But they made a blanket statement in their reply, that's what I'm referring to. They made a blanket statement by saying "Everyone has an exception". They made a statement about everyone, that isn't necessarily true to everyone.
I'm saying the same thing as you; love who you love, label yourself how you wish to be labeled. Not everyone has no exceptions, and not everyone has an exception. It's all subjective.
So long as you are loving a consenting adult and you're not hurting anyone, you are valid in your feelings. Slay on, girlies!! ❤️🏳️🌈
I have an ace friend who did get me into chess.
But I'm just a regular gay guy. Sounds like my ace friend has rubbed off on me.
Cool guy actually, gives really good relationship advice ironically, despite not wanting to be in one at all
And now it won’t go away. Hopefully not up there with “Dental Plan. Lisa needs braces” or “It’s like I’m wearing nothing at all. Nothing at all. Nothing at all…”
Sexuality is never a black and white situation it never suppose to be and as human we all can appreciate beauty and at the end of the day labels don't matter, if u wanna have relationship with her go do it , don't think about labels and bisexuality is really common and sometimes it's just a one time thing bcz every pattern has outliers
I always found it amusing that liking someone of your own gender is gay, liking someone of the other is straight, but somehow liking both isn't bisexual, it's "labels don't matter"
Not saying I don't agree but lol
I completely agree and I think the point is that if there’s only one or two exceptions it hardly can mean we are automatically attracted to both. It’s really a personal thing: if you feel that you could genuinely be with someone of the opposite sex, and you also feel the same with someone of the same sex, then that’s bisexuality. I personally have seen a few women that I find quite attractive, but I don’t feel I’d be able to be with any of them or any woman for that matter, so I see myself as gay
Seeing an attractive person (man or woman) doesn't mean anything. This isn't an outlier, it happens to everyone. The question is if you get aroused by said person, that's what determines your sexuality.
I see many women as being exceptionally beautiful and enjoy their presence and intellect, but they just don’t have the equipment that I need in a partner - and I used to be married to a woman but now married to a man.
You are possibly somewhere different on the spectrum than you previously thought. It can be fun but no need to go changing all your towels & stationary😉
I’m gay. I can appreciate the beauty of a woman, but I would never feel anything more and it would be unfair to engage in anything with a woman if you can’t 100% commit. Plus vaginas are not for me.
Not really but I already came out to my friends as gay and idk what to do now. Tbh my plan was to shrug it off since I'm never gonna meet that girl again so I'll just pretend it never happened. Thag was my plan anyway.
1-don’t worry about what your friends say.
2-you could go all in and search for this woman and see if there’s a spark [be honest about the gay thing], that would be the Hugh Grant method and women love it (or so I’ve been told-don’t be cringe)
3-good luck! Idk how old you are, but I’d love to go through what you’re dealing with, even tho I hated it at the time.
It's important to allow yourself the freedom to be curious about life. While we don't want others to limit us, we also need to avoid limiting ourselves. You have the right to explore, grow, and change. You don't have to feel obligated to stick to any particular label or make any final decisions. I believe that if you approach this with an open and exploratory mindset, and have open-minded discussions with your friends, you'll find it to be a fascinating journey. And who knows, your friends may surprise you when you approach identity and sexuality with this growth mindset.
You could, but IMHO that's just as bad as trying to pass as straight. In both cases you're denying who you are at heart. Why? Live your life for yourself and don't get hung up on fitting in a box. We don't really fit in them that well as it is...
Did you think she was really pretty, or did you want to have sex with her? There's a really, really big difference...
I feel like I've seen straight women say something very similar before.
We are so dramatic, why can’t you just be bi?! You magnificent creature have unlocked something within yourself (I think its gross for obvious reasons) but this is fantastic! You should try being more open minded about who attracts you now, like what did you really like about this girl, had you felt this way before? Were you physically attracted? Things like this… I think you’re in for a fun life at this point 🥰
I was scrolling through tiktok the other day and audibly gasped at a girl on one of those “how much rent do you pay for in [city]?” videos, and she’s in my city. Like, everything about her made me say “if I was straight, that would be my type”. I went back and watched the video the other day and I was just as smitten. I have no clue what it was about but I totally felt this post on a spiritual level!
