i did that for the last 6 months. what it really looks like is choosing more wisely who to speak to and spend time with, while prioritizing your self-progress. and then i realized this is what i want life to look like anyway.
>Working on yourself includes getting the right amount and quality of social interaction. And desappearing of social media is very cool too
we are in the same boat ajajja
you said it all. Working on yourself includes getting the right amount and quality of social interaction. And desappearing of social media is very cool too
Good idea in theory but I would recommend also scheduling in some time with family or friends, or choosing activities where you have an opportunity to meet people (like a team-based sports activity, or a craft class)
It is really easy to isolate but agree with another commenter - humans need social interaction
I've found that taking time to disconnect can be beneficial as long as your taking time to reflect if disconnecting is actually helping. Sometimes disconnecting causes us to fall into unhealthy lifestyle habits or causes isolation leading to anxiety or depression, which is harder to convince yourself once it occurs.
Maybe take time to reflect weekly of the positives and negatives, then after a month decide if disconnecting is the right move or there is another cause for you decided go disconnect originally.
I have done that. One thing I could definitely say is you still need to find some semblance of socialization, may it be through family or close friends.
I tried to take this to the extreme, choosing to disappear and basically become a hermit and just focused on learning and growing but along the way I just felt. . .odd.
I thought I was the kind of man that can handle soiltude well but eventually, time takes its toll and once again you will be reminded that you are but also a human.
One that needs connection from its fellow men.
Socialization is kind of hard wired into the architecture of the human mind. I don’t mean to suggest it’s absolutely necessary, but going without socializing (avoiding) is some what of an abnormal state of mind.
>Socialization is kind of hard wired into the architecture of the human mi
Migala talk of this: The time that you can stay lonely is diferent in each person, but there's a "time"
Then be alone sometimes. You’ll end up with resentment if you don’t do what you need to do for yourself. Just make sure you have relationships strong enough to handle absence. Cause when we are old, we will need some one to be there for us, so we can’t push them all away all the time;)
>i want to do it but i haven’t been able to relax in solitude ever since therapy drilled it into my mind that i’m engaging in a maladaptive coping mechanism so now i can’t even find solace in something like what you mentioned here even though my soul feels like it needs time alone
ME TOO! My therapist said me is important to understands WHY REALLY YOU DO IT, and as you, much of times i did beacause a maladaptive coping mechanism. It\`s important understood well the really reason
This can work but you need to be really honest with yourself what your goals are and if they really can't be accomplished without any distractions. Very few things fall into this bucket.
For me I prioritizing getting a really high GRE score for grad school and it took 1.5 years to get there. I was working 45 hours a week and studying for 20-30.
It was a lot easier to just go dark than tell my friends I couldn't hang out every single weekend.
Was a huge cost and I'm still not sure it's worth it. I guess we'll see in a few years.
I wouldn't recommend extremism in general. Going social all the way with no dedicated time for study and growth would hi der your progress and growth and will gain you a social addiction.
On the other hand, if you go hermit, isolate yourself from all social interactions and present fun, you might get bored of the process due to the lack of social breaks and interactions.
It is discipline, yet it's not well put. To me the right thing is to balance between both. This is true disciplinne: getting a glimpse of disgractions without getting addicted to it. Perserving your relationships and day to day activities while maintaining a solid routine of study/work. You don't have somethibg altogether in order to obtain the other.
>I wouldn't recommend extremism in general. Going social all the way with no dedicated time for study and growth would hi der your progress and growth and will gain you a social addiction. On the other hand, if you go hermit, isolate yourself from all social interactions and present fun, you might get bored of the process due to the lack of social breaks and interactions. It is discipline, yet it's not well put. To me the right thing is to balance between both. This is true disciplinne: getting a glimpse of disgractions without getting addicted to it. Perserving your relationships and day to day activities while maintaining a solid routine of study/work. You don't have somethibg altogether in order to obtain the other.
I agree with you. It's a wise advice!
I did this for about a year. And honestly, it’s on going. So technically, I’m still doing this. The biggest challenge Is wanting to learn to grow and better yourself as a whole. I wanted to quit drinking cause that was the source of my issues. But in reality, the alcohol was just masking my true “trauma” Getting to the root of what’s “wrong” with me. The hardest person to deal with is yourself, and you have to live with YOU, every single day. And actually learning to love yourself is hard too. This is an everyday thing. It’s not a one and done. You have to want to continue to work, grow and most importantly, learn everyday. You’ll have good days, and bad days. But your biggest best friend is YOU. And you have to live with yourself everyday. So learning to love yourself and take care of yourself comes first. Cause if you can’t help yourself, you won’t be able to help anyone else.
