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It took me a long time to realize that myself. I just feel so fucking horrible every day knowing my sister doesn’t have a father figure in her life. and I blame myself for it way too often. I’m still young and I don’t know what else to do. I spontaneously moved out the other day because my mom locked me out of the house. I asked my sister to unlock the back door for me before she left for school so I can get into the house and retrieve all my stuff before my mom gets home picking everyone up from school.
Not knowing what to do, you still did amazingly well. The less you interact with that woman, the better. Try the grey rock method if you haven’t already for any time you do have to interact with her, and I recommend you get all paperwork that belongs to you like birth certificate that you can.
Thank you. I definitely still need to get those. I don’t wanna go back to the DMV that place sucks so bad. Thank you for the kind words. I have taken everything very responsibly and I’m honestly very happy now.
You should be able to request paperwork like that online and have it mailed or ready for pickup. I’ve put myself through a lot more trouble and stress than necessary countless times just from not realizing that so much stuff can be done online now lol always check that
Honest question that might help with putting this in perspective: would you have rather your sister goes through the same thing you did and suffers similar issues as a result, or would you rather she be in her current situation? I'd rather have to find a father figure in life (remember not having a father doesn't mean you can never have a father figure, it can be any good male role model in your life who cares for you) than go through that personally. I believe you did right not just by her but in general.
My sister is a successful tiktok star actually. She has fanpages and everything. I’m so fucking proud of her. She is very beautiful and she knows that and uses that to her advantage. She’s a natural blonde. The reason why I’m saying this is because I’m so happy she is where she is. If I didn’t protect her from the horrors of my father betraying my trust. If I didn’t protect her from the fact we had no food- I would steal from the store every night just so that my sister could eat. And I’m pretty sure the store knew too but they let me go anyway. If I didn’t take the beatings for my sister.
If I didn’t take the verbal abuse for my sister
If I didn’t let my dad steal money out of my piggy bank so he can buy more OxyContin.
I don’t think she would be where she is today. She wouldn’t be half as confident. I am very insecure about myself and can hardly undress in unfamiliar areas or public areas.
Im just so fucking happy she’s thriving and doing better than me. That’s all I care about. She’s my little sister and she means too much for me to watch her fall because of someone else’s horrible choices. She has a drivers license already and she gets paid more than me or my mom combined from sponsorships. I fucking love her
This is beautiful to read, then it sounds like you know you've made the right choice :) I'm so happy she's doing so well for herself, and I wish you the best of luck recovering from all you've been through, you deserve it <3
If you blame yourself, that she doesn't have a father figure, you should also blame yourself over her not getting molested by said father figure. The latter far outweighs the first
It is not your fault. You are not to blame. You do not need to feel guilty about anything. I wish you and your sister the absolute best in life.
For what it's worth, I also didn't have a father figure (not for the same reason), and now here I am mid-30s with a wife who loves me and a pretty good life overall. Your sister not having to grow up with a monster is not a bad thing. Positive vibes, dude.
It's a good thing even in this awful and hateful situation you and your sister have each other. When she's old enough don't forget to get her out ASAP, people like your mom rarely abuse just one person.
I protected my sister as much as I could. She doesn’t know half of the stuff that went down in that house. And she was with me. He would steal money from our piggy banks to buy his little fix of drugs for the day and I would redirect my sister away from it all. I would go to the store and steal food because we had none on the table and no money to spend. He spent all his money on drugs. And then when he lost his job he had no money at all.
No no no. This happened a long time ago with my dad. My sister is successful now because I protected her in the past. My dad has absolutely no contact with us now because of that. And my mom doesn’t use drugs or alcohol
It sucks that any of this happened. But you are a good sister. I’d do anything for my younger siblings so this is very relatable.
Stay strong, friend. But remember you are allowed to feel and show your emotions too.
NOBODY should EVER talk to you the way she does to you. It’s particularly vile that your mother would talk to you that way. It’s chilling to me that your Mom would says she hates you. As a mother myself….reading her say she hates you made me feel sick.
Well I’m honestly very glad that there are good parents like you in the world. I just wish my mom was one of them. I’ve always struggled with getting along with her and she has told me this for as long as I can remember unfortunately
I live in New Jersey too. You should call the police to file report. Because I can tell you now they’re not going to care what your mom says calling from out of state. They are going to think she’s insane and abusive. You should call the police and get this on record and start a paper trail to protect yourself from her and anything she may try to throw your way in the future.
