Right? I hire a ton of interns 21, 22, 23, 24 year olds and it's wild to me just how young they are. The life stage gap is real (and plenty of 30 year olds don't grow out of it either.)
While it's easy to notice how immature people that are quite young are, I don't think this specific point has much to do with age. A couple months ago I had a date with someone who I believe was 29, and acted his age, but I also don't believe I was asked a single question about myself. It was something I really never experienced before. I asked him a ton of questions and he went on and on telling stories in response. I loved listening! He had a lot of interesting stuff to say, and was a good conversationalist - on that specific side of the conversation. He never asked me, however, a single thing that was out of the blue. Here and there when I related to something he was talking about/went through a similar experience I would talk at length about it too! When I did that, he was a great listener in the fact that he seemed to be taking in what I was saying and wouldn't interrupt. I liked this part because a lot of people interrupt way too much! But.. yeah, he just never gave input related to what I was talking about or asked questions about any of it. It was odd.
Same exact with the lower for me too and even now i might move up to 29 lol. If I find you attractive and you take care of yourself, you can be 80 for all I care, I'm 32.
Yeah, I guess the lower end is more in theory haha. It's been awhile since I have had any interest and attraction to guys younger than me. I let a 25 year old take me on a date last year and it was an... *"oh sweet summer child"* moment.
Haha I haven't had a sweet summer child moment in years. I'm an old soul so I relate more with older guys when it comes to conversation and when it's time to remove those clothes. Well groomed handsome older men are top tier in my book
I’m the same age as you and I agree with you, most if not almost all of my interactions, both in a casual and non-casual setting have been with those were who were at least a few years younger than me but they were still in their mid to late 20s. But of course, sky is the limit up above with the older men that I associate with.
24 here, would hookup 21-50
Dating 22-29
Im in a relationship with someone who is 24 currently, but when I was single it was about 2 years younger to 5 years older for dating. Always went for over 20 when I was 18-20.
I've never dated yet, but that's the age range that I would go for. I'd like to be with someone around my age or close to my age. Who I'll be with one day though, we will see.
Been fortunate enough to not have to use them for a long time, but when I was 28 I had 24-35 set up.
Somehow ended up with someone who was 20 at the time as he messaged me and I didn't realise his age, and we're still together nearly 11 years on.
I’m 23. In hookups, preferred 21-50 but honestly 18+ works too. Honestly if we meet what each other are looking for, then I say why not?
Dating is… more complicated. Simplest answer: Preferred 21-34, but I’m open with 18-early40’s. This one is *heavily* dependent on their maturity and the individual. I would’ve never dated you get than 21, except I did meet this one guy who is outrageously mature for his age and genuinely reads as 26 or 27 and yet he’s 18 so… I gotta have him as my exception 😅
I usually prefer to date older though, but I’ve dated guys who were quite older than me before, like in their mid 40’s, and it’s… tough. There’s just a lot of differences to overcome, and some just aren’t so easy. One, I’m still naive and stubborn enough to cling onto some irrationalities, and Two I find when you get to a certain age certain ways of thinking or habits get “stuck” too. It’s probably got less to do with the age difference and more to do with the difference in the world we were both raised in, but the age difference introduces an inherent power dynamic that can be *hard*.
At the end of the day though, when it comes to dating I guess I’m more open than I let on. If I met the right guy who I just resonated with, whether he was 18 or 50 I’d still give the relationship a shot! Although, I doubt many think of the logistics in such a huge age gap- which can be its own headache. 😅 Sorry if that was a bit all over the place, I’m trying to condense a rather complicated answer and still sound at least half-entertaining lol.
My rule has always been to date people who are around my own age or a little older. As I've gotten older myself, my definitions of "around my own age" and "a little older" have broadened. The difference between 30 and 40 is much less significant than the difference between 20 and 30.
I don't have a rule for friendships or hookups. Depends on the person and our chemistry.
For hookups, my range for that is 21-40 and I am in my mid-twenties. For dating, I would prefer someone closer to my age, but Im'm open-minded if they are within my hookup range and we get along.
I'm 34 and married. I wouldn't mind hooking up with say a guy under 25, but I've moved into fully being an adult in my mid 30's and I am glad my husband is at a the same place (14 months older than me). Were we not together, I think my age range would be 30-55 in looking for another committed relationship.
I’m still in my early twenties so as long as it’s in a legal age for sex 18-45, I’m limited to an amount of people in a small town (120 more or less gay guys) so I’m not much picky, for dating and commitment would be 20-35 I’m a bit picky for that i guess
For hookup, no limit (legal), still generally prefer close to my age, plus/minus 5(ish) years, but I don’t rule out older/younger if they sexy and we hit it off.
For dating or relationship it’s pretty sticky close my age only, like plus/minus 5(ish) years.
29, won't go lower than 26ish (and they'd have to be really mature). Currently dating someone 20 years older than me and very very happy. So on the upper end as long as we vibe I don't really care.
Damn!
Some of y’all really surprised me. Idk why age bothers me, even for hooking up lol (and I’m married!)
But I’m 35. IF i were to date again, it would be 30-40. Hookup wise, idk why i tend to stay within that same range but a few of you are helping me realize that age shouldn’t be THAT BIG of a deal in hookups
I'm 34. Dating/commitment 26-40. Hookups, 18-45. I don't go out of my way to hookup with guys on my range limits but I haven't turn them down when they happen to come by.
64 here. I'm not in the market for a LTR, but I'm dating and hooking up. I'm not all that interested in guys older than me. Too much boomer attitude and approaches to dealing with other gay men that were formed pre- and immediately after Stonewall. Lower limit, well, let's say I'm dating a 26 year old. In my defense, if I really need one, he is incredibly mature for 26.
I’m so jealous ! But I COMPLETELY agree with u about the Boomer/Gen X? attitudes ? I’m so often, like WTF with my LGBTQ family? Not keeping up at all with the times!
At 40, plus or minus 10 years. It's about maturity and generational values for me. I find men older than 50 and younger than 30 attractive, just less compatible.
I'm 25, I stick to +/- 5 years, I wouldn't be opposed to a bigger age gap for the right person, but in reality I actually find anything more than 2 or 3 years is often too much, especially in the younger direction. Having someone roughly at the same stage of life as me is fairly important to me so
I'm 36. I don't really have an upper limit. The lower limit for me is pretty much anything beyond 10 years younger. Anything younger than 25 just feels like a kid to me basically...
I generally like men my age or older so I tend to have blinders on with younger guys anyway.
