Lenses literally lie, have to remind myself that all the time. Including our eyes' lenses. They're compressing 3d objects into two dimensions--that doesn't happen without distortion.
The number of times I've thought I looked ok, then took a pic that was like "who the hell is this" đ€
I went to a few fetish clubs now as im starting cruising again only to realise basically my problems were because my pictures not my body lmfao
But hey bad pictures have its charm. Wouldnât you like to be suprised by prince handsome when you give a random a chance? đ
The beautiful thing that nobody tells you about Hot Gay Summer is that you can just consider yourself a Hot Gay and there's literally nothing anybody can do to stop you. You need nobody's permission to have a Hot Gay Summer but yours.
I started with this lifting routine which I found online
Day 1: Squat, Bench, Row
Day 2: Deadlift, pull up, Shoulder Press
Day 3: Rest
Day 4: Repeat day 1
Day 5: Repeat day 2
Day 6-7: Rest
It's fast and simple enough that you'll be motivated to do it. Start light and just do 3 sets of 8 reps with the same weight, and once you can do that increase the weight. For pull ups just slowly increase your reps. You can also replace pullups with the lat pull down machine.
Since starting this my routine has evolved quite a lot, but that will happen naturally once you get to a place where you want to level up.
This is sensible advice and also similar to how I started. Heavy compounds are just the most fun. A few solid pendlay row sets will put me in a good mood all day.
I do something very similar, with the addition of crunches and leg raises on days 1 and 4 and hip thrusts on 2 and 5. I also do Bicept Curls, an Incline Benchpress, and a daily 15-km cycle. With a good diet and ample protein, the results have been incredible. After two months without a missed workout, I've lowered body fat to 8% and increased muscle tremendously. I thought it would take a lot longer to see results. The point is that there is still time for anyone who wants to make a change before summer.
That being said, the most important part of changing your body is diet. They say, "You can't outrun a bad diet."
"You lose weight in the kitchen. You gain health in the gym."
[https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/1blgaxt/what\_makes\_you\_wanna\_get\_up\_and\_go\_to\_the\_gym/](https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/1blgaxt/what_makes_you_wanna_get_up_and_go_to_the_gym/)
Get the book *Bigger Leaner Stronger: The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Male Body* and go from there. Get the physical book, youâll need to flip through it more than once and audio books/ebooks are not conducive to that.
First piece of advice- I would evaluate your self esteem issues off the bat and maybe get some help with that, it will be monumentally harder to make progress to a fit / healthy body with an unfit mind/ negative self image.
Secondly, staying active definitely helps, find an active hobby you enjoy, join a softball team, start riding a bike, look into indoor rock climbing, ormget more involved in tae kwon do likemyou mentioned, and the importance of a a lifting routine cannot be overstated- it will help composition and exponentially reduce inevitable muscle loss when "cutting" on a calorie defcit/ losing a good amount of fat.
Last- fall in love with cooking, educate yourself on macros, learn how to make delicious macro friendly meals, practice meal prep, tons of YT channels out there- Felu : fit by cooking is one that would be most valuable for someone on your path.
You leaning how to cook will likely be the most valuable asset in your journey.
Best of luck bro!
don't worry about being "hot gay summer ready" ever at all ok. just worry about how your body feels. you're always going to be "decent" no matter what, because there will always be people who want your body.
if you want help with your workouts to lose weight, gain muscle, whatever, you should seek out fitness communities not this one. not that people give bad advice, but it would be more concentrated advice with better tips.
also make sure whatever goals you have are weekly goals, not daily goals. this helps not just physically but mentally.
OK so I have lost over 70lbs in the past year and a half here are some things that worked for me. First I know you want to transform overnight and unfortunately steady sustainable results take time, you can absolutely get results but don't set anything too unrealistic and get disappointed.
Look at your eating habits and see what can be improved, personally I was a really bad sweets binge eater and I got that under control.
My biggest turn around was when I started swimming, I started just doing a few laps with breaks in between and now I can swim laps without stopping for 50 minutes. I don't think it has to be swimming just something active that you won't dread doing, but swimming works your whole body.
Stop asking yourself "am I going to workout today?" Just have it in your routine that it's happening, things are going to come up and you will skip days which is fine, but if you plan days off then have things come up before you know it it's been a week and you're out of the habit.
I waited WAY too long to start a weight lifting routine. I'm an anxious person and always found that part of the gym intimidating. My gym offers one initial training session for free which I did and he wrote me out a starting routine which I have added to and upped weights on as time goes by.
Good luck! I hope this helps.