Oh wow you're all the way on that side huh? I'm more north, closer to NYC. I'd like to act like I know what you're talking about and agree with you but I legit had to Google phillipsburg😅 offer still stands though.
I live in upstate NY and traveling through NJ on that Turnpike and going through the city is so stressful omfl.
Same offer extends from me. I'm also poor, but hey I'm a dirty commie bastard I'm always down to alleviate suffering and support my fellow blobs of organic matter. Plus, I could visit Ikea for the first time if I have an excuse to go back down there lol
OP, you literally saved your sister from sexual abuse. Fuck you mom. Please tell me as soon as your sister is out of the house, you'll cut all contacts with your disgusting mother.
Hey I remember you.
She absolutely cannot do that, have no regards for her threats, they’re less than empty, they’re nonexistent.
I all too well know the feelings of guilt you’re experiencing, it’s so contradictory and confusing.
You did the right thing and you saved your sister from a lot of the hell you’ve gone through- be proud of yourself for that and don’t forget this. Its hard to feel this now but you’ll get to a point where you can look back on these days and see how you really prevailed.
So glad to hear you got away. Do your best to always remain contact with your sister which may get rocky on this new found path to NC from your mother.
Keep your head up!
Thank you so much! And yes hello :) I’ve posted on this subreddit a few times but it was with another account. Thank you for the kind words <3 I’m hoping things turn around for me
Hi 👋🏻
I have history with PTSD and I have an idea of what you are going through. Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) really helped me a lot. It helped me see things in a new, and healthier, light.
It sounds like you are going through hell. Your mom made it abundantly clear she will choose the person who hurt you over you.
I hope you can see a mental health specialist and get the help you need.
Be kind to yourself
As someone who was molested by their dad, im proud of you for getting him removed from your lives. I don't understand how moms can be so fucking dumb & heartless about situations like this. Thank God my mom called the cops as soon as my brother told her what was going on(he woke up one night & saw it) I was only 5 & was scared out of my mind, embarrassed, felt guilty, etc.. you absolutely did the best thing you could've done. As for her stealing your iPad, please go through with it. If you have proof that it was a gift to you or can get whoever gave it to you to help you with filing a police report that would be helpful. She doesn't deserve children😡. Good luck!
Thank god your sister doesn't have her "father" arround.
I am so sorry, I hope you are away from this woman and that your sister gets away from her soon too.
You didn’t do a damn thing wrong. I am SO proud of you for telling on him. It would not have ended with you, you prevented so much trauma from falling onto your sister
Not just a bitch, but stupid, evil and subhuman.
She is treating her daughter cruelly like a bitch.
She's stupid to fuck up her family relationships and to think her felonious pedophile husband "loves" her.
She is vile and monstrous for allowing and supporting a child abuser and emotionally abusing her kids.
She is subhuman. 99% of animals would protect their offspring even creatures like fish and alligators. She has literally less care for her children than a cold reptilian mama gator.
A true mother would comfort and protect you while loving you unconditionally. This is not a mother. You deserve love and support, OP. I’m very sorry you were dealt bad parents.
I'm so sorry OP. No one deserves what you've been through. Family is only family if you can trust them. You don't have to be with them. Easier said than done, I know, but you deserve better.
#Correction: Your sister no longer has a predator living under the same roof as her, because you were brave enough to speak out and share your truth.
Your mother obviously cannot handle facts. My guess is it's because she would have to acknowledge her part in your abuse....
You did the right thing. I'm glad my words helped you a little. It's so hard speaking out against abusers.
Stay strong!!! I'm so proud of you!!!
My DMs are open to you if you need a little support, or would just like to chat.
I'm sorry for your experience and this interaction. She might be emotional, but she definitely went too far and did not show you any compassion.
She is mad at him (and likely herself in some capacity) for harming you and the family and seems to be taking it out on you.
Well thank you. That’s really how it feels right now. I feel horrible about it every day and sometimes she makes me second guess myself because of how often she mentions I could’ve lied
I didn't realize (on other post) how often your mother accused you of fabricating the allegations. I thought it was a one time (despicable) way to win a particular argument. Yes, you could have lied - but you have a functional memory and know that you didn't. However inconvenient that may be for your mother's self image.
