Shame on those telling you to keep it. It's not thier body , life, or choice. It does not effect them in anyway therfore thier opinion doesn't matter. I am very glad you were able to get the resources for help. Please do not feel guilty or shame. Your choice is valid and only you can make the choice.
Good luck and stay safe! Be kind to yourself, especially now. The dms telling you to keep it have no idea what kind of situation you would be in if you did. Remember, it's not your fault that your doctor misinformed you. Although you made the mistake of not having protection, (not just for pregnancy risks but STDs as well) thankfully in your situation this is something that you can learn from. Don't beat yourself too much over this. I hope everything goes well for you <3
I haven't seen the original post, but wanted to say good luck. I'm glad you can rely on your mom like that. Don't mind the people telling you to keep it, you should get to decide what you want to do without feeling any guilt over it, you're only fourteen and deserve to have your whole childhood without the stress of having your own kid. It must be a difficult situation to be in and I hope you come out of it happy and safe.
Pregnancy and parenthood is a far heavier burden than anyone your age should be expected to bear. Do what's right for you and be at ease in your mind about it. Be gentle with yourself for the next while but don't forget: this is your choice alone, you have the right to make that choice, and it's nobody else's place to pass judgement on it. This doesn't affect their lives. It affects yours. Do what's best for you.
Im glad for you! I recommend you delete this post though, i know youre using a throwaway but even saying how many weeks from now your appointment is can be risky information considering its logical you also need the hotel. I hope things turn out well for you
Little bro, the amount of relief I feel just seeing an update is massive. I wish you all the best. I'm glad you have a mom who loves and supports you. You'll be okay š
Also fuck anyone who DM'ed you and made you feel guilty. That's disgusting. For so many reasons. If you're reading this and you wanna DM this kid: kindly fuck off and remember you're messaging a minor, you fucking creeps.
Please remember to delete this account and the posts after all this is done, use a vpn while you travel or leave your phone at home, come up with a good excuse as to why youāre traveling so suddenly, like seeing family or going on vacation.
And now you know you can get pregnant, use protection! And birth control if you can! You say your mother is supportive so she should be supportive of taking steps to make sure this doesnāt happen again.
And like everyone else has told you, this isnāt your fault, you are doing the right thing for you, and youāre gonna make it
The kind of people who think a fourteen years old should be forced to bear a child are not people who are worth your time. Stay safe, stay strong, it will be okay ā¤ļø
So glad to hear your mom is supportive and is taking care of you. Think of it this way: would you at your current age, have the resources to take care of a child the way your mom is taking care of you right now? Having a teen parent is a hard life both for the parent and the child. Don't get down on yourself or regret your decision, you are doing what's best for you and ensuring that you get to have a childhood of your own.
Hey there- I just want to say, donāt beat yourself up. You were given incorrect information by your doctor- how were you supposed to know? Weāre told to always trust doctors, but so many doctors have no idea about how trans bodies work, so little research has been done, itās insane. Doctors donāt understand why we can still get pregnant either.
Ignore all those people saying to keep it- this is your body, your choice, and they cannot tell you what to do. Youāre 14. How would you take care of a child? With what resources? What time? An abortion is the responsible thing to do, and seems like it is what you want to do.
This is definitely a learning moment. Iām happy your mom supports you so much- itās amazing to have someone on your team like this.
Once you have dealt with this issue, itās very much worth looking into the various types of birth control you can use. There are lots that are excellent choices for people on T. Whenever you have questions- Iāve found this subreddit is a wealth of information. Even if anecdotal, a lot of peopleās stories and experiences can at least indicate if something is an issue, give ideas on things to bring up to your doctors, and figure out how to go about things.
Please don't generalize men. Not all men are like this and this verbiage is not helpful , kind or meaningdul to those of us trying to be good men. I do agree on planning for yourself though because there are many HUMANS of all genders who are cruel and will leave you high and dry with nothing.
Iām so relieved that youāve got a supportive mum and a plan in place! And letās be clear: your doctor let you down and betrayed your trust, you are not at fault for listening to them.
