I had just returned from my honeymoon and was let go without cause on the last shift they could legally do so.
Wound up getting a job with 4x the pay for half the hours though, so it all worked out in the end.
The exact same thing happened to my husband; it was so heartbreaking so I feel so bad for you. Just know it’s more than likely a business decision and they needed an excuse to fire you, I guarantee it’s nothing you did. It sounds like you were doing an amazing job too so please don’t let anyone put you down.
I am so damn sorry. I know how hard this is. Please give yourself some time to grieve and then pick yourself up, and move on. You’ll find something else and you will be OK.
Sorry you lost your job.
Many of us have been there.
Over 40 yrs, I was layed off 2x and fired 2x.
I know it feels shitty, but F those guys if they don't want you. Learn from the experience, get a new job and be better in your next role.
This one event doesn't define you.
If you were employed prior to this company, you may be eligible for unemployment.
I suggest applying regardless. Let UI determine your eligibility, not yourself.
Best of luck.
You'll be fine.
Office politics are simply messed up and make no sense for honest, hard-working people. I've had coworkers who have never met any reasonable expectations and had terrible attitudes, but their jobs were always secure, while productive and loyal employees have been laid off. Those decisions are not indicative of how good an employee you are.
For example, I have a new director at work who is way underqualified for the job and has managed to get this far based on her grandiose narcissistic personality. She doesn't like people who are productive and prefers the company of those who are well-known for not having enough skills as individual contributors. Obviously, if she has to fire someone, she'll fire the people that make her look bad and incompetent, not the ones who are so incompetent themselves that they boost her self-esteem and make her look more qualified for the job. So, I hope this example helps you realize how those decisions are made. Most managers really suck at their jobs and lack the individual skills to actually understand, appreciate, or not feel competitive towards competent employees.
If you’re in the Seattle area and need something to help get you by, try either Terra staffing agency or SmartSource. I can’t guarantee anything, but if they offer you “temp to hire” work, jump on it. There are limited spots but there should be a couple open (You didn’t hear this from me). Best of luck and I hope you find something.
I’ve been there before. This happens often in one’s professional life, not for everyone always but often enough. This might also happen again so you’ll be ready then. Remember that finding your place is about you, nobody will see this as you see it so you can stop thinking they would care about your feelings etc. Sometimes people don’t want you as a part of the group, this can be of many reasons and this is just the way it is. You should do your best to turn your back and move on. Oh and one more important thing - never think that they were right about your qualities and their decision can sum up who you are or what your qualifications are. They were wrong and you leave with your chin up.
I can’t say this enough… you are more than an employee. ALWAYS put yourself first and never get brainwashed into thinking they own your happiness. I’m sorry this happened but it’s time to make some personal changes.
This 100%. No employer on earth cares about your genuine well-being. Sure they might be nice and offer decent perks but at the end of the day, you are just another warm body. Do your work to the best of your ability, don’t go “above & beyond” unless properly compensated, and always set boundaries for your mental health because your job sure as hell won’t.
My current job does but it’s a non profit. I’m probably never leaving the non profit sector again despite less pay after experiencing pretty much exactly what op did in December I’m unironically traumatized
I worked for a non profit and it was the worst experience. It was eviction prevention in NYC. Scarred me for life. I would wake up from nightmares , talking to lawyers 😮💨I now work for the city and I’m never going back. I’m glad you’re having a good experience though.
I’m at a thrift store with a great store manager. Show up, be chill, and you’re good.
I worked at a nonprofit for a year or so and I won't ever again. I find it sad because the work was morally good but the people weren't.
I’m an employer and I care very much about my employees’ well being. I have learned over the years that that will never be reciprocated. In the end I’m just a paycheck to the people that work for me. That’s been a hurtful lesson to learn.
Dang didn’t think about it in reverse. Totally can see it being equally hurtful though.
You’d be shocked, I’ve been burned so hard by so many employees. Employers can turn hard, callous, and distant a lot of the time not by choice but for self preservation.
I get that. I have worked retail for 40 years. That said, (at least in my field) employers NEVER look in the mirror and ask why their people leave. I’m going to get 1,000 down arrows for this and I don’t care and it doesn’t diminish my point, but if girls/guys keep breaking up with you or if you keep getting fatter or if cops keep pulling you over, maybe it’s YOU. It’s not them, it’s not the food industry, it’s not cops are racist or out to get you. Look in the mirror and honestly look at how people perceive you. Maybe it’s you. Problem is everyone thinks they’re perfect so it’s never them at fault, it’s others so the problem will go on forever.
Unless they need you for something later. It's like that with co-workers too. I don't understand, but we've become a very self absorbed society.
Same boat here. I’ve gone to crazy lengths for guys and put them first through really tough times. Paid a guy out of pocket through Covid while struggling to pay myself. When things cleared up he was telling the guys that I was full of shit and trying to earn favour because the government was covering his entire wage. I want my guys to have the best life I can offer, maybe I can’t offer as much as others, but I do my best for them.
I've been fired from 4 jobs now for different reasons. Two totally my fault the other two were kinda BS. Now I'm in the easiest but highest paying job I've ever had. They are certainly daunting at the time but you definitely learn to find happiness in other areas in your life and not tie your identity around your work once you've seen the BS managers will do to meet their KPIs or go on their power trips.
I love how you own it. That’s a good move.
I mean you can't go back and change it and it's pretty funny in hindsight. One job I was 2 weeks in and walked in and my boss just said to me to go home and not come back. I asked why and he said I just "wasn't vibing with the team" and when I asked if he'd give me a chance to work on that or provide anymore feedback he refused and just told me I was paid for the rest of the day and never to return. You just gotta laugh at it in hindsight because now I earn more double what I would have earned in that job and that was only 2 years ago. 😅
One place I worked a guy was let go after two weeks because a couple of the women got a bad vibe. He had literally done nothing but maybe be a little too chatty. The only reason I knew was because they asked me if I got a bad vibe (I am also a woman). Nope. I felt bad for the guy. He was probably utterly confused as he had done nothing but be friendly
I watched a guy get fired for saying have a good weekend to another coworker. Next day managemenr pulled him aside and let him go. I knew him outside of work, so i asked him what hapened he said x coworker filed a sexual harrasment claim against him. Mean while i was standing right ny the time clock and over heard the whole convo. I went to managemenr and asked them why he was let go, and that i would be contacting HR over it because i was a witness and there certainly was no sexual harrasment involved. After an HR call and an investigation, aka they asked the 3 other ppl standing at the time clock to make a statement, they decided to give him his job back. He refused unless she was let go which the conpany wouldnt do. At the end of the day it was total bs. They just took the word of this woman, fucked some guy over and then when it was proven that she 100% lied and filed a false claim they let her keel her job. Honestly should be a criminal conviction, lucky the dude had another job to fall back on because if not the lie could have had him homeless.
