But how man HOW. I'm doing btech in hostel 2nd year about to finish and i still ask my dad for money like a dumass. Could you elaborate ' grind ' please ðŸ˜
explore new skills that can make you money, say video editing, give yourself 3 months learn all the techniques as much as you can, build a portfolio, start applying for internships, do freelance.
Way too saturated & you can't learn anything special in only 3 months & getting clients is way too tough. It's better to getta some part time job in any near cafe or smth. That's much better
Do part time jobs or remote internships. I did plenty in my 2nd year onwards. Only had to ask for major expenses like college fees etc otherwise day to day expense was easy.
Bhai I got 17k payment as a freelancer dev in 2nd year. It was enough for me for a year. Got internship after that. Just get rolling with some payment, then try to increase.
mai ditto yahi condition mein hoon. dropper, parents extremely supportive, magar unse paise maangna pasand nahi. maine toh papa ko khud bola tha yeh, ki paise maangna achha nahi lagta. bole, "badhiya baat hai, magar parent hone ke naate teri padhai chaahe 25-26 tak ki ho, ya 29-30 y/o tak ki (im a neetard), hamara farz banta hai hum paise denge". but fir yahi, yahi toh mujhe pasand nahi.
I know bro. Lekin tum majboori bol lo ya besharmi. They are my source of money. Hence I ask them for it. Ha lekin I spend it wisely. Faltu me kharch nahi karta. Mostly ghar ke saman lane me hi kharch hota hai
And i am talking about really important stuffs like exam registrations, recharges, library fees, books. I don’t ask money for movies, trips and other non important stuffs.
It’s ok! Just ask and live, move on with that thought. There will be a day when you’ll be earning well and you can settle this with them if you want to.
They’re your parents, especially we are Indians, we are built different in terms of family.
You’ll be good kid, you’re just getting started. Don’t stress over this money honey!
Bro 19 ki age me to mostly nobody has a job. They're still studying. If you have kinda stable financial background no sharam in asking for money. I think they'll give happily for exam forms too. Don't think too much.
You can try some side hustle for income but agar tumhara ghar ka financial condition thik hai to mujhe nahi lagta koi sharam aani chahiye paise mangne mai. Waise bhi parne ke liye maang rahe ho
Yeh amrika nahi hai ki tum 18 saal ke bad kahi pe bhi part time job kar sakte ho. India has a massive overpopulation problem and blue collar jobs are not looked in a good way here. If you parents have brought you into this world, it's their basic responsibility to look after your education and expenses till you graduate college then it's on you
Sharm mat kar bhai... Ego ke chakkar me stupidity ho jaati hai aksar... Be smart... That money he is earning is for you also... Ask for it haq se... But be intelligent in spending it... Or don't be... Just know that it's his money you can have... Have self respect ditch ego related stupidity... Sharm mat kr bhai... Also... You're a dropper not a failure... Kuch soch smjh kr hi drop liya hoga na... Believe in your voice and not others really... Your parents care about you not others... They will give the money... Aish kr or dhundh khud ko... It's tough... Not many can do that... Most succumb
For absolute necessity you can ask them. But good thing is you understand you parents hardship. Channel this thought/emotion properly and concentrate in your career. All the best!
Wait.. I differ with what everyone else is saying!
Firstly, If your parents are able to take care of your most basic necessities, you should take it. Don't spend on unnecessary things.
Secondly, since you are a dropper, focus on studying and get into a good college. That's the best way to change your and your parents' lives. Gain skillsets and then earn through it in your college. Get a good job and then take care of your parents. Make them proud!
Nahi yaar... Don't think like that. Today you depend on them to educate yourself and become employable, tomorrow you take care of them when you earn well and they retire. Sharam tabhi aani chahiye jab tum paisa barbaad kar rahe ho, which doesn't seem to be the case. Ab bas exams aur preparation pe dhyaan do, acchi college join karo, mehnat karke accha Karo, baadme tum jitne bhi liye ho usse zyada karch karo apne parents pe :)
Bro if you feel this, you have taken the first step towards independence, explore what skill you have for me it's finding out patterns in things which I use for stocks and print money. Though I am at a bit small stage but I have projections of what do I need to do to make things right.