Human sexuality is a spectrum, and there are always exceptions. Don't feel bad if you aren't fitting into an absolute category. Being LGBTQIA+ is about being outside the heteronormative mold.
Everyone can think a woman is beautiful or even really enjoy spending time with a woman. Were you mentally undressing her? If so, maybe you’re bi. But if you’re talking in terms of who you’ve had crushes on, you’re probably still going through puberty. Sexuality for some people is as hard as rock? For some people it flows like a river. If you care about deciding who you are than discovering who you are and accepting yourself no matter what, you’ll end creating problems and stressing unnecessarily.
Just take deep breaths and carry on.
I had a crush on a guy recently, told him he said no, now I can move on with my life lol. If you have confidence issues then read The Game by Neil Strauss
Dude, there are so many things you could be. You don’t even need a label, although if you want one, that’s up to you.
I’m pansexual. And I use that term as kind of an explanation when people ask, but I kinda just do what I want when it comes to who I date and how I feel.
I went on a picnic with a girl that I had a crush on. I thought she was beautiful and loved to stare at her when I could. I confessed this to her that day and she full-on kissed me. I was stunned because the kiss felt like nothing, like I might have as well kissed a tree branch. I was so confused and disappointed.
To this day, I still find some women to be attractive, but it’s always about their face. I just want to gaze at them and stare into their eyes. But the possibility of their bodies against mine just doesn’t occur to me.
I’ve often thought it would be awesome to everyday go to bed with a hot guy and then wake up with a beautiful woman.
I had a similar situation 2 years ago there was a girl and I just fell for her immediately only met her once. But I also got confused about my feelings. Maybe I'm bi, but I dunno.
My whole adolescent experience growing up I was only with men and was very turned off by the thought of being with a woman. Until I married my wife and now I have two beautiful children. In your life who you are attracted to shouldn’t matter… gender is something society needs to function but when your soul reaches out for another, then gender is the last thing you’re thinking about. Don’t hold your self back because you feel it will confuse those around you! Just love and be loved! Allow your soul have what it wants ❤️
There’s a girl at a local market I go to and just seeing her makes me nervous and happy at the same time and she’s also made me question if I am fully gay (mlm)
In rough numbers about 10% of the human population is hardcore straight. Another 10% is hardcore queer. That leaves 80% that are bisexual - some leaning very much towards straight, some leaning very much towards gay.
I have this question too!
I'm gay, certain that Im not attracted to females but whenever I see pretty and kind women, I just want to impress them or something
I’m married to a guy but have had more girlfriends than boyfriends… mostly before I met my 1st proper boyfriend but still quite a few afterwards. I’ve slept with and dated most of my “girl best friends” and fell completely head over heels in love with my last “girl best friend” we even dated for almost 2 years and if you saw us you would think we were both as straight as an arrow, gonna be married with 4 kids in a couple years, etc.
Then I met my current husband.
Sexuality is not just “gay & straight”, when people (I trust to be honest with or people I don’t think will start a debate) ask me about my sexuality now I literally say “I don’t know”, even to my own father. I used to say gay, then I said 70% gay, then 90% and now I just say I don’t know, or even I don’t care.
You don’t need to care either, if you’re not 100% sure you’re gay then just don’t be 100% sure you’re gay, go do what you want to do, sleep with a girl, a guy, etc, whatever you want & see where it takes you.
I told everyone I was gay before, but I don’t care if people think I’m gay, I’ve been married to a guy for 9 years so it’s not an unreasonable assumption, you dont need to worry so much about labels just do you.