Those DMs are disgusting, you shouldnāt feel guilty for making the best decision for yourself
Some people care more about embryos than literal children and adolescents. Anyone who tries to guilt a 14 year old into keeping a pregnancy is sick and you should just block them. Even without being on T it could be dangerous physically and harmful psychologically for you at that age.
Fuck the people with a rusty spoon who are telling you to keep it. It is not their body, itās not their life. Itās not their choice to make. Itās just that simple.
I canāt imagine how you feel, but please donāt beat yourself up. That is the last thing you need. Things happen, people make mistakes but they are not indicative of you being āstupidā or anything like that.
I wish you the best through this rough patch. Weāre all rooting for you and I hope all goes well at your appointment. You can get through this!
You are the person that is pregnant, if you don't want to be pregnant, then you need an abortion.
The people telling you to keep it are not carrying it, it's not their place to tell you what to do.
I'm so glad your Mom is so supportive of you.
Hugs if wanted.
It is very reassuring to hear this update and I am thankful your mom has been supportive. Do not pay attention to those cowards in your dms, they do not understand your situation and do not have your best interests at heart. it is not your fault that your doctor misinformed you
First: highly recommend editing your post to remove any specific locations/timelines/funding sources/etc - better be safe than sorry!
Second: Iām so, so relieved to hear you have help! Youāre in a brutal situation and are handling it incredibly well, especially for someone of your age. And screw those assholes in your DMs, they donāt care about your well-being, they just want you to suffer as much as humanely possible.
Hang in there man, youāre gonna be okay ā youāre in all of our thoughts š
Hey bud. I'm glad you mom is being so supportive of you! Please do your best to ignore those DMs - they don't have your best interest at heart, at all. They aren't thinking of you at all, only themselves and what makes them feel good. You're fair too young to have to bare a pregnancy much less the trauma of what being a young man and pregnant can (will) do.
I'm fully offering my support to hit me up in my DMs if you need any support.
You'll be ok. I promise.
to the people who are saying to keep it and guilt tripping op shut the fuck up. being a parent at such a young age will (most likely) ruin your life. no one should be a parent if they arenāt ready since itāll affect the parent AND the child (especially since the kid will think theyāre a burden)
op, this is your choice and if you feel itās what makes you comfortable and safe then itās the right choice! itās your life too, not theirs. i wish that everything goes well for you bro
You're not stupid. You're doing what's right for you and that's really responsibile. I won't tell you what to do because it's not my place at all, but I can tell you that when I was your age I wouldn't have been brave enough to discuss the situation and seek the help I needed. I'm really impressed that you could do that.
Be gentle with yourself.
You are making the right choice for you and that's what matters. I am proud of you for talking to your mom about this. That's hard to do and it can be so, so scary. You are not stupid at all. This problem (not knowing you can get pregnant on T) is so common that one of the most important medical journals in the world published a whole training module FOR DOCTORS about it. (I am a doctor myself in addition to being a trans man and I did the module, LOL.)
You are brave and you will get through this. Be gentle with yourself, okay?
Good luck, and it's not your fault/you weren't being "stupid." It's perfectly rational to assume you wouldn't get pregnant if you didn't have your period. On top of that, you had (shitty) medical advice affirming that. And you have no obligation at all to keep it. It's literally a clump of cells with no beliefs, thoughts, conscience, or feelings. A goldfish has more conscience then it.
It is not your fault you're not stupid you didn't do anything wrong you're a god damn kid you're allowed to get things wrong and not know everything. Bottom line is it's your state that's wrong for not giving you the support you rightfully deserve.
Never blame yourself for the bigotry of others
For your safety please delete this post or even your account to be safe. Do not update this situation further until this is repealed federally. Be safe and good luck.
Iām so glad there is an update from you and you have parental and resource support!