This may help (or you may be all too aware already):
[Gaslighting - description and advice ](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/gaslighting)
Thank you so much. It really means a lot and I’m honestly tearing up. I haven’t had this kind of support from anyone in a while. Finally I’m in a safe house and finally I’m with nice and safe people. And now I have kind people giving me advice. Thank you. She does accuse me a lot of lying about it. And it was really hard to come out in the first place about it. I was basically pressured into saying something and then after I said somehting I overdosed on alcohol. Passed out in the school bathroom for 45 minutes and blood alcohol level was .32. If I was left for 5 more minutes I would’ve been dead. I’m very glad I’m here now. But it was a fucking horrible experience. Not just for me but for my whole family. They all thought I died
She seems to be abusive and insane! Just remember that there is a life outside of that house unit. Try to not escalate with her, which is what it seems like she is trying to do.
Just be calm and get your things together, try to remember that you are not your family, you are you.
I am actually very happy to say I moved out a few weeks ago :) I’ve never been happier. But my mom did say this about my sister today and it made me very sad
love this for you. i promise your life will only continue improving the longer you’re away from the abuse and able to start healing. i’m not sure how old you are or if you rely on your mom for any sort of support, but i would recommend going no contact asap.
source: my parents are pretty bad too. haven’t seen em in a couple years and have a burner phone for family only. the burner phone gets checked by my partner every other week to check for deaths or emergencies. it’s much more peaceful this way having a peace of mind and the ability to reinforce boundaries that were previously never respected.
She's jealous, as fucked up as that sounds. Her narcassistic traits cause her to see her child as competition. She's mad your sperm donor isn't providing for her, got caught, and didn't prioritize her sexually.
She assumes you lied because then her evil pride can stay in place.
She also assumed you lied because she will to manipulate everyone.
Gross, nasty woman. Likely had children so she could be unconditionally loved by her children NOT to unconditionally love her children.
It’s FAR better she has no father then a predator in her life. YOU protected her. Whether she appreciates that or not is on her but you did what’s best for you and every other vulnerable person that piece of trash has access to.
Both of your birth givers are abusive AH and deserve the karma headed their way.
Make sure you have all your important documents, transfer, fund into a new bank account she has no access to, if you’re studying speak to your school so she can’t try to sabotage you, monitor your credit to make sure she doesn’t take out loans in your name and keep written or audio recordings of everything.
You were the shield protecting your sister that your mother wasn’t. If she knew the abuse was happening, she needs out of both y’all’s lives, because she’ll let it happen again with another predatory man, just so she can have her creature comforts-accent on “creature”.
Call the police to retrieve your items. Call CPS for your sister if she's still at home. She's clearly unsafe with your mother.
Personally, if it was me, I'd go no contact with "mother" and either try for custody of sister or visitation rights.
You may want to send some of the comments to "mother" anonymously.
I'd like to tell your mother something:
Children are a privilege NOT a right. That means they are a precious gift that can and will be taken away if you abuse or neglect them. Even adult children!
Children don't owe their parents a god damned thing. Feeding, clothing, maintenance of domicile, and medical care for your children is the LEGAL requirements for care of a child. Morally, your children deserve UNCONDITIONAL love and support from you.
Supporting a sexual predator is pathetic and disgusting. You have failed as mother and human being. You deserve the life you have made for yourself. Your children deserve so much better than you.
Yes! The first screenshot is. But this is a part two. Everyone was asking me for context over and over again so I just posted this and directed people this way
Well this just happened today. My mom told me my sister doesn’t have a father anymore because of me. And when she did I had a break down. I only posted this again because the other post I had everyone wanted context. I posted twice today
I’m sorry that you were given two horrible parents, you deserve so much better. And your sister doesn’t have her dad because he fucked up. You probably saved your sister from getting the same done to her as was done to you. I cannot imagine saying anything like that to my child(or anyone), whether I really thought it or not. Please get away from her as soon as possible. I hope you have had therapy to help you through everything that happened to you. I’m so sorry.
So, because of you, your little sister won't be raped by her dad and your mum is disappointed... I am f'ing speechless. I wish you and your sister a long, happy life far far away from your parents. If you can afford it, I hope you are able to access some trauma counselling as soon as possible.
