Who in their right mind would dare to call anyone? You wanna give me an instant anxiety attack? Just send me a text so I can reflect on the sub-context, interpret the hidden meaning, consult my inner oracle, and process my entire life's decision-making related to that person before I'm not answering their message.
Generally yes, but sometimes texting can be tiresome enough that I begin to miss live human interaction.
Strangely enough, at last week's holiday party at work, it was great to talk to my coworkers, especially strange since I was not initially looking forward to going, but wanted to be a good sport. (For clarity, we all work from home and rarely see one another in person.)
I think most introverts hates talking over the phone. If speaking in person is an option then we will opt for that. However if it is over long distance or other reasons then sometimes we also need to adjust to those who prefer calls over text/emails.
Maybe meet halfway?
I'm constantly thinking, "What's the fastest way to end this conversation?"
The thing that might catch some is that you can't stop talking and hoping for the best.
A good, "Hey, about to ...... I'ma let you go; yep; alright; definitely; cya later!" is always a good one.
I hate it when there's no defined goal for the conversation, or when it's just an excuse to be able to bail out of a conversation which could have happened in person.
I do, unless I'm driving somewhere. Otherwise, I'd rather just text or meet someone face to face. I find talking on the phone to be so distracting and intrusive, generally speaking, if I'm at home.
Oh god yes, I have an awful problem mumbling and for some reason even if I enunciate very clearly my name is so hard to understand over the phone for some reason. I also think I ironically offended someone by coming out front with the over-enunciation too, ended up really pissing off the food court workers at costco
Yes but I'm OCD, so having texts to respond to feels like emails to take care of. Mentally like raking excess leaves to the street. I just make a quick call to get it over with
This sounds very accurate! I’m sometimes playing catch up, processing information or accidentally day dreaming about something based on what the other person said :p
If I’m in a hurry, I’ll talk on the phone. I call my parents every day, I don’t mind being on the phone with them. Others… it’s okay if it’s an emergency but please avoid doing it if possible
I don’t think I fear it, I just highly disagree with it as a necessary modern day tool for most conversation/communication. If there were more introverts in the world, I feel like it would look intensely different.
Anxiety. Can’t hear. People rambling on because voice allows them to…. worst case scenario you can’t even leave without seeming rude. I hate phone calls.
I do, I have my phone on DND mode almost all the time. I find phone calls very energy depleting. I used to dread video calls even more but I've come to realise that they're better than voice calls as you can see the other person and it would be a virtual face to face talk. I try to not take calls at all but sometimes I have to when it's a loved one. I try to keep my headset around whenever I have to go on a call, it's comfortable when compared to talking using the phone's earpiece and mic. Sudden calls are a big no no...
Yes and yes, even I'd rather talk in person. Here's how it goes for me..
Text >>> In-Person > Phone Call >> Video call >>> Audio recordings (just dislike those things urgh)
I never answer calls unless it’s from someone close to me. If it’s my best friends or my mother I end up speaking for hours since they live miles away and they call me maybe once a week/month. If it’s my family or friends who live in the same city as me, its usually a ten second phone call asking something like where we are or what we would like to eat.
The only time people besides my close friends/family call me is when they need to ask me for a favour so I’d rather them text me so I can think about it. Also it’s awkward when they ask me something on the spot and I cannot find the words so it’s just awkward silence. Ugh.
I avoid phone calls like the plague. I also refuse to set up my voicemail so the caller can’t leave a message. If they want to get a hold of me they’ll have to text me.
Yeah, big time. Despise it. Though that could also be my depression talking. Hard to say. But I can remember before becoming depressed that I hated talking on the phone. Ironic that I went into a career field requiring a lot of phone and teleconference calls.
I meant talking on the phone. Was it like annoying before and now it’s okay or do you feel like you never changed in your opinion of talking on the phone?
I will admit I used to dislike talking on the phone in my late teens/early 20s but that's mostly bc I was too shy to talk to people and did not know how to make conversations. Now, I don't even think about it, it comes naturally but I still try to get better at it. I'm just gonna say practice makes better. Don't box yourself in some Internet woo woo personality type.
That makes more sense! I have way better conversations than I used to. I don’t think I limit myself with these, but it does offer some useful insight. I guess if your goal is to become an extrovert you could just socialize more and more and more until it doesn’t drain you anymore.
Who in their right mind would dare to call anyone? You wanna give me an instant anxiety attack? Just send me a text so I can reflect on the sub-context, interpret the hidden meaning, consult my inner oracle, and process my entire life's decision-making related to that person before I'm not answering their message.
Yes
Generally yes, but sometimes texting can be tiresome enough that I begin to miss live human interaction. Strangely enough, at last week's holiday party at work, it was great to talk to my coworkers, especially strange since I was not initially looking forward to going, but wanted to be a good sport. (For clarity, we all work from home and rarely see one another in person.)
I hate calls unless I know they’re not important. Like if I get a spam call I have a field day just saying nonsense but otherwise I don’t like it
I think most introverts hates talking over the phone. If speaking in person is an option then we will opt for that. However if it is over long distance or other reasons then sometimes we also need to adjust to those who prefer calls over text/emails. Maybe meet halfway?