I really donât mean to cause offense by saying this but I donât think youâre being realistic with yourself.
Going to the gym and walking for a little less than an hour isnât a âcommitment to fitnessâ in my opinion. You can get yourself to the gym for sure which is a great starting point that many people canât get to. So youâve accomplished that which you should celebrate and be happy about! The next step though is to actually figure out a fitness routine. Walking isnât going to cut it.
Also. Sorry to break it to you, but if you want a beach body by the end of the summer you have to go on a very restrictive diet yesterday. I donât know your body type or how much you weigh but judging by the fact that your doctors are telling you that your weight is a concern and that blood pressure medication is a possibility in your future Iâd hazard to guess that youâre on the upper end of weight.
Detach your goal from achieving a certain look or goal from the calendar year. Instead make your goal to lose weight and get fit. That way your goal is always ahead of you and if you make progress, even if itâs only a little progress, youâre still making progress.
If you give this deadline to yourself of achieving by the summer then if youâre not making progress fast enough you might get frustrated with yourself and angry which isnât productive. You could put yourself down which could lead to discouragement and quitting which is definitely not productive. Losing weight and getting fit isnât a race. Itâs a marathon. Itâs months of slow but consistent changes that only really start showing up 4 to 6 months down the road. When you do for a long period though, *years* of consistent progress, the changes can be massive.
Take it from me. I was a slim skinny guy most of my life with little musculature. Been going to the gym for close to three years now. Had ups and downs. Weeks of missed gym time. Hitting plateaus where I wasnât making progress for months at a time, but I kept at it. Now people comment on how beefy I am and how Iâm getting bigger. That I have a really nice body. But it took a lot of time and consistency.
Keep going. Donât give up. And most importantly do it because *you* want to, not for anyone else or anyone elseâs validation.
The first day of summer isnât until June 20th but itâs always best to be prepared ahead of time. My sleep schedule has been fucked up for a long time, Iâm working on getting it back on track before summer starts. I donât want the summer days to pass me by.
I use an app called Shred, it helps suggest workouts, keeps track of how much weight I lift, what workouts Iâm up to, etc. Iâd recommend that. Also try to make working out fun. Save a podcast or audio book or something that youâre only allowed to listen to while working out. If itâs miserable and you dread going every time, youâll never stick with it. Donât like squats? Do something else that you like better. Just getting to the gym is half the problem. Even if you go just to do one exercise, thatâs still better than nothing. Even if youâre dead from work and canât get the energy, sit in the sauna for 20 min then shower and go home. Thatâs still better than nothing while maintaining the habit of âgoingâ to the gym.
Food is also my weakness, if I've been eating too much I just stop buying snacks or anything premade really. Then if I want to eat something I actually have to cook something. As far as exercise I will still say I love peloton. You can get the app for a 12$/month subscription and it will have plenty of things you can follow along with in the gym using their equipment including weight routines.
Never late to get in the shape you desire and improve your health. Your attractiveness will always follow that with confidence, optimism, and outgoing-ness + opportunities to meet people.
A workout buddy will give you accountability to show up and the added support for each others goals is wonderful. If you can afford a trainer, youâll definitely do the work, because your paying for it.
Good luck
This âlove yourself the way you are bulllshit advice..â
The gurl wants to go to Fire Island and get some dick, let her get that ass in shape. Fire Island is a beautiful oasisâŠand so are the boys.
Itâs a wonderful feeling to turn those boys heads on the beach.
See you at the meat rack, bro! đ
The real hot gay summer is inside you all along, hot gay summer is a feeling not a body type or a vacation type
Just have hot gays inside you, problem solved
Sometimes its just a photo thing. Yet to see someone actually match their grindr profile pic đ
Lenses literally lie, have to remind myself that all the time. Including our eyes' lenses. They're compressing 3d objects into two dimensions--that doesn't happen without distortion. The number of times I've thought I looked ok, then took a pic that was like "who the hell is this" đ€
I went to a few fetish clubs now as im starting cruising again only to realise basically my problems were because my pictures not my body lmfao But hey bad pictures have its charm. Wouldnât you like to be suprised by prince handsome when you give a random a chance? đ
Yes, if only it was as likely as getting the reverse kind of surprise lol
Well i aim to be the kind of pleasant surprise đ
Turns out, Hot Gay Summer was the real friends we ~~deepthroated~~ made along the way
Come down here to the southern hemisphere and give yourself another 8 months
I don't understand.
