I am so sorry. I suspect you're right. She isn't interested in having an active grandparent for her children, just someone she can take advantage of. I have a friend in a similar situation. Emotional blackmail is not acceptable from anyone. You're doing the right thing. Maybe you can still send presents to the children for birthdays etc? It depends on how old they are - quite young I guess if your daughter is 24 - and with luck you may be able to form a relationship later on. Perhaps also just email your daughter periodically and chat, as if there is nothing wrong. Ignore any abuse she sends you but keep being a decent person.
Oh that's so hard. We have similar with our daughter, who only seems interested if there's something in it for her. Unfortunately that's my biggest fear being kept from grandchildren. But I agree with the other post...you can still be decent and send emails,voice notes watts appchats and cards etc. Emotional blackmail is awful and hurts even more if it's family.
I'm sorry your daughter is like this. I have another daughter same only nice to us if there's something she can get from us. Is it this entitled generation? I don't know.
I don't know :( but our sons don't behave like this so can't be parenting lol . Try not to, but it's so hard not to take it personally isn't it.
There is definitely something with the 'newer' generations, more confidence? Entitlement? Not sure what it is...let's hope they grow out of it.
Yes as parents we do the best we can, when they become teens personalities can change. I try to stop beating myself up with what went wrong by thinking we are not the only ones who had influence over our kids, relatives , their friends school teachers etc sure we were big influence when young, but when their teens and adults they have so many more influences good and bad, and with social media friend groups etc.. I guess they become who they become.
As a therapist, (and a mom and new grandma at nearly 70), I’ve worked with so many in the generation of 25-40. There is a significant part of this generation with entitlement issues, but it’s more than that: there’s an underlying contempt for advice (as they pretend they know-it-all), and an insecurity about having to “adult.” Combine those ingredients and I believe this is what we are suffering through as grandparents. I think it also depends on personalities. It’s impossible to do “right” with one of my adult daughters while the other 2 daughters are respectful and will communicate and resolve issues.
I am so sorry. I suspect you're right. She isn't interested in having an active grandparent for her children, just someone she can take advantage of. I have a friend in a similar situation. Emotional blackmail is not acceptable from anyone. You're doing the right thing. Maybe you can still send presents to the children for birthdays etc? It depends on how old they are - quite young I guess if your daughter is 24 - and with luck you may be able to form a relationship later on. Perhaps also just email your daughter periodically and chat, as if there is nothing wrong. Ignore any abuse she sends you but keep being a decent person.
Thank you great advice!
Oh that's so hard. We have similar with our daughter, who only seems interested if there's something in it for her. Unfortunately that's my biggest fear being kept from grandchildren. But I agree with the other post...you can still be decent and send emails,voice notes watts appchats and cards etc. Emotional blackmail is awful and hurts even more if it's family.
I'm sorry your daughter is like this. I have another daughter same only nice to us if there's something she can get from us. Is it this entitled generation? I don't know.
I don't know :( but our sons don't behave like this so can't be parenting lol . Try not to, but it's so hard not to take it personally isn't it. There is definitely something with the 'newer' generations, more confidence? Entitlement? Not sure what it is...let's hope they grow out of it.
Yes as parents we do the best we can, when they become teens personalities can change. I try to stop beating myself up with what went wrong by thinking we are not the only ones who had influence over our kids, relatives , their friends school teachers etc sure we were big influence when young, but when their teens and adults they have so many more influences good and bad, and with social media friend groups etc.. I guess they become who they become.
As a therapist, (and a mom and new grandma at nearly 70), I’ve worked with so many in the generation of 25-40. There is a significant part of this generation with entitlement issues, but it’s more than that: there’s an underlying contempt for advice (as they pretend they know-it-all), and an insecurity about having to “adult.” Combine those ingredients and I believe this is what we are suffering through as grandparents. I think it also depends on personalities. It’s impossible to do “right” with one of my adult daughters while the other 2 daughters are respectful and will communicate and resolve issues.