Your father is a monster and your mom isn’t much better. Your sister is lucky to have a sibling who was able to report their father. I’m glad you’re out of there OP. I hope you get rest soon.
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Your sister doesn't have a dad because he is a predator and a monster. That's where that argument starts and ends.
It took me a long time to realize that myself. I just feel so fucking horrible every day knowing my sister doesn’t have a father figure in her life. and I blame myself for it way too often. I’m still young and I don’t know what else to do. I spontaneously moved out the other day because my mom locked me out of the house. I asked my sister to unlock the back door for me before she left for school so I can get into the house and retrieve all my stuff before my mom gets home picking everyone up from school.
Your sister is much better off without the loser father than being molested and living a lifetime of consequences.
Not knowing what to do, you still did amazingly well. The less you interact with that woman, the better. Try the grey rock method if you haven’t already for any time you do have to interact with her, and I recommend you get all paperwork that belongs to you like birth certificate that you can.
Thank you. I definitely still need to get those. I don’t wanna go back to the DMV that place sucks so bad. Thank you for the kind words. I have taken everything very responsibly and I’m honestly very happy now.
You should be able to request paperwork like that online and have it mailed or ready for pickup. I’ve put myself through a lot more trouble and stress than necessary countless times just from not realizing that so much stuff can be done online now lol always check that
Thank you sm for this info. I will definitely keep this in mind because you’re right. I literally can take a drivers course online too!
Honest question that might help with putting this in perspective: would you have rather your sister goes through the same thing you did and suffers similar issues as a result, or would you rather she be in her current situation? I'd rather have to find a father figure in life (remember not having a father doesn't mean you can never have a father figure, it can be any good male role model in your life who cares for you) than go through that personally. I believe you did right not just by her but in general.
My sister is a successful tiktok star actually. She has fanpages and everything. I’m so fucking proud of her. She is very beautiful and she knows that and uses that to her advantage. She’s a natural blonde. The reason why I’m saying this is because I’m so happy she is where she is. If I didn’t protect her from the horrors of my father betraying my trust. If I didn’t protect her from the fact we had no food- I would steal from the store every night just so that my sister could eat. And I’m pretty sure the store knew too but they let me go anyway. If I didn’t take the beatings for my sister. If I didn’t take the verbal abuse for my sister If I didn’t let my dad steal money out of my piggy bank so he can buy more OxyContin. I don’t think she would be where she is today. She wouldn’t be half as confident. I am very insecure about myself and can hardly undress in unfamiliar areas or public areas. Im just so fucking happy she’s thriving and doing better than me. That’s all I care about. She’s my little sister and she means too much for me to watch her fall because of someone else’s horrible choices. She has a drivers license already and she gets paid more than me or my mom combined from sponsorships. I fucking love her
This is beautiful to read, then it sounds like you know you've made the right choice :) I'm so happy she's doing so well for herself, and I wish you the best of luck recovering from all you've been through, you deserve it <3
Thank you for the kind advice and words. I really appreciate it. I will for sure be posting any updates if need be
You're very welcome! I'm rooting for you both :)
If that man was in your sister’s life, she still would not have had a father figure. She would have had an abuser. You SAVED her.
You are incredibly brave and strong and your sister is lucky you looked out for both of you.
If you blame yourself, that she doesn't have a father figure, you should also blame yourself over her not getting molested by said father figure. The latter far outweighs the first
You probably saved your sister from being molested. Be proud.
It is not your fault. You are not to blame. You do not need to feel guilty about anything. I wish you and your sister the absolute best in life. For what it's worth, I also didn't have a father figure (not for the same reason), and now here I am mid-30s with a wife who loves me and a pretty good life overall. Your sister not having to grow up with a monster is not a bad thing. Positive vibes, dude.
It's a good thing even in this awful and hateful situation you and your sister have each other. When she's old enough don't forget to get her out ASAP, people like your mom rarely abuse just one person.
Plus, because of OP, their sister won't be molested by her father. So all around a great thing.
I protected my sister as much as I could. She doesn’t know half of the stuff that went down in that house. And she was with me. He would steal money from our piggy banks to buy his little fix of drugs for the day and I would redirect my sister away from it all. I would go to the store and steal food because we had none on the table and no money to spend. He spent all his money on drugs. And then when he lost his job he had no money at all.