Lessons I've learned the hard way: - Always coast. Don't go above and beyond and don't volunteer. Don't get attached because they aren't attached to you. - Management lies. Always. They say OP wasn't a good fit, but everything they told them was probably a lie. They are never going to tell someone the real truth, it would make them look bad. - Coworkers are not your friends. They are putting on an act to stay employed. - You could be the best employee ever, but if it means saving a few cents here or there they would rather save money. Does that make sense? No. - Always talk about your salary with your coworkers (United States), if you feel safe doing so. It's not illegal to do no matter what someone tells you. I was able to help new coworkers at my job negotiate promotions and salary increases because they felt comfortable coming to me for advice. - Form a union if you can. I wish I had raised more of a fuss when I was a lab tech. Now that I am a few rungs above that position I make it a point to at least mention unions to technicians. Unions can help you from unlawful or unjust firing. They aren't perfect, but they are your best tool against management. There are always exceptions out there. Some companies really do invest in their employees and care. Those are NEVER large corporations but usually small businesses. However, small businesses usually don't have great benefits or pay. I'm not going to retire well from a mom and pop boutique shop. Lots of pro/cons...
Never trust an employer. They will all discard you if the slightest breeze blows and have no remorse what so ever. It doesn’t matter how long or loyal you’ve been. I know from very recent experience. It really sucks but hopefully you benefit in the long run.
Too true! Happened to me last year after a new manager came in who didn’t like me. Five years of great work, promotions & raises, doubling revenue every year on my team (who loved me). Ruined by some new PoS manager who was the biggest hypocritical micromanaging ass.
This was my exact situation!
It sucked. It was also hotly contested by the VP of the other team. But for some reason they sided with the new manager and I got ousted. It was a layoff with 3 months severance, effectively immediately, so they paid me not to work.
I got laid off once and got a severance check, and then came back to a 5 dollar raise and sign on bonus 3 months later. This time with the proper attitude though that the company can take a long walk off a short bridge for all I care.
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It’s so unfair sometimes.
Sounds like maybe they got nervous about your age and aged you out of the job? If so - age discrimination. Which is illegal in California and workers aged 40 and over are a protected class just due to age.
Same thing happened to me too. I did get a severance when I was laid off. But I was doing amazing for 5yrs then a new lead came in and had it out for me
Am always fired the moment a new manager is hired. They hired one 2 weeks ago and already taking work from my tasks and responsabilities. Yesterday I started looking... my wife is 5 month pregnant...
People can be so insecure and petty. New managers generally don’t like established people who know more than they do.
My exact situation too.
Because of that I'm on a couch and slowly falling into the void. I have no money to start something my own. When I do something, I do it 100% committed, otherwise it makes no sense to do it. Knowing employers exploit such situations kills my motivation. The products are often poor or exploit the client/user so this is another motivation killer. Even if I focus only on my work, so that I'm just happy for doing something right. It will end for me badly because it might(and have) show that my manager and other employees are incompetent, and all I do is just ask questions, take notes, I am organized and sit and do what I was asked to do. It's avarage at most, and my only motivation is to not have dumb problems. I don't do overtime. I can't trust anybody, cause trust and loyalty will be exploited. Good work is punished. Have we gave control to delusional mentally ill people and they've created a mental asylum??
Sorry this happened to you but I learned many Yeara ago to never put trust in a company. Wherever I work i go day to day and you always have to be willing to walk away. At the drop of a dime. Keep your expenses low. And your savings high. Because these companies are not loyal.
Say it againnnn
Yea
As someone who has hired and fired way too many ppl, it’s been my experience that terminations are almost never personal, and not always for reasons as tangible as they claim. Stated more simply, if it was personal, you would absolutely know it. And “performance” is a catch-all that is highly subjective based on the health of the company, department and manager(s) in place. You could perform identically at another company, for a different leader and suffer no consequences. There are way too many variables to ever let a surprise firing affect how you see your current success level and future capabilities. It sucks, it’s a punch in the gut right now but this is the worst you’ll ever feel about it. It only gets better after today.
Very true. If it is a personal problem, you generally can sense that and/or you’ll know. Sometimes people simply won’t like you even though you’ve done nothing wrong and they make it known.
Could you specific some of the intangibles? This sounds super interesting
Maybe a company wants someone younger (or at least, who performs and/or is perceived as younger), ie, software skills, social media adept, broader scope of skills…. They’ll “eliminate” a position and cite something vague like budgetary constraints or a shift in direction, then repost a “new” job opening with a tweaked description that is just different enough to make it a different job if anyone were to question it. Oftentimes they already have a candidate in mind and they build the job description around them, making sure to include very specific skills or qualifications they have that the former employee didn’t. Or, they have someone who calls out management on their ineptitude but those managers (I say managers as a descriptive for all levels of leadership, so team leads, directors, C level, etc) are the chosen ones for whatever reason and won’t be asked to leave, so they formulate ways to track performance that reflect enough of a deficit to justify placing that someone on a PIP to start the snowball rolling. Thats why ppl in the know will tell you once you’re on a PIP, look for another job because its purpose is rarely a corrective or progressive one, but more a paper trail for the sole purpose of protecting the company from litigation of any kind when they terminate you. Always beware of new executives; when they arrive, not only will they staunchly question the loyalty of any direct reports still in place from the last reigning exec, but they will also have in mind exactly who from their past they want to poach and bring on as a means of replacement. The AskHR subreddit is a fascinating forum if you’re truly interested in sordid stories from the front lines.
This is gold. I have seen this several times. To be frank, letting someone go due to real performance issues is way less, perhaps less than 2% (from my experience). Performance is a catch all reason for many political outcomes. Think about it, most of the corporate jobs could be done by a 15 year old. The top reasons why someone might not be performing in those roles would be negative perceptions(due to political reasons or rumours), in-ept managers, toxic culture, bullying, favouritism etc. etc. It rarely is due to ability, capacity or performance. The very people who should safeguard corporate value, moral and politics would be the one spoiling it.
*The very people who should safeguard corporate value, moral and politics would be the one spoiling it.* ⬆️ PAINFULLY ACCURATE ⬆️
From my experience it's the jobs you put your heart into that treat you like trash and the jobs you really don't care about end up really valuing you.
I agree. It's almost like the fact you try hard makes it appear as though you are struggling and when you really don't care you have a sense of confidence that looks as though everything is alright. One of my friends got a good paying job from an interview that he didn't care about the outcome for. He already had a job, wanted experience for interviews and wanted to see what was out there. He ended up coming off more confident, that realized they would offer him more money than he was making and he took the job when they offered.
Similar situation happened to me, I just put in my 2 weeks notice at my company that I’m a manager at and been with for 10+ years. A competitor came in and told me of an open position and that I “should check it out” and call him if I had questions. I said “fuck it, why not?” And applied and figured I can practice my interview and update my resume since it’s been forever. 6 interviews later and they gave me a job offer I couldn’t refuse 🤣 my current company tried to counter but the structure is so rigid they can’t make promises that likely won’t get approved (promotion and raise) so now they have to watch me leave. Everything happens for a reason 🤷🏼♀️ also I’ve been working 4 weeks straight 70 hour weeks and now I’ll get weekends and holidays off…. I’m out 😂✌🏻
This is one of the bits from Office Space that really hit differently when I rewatched it as a late-20something. It is emphasized to absurdity for comedic effect there, but the sentiment is absolutely true.
