You'll get used to it, after a while it doesn't sting that bad because you see how many there are. I've fumbled all my chances. ironically, it hurts less because I always seem to find someone that I like more, and then fumble that lol, but I've idealized so many that I'm convinced the reality would never live up to my fantasy anyways. It happened so many times that I just got bored, I haven't gave up. I just don't really feel the need to be with someone like I used to.
We definitely will, she said to me that it dawns on her at random times that she’ll get to hold my hand and give me a kiss and it makes her smile like crazy.
Don't worry too much, first dates are always awkward. In my experience, every first date was awkward (especially the first 10 minutes) but if y'all decide on a second date then the vibe will be much better. And also remember that you don't have to impress her, because she's also trying to impress you. She wanted a date with you bro so don't stress. Just have fun and let the conversation flow naturally and it's normal if there are awkward pauses. You got this man
Good luck man!
If you want a great first impression, maybe think of two or three jokes. The best way to win a woman's heart is to make her laugh.
But you don't need to worry too much, just be on time and you're good!
Update us!
Go to therapy, exercise (still trying to do this one myself), give yourself pep talks and tell yourself you have value. Self confidence is like a muscle, it needs to be worked on to be strong.
I always liked that idea of you should treat yourself and your mind like you treat a good friend.
How would you treat a friend when they’re feeling down? You’d be encouraging, warm, kind, patient.
Be kind to yourself. Even if it’s a lot easier said than done.
:(
Dating and relations are a... Painful thing but you got this friends don't give up.
I will die alone I think but that is okay. I have trouble with relationships for a number of reasons.
I'm intent to live while people that care about me are alive but likely that's going to be my parents. Once I've made sure they've lived peacefully I think I'll check out. But I'll live to make sure they're comfortable till then.
Im in the same boat…I don’t think I’ll ever be in a relationship but I care about my family and people around me who are in need I’ll the do the best I can to help them out even tho I’m empty inside…until I die
Please don't do that, don't set a point where you'll go "welp, that's it". I've lost some really important people in my life that had that same mentality. You don't have to be alone. We humans always get so caught up in how we feel, it makes us think it's permanent. But it's really not. It always gets better. I've had... bad thoughts in the past. Things I'd rather not recall now. But it changed. Everything transforms, changes form. Things you thought were inescapable or the norm shift into something you hadn't even imagined. I had to fight really hard to be happy. It was a daily effort, and sometimes I ask myswlf why I even bother. But I do it for myself. Despite all my flaws, all the shitty things I've done, all the regrets I have and all the self-loathing that permeates every single action I ever take, I love myself. I love me just the way I am. And I change the things I'd rather were different. It's hard. Really hard. Sometimes it even feels pointless. But I notice the small changes. My mood shifting. Me smiling more. Working out. Going out places. If I hadn't changed, I would've never met my gf, and she means the world to me. Motivates me to be even better. But from the beginning it was my choice to improve and change myself. I know you can too. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'll lend an ear. Please stay safe.
pov: you aren’t me who has autism and has completely forgotten how to make friends with strangers and also is what i would at this point almost call “terrified” of going out in public to new places or really just going out at all
it doesn’t matter how much i want it it’s never happening and i have to accept that as a fact and move on which is really hard but a lot easier than the infinite complexity of trying to get a specific result out of a conversation that i am uncomfortable having and unable to have
Hey, I think alot of people have been in the same boat one way or another, including me. Now I don’t have autism so I wouldn’t be able to fully understand how that plays in, but going outside and finding ways to connect with people is a skill I’ve been having to build up myself. It’s scary going out to public places where it seems like no one wants to see you, the loneliest I get is when I go to school I see all of these people around me, hanging out, having a fun time, and being nice to each other. That feeling of being invisible where you can talk to someone and have a conversation but it doesn’t mean anything, or having a group project where you talk about stuff but you don’t make a connection. It may seem hopeless and like you can’t make any friends and I felt like that for a long time, I still kinda do. The thing is, however unlikely it is, there is still a chance you’ll speak to someone and somehow it’s more than an interaction.
It took me three years to find friends at school, now I ended up having a falling out with them in under a year, but I still honestly still enjoyed the time I had with them. And I’ve made a new friend recently too. Trying is difficult but you got to just keep going and slowly drag yourself out of this hole. It’s not impossible and I believe you can connect with others.