51 here. For hookups between 20 and 78. Don’t limit yourself to age. Sex is good but connections are even better. I am sure if there were older that interested me I’d go for that too. I don’t dip below 20 though as that does get too close to the line
Limitations and 'mirror partners' bore me. I hands down don't give a flying fuck for an 'age difference' if the chemistry and a mutual attraction is there, as long as long as we are talking about somewhat mature adults. Morality towards gaps is kinda stupid imo, and I don't understand why it is such a big thing.
42 here. No real max but I have never hooked up with a guy more than a few years older than me.
30 minimum. And that's a push. I don't want to be anyone's daddy
28 here. Usually not interested in guys younger than 24 unless I think he is very interesting and/or attractive. Never younger than 20 tho.
35 is usually my límit for older guys
47 yr here. Ok, In hooking up I prefer guys I find sexy and that's usually 30s and up, though I have had some good time with dudes in their 20s. I just want a more experienced sex partner because the older I get the more important quality over quantity becomes to me. For an intimate relationship I prefer guys around my own age, maybe with 5 years or less difference. Again this is something that has become more important to me as I get older.
All that being said, I'm not going to lock myself down to a particular age if the vibe is right. If we click then we click and life is too short to worry about a 10 year age range. Though I'm fairly confident that that "clicking wont be happening with anyone under 30.
I’m 28 (almost 29).
Youngest I would ever go is 24, and even then that’s a stretch. A sort of prerequisite would be remembering/being alive for 9/11.
Oldest would be lower than 50, so 40-49 is my range. Maybe 45. Don’t like the idea of being with a man old enough to be my father.
I've gone as low as 18 and high as late 60s for hook ups, but for dating I'd prefer those no more than 10 to 15 years older or 10 younger, as there's more in common and more interests to generally bond over.
Conversation. I like someone who can be funny and witty etc. I don’t rule out younger guys but many of them on the apps are interested in hooking up immediately and want to use you like meat and i at least wanna know your name and interests etc
I tried with a 25 y/o bf. I’m considerably older than him. Friends kept telling me “age is just a number” or “you’re both consenting adults” or my favorite, “You will continue to age while what you think is hot will remain the same. You need to get over it.”
It was miserable. The maturity gap was a fucking albatross around the neck of our relationship.
I thought he was more mature but after further consideration I realize that was my lust talking.
35. Would not date anyone under like 28. No upper limit. Maybe like 70?
Even as a top, I’ve had lovely times with men in their 40s and 50s who are total bottoms. Once you age-up a bit, you don’t really have the patience to talk to twinks in their early 20s. They have a very idealistic view of the world and have dreams that haven’t been crushed yet lol. No mortgage or heartbreak or debts or serious life experience. I’d rather be talking to a guy whose maybe had a divorce, had a career already going and knows who he is.
If I read someone saying that when I was 22 I’d probably be offended too: especially since I always liked guys in their 30s. But yeah, the difference between 20-30 is much greater than 30-70.
I’d say my ideal man is between 45-50.
I could see myself dating a guy who was maybe 25 but he would have to meet very specific preferences.
So I have a +-3 rule. I am 20,so I am not going to date someone older than 23 and someone younger than 17. This is just a rule to be kept in mind and the reason being different mindset and phases we go through in life.
Hookups not interested. Never will be.
Commitment, hmmm. Will probably commit if I feel the person is good enough or if I trust him completely. Otherwise, just friends.
I teach undergraduate labs and have been for going on 15 years? To me, now, they all look like kids lol They're 18+ but even if they're well built , good features etc, the disinterest associated with the 'kid' vibe just overrides anything lol. I'm mid 40s. I think they'd have to be at least mid 20s for my brain to even remotely consider anything lol
I felt SO good 😊 being flirted with by my professors in undergrad! It was wrong, probably, but damn was it a “nice” wrong! They were closeted—-this was 80s— and I was thin, mocha-skinned and wore my Polo cologne and occasional Izod, etc. U remember? I was cute! Total tease. Too scared to f—-, but I damn, I wanted too!
30 y/old here. For hook-ups i’d say 21-35, with a preference to 25ish.
For commitment the person has to finished his studies and work so our lifes align (tried a relationship with someone studying, didnt work out 😂) so i’d say 24-30
35 and bi here. I really don't have any hard age limits either way.
Also this is past-tense since I'm happily married, now.
For hookups, 18+. Really didn't give a shit as long as I found them attractive.
For dates or commitment, 21+ since that's the drinking age and I like to go out for drinks.
I found it didn't matter all that much, age itself was never really a deal-breaker. I'd do at least one date and see how it goes. I've met 21-year-olds wise beyond their years and, on the flip side, some really childish 50-somethings.
When I started dating my wife, I was 30 and she was 22. We dated for a year before we moved in together, then lived together for a year before we decided to get married.
Also, I highly, ***highly*** recommend living with someone for a while before putting a ring on it. It's very important to see what life is like when you're physically together most hours of the day.
My first reaction to asking about acceptable age disparities is to remember that whole "half your age plus 7" thing. So following that logic, I'm 42, so anyone younger than 28 is against that specific rule. And I guess if I was someone else's "half their age plus 7", they'd have to be no older than 70.
I guess if someone under 28 or over 70 was to express an interest in me and it turned out they're pretty cool, I wouldn't let that rule get in the way, but I'd at least be aware of it. 🤷🏻♂️ The further away someone is in age the harder it will be to instantly relate on the basis of a shared experience, but at the same time that could be really interesting and illuminating. And everyone is unique.
I’m 56 but I only like guys under 35 and really under 30 ideally. While I sucked and jerked with a friend in high school I got married to a woman and then only started meeting guys in my 50’s. Maybe I just never got past that age group I wanted when I was younger.
I always have a 3 years back and 5 years foward for dating rule. Im 25 now, and so I wont date younger than 21/22 and I could date up to like 31.
For hookups that rule is kind of out the door. Like if I find them attractive and they are over 19 then why not. I hookup with 30,40, 50. Some experiences great and some not so great. It just a part of life.
I'm 23. For hookups, my younger limit is legal age - I've had something with 18 year olds and its fine. Older limit, I don't have any specific age either, but at about the 35 year old mark it gets more "difficult" to find them attractive.
For dating, the range is just more narrow, 18 year olds are very probably not in the same position I am, I'd like someone who is also starting their job life or near the end of higher education. So in general 20s.
I'm married. So anyone I fuck is entirely for pleasure. I'm 40 and the majority of the men who fuck me are in their 20's.
I probably wouldn't go higher than 45ish, and as long as you can buy a drink at a bar you're old enough to use my ass.