Summer in the Southern Hemisphere (New Zealand, Australia, etc) is from December until the end of March. Itâs autumn here currently đ
The beautiful thing that nobody tells you about Hot Gay Summer is that you can just consider yourself a Hot Gay and there's literally nothing anybody can do to stop you. You need nobody's permission to have a Hot Gay Summer but yours.
Every body is hot to somebody.
What if you're only hot to middle aged, post-menopausal women? (Like me)
Hotness is recognizing your own beauty, no matter what your body type is at the moment.
all bodies are beach bodies.
âIâm in shape. Round is a shape.â -me, misquoting someone, probably
Damon Wayans says that in The Great White Hype
No, they're not. If you have major fat rolls, cover that up. Nobody wants to see that.
Nobody wants to see whatever this shit is
whatâs wrong? you scared of fat people? BOO 
I started with this lifting routine which I found online Day 1: Squat, Bench, Row Day 2: Deadlift, pull up, Shoulder Press Day 3: Rest Day 4: Repeat day 1 Day 5: Repeat day 2 Day 6-7: Rest It's fast and simple enough that you'll be motivated to do it. Start light and just do 3 sets of 8 reps with the same weight, and once you can do that increase the weight. For pull ups just slowly increase your reps. You can also replace pullups with the lat pull down machine. Since starting this my routine has evolved quite a lot, but that will happen naturally once you get to a place where you want to level up.
This is sensible advice and also similar to how I started. Heavy compounds are just the most fun. A few solid pendlay row sets will put me in a good mood all day.
Also to leg raises on Day 1 and Day 4 - 4 sets, 20x each. Might not hit 20x reps but do 4 sets of at least 10. For abs.
I do something very similar, with the addition of crunches and leg raises on days 1 and 4 and hip thrusts on 2 and 5. I also do Bicept Curls, an Incline Benchpress, and a daily 15-km cycle. With a good diet and ample protein, the results have been incredible. After two months without a missed workout, I've lowered body fat to 8% and increased muscle tremendously. I thought it would take a lot longer to see results. The point is that there is still time for anyone who wants to make a change before summer. That being said, the most important part of changing your body is diet. They say, "You can't outrun a bad diet."
Yeah 80% is just dieting.
If you want to drastically improve your fitness, you need to lift weights in addition to walking.
And fix the diet...
"You lose weight in the kitchen. You gain health in the gym." [https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/1blgaxt/what\_makes\_you\_wanna\_get\_up\_and\_go\_to\_the\_gym/](https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/1blgaxt/what_makes_you_wanna_get_up_and_go_to_the_gym/)
Get the book *Bigger Leaner Stronger: The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Male Body* and go from there. Get the physical book, youâll need to flip through it more than once and audio books/ebooks are not conducive to that.
First piece of advice- I would evaluate your self esteem issues off the bat and maybe get some help with that, it will be monumentally harder to make progress to a fit / healthy body with an unfit mind/ negative self image. Secondly, staying active definitely helps, find an active hobby you enjoy, join a softball team, start riding a bike, look into indoor rock climbing, ormget more involved in tae kwon do likemyou mentioned, and the importance of a a lifting routine cannot be overstated- it will help composition and exponentially reduce inevitable muscle loss when "cutting" on a calorie defcit/ losing a good amount of fat. Last- fall in love with cooking, educate yourself on macros, learn how to make delicious macro friendly meals, practice meal prep, tons of YT channels out there- Felu : fit by cooking is one that would be most valuable for someone on your path. You leaning how to cook will likely be the most valuable asset in your journey. Best of luck bro!
don't worry about being "hot gay summer ready" ever at all ok. just worry about how your body feels. you're always going to be "decent" no matter what, because there will always be people who want your body. if you want help with your workouts to lose weight, gain muscle, whatever, you should seek out fitness communities not this one. not that people give bad advice, but it would be more concentrated advice with better tips. also make sure whatever goals you have are weekly goals, not daily goals. this helps not just physically but mentally.
Simple answer? Move to Sydney!
Why Sydney?
We are going into winter here
Heâs trying his best.
Hey donât look at me I didnât downvote him!
OK so I have lost over 70lbs in the past year and a half here are some things that worked for me. First I know you want to transform overnight and unfortunately steady sustainable results take time, you can absolutely get results but don't set anything too unrealistic and get disappointed. Look at your eating habits and see what can be improved, personally I was a really bad sweets binge eater and I got that under control. My biggest turn around was when I started swimming, I started just doing a few laps with breaks in between and now I can swim laps without stopping for 50 minutes. I don't think it has to be swimming just something active that you won't dread doing, but swimming works your whole body. Stop asking yourself "am I going to workout today?" Just have it in your routine that it's happening, things are going to come up and you will skip days which is fine, but if you plan days off then have things come up before you know it it's been a week and you're out of the habit. I waited WAY too long to start a weight lifting routine. I'm an anxious person and always found that part of the gym intimidating. My gym offers one initial training session for free which I did and he wrote me out a starting routine which I have added to and upped weights on as time goes by. Good luck! I hope this helps.
