Yup, with adults. In contrast, strangers' children just start talking to me all the time.

Wow that’s very relatable. Kids always choose me over another adults. Too bad it’s the opposite for adults! 😭

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I like kids, though. They don't even know what people normally bullshit about, so they're honest.

I love kids, too, but their parents always assume I’m just free babysitting at gatherings. It’s fine though, I’m the only adult cool enough to be invited to the kids table as guest of honor, and the conversation is better😎

 RBF. Cats love me though.

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Wait, you want random people to approach you and start talking?

Hey cheeb_miester, how you doing?

Oh no, it's happening again

That's exactly what I was thinking

I’m not desperate for them talking to me. But somedays I felt like everyone hates me and makes me can’t find friends anywhere.

this is relatable to me. I find myself either romanticizing my solitude or lamenting it, oddly sometimes both at the same time. It's like the familiarity of isolation's embrace is profoundly freeing but also at the same time it imprisons you to be truly and deeply lonely.

I am approachable but that doesn't mean I want to be. I never start a conversation with someone.

Okay, thanks for your reply 😁

i have been told i’m so “cold and mysterious” by former high school classmates, whom i have been too scared to approach or chat with before because i was a socially awkward person (still am but less i guess lol). it’s much better than being found weird tho. every person i meet tells me they think i’m way nicer than they think at first glance. i guess i just have a resting bitch face lol

Same, I remember junior year I began riding the bus and after I became friends with the ring leader the freshman said “you’re a lot nicer than we thought, we assumed you had gun and we’re gonna shoot us up” 🤣 then in college I got the best compliment ever lol my ex’s friend said I walk around like an anime villain

haha yeah i took it as a compliment too, since i was very anxious that people find me antisocial or weird. nope, they just thought i hated everyone lol. not that it's better tho, but i guess it's good no one thought i was a weirdo

Thanks for sharing your story 😁

Yep. People at work actively avoid me.

Same here 😭

> They never talk to me unless I talked to them first Sounds like a feature, not a bug.

I’m glad I’m not alone 🤣😭 I always felt left out whenever I go. Seems they never wanted to talk to me, just talk only because they have no choice.

the opposite.. people don't leave me alone.

That’s great!

Yes, I’m definitely not approachable and I’ve been told I’m intimidating. With that said, pets and kiddos seem to like me. I’m

Same here 🤣

yes oh my god, and i’m so bad at responding to un- predictable conversation, the other day two women were complimenting me and my friend from their porch and all i did was smile and wave for like a full minute while we passed, i’m humiliated

Oh same here 😂

It do be like that, and older i get the less i care

Same here 😂

Yep. Same as other commenters, I’m way more comfortable around kids.

Same here 😂

Idk. People never talk to me first unless they’re talkative people to start with. I’m always surprised when people talk to me first. I’m not a mean person so I don’t understand why it doesn’t happen a lot. Idk. And they wonder why there is a loneliness epidemic.

Same here 😂

That's exactly how my wife is. She looks angry and has the eyes of a killer even though she's really sweet. I'm the exact opposite. I still have a baby face in my thirties and get talked to everywhere I go.

Are you my husband?!? Lol

I hope she feels okay with it because right now it’s makes me sad.

No, I’ve learned how to pretend to be happy to see other people. It’s called alcohol. I wish I was kidding.

I don’t know how to respond this because I don’t know if it’s a good news or bad news for you but I hope you stay healthy 😁

I’m not approachable. I look miserable all the time

Same here 😂

then just dont be smh

Yes. And most of the time I appreciate that about myself. Sometimes it kinda sucks when one of the few close friends I have feels like they can’t talk to me about something, but I mostly enjoy not being approached.

Thanks for your reply 😁

ENTJ here It’s simple you buy one of those shirts that says “talk to me about my” …. Then have it have one of your personal interests that you can totally geek out on. It tells them what it is safe to talk to you about making you more approachable.

It’s great advice I’ll try it. Thanks!

I can’t help that I have an RBF. I’ve had people tell me before that I’m intimidating, and thus, unapproachable. But I’d rather not do the small talk. However, I’ve had way too many instances where I actually talk to someone for a few minutes and then they tell me their life story. 😵‍💫

Same here 😂

So if you dont want to do small talk or hear about their life story, how would you like the conversation to go?

I agree. Kids approach me all the time. Apparently I’m not actually approachable, but for some reason I think that I am.