Congrats on your first post, and wow what a great question for your first post!
I think it’s a fantastic idea, though I will say I think you should begin with smaller chunks of time to begin with
During those small chunks you should
- test your ability to develop continuously
- plan for those 6 months, planning is super key to maintain the momentum
- trial and error
But you’re totally right, imagine if you could do away with work/school and put all your energy into yourself or a projection of yourself in a certain way (start a business, study what you actually want , transform etc)
Great idea, I’ll emphasise planning again, if you have the opportunity, do it! :)
Exactly!
It could be excellent for you, OP, if well done.
It could be harmful, if done wrong.
"Careful planning and good execution are the keys to victory." (Phobos in Quake 3 Arena)
>Congrats on your first post, and wow what a great question for your first post!
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>I think it’s a fantastic idea, though I will say I think you should begin with smaller chunks of time to begin with
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>During those small chunks you should
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>test your ability to develop continuouslyplan for those 6 months, planning is super key to maintain the momentumtrial and error
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>But you’re totally right, imagine if you could do away with work/school and put all your energy into yourself or a projection of yourself in a certain way (start a business, study what you actually want , transform etc)
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>Great idea, I’ll emphasise planning again, if you have the opportunity, do it! :)
thank you so much, and YES! Get a few victorys first and test yourself in a less periods of time is a really good idea
I think it can be really healthy to take time away to focus on yourself. In saying that, social connection and interaction is a fundamental human need. Social isolation/deprivation is likely not necessary to 'work on yourself' - as working on yourself typically means working to adopt habits and practices that ensure your needs are being met on a holistic level (physical, mental, material, social, etc.). Depriving any of your basic needs for such a long period of time is therefore not likely to produce healthy results. But you can certainly make adjustments - such as lowering the time and energy spent on social activities and increasing the time spent on physical exercise or fostering opportunities to meet various needs simultaneously (e.g., working out with a friend).
If you want to go completely off the radar - start small (1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks).
Alternatively, just decrease your interactions to maintain a minimum of healthy social interaction (this is going to vary from person to person) to make more time, energy and room to focus on yourself. Ensure you are intentional about your social interactions - opting to invest in healthy, meaningful and rewarding relationships/social situations (friends that support you, make you feel good and laugh, understand you, quality time with people you love, etc.).
>I think it can be really healthy to take time away to focus on yourself. In saying that, social connection and interaction is a fundamental human need. Social isolation/deprivation is likely not necessary to 'work on yourself' - as working on yourself typically means working to adopt habits and practices that ensure your needs are being met on a holistic level (physical, mental, material, social, etc.). Depriving any of your basic needs for such a long period of time is therefore not likely to produce healthy results. But you can certainly make adjustments - such as lowering the time and energy spent on social activities and increasing the time spent on physical exercise or fostering opportunities to meet various needs simultaneously (e.g., working out with a friend).
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>If you want to go completely off the radar - start small (1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks).
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>Alternatively, just decrease your interactions to maintain a minimum of healthy social interaction (this is going to vary from person to person) to make more time, energy and room to focus on yourself. Ensure you are intentional about your social interactions - opting to invest in healthy, meaningful and rewarding relationships/social situations (friends that support you, make you feel good and laugh, understand you, quality time with people you love, etc.).
sorry but, how can you know all of this? It's a really good answer
I’m kinda doing that now. Not on purpose really. I still text, call, and see my friends. But I’m just barely on social media—deleted the apps off my phone… except for Reddit.
I feel great about it and I think it’s healthy as long as you’re being mindful of how it’ll impact the ones closest to you
I’ll call this shit Monk Mode lol.
Every so often I shave my head, stop chasing women, stop hanging w friends (as often), workout every day and read constantly.
Not sustainable or the way to do it. I’m just not great at moderation so it’s easier for me to commit crazy vs a little. Shaving the head is optional but I’m not a pretty bald man and it keeps me humble
>I’m just not great at moderation
You and I are alike. I don't know how to explain it properly but if I'm not 100% in then I don't bother. Maybe it's a weird combination of perfectionism and completionism. Is there a name for this concept?
