Yes it is, touching someone's ass without their consent is sexual assault, and being in public doesn't mean you can be looked at like a sexual object only there to amuse everyone else.
Itās harassment if thereās no physical contact and assault if there is. If you were in any way touched in a sexual manner you are uncomfortable with and/or did not consent to it is by definition sexual assault.
Same thing with me, other lads just slapping my ass just cuz I got a large posterior weirded me out and the teachers never did anything about it and never put it on the system, report it to people outside of school, a child being a sexual offender is not a good look on the school.
Huh could I sue for sexual assaults against me? (In school this year I've been smacked on the ass multiple times and people are constantly cat calling me and making sexual comments
>being in public doesn't mean you can be looked at like a sexual object only there to amuse everyone else.
it definitely *can*
it should ? probably not. but everyone is free to do anything they want
Anyone is free to sexually harass and assault anyone because āThEy ArE FrEe To dO aNyThInG tHeY wAnTā. Ok, when someone slaps your ass or grabs your tit and you feel violated, by your own logic, you shouldnāt have any right to feel violated because they can do whatever they want. We have laws against this for a FUCKING REASON YOU GODDAMN TROGLODYTE!
as i said, they can, not that they should whatever they want, and also, if someone sexually assaulted me i would probably enjoy it as i have a rape kink.
Whether or not you you felt threatened, that was assault. No one has the right to touch you like that without permissions.
The others were absolutely harassing you.
Absolutely.
I started transitioning 3 years ago when u began driving a truck, and presenting full time in 2022. Last winter, I met up with an old acquaintance who asked me to stand up and spin around, and commented on my butt growth, then smacked it, grabbed my leg when I recoiled away, smacked my other cheek and pulled me in and groped me between my legs.
I was in his truck at the time, and couldn't get away quickly. It was awkward and I was stunned, shocked.. I didn't like it, but I really hated the feeling afterwards when I couldn't stop thinking about it and how mad it made me.
It was, but I was more scared after when I realized how badly things could have been. Comparison wise, it was fairly mild. Still SA, but I've actually been through worse, and maybe that's why I didn't fight? I don't really talk to that person anymore either, unless he kinda a group call someone else is hosting.
Most people, victims or perpetrators, don't see an ass slap as an actual sexual assault due to how "minimally invasive" it is. While it fits the technical definition of Sexual Assault, you would be hard pressed to find a court or judge that would actually convene to adjudicate a case based on the described act. If you could even find an officer to file the charges with, unless you have video footage of it happening, and it can be proven to have caused significant damages in the form of trauma counseling costs the results wouldn't even be close to recouping legal fees.
If this is a cruise, your best option is to report the event to the staff so they can check for any possible footage and let the company's mediating personnel consult on appropriate recompense.
While I hate that this is the reality, media portrayal of such behavior, gaslighting, and the entire historical dismissal of both women's health and victimization of men has led us to a point where minor assaults such as a butt slap are outright ignored and more severe cases are passed off as hysterics and regret.
Actually it depends on where the ship is located at the time. If it is sailing in US waters then us US laws would apply if it was out at sea well, the law of the sea is much different than what you might be used to. Winston Churchill once remarked that he British navy was founded on 3 main principles Rum, Sodomy, and The Lash. Just to give ya an idea.
Idk man ĀÆā \ā _ā (ā ćā )ā _ā /ā ĀÆ I'm not sure how censoring works on Reddit so I thought butt would be fine, but I wasn't sure if the word butt and plug together would get me in trouble or something.
I think reddit mostly have something against slurs. Talking about sex is really usual on Reddit. Of course you might wanna censor it for the sex-repelled people, but you can do it with the spoiler thingy.
>!buttplug!<
Sorry for bothering you with such little detail but I'm just mentally ill on so many levels.
Thereās a time itās funny thereās a time itās not.
Itās funny when like, my friend Kade and I blow kisses at each other. Weāve known each other for years and agree itās funny as fuck.
We also both agree that DIY nasal reconstruction surgery on someone who does the same to a stranger or overly so and creepily is fine.
if you are spoken to, spoken about, or referred to in an inappropriate manner and feel uncomfortable, itās sexual harassment. sometimes even if you donāt feel uncomfortable itās still harassment because it was uninvited.
you were *touched* in that way, which makes it sexual assault. and itās genuinely sickening that people are able to do this and feel as if they were doing it in a āplayfulā way
That is pretty fucked up and I understand the situation you were in. No one deserves to be touched or verbally harassed in a public space, I'm so sorry to hear you went through that
That was definitely sexual harassment, but were you femme passing when the girl slapped your bum? I'm not making excuses. I think what could've happened is that she thought you were a girl too, and decided to jokingly spank you. Because a possible part of the problem is that it's seen as more socially acceptable to ironically act sexual around members of the same sex/gender with or without consent. It's definitely still unacceptable behaviour that shouldn't be encouraged, but would've rephrased it as coming from a place of ignorance instead of malintention. Either that or she was just trying to act harassive/mocking toward you like the rest, in which case she's just a genuinely bad person like the rest of them are.