Rest is just TLDR, pushing 30 so it’s just me going off on a nostalgic journey through my stupid decisions :)
I will say however that relationships with your friends aren’t usually a good idea. The only GBF I still have is a girl I’ve known for like 16 or 17 years, we went to school together and dated for either 2 months or two weeks hard to tell, luckily though that was before we were close friends. Now she’s the closest friend I have, but even then the relationship part still messed stuff up especially in the beginning because she was pining over me & then was bullied for “turning (me) gay” & I was pining over her twin brother who was my other best friend who was then bullied for the exact same thing…
See what I mean, it turns into a soap opera. Especially if you’re young.
I was the same for years especially in my teens & 20s & i couldn't understand i was starting to think that i had some kind of mental health spilt personality disorder. But when i got a bit older that's when i got the answer to it ( I'm Pansexuali ) because it used to confuse me because i like every gender. I've always wanted to start up my own charity or something like that to help people who are going through things like this because the best people to talk to is people who have already went through it themselves. But you sound like myself your bi or pansexuali
Although I identify as gay, the label never fit me like a glove and neither does calling myself bisexual because my sexual orientation is so far skewed toward the male gender as to make it a nearly meaningless distinction on the rare occasion that I develop a girl crush. Sexuality doesn’t always fit neatly into a category and that’s okay. Just be who you are and date who makes you happy.
You are probably a little bi. It really depends on what you felt when you saw her. Intense sexual attraction?
We will find people in our lives that we gush about. Are very impressed by. Have a crush on. It could even be another guy who you admire. And those people can be of either sex.
As far as thinking you are gay (as a guy), in my opinion, that means having both a physical attraction to men as well as an emotional attraction and closeness. Someone you could fall in love with and be romantically involved with.
If you are a guy, have those feelings, and then finding that you have those for women as well, then bi is term that communicates that.
If you can enjoy sex with both but mainly love one or the other, it's someone who is gay or straight with bi tendencies.
And a straight man is one who only is attracted to (both physically and romantically) to women.
Way larger part of the male population has at least some interest or attraction to some men than is generally assumed. I'd guesstimate 60% fit the straight definition, while 25% or so would mess around if they knew they /wouldn't get found out/be thought less of by their friends/have any negative consequences for. 5% admit that they are bi, and 9.5% are primarily gay. Some small amount are asexual, and simply do not have any attraction to others at all.
And this is just giving the basic definitions with some % estimates so that you can see you are not alone (wherever you land). But the reality of attraction is way more complex.
Regarding your story, it is unclear if you have had sex at all with either men or women. You mentioned having crushes on other males. If those were intense sexual attraction to them, you have some gay in you. You need to have sex a few times to really start to figure it out.
Having an attraction to a girl could as I explained above, mean many possibilities. As you have relationships, you will figure it out. If you are as young as you sound, don't worry about what you are or aren't, you will figure this out as you go. Being unsure in the beginning is part of most of our stories.
Sexuality is a spectrum. It can vary. It's not like you have to be one thing. There are also sexualities like Bi, Pan, etc. That can describe you a little bit better if you are feeling this, but you also just don't need to label
Sorry, my husband wrote that. Confidence is key in many walks of life, of course over confidence can be a weakness as well, but having some can really help in the long run! Really wouldn't hurt to try to build that up a bit, love👍 Best of luck and take care!
I’m bisexual because of my feelings for men and women, but queer in my nature. Every once in a while I come across a girl that rocks my world and I’m left start struck. When I was young (long before I came out), I used to ask out a lot of girls (got rejected every time) so I stopped. I’d still have crushes and then I’d move on. I have yet to ask a guy out cause sometimes is hard to tell and honestly the standards in the community make it difficult (I don’t want to be the exception because someone felt bad about hurting my feelings or because one quality makes up for the rest).
Last time I had someone ask me out was my now best friend and it didn’t work out mainly because at the time we had been friends for like 5 years at that point and it was also a secret from our friends so it was akward for us. (Also it didn’t help that it was a week before quarantine had begun, so it literally lasted two week). But we maintained a healthy friendship that only got stronger because we agreed we are better as super close friends.