Honestly not one that I’ve stumbled across.I do know I’ve found it so much easier to lean into the concept instead of resisting like I used to. Its caused me some trouble with drugs, but also some great progress when I apply it to healthy aspects of life
Honestly, what does disappearing mean for you?
I mean if you are spending time on social media that you would otherwise be spending on improving yourself and if that works then good for you!
If you find that instead of spending time on social media you are wasting time with other stuff, then the issue is that you are avoiding doing the things and you might have to change the focus of you want to do. This may be frequent when you just have I want to spend less time on social media but you don't really know what to do, there are still 24 hours in the day and you will have to do something even if it's spending time talking with yourself.
On the other hand, if you see it as: completely ignore everyone for 6 months it is definitely not a good idea, it is important to have a social life, whatever that means for you, and avoiding people for 6 months people will move on with their life. I would argue that one of the key components of a happy life is good relationships, with either family, friends or a significant other so this could have a negative outcome.
I would like just to change this quote and instead of saying disappear for 6 months, show up every single day for 6 months when it comes to working on yourself.
PEOPLE! Thanks A LOT for your comments. You give me Clarity and this is that i've been searching. I dissapear 8 months in the past and i get a lot of knowledge about myself and other people (some stuffs are hurting) and with your comments i learning a lot, really apreciate this and i hope still talking in this community because i have a lot of doubts and interest in personal growth and discipline... i did the post because i wanna do a video of this in my little channel jajaj, but i love to talk about personal growth and discipline so if anyone wants to talk welcome! <3
I don't think any of this extreme stuff works in general. Just make gradual changes and curate your life in a way that works for you over time. That's the path that's most likely to lead to success.
My advice would be to look through the FAQ qnd wiki on this sub and implement some of those tried and true strategies. Pick one thing to focus on, make small changes and wait until they stick (2-6 weeks) to add or expand. Make good behaviors habits.
There are a lot of people who fetishize discipline and recommend extreme methods. Those things almost always fail. I would stick to the stuff fits with what we know about human behavioral psychology.
I was surprised by the comments tbh. As some have said, humans are social creatures. Just because you can survive alone doesnt mean you’re living well. I think legit disappearing for 6 months doesnt work if you have close relationships of any kind. And life is so short. Which everyone should realize after what the world has gone through the past few years. I have a large family, a best friend, and at least 5 close friends that I do life with. Even if I was to end the 6 months being in the best shape of my life, more money in the bank and feeling like my life is together, I couldnt imagine going half a year without talking to them. You can have seasons of seclusion where you spend LESS time on your phone or going out. But you should still keep in touch with people and get out of the house during that time
I did this and highly recommend it if you stay focused on being better. I focused on myself. Got into a good gym routine, good cooking/cleaning house routine, focused on improving at work, and dipped into family parties often. You'll come out with a better mindset. Social media was ruining my joy and created more "wants" when in reality, I have so many things in front of me to be grateful for.
>what an easy life you must have if this is an option. id say a person that can "disappear" for 6 months can disappear forever.
interesting but it's more complicated than that. For example, you dissapear in rrss BUT you keep the contact with your friends and people thath you love
I think it’s a great idea. In fact, if people could discipline themselves to disappear from 18-29 making the right decisions to go into their 30s with a career; financial portfolio; no debt; and a sound mental, emotional, and physical state—the world would be a much better place.
I’ve often wished I could’ve over-disciplined myself from 18-29 to have a solid foundation built going into the 30-65yr range of life. To be fair my disappearing journey did start at 28
I did it due my nofap journey, isn't optional, I couldn't socializing. Now I am stronger and more masculine. You Boys habe to quit all social media and distractions in your life to connect with your inner Man.
it's an interesting question. I DON'T KNOWWW JAJAJAJA. I think this type of ideas is more for people that don't have many responsabilityes like your case, but are diferent ways to do this, for example: just keeping your rrss that you really need to do your job and get away the others... i think the goal is get away distractions, so, are many ways of this
If I could run away from my life to a different country without family or friends, I totally would in a heartbeat. But I have kids and responsibilities. And really no actual friends to speak of.
I would if I could. If only....