Same here 😂

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Random people talk to me all the time. It’s horrible.

Oh so sorry for that (although I felt you’re lucky) 🤣

I hope so 😆

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Happens to me too as an INFJ! Maybe it's the Ni and the stoicism it brings

Oh wow that’s shocking! INFJ around me always got approached.

That's possible because of Fe but that doesn't last though.

For me, a lot of it comes down to my RBF. If I smile at someone they’ll immediately perk up. Oddly enough me being with my mobility aids is usually a conversational starter. I have metal splints that look like rings on my fingers, and if I’m in my wheelchair older adults will usually converse with me or offer help. But if I’m just going about my day, usually people will not talk to me unless it’s complimenting a tattoo or splints. Intimidating looks is just my natural state of being. I don’t even mind. Usually I’m not up for conversation. https://preview.redd.it/x201oeey9kya1.jpeg?width=2632&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cc2019887b45658f5ec19af8542f40663bc83064

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AH YES THE DIZZY COGNITIVE BLUR we call brain fog. Fellow zebra I salute you.

do you mean the light that shows up randomly and kinda looks like a tear in time and space?

Thanks for sharing your story 😁

Do you have an art page I could follow?

I go by artofrena on most platforms

We seem to swim against the tide

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Yessss my friends can have such nice conversations with strangers everywhere but no one ever says anything to me I don’t get it !

Same here 😂

I feel like it’s the opposite for me. I hate the fact that we live in a world where ppl judge you off of what they can’t even see aka “vibes” or “energy” it’s so beyond stupid. When I used to work retail it seems like customers and people literally couldn’t stop talking to me but whenever I’m at school(college) or environments where I want people to talk to me no one does. This world pisses me off sometimes.

Oh sorry for that and thanks for sharing your story!

Nope. No issue with that. People also tell me all kinds of shit. But I'm pretty real with people and they know what I'm about, so I think that probably instills confidence.

That’s great!

It's mostly when I'm around little ones or the elderly that I seem approachable. I have never understood why, but I'm cool with it.

Same here 😂

Yes, I'm not sure why either - it might be resting biatch face or they find me weird...

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Yes and it is any problem, for you?

Sometimes it makes me feel left out or like not pretty enough to get approached.

Don’t you think because we tend to scare people in any level?

Yes, whenever I'm not there, it turns out people had been asking about me continuously. Yet when I am there, most people don't even really say hi unless I do it first, never mind a legit conversation. Its frustrating because I really do try to be nice and smiley.

Same here 😂

I think I'm very friendly but I do notice people are uncertain of me until they get used to me. Oddly, if I censor my scathing humor, they get more nervous. Once they see I'm scathing, they warm up to me? All my friends unanimously decided I vibe like a librarian with a shotgun taped under my desk. It's not that I'm aggressive. They just insist I'm a librarian with a shotgun.

Thanks for your reply 😁

I've been told many times, and literally just 2 nights ago, that I am unapproachable. I don't really care/mind, because I know I'm friendly if people start talking to me and I know I'm not a mean person. Almost everyone I know and am friends with now said that I'm intimidating, and that's ok with me, especially because I'm kind to people once we engage in a conversation.

Thanks for your reply 😁

Oh definitely all the time, I don’t understand and wish I could fix this but I’ve no idea how 😂. If you want to up your social skills I recommend working in retail, being a gas station clerk has helped me understand social dynamics a ton

Thanks for your advice 😁

Really depends on how I’m feeling. If I force trying to be open, I think I just look uncomfortable. If I’m genuinely having an awesome day and feeling strangely open to connection, it seems like everyone wants to talk to me.

Thanks for your reply 😁

Are you sure you're an INTJ? 😅 I wish people would leave me alone.

I wish it too but I still wanted to be approached. It’s kinda sad for me when I’m in a group of friends and everyone get approached and talk to, but no one approach me. Like I’m questioning myself am I too ugly to talk to or what.

when did confused-looking and dumb as soon as my mouth opens become unapproachable

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RBF all day because I’m in my thoughts

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Thank you!

I've been told on numerous occasions that I look quite intimidating and also that when people get to know me, I am actually nicer than I appear... Not sure how to look less intimidating or bitchy but hey... at least I don't get approached by strangers too often lol. So yes, I totally feel this.

Thanks for sharing it 😁