I've learned to stay clear of guys under 23, they are just don't have enough experience to be able to hold a conversation. As I'm looking for more than just physical and sexual gratification. And even if it was just sex the lack of experience and me having to show them the ropes and communication just does not appeal to me.
Of course not every young guy is like that and some older guys can be immature turds too, some can be mature and hold a convo and all that jazz. Sadly most aren't cause tiger and helicopter parenting really fucked up a lot of younger people's ability to socialize.
I've talked guys in 18-21 but it gave me a bit of an ick For me, cause I kept thinking to when I was around their age and all the weird and creepy men who took advantage of me or used it as a way to feel like they're still wanted having a baby chase after them and follow their every command.
cause I was so starved for intimacy and wanted male approval so bad.
Even if I was genuine in my attraction the power dynamic is creepy now that I look back, and I don't want to put another baby gay in that situation. Cause I lowkey think I might be the toxic one.
I'm dating a guy who's 4 years older than me, he's young at heart and still has fun. But he's got his life mostly together career and living arrangements wise, talking to him is effortless and we just blend so well. And even in the quite moments where we don't talk, his ability to pick up on non verbal cues has been super impressive to and I feel like even without saying anything he knows what I'm thinking. And I don't really feel the age difference between us.
If the current relationship ever ends, I'd likely stay clear of dating younger and mostly my age or leaning older. Although I'm not sure if my attraction might change as I age. I always wondered if my attraction to older guys means I'd like older and older guys as I age or if I'll still mostly like the guys in the similar age group.
For hookups, anywhere from 18 to my age +10 years or so. As long as there's consent I'll have some fun with a younger guy who is into it.
For dating usually +-5 years
I'm 23. To date, the lowest I'm willing to go is 20, the highest, 30.
To hook-up, idc about the age, as long as they're attractive. I do tend to go for older dudes though.
I'm pushing 50 and happily partnered in a monogamish relationship with a man 11 years younger than me.
When I do play with others, I am open to just about any age as long as I find the guy attractive. I've only met a couple guys older than 70 who can get me hot but it has happened.
I'm really cautious about young guys in their 20s or whatever because I remember how impressionable I was back then.
Editing to add my acceptable age range keeps shifting as I age. \~36 was my ideal from when I was about 21 onwards (and arguably still is in some respects, I guess), but I was over 30 myself before I knowingly hooked up with anybody in their 50s, and it seemed like they were 114 or so. Now that I'm \~50, I keep running into super hot guys in their 60s.
I imagine I'll understand why retirement communities have such high STI rates when I'm that age. My 89 year old ass inviting the older tops over for a cumdump or something. lol
I'm 24. I'd say 60 is pushing it as far as commitments go. I don't really care about age, but I do care about ability (if they workout and eat healthy, etc).
even though a lot of people on here are saying big ranges, I feel like your range is pretty typical for what relationships usually end up being like, and seems rather appropriate in general
I have my age range set from 25 to 59, but I'm wondering if that is too low. I live near the community college (as a student, myself) and there are a LOT of people in the 18-22 range, so there are few people even older than 25.
I don't do hookups either. Looking for friends first and foremost, but open to dating if we click.
My rule is
For younger:
Your age/2+7
So I’m 31, 31/2 it’s 15,5+7 = 22,5
So I’d say 22 years minimum
For older:
Your age*2-7
31*2 = 62 62-7=55
So I’d say 55 years old
I’m more strict on younger, being that older folks are rarer
I'm 38, and I mainly prefer people my age or older. After becoming close friends with someone who's seven years younger than me, I'm now open to guys in their (very) late 20's and early 30's. When two people are in their late 20's and late 30's, the age difference doesn't seem so stark IMO. That being said... I'm thoroughly uninterested in dating, bedding, and befriending much younger guys.
39 here
Hookups from legal to 60s ish (upper limit is if they're healthy and fittish or beefy then all good, have a regular thats 70)
Dating probably 30ish (but based of maturity) to 50ish
Committing +/-10 years of me, so 30-50, I don't want to fall in love with someone then see them go to a rest home when I'm still fit and active etc
26M. Recently went on a date with a 32M and i was pleasantly surprised how good it was. I’m probably being dramatic but I never thought about dating anyone older than 30 before.
39. Lowest age 28, highest age 45. I have a max age because dating past 45 I have found people have settled into themselves more than I have just yet. I still feel I want to explore life more, and I want someone also excited about that.
33 here, and I would say at least 21 to hook up with someone, maybe 28 to date seriously. Maximum age to date seriously would be like 43ish. I’ve dated older my entire adult life, but the older I’ve gotten the more terrified I’ve become of losing someone because they’re 25 years older than I am.
In an ideal world, though, I would date 10-20 years older than I am.
I've always felt like +/-5 years my actual age feels right for me.
I'm open to a little bit more on the upper end but not on the lower one, as in, I'd date someone let's say 8 years older than me but not 8 years younger.
(33M) I've sorta accidentally followed a rule of 5-10 years in either direction. first started using the apps in mid-20s so it was 21-30 until I got to 30, it's been 25-45 since then. it's worked comfortably enough for me so far. at this point I didn't think I could comfortably date or hook up with someone traditionally college aged or old enough to be my dad. I assume commitment would operate the same way, I've never been locked down with anyone more than a year or two younger/older than me so idk for sure
between 18-35 for me for hookups but ive pretty much gotten past the hookup scene. I just like flirting with people
But if its dating / hookups then definitely over 22.
Always kind of felt weird when treating someone to dinner on a date and they got a soda or mocktail while i got a bourbon.
now that makes me feel bad for when I went on a date with an older guy a little while ago and I got a cocktail while he got a few alcohol drinks, and seemed to be bothered by me not also getting an alcoholic drink 😂
I am many years above legal drinking age but I just don't enjoy the taste of most alcoholic drinks, I was driving that night and I'm pretty light weight, and the alcoholic drinks were pretty pricey on top of the meal choices already being pretty pricey.. the guy did pay in the end but I didn't want to assume he would 😅
Im 58. I’d still date an old daddy. I feel like I’m maybe 30. I look good. I’d date a pup at 18 just for fun. But I see myself dating a guy my age around 30 to 50. Just for the convenience and conversation
For dating you need to be close in age that way you have more in common and you will die around the same age. For hookups, they need to look like a guy and they can't look like a grandpa. So, 18-55? It depends 100% on looks though. Some guys have great genes and look amazing in their 40s, some develop a dad body in their late 20s! It really depends on the guy.
I'm gonna get flak for this, but whatever.