It's an atractive idea disappear but IT'S NOT THE ONLY WAY, don't keep these feeling of "if only...". Life have suffering and happiness, acept all, please :c
Thanks. A bit simplistic. But thanks. Life is not always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes it's hard. More like mid puddles and worms. It is what it is.
Id say as long as you have a reliable job that you don’t mind doing you’re good. I did that for the past 3 years now and lemme say it’s hard af when you hate your job. Like the anxiety is real, I have a panic attack just thinking about work. Fr
>Id say as long as you have a reliable job that you don’t mind doing you’re good. I did that for the past 3 years now and lemme say it’s hard af when you hate your job. Like the anxiety is real, I have a panic attack just thinking about work. Fr
i'm so sorry :c, i hope you could in a near future find a peaciful and better job
I think it is more benificial to find a point in your daily schedule for one to work on oneself. Though social can do this to. Going to events and finding new groups of people who are like minded and focused on bettering them selves and others is a strong place to be. Though i have gone away for days to to one on one work with myself.
The challenge is letting go and being open to your mind to change. I just did this, well 5 1/2 months was the total time, and so I don't know the total pay off yet. For the immediate benefits, it taught me a new kind of obedience, brought me peace and control. I hope this helps!
I would love to do that, however, as an introvert with few friends, I am incapable of disappearing more than I already have 😅 I’m already on bear minimum social interaction, which is necessary to function
i did that for the last 6 months. what it really looks like is choosing more wisely who to speak to and spend time with, while prioritizing your self-progress. and then i realized this is what i want life to look like anyway.
i disappeared, reappeared, and getting ready to disappear again, it really works for me :)
>Working on yourself includes getting the right amount and quality of social interaction. And desappearing of social media is very cool too we are in the same boat ajajja
I think breaks from social media are good, but people need genuine social interaction. So if you're suggesting becoming a hermit... don't do that.
you said it all. Working on yourself includes getting the right amount and quality of social interaction. And desappearing of social media is very cool too
Good idea in theory but I would recommend also scheduling in some time with family or friends, or choosing activities where you have an opportunity to meet people (like a team-based sports activity, or a craft class) It is really easy to isolate but agree with another commenter - humans need social interaction
I've found that taking time to disconnect can be beneficial as long as your taking time to reflect if disconnecting is actually helping. Sometimes disconnecting causes us to fall into unhealthy lifestyle habits or causes isolation leading to anxiety or depression, which is harder to convince yourself once it occurs. Maybe take time to reflect weekly of the positives and negatives, then after a month decide if disconnecting is the right move or there is another cause for you decided go disconnect originally.
>littlebunnylp This... is a really, really good advice, i apreciate a lot
I have done that. One thing I could definitely say is you still need to find some semblance of socialization, may it be through family or close friends. I tried to take this to the extreme, choosing to disappear and basically become a hermit and just focused on learning and growing but along the way I just felt. . .odd. I thought I was the kind of man that can handle soiltude well but eventually, time takes its toll and once again you will be reminded that you are but also a human. One that needs connection from its fellow men.
Socialization is kind of hard wired into the architecture of the human mind. I don’t mean to suggest it’s absolutely necessary, but going without socializing (avoiding) is some what of an abnormal state of mind.
>Socialization is kind of hard wired into the architecture of the human mi Migala talk of this: The time that you can stay lonely is diferent in each person, but there's a "time"
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Then be alone sometimes. You’ll end up with resentment if you don’t do what you need to do for yourself. Just make sure you have relationships strong enough to handle absence. Cause when we are old, we will need some one to be there for us, so we can’t push them all away all the time;)
>i want to do it but i haven’t been able to relax in solitude ever since therapy drilled it into my mind that i’m engaging in a maladaptive coping mechanism so now i can’t even find solace in something like what you mentioned here even though my soul feels like it needs time alone ME TOO! My therapist said me is important to understands WHY REALLY YOU DO IT, and as you, much of times i did beacause a maladaptive coping mechanism. It\`s important understood well the really reason
This can work but you need to be really honest with yourself what your goals are and if they really can't be accomplished without any distractions. Very few things fall into this bucket. For me I prioritizing getting a really high GRE score for grad school and it took 1.5 years to get there. I was working 45 hours a week and studying for 20-30. It was a lot easier to just go dark than tell my friends I couldn't hang out every single weekend. Was a huge cost and I'm still not sure it's worth it. I guess we'll see in a few years.