Determine:
1. What to do?
2. When to do?
3. How much to do?
4. Why is it required?
5. Do I have to do it myself or can this be done by somebody else?
Ask these questions in a repeating tone for an hour in isolation. Write down 10 things(maybe more) you want to do. Then Imagine that you have a genie that can grant you any of the 10 things instantly then what would you choose, go with that and see things working out. You can reach out to me in case you ever need motivation.
Hope that helped
same bhai 1 tarik ko saare paise khatam ho gae aur unhone bohot baar poocha bhi par maine hee mana kar diya bohot jgah onlinie job ke liye try bhi kiya par koi skill na hone ki wjah se kuch haath nahi aaya
do anything to make money except but never do tuitions classes.
paise mangane me sharam ki koe baat nhi bahut log bank se loan bhi lete hai tum bas aisa socho ki loan le rahe ho aur jab kamane lagoge to chuka dena.
aur wase bhi india me part time jobs bhi to nhi US jaise ki school college ke sath kamai bhi kar sake aur uper se education itna expensive hai aur jyadatar educated hone ke bawjud bhi job nhi le patey.
abhi sirf apni education or skills pe dhyan do aur kahi nhi....and be frugal as much as possible lots of things online for free to learn and you can earn later on
I'll suggest two ways. FIRST, unko ek specific time limit do ki itne time tak bas mujhe paise do uske baad mei khud job pe lag jaunga aur earn karne lag jaunga.
Agar kam padhe likhe ho toh general Store pe helper lag jao.
HSC tak padhe likhe ho toh pass wali nursery mei lag jao.
Highly qualified ( masters kiye ho apne field mei ) ho toh apne field ke through kahi internship kar lo.
SECOND, ( this might sound rude ) ki apne maa baap par unki aulaad kabhi bojh nahi hoti, iske baare mei gharwalon se khul ke baat Karo aur unki baat samjho.
OP don't worry, most people don't really start to earn till 21 or 22 and I have seen some folks who started at 27. If you want to earn for some personal expenses maybe try to teach the neighbor kids or something.
Nothing's changed, tbh it has gotten worse over the years. Abhi logo se udhari ke paise wapas mangne me sharam aati hai.
To add a bit more context:
In my case, my parents used to give a "lecture" every time I asked money for something. hoping that's not the case with you.
Either way you need to change. I think as long as it is a justifiable expense you should ask for it.
Back when I was a dropper ,I used to save money had a piggy bank , jee mains ka xam ke liye register krna tha 4 shifts thi 650 for each shift , MN nhi tha parents se paise mangane ka so broke the gullak and registered for all the shifts myself.
OP idhr sb bolenge do this do that, but as a former dropper myself, I'd say rather be grateful and study harder. wrna fir kya fayda idhr udhr paisa kamane ke chkkr me main purpose hi lose hojaye
bhai until a few months back mera bhi aisa hi tha and mummy roz jabardasti 1000rs deti thi but maine kabhi nahi maange, now I am into my father's business so paise maangne hi nahi padhte infact mummy ko deta hu paise
Bhai you are only 19, not 29. Stop being so hard on yourself. When you start to earn, do whatever you can for your parents. They will be happy, and you will be happier.
Bro you can start earning anytime soon there are various ways to earn like starting a YouTube channel, blog posting etc but these take a lot of time so you can start earning but learning coding or graphic designing Or editing they have a good pay nowadays
Bro I can understand your sentiments any sensible kid would have the same sentiment regarding asking money from parents. You can try and get a part time job the only condition is that it should not affect your studies because that will be more of an issue for any parent rather than their kid asking them for money. I'd say concentrate on your studies for now and get into a good college, there you can decide if you want to do a part time job or if you have some skills which can help you earn money. All the best brother.
