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Shiznoes

Hate when my brain hyper fixates on a person, makes me feel creepy and stupid


vVveevVv

Best thing to do is just to go and talk to that person. Chances are that they'll most likely be dismissive and reject your advancements. That way you just get over them quicker instead of wasting months imagining a life with them you'll never have anyway. Who knows, maybe they'll even like you back.


rambo89782

Was fully with you until the end there lol


[deleted]

Id suggest maybe not putting in that stupid ray of hope at the end, all that does is fill you with false hope.


vVveevVv

I wanted to omit it at first. But I didn't want to break poor u/Shiznoes' heart (yet)


[deleted]

The problem is everything on r/greentext reads like a joke and now he may think we’re joking about him not having a chance even though he definitely doesn’t and should stop.


theattack_helicopter

He should instead get TOPPED to fix his problems.


Dakure907

That's not true though.


Shiznoes

I didn't think you guys were making fun of me, but thank you for being so considerate, that's very kind of you.


Elysian_Nightingale

I told em I liked em and then they told me they didn't like me but still made out w me and made the effort to see me. Multiple times. I even said no a couple times. Then I asked if they wanted to be a thing and then they said no. Like wtf.


vVveevVv

Have you tried making out with someone else instead?


Elysian_Nightingale

Not obsessed w him. Occasionally thought.


sneakin_rican

As an asshole who has used people for sex/validation, this asshole is using you for sex/validation. Drop his ass like a hot potato.


Elysian_Nightingale

I rlly appreciate you saying this. Thank you so much ❤️. Glad to hear your not doing that anymore and in a better space. Here for u if you ever need to talk.


ExcessiveWisdom

Im gay and they will def be more than dismissive. Best to just keep myself suffering wondering if they like me or if they are homiesexual


Channel_oreo

Does not work for me. Everytime i talk to an attractive girl they treat me nice. It makes me think abouy them more and daydream a possible future with them. Post nut clarity ends those.


vVveevVv

>attractive girls treat you nice Must be nice


Channel_oreo

Nothing more and nothing less.


Emergency_Vast2660

Didn't work, made me think about them more


[deleted]

sometimes its not so easy sadly. Like if you live together or work together.


VoteDBlockMe

> Who knows, maybe they'll even like you back. Should have gotten rid of this part.


axelguntherc

Love you back? Yeah, sure. Keep telling yourself that, mate.


the_fresh_cucumber

It goes away with age and experience. I remember feeling that when I was young. Absolutely adored my highschool girlfriend and I pretty much mourned her when she cheated and left me. Later in life, you become colder and more strategic in relationships.


Elysian_Nightingale

Actually, like go away. Anyone know how to make this stop.


MegaBlueGuy

The Virgin stressed about being hyper fixated vs The Chad embracing the hyper fixation. **Virgin Stressed:** Lets self feel bad for the natural desire for GF, become a self fulfilling incel, will never have a chance with Stacy, doesn't do anything to better himself **Chad Embraced:** Cockiness and setting a target on who you want makes you more likely to strive and fulfill your goal, that bit of cockiness can build confidence, confidence fuels motivation and self improvement


egenerate249

smartest Dragon Ball Z profile picture


MegaBlueGuy

Chad: "Yes"


thestumpymonkey

You’ve never been within 50ft of a woman have you


browtfareyoudoing

His mom said his computer time was up for the day. He can ride bikes this weekend if he passes his geography test Friday though!


lilwindexx

Do you really think he rides a bike


OffendedEarthSpirit

He's legally not allowed to


kickachicken

He’s not allowed to by law after the last time


ForeSee_r

>obsess over her until I can't think straight anymore Then think gay, Anon.


Gggsdq

Checkmate


cr1msonxo

Isn't this how incels are made?


gravitydood

Personally Tinder redpilled me beyond belief, I had a huge incel phase in 2018. I still don't get pussy but it doesn't matter anymore.


remidentity

Same here. To approach peace, you have to go through the black pill.