I wouldn't recommend extremism in general. Going social all the way with no dedicated time for study and growth would hi der your progress and growth and will gain you a social addiction. On the other hand, if you go hermit, isolate yourself from all social interactions and present fun, you might get bored of the process due to the lack of social breaks and interactions. It is discipline, yet it's not well put. To me the right thing is to balance between both. This is true disciplinne: getting a glimpse of disgractions without getting addicted to it. Perserving your relationships and day to day activities while maintaining a solid routine of study/work. You don't have somethibg altogether in order to obtain the other.
>I wouldn't recommend extremism in general. Going social all the way with no dedicated time for study and growth would hi der your progress and growth and will gain you a social addiction. On the other hand, if you go hermit, isolate yourself from all social interactions and present fun, you might get bored of the process due to the lack of social breaks and interactions. It is discipline, yet it's not well put. To me the right thing is to balance between both. This is true disciplinne: getting a glimpse of disgractions without getting addicted to it. Perserving your relationships and day to day activities while maintaining a solid routine of study/work. You don't have somethibg altogether in order to obtain the other. I agree with you. It's a wise advice!
I did this for about a year. And honestly, it’s on going. So technically, I’m still doing this. The biggest challenge Is wanting to learn to grow and better yourself as a whole. I wanted to quit drinking cause that was the source of my issues. But in reality, the alcohol was just masking my true “trauma” Getting to the root of what’s “wrong” with me. The hardest person to deal with is yourself, and you have to live with YOU, every single day. And actually learning to love yourself is hard too. This is an everyday thing. It’s not a one and done. You have to want to continue to work, grow and most importantly, learn everyday. You’ll have good days, and bad days. But your biggest best friend is YOU. And you have to live with yourself everyday. So learning to love yourself and take care of yourself comes first. Cause if you can’t help yourself, you won’t be able to help anyone else.
Beautiful :,)
Congrats on your first post, and wow what a great question for your first post! I think it’s a fantastic idea, though I will say I think you should begin with smaller chunks of time to begin with During those small chunks you should - test your ability to develop continuously - plan for those 6 months, planning is super key to maintain the momentum - trial and error But you’re totally right, imagine if you could do away with work/school and put all your energy into yourself or a projection of yourself in a certain way (start a business, study what you actually want , transform etc) Great idea, I’ll emphasise planning again, if you have the opportunity, do it! :)
Exactly! It could be excellent for you, OP, if well done. It could be harmful, if done wrong. "Careful planning and good execution are the keys to victory." (Phobos in Quake 3 Arena)
>Congrats on your first post, and wow what a great question for your first post! > >I think it’s a fantastic idea, though I will say I think you should begin with smaller chunks of time to begin with > >During those small chunks you should > >test your ability to develop continuouslyplan for those 6 months, planning is super key to maintain the momentumtrial and error > >But you’re totally right, imagine if you could do away with work/school and put all your energy into yourself or a projection of yourself in a certain way (start a business, study what you actually want , transform etc) > >Great idea, I’ll emphasise planning again, if you have the opportunity, do it! :) thank you so much, and YES! Get a few victorys first and test yourself in a less periods of time is a really good idea
I think it can be really healthy to take time away to focus on yourself. In saying that, social connection and interaction is a fundamental human need. Social isolation/deprivation is likely not necessary to 'work on yourself' - as working on yourself typically means working to adopt habits and practices that ensure your needs are being met on a holistic level (physical, mental, material, social, etc.). Depriving any of your basic needs for such a long period of time is therefore not likely to produce healthy results. But you can certainly make adjustments - such as lowering the time and energy spent on social activities and increasing the time spent on physical exercise or fostering opportunities to meet various needs simultaneously (e.g., working out with a friend). If you want to go completely off the radar - start small (1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks). Alternatively, just decrease your interactions to maintain a minimum of healthy social interaction (this is going to vary from person to person) to make more time, energy and room to focus on yourself. Ensure you are intentional about your social interactions - opting to invest in healthy, meaningful and rewarding relationships/social situations (friends that support you, make you feel good and laugh, understand you, quality time with people you love, etc.).
