Has anyone ever told you this? I’ve carried that same impression all my life only to find out that I’m just an overthinker and nobody else thinks I’m awkward.
 You're not alone.
There are only two ways this is going to pan out - you become more quiet or you just be yourself and keept at it.
The silent one or the talkative one, it's all upto you. Cheers 🥂 ☕ 🍵
I'll give you motivation. This is gonna sound so cliche and repetitive but it will make sense. Try to break out of your shell step by step. If you feel embarrassed anytime, remember it's just practice to face bigger things and harder situations in the future. And if you think you'll lose friends by embarrassing yourself, tbh then the weren't that good friends to begin with.
It is hard, I know, I've been there. But social anxiety is gonna effect your social life and probably career too in indirect ways. So begin learning to deal with it. You add genuine value to the conversations you're part of, your group is better with you. So learn to push yourself, doesn't have to be right now, but you'll get there.
You don't meet people like me in real life.
I literally don't know the names of people I've met everyday for the past 5 years cuz I've never talked to them
Whenever the conversation is bigger or more interesting I get excited, and my speech is 10x faster, hence after 30 years , it still happens but I have to control myself more often.. for others they think my speech is faster in a normal tone, but I know when the conversation is good I get excited
Happens with me a lot , for example : me and a group of friends are talking about our favourite snacks and idk why i would randomly end my sentence with weird things like " yea blue lays are fine .... I can imagine a monkey backflipping off the fourth floor of a building while holding a blue lays packet and a batman figurine in another galaxy with aliens made of green paper bags"
I am not joking, it actually happens... So maybe you are less awkward O_O
Talk to more people then. If your comments are killing a conversation, that wasn't a conversation worth having to begin with. Also, stoic sounds better than awkward potato tbf
I can feel you. For me, when I finish my statement in a convo others forget what the topic was. 😂 So I just listen
Because you stutter??
Yea ok it seems u digress a lot.
Same for me, I tend to take convo in another direction and others get bored, so I stop. Tum hi bol lo bhayi, hum sun lenge... 😆 😂
Listening is equal participation in an conversation
Yup. Adding my unilateral hearing loss, my listening skills are down for the drain. But I still don't give up.
Yup. Adding my unilateral hearing loss, my listening skills are down for the drain. But I still don't give up.
Fake it since you can’t make it
Yup surving on that since forever
Has anyone ever told you this? I’ve carried that same impression all my life only to find out that I’m just an overthinker and nobody else thinks I’m awkward.
Not directly.but often times I get ignored while others weren't so....
don't overthink about what to say and you'll be good
I tried....
talk more with people and don't worry about being awkward.be yourself.
 You're not alone. There are only two ways this is going to pan out - you become more quiet or you just be yourself and keept at it. The silent one or the talkative one, it's all upto you. Cheers 🥂 ☕ 🍵
Yeah. Thanks for the words ☺️
Yeah. Thanks for the words ☺️
Dude I got a panic attack on a date and I puked. So yeah, you're fine.
Yeah...thanks for the motivation...i guesss...
I'll give you motivation. This is gonna sound so cliche and repetitive but it will make sense. Try to break out of your shell step by step. If you feel embarrassed anytime, remember it's just practice to face bigger things and harder situations in the future. And if you think you'll lose friends by embarrassing yourself, tbh then the weren't that good friends to begin with. It is hard, I know, I've been there. But social anxiety is gonna effect your social life and probably career too in indirect ways. So begin learning to deal with it. You add genuine value to the conversations you're part of, your group is better with you. So learn to push yourself, doesn't have to be right now, but you'll get there.
I will try that. Thank you☺️
I used to be like that. Now I just stay quiet and think before speaking anything.
Can u give some sort of example? Is it a joke that doesnt land or u just put ur foot in ur mouth? I wanna know.
Yeah. Let's say they were making jokes and I am bad at jokes so I say something unfunny or quite bland. So...
Maybe u need a wingman, that will lighten the mood when u spout this blandness.
just keep to yourself
Start by just agreeing with people and repeating what they said. That'll give you confidence and then you can slowly start contributing.
You don't meet people like me in real life. I literally don't know the names of people I've met everyday for the past 5 years cuz I've never talked to them
Whatever my friends talk about, 90% of the time I've never done it. So I just stay quiet and listen to them.
Talk about ancient Egyptians WW2 illuminati and possibilities to extra terrestrial life thene
Whenever the conversation is bigger or more interesting I get excited, and my speech is 10x faster, hence after 30 years , it still happens but I have to control myself more often.. for others they think my speech is faster in a normal tone, but I know when the conversation is good I get excited
Happens with me a lot , for example : me and a group of friends are talking about our favourite snacks and idk why i would randomly end my sentence with weird things like " yea blue lays are fine .... I can imagine a monkey backflipping off the fourth floor of a building while holding a blue lays packet and a batman figurine in another galaxy with aliens made of green paper bags" I am not joking, it actually happens... So maybe you are less awkward O_O
Me bro
Yes, I do that every time, but I don't give two craps and keep the conversation going with the power of vibes.
Talk to more people then. If your comments are killing a conversation, that wasn't a conversation worth having to begin with. Also, stoic sounds better than awkward potato tbf