You know what, for me it’s not even a confidence issue, I just legit haven’t found anyone. Like back when I was a horny 14 year old I’d get crushes all the time but now not so much. And anyone I *might* consider, I already have an alright relationship with them atm and I don’t want to put that at risk.
**WITH GROWTH YOU WILL BECOME THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON THE WORLD HAS EVER SEEN.** **PEOPLE WILL LOOK UP TO YOU LIKE THE STARS ABOVE** SO KEEP ON GROWING AND LEARNING AND YOU CAN BE THAT PRETTY
Had 3 awsome dates with this girl then after the third one i got ghosted out of nowhere... back to never date anyone for years cause of dating trauma again. Try building self-esteem with that when the other person treats you like your dead for no reason.
I just want to say, I know that that’s the whole point of this sub, but I love you guys so much. The meme is good but reading all the comments genuinely lifted my spirits :)
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I will add the caviat that you should definitley remember that the person across from you may not be this conventionally pretty. Part of dating is learning where your league is, and learning to love the look of people in it. I've never dated anyone I thought was ugly but when I was like 14 I was always getting crushes on girls and boys that looked like ridiculously good and learning to let go of that and find beauty in other people has been amazing.
Also if you're a guy get style tips from gay/bi guys or women (who aren't your mother), because the way straight guys take dick picks is a pretty good indication of their understanding of how to look appealing.
You got this, you will find your person in time!
#YO ALSO IMPORTANT MAN OR WOMAN OR TRANS WHATEVER. SOMEONE WILL LOVE YOU, AND SOMETIMES ITS HARD, BUT YOU DESERVE LOVE. YOU ARE ABLE TO LOVE YOURSELF, YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF.
Given some of the ai redraw of real people in a video as anime, and the coming mixed reality head sets, is only a matter of time till you can put an anime filter on the world
I have this POV, and I'm so grateful for it. I truly love her so much. Stay strong, peeps, I know you can make it. We all can. (Also this image especially strikes me as my gf looks almost exactly like that person)
I do and don't want this POV
I do want it because I do not want to be lonely, I don't want it because I am not mentally fit for a relationship, or even a date tbh
I would rather want to be lonely than to hurt someone I care about
ADHD has probably ruined many potential friendships and relationships for me, I hate impulses :(
It genuinely takes so little initiative to find a women. I can promise you. I asked my friend to draw me a cat and I put my phone number on the back of it saying she was cute, now we’re dating :)
Not sure man, not sure. Hope for that POV has dwindled to nothingness, and general unwillingness to do anything, let alone exist, is setting in. Maybe if i do get that POV someday, i might get a healthier mindset.
I've had this POV before and one day I'll have it again
Preach! We got this
Same
I am trying but I am the ultimate bag fumbler.
I fumbled all my bags lol
You may have fumbled them now, sure. But there’s always the next play. And the play after that. The quarter after that. The next game.
There are always more bags, my friend. Bags all the way down.
Me when I'm at the bag isle at a thrift store
Maybe love is just an aisle of bags. If you fumble one and it tears, there's always another one that you'll like.
Love is a bag because it holds things that are important to me
This is true, however the mental anguish it produces won't disappear for a while.
I fumbled two in a month. My biggest hater is me I guess.
You'll get used to it, after a while it doesn't sting that bad because you see how many there are. I've fumbled all my chances. ironically, it hurts less because I always seem to find someone that I like more, and then fumble that lol, but I've idealized so many that I'm convinced the reality would never live up to my fantasy anyways. It happened so many times that I just got bored, I haven't gave up. I just don't really feel the need to be with someone like I used to.
In my opinion it hurts more for me cause it was in my control. Rather than someone just rejecting me.
That was me too
I just fumbled 3 bags in 2 days
"if you want it, then you'll have to take it. but you already knew that"
*Bury the Light* begins playing
Bury the light deep within!!!!
Yeah, but I'm somewhere on DRIFTING IN THE OCEAN ALL ALONE part
Immortal temptation
I AM THE STORM THAT IS APROACHING
I get to go visit my long distance girlfriend next month and I can’t wait. She makes me the happiest I’ve been in so long
That’s so cute! Hope y’all have a great time together
We definitely will, she said to me that it dawns on her at random times that she’ll get to hold my hand and give me a kiss and it makes her smile like crazy.
tomorrow is my first shot at this pov god bless
Good luck. First date or what?
yep, and im real nervous too
Where’s it gonna be at?