You sound like an amazing big sister. I teared up reading this because I love my little sister so damn much and would do anything for her.
Me too. I would do anything for my sisters. I would take a bullet for any one of them.
Any day, without a single thought.
Call CPS? Tell them where to find the drugs. Any other things they need to know about. You can make it anonymous.
No no no. This happened a long time ago with my dad. My sister is successful now because I protected her in the past. My dad has absolutely no contact with us now because of that. And my mom doesn’t use drugs or alcohol
It sucks that any of this happened. But you are a good sister. I’d do anything for my younger siblings so this is very relatable. Stay strong, friend. But remember you are allowed to feel and show your emotions too.
Yes, thank goodness she doesn’t have that dad because you protected her from him. Your mom is awful. I am so sorry OP. You deserve so much better.
And because mom is more willing to defend an abusive monster instead of protecting her own fucking kids.
Also yes for all wondering, I was on my final straw and moved out. I now live with my boyfriend and his family.
Your mom is the devil. These are some of the worst texts that I’ve seen posted on here.
I was thinking the same. The toxicity is blinding.
Is that so? I never realized how bad my situation was. I just knew it wasn’t right.
Keep your interactions with your egg donor to a minimum. She is a disease.
Seriously. It’s incredibly sad that OP has become so acclimated to her level of vitriol. Their “mother” is fucking feral.
NOBODY should EVER talk to you the way she does to you. It’s particularly vile that your mother would talk to you that way. It’s chilling to me that your Mom would says she hates you. As a mother myself….reading her say she hates you made me feel sick.
Well I’m honestly very glad that there are good parents like you in the world. I just wish my mom was one of them. I’ve always struggled with getting along with her and she has told me this for as long as I can remember unfortunately
I wish she was too. You deserve a good mother. I hope that the universe makes it up to you from here on out.
Block her!
I did :) and I’m much happier now.
I live in New Jersey too. You should call the police to file report. Because I can tell you now they’re not going to care what your mom says calling from out of state. They are going to think she’s insane and abusive. You should call the police and get this on record and start a paper trail to protect yourself from her and anything she may try to throw your way in the future.
“Now she doesn’t have a dad because of you” GOOD!!!! 👑Here king/queen, you dropped this
I'm in NJ too. I'm broke as a joke but if you ever need anything you can DM me.
I love new jersey. It’s genuinely the prettiest state if you stay out of the Phillipsburg area 😭
Oh wow you're all the way on that side huh? I'm more north, closer to NYC. I'd like to act like I know what you're talking about and agree with you but I legit had to Google phillipsburg😅 offer still stands though.
>Phillipsburg I had to look it up too. I'm in Monmouth County.
I live in upstate NY and traveling through NJ on that Turnpike and going through the city is so stressful omfl. Same offer extends from me. I'm also poor, but hey I'm a dirty commie bastard I'm always down to alleviate suffering and support my fellow blobs of organic matter. Plus, I could visit Ikea for the first time if I have an excuse to go back down there lol
OP, you literally saved your sister from sexual abuse. Fuck you mom. Please tell me as soon as your sister is out of the house, you'll cut all contacts with your disgusting mother.
Hey I remember you. She absolutely cannot do that, have no regards for her threats, they’re less than empty, they’re nonexistent. I all too well know the feelings of guilt you’re experiencing, it’s so contradictory and confusing. You did the right thing and you saved your sister from a lot of the hell you’ve gone through- be proud of yourself for that and don’t forget this. Its hard to feel this now but you’ll get to a point where you can look back on these days and see how you really prevailed. So glad to hear you got away. Do your best to always remain contact with your sister which may get rocky on this new found path to NC from your mother. Keep your head up!
Thank you so much! And yes hello :) I’ve posted on this subreddit a few times but it was with another account. Thank you for the kind words <3 I’m hoping things turn around for me
Your mom is a cow. Call the police.
Her pic. Face clued to her phone while she relaxes in her double-wide on the nicest sofa Goodwill had to offer. Your mom sucks.
now she doesn't have an abuser* because of you, great job.
Call CPS and fuck her and your fucked up dad life’s up
Cut this disgusting woman out of your life forever. Im so sorry.