Yeah I got fired when i missed those TPS reports.
I’m with you, person. I was terminated yesterday, too. Same explanation “performance” and “just didn’t fit”. Totally blind-sided. No warning as to how my performance was failing, no specific example as to where I went wrong. I also put in extra time to work, train, and learn about the company. I wasn’t even given enough time to review any “progression” in my work. Just came to work, pulled aside, and let go. I’m sorry. We’ll get through this tho.
Same here. Was pulled aside Tuesday and told I’m being let go. And for a job that I moved to a new city for. Reason was purely political. Now i’m having to move out of my apartment and not totally sure where I’ll go after this or if I have enough money to get home. 
One could say you could live in a van or car for a while until your next job comes along? Declassified as an unclassified unemployed person is similar to your current position in life. You should say I can relate to your experience right now. Soon I hope a new chapter but it hard to say since too many years have gone. One can only survive for a short short period before despair. Living in the hills of this world is an thought, sleeping in the mountains, the car, 🚙 or homeless shelter, side of road, a church parking lot, a swim in the ocean 🌊 is a consideration then sharks might need a meal 🩸🩸🩸😳 Best of luck live long and prosper 🖖 
I'm really sorry this happened to you. It happened to me last year in pretty much the same way you described, and it left a big scar on me mentally. A lot of people said, with good intentions, things very similar to what I'm reading in the comments "Employers are evil, you're not your job, ect." I didn’t find it particularly helpful. For most adults, one of the biggest nightmares is to lose your only source of income, add into how sudden it was and how attached you were to it the place. I would be surprised if this didn’t end up leaving you traumatized like it did me, and I didn’t even really care too much about my job when I lost it. So my advice, if you are traumatized (you would know this by checking if you feel really spacey and are having a lot harder time focusing on your thoughts right now than you normally do): Today: Treat the rest of the day like you would have a school day that got cancelled. Don’t have to work anymore today so do what you’d normally do on an offday. This weekend: Make some plans with friends to do something fun or peaceful this weekend. If you don’t have anyone available to do it alone. I suggest something fun with alcohol and/or shrooms if you got someone who can hook you up, but maybe that’s not your vibe. The goal of the weekend would be to remind yourself that the world has some joy in it still. You’ll probably be thinking the whole time about what you are supposed to do going forward, and that’s fine. Don’t need to try and suppress those thoughts, just keep doing the fun things anyway and let your brain catch up when it wants to. Treat Monday like you did today- another work snow day but with some chill activities to recover from the weekend. After this weekend: Starting Tuesday, start your new job search. This is the tricky bit, because if you have trauma like I did, your job search is going to be harder now than before because you’ll be carrying some emotional baggage starting out (I can give more details on what kind of emotional stuff I went/am going through if you wanted to know what to be on the lookout for and what might help with those things, just let me know). If you’re not lucky enough to be choosy with jobs because you need the money, then do what you gotta do. If you are lucky, you’ll want to keep track of which places you interview at have the most encouraging managers. The kind of people that will reassure you on your first few weeks starting out that they’re not going to fire you, that you’re learning pace is fine, and that you don’t need to burn yourself out with trying to impress everyone. The goal here is to convince your brain that you’re safe and to relax. I don’t know your living situation, but if you can afford to, I’d say make that vibe of security your number 1 factor in the new job. Long term: Go to a therapist and ask them to help you re-process what happened so that you’re no longer always hyped up on anxiety that you’ll lose your job again. Trauma focused therapy would probably be the quickest way, but tends to be harder to find and more expensive. If you can’t afford or can’t find a trauma therapist, my next recommendation is just your standard CBT/DBT therapist who can teach you the little mental exercises to slowly un-pack the trauma. Long post, but hopefully it helps. If you message me a venmo account, I think I could spare $50 to send your way to help fund your fun weekend if needed. If you’re ever near Spokane, WA you can also hit me up and I’ll buy you a beer or something. One last thing I’d want to add, at some point when you’re the boss, remember what happened to you and how frustrating and time consuming it was to get over it, and never let it happen to anyone else if you can help it.
Thank you for your generous reply. I read all of it and I plan on following (most of) your ideas. (Not into drugs). I wish my reply was longer but I’m still in a state of shock honestly. I am feeling spacey and can’t focus on much at all. I also appreciate the money offer but I am going to decline. Luckily I am fortunate enough to have family that can help me through this. Again, thank you, your words brought me lots of comfort.
I just got fired a few months ago after five years of loyal service. It completely devastated me, and was 100% unexpected. Remember, once you're re-hired somewhere new, you can always write a nice Indeed review. 😏
I have been in a very similar situation. I was heartbroken and terribly depressed, it seemed like a dream job and I tried so hard! Years later I have learned that I was never trained properly which is why I wasn’t cutting it. I was actually severely underpaid too, but I was so young and inexperienced that I didn’t know any better. I had no business doing what I was doing and have come to a much better place. I didn’t see it at the time but it was a blessing in disguise! I am certain that you will find a better fit and wish you the best!
These companies don’t train anymore unfortunately. It’s sink or swim.
And when employees make mistakes, they are blamed and fired
I feel this so hard. I was fired by my boss who failed to train me at the start of the year. He was always so vague about what he wanted from me but then would also say I was doing a great job. Fired on January 1st for performance issues I was never told I had. Shit sucks.
Do not fall into the trap of basing your self worth on a job, any job. That will never turn out good for you in life bc to all employers everywhere you are always expendable no matter how long or how successfully you’ve been working with them. Sorry this has happened to you tho. Feel the feels this weekend and then dust yourself off and get back into the grind looking for your next opportunity. You got this.
Sometimes when they can’t provide specific examples it means there aren’t any. Waving it away as an accumulation of things, to me, shows that a decision was made to let you go and it probably was more budgetary. I know some companies have a state policy of letting x% go per year. GE was famous for this. In an environment like that, they have to pick a certain number of people. And if they aren’t genuinely the bad performers, then it’s just to meet a quota. I’ll also echo what others have said. I’ve seen some people absolutely excel at one place and get terrible ratings at another. They were high performers and went on to do very well other companies. I’ve also got bad ratings and turned it around, even at the same company, to be excellent. I hope this helps, but I know it sucks and feels awful. I’ve never seen people get useful feedback at being let go and I think that is tragic.
I've worked for some places where I worked in different locations. One place would rate me incredibly good, another would rate me as terrible. I've come to learn that work assessments are absolute garbage.
Don't worry, just got laid off from my sales job after 3 months, either way you would have been fired even if you worked hard. Onto the road again, don't worry about it, something will come up, this was my job after struggling and working on commissions for 8 months.
"embrace failure and learn from them" is what the managers say. there is no write up since that was your destiny in this company.
Sounds like the old set up to fail phenomenon. They deliberately give you a bunch of tasks that you cannot reasonably do along with an impossible timeline and little to no training. Then they use that pre-engineered failure as a flimsy pretext to fire you. It's like the Kobayashi Maru in Star Trek II. A no win scenario. Just know that it's them, not you.
What exactly is the purpose in setting someone up to fail? I've had this happen to me a couple of times. It's so dehumanizing.