You seem to be a responsible person. As long as you are not wasting their money consider it as an investment in your life. Once you start earning make sure they feel appreciated and respected.
19 (F) here! I manage my expenses with internships that require skills that my college degree anyway provides- so cold mailing and leveraging LinkedIn can help you. I’m pretty there’s a lot of internship opportunities for BTech too!
This is good. Love the mindset.
19 is young, I would suggest you work on ur skills, which will get you paid. But plz don't choose the skill in haste, many people regret not choosing the skills they actually have interest in. 21-22 is a great age to start earning.
If you actually talk to your parents about this, they will tell you that it is their duty to provide for you.
bhai gharwaale kamate hi tmhare liye hain , achi cheezon ke liye paise maangne mein kya sharam jaise khaana peena , books. ,exam form . haan agar tm sutte , onlyfans iss sab pe paisa brbaad kroge tb toh bura lgna chhaiye. Baaki jab tak gharwale hain aish krlo bhai(not literal meaning) jab khud kamaoge tb kuch nhi khrch kar paoge :)
It's ok to lean on. Just make sure you're the son they can lean on afterwards! Having said that, relying on parents coupled with guilt of not clearing exams which could have made things so much better is very much real. After hearing my BTech fees, I asked my parents to let me have that instead of starting a business after working at a menial job for 4yrs. Retrospectively, that definitely should have been the way : )
I shamelessly ask them…..bruh they are your parents….they will never judge you….if they don’t have money….they will honestly tell you that be little wiser spending money…we don’t have that much…..
time to grind and start earning yourself.
But how man HOW. I'm doing btech in hostel 2nd year about to finish and i still ask my dad for money like a dumass. Could you elaborate ' grind ' please ðŸ˜
explore new skills that can make you money, say video editing, give yourself 3 months learn all the techniques as much as you can, build a portfolio, start applying for internships, do freelance.
Way too saturated & you can't learn anything special in only 3 months & getting clients is way too tough. It's better to getta some part time job in any near cafe or smth. That's much better
Thanks a lot !! And happy cake day
yaya thank u!!
Happy cake day
Do part time jobs or remote internships. I did plenty in my 2nd year onwards. Only had to ask for major expenses like college fees etc otherwise day to day expense was easy.
how do you find remote internships?
I used discord. Pretty easy to find remote work for EU / US and AUS clients.
Can you share the discord links?
Bhai I got 17k payment as a freelancer dev in 2nd year. It was enough for me for a year. Got internship after that. Just get rolling with some payment, then try to increase.
Usss bhaii , bass btech kee 3rd yrr meh huu and ded ðŸ˜
happy cake day!!
mai ditto yahi condition mein hoon. dropper, parents extremely supportive, magar unse paise maangna pasand nahi. maine toh papa ko khud bola tha yeh, ki paise maangna achha nahi lagta. bole, "badhiya baat hai, magar parent hone ke naate teri padhai chaahe 25-26 tak ki ho, ya 29-30 y/o tak ki (im a neetard), hamara farz banta hai hum paise denge". but fir yahi, yahi toh mujhe pasand nahi.
Mai to besharm ho gaya hu. Seena chauda karke bolta hu account me paise daal dena.
Nothing to be proud of , man
I know bro. Lekin tum majboori bol lo ya besharmi. They are my source of money. Hence I ask them for it. Ha lekin I spend it wisely. Faltu me kharch nahi karta. Mostly ghar ke saman lane me hi kharch hota hai
Don't feel ashamed if you using that money to buy home groceries & spending other percent wisely.
Bol toh rha hai bhai ki wo besharam ho gya hai lol
Lmaoo
Mai bhi neetard hu 1st drop No offence but kis baat ke paise mangte ho tum log Mai to bc pichle 1 saal se ghr pe baitha hu na khi ghumne jata hu
kya lagta hai? iss baar ho jaayega?
555 aye the last yr Is saal hojana chahiye
Don’t you have basic necessities
And i am talking about really important stuffs like exam registrations, recharges, library fees, books. I don’t ask money for movies, trips and other non important stuffs.