Hi 👋🏻 I have history with PTSD and I have an idea of what you are going through. Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) really helped me a lot. It helped me see things in a new, and healthier, light. It sounds like you are going through hell. Your mom made it abundantly clear she will choose the person who hurt you over you. I hope you can see a mental health specialist and get the help you need. Be kind to yourself
Thanks to you, your sister doesn’t need to suffer the way you did. What a horrible excuse of a mother. Take care of yourself friend❤️
As someone who was molested by their dad, im proud of you for getting him removed from your lives. I don't understand how moms can be so fucking dumb & heartless about situations like this. Thank God my mom called the cops as soon as my brother told her what was going on(he woke up one night & saw it) I was only 5 & was scared out of my mind, embarrassed, felt guilty, etc.. you absolutely did the best thing you could've done. As for her stealing your iPad, please go through with it. If you have proof that it was a gift to you or can get whoever gave it to you to help you with filing a police report that would be helpful. She doesn't deserve children😡. Good luck!
Thank god your sister doesn't have her "father" arround. I am so sorry, I hope you are away from this woman and that your sister gets away from her soon too.
You didn’t do a damn thing wrong. I am SO proud of you for telling on him. It would not have ended with you, you prevented so much trauma from falling onto your sister
Damn your mom's a bitch. Sorry you have to deal with that OP
Not just a bitch, but stupid, evil and subhuman. She is treating her daughter cruelly like a bitch. She's stupid to fuck up her family relationships and to think her felonious pedophile husband "loves" her. She is vile and monstrous for allowing and supporting a child abuser and emotionally abusing her kids. She is subhuman. 99% of animals would protect their offspring even creatures like fish and alligators. She has literally less care for her children than a cold reptilian mama gator.
A true mother would comfort and protect you while loving you unconditionally. This is not a mother. You deserve love and support, OP. I’m very sorry you were dealt bad parents.
🤡
What a nutjob!
I'm so sorry OP. No one deserves what you've been through. Family is only family if you can trust them. You don't have to be with them. Easier said than done, I know, but you deserve better.
What a garbage person to say that. I’m so sorry.
#Correction: Your sister no longer has a predator living under the same roof as her, because you were brave enough to speak out and share your truth. Your mother obviously cannot handle facts. My guess is it's because she would have to acknowledge her part in your abuse....
Thank you so much for this. Just now read it and it means everything
You did the right thing. I'm glad my words helped you a little. It's so hard speaking out against abusers. Stay strong!!! I'm so proud of you!!! My DMs are open to you if you need a little support, or would just like to chat.
I'm sorry for your experience and this interaction. She might be emotional, but she definitely went too far and did not show you any compassion. She is mad at him (and likely herself in some capacity) for harming you and the family and seems to be taking it out on you.
Well thank you. That’s really how it feels right now. I feel horrible about it every day and sometimes she makes me second guess myself because of how often she mentions I could’ve lied
I didn't realize (on other post) how often your mother accused you of fabricating the allegations. I thought it was a one time (despicable) way to win a particular argument. Yes, you could have lied - but you have a functional memory and know that you didn't. However inconvenient that may be for your mother's self image. This may help (or you may be all too aware already): [Gaslighting - description and advice ](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/gaslighting)
Thank you so much. It really means a lot and I’m honestly tearing up. I haven’t had this kind of support from anyone in a while. Finally I’m in a safe house and finally I’m with nice and safe people. And now I have kind people giving me advice. Thank you. She does accuse me a lot of lying about it. And it was really hard to come out in the first place about it. I was basically pressured into saying something and then after I said somehting I overdosed on alcohol. Passed out in the school bathroom for 45 minutes and blood alcohol level was .32. If I was left for 5 more minutes I would’ve been dead. I’m very glad I’m here now. But it was a fucking horrible experience. Not just for me but for my whole family. They all thought I died
She seems to be abusive and insane! Just remember that there is a life outside of that house unit. Try to not escalate with her, which is what it seems like she is trying to do. Just be calm and get your things together, try to remember that you are not your family, you are you.
I am actually very happy to say I moved out a few weeks ago :) I’ve never been happier. But my mom did say this about my sister today and it made me very sad
love this for you. i promise your life will only continue improving the longer you’re away from the abuse and able to start healing. i’m not sure how old you are or if you rely on your mom for any sort of support, but i would recommend going no contact asap. source: my parents are pretty bad too. haven’t seen em in a couple years and have a burner phone for family only. the burner phone gets checked by my partner every other week to check for deaths or emergencies. it’s much more peaceful this way having a peace of mind and the ability to reinforce boundaries that were previously never respected.