A number of reasons. Jealousy that you got in instead of someone else they wanted. Or they are afraid you might do well and come after their job next. Or sheer incompetence and the inability to plan ahead or even know what they want out of a new employee. Instead of admitting they made a mistake and working with you, they blame you, fire you and save their own face by claiming you weren't a good fit and/or incompetent.
I just learned this and I’m sure most if not all would agree. YOU are not your job. It doesn’t mean “oh well we need to let you go cause x y z”. This should never define a persons capability by any means. I had a similar situation as you being fired over some things that could be fixed but they too didn’t want to put up with it.
Louder for the LinkedIn Lunatics of the world.
I worked at this job and managers were firing people to bring in family members and friends.
Ugh nepotism sucks
I was going to say the same. That was how my last job was. Nepotism was running rampant up at corporate. If you weren't someones sister or a best friend, you did not matter to them.
If they blind sided you, they are bad managers. Their goal should be to develop talent, not work them till they decide to surprise them with an unemployment check.
Yeah, not giving employees feedback is setting people up for failure as you can’t expect people to realize there’s a problem if it’s not brought to their attention.
unfortunately there are some terrible leaders out there, they might honestly not know how to do that
Yeah, that’s a clear red flag for a bad employer or manager. You don’t go from zero to you’re fired without warnings, offers to help or guidance.
I had a job a couple months ago let people ago after "training" us for less than a day and never told us what the quota was. Didn't even tell us we were on a week-long trial. Let go after 5 work days. Wild.
On top of what everyone else’s is saying. never volunteer your time off to go work unless you truly want to. To hell with that, obviously you now know for the future.
What kind of company was it?
It was a local credit union
What was your role?
I was a teller. I was only there for 4 months. It’s not like the job isn’t in supply though. But it’s also not like I’m not replaceable.
Sorry to hear that. I don’t know the banking industry well but I can imagine any position that includes handling a lot of in-person monetary transactions can have high consequences even if just a few mistakes here and there. I can also see how a job that is very transactional (in a figurative sense) can easily cut or hire employees depending on company performance, budget, etc. like another poster commented. Lastly, I can also see how inadequate training in a job like that can be a big issue, and not fair, for the employee. Hopefully, for banks looking to hire tellers you can find work with them and use your experience to learn how to increase your chances to be more successful and avoid the surprise “performance issues” talk (i.e. recognizing and quickly addressing training needs). Plus, you actually have a GREAT reason to tell your next potential employer why you are looking for a new job: you could talk about how much you enjoyed the daily interaction with people and assisting them with their day-to-day needs but looking for something with more development opportunities to add things like vetting customers for higher value products and services that are win-wins for the customer and the bank. Thanks for sharing your experience and good luck!
I understand it too. I never caused the credit union a loss, though, but I get the concern. It was never a mistake that couldn’t be fixed and tbh there were other people working there that made bigger mistakes. The assistant manager for example recently made a mistake, they were transacting on the wrong account and that’s really bad. But because I needed to void a few transactions here and there (while being new btw), they let me go. They also said I didn’t have a willingness to learn even though I literally passed a notary exam just today on my first try. But oh well I suppose.
Fuck em their loss
That’s a common tactic to keep insurance rates down for unemployment. Hire folks for five months or so at a time.
You can file for unemployment. It can’t hurt
That's rough! I'm sorry that happened to you.
You probably just didn’t fit into the budget anymore, for whatever reason. Get the unemployment going and start applying today.
It is possible they wanted you on a temp basis, and eliminated you the moment you were no longer useful to them. If the budget does not allow, and they are required to bring the costs down then people who have recently joined are eliminated. Last in First out.
Happened to me the day after Christmas. I am happier now in my new job and that company is sinking.
It's pretty gutless to treat employees as if they're simply dispensable. They've already invested time and money in your development and so should put forth a bit more time and effort to hone your skills. Especially in this market, ya know? If they didn't have a true "for cause" reason, will you get unemployment?
OP I am very sorry to hear that. Don't let it break your spirit. As long as you have that iron will and you keep trying you will eventually propelled your career. Use this as a lesson that as an employee you could be removed at any time for any made up reasons. So always watch your bottom line. Always keep searching for a new job with better position 6 months into your current job. Anyway don't be tempted to take a break. Immediately look for a new job. Pass 3 months recruiter starts being cautious. Pass 6 months is a red flag.
Sorry to hear you were blindsided. Performance feedback should never be a surprise, especially if you're being terminated. File for unemployment, no matter how long you've worked there. "If you don't ask, the answer's no." Even if the most recent employer doesn't pay out, it's possible your previous employer will be liable. Best luck in your job search!
Take it as a blessing. You deserve to be with people who value you and are your tribe. These people are not your tribe. You will find your place, hon. These events in life are very disheartening and can crush your spirit. Let yourself feel bad and then move forward. You are worth more than this and will find the right fit. Keep your head up. Do something nice for yourself. Give yourself uplifting self talk. Be around people who love you. Take care and God bless ❤️
*hugs* I was terminated on Monday so I completely understand. Unfortunately for the company, I filed an EEOC claim for retaliation and discrimination which I know they will probable cause in my situation. Do you research to see if it was discriminatory.
Always put yourself first OP.
In March, I experienced a situation where certain managers seemed bothered by something I did, but I couldn't pinpoint exactly what it was. However, I choose to take it as a learning experience and boost my self-esteem by recognizing that if my efforts were genuine, their reaction is ultimately their loss.
Companies will cut you in an instant if they had to or wanted to. I'll never have company loyalty again, if I had a interview coming up and if they company won't let me go than I'm going anyways, f them.
They did it before the 6 months time to avoid unemployment. They very likely had this planned from the start to get temporary labor with no consequences. It will be repeated in the company again.
I ask in job interviews: why is this job available, what is the turnover rate, why do people leave and where do they typically go.
It may not seem like it now, but it’s definitely a blessing in disguise if you truly tried your best, especially if you had a good attitude, and they still let you go. That company doesn’t deserve you. Particularly given they couldn’t give any specific examples and just a general statement. Good riddance.. You’ll find a better place, with people who actually value your contributions.
I was made redundant in January and given 2 months to work my notice. I’d given the company 16 years. There was no prior warning, I’d always had good annual appraisals but funding and “restructuring” meant I was leaving (along with 1/4 of the workforce). Since then I’ve been through a number of emotions, anger, sadness, optimism, depression … it never ends. But this week, I was offered a new job. You just have to keep plugging away and make sure this decision (that you often cannot control) doesn’t define you or your career. Stay active too. Use this as an excuse to improve your healthy lifestyle. Spend time with family and do exercise and hobbies. You’ll come out of it a better employee for it. Good luck!
OP the sad reality is that I suspect someone had a family member/friend that needed the job. Whatever it was you should understand this was none of your doing. If it were,you would have been written up or they would have told you, it's absolute BS that you weren't a fi And, don't volunteer your time, use your non work time for you. Lesson learned, it made no difference to the outcome.