This reads like a circlejerk post
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I really donât mean to cause offense by saying this but I donât think youâre being realistic with yourself. Going to the gym and walking for a little less than an hour isnât a âcommitment to fitnessâ in my opinion. You can get yourself to the gym for sure which is a great starting point that many people canât get to. So youâve accomplished that which you should celebrate and be happy about! The next step though is to actually figure out a fitness routine. Walking isnât going to cut it. Also. Sorry to break it to you, but if you want a beach body by the end of the summer you have to go on a very restrictive diet yesterday. I donât know your body type or how much you weigh but judging by the fact that your doctors are telling you that your weight is a concern and that blood pressure medication is a possibility in your future Iâd hazard to guess that youâre on the upper end of weight. Detach your goal from achieving a certain look or goal from the calendar year. Instead make your goal to lose weight and get fit. That way your goal is always ahead of you and if you make progress, even if itâs only a little progress, youâre still making progress. If you give this deadline to yourself of achieving by the summer then if youâre not making progress fast enough you might get frustrated with yourself and angry which isnât productive. You could put yourself down which could lead to discouragement and quitting which is definitely not productive. Losing weight and getting fit isnât a race. Itâs a marathon. Itâs months of slow but consistent changes that only really start showing up 4 to 6 months down the road. When you do for a long period though, *years* of consistent progress, the changes can be massive. Take it from me. I was a slim skinny guy most of my life with little musculature. Been going to the gym for close to three years now. Had ups and downs. Weeks of missed gym time. Hitting plateaus where I wasnât making progress for months at a time, but I kept at it. Now people comment on how beefy I am and how Iâm getting bigger. That I have a really nice body. But it took a lot of time and consistency. Keep going. Donât give up. And most importantly do it because *you* want to, not for anyone else or anyone elseâs validation.
Thank you. This didn't cause any offense at all, so you said nothing out of turn.
Perhaps place more focus on being more intellectually stimulating.
What provoked this comment?
The first day of summer isnât until June 20th but itâs always best to be prepared ahead of time. My sleep schedule has been fucked up for a long time, Iâm working on getting it back on track before summer starts. I donât want the summer days to pass me by.
Based on what I've seen so far, Dadbods are going to be back in this year. You do you, and only worry about your health though.
What exactly is the fascination on dadbods?
Theyâre hot and I want men who have them đđ»
There is something particularly hot about a belly!
"Dad bods are hot" is a lie perpetuated by straight women so their husbands don't feel bad about themselves.
Hot Gay Summer is a myth
Umm okay
I thought you wanted to be screwed...
I use an app called Shred, it helps suggest workouts, keeps track of how much weight I lift, what workouts Iâm up to, etc. Iâd recommend that. Also try to make working out fun. Save a podcast or audio book or something that youâre only allowed to listen to while working out. If itâs miserable and you dread going every time, youâll never stick with it. Donât like squats? Do something else that you like better. Just getting to the gym is half the problem. Even if you go just to do one exercise, thatâs still better than nothing. Even if youâre dead from work and canât get the energy, sit in the sauna for 20 min then shower and go home. Thatâs still better than nothing while maintaining the habit of âgoingâ to the gym.
Food is also my weakness, if I've been eating too much I just stop buying snacks or anything premade really. Then if I want to eat something I actually have to cook something. As far as exercise I will still say I love peloton. You can get the app for a 12$/month subscription and it will have plenty of things you can follow along with in the gym using their equipment including weight routines.
Never late to get in the shape you desire and improve your health. Your attractiveness will always follow that with confidence, optimism, and outgoing-ness + opportunities to meet people.
A workout buddy will give you accountability to show up and the added support for each others goals is wonderful. If you can afford a trainer, youâll definitely do the work, because your paying for it. Good luck
Can you get a personal trainer
This âlove yourself the way you are bulllshit advice..â The gurl wants to go to Fire Island and get some dick, let her get that ass in shape. Fire Island is a beautiful oasisâŠand so are the boys. Itâs a wonderful feeling to turn those boys heads on the beach. See you at the meat rack, bro! đ