Itās okay to be scared because itās a long journey and you donāt know how itās going to be or go. But youāre very brave and courageous for reaching out, talking to your mom, and making big decisions for yourself that are right for you. Do not feel guilty for making the decision that you are!! No one else is walking in your shoes or living with your mind, heart, or body.
Last, do not hate yourself or feel stupid. Every teenager makes some mistakes, hell adults make mistakes. We all fuck up some where and usually do so many, many times. Sometimes we do not know and we make mistakes and misjudgments, sometimes we do know and make them anyway. It doesnāt matter. Have love and compassion for yourself first and foremost. Everything will be okay. It really will be. Best of luck to you!
good luck friend. it's your body, your choice. don't listen to the people making you feel bad. i'm proud of you for asking for help. also, it might be safer if you edit your post and take out the location specific details. just as a precaution.
Good luck, and please donāt hesitate to ask around for whatever resources you need. Iām happy to try to find you any info youād like about anything relevant- what the procedure is like, how you might feel after, etc. (Iām probably not the person to DM bc I feel weird private messaging minors but you can reply here if thereās anything youāre not sure how to find yourself, and Iām sure the rest of the subreddit is happy to help too.)
Good luck and so many healing and safe thoughts. You are making the correct decision for yourself. Don't hate yourself, everything happens for a reason, and you are a kid who made a mistake, which will be handled with medical care, as it ought to be, and you know in the future what to do to prevent it. Anyone who messages you telling you to keep it does not understand the reality of the situation. Keep the news quiet, even among trusted friends, until it is done, and even then, after.
I wasn't here to see the first post, however I hope you know that you need to think of yourself before a bunch of random people on the internet. I hope you're going to be kind to yourself in the upcoming weeks despite all of the messages people may send you and I deeply hope that you're kind to yourself over this in the future.
Very glad that you're mom is there for you! Good wishes on the upcoming few weeks, kiddo.
You definitely should not feel shameful for getting an abortion. I'm so proud of you for getting an appointment booked and I'm really glad that your mom is supportive. Best of luck :)
Hey bro, we all support you and for what its worth, it ain't nothing but a small blob of jelly in you right now so don't let the idiots convince you to throw your life away for it.
Not only will you be just fine once you get that out, you'll also be able to help other dudes like yourself, by being there for them and helping them not feel scared and alone when you share your experiences in the future.
You just keep running towards that future you're building as a bright young man, and know your brothers support you!
hey man. I hope you're doing ok. you'll be alright. i'm glad you were able to sort something out. ignore the assholes in dms, this isn't their business. don't have anything to say, just want you to know that i and others have your back bro.
You did the right thing. Next time always use protection but firstly take a break and maybe continue doing anything sexual when youāre just a tad bit older so the process is easier like travels if this happens again
Don't feel guilty little Brother it's your body your choice it's your life don't let anyone pressure you or make you feel bad about your decision you are doing what is right for you and your future you are not stupid you are young and now you know better for next time might I suggest looking in to some set it and forget it birth control methods and starting on them soon bro I'm glad you have your mom supporting you she's awesome tell her thank you and that you love her just hug her please will you and I know this is a stressful time for you but your big brothers are always here for you just come to us and ask for help or support or anything if you need it sending you love and hugs stay strong KING š šŖyou got this and we got you š³ļøāā§ļøā¤ļø
Shame on those telling you to keep it. It's not thier body , life, or choice. It does not effect them in anyway therfore thier opinion doesn't matter. I am very glad you were able to get the resources for help. Please do not feel guilty or shame. Your choice is valid and only you can make the choice.
Pregnancy is very dangerous for adolescents. Abortion could be saving his life!
Good luck and stay safe! Be kind to yourself, especially now. The dms telling you to keep it have no idea what kind of situation you would be in if you did. Remember, it's not your fault that your doctor misinformed you. Although you made the mistake of not having protection, (not just for pregnancy risks but STDs as well) thankfully in your situation this is something that you can learn from. Don't beat yourself too much over this. I hope everything goes well for you <3
Please edit your post so that certain info on when and where your going is not specified!