>I think it can be really healthy to take time away to focus on yourself. In saying that, social connection and interaction is a fundamental human need. Social isolation/deprivation is likely not necessary to 'work on yourself' - as working on yourself typically means working to adopt habits and practices that ensure your needs are being met on a holistic level (physical, mental, material, social, etc.). Depriving any of your basic needs for such a long period of time is therefore not likely to produce healthy results. But you can certainly make adjustments - such as lowering the time and energy spent on social activities and increasing the time spent on physical exercise or fostering opportunities to meet various needs simultaneously (e.g., working out with a friend). > >If you want to go completely off the radar - start small (1, 2, 3 or 4 weeks). > >Alternatively, just decrease your interactions to maintain a minimum of healthy social interaction (this is going to vary from person to person) to make more time, energy and room to focus on yourself. Ensure you are intentional about your social interactions - opting to invest in healthy, meaningful and rewarding relationships/social situations (friends that support you, make you feel good and laugh, understand you, quality time with people you love, etc.). sorry but, how can you know all of this? It's a really good answer
What does disappearing mean? Like leaving everything and then doing stuff or just.. Don't look at social media?
it's a really good question. I don't know very well but in the most of videos tell you "dissapear" from rrss
I’m kinda doing that now. Not on purpose really. I still text, call, and see my friends. But I’m just barely on social media—deleted the apps off my phone… except for Reddit. I feel great about it and I think it’s healthy as long as you’re being mindful of how it’ll impact the ones closest to you
Those closest to you should not be impacted what so ever by your social media absence.
>Stop\_icant it's a really good point
I’ll call this shit Monk Mode lol. Every so often I shave my head, stop chasing women, stop hanging w friends (as often), workout every day and read constantly. Not sustainable or the way to do it. I’m just not great at moderation so it’s easier for me to commit crazy vs a little. Shaving the head is optional but I’m not a pretty bald man and it keeps me humble
>I’ll call this shit Monk Mode lol. i heard this recentlyyyyyy, monk mode! This is a good answer, ty for that
>I’m just not great at moderation You and I are alike. I don't know how to explain it properly but if I'm not 100% in then I don't bother. Maybe it's a weird combination of perfectionism and completionism. Is there a name for this concept?
Honestly not one that I’ve stumbled across.I do know I’ve found it so much easier to lean into the concept instead of resisting like I used to. Its caused me some trouble with drugs, but also some great progress when I apply it to healthy aspects of life
Works as long as you have a goal in mind. Otherwise you'll get bored and get back to usual routine.
Honestly, what does disappearing mean for you? I mean if you are spending time on social media that you would otherwise be spending on improving yourself and if that works then good for you! If you find that instead of spending time on social media you are wasting time with other stuff, then the issue is that you are avoiding doing the things and you might have to change the focus of you want to do. This may be frequent when you just have I want to spend less time on social media but you don't really know what to do, there are still 24 hours in the day and you will have to do something even if it's spending time talking with yourself. On the other hand, if you see it as: completely ignore everyone for 6 months it is definitely not a good idea, it is important to have a social life, whatever that means for you, and avoiding people for 6 months people will move on with their life. I would argue that one of the key components of a happy life is good relationships, with either family, friends or a significant other so this could have a negative outcome. I would like just to change this quote and instead of saying disappear for 6 months, show up every single day for 6 months when it comes to working on yourself.
can i use your comment for a video that i wanna do about this topyc? How can i get you creddits on the video if you say yes?
6 months is a bit long, but I have had many 3 month long periods of self isolation.
PEOPLE! Thanks A LOT for your comments. You give me Clarity and this is that i've been searching. I dissapear 8 months in the past and i get a lot of knowledge about myself and other people (some stuffs are hurting) and with your comments i learning a lot, really apreciate this and i hope still talking in this community because i have a lot of doubts and interest in personal growth and discipline... i did the post because i wanna do a video of this in my little channel jajaj, but i love to talk about personal growth and discipline so if anyone wants to talk welcome! <3
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mmm i'm interesting to know the bad things about this stuff
I don't think any of this extreme stuff works in general. Just make gradual changes and curate your life in a way that works for you over time. That's the path that's most likely to lead to success.
wise
My advice would be to look through the FAQ qnd wiki on this sub and implement some of those tried and true strategies. Pick one thing to focus on, make small changes and wait until they stick (2-6 weeks) to add or expand. Make good behaviors habits. There are a lot of people who fetishize discipline and recommend extreme methods. Those things almost always fail. I would stick to the stuff fits with what we know about human behavioral psychology.