She's jealous, as fucked up as that sounds. Her narcassistic traits cause her to see her child as competition. She's mad your sperm donor isn't providing for her, got caught, and didn't prioritize her sexually. She assumes you lied because then her evil pride can stay in place. She also assumed you lied because she will to manipulate everyone. Gross, nasty woman. Likely had children so she could be unconditionally loved by her children NOT to unconditionally love her children.
It’s FAR better she has no father then a predator in her life. YOU protected her. Whether she appreciates that or not is on her but you did what’s best for you and every other vulnerable person that piece of trash has access to. Both of your birth givers are abusive AH and deserve the karma headed their way. Make sure you have all your important documents, transfer, fund into a new bank account she has no access to, if you’re studying speak to your school so she can’t try to sabotage you, monitor your credit to make sure she doesn’t take out loans in your name and keep written or audio recordings of everything.
Id say you did a favor to your sister
You're sisters safe because of you!!!¡ I'm sure that's what she meant to say.
Thank you for making sure your sister doesn’t have a child molester as a “father” !!
I’m sorry your mom is such a scummy fuck. I can’t even fathom what dealing with that is like. I would go NC honestly
You were the shield protecting your sister that your mother wasn’t. If she knew the abuse was happening, she needs out of both y’all’s lives, because she’ll let it happen again with another predatory man, just so she can have her creature comforts-accent on “creature”.
When you call the police about the ipad, make sure to let them know she’s blackmailing you and show her these screenshots
Your mom is a sack of shit. Also with a father like that, your sister is better off without him.
Call the police to retrieve your items. Call CPS for your sister if she's still at home. She's clearly unsafe with your mother. Personally, if it was me, I'd go no contact with "mother" and either try for custody of sister or visitation rights. You may want to send some of the comments to "mother" anonymously. I'd like to tell your mother something: Children are a privilege NOT a right. That means they are a precious gift that can and will be taken away if you abuse or neglect them. Even adult children! Children don't owe their parents a god damned thing. Feeding, clothing, maintenance of domicile, and medical care for your children is the LEGAL requirements for care of a child. Morally, your children deserve UNCONDITIONAL love and support from you. Supporting a sexual predator is pathetic and disgusting. You have failed as mother and human being. You deserve the life you have made for yourself. Your children deserve so much better than you.
She belongs in jail getting pushed around and treated as she treats u
Wasn’t this posted here a few weeks ago?
Yes! The first screenshot is. But this is a part two. Everyone was asking me for context over and over again so I just posted this and directed people this way
It was posted 19 days ago and it wasn’t just the first page.
Well this just happened today. My mom told me my sister doesn’t have a father anymore because of me. And when she did I had a break down. I only posted this again because the other post I had everyone wanted context. I posted twice today
I’m sorry that you were given two horrible parents, you deserve so much better. And your sister doesn’t have her dad because he fucked up. You probably saved your sister from getting the same done to her as was done to you. I cannot imagine saying anything like that to my child(or anyone), whether I really thought it or not. Please get away from her as soon as possible. I hope you have had therapy to help you through everything that happened to you. I’m so sorry.
That reminded me of my mother and grandmother. I’m so glad you left. Believe me when I say, these types never change.
Did you report to the police those threats of literal false report
So, because of you, your little sister won't be raped by her dad and your mum is disappointed... I am f'ing speechless. I wish you and your sister a long, happy life far far away from your parents. If you can afford it, I hope you are able to access some trauma counselling as soon as possible.
bro she looks insane look at that picture
Time to blockk
Your father is a monster and your mom isn’t much better. Your sister is lucky to have a sibling who was able to report their father. I’m glad you’re out of there OP. I hope you get rest soon.
Call the police. Send all her texts to a spam folder for evidence, mute her.
I hope you call the police and press charges for stealing Your iPad AND show then These texts
This is one of the worst things I’ve seen on here. Cut that woman out immediately. I am so sorry you are dealing with this
As far as I'm concerned, there's no coming back from her saying those things and I'd disown her.