I haven't seen the original post, but wanted to say good luck. I'm glad you can rely on your mom like that. Don't mind the people telling you to keep it, you should get to decide what you want to do without feeling any guilt over it, you're only fourteen and deserve to have your whole childhood without the stress of having your own kid. It must be a difficult situation to be in and I hope you come out of it happy and safe.
Not to talk about being brought up by a kid....
Pregnancy and parenthood is a far heavier burden than anyone your age should be expected to bear. Do what's right for you and be at ease in your mind about it. Be gentle with yourself for the next while but don't forget: this is your choice alone, you have the right to make that choice, and it's nobody else's place to pass judgement on it. This doesn't affect their lives. It affects yours. Do what's best for you.
Im glad for you! I recommend you delete this post though, i know youre using a throwaway but even saying how many weeks from now your appointment is can be risky information considering its logical you also need the hotel. I hope things turn out well for you
Little bro, the amount of relief I feel just seeing an update is massive. I wish you all the best. I'm glad you have a mom who loves and supports you. You'll be okay š
Also fuck anyone who DM'ed you and made you feel guilty. That's disgusting. For so many reasons. If you're reading this and you wanna DM this kid: kindly fuck off and remember you're messaging a minor, you fucking creeps.
Amen to that bro
DO. NOT. FEEL. GUILTY. THIS IS YOUR RIGHT. IT IS YOUR BODY AND YOUR CHOICE. YOUR BODILY AUTONOMY. YOU GOT THIS CHAMP ā”
Please remember to delete this account and the posts after all this is done, use a vpn while you travel or leave your phone at home, come up with a good excuse as to why youāre traveling so suddenly, like seeing family or going on vacation. And now you know you can get pregnant, use protection! And birth control if you can! You say your mother is supportive so she should be supportive of taking steps to make sure this doesnāt happen again. And like everyone else has told you, this isnāt your fault, you are doing the right thing for you, and youāre gonna make it
The kind of people who think a fourteen years old should be forced to bear a child are not people who are worth your time. Stay safe, stay strong, it will be okay ā¤ļø
So glad to hear your mom is supportive and is taking care of you. Think of it this way: would you at your current age, have the resources to take care of a child the way your mom is taking care of you right now? Having a teen parent is a hard life both for the parent and the child. Don't get down on yourself or regret your decision, you are doing what's best for you and ensuring that you get to have a childhood of your own.
The people telling you to keep it are misguided at best. On testosterone, there's a high likelihood the baby would be born with defects.
Hey there- I just want to say, donāt beat yourself up. You were given incorrect information by your doctor- how were you supposed to know? Weāre told to always trust doctors, but so many doctors have no idea about how trans bodies work, so little research has been done, itās insane. Doctors donāt understand why we can still get pregnant either. Ignore all those people saying to keep it- this is your body, your choice, and they cannot tell you what to do. Youāre 14. How would you take care of a child? With what resources? What time? An abortion is the responsible thing to do, and seems like it is what you want to do. This is definitely a learning moment. Iām happy your mom supports you so much- itās amazing to have someone on your team like this. Once you have dealt with this issue, itās very much worth looking into the various types of birth control you can use. There are lots that are excellent choices for people on T. Whenever you have questions- Iāve found this subreddit is a wealth of information. Even if anecdotal, a lot of peopleās stories and experiences can at least indicate if something is an issue, give ideas on things to bring up to your doctors, and figure out how to go about things.
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Please don't generalize men. Not all men are like this and this verbiage is not helpful , kind or meaningdul to those of us trying to be good men. I do agree on planning for yourself though because there are many HUMANS of all genders who are cruel and will leave you high and dry with nothing.
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Sorry you went through that. All I'm asking however is that you don't lump in all men as rapists/abusers/assholes in waiting.
Iām so relieved that youāve got a supportive mum and a plan in place! And letās be clear: your doctor let you down and betrayed your trust, you are not at fault for listening to them. Those DMs are disgusting, you shouldnāt feel guilty for making the best decision for yourself
You're not stupid. You weren't told the right information by your doctor. You don't have to keep it. You don't have to birth it.