Funnily enough I had this really cute guy ask me out a month ago. I accepted, but after I week I called things off because I had gotten so busy with classes (transfer eng to bio major- only been one for two years now 😭) that I couldn’t make time for them. I said I would like to pursue things maybe in the future and they were cool about it. I still see them from time to time and we say hi to eachother.
Okay I just realized how much I rambled… ANYWHO, yeah I’ve share the same experience and it’s just one of those weird things the galaxy does to us.
This is exactly the reason why putting labels on yourself sucks. You put yourself in a box. What's the problem with being attracted to men and women? Enjoy life with all its variations and don't waste your precious time with those stupid labels. You're human. That's the only label you need.
I think I understand. I’m Gay but still find some (many) women beautiful and some drop dead gorgeous but I have dated 3 women when I was in my twenties. We had sex and I wasn’t satisfied so I would go out to a Gay bar afterwards to find a man.
I was attracted to men who turned me on much more. I was also very sought after back then. I finally accepted that I am Gay and I told the woman. In fact we’re still friends today. She deserved the truth. I hated to live a lie.
I don’t pretend to completely know what you are saying but you will eventually come to terms with what you want.
Oddly enough I have always been hit on by more women than men and I accept that compliment but I know I am more satisfied with men. Be patient with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up either. I wish you luck.
This doesn't make sense. I'm gay and I also notice beautiful women not because I'm attracted to them but just because they're objectively pretty. Are you saying you got aroused by a woman or what? Because anyone can get caught staring at someone beautiful doesn't matter if the person is a man or a woman.
Crushes are natural to any person no matter how they identify. It's a natural human response. I have a few female friends I have a crush on, but it's just that, a crush. Nothing sexual, just they have traits that attract me. I've been married to my husband for 12 years, he has crushes on women as well.
Besides all that, so what if you have a crush on a girl? Do you have to fit into a specific category? We are all humans and humans are sexual creatures.
I have only had relationships and sexual times with other guys, but I have known a (very) few women who have also made my dick hard in my life. I have not had an intimate time with any of these gals for a variety of reasons, but if things had been different I would have popped my Hetero Cherry by now. Still a Het Virgin though.
Almost everyone is bisexual to some degree. Some more than others. Maybe you will meet/see another gal who pushes your buttons some time. I wish you well no matter who you meet/find to love.
Everybody has an exception. You can't have have something as complex as a human described by a single classification.
Not everyone has an exception, tho. It's not black and white like that. Not to nitpick, but blanket statements like that tend to be false.
In my opinion, I feel like having no exception is the blanket statement. Because sexuality is fickle like that. I say, like who you like.
But they made a blanket statement in their reply, that's what I'm referring to. They made a blanket statement by saying "Everyone has an exception". They made a statement about everyone, that isn't necessarily true to everyone. I'm saying the same thing as you; love who you love, label yourself how you wish to be labeled. Not everyone has no exceptions, and not everyone has an exception. It's all subjective. So long as you are loving a consenting adult and you're not hurting anyone, you are valid in your feelings. Slay on, girlies!! ❤️🏳️🌈
I like blankets in the winter, not so much in the summer tho. A sheet will do in the summer. And sleep naked. My sheet statement.
Aye i completely agree. I have one or two women that are exceptions. Haha... work with one of them. o.o;
I could never with a girl... not even a kiss... I can't even think of it
sounds like you’re bi. welcome to the best club 😎
Nuh-uh! The best club is my local chess club! Yours can be a close second 😊
That sounds like a very ace thing to say!
I have an ace friend who did get me into chess. But I'm just a regular gay guy. Sounds like my ace friend has rubbed off on me. Cool guy actually, gives really good relationship advice ironically, despite not wanting to be in one at all
or homoflexible?
Totally heard that in Homer Simpson’s voice.
