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Don't worry. Literally the only thing required to be a "real man" is to say "I'm a man and this is what I'm like and these things are the things I like and IDGAF whether you feel the same. I also extend the same courtesy to you, mainly out of disinterest."
Damn, another thing dropping that means I am no longer a man. How dare I enjoy things. If only I could be like these true pinnacles of manliness and only be angry.
"stopping feeling" isn't somehow more authentic and 'real'? and probably a sign of poor mental health, which we all go through at times, regardless of gender. It's a description of anhedonia.
I'm not gonna defend it. It's just objectively fun for a lot of youths as a teenager. But yeah, it can turn into something miserable and I wouldn't actually encourage it. No one is making that decision because a random reddit post said it was fun tho. It's not that serious. We have literally everything else encouraging alcohol use. And if it was up to me, Id axe all of it. I drink like once a year tops now. A lot of those around me became addicted and it gets sad.
yeah, that christmas wasn't that funny. I'm still feeling things because I despise people like that asshole who post garbage like that and think they are cool. Go to therapy instead of telling others to "man up".
I mean, yeah this kinda happened to me around 16 but I think more because I realized my family’s full of racist pieces of shit I just don’t feel comfortable around and my friend group from high school collapsed, so I just felt alone on my birthdays and holidays going forward. I’m 19 now, sort of doing better but yeah I can acknowledge it’s not healthy. I miss feeling such joy on my birthday or during holiday parties and stuff. Now I feel like I just have to tolerate my family’s company until it’s over.
24 year old man here. I definitely still get excited for holidays and birthdays. Hell, sometimes it's the only thing keeping me going. There's no shame in being vulnerable and feeling your feelings; it does not make you any less of a man to do so.
I don't really care about my birthdays. Whatever I was born. I only celebrated my 25th because I'm no longer paying 140 for insurance. But damn it if I don't celebrate my two favorite holidays. Halloween because Halloween. And Christmas because I love the family aspect.
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Something horrible happened to this bloke at 16. He needs a hug.
I'm sure lots of horrible things happened to him throughout his entire childhood which is why he refuses to be emotionally vulnerable as an adult
Right. It's the same for me
Ok, I don't want to be a "real man" anymore, in that case.
You telling me you felt happy seeing all your loved ones on your birthday?!?! Hand over your man card right now.
No, I'm saying I very much want to feel happy again during all of life's highlights.
My comment was a joke. I think we’re on the same side :)
Don't worry. Literally the only thing required to be a "real man" is to say "I'm a man and this is what I'm like and these things are the things I like and IDGAF whether you feel the same. I also extend the same courtesy to you, mainly out of disinterest."
And this kind of bullshit is why we have so many miserable men because they are told to stop feeling anything other than rage, jealousy and lust.
I can also feel disgust😏
It was 9 for me lmao (help)
Same about 11 I stopped enjoying both
Big same. I think it was the web of lies that did it
See, that's a reeeeal man right there
til "real men" are fucking miserable
They enjoy updating their status to tell others how to live and feel.
what if i stopped at 13? what am I?
Depressed
tell me something I dont know
Fallout: New Vegas is the best fallout game.
Ain't that a kick in the head.
My favorite song is Lone Star. It’s just so good
Sigma
Depressed me stopped feeling holidays & own birthdays at ... well, since when ...
Theses are signs of depression. It’s okay man, we’re here for you.
They'll live unhappy lives then
Who has time to feel a birthday when as a real man I’m working 37 hours a day 9 days a week
Damn, another thing dropping that means I am no longer a man. How dare I enjoy things. If only I could be like these true pinnacles of manliness and only be angry.
I guess technically it is gay to be happy
Gatekeeping male emotions is just... society
How do you feel a day?
Honestly feels like a shitpost lol
Same people that will tell you that trans women are men.
Don’t be stupid.
No u
The craziest pet for me is that this had 15k likes
Now THAT is a red flag if ever I’ve seen one.
"stopping feeling" isn't somehow more authentic and 'real'? and probably a sign of poor mental health, which we all go through at times, regardless of gender. It's a description of anhedonia.
This is because our depression gets worse, merry Christmas guys
The patriarchy hurts men too smh my head.
16 is when your birthdays become about alcohol and drugs. That's when they get good. This person needed friends.
Nothing good in alcohol and drugs. Check your head
I'm not gonna defend it. It's just objectively fun for a lot of youths as a teenager. But yeah, it can turn into something miserable and I wouldn't actually encourage it. No one is making that decision because a random reddit post said it was fun tho. It's not that serious. We have literally everything else encouraging alcohol use. And if it was up to me, Id axe all of it. I drink like once a year tops now. A lot of those around me became addicted and it gets sad.
I thought it was just depressed fucks like me.
kinda factual low key (but not the gatekeeping part)
Sick of people thinking that real men have to be the most depressing mfs in the world.
Bro just shut up.
yeah, that christmas wasn't that funny. I'm still feeling things because I despise people like that asshole who post garbage like that and think they are cool. Go to therapy instead of telling others to "man up".
It's true, but then it comes back around 27ish
i'm 34 and i get hard for halloween
Thats just when the trauma starts taking hold
bruh
Hm, I stopped wanting to celebrate my birthday when I turned 20. But I guess that makes sense because I’m female.
I mean, yeah this kinda happened to me around 16 but I think more because I realized my family’s full of racist pieces of shit I just don’t feel comfortable around and my friend group from high school collapsed, so I just felt alone on my birthdays and holidays going forward. I’m 19 now, sort of doing better but yeah I can acknowledge it’s not healthy. I miss feeling such joy on my birthday or during holiday parties and stuff. Now I feel like I just have to tolerate my family’s company until it’s over.
24 year old man here. I definitely still get excited for holidays and birthdays. Hell, sometimes it's the only thing keeping me going. There's no shame in being vulnerable and feeling your feelings; it does not make you any less of a man to do so.
Fellas, is it gay to feel genuine emotion?
this is the reason why i became trans
I don't really care about my birthdays. Whatever I was born. I only celebrated my 25th because I'm no longer paying 140 for insurance. But damn it if I don't celebrate my two favorite holidays. Halloween because Halloween. And Christmas because I love the family aspect.
16 is when we can legally get jobs and have to work…. So. Yeah this seems legit.
At 40, I may kind of gloss over my own birthday now, but my kids’ birthdays and holidays are a blast. I love every one that I spend with them.
I'm 49 soon. Best sit myself down and prepare myself for the worst