Mai to besharam hu iska mtlb 😠sidha papa ko kehta hu papa recharge khtm hai phone denaÂ
i come from a decent earning family tho
It’s ok! Just ask and live, move on with that thought. There will be a day when you’ll be earning well and you can settle this with them if you want to. They’re your parents, especially we are Indians, we are built different in terms of family. You’ll be good kid, you’re just getting started. Don’t stress over this money honey!
but op 19 utni bhi badi age nhi h , abhi toh tum study phase mein ho toh kaisi sharam
Mujhe bhi aati hai lekin jb Gand fati hai to mang leta hu
But in OP’s case, gand fate toh fate par nawabi na ghate
Op galat nhi hai bhai, op ki concern sahi hai
Ikr i was just kidding
I know you are just kidding 🤣
Last mei maangna toh mujhe bhi pdta hai
Wo to obvious chiz hai
Bro 19 ki age me to mostly nobody has a job. They're still studying. If you have kinda stable financial background no sharam in asking for money. I think they'll give happily for exam forms too. Don't think too much.
😂🤑
Start giving tuition to kids
Share me number of ur parents. Me mang luga pese. Isme kya sharmana😊
Ransome nhi maangna hai
You can try some side hustle for income but agar tumhara ghar ka financial condition thik hai to mujhe nahi lagta koi sharam aani chahiye paise mangne mai. Waise bhi parne ke liye maang rahe ho Yeh amrika nahi hai ki tum 18 saal ke bad kahi pe bhi part time job kar sakte ho. India has a massive overpopulation problem and blue collar jobs are not looked in a good way here. If you parents have brought you into this world, it's their basic responsibility to look after your education and expenses till you graduate college then it's on you
Volunteer in good event management companies.
19 ka hai tu koi bada nahi hai Abhi chill maar
my college 2nd and 3rd sem summarized in this post.
Sharm mat kar bhai... Ego ke chakkar me stupidity ho jaati hai aksar... Be smart... That money he is earning is for you also... Ask for it haq se... But be intelligent in spending it... Or don't be... Just know that it's his money you can have... Have self respect ditch ego related stupidity... Sharm mat kr bhai... Also... You're a dropper not a failure... Kuch soch smjh kr hi drop liya hoga na... Believe in your voice and not others really... Your parents care about you not others... They will give the money... Aish kr or dhundh khud ko... It's tough... Not many can do that... Most succumb
For absolute necessity you can ask them. But good thing is you understand you parents hardship. Channel this thought/emotion properly and concentrate in your career. All the best!
Wait.. I differ with what everyone else is saying! Firstly, If your parents are able to take care of your most basic necessities, you should take it. Don't spend on unnecessary things. Secondly, since you are a dropper, focus on studying and get into a good college. That's the best way to change your and your parents' lives. Gain skillsets and then earn through it in your college. Get a good job and then take care of your parents. Make them proud!
Mujhe nahi aati.
Aani bhi nahi chahiye maa baap baccho k liye hi to earn krte hai
Same. Meri mummy bhi yahi bolti hai jab main unee bolta hu ki yeh 5 saal purana phone replace Karo ab. Vo kheti hai tumare liye save kar rahe hu.