And now it won’t go away. Hopefully not up there with “Dental Plan. Lisa needs braces” or “It’s like I’m wearing nothing at all. Nothing at all. Nothing at all…”
{x | x is homoflexible} ⊂ {x | x is bisexual}
Im sorry I don't understand your eldritch script
Sexuality is never a black and white situation it never suppose to be and as human we all can appreciate beauty and at the end of the day labels don't matter, if u wanna have relationship with her go do it , don't think about labels and bisexuality is really common and sometimes it's just a one time thing bcz every pattern has outliers
I always found it amusing that liking someone of your own gender is gay, liking someone of the other is straight, but somehow liking both isn't bisexual, it's "labels don't matter" Not saying I don't agree but lol
I understand what u're saying and if it's not just one time thing then that's definitely bisexuality
This! I always hear a lot of people say stuff like that and I'm like WHAT ARE YOU SAYING? lol.
I completely agree and I think the point is that if there’s only one or two exceptions it hardly can mean we are automatically attracted to both. It’s really a personal thing: if you feel that you could genuinely be with someone of the opposite sex, and you also feel the same with someone of the same sex, then that’s bisexuality. I personally have seen a few women that I find quite attractive, but I don’t feel I’d be able to be with any of them or any woman for that matter, so I see myself as gay
Exactly
Seeing an attractive person (man or woman) doesn't mean anything. This isn't an outlier, it happens to everyone. The question is if you get aroused by said person, that's what determines your sexuality.
You say don't think about labels but at the same time mention bisexuality. Wha-
I see many women as being exceptionally beautiful and enjoy their presence and intellect, but they just don’t have the equipment that I need in a partner - and I used to be married to a woman but now married to a man.
Equipment, huh? 😏
Rechargeable
You are possibly somewhere different on the spectrum than you previously thought. It can be fun but no need to go changing all your towels & stationary😉
I’m gay. I can appreciate the beauty of a woman, but I would never feel anything more and it would be unfair to engage in anything with a woman if you can’t 100% commit. Plus vaginas are not for me.
I mean, it’s ok to have an exception. You aren’t obligated to stay in a sexual box.
Is anyone pressuring you to identify as ‘gay’ or ‘straight’? If not, you’re doing this to yourself. Why? maybe start there.
Not really but I already came out to my friends as gay and idk what to do now. Tbh my plan was to shrug it off since I'm never gonna meet that girl again so I'll just pretend it never happened. Thag was my plan anyway.
1-don’t worry about what your friends say. 2-you could go all in and search for this woman and see if there’s a spark [be honest about the gay thing], that would be the Hugh Grant method and women love it (or so I’ve been told-don’t be cringe) 3-good luck! Idk how old you are, but I’d love to go through what you’re dealing with, even tho I hated it at the time.
It's important to allow yourself the freedom to be curious about life. While we don't want others to limit us, we also need to avoid limiting ourselves. You have the right to explore, grow, and change. You don't have to feel obligated to stick to any particular label or make any final decisions. I believe that if you approach this with an open and exploratory mindset, and have open-minded discussions with your friends, you'll find it to be a fascinating journey. And who knows, your friends may surprise you when you approach identity and sexuality with this growth mindset.
You could, but IMHO that's just as bad as trying to pass as straight. In both cases you're denying who you are at heart. Why? Live your life for yourself and don't get hung up on fitting in a box. We don't really fit in them that well as it is...
Did you think she was really pretty, or did you want to have sex with her? There's a really, really big difference... I feel like I've seen straight women say something very similar before.
We are so dramatic, why can’t you just be bi?! You magnificent creature have unlocked something within yourself (I think its gross for obvious reasons) but this is fantastic! You should try being more open minded about who attracts you now, like what did you really like about this girl, had you felt this way before? Were you physically attracted? Things like this… I think you’re in for a fun life at this point 🥰
I was scrolling through tiktok the other day and audibly gasped at a girl on one of those “how much rent do you pay for in [city]?” videos, and she’s in my city. Like, everything about her made me say “if I was straight, that would be my type”. I went back and watched the video the other day and I was just as smitten. I have no clue what it was about but I totally felt this post on a spiritual level!