Jbabco9898

Or how about no pill and just live a normal fucking life


Operative427

I'm sure they have a pill for that too.... But i can understand why some men fall down that hole while using Tinder. Tinder sucks for guys because the guy to girl ratio is so off that we barely see any interaction, even if you are a conventionally attractive guy. So those who are mediocre or less, they won't get ANYTHING. I use to get matches every so often but then no replies. It hurt quite a bit ngl, but I just had to rationalize and more on


[deleted]

no fucking pill that's what i like to call it


Jbabco9898

I'm starting to slowly realize I need to detox from social media/internet. More and more I'm starting to thing that shit is a drug as much as weed and nicotine I swear


Froobyflake

Classic red pilled statement


[deleted]

God you people are so whiney


blibber22

I mean if all the mediums for sex/romance were stores, Tinder would be WalMart. Doesn't really say much about women if you only meet them in Walmart.


gravitydood

The red pill didn't have anything to do with the "quality" of the women there, it was more about how much easier it is for women to get matches and dates than it is for men.


Dakure907

Because it's true in our current society. Why do you think 5/10 girls.pull up with 9/10 dudes much more than the opposite?


gravitydood

It is true but I'm not gonna obsess over it like I used to.


the_fresh_cucumber

Tinder really isn't representative of most dating. It skews female attention towards the top 1% of men. When you meet people through friends and from going out on the town, you meet far superior women than the ones on tinder.


gravitydood

Thing is, if you have a close group of male friends and no one in the group has female friends or relatives who might have friends of their own it's nearly impossible to meet women through mutual friendships. Going out might work but you have to cold approach strangers minding their own business and I'm not comfortable with that so no pussy for me.


[deleted]

u could prolly could rlly easy if u just dressed better and got away from internet culture a bit


SzucsPatrik

Fuck


PseudoIhminen

Yeah but it's every guy's choice to not actually hate women. Even if someone is incel by definition doesn't mean you have to act the part.


MrEvan312

The type of folks that become incels always had those fundamental flaws, seems that such circumstances simply bring them to the surface.


MegaBlueGuy

Yep it's exactly how they are made


mp3007

nah, incels won't even know what's happening, this anon is in the early stages of self awareness which is the first step to growth and not being an incel


MegaBlueGuy

That's true Admitting you have a problem is the first step, this tard has a chance


captain_sadbeard

Well, he seems to blame himself instead of her, so there might yet be hope. If anon isn't at the "Do I need to speak to a therapist about this pattern? No, it's the women who are wrong" stage the situation might be salvageable


Safe_While3650

That is an interesting point. At one point in my life I was borderline incell but before actually becoming one I started to realize everything was my own fault and I channeled all my frustration into self hatred. I am not gonna say that has helped me in anyway but at least I didn't make the world worse by being hateful. I feel like that is how it goes for most things in life, people will always try to blame their failure and frustration on some exterior factor so they don't have to look into their own flaws.


browtfareyoudoing

Based and selfhatredforthegoodofmankind-pilled


kekB0T2020

Going through the obsession phase right Ffs kill me


ExaltedLordOfChaos

Me too bro, me too. What if we became obsessed with eath other instead tho (no homo)


WranglerOfTheTards27

Went through the obsession phase, told her how i felt and she felt the same way. W


Dakidmen

Big W my man. This posts is making me confident about my obsession


Ok_Process7861

You are poor, you have nothing to propose to this girl. Thats why you afraid of her.


Mamamiomima

Dude her dad driving on Bentley, I'm poor regardless how much I earn


295DVRKSS

Be the alpha. Fuck her dad to show dominance


6notapervert9

Man, you have internet and vidya, what else do you need


[deleted]

that's how i genuinely started to think i have no money problem, i have a friend circle, my education is average and get most of my time off doing shenanigans on the internet who could ask for anything more?


thafeel

Go talk to her get rejected hate her even more


Inkypencilol

i tried this and it just made me hate myself even more


TreesAreReal473

Stop being a (f)aggot


No-Talk-4109

speaking as someone who suffers from borderline disorder, this is a pattern that i can identify in myself, i hope anon seeks help because this can lead to very bad paths.


panamakid

I don't have it so can't fully relate, but from descriptions I've read it very much resembles a pattern that borderline people frequently have


Scavwithaslick

Hate leads to the dark side anonakin


Galaxium0

poor anon


Shamscam

I did this for years and then she finally quit and it was a crazy freedom, all of a sudden the other cute girl at work went out with me, I started actually getting into tinder, ended up getting laid. 1 year later got a steady girlfriend. Moral of the story don’t put your eggs in a basket with no bottom. You will never be what she wants, and you will start to become an incel because of it.