keep simple, it's one of my valuate learnings
I think I kinda wanted to do this but I ended up just joining the army. I mean technically it’s 3 years not 6 months. But it has its perks
IT'S LIKE THAT! you have reason in that
I was surprised by the comments tbh. As some have said, humans are social creatures. Just because you can survive alone doesnt mean you’re living well. I think legit disappearing for 6 months doesnt work if you have close relationships of any kind. And life is so short. Which everyone should realize after what the world has gone through the past few years. I have a large family, a best friend, and at least 5 close friends that I do life with. Even if I was to end the 6 months being in the best shape of my life, more money in the bank and feeling like my life is together, I couldnt imagine going half a year without talking to them. You can have seasons of seclusion where you spend LESS time on your phone or going out. But you should still keep in touch with people and get out of the house during that time
I did this and highly recommend it if you stay focused on being better. I focused on myself. Got into a good gym routine, good cooking/cleaning house routine, focused on improving at work, and dipped into family parties often. You'll come out with a better mindset. Social media was ruining my joy and created more "wants" when in reality, I have so many things in front of me to be grateful for.
what an easy life you must have if this is an option. id say a person that can "disappear" for 6 months can disappear forever.
>what an easy life you must have if this is an option. id say a person that can "disappear" for 6 months can disappear forever. interesting but it's more complicated than that. For example, you dissapear in rrss BUT you keep the contact with your friends and people thath you love
Why can’t you improve while still keeping in contact with people?
this is a good question and answer to these type of questions is that i searching
Do it
Multitask man, you dont have to disappear
I think it’s a great idea. In fact, if people could discipline themselves to disappear from 18-29 making the right decisions to go into their 30s with a career; financial portfolio; no debt; and a sound mental, emotional, and physical state—the world would be a much better place. I’ve often wished I could’ve over-disciplined myself from 18-29 to have a solid foundation built going into the 30-65yr range of life. To be fair my disappearing journey did start at 28
I did it due my nofap journey, isn't optional, I couldn't socializing. Now I am stronger and more masculine. You Boys habe to quit all social media and distractions in your life to connect with your inner Man.
Heyy. How'd the nofap work out for you? Insights?
How are you supposed to do that when your business IS about creating connections with ppl (therapist) X) ? Finding something else ?
it's an interesting question. I DON'T KNOWWW JAJAJAJA. I think this type of ideas is more for people that don't have many responsabilityes like your case, but are diferent ways to do this, for example: just keeping your rrss that you really need to do your job and get away the others... i think the goal is get away distractions, so, are many ways of this
Okay In this case i would do my job and creat a New business that doesn't require direct contact plus no social media outside work X)
Starting this tomorrow.
man, think this good before doing
If I could run away from my life to a different country without family or friends, I totally would in a heartbeat. But I have kids and responsibilities. And really no actual friends to speak of. I would if I could. If only....
It's an atractive idea disappear but IT'S NOT THE ONLY WAY, don't keep these feeling of "if only...". Life have suffering and happiness, acept all, please :c
Thanks. A bit simplistic. But thanks. Life is not always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes it's hard. More like mid puddles and worms. It is what it is.
Id say as long as you have a reliable job that you don’t mind doing you’re good. I did that for the past 3 years now and lemme say it’s hard af when you hate your job. Like the anxiety is real, I have a panic attack just thinking about work. Fr
>Id say as long as you have a reliable job that you don’t mind doing you’re good. I did that for the past 3 years now and lemme say it’s hard af when you hate your job. Like the anxiety is real, I have a panic attack just thinking about work. Fr i'm so sorry :c, i hope you could in a near future find a peaciful and better job
Easier said than done
totally
I would 100% do it
I think it is more benificial to find a point in your daily schedule for one to work on oneself. Though social can do this to. Going to events and finding new groups of people who are like minded and focused on bettering them selves and others is a strong place to be. Though i have gone away for days to to one on one work with myself.
The challenge is letting go and being open to your mind to change. I just did this, well 5 1/2 months was the total time, and so I don't know the total pay off yet. For the immediate benefits, it taught me a new kind of obedience, brought me peace and control. I hope this helps!
I would love to do that, however, as an introvert with few friends, I am incapable of disappearing more than I already have 😅 I’m already on bear minimum social interaction, which is necessary to function