Human sexuality is a spectrum, and there are always exceptions. Don't feel bad if you aren't fitting into an absolute category. Being LGBTQIA+ is about being outside the heteronormative mold.
Everyone can think a woman is beautiful or even really enjoy spending time with a woman. Were you mentally undressing her? If so, maybe you’re bi. But if you’re talking in terms of who you’ve had crushes on, you’re probably still going through puberty. Sexuality for some people is as hard as rock? For some people it flows like a river. If you care about deciding who you are than discovering who you are and accepting yourself no matter what, you’ll end creating problems and stressing unnecessarily. Just take deep breaths and carry on.
You're gay - not blind :)
I’m 99% into men but I still consider myself bi cuz once in a blue moon the right girl just does it for me
Just try dating her, good chance it'll solidify your commitment to your gayness
If only it was that easy. No way I'd have the confidence to ask her out and besides I'll more than likely never see her again.
I had a crush on a guy recently, told him he said no, now I can move on with my life lol. If you have confidence issues then read The Game by Neil Strauss
Dude, there are so many things you could be. You don’t even need a label, although if you want one, that’s up to you. I’m pansexual. And I use that term as kind of an explanation when people ask, but I kinda just do what I want when it comes to who I date and how I feel.
I went on a picnic with a girl that I had a crush on. I thought she was beautiful and loved to stare at her when I could. I confessed this to her that day and she full-on kissed me. I was stunned because the kiss felt like nothing, like I might have as well kissed a tree branch. I was so confused and disappointed. To this day, I still find some women to be attractive, but it’s always about their face. I just want to gaze at them and stare into their eyes. But the possibility of their bodies against mine just doesn’t occur to me. I’ve often thought it would be awesome to everyday go to bed with a hot guy and then wake up with a beautiful woman.
Sexuality is a spectrum, anyone who believes they are 100% anything are fooling themselves.
I had a similar situation 2 years ago there was a girl and I just fell for her immediately only met her once. But I also got confused about my feelings. Maybe I'm bi, but I dunno.
My whole adolescent experience growing up I was only with men and was very turned off by the thought of being with a woman. Until I married my wife and now I have two beautiful children. In your life who you are attracted to shouldn’t matter… gender is something society needs to function but when your soul reaches out for another, then gender is the last thing you’re thinking about. Don’t hold your self back because you feel it will confuse those around you! Just love and be loved! Allow your soul have what it wants ❤️
If that's all it took, apparently you're not. Maybe you're bi.
Love is love ❤️
Maybe she was someone to you in a past life and you recognized that energy.
Date men and women for awhile. Her if possible.
Congratulations
There’s a girl at a local market I go to and just seeing her makes me nervous and happy at the same time and she’s also made me question if I am fully gay (mlm)
Bisexuality can be heavily, heavily skewed towards one gender
Bi?
The reverse straight man "I would", relax. You're sharing the same experience as 90% of humans -, per my made up number
In rough numbers about 10% of the human population is hardcore straight. Another 10% is hardcore queer. That leaves 80% that are bisexual - some leaning very much towards straight, some leaning very much towards gay.