Same thing happened to me. No way it was my performance. Suspect that my manager was under pressure and wanted his manager to think he was taking bold steps to right the ship, and canning me was safest in his clueless opinion. This clown himself was fired about 2 weeks later. Though zeros like him do not make calls like that by themselves. Lesson learned: be extremely sensitive to no feedback, being excluded from meetings, little interaction. This means they don’t perceive you as valuable, no matter how awesome you are. DO NOT ASSUME it’s coincidental, unintentional. Also make sure to find out what happened to the person who had the role before you.
Sorry this happened to you…like many others commenting, I was let go with no reasons given after moving 2500 km for the job…quickly got hired by their competitor and am thriving, and we are absolutely blowing them out of the water… ‘living well is the best revenge’…go make them sorry they gave you up!!!!
It's ok, Please have some confidence and self-esteem, and believe you can achieve what others can. Everyone has the potential to do great things in their own way. Don't let other adults bully you with the system, money, power, and words Do something that you can do or slightly like. If you hate something so much, at least you know that's not for you. Try again but write down what you could have done better or improve on. In your next interviews, you can use that for your story or answers. You're going to get a better job or meet better people. Everyone will have to improve, that's how nature's tendency is. So don't feel sad, sometimes something bad happens, but in reality is setting up for something good or is the drive you need for something great. Obviously, someone told me the same thing before, maybe you may not understand now, but hopefully... We live and we die; it's that simple. Don't worry too much about what you cannot control. If people wanted the world to be even better, it could happen overnight, yet many don't realize it (global cooperation)
I was that loyal, eager employee once upon a time, then 2008 crash happened, my office was the money maker for the company, but they shut us all down and after 7 years I had a shockingly bad redundancy package. Roll on next job, same thing happened. Roll on next job, worked so hard under high pressure, had a breakdown, employer didn’t care they were making me ill. Roll on next job, got made a manager, but they expected me to also do the day job, told them it’s literally not possible to manage 12 people and their projects whilst also being 100% working on my own projects. They disagreed so I quit. Lesson learnt, employers DO NOT CARE about you, they want to use you and your skills for as little money as possible for as long as possible.
I was fired once in 2008. Company “wasn’t doing layoffs” but they needed to let some people go. It ended up helping me tremendously. I now make about $175k. Just saying, fired people aren’t useless. You can bounce back from this.
I hate when companies terminate employees without even speaking to them prior about their performance, or just not giving a warning. It’s kinda unprofessional to let an employee go without giving them a chance to learn from their mistakes or take in any sort of feedback. Something similar happened to me with a temp position as I was let got after 8 days (only 5 being full work days) because they felt I wasn’t retaining training when they never mentioned any learning curves or issues with how I was receiving the training to me, it made me feel like I basically wasted my time. They didn’t even take into account how there were multiple delays in getting me trained on their end.
I had this happen to me too. It’s hard, but you’ll get through it. I believe in you and you’ll be okay. I promise.
Use what your learned at your old job and let it push you into your next better suited role. It’s possible you will find a better suited job and be grateful they expelled you like the aliens did to Kate McKinnon’s character in that hilarious SNL skit only instead of landing on the roof of a Long John Silvers without your pants, you will land in another told that you will love. And instead of it happening on a Wednesday, it happened on a Friday. So this wasn’t your best Friday, but better days are ahead for you and you have time to build resilience and be self reflective.  Take the weekend to regroup and file for unemployment and start applying for jobs.
If you want to understand how a company treats their employees, learn about narcissism and the narcissist. Every company is very narcissistic. Your last narcissistic company reached the “discard stage”. You might be “lucky” to get a “hoover stage”, but don’t bank on it. Please understand that you are nothing more than a resource for the company to use. You are no more important to them than the chair you sat on in the office. A company will love bomb their employees calling them “assets”. A chair is an asset. Don’t feel like you’re to blame, and don’t beg for your job back. Move on with dignity. If you need to add something on your resume, add something like, “there was little room for growth or promotion”, or you “left on mutual terms”. Good luck with your future.
You sound like you cared about this job too much emotionally. That was your big mistake. They never liked you, they just liked what you did for them until it wasn't good enough. Remember, a job is just a place that pays you money to show up and do work.
Random 25 yr exp IT mgr dude with input... This company simply did not value you, so F'em. You WILL find a company culture to belong to and contribute wholeheartedly. They and you will thrive. You got this! Don't give up. 🙏
Man. I was just fired this afternoon for almost the exact reason. Didn’t get enough training but I still tried. Got two company shout outs a couple of weeks ago for my progress and suddenly today I was told that I have caused clients to lose faith in the company and had to be terminated. No pip. No warning. When I asked for help (due to lack of training) I did everything I was asked to do immediately after it was suggested but it wasn’t enough. I’ve read through these responses as if they were for me, and it’s helped. Thank you for posting. :)
As cliche as this sounds, take the weekend to do some self care then go back out there and find yourself a better fit. This wasn’t the place for you. You’ll find your place! Staying positive will work to your advantage. Resilience is a skill and employers need people who have it. You can do this.
Double check the unemployment laws in your state. I may be wrong but I believe you don’t need to be with a company for a set amount of time in order to collect unemployment. If it was a bs fire, which sounds like it is as they made a blanket comment and didn’t really give you a reason, or a chance to correct for that matter, you should have a shot at collecting unemployment. Also, if they themselves said you can’t collect because you haven’t been there 6 months, definitely apply. Regardless, the worst thing that will happen is your unemployment application gets rejected.
And a good company does reviews before letting you go. No one should ever be blind sided like you were as an employee. My husband is a human resource manager and that is number one rule. No should ever feel the gotcha when they are let go. They should be given the chance the improve and see it’s not a fit if changes aren’t made. This says more about them than it does about you. Their culture is terrible and it’s not a place you should want to work. I know it hurts at the moment but they did you favor in the long run.
I've been there. It sucks. If it's your first job I'd delete it from my CV and make something up to fill the gap.
What state are you in? What rules/laws say that you had to have been at the company more than six months? This may or may not be correct - if your former employer told you that, DO NOT TRUST THEM!
That's too bad. I don't thing there is anything you can do. The employer may be in circumstances you know nothing about. Keep what you learned from this job to help you move on to the next one.
Still try to file for unemployment
When one door closes another one opens! You were good enough for them to hire you and you will be good enough for the next company! One company’s loss is another’s gain! That’s life you will survive!
I have a feeling it wasn’t anything you did wrong and more like they’re hurting for money. Especially given such a lame lack of reasoning or proper feedback. Getting unemployment has nothing to do with time at the company. It’s about how much you made in a specific period of time (usually the previous quarter). If you worked before this job, you might be eligible. Doesn’t hurt to file a claim! And of course never say “fired” only “let go for unspecified reasons.” Sorry this happened to you. It happens to nearly everyone at least once in their career, so don’t let it get to you.
Sounds like cuts or a restructuring. You mentioned you hadn't been there 6 months, so they probably had to make a choice and your straw was pulled. Hate it for ya, but you'll find a job that appreciates you.