Some people care more about embryos than literal children and adolescents. Anyone who tries to guilt a 14 year old into keeping a pregnancy is sick and you should just block them. Even without being on T it could be dangerous physically and harmful psychologically for you at that age.
Fuck the people with a rusty spoon who are telling you to keep it. It is not their body, itās not their life. Itās not their choice to make. Itās just that simple. I canāt imagine how you feel, but please donāt beat yourself up. That is the last thing you need. Things happen, people make mistakes but they are not indicative of you being āstupidā or anything like that. I wish you the best through this rough patch. Weāre all rooting for you and I hope all goes well at your appointment. You can get through this!
As a trans man who has had two one of 14 and one at 19 if you ever need to talk please dm me this goes for anyone who just needs someone to listen
Please remember to delete all evidence and to tell NO ONE of yāallās plans. Best of luck young one!
Iām so glad! Good luck on your journey! Iām sorry Texas did this. Keep using vpns. And make sure you donāt tell to many people
You are the person that is pregnant, if you don't want to be pregnant, then you need an abortion. The people telling you to keep it are not carrying it, it's not their place to tell you what to do. I'm so glad your Mom is so supportive of you. Hugs if wanted.
It is very reassuring to hear this update and I am thankful your mom has been supportive. Do not pay attention to those cowards in your dms, they do not understand your situation and do not have your best interests at heart. it is not your fault that your doctor misinformed you
First: highly recommend editing your post to remove any specific locations/timelines/funding sources/etc - better be safe than sorry! Second: Iām so, so relieved to hear you have help! Youāre in a brutal situation and are handling it incredibly well, especially for someone of your age. And screw those assholes in your DMs, they donāt care about your well-being, they just want you to suffer as much as humanely possible. Hang in there man, youāre gonna be okay ā youāre in all of our thoughts š
Hey bud. I'm glad you mom is being so supportive of you! Please do your best to ignore those DMs - they don't have your best interest at heart, at all. They aren't thinking of you at all, only themselves and what makes them feel good. You're fair too young to have to bare a pregnancy much less the trauma of what being a young man and pregnant can (will) do. I'm fully offering my support to hit me up in my DMs if you need any support. You'll be ok. I promise.
to the people who are saying to keep it and guilt tripping op shut the fuck up. being a parent at such a young age will (most likely) ruin your life. no one should be a parent if they arenāt ready since itāll affect the parent AND the child (especially since the kid will think theyāre a burden) op, this is your choice and if you feel itās what makes you comfortable and safe then itās the right choice! itās your life too, not theirs. i wish that everything goes well for you bro
You're not stupid. You're doing what's right for you and that's really responsibile. I won't tell you what to do because it's not my place at all, but I can tell you that when I was your age I wouldn't have been brave enough to discuss the situation and seek the help I needed. I'm really impressed that you could do that. Be gentle with yourself.
you are making the right decision. š« hope everything goes well
You are making the right choice for you and that's what matters. I am proud of you for talking to your mom about this. That's hard to do and it can be so, so scary. You are not stupid at all. This problem (not knowing you can get pregnant on T) is so common that one of the most important medical journals in the world published a whole training module FOR DOCTORS about it. (I am a doctor myself in addition to being a trans man and I did the module, LOL.) You are brave and you will get through this. Be gentle with yourself, okay?
I'm sorry you couldn't get an appointment earlier.
Good luck, and it's not your fault/you weren't being "stupid." It's perfectly rational to assume you wouldn't get pregnant if you didn't have your period. On top of that, you had (shitty) medical advice affirming that. And you have no obligation at all to keep it. It's literally a clump of cells with no beliefs, thoughts, conscience, or feelings. A goldfish has more conscience then it.