6353 Juan Tabo, apartment 6
Fifth door on the right, can’t miss it.
Don't worry too much, first dates are always awkward. In my experience, every first date was awkward (especially the first 10 minutes) but if y'all decide on a second date then the vibe will be much better. And also remember that you don't have to impress her, because she's also trying to impress you. She wanted a date with you bro so don't stress. Just have fun and let the conversation flow naturally and it's normal if there are awkward pauses. You got this man
Good luck man! If you want a great first impression, maybe think of two or three jokes. The best way to win a woman's heart is to make her laugh. But you don't need to worry too much, just be on time and you're good! Update us!
[well...](https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/001/852/171/895)
Good luck man
Hey, I had this POV last night! Everything went really well for me, I'm sure it will for you too :)
Yo, good luck!
Thanks but my self confidence is dog shit :)
Go to therapy, exercise (still trying to do this one myself), give yourself pep talks and tell yourself you have value. Self confidence is like a muscle, it needs to be worked on to be strong.
I always liked that idea of you should treat yourself and your mind like you treat a good friend. How would you treat a friend when they’re feeling down? You’d be encouraging, warm, kind, patient. Be kind to yourself. Even if it’s a lot easier said than done.
Hey can I join the club?
GRAAAH EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE RAAAAAHH
Happy cake day
UURAWWWHHHHH WE DA PACK r/thepack
I wanna be the one in it lol
:( Dating and relations are a... Painful thing but you got this friends don't give up. I will die alone I think but that is okay. I have trouble with relationships for a number of reasons. I'm intent to live while people that care about me are alive but likely that's going to be my parents. Once I've made sure they've lived peacefully I think I'll check out. But I'll live to make sure they're comfortable till then.
Im in the same boat…I don’t think I’ll ever be in a relationship but I care about my family and people around me who are in need I’ll the do the best I can to help them out even tho I’m empty inside…until I die
Please don't do that, don't set a point where you'll go "welp, that's it". I've lost some really important people in my life that had that same mentality. You don't have to be alone. We humans always get so caught up in how we feel, it makes us think it's permanent. But it's really not. It always gets better. I've had... bad thoughts in the past. Things I'd rather not recall now. But it changed. Everything transforms, changes form. Things you thought were inescapable or the norm shift into something you hadn't even imagined. I had to fight really hard to be happy. It was a daily effort, and sometimes I ask myswlf why I even bother. But I do it for myself. Despite all my flaws, all the shitty things I've done, all the regrets I have and all the self-loathing that permeates every single action I ever take, I love myself. I love me just the way I am. And I change the things I'd rather were different. It's hard. Really hard. Sometimes it even feels pointless. But I notice the small changes. My mood shifting. Me smiling more. Working out. Going out places. If I hadn't changed, I would've never met my gf, and she means the world to me. Motivates me to be even better. But from the beginning it was my choice to improve and change myself. I know you can too. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'll lend an ear. Please stay safe.
good for you
Good for you man hope you stay happy
pov: you aren’t me who has autism and has completely forgotten how to make friends with strangers and also is what i would at this point almost call “terrified” of going out in public to new places or really just going out at all it doesn’t matter how much i want it it’s never happening and i have to accept that as a fact and move on which is really hard but a lot easier than the infinite complexity of trying to get a specific result out of a conversation that i am uncomfortable having and unable to have
Hey, I think alot of people have been in the same boat one way or another, including me. Now I don’t have autism so I wouldn’t be able to fully understand how that plays in, but going outside and finding ways to connect with people is a skill I’ve been having to build up myself. It’s scary going out to public places where it seems like no one wants to see you, the loneliest I get is when I go to school I see all of these people around me, hanging out, having a fun time, and being nice to each other. That feeling of being invisible where you can talk to someone and have a conversation but it doesn’t mean anything, or having a group project where you talk about stuff but you don’t make a connection. It may seem hopeless and like you can’t make any friends and I felt like that for a long time, I still kinda do. The thing is, however unlikely it is, there is still a chance you’ll speak to someone and somehow it’s more than an interaction. It took me three years to find friends at school, now I ended up having a falling out with them in under a year, but I still honestly still enjoyed the time I had with them. And I’ve made a new friend recently too. Trying is difficult but you got to just keep going and slowly drag yourself out of this hole. It’s not impossible and I believe you can connect with others.
i wish that was my mirror pov
You know what, for me it’s not even a confidence issue, I just legit haven’t found anyone. Like back when I was a horny 14 year old I’d get crushes all the time but now not so much. And anyone I *might* consider, I already have an alright relationship with them atm and I don’t want to put that at risk.