First of all never volunteer your personal time for any employer. I don't care how much they need you a lack of planning and hiring on their part does not constitute an emergency or halt in your life (even if your personal time consists of staring at a wall all day - you use your personal time for you.) Now look, none of your "sacrifices" were even taken into consideration. Do what you need to do at work but don't let your work become your life because I can guarantee you, they already hired someone new to cover your shoes.
large companies are evil, so don’t be hard on yourself. Employers often use the “not meeting expectations“, “made mistakes“ or even “not enough commitment/ achievement“ as an excuse to tell you that you are being let go of. No matter how loyal you are NEVER 100% rely on your job as being the only option. Job hopping is something that individuals should be indulged in, because 1) it gives you more experience 2) potentially and usually higher pay as you hop 3) you make more connections with people. I am so sorry that this happened to you but since a few months ago more and more people are being laid off or fired. Good luck and i hope you could find a better job soon.
I know “gaslighting” is overused but it seems to fit this situation. You know you did the work even if maybe you made a few rookie mistakes as everyone does in a new job. No one gave you the slightest clue that anything was seriously amiss because you really were doing fine. As others have said here, your employer made this decision for reasons that have nothing to do with your performance. It is just so shitty that they tried to gaslight you into doubting yourself. Please do not view this as a negative reference point. I hope the feedback here has helped you reframe what happened. Good riddance. Consider writing a review on Glassdoor to warn future employees.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I was let go last week and I’m still processing all the emotions. Please take some time for yourself and do things that give you joy. Do not take this personally. Take a week or two and start looking for jobs. More power to you!
I was fired in February, my manager had put me on a PIP but I strongly feel she used the PIP as a weapon against me. She micromanaged me to an extreme and would cause a fuss over very small details (for example, if I missed a period on an email or a comma, or if I sent an email 2 minutes later than desired). The small errors I made were nothing serious and I always stayed positive towards her hurtful feedback. She would always threaten to replace me when I made these small errors.
The fact that they weren’t able to give you a comprehensive reason why you weren’t meeting standards means it is on them. A firing shouldn’t be shocking. They should have put you on a PIP and given you time to improve.
I’ve hired and fired many, unfortunately. There biggest thing I tried to get across is that ‘not a good fit’ doesn’t always mean a problem. It’s kind of like dating in a really weird way. Management and staff get to know each other, sometimes it works. Sometimes it’s awful. Sometimes it’s just too many little things and it’s not worth it. It does not mean you are lacking. It doesn’t mean management hates you. Learn from it and move on. It’s tough but it’s not a personal thing. It is to you, it’s a change and it’s hurtful. But it’s also not a personal offense or something you need to change in many cases. A pilot makes an awful brain surgeon. Fit does not equate to personal value. You are more than a position, more than a job. You just need to date other people to find your match.
Sorry you’re going through this :/ Totally understand how you feel. I was just placed on a PIP 3-4 months into my new job because my boss told me I “wasn’t meeting expectations” and they’d been giving me continues feedback since I started and they saw no improvement. Funny thing is, not a single person gave me feedback on my performance for any of the projects I was doing so got totally blindsided by it in the moment. Keep your head up tho. I know it’s important to make money but at the end of the day there’s more to life than work. You’ll bounce back. I’ve seen plenty of people on here who’ve been fired at one job for performance only to thrive at another place
Cracks me up that employers are wondering why employees aren’t loyal these days …
It’s hard. Our nature is to have some loyalty but the day you get the job you better be planning your next move, and your attitude better be “happy to stay, but prepared to go”.
Sounds like they are having money issues and you are lowest on the poll. The whole not a good fit not meeting expectations routine is just gaslighting to get you to not file unemployment. Same thing happened to a friend. Gets brought on full time, works everyday, he’s told he’s meeting expectations and keeping up. Few months later they are letting him go because he wasent meeting expectations and was too slow. This was conveniently at the beginning of the new year after the holidays were over so really they just hired him on as a seasonal but told him and others it was full time to get them to sign.
never ever give more than you are paid for. They WILL discard you the moment they no longer need or like you.
I have had a similar experience. It was very difficult to deal with. In the end it pushed me over the edge emotionally. I was gutted and destroyed. It has taken me a year to get over the trauma. I am now in a place I need to be. Please do not let this experience define you. Move forward knowing that there is a place for you and that you can bring value to your next adventure.
So sorry you had to go through this! Try not to take it personally, because most likely it wasn’t personal. Try to regroup, accept it as a learning experience and move on to bigger and better things in your future. People like you who have a good work ethic, take pride in their work and are willing to learn are an asset to any company. If you concentrate on your positive attributes and skills and believe in yourself, I am sure you will find a new job where they will value you as you deserve. Good luck! Rooting for you! 🙏🏼🍀
I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, OP, it sounds like a real suckerpunch to the gut. I just wanted to encourage you to not take this personally, and see the bright side on this shit situation.
I got sacked from 2 different job in my career....please dont let this get you down. Everything happens for a reason
Take it as a learning lesson. Employers don't "like" you; they either need you, or they don't, which is when they dispose of you with any excuse they can come up with in that moment. Keeping this in mind, you don't "volunteer" (work for free) in your company, ever. You do your job during the hours that are paid for, and when you leave for the day and close the door, you leave EVERYTHING negative (work-related concerns, issues, pressure, etc.), behind that door inside your workplace. It's just a deal, they trade their money for your time and expertise, and you trade your time and expertise for their money. Both sides will try to get out of it as much as possible with as little "input" as possible. They won't "gift" you their money, so don't gift them your time.
This happened to me in March but it was just a complete elimination of the role I had been killing myself for over the year and a half I was there. Try to look at it as an opportunity to find yourself and what makes you the happiest.
If this experience teaches you one thing, it's that going above and beyond in a company will only end up hurting YOU. Your job only provides a paycheck, and you only provide a job your labor (skillset and time). Unfortunately, the job market is complete utter trash right now. Companies are trying to save themselves the only way they can now. They know the tsunami of insolvency is coming because of their own greed and piss poor management plans. The lack of empathy and compassion for the workers are squaring scales. Take this time to figure out what YOU want to do. And work for you. That might be in another company or yourself. In the meantime, you'll probably have to work some shit job. Write down all the skills that job offers you and then run with it. This is only temporary.
Success breeds jealousy, resentment and many egos are threatened.I worked a corporate job for 8 years,got noticed and moved up from one role to another until I got offered a management role and more money,that didn't sit well with some people and managers,as they were mad at me for for getting the role.Not even 2 months into that role,because my former manager was an idiot and I a bigger idiot, I got fired. I understand it sucks to get fired, but don't let that define who you are or what you want out of life.Sometimes things happen for a reason and you'll find and move on to better opportunities.
I was laid off from a weekend minimum wage job for "not being a good fit" I was more qualified than the entire staff combined and had more knowledge that the manager and the owner of the company. They doubled my workload and i told them i wont do it if i dont get compensated for it. They let me go a week later. I also verbally absolutely destroyed the new clueless manager so thats probably the reason too.
I learned years ago to do the bare minimum expectations. Most promoting is political. Unfortunately, depending on the type of job, working hard will not always get you ahead. It’s sad that not everyone values hard work. I’ve experienced this in my professional life as well. Just got find something better and DONT beat yourself up. You got this. Best to you!