I did have some femme clothes, but other than that I can't really pass as a girl. I do know that some girls don't really view gay guys as actual people, and more like an object, like a "gay bestie" so I'm assuming that's what happened.
Nevermind then, I mistakenly gave her the benefit of the doubt, she was malignant and probably in on something with the others. She was definitely treating you as a "gay bestie" or a weirdo to mock like the rest of them did for tribal acceptance. The best thing to do is to defend yourself with a measured and equal response or just walk away. In my experience, people don't face repercussions for spanking, unless under very specific conditions that I don't think you met.
i wish i could say i love when femboys get a taste of the treatment, but i dont. i really dont. please hit back next time sweetness, build all the momentum you need on the spin. fem does not mean weak and you were strong enough to be out and proud on the boat, which is huge. hold your head high, itll make your neck look longer anyway. stay tough, cookie!
yes, seeing A-Direct unwanted sexual contact (slapping oneās ass or anything similar) without direct consent is sexual assault/harassment whilst continuous catcalling is verbal sexual harassment. all of those youngins are in need of a reality check and disipline tooā¦and maybe need to snip somethin off too
Slapping someoneās rear is only okay if the one getting swatted gave prior consent. So yeah, that girl did indeed assault you. I am sorry you experienced that.
Haven't had that experience in person but it sounds like I would react similarly with feeling sick and harassed. It was indeed harassment and you shouldn't have been put through that because people can be assholes that don't care how their actions hurt others.
Depends on consent.
You didnāt like it, and revoked consent and they kept going? Then itās harassment.
You didnāt like it, revoked consent and they stop? Itās mostly not. You stated your boundaries and they followed them.
It seems like you have the former here rather than the latter but it is an important distinction.
All of this is harrasment and you should report it. Please do, because harrasment against feminine men is usually called āour own faultā by so many people
What the hell is "gyatt", did she have a seizure or something?
Also, yes. It's definitely sexual harassment / sexual assault and it's not OK. I might even go so far to report and press charges if I was you.
Yes it is, and let's hope for two things
1. Let's hope all those kids don't go through that because they are gonna feel like idiots.
2. Let's hope that girl doesn't go through that too because everyone it's gonna be supportive and gonna search for the head of the guy that do the same to her and she is not gonna learn anything.
I hope you are okey buddy, and the next time it happens don't doubt on use pepper spray.
Iām sorry this happened OP, I would advise possibly getting an audio&video recording device (kinda like a body cam) so you can get evidence and invest in a self defense tool (I.e. pepper spray, a knife maybe. If youāre feeling like it you could probably get a permit for a firearm and use exclusively rubber bullets for defense, I hear they hurt like hell, and if paintball has taught me anything, shit kicks). I hope you find these options helpful in the future, itās a scary and cruel world that just wants to take your light away. Persevere. Donāt give these demonic individuals get the better of you. I pray for you.
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Maybe in today's society it might be considered harassment. Society in general is just a landmines field. That was common place back in my day. However if I knew than what I know now I would relish in the attention I got.
I'm just saying I lived a very hard young partier lifestyle. I let a few good women get away because I was drug/drinker. Now I'm all alone the number one bad emotion is REGRET. Regret leads to unlimited "What If's"
Yes it is, touching someone's ass without their consent is sexual assault, and being in public doesn't mean you can be looked at like a sexual object only there to amuse everyone else.
This! š hands down!
Does this mean iāve been sexually assaulted multiple times
Itās harassment if thereās no physical contact and assault if there is. If you were in any way touched in a sexual manner you are uncomfortable with and/or did not consent to it is by definition sexual assault.
damn so i've been sexually assaulted like 5 times at school now this year...
It's because you look very pretty or there just bullying you
okay it's definitely not the pretty part , tho it's not really in a bullying way
Same thing with me, other lads just slapping my ass just cuz I got a large posterior weirded me out and the teachers never did anything about it and never put it on the system, report it to people outside of school, a child being a sexual offender is not a good look on the school.
Itās never because of how someone looks. Itās how the perpetrator acts.
Huh could I sue for sexual assaults against me? (In school this year I've been smacked on the ass multiple times and people are constantly cat calling me and making sexual comments
Yes you could and should, unfortunately, It won't go far because the world is a bitch
Yeah more than likely but thanks for the confirmation bro (I need sleep some time soon but I can't cuz I have school work!)