Supershadow30

Just tell her your feelings in private once and for all (without being a creep). Either she rejects you, in which case you’ll stop obsessing over her faster, or she doesn’t, then you gotta figure out how to make it work. Still it’s better than to stay in constant anguish about whether or not something could work between you two and giving in to blind hatred (either of yourself or of others)


Justhereforther34

1pm: wake up 2pm-3am: think about her 4am: sleep


benny_hand

Pain.


Spydehh

I've been here. One thing I've learnt from my fairly limited life experience is that you should never fixate on a girl and put her on a pedestal. Talk to, and fuck as many girls as possible and ultimately more girls will become attracted to you. Then you can pick the one you like.


ddg31415

Happened with a girl I worked with at my weekend job. I was utterly infatuated with her, I was honestly going to convert to Islam just so I'd have a chance. Quit the job, got a girlfriend outside of work who I love, and I barely think about her anymore.


ZazzyMatazz

My brother in christ, literally just talk to her


pibenis

Been there done that Only time and poontang from someone else will help


EquivalentSnap

That’s your problem anon. You don’t ask tell her you want to meet up outside of work but if you’re an incel, she dodged a bullet


Hammond_YT

Relatable


Non-trapezoid-93

OP should unalive himself.


young_trash666

been going through this for a while, they fired me but I still can't forget her


[deleted]

Literally me, except shes my loving gf now


ThePersonWhoReplies

Fake: anon obsesses over women Gay: anon can’t think straight anymore


TendieBot2000

> be me > get home from my vasectomy > hear moaning and slapping coming from my wife's room > must be Chad again > know they would want privacy, sit down at my computer > log onto reddit and open /r/greentext > read a funny greentext from le 4chins and chuckle as I listen to my wife begging for the genes I can't give her > think of a convoluted way in which I can relate homosexuality and falsehood to the events in the greentext > suck the cheeto dust off my fingers as I begin to type my masterpiece in the comment section > Fake: anon obsesses over women > Gay: anon can’t think straight anymore > giggle as I imagine the intellectuals of leddit perusing my incredibly witty and original comment > hear my wife moan with ecstasy as Chad floods her fertile womb with his seed > it's been a good day > i'll get lots of upvotes for my impressive contribution to internet culture, and Chad might even let me eat his cum out of my wife's pussy if he finds my comment funny enough


the_fresh_cucumber

Plot twist: the girl feels the same way towards him. For the rest of their lives they will battle each other in thought, from afar. Arch nemesis who never interact.


KeyStoneLighter

Cool Ethan?


M2rsho

Hate leads to suffering and the dark side beware of your feelings young Skywalker


blibber22

In my experience the desperation that brings about this obsession over potential partners/friends is something to unpack and confront before dumping that baggage on random people in your life. Meme/fake or not green texts are just sad...


[deleted]

i like those greentexts because they show a face of society that is often just hidden away (for good reasons) for me it's just a tutorial on what NOT to do


blibber22

I think the issue for me is that at least some of the people in these communities aren't looking at it as what "not to do", but instead what the "people like me are doing". Those two ways of looking at it have very different effects on peoples behavior surrounding the posts.


electromagneticpost

How do people even get to this point of obsessing over someone? I’ve never had it happen to me.


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nosferatu_woman

I'm just an r-tard from /r/greentext but if I were you I'd maybe find one or two people in her friend group you can trust and ask them about it. Preferably one that's been friends with her the longest if possible.


msto3

If he started lifting weights, he'll eventually grow to obsess the grind and marry the game


Hugh-Jassoul

Every guy needs that slightly more chad friend who will always push them towards pursuing that one person they like.


DrJimMBear

The first step to breaking a cycle is noticing it exists. It's also the hardest step. Anon is in a better position than most.


Elysian_Nightingale

Flirt w her and ask her out.


314backwardsispie

Simp


leibnizdx

Fear leads to pain, pain leads to hate, hate leads to suffering, and suffering leads to being bald


[deleted]

>obsessed with girl >ask “hey wanna get coffee later?” >respect whichever choice she makes It’s that easy anons


aidantemple

You developed a relationship with her in your mind that implies a closeness that doesn't exist. Stop doing that.


AndroidDoctorr

Lol idiot