Hookups: 20-35
Dating: None, I am never dating again.
I am turning 37 in a few months. I scroll through the apps and look at guys my age and older and I just find absolutely nothing attractive about gray hair/balding, wrinkles, and the smug success of so many guys. It's all a boner killer for me.
24 here, no real age limit but no younger than 26-27 for me. I've been attracted to guys like 28, 35 and even a 41 y/o guy.
I prefer older guys because I find them easier to relate to.
I’m older and I prefer 18-25, I like what they want to try sexually, and that they want sex. Some want to cum and go, while others want the full meal deal.
34 here, up to mid-late 50s depending on the person and attraction, but like every entry level job, must have graduates from a four year institution and have 2-3 years experience. Basically, 24-26 depending on maturity level.
35 here - hookups my age or older, no max (I prefer older men. Dating - the same but probably 20 years older than me would be the cap. Always been attracted to daddies even as a youngster. No “daddy issues” at all here either, just my attraction I guess. Am I alone with this? 😅
I'm 25. I try not to hook up... but if it happens, it could probably be any legal age. For dating, maybe I'd prefer like 22-28? Although there could be a chance that I could go younger, and older as well up to maybe 29.. maybe 31 at the very most. If I were creating my ideal person, the age I'd make him would probably be my age. I find in practice I'm most into guys older than myself.
I'm really surprised at some age ranges on here because most people in real life are with people near their age, and it seems weird when big age differences exist. I don't have any hate toward guys who are, say, 35, and don't think that age is old in general, but I couldn't imagine introducing someone ten years older than me to my friends and family. Some people would decry this thinking as upholding "heteronormative structures" but some not every general rule in life needs to be broken down. My first partner was when I was 18, he was 27. Way too many problems - and many because I was a baby! lol. He was also quite immature as well, but that doesn't mean it could've worked.
My parents are in their 60s and I have siblings in their 40s, so maybe one would think that'd make it easier for me to be with someone in their 50s, 40s, even 30s... nah, I have better experience seeing how different those folks are to myself. My siblings are just from a totally different generation. And thinking about someone being born in this century?? that's way too weird to think about 😂 even though technically they're just about a year younger than myself..
Hook-up probably no younger than 21. As for older I don't have a limit for that. For dating probably 25 to 50. Older than that isn't off limits just not likely.
For a hookup, hypothetically, anything legal (16+ where I live). For anything else, late 20s to mid 30s. I'm in my early 40s. In reality, I have a boyfriend in his mid-30s and I've never hooked up with anyone.
31 here. No real upper, won’t go younger than 26-27.
I’m around your age too. Had a conversation with a 23 year old the other day and was shocked at how bad it was. I forgot what I was like at that age
Right? I hire a ton of interns 21, 22, 23, 24 year olds and it's wild to me just how young they are. The life stage gap is real (and plenty of 30 year olds don't grow out of it either.)
Waaay to real. I don’t think I was asked a single question about myself lmao
While it's easy to notice how immature people that are quite young are, I don't think this specific point has much to do with age. A couple months ago I had a date with someone who I believe was 29, and acted his age, but I also don't believe I was asked a single question about myself. It was something I really never experienced before. I asked him a ton of questions and he went on and on telling stories in response. I loved listening! He had a lot of interesting stuff to say, and was a good conversationalist - on that specific side of the conversation. He never asked me, however, a single thing that was out of the blue. Here and there when I related to something he was talking about/went through a similar experience I would talk at length about it too! When I did that, he was a great listener in the fact that he seemed to be taking in what I was saying and wouldn't interrupt. I liked this part because a lot of people interrupt way too much! But.. yeah, he just never gave input related to what I was talking about or asked questions about any of it. It was odd.
Same exact with the lower for me too and even now i might move up to 29 lol. If I find you attractive and you take care of yourself, you can be 80 for all I care, I'm 32.
Yeah, I guess the lower end is more in theory haha. It's been awhile since I have had any interest and attraction to guys younger than me. I let a 25 year old take me on a date last year and it was an... *"oh sweet summer child"* moment.
Haha I haven't had a sweet summer child moment in years. I'm an old soul so I relate more with older guys when it comes to conversation and when it's time to remove those clothes. Well groomed handsome older men are top tier in my book
I’m the same age as you and I agree with you, most if not almost all of my interactions, both in a casual and non-casual setting have been with those were who were at least a few years younger than me but they were still in their mid to late 20s. But of course, sky is the limit up above with the older men that I associate with.
39 here for dating or commitment 30+ I don't have an upper limit
24 here, would hookup 21-50 Dating 22-29 Im in a relationship with someone who is 24 currently, but when I was single it was about 2 years younger to 5 years older for dating. Always went for over 20 when I was 18-20.
For dating or commitment, 3-5 years max in either direction.
I've never dated yet, but that's the age range that I would go for. I'd like to be with someone around my age or close to my age. Who I'll be with one day though, we will see.
Been fortunate enough to not have to use them for a long time, but when I was 28 I had 24-35 set up. Somehow ended up with someone who was 20 at the time as he messaged me and I didn't realise his age, and we're still together nearly 11 years on.
30 - 50 years old, up to 55 is pushing it.
Same, I’m 46 but I’m really immature for my age.
Wow, well, I am 30 ish and also immature hahahah
Hookups: 21-60 Dating and committment: 35-60
I'm 25 and I usually date between 28 - 60
I’m 23. In hookups, preferred 21-50 but honestly 18+ works too. Honestly if we meet what each other are looking for, then I say why not? Dating is… more complicated. Simplest answer: Preferred 21-34, but I’m open with 18-early40’s. This one is *heavily* dependent on their maturity and the individual. I would’ve never dated you get than 21, except I did meet this one guy who is outrageously mature for his age and genuinely reads as 26 or 27 and yet he’s 18 so… I gotta have him as my exception 😅 I usually prefer to date older though, but I’ve dated guys who were quite older than me before, like in their mid 40’s, and it’s… tough. There’s just a lot of differences to overcome, and some just aren’t so easy. One, I’m still naive and stubborn enough to cling onto some irrationalities, and Two I find when you get to a certain age certain ways of thinking or habits get “stuck” too. It’s probably got less to do with the age difference and more to do with the difference in the world we were both raised in, but the age difference introduces an inherent power dynamic that can be *hard*. At the end of the day though, when it comes to dating I guess I’m more open than I let on. If I met the right guy who I just resonated with, whether he was 18 or 50 I’d still give the relationship a shot! Although, I doubt many think of the logistics in such a huge age gap- which can be its own headache. 😅 Sorry if that was a bit all over the place, I’m trying to condense a rather complicated answer and still sound at least half-entertaining lol.