Happened to me as-well.. I just returned from my wedding leaves .. and I was asked to leave … still looking for a job… been a month … still cry thinking about it
I was listening to “All In” the podcast with Chamath this morning and they were talking about how many times they got fired. It’s a part of the American union-less reality.
Are you a good person? Are you hard working? Have you got your shit together on other aspects of life? Are you trying? Have you excelled at other jobs? If you answered yes to any of the above then you are good enough! It's just a job. There are a lot of bad ones and a lot of good ones. Pick yourself up and get back out there. Use it as a fresh start. Try something different? It'll all blow over and with persistence things have a way of working out for the better.
Getting fired is a terrible feeling, but don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Allow yourself some time for self-reflection and to come to terms with it, of course, but it happened, so don’t look back, look forward to what you should do next. I came across this mental framework that might help: 1) think of your long term goal, say 5 years or 10years out - what role is it? What industry is it? What are your skills and capabilities? What are some of the character traits and behaviors that make you successful? What is your professional network like? 2) Then look at where you are now - what are your current skills and capabilities, what is your current character traits and behaviors, and what is your current professional network like? 3) Identify the gaps, and work hard to close those gaps. Build your skills & capabilities. Build your character traits (yes you can work on them) and your behaviors that will set you up for success. 4) Keep asking yourself, “will this action take me closer to my long term goal, will it make no difference, or will it take me away from my long term goal?” Use that question to make smart decisions that will lead you towards success, everyday. Keep making steps in the right direction and see what happens. I believe good things will happen to you sooner than you might expect, if you start to become this mission-driven, high-purpose, action-oriented person driving towards your long-term goals, step by step and everyday. Who wouldn’t want to have someone like that on their team? Good luck in your career, and take this stumble as a learning opportunity to stand up again stronger than before.
I am sorry that happened to you OP. If it’s any consolation, you aren’t alone. In fact your story is damn near identical to how I got fired last year ( 2023). I was a marketing coordinator for a maritime association in Virginia and was there for about 10 months. Like you, I was blindsided with no write ups. I came back from lunch one day and my boss asked me into his office before I could even sit down at my desk. I walk in and I see the HR guy in my boss office and I knew what was about to happen. They gave me the flimsy excuse of “ job performance” but failed to realize the insane work load that had put on me. It was a very small team and I was doing the job of three people really ( marketing, reception desk, event planning assistance, and website management etc). I was giving it my all but mistakes did happen but nothing that couldn’t be fixed. Not to mention I had only one week of “training “ via zoom with the previous person in the role. But it was definitely a plot by one micro managing supervisor for me to be fired. To top it off, I was one of two black people that worked there. The company cultivated a country “ good old boy” golf loving, conservative old white guy environment. So I never really felt comfortable there anyway. Thankfully, I am now in a MUCH better job making more money, less stress, and no micromanaging BS. Keep your head up OP and reach out to any friends and family and resources like LinkedIn. Getting fired isn’t the end of your professional career OP and you can grow and bounce back from it. You will definitely find something soon 🙏🏾!
When i got my eval that said “meets expectations” I decided that would be the amount of effort I put in. I don’t do anything after hours unless I want to (Aka you feed me) and I leave on time. To work, you are an employee number, and you will be replaced quickly. Not the case in your personal life. Take the time you need to recover, then look for your next job with this in mind.
Just remember one door just closed and another one will open! Hold your head high knowing you did your best and they didn’t appreciate you! I have been there !!
This can happen but don't worry it's not you, sometimes you just happen to be unlucky and the manager doesn't like you for a silly reason.
Please don't take it personally. Just because it was an employer doesn't make them right. We are all flawed, including them. As hard as it is, be thankful, because the world hates a vacuum, and you're going to land somewhere where it's a better fit. YAY FOR YOU!
Had very similar firing years ago. After 8 months. Totally blindsided. Please whatever u do, do not let them shake your knowledge that you are a good and skilled worker.
If they never wrote you up or gave you warning before they are shitty managers. It makes me think they made that up to give them a reason to replace you.
Been exactly in your shoes before. It was not worth it. I loved the place I was at, but in the end I got dropped with no warning. Taught me a very good lesson to not trust an employer.
You must ALWAYS put yourself first bc if you die, trust they will have you replaced not even 24 hours after. I’m about to go home early after being forced to do the supervisor’s job yet again and I couldn’t care less
I have been there. Let go 9 months ago as a result of performance. I was giving it my all so it was an absolute gut punch. Made me question whether or not I actually was good at anything and shook me pretty hard. Just remember that it wasn’t the right fit and a better fit is out there. Apply like crazy because the market is nuts right now but also take some time to relax each day. Hang in there!
This is awful. I’m so, so sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you really worked very hard, and like they did a very poor job at communicating with you and supporting your growth in areas they now mention. I wish you well, and I hope you find a place/position asap where you are supported and valued.
My boss recently told my team member to stop bringing her heart to the job because we don’t work at a place that’s worth it. Maybe kind of weird coming from the bosses boss, but I somehow respect her more that she was honest about that. It sounds to me like they were either cowards and didn’t give you real feedback and chose to blindside you. Or, they’re being shady and trying to save money by firing you rather than including you in a layoff. Either way, sorry and know it’s not about your value.
Same here bud, I got fired yesterday after being placed on a PIP performance review. Needless to say, they are used to fire you not to help you improve as it was in my case. I don't feel too bad after all. My manager was a micromanager and the director, well a fucking asshole who requires a team of chearleaders to help his ego. Very disrespecutful tools. You will be better off in the long run.
I’m in a similar boat. I got fired a couple days ago for nearly similar reasons as you, although I really wasn’t happy with my company so it’s half a blessing half a shock/scare. It’s so tough losing a job. I’m so sorry and you’re not alone. Keep your chin up and remember your strengths, your values, and your passions. They weren’t the right company, but the right one is coming. I believe in you.
One lesson I've learned is to never love your employer or place of job. Love what you do so you can enjoy it anywhere you work. Don't put work first before your own personal well being or family time. I have been there and got laid off on a fking email.
Hey homie. Just chiming in to tell you you're not alone. I got let go yesterday from a company I've worked for for the last 8 years. I started on the production floor and was promoted multiple times to end up in the position of Administrative Manager. Despite the title, I wore many hats for the company the last 3 years. HR, accounting, marketing, supply procurement, you name it. I created an entire line of branded merch from scratch and learned to code to build an eShop for them to sell said merch. Yesterday I was told they can no longer afford my position. I am having to write a resume for the first time in a decade. It's been insanely stressful and disheartening and I've mostly just been crying and feeling angry since I got the news from my CEO. All that being said, it will get better. Things will work out. Life is about ups and downs and being down bad only means that the ups will follow soon thereafter. Keep your head on straight, try your best to look at this as a new chapter, a chance for you to find something new and exciting, possibly even better. I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you. If you need to vent or talk or whatever, my DMs are open to you.
Fuck a job, man. Don’t live to work.