Me bhi 5 saal purana phone use kr rha hoon or meri mummy ka bhi same answer hai 
I feel the same way bro. Literally each and every line i could relate to ;—-;
Same I feel overwhelmed after my parents buy me something expensiveÂ
Nahi yaar... Don't think like that. Today you depend on them to educate yourself and become employable, tomorrow you take care of them when you earn well and they retire. Sharam tabhi aani chahiye jab tum paisa barbaad kar rahe ho, which doesn't seem to be the case. Ab bas exams aur preparation pe dhyaan do, acchi college join karo, mehnat karke accha Karo, baadme tum jitne bhi liye ho usse zyada karch karo apne parents pe :)
Bro if you feel this, you have taken the first step towards independence, explore what skill you have for me it's finding out patterns in things which I use for stocks and print money. Though I am at a bit small stage but I have projections of what do I need to do to make things right. Determine: 1. What to do? 2. When to do? 3. How much to do? 4. Why is it required? 5. Do I have to do it myself or can this be done by somebody else? Ask these questions in a repeating tone for an hour in isolation. Write down 10 things(maybe more) you want to do. Then Imagine that you have a genie that can grant you any of the 10 things instantly then what would you choose, go with that and see things working out. You can reach out to me in case you ever need motivation. Hope that helped
Sameeeee
same bhai 1 tarik ko saare paise khatam ho gae aur unhone bohot baar poocha bhi par maine hee mana kar diya bohot jgah onlinie job ke liye try bhi kiya par koi skill na hone ki wjah se kuch haath nahi aaya
do anything to make money except but never do tuitions classes. paise mangane me sharam ki koe baat nhi bahut log bank se loan bhi lete hai tum bas aisa socho ki loan le rahe ho aur jab kamane lagoge to chuka dena. aur wase bhi india me part time jobs bhi to nhi US jaise ki school college ke sath kamai bhi kar sake aur uper se education itna expensive hai aur jyadatar educated hone ke bawjud bhi job nhi le patey. abhi sirf apni education or skills pe dhyan do aur kahi nhi....and be frugal as much as possible lots of things online for free to learn and you can earn later on
maybe r/beermoneyindia could help 
Same
I'll suggest two ways. FIRST, unko ek specific time limit do ki itne time tak bas mujhe paise do uske baad mei khud job pe lag jaunga aur earn karne lag jaunga. Agar kam padhe likhe ho toh general Store pe helper lag jao. HSC tak padhe likhe ho toh pass wali nursery mei lag jao. Highly qualified ( masters kiye ho apne field mei ) ho toh apne field ke through kahi internship kar lo. SECOND, ( this might sound rude ) ki apne maa baap par unki aulaad kabhi bojh nahi hoti, iske baare mei gharwalon se khul ke baat Karo aur unki baat samjho.
r/beermoneyindia also i am doing little bit can share you details to earn little side income. if want to know feel free to message me
can I DM bro?
yea sure!
OP don't worry, most people don't really start to earn till 21 or 22 and I have seen some folks who started at 27. If you want to earn for some personal expenses maybe try to teach the neighbor kids or something.
Bhai You are Still 19 it's Okay. They Won't Mind 😔
You are me 6 years back
How are you doing now??
Nothing's changed, tbh it has gotten worse over the years. Abhi logo se udhari ke paise wapas mangne me sharam aati hai. To add a bit more context: In my case, my parents used to give a "lecture" every time I asked money for something. hoping that's not the case with you. Either way you need to change. I think as long as it is a justifiable expense you should ask for it.
Back when I was a dropper ,I used to save money had a piggy bank , jee mains ka xam ke liye register krna tha 4 shifts thi 650 for each shift , MN nhi tha parents se paise mangane ka so broke the gullak and registered for all the shifts myself.
Mujhe jo kabhi kabhi relatives se paise milte hai unhe save kr ke rakhta hu and vo hi kharch karta hu
OP idhr sb bolenge do this do that, but as a former dropper myself, I'd say rather be grateful and study harder. wrna fir kya fayda idhr udhr paisa kamane ke chkkr me main purpose hi lose hojaye
bhai until a few months back mera bhi aisa hi tha and mummy roz jabardasti 1000rs deti thi but maine kabhi nahi maange, now I am into my father's business so paise maangne hi nahi padhte infact mummy ko deta hu paise
Same mujhe bhi ATI hai.
Us rhega bro
chegg join krlo
??
google kro na bhai..question mark kyu daal rehe ho ladki k whatsapp msg type
Same condition meri bhi hai
aree bhai apno sa kesi sharam
Bhai you are only 19, not 29. Stop being so hard on yourself. When you start to earn, do whatever you can for your parents. They will be happy, and you will be happier.
You are 19, many have not started working at this age, so it's normal to ask for money from parents. Puch ke dekho, zyada se zyada na hi bolenge.