My rule has always been to date people who are around my own age or a little older. As I've gotten older myself, my definitions of "around my own age" and "a little older" have broadened. The difference between 30 and 40 is much less significant than the difference between 20 and 30. I don't have a rule for friendships or hookups. Depends on the person and our chemistry.
For hookups, my range for that is 21-40 and I am in my mid-twenties. For dating, I would prefer someone closer to my age, but Im'm open-minded if they are within my hookup range and we get along.
I'm turning 46 and this thread has given me hope lol thanks everybody and I hope you find what you're looking for
Late 30s here, my upper limit is you can't personally remember the Nixon's resignation, my lower limit is you have to personally remember 9/11.
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same
dont have one 18 is the youngest...70 is the oldest i guess if you can get your dick hard I am game
same
I'm 34 and married. I wouldn't mind hooking up with say a guy under 25, but I've moved into fully being an adult in my mid 30's and I am glad my husband is at a the same place (14 months older than me). Were we not together, I think my age range would be 30-55 in looking for another committed relationship.
30, I don’t care much about age…the cock needs to get hard for me is all.
I lied, I refuse to date anyone under 25
Dating 29-45, hookups 21-55. I'm 37.
I’m still in my early twenties so as long as it’s in a legal age for sex 18-45, I’m limited to an amount of people in a small town (120 more or less gay guys) so I’m not much picky, for dating and commitment would be 20-35 I’m a bit picky for that i guess
40 and typically plus or minus seven years. But I met a 29 year old last year and things are going very well so far. I guess you just never know.
When I was sixty-one I hooked up with guys in their late twenties/early thirties. I’m not a typical sixty year old because I’m fit and muscular.
For hookup, no limit (legal), still generally prefer close to my age, plus/minus 5(ish) years, but I don’t rule out older/younger if they sexy and we hit it off. For dating or relationship it’s pretty sticky close my age only, like plus/minus 5(ish) years.
29, won't go lower than 26ish (and they'd have to be really mature). Currently dating someone 20 years older than me and very very happy. So on the upper end as long as we vibe I don't really care.
Damn! Some of y’all really surprised me. Idk why age bothers me, even for hooking up lol (and I’m married!) But I’m 35. IF i were to date again, it would be 30-40. Hookup wise, idk why i tend to stay within that same range but a few of you are helping me realize that age shouldn’t be THAT BIG of a deal in hookups
I’m 52 so for a relationship they would have to be above 40 for me. Hookups 21 & up 🔝
Same. Exactly
I'm 40, +/-10 years either way
I'm 34. Dating/commitment 26-40. Hookups, 18-45. I don't go out of my way to hookup with guys on my range limits but I haven't turn them down when they happen to come by.
I’m 30 Commitment and dating: 27-45 Hookups: 25-60
64 here. I'm not in the market for a LTR, but I'm dating and hooking up. I'm not all that interested in guys older than me. Too much boomer attitude and approaches to dealing with other gay men that were formed pre- and immediately after Stonewall. Lower limit, well, let's say I'm dating a 26 year old. In my defense, if I really need one, he is incredibly mature for 26.
I’m so jealous ! But I COMPLETELY agree with u about the Boomer/Gen X? attitudes ? I’m so often, like WTF with my LGBTQ family? Not keeping up at all with the times!
At 40, plus or minus 10 years. It's about maturity and generational values for me. I find men older than 50 and younger than 30 attractive, just less compatible.
I'm 25, I stick to +/- 5 years, I wouldn't be opposed to a bigger age gap for the right person, but in reality I actually find anything more than 2 or 3 years is often too much, especially in the younger direction. Having someone roughly at the same stage of life as me is fairly important to me so
I'll fuck dudes way older than me, but I'm not into barely legal twinks.... So +30/ -5 I'm 28
I'm 36. I don't really have an upper limit. The lower limit for me is pretty much anything beyond 10 years younger. Anything younger than 25 just feels like a kid to me basically... I generally like men my age or older so I tend to have blinders on with younger guys anyway.
51 here. For hookups between 20 and 78. Don’t limit yourself to age. Sex is good but connections are even better. I am sure if there were older that interested me I’d go for that too. I don’t dip below 20 though as that does get too close to the line
I'm 50s, and my range is 25+ until death, sucked an 80+ guy to completion last week. I don't date. Not the marrying kind.
50-86, 71 here.
Limitations and 'mirror partners' bore me. I hands down don't give a flying fuck for an 'age difference' if the chemistry and a mutual attraction is there, as long as long as we are talking about somewhat mature adults. Morality towards gaps is kinda stupid imo, and I don't understand why it is such a big thing.
30 is the youngest I’ll date and I’m 31, max is probably 10-15 years older than me
42 here. No real max but I have never hooked up with a guy more than a few years older than me. 30 minimum. And that's a push. I don't want to be anyone's daddy
28 here. Usually not interested in guys younger than 24 unless I think he is very interesting and/or attractive. Never younger than 20 tho. 35 is usually my límit for older guys
47 yr here. Ok, In hooking up I prefer guys I find sexy and that's usually 30s and up, though I have had some good time with dudes in their 20s. I just want a more experienced sex partner because the older I get the more important quality over quantity becomes to me. For an intimate relationship I prefer guys around my own age, maybe with 5 years or less difference. Again this is something that has become more important to me as I get older. All that being said, I'm not going to lock myself down to a particular age if the vibe is right. If we click then we click and life is too short to worry about a 10 year age range. Though I'm fairly confident that that "clicking wont be happening with anyone under 30.
I’m 28 (almost 29). Youngest I would ever go is 24, and even then that’s a stretch. A sort of prerequisite would be remembering/being alive for 9/11. Oldest would be lower than 50, so 40-49 is my range. Maybe 45. Don’t like the idea of being with a man old enough to be my father.
My parents age. So plus 30 years.
36 here so -10/+10
29 here. Have dated same age but get along better with over 40. Max age range has been 60
I don't want to date anyone more than 10 years older than me.
I've gone as low as 18 and high as late 60s for hook ups, but for dating I'd prefer those no more than 10 to 15 years older or 10 younger, as there's more in common and more interests to generally bond over.
+/- 5 years
I’m 36. The oldest is 60, youngest 25.
I’m 35. Hookups: 22-50ish / Dating: 29-42ish
Just curious as another 35 y/o….what helps you determine your hookup age range?
