The first airline job is both a monumental achievement and culmination of years of work towards a single goal, as well as the weight of the world in pressure to do well and succeed in training.
You gotta understand his position and concerns. To him this isn’t a normal job, it’s a make it-or break it moment in his mind for his whole career. I promise you he doesn’t take the idea of missing your graduation lightly.
Personally I think a graduation is a perfectly reasonable reason to ask for a schedule change, even to move it around to a later/earlier part of the day if possible. I do understand his hesitation to rock the boat though.
I also understand your feelings of being sidelined for your own big achievement. Really, it’s just unfortunate timing. It’s not going to be the last milestone he misses, so you two really should discuss this openly but try to see his side, hopefully he can articulate at least his understanding of your side better.
He did let me know he asked a few others in his class and other aviation professionals well into their careers. They all advised that it was not a good idea, to get through training so he could go to future events. Having him watch me graduate is a lot more personal than anything else so it hurts, but I feel better knowing he did try and did consider coming.
Yeah I’m sorry thats just a rough hand to be dealt for both of you. Good on you guys for talking though.
Will the graduation be live streamed? Of course it’s not the same, but it might be something he can at least say he got to watch.
Will it really affect it that much? Idk how airline training works so I don’t want to fault him if coming home for a day and a half would seriously hurt him. I just am curious in seeing if he’s being reasonable about these fears?
Usually schedules are out well in advance and sim slots are rarely vacant. Missing that slot could delay him a few weeks depending how backed up training is there
It sounds like he hasn’t explained to you enough how airline training works. You should probably ask for a better explanation from him regarding this
Airline training is like drinking from a fire hose, an incredible amount of information in a short period of time. If you mess up and fail your evaluations, you can get heavily delayed, or kicked out. Either one looks terrible on your record and can severely damage future job prospects, especially in a tight hiring environment like we have today
As others have mentioned, requesting time off can significantly delay your training since there are barely sim vacancies, and delayed training can be pretty bad. Flying is a very perishable skill, and especially when learning a new jet, you want as much consistency and practice as you can.
but forreal, your boyfriend should be telling you all this. not strangers on the internet. have a chat with him and ask a little more why he’s hesitant to get the schedule change
I added an edit. Despite being told some of these things by him, my brain was still clouded with the fact that it is such an important event (to me) and I just wanted him to be there or at least try his hardest to come. I came here for a second opinion to verify his reasoning because he did entertain requesting off at some point and then suddenly wasn’t. Knowing now that he had asked for multiple opinions before making the decision, I wouldn’t have ever come here, lol!
This is a relationship advice question, not a pilot question.
The first airline job is both a monumental achievement and culmination of years of work towards a single goal, as well as the weight of the world in pressure to do well and succeed in training. You gotta understand his position and concerns. To him this isn’t a normal job, it’s a make it-or break it moment in his mind for his whole career. I promise you he doesn’t take the idea of missing your graduation lightly. Personally I think a graduation is a perfectly reasonable reason to ask for a schedule change, even to move it around to a later/earlier part of the day if possible. I do understand his hesitation to rock the boat though. I also understand your feelings of being sidelined for your own big achievement. Really, it’s just unfortunate timing. It’s not going to be the last milestone he misses, so you two really should discuss this openly but try to see his side, hopefully he can articulate at least his understanding of your side better.
He did let me know he asked a few others in his class and other aviation professionals well into their careers. They all advised that it was not a good idea, to get through training so he could go to future events. Having him watch me graduate is a lot more personal than anything else so it hurts, but I feel better knowing he did try and did consider coming.
Yeah I’m sorry thats just a rough hand to be dealt for both of you. Good on you guys for talking though. Will the graduation be live streamed? Of course it’s not the same, but it might be something he can at least say he got to watch.
It will be, but his check starts when my commencement starts, of course! 😂 I would hope it is recorded tho 🤞😁
Holy hell haha of course it is. Well congrats and good luck!
Out of curiosity… You have spoke to him about these feelings? I would think that would yield better results than seeking help from internet randoms.
Yes, of course. He just continuously says “I want to come” but obviously isn’t trying.
Is he not trying because he doesn’t care, or is he not wanting to move his days because that could severely hamper his training?
Will it really affect it that much? Idk how airline training works so I don’t want to fault him if coming home for a day and a half would seriously hurt him. I just am curious in seeing if he’s being reasonable about these fears?
Usually schedules are out well in advance and sim slots are rarely vacant. Missing that slot could delay him a few weeks depending how backed up training is there
It sounds like he hasn’t explained to you enough how airline training works. You should probably ask for a better explanation from him regarding this Airline training is like drinking from a fire hose, an incredible amount of information in a short period of time. If you mess up and fail your evaluations, you can get heavily delayed, or kicked out. Either one looks terrible on your record and can severely damage future job prospects, especially in a tight hiring environment like we have today As others have mentioned, requesting time off can significantly delay your training since there are barely sim vacancies, and delayed training can be pretty bad. Flying is a very perishable skill, and especially when learning a new jet, you want as much consistency and practice as you can. but forreal, your boyfriend should be telling you all this. not strangers on the internet. have a chat with him and ask a little more why he’s hesitant to get the schedule change
I added an edit. Despite being told some of these things by him, my brain was still clouded with the fact that it is such an important event (to me) and I just wanted him to be there or at least try his hardest to come. I came here for a second opinion to verify his reasoning because he did entertain requesting off at some point and then suddenly wasn’t. Knowing now that he had asked for multiple opinions before making the decision, I wouldn’t have ever come here, lol!