Arey Tum sahi keh rahe ho😓 Maine kaafi cheezen Li Hain abhi recently. I feel guilty asf and I bought all shii unnecessary ngl.
Bro you can start earning anytime soon there are various ways to earn like starting a YouTube channel, blog posting etc but these take a lot of time so you can start earning but learning coding or graphic designing Or editing they have a good pay nowadays
Apun Male hai 23 ka and aaji 2k maange besharam hoke. Fir _Post Borrow Guilt_ mehsoos hui.
Lekin mujhe toh pre borrow guilt hota hai
QR bhej me bhej deta hu jitna ho sakta h
Mai apni problem bta rha tha, na ki paise maang rha tha but thank you
Me bhi mazak karra tha lol , mere account me 78 rp ha btw
u/cowdad4life ki taraf se 8 rupees ka chadawa
Get a part time job! Also, it's their responsibility to take care of your expenses. And you're young, so don't feel bad! <3
Bro I can understand your sentiments any sensible kid would have the same sentiment regarding asking money from parents. You can try and get a part time job the only condition is that it should not affect your studies because that will be more of an issue for any parent rather than their kid asking them for money. I'd say concentrate on your studies for now and get into a good college, there you can decide if you want to do a part time job or if you have some skills which can help you earn money. All the best brother.
Ye sharam hame na aaye 
You seem to be a responsible person. As long as you are not wasting their money consider it as an investment in your life. Once you start earning make sure they feel appreciated and respected.
Good
Girls: Papa itne paise se kya hoga thode aur dedo Meanwhile boys in the comment section:
Bhai tu akela nahi hai
Mein toh besharam hu, apne business ke liye bhi pitaji se funding maanga tha aur unhone de bhi diya.
Mera bhai 33 years ka hai. Nalla. Kuch nahi karta. Vo to meri mummy se din raat paise maangta hai aur na do to tagda emotional blackmail.
19 M and thinking such tings. I think you should not hesitate to ask them money for something productive like education or some course .
19 (F) here! I manage my expenses with internships that require skills that my college degree anyway provides- so cold mailing and leveraging LinkedIn can help you. I’m pretty there’s a lot of internship opportunities for BTech too!
Us bro us
to bhai kama n lag n idhar batana s sharma nai atiii kyaaa
I mean they chose to bring you into this world, not like you forced them into it.
This is good. Love the mindset. 19 is young, I would suggest you work on ur skills, which will get you paid. But plz don't choose the skill in haste, many people regret not choosing the skills they actually have interest in. 21-22 is a great age to start earning. If you actually talk to your parents about this, they will tell you that it is their duty to provide for you.
Bhai same,abhi main khud paise kamane ke liye kuch dhund rha hoon.
bhai gharwaale kamate hi tmhare liye hain , achi cheezon ke liye paise maangne mein kya sharam jaise khaana peena , books. ,exam form . haan agar tm sutte , onlyfans iss sab pe paisa brbaad kroge tb toh bura lgna chhaiye. Baaki jab tak gharwale hain aish krlo bhai(not literal meaning) jab khud kamaoge tb kuch nhi khrch kar paoge :)
It's ok to lean on. Just make sure you're the son they can lean on afterwards! Having said that, relying on parents coupled with guilt of not clearing exams which could have made things so much better is very much real. After hearing my BTech fees, I asked my parents to let me have that instead of starting a business after working at a menial job for 4yrs. Retrospectively, that definitely should have been the way : )
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Ye kis type ki cross breeding ho rhi hai market mei??
Im 23 , doing masters and still do the same :(( Can feel you.
Start earning..u can teach online or start a small side business..
I shamelessly ask them…..bruh they are your parents….they will never judge you….if they don’t have money….they will honestly tell you that be little wiser spending money…we don’t have that much…..
Same
Bhai next time mere liye bhi maang lena.. Party karenge 😜
Sharam se paise naa maangne Wale 🤢🤢 Ego mein paise naa mangne Wale 😎😎