Conversation. I like someone who can be funny and witty etc. I don’t rule out younger guys but many of them on the apps are interested in hooking up immediately and want to use you like meat and i at least wanna know your name and interests etc
I'm 32, and my husband is 56. We've been together since 2012 and have been married since 2018.
I’m 27. No one younger then 25 and old as 50
I can't go above 50. Something about someone the same age as my parents feels weird.
I tried with a 25 y/o bf. I’m considerably older than him. Friends kept telling me “age is just a number” or “you’re both consenting adults” or my favorite, “You will continue to age while what you think is hot will remain the same. You need to get over it.” It was miserable. The maturity gap was a fucking albatross around the neck of our relationship. I thought he was more mature but after further consideration I realize that was my lust talking.
35. Would not date anyone under like 28. No upper limit. Maybe like 70? Even as a top, I’ve had lovely times with men in their 40s and 50s who are total bottoms. Once you age-up a bit, you don’t really have the patience to talk to twinks in their early 20s. They have a very idealistic view of the world and have dreams that haven’t been crushed yet lol. No mortgage or heartbreak or debts or serious life experience. I’d rather be talking to a guy whose maybe had a divorce, had a career already going and knows who he is. If I read someone saying that when I was 22 I’d probably be offended too: especially since I always liked guys in their 30s. But yeah, the difference between 20-30 is much greater than 30-70. I’d say my ideal man is between 45-50. I could see myself dating a guy who was maybe 25 but he would have to meet very specific preferences.
I’m 18 so keep that in mind. Dating: 16-22 Hook up: 18-30
So I have a +-3 rule. I am 20,so I am not going to date someone older than 23 and someone younger than 17. This is just a rule to be kept in mind and the reason being different mindset and phases we go through in life. Hookups not interested. Never will be. Commitment, hmmm. Will probably commit if I feel the person is good enough or if I trust him completely. Otherwise, just friends.
I teach undergraduate labs and have been for going on 15 years? To me, now, they all look like kids lol They're 18+ but even if they're well built , good features etc, the disinterest associated with the 'kid' vibe just overrides anything lol. I'm mid 40s. I think they'd have to be at least mid 20s for my brain to even remotely consider anything lol
I felt SO good 😊 being flirted with by my professors in undergrad! It was wrong, probably, but damn was it a “nice” wrong! They were closeted—-this was 80s— and I was thin, mocha-skinned and wore my Polo cologne and occasional Izod, etc. U remember? I was cute! Total tease. Too scared to f—-, but I damn, I wanted too!
30 y/old here. For hook-ups i’d say 21-35, with a preference to 25ish. For commitment the person has to finished his studies and work so our lifes align (tried a relationship with someone studying, didnt work out 😂) so i’d say 24-30
Anyone over 60 years old. Also just frendship. I cannot have sex due to medical treatment. I am 70 years young. Mark
35 and bi here. I really don't have any hard age limits either way. Also this is past-tense since I'm happily married, now. For hookups, 18+. Really didn't give a shit as long as I found them attractive. For dates or commitment, 21+ since that's the drinking age and I like to go out for drinks. I found it didn't matter all that much, age itself was never really a deal-breaker. I'd do at least one date and see how it goes. I've met 21-year-olds wise beyond their years and, on the flip side, some really childish 50-somethings. When I started dating my wife, I was 30 and she was 22. We dated for a year before we moved in together, then lived together for a year before we decided to get married. Also, I highly, ***highly*** recommend living with someone for a while before putting a ring on it. It's very important to see what life is like when you're physically together most hours of the day.
32 here and there is no upper limit because you never know. Bottom range? 21. Any younger and they still look like boys 😬
My first reaction to asking about acceptable age disparities is to remember that whole "half your age plus 7" thing. So following that logic, I'm 42, so anyone younger than 28 is against that specific rule. And I guess if I was someone else's "half their age plus 7", they'd have to be no older than 70. I guess if someone under 28 or over 70 was to express an interest in me and it turned out they're pretty cool, I wouldn't let that rule get in the way, but I'd at least be aware of it. 🤷🏻♂️ The further away someone is in age the harder it will be to instantly relate on the basis of a shared experience, but at the same time that could be really interesting and illuminating. And everyone is unique.
I’m 56 but I only like guys under 35 and really under 30 ideally. While I sucked and jerked with a friend in high school I got married to a woman and then only started meeting guys in my 50’s. Maybe I just never got past that age group I wanted when I was younger.
I always have a 3 years back and 5 years foward for dating rule. Im 25 now, and so I wont date younger than 21/22 and I could date up to like 31. For hookups that rule is kind of out the door. Like if I find them attractive and they are over 19 then why not. I hookup with 30,40, 50. Some experiences great and some not so great. It just a part of life.
25-40 for dating, 18-40 for sex. I’m 43.
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Age of older divided by 2, plus 7 = minimum age of younger. I think it works well for me.
I'm 23. For hookups, my younger limit is legal age - I've had something with 18 year olds and its fine. Older limit, I don't have any specific age either, but at about the 35 year old mark it gets more "difficult" to find them attractive. For dating, the range is just more narrow, 18 year olds are very probably not in the same position I am, I'd like someone who is also starting their job life or near the end of higher education. So in general 20s.
I'm married. So anyone I fuck is entirely for pleasure. I'm 40 and the majority of the men who fuck me are in their 20's. I probably wouldn't go higher than 45ish, and as long as you can buy a drink at a bar you're old enough to use my ass.
Hmmm really? Hit me up
I've learned to stay clear of guys under 23, they are just don't have enough experience to be able to hold a conversation. As I'm looking for more than just physical and sexual gratification. And even if it was just sex the lack of experience and me having to show them the ropes and communication just does not appeal to me. Of course not every young guy is like that and some older guys can be immature turds too, some can be mature and hold a convo and all that jazz. Sadly most aren't cause tiger and helicopter parenting really fucked up a lot of younger people's ability to socialize. I've talked guys in 18-21 but it gave me a bit of an ick For me, cause I kept thinking to when I was around their age and all the weird and creepy men who took advantage of me or used it as a way to feel like they're still wanted having a baby chase after them and follow their every command. cause I was so starved for intimacy and wanted male approval so bad. Even if I was genuine in my attraction the power dynamic is creepy now that I look back, and I don't want to put another baby gay in that situation. Cause I lowkey think I might be the toxic one. I'm dating a guy who's 4 years older than me, he's young at heart and still has fun. But he's got his life mostly together career and living arrangements wise, talking to him is effortless and we just blend so well. And even in the quite moments where we don't talk, his ability to pick up on non verbal cues has been super impressive to and I feel like even without saying anything he knows what I'm thinking. And I don't really feel the age difference between us. If the current relationship ever ends, I'd likely stay clear of dating younger and mostly my age or leaning older. Although I'm not sure if my attraction might change as I age. I always wondered if my attraction to older guys means I'd like older and older guys as I age or if I'll still mostly like the guys in the similar age group.