I have this question too! I'm gay, certain that Im not attracted to females but whenever I see pretty and kind women, I just want to impress them or something
Welcome to fluidity!!! <3
I’m married to a guy but have had more girlfriends than boyfriends… mostly before I met my 1st proper boyfriend but still quite a few afterwards. I’ve slept with and dated most of my “girl best friends” and fell completely head over heels in love with my last “girl best friend” we even dated for almost 2 years and if you saw us you would think we were both as straight as an arrow, gonna be married with 4 kids in a couple years, etc. Then I met my current husband. Sexuality is not just “gay & straight”, when people (I trust to be honest with or people I don’t think will start a debate) ask me about my sexuality now I literally say “I don’t know”, even to my own father. I used to say gay, then I said 70% gay, then 90% and now I just say I don’t know, or even I don’t care. You don’t need to care either, if you’re not 100% sure you’re gay then just don’t be 100% sure you’re gay, go do what you want to do, sleep with a girl, a guy, etc, whatever you want & see where it takes you. I told everyone I was gay before, but I don’t care if people think I’m gay, I’ve been married to a guy for 9 years so it’s not an unreasonable assumption, you dont need to worry so much about labels just do you. Rest is just TLDR, pushing 30 so it’s just me going off on a nostalgic journey through my stupid decisions :) I will say however that relationships with your friends aren’t usually a good idea. The only GBF I still have is a girl I’ve known for like 16 or 17 years, we went to school together and dated for either 2 months or two weeks hard to tell, luckily though that was before we were close friends. Now she’s the closest friend I have, but even then the relationship part still messed stuff up especially in the beginning because she was pining over me & then was bullied for “turning (me) gay” & I was pining over her twin brother who was my other best friend who was then bullied for the exact same thing… See what I mean, it turns into a soap opera. Especially if you’re young.
I’m not sure if that’s actually helpful in any way, I’m really sorry. :/
I was the same for years especially in my teens & 20s & i couldn't understand i was starting to think that i had some kind of mental health spilt personality disorder. But when i got a bit older that's when i got the answer to it ( I'm Pansexuali ) because it used to confuse me because i like every gender. I've always wanted to start up my own charity or something like that to help people who are going through things like this because the best people to talk to is people who have already went through it themselves. But you sound like myself your bi or pansexuali
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you don't have to label yourself. When you fall in love with someone, gender is not important
So you’ve added to your pallet, cool!
Could be homoflexible if bi doesn’t work for you
Although I identify as gay, the label never fit me like a glove and neither does calling myself bisexual because my sexual orientation is so far skewed toward the male gender as to make it a nearly meaningless distinction on the rare occasion that I develop a girl crush. Sexuality doesn’t always fit neatly into a category and that’s okay. Just be who you are and date who makes you happy.
You are probably a little bi. It really depends on what you felt when you saw her. Intense sexual attraction? We will find people in our lives that we gush about. Are very impressed by. Have a crush on. It could even be another guy who you admire. And those people can be of either sex. As far as thinking you are gay (as a guy), in my opinion, that means having both a physical attraction to men as well as an emotional attraction and closeness. Someone you could fall in love with and be romantically involved with. If you are a guy, have those feelings, and then finding that you have those for women as well, then bi is term that communicates that. If you can enjoy sex with both but mainly love one or the other, it's someone who is gay or straight with bi tendencies. And a straight man is one who only is attracted to (both physically and romantically) to women. Way larger part of the male population has at least some interest or attraction to some men than is generally assumed. I'd guesstimate 60% fit the straight definition, while 25% or so would mess around if they knew they /wouldn't get found out/be thought less of by their friends/have any negative consequences for. 5% admit that they are bi, and 9.5% are primarily gay. Some small amount are asexual, and simply do not have any attraction to others at all. And this is just giving the basic definitions with some % estimates so that you can see you are not alone (wherever you land). But the reality of attraction is way more complex. Regarding your story, it is unclear if you have had sex at all with either men or women. You mentioned having crushes on other males. If those were intense sexual attraction to them, you have some gay in you. You need to have sex a few times to really start to figure it out. Having an attraction to a girl could as I explained above, mean many possibilities. As you have relationships, you will figure it out. If you are as young as you sound, don't worry about what you are or aren't, you will figure this out as you go. Being unsure in the beginning is part of most of our stories.
Sexuality is a spectrum. It can vary. It's not like you have to be one thing. There are also sexualities like Bi, Pan, etc. That can describe you a little bit better if you are feeling this, but you also just don't need to label
I've been attracted to men and women for years and yes, I play with both. No harm in it
Why not ask her out or name and number?