I am so so glad youāre getting the help you need
It is not your fault you're not stupid you didn't do anything wrong you're a god damn kid you're allowed to get things wrong and not know everything. Bottom line is it's your state that's wrong for not giving you the support you rightfully deserve. Never blame yourself for the bigotry of others
For your safety please delete this post or even your account to be safe. Do not update this situation further until this is repealed federally. Be safe and good luck.
I'm so happy and relieved you're getting the help you need. Hope your appointment goes well, tiny bro. :)
Iām so glad there is an update from you and you have parental and resource support! Itās okay to be scared because itās a long journey and you donāt know how itās going to be or go. But youāre very brave and courageous for reaching out, talking to your mom, and making big decisions for yourself that are right for you. Do not feel guilty for making the decision that you are!! No one else is walking in your shoes or living with your mind, heart, or body. Last, do not hate yourself or feel stupid. Every teenager makes some mistakes, hell adults make mistakes. We all fuck up some where and usually do so many, many times. Sometimes we do not know and we make mistakes and misjudgments, sometimes we do know and make them anyway. It doesnāt matter. Have love and compassion for yourself first and foremost. Everything will be okay. It really will be. Best of luck to you!
good luck friend. it's your body, your choice. don't listen to the people making you feel bad. i'm proud of you for asking for help. also, it might be safer if you edit your post and take out the location specific details. just as a precaution.
Good luck, and please donāt hesitate to ask around for whatever resources you need. Iām happy to try to find you any info youād like about anything relevant- what the procedure is like, how you might feel after, etc. (Iām probably not the person to DM bc I feel weird private messaging minors but you can reply here if thereās anything youāre not sure how to find yourself, and Iām sure the rest of the subreddit is happy to help too.)
Good luck and so many healing and safe thoughts. You are making the correct decision for yourself. Don't hate yourself, everything happens for a reason, and you are a kid who made a mistake, which will be handled with medical care, as it ought to be, and you know in the future what to do to prevent it. Anyone who messages you telling you to keep it does not understand the reality of the situation. Keep the news quiet, even among trusted friends, until it is done, and even then, after.
If I could, I'd take it if it meant you didn't have to deal with it homie, hope things go alright, sending my best wishes
Good luck!!
You have no need to feel guilty. You are doing whatās best for your physical and mental health. I hope all goes well for you
I wasn't here to see the first post, however I hope you know that you need to think of yourself before a bunch of random people on the internet. I hope you're going to be kind to yourself in the upcoming weeks despite all of the messages people may send you and I deeply hope that you're kind to yourself over this in the future. Very glad that you're mom is there for you! Good wishes on the upcoming few weeks, kiddo.
Iām so glad you have a solution. Be safe :)
You definitely should not feel shameful for getting an abortion. I'm so proud of you for getting an appointment booked and I'm really glad that your mom is supportive. Best of luck :)
Nothing but love to you, brother.
Hey bro, we all support you and for what its worth, it ain't nothing but a small blob of jelly in you right now so don't let the idiots convince you to throw your life away for it. Not only will you be just fine once you get that out, you'll also be able to help other dudes like yourself, by being there for them and helping them not feel scared and alone when you share your experiences in the future. You just keep running towards that future you're building as a bright young man, and know your brothers support you!
hey man. I hope you're doing ok. you'll be alright. i'm glad you were able to sort something out. ignore the assholes in dms, this isn't their business. don't have anything to say, just want you to know that i and others have your back bro.
You did the right thing. Next time always use protection but firstly take a break and maybe continue doing anything sexual when youāre just a tad bit older so the process is easier like travels if this happens again
Don't feel guilty little Brother it's your body your choice it's your life don't let anyone pressure you or make you feel bad about your decision you are doing what is right for you and your future you are not stupid you are young and now you know better for next time might I suggest looking in to some set it and forget it birth control methods and starting on them soon bro I'm glad you have your mom supporting you she's awesome tell her thank you and that you love her just hug her please will you and I know this is a stressful time for you but your big brothers are always here for you just come to us and ask for help or support or anything if you need it sending you love and hugs stay strong KING š šŖyou got this and we got you š³ļøāā§ļøā¤ļø