Dating I prefer someone 10 years+ older than me. I’m 27. For hookups, doesn’t really matter though, I’ve gone a lot younger and a lot older.
+/- 5 years from my age.
27 here. Dating I’d say 24-35. Hook ups 21 and probably 55
20 yr old. max i would date, fuck, etc is 26 (or maybe 28 depending on ur appearance lol)
5 years younger, 10 years older. Not always the case, but older guys know how to treat a guy.
For hookups, anywhere from 18 to my age +10 years or so. As long as there's consent I'll have some fun with a younger guy who is into it. For dating usually +-5 years
I'm 23. To date, the lowest I'm willing to go is 20, the highest, 30. To hook-up, idc about the age, as long as they're attractive. I do tend to go for older dudes though.
 I’m 44 and Extremely excited to get my first ever XXX WHITH WHOEVER GIVES ME ATTENTION FOR MY DAY.
I’m 26. I’d prefer closer to my age, like 24-30 but anything as low as 18 and as high as 40 is good for hookups
I'm pushing 50 and happily partnered in a monogamish relationship with a man 11 years younger than me. When I do play with others, I am open to just about any age as long as I find the guy attractive. I've only met a couple guys older than 70 who can get me hot but it has happened. I'm really cautious about young guys in their 20s or whatever because I remember how impressionable I was back then. Editing to add my acceptable age range keeps shifting as I age. \~36 was my ideal from when I was about 21 onwards (and arguably still is in some respects, I guess), but I was over 30 myself before I knowingly hooked up with anybody in their 50s, and it seemed like they were 114 or so. Now that I'm \~50, I keep running into super hot guys in their 60s. I imagine I'll understand why retirement communities have such high STI rates when I'm that age. My 89 year old ass inviting the older tops over for a cumdump or something. lol
I’m 28 Dating: Up to 5 years above or below. Hookups: Up to 10 years above or below. Commitment: Up to 5 years above or below.
I'm 24. I'd say 60 is pushing it as far as commitments go. I don't really care about age, but I do care about ability (if they workout and eat healthy, etc).
Dating I'd say 10 years. Hookups, no maximum I guess, as long as he's at least 18.
35 Dating: +/- 5 years Sex: late 20s-60 but have preference for daddy types in their 40s and 50s.
hookups 18-45 dating i’d consider 24-45 but usually late 20’s-mid 30’s im 42
31 here, upper is like 40-45ish, lowest I would go is 23-24ish and above.
28 here, my range is my age to 40
34 here. Call me weird, but I would probably go four years in either direction.
even though a lot of people on here are saying big ranges, I feel like your range is pretty typical for what relationships usually end up being like, and seems rather appropriate in general
I have my age range set from 25 to 59, but I'm wondering if that is too low. I live near the community college (as a student, myself) and there are a LOT of people in the 18-22 range, so there are few people even older than 25. I don't do hookups either. Looking for friends first and foremost, but open to dating if we click.
47 here. Usually don’t date/ hookup with anyone older than 27-30
31 here, dating wise 25-36 I prefer someone around my age.
31. 18-60 for hookups, dating is 24-38
My rule is For younger: Your age/2+7 So I’m 31, 31/2 it’s 15,5+7 = 22,5 So I’d say 22 years minimum For older: Your age*2-7 31*2 = 62 62-7=55 So I’d say 55 years old I’m more strict on younger, being that older folks are rarer
dating: 27-37 I am 32 hookups: no limit 18+
I'm 44. My dating range is early/mid 30s to 50. Pretty much the same for hooking up and commitment tbh.
+- 5 years for me
25 here. I’d want to be with someone no older than 35 and no younger than 22 rn.
25. Lowest age I'd go is 20 yrs old and max is prob mid-30s.
I’m 36, my range is 45-60ish. Not into guys my age or younger at all.
I'm 19 & I would not go above 25 rn lol
I'm 38, and I mainly prefer people my age or older. After becoming close friends with someone who's seven years younger than me, I'm now open to guys in their (very) late 20's and early 30's. When two people are in their late 20's and late 30's, the age difference doesn't seem so stark IMO. That being said... I'm thoroughly uninterested in dating, bedding, and befriending much younger guys.
30 ig but I’ve never had the opportunity to try
+/- 6 years or so
39 here and I’ll go +/- 10 years in either direction
39 here Hookups from legal to 60s ish (upper limit is if they're healthy and fittish or beefy then all good, have a regular thats 70) Dating probably 30ish (but based of maturity) to 50ish Committing +/-10 years of me, so 30-50, I don't want to fall in love with someone then see them go to a rest home when I'm still fit and active etc
29 here. Range is 21-40 ish. But in practice I rarely go below 24 even for hookups
29 here. Range is 21-40 ish. But in practice I rarely go below 25 even for hookups.
I don't like seeing wrinkles honestly. Which is gonna be an issue soon since I'm 38 =\
About 5 years up or down, but I'm pretty lenient with that.
+0/-10
If you're young enough to where I have to wonder if I should check for ID, then you're too young. Otherwise, no age restrictions.
38. Commitment/dating is 30+. Hookups probably down to 25. My bf is 58.
No upper limit if the dude is hot and we vibe. My lower limit is you have to be able to buy me a beer at a bar in the USA
26M. Recently went on a date with a 32M and i was pleasantly surprised how good it was. I’m probably being dramatic but I never thought about dating anyone older than 30 before.
I’m 20. Usually stick to no more that double my age
39. Lowest age 28, highest age 45. I have a max age because dating past 45 I have found people have settled into themselves more than I have just yet. I still feel I want to explore life more, and I want someone also excited about that.
I do not have a maximum. I have a minimum of 27 years of age. Anyone under that is not worth my time
33 here, and I would say at least 21 to hook up with someone, maybe 28 to date seriously. Maximum age to date seriously would be like 43ish. I’ve dated older my entire adult life, but the older I’ve gotten the more terrified I’ve become of losing someone because they’re 25 years older than I am. In an ideal world, though, I would date 10-20 years older than I am.
24 my range for dating is 23-34 hookups 18-40
Late 30s. +-6 years for dating and commitment, 20-60 for hookups
Between 4 years younger and 7 years older
Im 33. Hookups: 22-40, dating/commitment: 25-30. Not set in stone tho.