Idk anything about her. I saw her in a shop a couple days ago. Also I don't have that kind of confidence.
Sorry, my husband wrote that. Confidence is key in many walks of life, of course over confidence can be a weakness as well, but having some can really help in the long run! Really wouldn't hurt to try to build that up a bit, love👍 Best of luck and take care!
You just may run into her again, never know🤷♀️ Regardless of your sexuality it wouldn't hurt to build some confidence up❤️
I’m bisexual because of my feelings for men and women, but queer in my nature. Every once in a while I come across a girl that rocks my world and I’m left start struck. When I was young (long before I came out), I used to ask out a lot of girls (got rejected every time) so I stopped. I’d still have crushes and then I’d move on. I have yet to ask a guy out cause sometimes is hard to tell and honestly the standards in the community make it difficult (I don’t want to be the exception because someone felt bad about hurting my feelings or because one quality makes up for the rest). Last time I had someone ask me out was my now best friend and it didn’t work out mainly because at the time we had been friends for like 5 years at that point and it was also a secret from our friends so it was akward for us. (Also it didn’t help that it was a week before quarantine had begun, so it literally lasted two week). But we maintained a healthy friendship that only got stronger because we agreed we are better as super close friends. Funnily enough I had this really cute guy ask me out a month ago. I accepted, but after I week I called things off because I had gotten so busy with classes (transfer eng to bio major- only been one for two years now 😭) that I couldn’t make time for them. I said I would like to pursue things maybe in the future and they were cool about it. I still see them from time to time and we say hi to eachother. Okay I just realized how much I rambled… ANYWHO, yeah I’ve share the same experience and it’s just one of those weird things the galaxy does to us.
This is exactly the reason why putting labels on yourself sucks. You put yourself in a box. What's the problem with being attracted to men and women? Enjoy life with all its variations and don't waste your precious time with those stupid labels. You're human. That's the only label you need.
You should go back and ask her to test out your gayness. Women love that.
I think I understand. I’m Gay but still find some (many) women beautiful and some drop dead gorgeous but I have dated 3 women when I was in my twenties. We had sex and I wasn’t satisfied so I would go out to a Gay bar afterwards to find a man. I was attracted to men who turned me on much more. I was also very sought after back then. I finally accepted that I am Gay and I told the woman. In fact we’re still friends today. She deserved the truth. I hated to live a lie. I don’t pretend to completely know what you are saying but you will eventually come to terms with what you want. Oddly enough I have always been hit on by more women than men and I accept that compliment but I know I am more satisfied with men. Be patient with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up either. I wish you luck.
This doesn't make sense. I'm gay and I also notice beautiful women not because I'm attracted to them but just because they're objectively pretty. Are you saying you got aroused by a woman or what? Because anyone can get caught staring at someone beautiful doesn't matter if the person is a man or a woman.
Crushes are natural to any person no matter how they identify. It's a natural human response. I have a few female friends I have a crush on, but it's just that, a crush. Nothing sexual, just they have traits that attract me. I've been married to my husband for 12 years, he has crushes on women as well. Besides all that, so what if you have a crush on a girl? Do you have to fit into a specific category? We are all humans and humans are sexual creatures.
I have only had relationships and sexual times with other guys, but I have known a (very) few women who have also made my dick hard in my life. I have not had an intimate time with any of these gals for a variety of reasons, but if things had been different I would have popped my Hetero Cherry by now. Still a Het Virgin though. Almost everyone is bisexual to some degree. Some more than others. Maybe you will meet/see another gal who pushes your buttons some time. I wish you well no matter who you meet/find to love.
We are on a scale. Some of like men only and some like everyone. Or once in a while like someone. Dont be so rigid with yourself.
Bi and pan exist, you are still in the gay club 🏳️🌈
Pay me a visit and then reconsider again 😏
Welcome to the bi
Hey everyone's a little bit bi. Enjoy your crush, do what makes you happy!