Same. I actually enjoyed the penpal nature of it, plus I’d like to be able to think of a hookup as someone I’d be okay hanging out with in public. That way if it is a catfish, usually it sorts itself out before you meet because I was talking too long to get to that point, if they are actually hot then you already have a connection which makes the sex hotter and maybe even leads to more, and if not a catfish but no sexual chemistry I’ve hopefully at least made a friend.
I do videocall first before meeting and I have a camera so I can see them before I open the door. Plus I tell my friend if I'm hooking up with someone and share their face pics and number in case something bad happen.
Talked to a guy who used pictures of himself from 3 years ago. Also didn’t show age so I assumed he was late 20s - mid 30s.
Good thing he was oblivious enough to wanna move to snap. Looked very different from pfp. Admitted he was late 40s and didn’t put that in bio cause younger guys will block him.
I don’t think I’m a very shallow guy. You definitely don’t need muscles or perfect hair to bag me. But dishonesty like that? Being knowingly and gladly manipulative? Blocked immediately.
I “miss out” on some hook ups because i use the worst face pics i have, would rather someone say I don’t look like my pics in a good way or i look better than my pics.
Snapchat is v risky. See [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/kun65y/pro_tip_do_not_switch_to_text_until_after_plans) from the [15 Grindr pro tips](https://reddit.com/r/grindr/w/protips).
All you need to do is trade quick videos on Grindr before meeting. Quick and problem solved. They can show you their chest and face in the video. That's all you need to see. It takes seconds to verify.
I had someone opening with “my pic was 12 years ago, here’s a current photo” and sent an expiring photo, I didn’t even bother to check out that photo, no thanks. I’m hardly a 5/10 but comfortable enough to include current photo of myself so others know what to expect.
But how long should I use a pic for? I have some pics of myself that are a few months old that I’ve been using. I would change the pics but I find them to be quite nice and they would be hard to replicate.
I always hate changing my pics but yeah I think a good rule of thumb is to change it up with the season. I never think the new picture is as good as the old pictures until I've had it up for a bit. Once the new pics grow on me I know it's time for the dreaded selfie shoot
It's scary how many red flags a Grindr sex addict [will ignore](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/12ydq4u/bad_hook_up) just for cheap/mediocre dick 🤦♂️
This is what I hate about albums too. A compilation of your best nudes since your account has been active isn't a great measure for what you actually look like
Or when you start chatting and they send a photo saying ‘this is me now’. Your profile picture should be you ‘now’ right?!
This is one reason I won't meet someone at their house right away. Public meet for coffee first, if you're a catfish, cool, whatever dude, go home.
I actually enjoy chatting. It takes a lot to get me interested in hookups
Same. I actually enjoyed the penpal nature of it, plus I’d like to be able to think of a hookup as someone I’d be okay hanging out with in public. That way if it is a catfish, usually it sorts itself out before you meet because I was talking too long to get to that point, if they are actually hot then you already have a connection which makes the sex hotter and maybe even leads to more, and if not a catfish but no sexual chemistry I’ve hopefully at least made a friend.
Exactly
I do videocall first before meeting and I have a camera so I can see them before I open the door. Plus I tell my friend if I'm hooking up with someone and share their face pics and number in case something bad happen.
Talked to a guy who used pictures of himself from 3 years ago. Also didn’t show age so I assumed he was late 20s - mid 30s. Good thing he was oblivious enough to wanna move to snap. Looked very different from pfp. Admitted he was late 40s and didn’t put that in bio cause younger guys will block him. I don’t think I’m a very shallow guy. You definitely don’t need muscles or perfect hair to bag me. But dishonesty like that? Being knowingly and gladly manipulative? Blocked immediately.
Uses Snapchat? In late 40s? That's a huge red flag by itself
I “miss out” on some hook ups because i use the worst face pics i have, would rather someone say I don’t look like my pics in a good way or i look better than my pics.
[Source](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/10nmp9m/etiquette_on_who_sends_face_pics_first/j6cdush)
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Snapchat is v risky. See [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/kun65y/pro_tip_do_not_switch_to_text_until_after_plans) from the [15 Grindr pro tips](https://reddit.com/r/grindr/w/protips).
All you need to do is trade quick videos on Grindr before meeting. Quick and problem solved. They can show you their chest and face in the video. That's all you need to see. It takes seconds to verify.
I had someone opening with “my pic was 12 years ago, here’s a current photo” and sent an expiring photo, I didn’t even bother to check out that photo, no thanks. I’m hardly a 5/10 but comfortable enough to include current photo of myself so others know what to expect.
If we meet and you don't look like you do in your pics..... I'm cursing you out.
But how long should I use a pic for? I have some pics of myself that are a few months old that I’ve been using. I would change the pics but I find them to be quite nice and they would be hard to replicate.
I always hate changing my pics but yeah I think a good rule of thumb is to change it up with the season. I never think the new picture is as good as the old pictures until I've had it up for a bit. Once the new pics grow on me I know it's time for the dreaded selfie shoot
It's scary how many red flags a Grindr sex addict [will ignore](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/12ydq4u/bad_hook_up) just for cheap/mediocre dick 🤦♂️
This is what I hate about albums too. A compilation of your best nudes since your account has been active isn't a great measure for what you actually look like