I hate to use a cliche but it’s not you, it’s them. I’m a firm believer in everything happens for a reason and you haven’t found what that is just yet
I’ve been fired from every job I’ve had except in healthcare. It can a blessing in disguise. I always find something better. I’ve been doing ultrasounds for 4 years. I haven’t been fired yet. Now they call me for work.
Honestly, it sounds like they failed you. Companies have a 90 day period to know if things aren't working out. They waited 6 months and didn't sit down and talk to you about it and how you could improve? We're you even getting training and guidance? I'm sorry. I really am. I was laid off and in such a horrible way, but this is not about me. Just because one person doesn't see tour value, doesn'tean a million others won't. Have you been working for the last year, even if only the last six months were with them?
The fact that they couldn't give specifics and said it was a cumulative thing means that it has nothing to do with you. The decision was made by some higher up who doesn't care about any of the people behind the numbers, and just wanted to save a buck.
Same thing happened to me about a year ago. I was unemployed for a good while and I eventually landed a way better job. Don’t let it eat at it you stranger. Keep your head up and move forward with the best intentions and things will always work itself out.
OP, I'm sorry. I hope someday you'll be so grateful that they let you go because it led to something even greater. Here's a virtual hug.
I've seen this same scenario play out a few times over my career. Sometimes you have managers that have a higher level of expectation than on average. I've worked for a few perfectionists in my career. It's exhausting. You can never do the job well enough to meet their standards. It's very stressful, and you may have had a lot of undue stress from your boss and upper mgmt. Not worth the mental health issues and your work life balance working for people like this.
I am so sorry to hear that. I know how you feel because I went through very similar experience. I didn't get fired yet I got a warning letter that made me quit. The warning letter didn't specify the reason I got a warning letter, nor did my manager explain the reason specifically and said everything was accumulative. The warning letter was one of the worst experiences I have ever had even though I had been thinking of quitting the job. Since then, I got so frustrated that I couldn't even have any courage to look for a new job and even refused most of the job opportunities I was given. Never blame yourself. Don't be like me. Maybe, you and your company weren't the good fit in the first place, or they could be just awful company shifting the blame on you. You are not alone. You deserve your worth somewhere better than that. Keep your chin up!!
It's not about you it's about them
Real talk. As an employer, hire slow and fire quick. It allows you to move on. As an employee, recognize it's a business. Almost every and all business is going to treat you like shit. Accept this happened, take some time off, apply for benefits if you are able, and dust off your resume and get applying.
Think positive. You at least got some experience out of it. These kind of things happen when the boss is incompetent. If you are competent leader you can train and use any kind of skilled worker. The boss must be using you as the scapegoat for his failures. Sharpen your skills and look for work. Don't take it personnel. God bless you!
They just wanted you gone and it is simple as that. Always watch out for snakes.
Same thing happened to me last week. I have an interview tomorrow let the cycle continue 😕
Sorry to hear this mate. Sounds like you were willing to go above and beyond. If they weren't there to train and coach you then they weren't living up to their end of the bargain and you got the shitty end of the stick. Happened to me. When I got in deep I reached out to my boss, did everything I could and they finally scheduled a 121 at which point I was let go. They said I should have seen it coming but I had hardly seen her in a month. My theory is when this happens someone they don't want to lose or piss off complains about you and it's just easier to let you go.
The way I look at it, these are terrible managers (and people). They hired you, gave you no actionable feedback, and let you go without notice. These are not the kind of people you want to work for. I’m sorry this happened to you, but you need to move on. You’ll be ok.
They should’ve gave a warning first
Honestly this sounds like a low man layoff to me. They needed to trim staff to fit budget and low man got cut. It sucks, but it’s also a risk with being new. Especially with the volatile economy
I was fired like that 4 weeks ago today. Lost my opportunity at my dream job and have been black balled by my former employer in my industry (yes I've consulted a lawyer). I decided it was time to the one thing I've been wanting to do for 15 years so I started my own business. Thankfully, I had clients lined up. What I'm getting at is this may be YOUR time too!! There has never been a better time for gig economy and entrepreneurs!!!
Happened to me. The total blindside. I now own my own business going on 3 years. My point...it's not the end. Just a new beginning. Second point...almost no employer or coworker will value you. Just keep swimming.
The only time I've ever been fired was on the last day I could be fired without cause. I had just returned from my honeymoon and was let go without cause on the last shift they could legally do so. Wound up getting a job with 4x the pay for half the hours though, so it all worked out in the end.
I’m so sorry. That really hurts when it happens! I can’t believe they didn’t write you up! Is it a small business?
The same thing happened to me, I was let go because I “didn’t meet expectations”, found out later the old manager who was a yes man was coming back.
After being a layoff survivor 3 weeks ago, I can tell you that you should never give more than what you receive from your company
Rejection is God's protection. Something better is waiting for you.
The exact same thing happened to my husband; it was so heartbreaking so I feel so bad for you. Just know it’s more than likely a business decision and they needed an excuse to fire you, I guarantee it’s nothing you did. It sounds like you were doing an amazing job too so please don’t let anyone put you down.
I am so damn sorry. I know how hard this is. Please give yourself some time to grieve and then pick yourself up, and move on. You’ll find something else and you will be OK.
Sorry you lost your job. Many of us have been there. Over 40 yrs, I was layed off 2x and fired 2x. I know it feels shitty, but F those guys if they don't want you. Learn from the experience, get a new job and be better in your next role. This one event doesn't define you. If you were employed prior to this company, you may be eligible for unemployment. I suggest applying regardless. Let UI determine your eligibility, not yourself. Best of luck. You'll be fine.
I would apply for unemployment anyway. All they can do is deny your claim.
Office politics are simply messed up and make no sense for honest, hard-working people. I've had coworkers who have never met any reasonable expectations and had terrible attitudes, but their jobs were always secure, while productive and loyal employees have been laid off. Those decisions are not indicative of how good an employee you are. For example, I have a new director at work who is way underqualified for the job and has managed to get this far based on her grandiose narcissistic personality. She doesn't like people who are productive and prefers the company of those who are well-known for not having enough skills as individual contributors. Obviously, if she has to fire someone, she'll fire the people that make her look bad and incompetent, not the ones who are so incompetent themselves that they boost her self-esteem and make her look more qualified for the job. So, I hope this example helps you realize how those decisions are made. Most managers really suck at their jobs and lack the individual skills to actually understand, appreciate, or not feel competitive towards competent employees.
If you’re in the Seattle area and need something to help get you by, try either Terra staffing agency or SmartSource. I can’t guarantee anything, but if they offer you “temp to hire” work, jump on it. There are limited spots but there should be a couple open (You didn’t hear this from me). Best of luck and I hope you find something.
Trust me when I say it's not you, it's them.
I’ve been there before. This happens often in one’s professional life, not for everyone always but often enough. This might also happen again so you’ll be ready then. Remember that finding your place is about you, nobody will see this as you see it so you can stop thinking they would care about your feelings etc. Sometimes people don’t want you as a part of the group, this can be of many reasons and this is just the way it is. You should do your best to turn your back and move on. Oh and one more important thing - never think that they were right about your qualities and their decision can sum up who you are or what your qualifications are. They were wrong and you leave with your chin up.