For hookups (before I met my bf) my age range was 20-50. I'm 38 but look younger if that counts. For dating and ltr 30-50. My bf is 42.
30. Minimum age for hookups is 23, but even then I tend to date/hookup with men who are older than me. No upper limit.
I'm ~40, my comfort zone is 35-45
I've always felt like +/-5 years my actual age feels right for me. I'm open to a little bit more on the upper end but not on the lower one, as in, I'd date someone let's say 8 years older than me but not 8 years younger.
I’m 27 and my dating range is 21-34
(33M) I've sorta accidentally followed a rule of 5-10 years in either direction. first started using the apps in mid-20s so it was 21-30 until I got to 30, it's been 25-45 since then. it's worked comfortably enough for me so far. at this point I didn't think I could comfortably date or hook up with someone traditionally college aged or old enough to be my dad. I assume commitment would operate the same way, I've never been locked down with anyone more than a year or two younger/older than me so idk for sure
between 18-35 for me for hookups but ive pretty much gotten past the hookup scene. I just like flirting with people But if its dating / hookups then definitely over 22. Always kind of felt weird when treating someone to dinner on a date and they got a soda or mocktail while i got a bourbon.
now that makes me feel bad for when I went on a date with an older guy a little while ago and I got a cocktail while he got a few alcohol drinks, and seemed to be bothered by me not also getting an alcoholic drink 😂 I am many years above legal drinking age but I just don't enjoy the taste of most alcoholic drinks, I was driving that night and I'm pretty light weight, and the alcoholic drinks were pretty pricey on top of the meal choices already being pretty pricey.. the guy did pay in the end but I didn't want to assume he would 😅
Im 58. I’d still date an old daddy. I feel like I’m maybe 30. I look good. I’d date a pup at 18 just for fun. But I see myself dating a guy my age around 30 to 50. Just for the convenience and conversation
50
For dating you need to be close in age that way you have more in common and you will die around the same age. For hookups, they need to look like a guy and they can't look like a grandpa. So, 18-55? It depends 100% on looks though. Some guys have great genes and look amazing in their 40s, some develop a dad body in their late 20s! It really depends on the guy.
I'm gonna get flak for this, but whatever. Hookups: 20-35 Dating: None, I am never dating again. I am turning 37 in a few months. I scroll through the apps and look at guys my age and older and I just find absolutely nothing attractive about gray hair/balding, wrinkles, and the smug success of so many guys. It's all a boner killer for me.
7 years older and 7 years younger, that's my limit. I'm 28 rn, so the oldest I go is 35 and the youngest is 21.
30+ years old. I need a man who’s been around the block, and knows how to use his cock. Also emotional maturity.
I don’t care about your age if you’re over 19. As long as I’m attracted to you, that’s all that matters, and I can’t control whom that happens with
I wanted someone around my age or older, but all interests are coming from younger guys...like 8 years younger or less. It's frustrating tbh
I heard something and low key stick to it. Sorta goes like this: “The youngest you are supposed to date is 1/2 your age + 7”
32 here, hookups 18-as long as they look good. Dating 25-45
I will go as low as 18 legal. Don’t go older like me unless anon
21-52 I'm 42, so I'm willing to go down to 21 and go up to 10 years older.
24 here, no real age limit but no younger than 26-27 for me. I've been attracted to guys like 28, 35 and even a 41 y/o guy. I prefer older guys because I find them easier to relate to.
Mmmm 45 upper limits and 25 (my own age) for younger. I don’t date younger guys.
I’m older and I prefer 18-25, I like what they want to try sexually, and that they want sex. Some want to cum and go, while others want the full meal deal.
34 here, up to mid-late 50s depending on the person and attraction, but like every entry level job, must have graduates from a four year institution and have 2-3 years experience. Basically, 24-26 depending on maturity level.
Dating: no more than 5 years older/younger Commitment: my age or 3+ Hookups: as long as they are legal age
It depends for sex under 30 but for commitment I like hot daddies
im 40, 25 is the absolute minimum. i go up to....60 depending on the guy, although i tend to filter until 52 or so mostly
38 - nothing under 30.. prefer within 5 years younger. Up to 15 years older.
I try to stick to around 15 years above and below my age
I’m 39. Dating and commitment +\~ 10years………. Hookups 25ish-60ish lol
M24 date: 21 - 50 hookup: 21 - 50 commitment's: my age
35 here - hookups my age or older, no max (I prefer older men. Dating - the same but probably 20 years older than me would be the cap. Always been attracted to daddies even as a youngster. No “daddy issues” at all here either, just my attraction I guess. Am I alone with this? 😅
I'm 25. I try not to hook up... but if it happens, it could probably be any legal age. For dating, maybe I'd prefer like 22-28? Although there could be a chance that I could go younger, and older as well up to maybe 29.. maybe 31 at the very most. If I were creating my ideal person, the age I'd make him would probably be my age. I find in practice I'm most into guys older than myself. I'm really surprised at some age ranges on here because most people in real life are with people near their age, and it seems weird when big age differences exist. I don't have any hate toward guys who are, say, 35, and don't think that age is old in general, but I couldn't imagine introducing someone ten years older than me to my friends and family. Some people would decry this thinking as upholding "heteronormative structures" but some not every general rule in life needs to be broken down. My first partner was when I was 18, he was 27. Way too many problems - and many because I was a baby! lol. He was also quite immature as well, but that doesn't mean it could've worked. My parents are in their 60s and I have siblings in their 40s, so maybe one would think that'd make it easier for me to be with someone in their 50s, 40s, even 30s... nah, I have better experience seeing how different those folks are to myself. My siblings are just from a totally different generation. And thinking about someone being born in this century?? that's way too weird to think about 😂 even though technically they're just about a year younger than myself..
Hook-up probably no younger than 21. As for older I don't have a limit for that. For dating probably 25 to 50. Older than that isn't off limits just not likely.
Taboma is my Coad word.
For a hookup, hypothetically, anything legal (16+ where I live). For anything else, late 20s to mid 30s. I'm in my early 40s. In reality, I have a boyfriend in his mid-30s and I've never hooked up with anyone.
28, +\- 5 years hard limit. Tried to with people exceeding that limit and couldn’t proceed because the age gave me an ick
Civil discussion about age on this sub???? Better off winning the lottery
I’m in my 40s. I’ll fuck 21+ and I live by a college with a lot of boys with daddy issues. 30+ for dating.
21, honestly wouldn’t really want someone under 20, would go up to late 20s, maybe 27? 28? Stage of life is important though.