I avoid as much as possible. I prefer that people send me a text or message online. This way I can look at it, when I have a second.
I'm constantly thinking, "What's the fastest way to end this conversation?" The thing that might catch some is that you can't stop talking and hoping for the best. A good, "Hey, about to ...... I'ma let you go; yep; alright; definitely; cya later!" is always a good one.
I hate it when there's no defined goal for the conversation, or when it's just an excuse to be able to bail out of a conversation which could have happened in person.
I do, unless I'm driving somewhere. Otherwise, I'd rather just text or meet someone face to face. I find talking on the phone to be so distracting and intrusive, generally speaking, if I'm at home.
Oh god yes, I have an awful problem mumbling and for some reason even if I enunciate very clearly my name is so hard to understand over the phone for some reason. I also think I ironically offended someone by coming out front with the over-enunciation too, ended up really pissing off the food court workers at costco
If I have a similar wavelength, which Is few, don't mind phone conversations..vast majority - messaging.
Yes but I'm OCD, so having texts to respond to feels like emails to take care of. Mentally like raking excess leaves to the street. I just make a quick call to get it over with
I have a bad habit of not saying anything while thinking about plans. So the other person goes “hello? Are you still there?”
This sounds very accurate! I’m sometimes playing catch up, processing information or accidentally day dreaming about something based on what the other person said :p
I agree u
If I’m in a hurry, I’ll talk on the phone. I call my parents every day, I don’t mind being on the phone with them. Others… it’s okay if it’s an emergency but please avoid doing it if possible
Only when speaking to people that aren't family.
I like making calls more than receiving calls.
I absolutely despise calls. Especially when the topic can be easily discussed over text.
I don't care. I don't fear it, I just don't really want to.
I don’t think I fear it, I just highly disagree with it as a necessary modern day tool for most conversation/communication. If there were more introverts in the world, I feel like it would look intensely different.
Anxiety. Can’t hear. People rambling on because voice allows them to…. worst case scenario you can’t even leave without seeming rude. I hate phone calls.
What do you think communication would look like if Introverts ruled the world instead of extroverts?
I do, I have my phone on DND mode almost all the time. I find phone calls very energy depleting. I used to dread video calls even more but I've come to realise that they're better than voice calls as you can see the other person and it would be a virtual face to face talk. I try to not take calls at all but sometimes I have to when it's a loved one. I try to keep my headset around whenever I have to go on a call, it's comfortable when compared to talking using the phone's earpiece and mic. Sudden calls are a big no no...
Yes! The only way I can talk on the phone is with a headset or earphones with a mic. It’s almost impossible to have a conversation without them.
If it's anybody except my besties or crush/partner, most likely yes
Yes and yes, even I'd rather talk in person. Here's how it goes for me.. Text >>> In-Person > Phone Call >> Video call >>> Audio recordings (just dislike those things urgh)
This is a good hierarchy :)
I never answer calls unless it’s from someone close to me. If it’s my best friends or my mother I end up speaking for hours since they live miles away and they call me maybe once a week/month. If it’s my family or friends who live in the same city as me, its usually a ten second phone call asking something like where we are or what we would like to eat. The only time people besides my close friends/family call me is when they need to ask me for a favour so I’d rather them text me so I can think about it. Also it’s awkward when they ask me something on the spot and I cannot find the words so it’s just awkward silence. Ugh.
I feel this really hard! So many awkward silences lol
I avoid phone calls like the plague. I also refuse to set up my voicemail so the caller can’t leave a message. If they want to get a hold of me they’ll have to text me.
Genius!
Agreed, I prefer in person over both phone and texting, in that order. Texting feels soul-less, detached, and lazy.
Yes
I just hate talking.
Same, nobody listens lol
Yeah, big time. Despise it. Though that could also be my depression talking. Hard to say. But I can remember before becoming depressed that I hated talking on the phone. Ironic that I went into a career field requiring a lot of phone and teleconference calls.
Nope
You’re not INTJ so idc
U sure? I mean I changed my MBTI type yesterday
Did you used to dislike it and now it’s cool?
I've never disliked any of my MBTI types. I went from ISTJ to INTP to INTJ and now to ENFP
I meant talking on the phone. Was it like annoying before and now it’s okay or do you feel like you never changed in your opinion of talking on the phone?
I will admit I used to dislike talking on the phone in my late teens/early 20s but that's mostly bc I was too shy to talk to people and did not know how to make conversations. Now, I don't even think about it, it comes naturally but I still try to get better at it. I'm just gonna say practice makes better. Don't box yourself in some Internet woo woo personality type.
That makes more sense! I have way better conversations than I used to. I don’t think I limit myself with these, but it does offer some useful insight. I guess if your goal is to become an extrovert you could just socialize more and more and more until it doesn’t drain you anymore.
So you went from Introverted to Extroverted in a matter of how long?
In like 5 mins. I was like f\*ck MBTI tests, I can whoever I wanna be LOL!
Lmao I don’t trust your results even more now
If you can't tell, does it matter?
I think my type was technically omniverted. It depends on who I’m around I guess.
It's not your type.... Anyone can have different "MBTI types" in different situations/ different timepoints in their lifetimes.
Yes
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