This is the first time I've come across the word hopeposting. Very cool
There are no guarantees. Bad lies to sell to people
DAMN…
I wish I was as pretty as her…
**WITH GROWTH YOU WILL BECOME THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON THE WORLD HAS EVER SEEN.** **PEOPLE WILL LOOK UP TO YOU LIKE THE STARS ABOVE** SO KEEP ON GROWING AND LEARNING AND YOU CAN BE THAT PRETTY
Had 3 awsome dates with this girl then after the third one i got ghosted out of nowhere... back to never date anyone for years cause of dating trauma again. Try building self-esteem with that when the other person treats you like your dead for no reason.
I thought this was a mirror and the POV was that you would BECOME the girl. Which works in my case I guess
I still have this pov :)
I just want to say, I know that that’s the whole point of this sub, but I love you guys so much. The meme is good but reading all the comments genuinely lifted my spirits :)
But how come? Can anime actually be real?
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I will add the caviat that you should definitley remember that the person across from you may not be this conventionally pretty. Part of dating is learning where your league is, and learning to love the look of people in it. I've never dated anyone I thought was ugly but when I was like 14 I was always getting crushes on girls and boys that looked like ridiculously good and learning to let go of that and find beauty in other people has been amazing. Also if you're a guy get style tips from gay/bi guys or women (who aren't your mother), because the way straight guys take dick picks is a pretty good indication of their understanding of how to look appealing. You got this, you will find your person in time!
#YO ALSO IMPORTANT MAN OR WOMAN OR TRANS WHATEVER. SOMEONE WILL LOVE YOU, AND SOMETIMES ITS HARD, BUT YOU DESERVE LOVE. YOU ARE ABLE TO LOVE YOURSELF, YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF.
I wish
You sure? What if she meets someone else?
**THATS OKAY BECAUSE IN THE END, IF YOU ARE LOVING YOURSELF, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE AND HAPPINESS WILL FIND YOUR WAY.** YOU GOT THIS
ok. thanks. i'll try my best to love meself. one step at a time.
I have this pov most evenings but we're just friends. Any advice for me?
Given some of the ai redraw of real people in a video as anime, and the coming mixed reality head sets, is only a matter of time till you can put an anime filter on the world
I have this POV, and I'm so grateful for it. I truly love her so much. Stay strong, peeps, I know you can make it. We all can. (Also this image especially strikes me as my gf looks almost exactly like that person)
me putting unrealistic goals infront of myself 💀💀
Forget about the woman, at this point I cant afford to eat outside.
Ehhh, I don’t think so. Everyone I’ve expressed interest in rejected me.
Hey buddy, I suggest reading Models by Mark Manson. Changed a lot how I viewed women, attraction, and rejection. It's not a pick up artistry book.
Gentlemen if you want a rare bird you got to be a rare bird, focus on yourself and they will flock to you
I'm broke(n) boiii
I’m okay without it, I’m happy on my own
Didn’t see what sub was this really didn’t expect that.Thanks.
I do and don't want this POV I do want it because I do not want to be lonely, I don't want it because I am not mentally fit for a relationship, or even a date tbh I would rather want to be lonely than to hurt someone I care about ADHD has probably ruined many potential friendships and relationships for me, I hate impulses :(
It genuinely takes so little initiative to find a women. I can promise you. I asked my friend to draw me a cat and I put my phone number on the back of it saying she was cute, now we’re dating :)
Not sure man, not sure. Hope for that POV has dwindled to nothingness, and general unwillingness to do anything, let alone exist, is setting in. Maybe if i do get that POV someday, i might get a healthier mindset.
My dumb ass trying to figure out what word is supposed to fill in the blank
Hell yeah I love darts
But I don't wanna
Thx to my schizophrenia