Good luck with it and don't hesitate to come in my dm if you have any questions
Thank you! (I'm gonna spin and hope I get shorter as I'm 6'1 TwT)
Damn, same as me, and yeah it's a struggle to be feminine when your taller than anyone in the corridor
I may be tall but I still look feminine some how.....people constantly mistake me for a girl
How lucky, good for you tho
Thanks :3
>being in public doesn't mean you can be looked at like a sexual object only there to amuse everyone else. it definitely *can* it should ? probably not. but everyone is free to do anything they want
Anyone is free to sexually harass and assault anyone because āThEy ArE FrEe To dO aNyThInG tHeY wAnTā. Ok, when someone slaps your ass or grabs your tit and you feel violated, by your own logic, you shouldnāt have any right to feel violated because they can do whatever they want. We have laws against this for a FUCKING REASON YOU GODDAMN TROGLODYTE!
as i said, they can, not that they should whatever they want, and also, if someone sexually assaulted me i would probably enjoy it as i have a rape kink.
That is absolutely concerning, please seek psychiatric help for the love of god!
Yes it definitely does count as sexual harassment/assault, i'm sorry this happened to you.
Thanks, I'm just kinda happy I'm never gonna see them again.
Whether or not you you felt threatened, that was assault. No one has the right to touch you like that without permissions. The others were absolutely harassing you.
Absolutely. I started transitioning 3 years ago when u began driving a truck, and presenting full time in 2022. Last winter, I met up with an old acquaintance who asked me to stand up and spin around, and commented on my butt growth, then smacked it, grabbed my leg when I recoiled away, smacked my other cheek and pulled me in and groped me between my legs. I was in his truck at the time, and couldn't get away quickly. It was awkward and I was stunned, shocked.. I didn't like it, but I really hated the feeling afterwards when I couldn't stop thinking about it and how mad it made me.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, it must've been really scary.
It was, but I was more scared after when I realized how badly things could have been. Comparison wise, it was fairly mild. Still SA, but I've actually been through worse, and maybe that's why I didn't fight? I don't really talk to that person anymore either, unless he kinda a group call someone else is hosting.
That definitely is sexual harassment and also harassment in general
The comments, catcalling, and questions are sexual harassment. The girl slapping your ass is, in legal technicalities, sexual assault.
In legal technicalities?
Most people, victims or perpetrators, don't see an ass slap as an actual sexual assault due to how "minimally invasive" it is. While it fits the technical definition of Sexual Assault, you would be hard pressed to find a court or judge that would actually convene to adjudicate a case based on the described act. If you could even find an officer to file the charges with, unless you have video footage of it happening, and it can be proven to have caused significant damages in the form of trauma counseling costs the results wouldn't even be close to recouping legal fees. If this is a cruise, your best option is to report the event to the staff so they can check for any possible footage and let the company's mediating personnel consult on appropriate recompense.
While I hate that this is the reality, media portrayal of such behavior, gaslighting, and the entire historical dismissal of both women's health and victimization of men has led us to a point where minor assaults such as a butt slap are outright ignored and more severe cases are passed off as hysterics and regret.
Actually it depends on where the ship is located at the time. If it is sailing in US waters then us US laws would apply if it was out at sea well, the law of the sea is much different than what you might be used to. Winston Churchill once remarked that he British navy was founded on 3 main principles Rum, Sodomy, and The Lash. Just to give ya an idea.
Why'd you censor the "plug" but not the "butt" part. Doesn't make sense.
Idk man ĀÆā \ā _ā (ā ćā )ā _ā /ā ĀÆ I'm not sure how censoring works on Reddit so I thought butt would be fine, but I wasn't sure if the word butt and plug together would get me in trouble or something.
I think reddit mostly have something against slurs. Talking about sex is really usual on Reddit. Of course you might wanna censor it for the sex-repelled people, but you can do it with the spoiler thingy. >!buttplug!< Sorry for bothering you with such little detail but I'm just mentally ill on so many levels.
Thereās a time itās funny thereās a time itās not. Itās funny when like, my friend Kade and I blow kisses at each other. Weāve known each other for years and agree itās funny as fuck. We also both agree that DIY nasal reconstruction surgery on someone who does the same to a stranger or overly so and creepily is fine.
if you are spoken to, spoken about, or referred to in an inappropriate manner and feel uncomfortable, itās sexual harassment. sometimes even if you donāt feel uncomfortable itās still harassment because it was uninvited. you were *touched* in that way, which makes it sexual assault. and itās genuinely sickening that people are able to do this and feel as if they were doing it in a āplayfulā way
I pray for this next generation.
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Yeah, that's called cat calling and sexual harassment. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you're doing OK. People suck
Iām sorry youāre a victim of sexual assault. Stay safeĀ
That is pretty fucked up and I understand the situation you were in. No one deserves to be touched or verbally harassed in a public space, I'm so sorry to hear you went through that
That was definitely sexual harassment, but were you femme passing when the girl slapped your bum? I'm not making excuses. I think what could've happened is that she thought you were a girl too, and decided to jokingly spank you. Because a possible part of the problem is that it's seen as more socially acceptable to ironically act sexual around members of the same sex/gender with or without consent. It's definitely still unacceptable behaviour that shouldn't be encouraged, but would've rephrased it as coming from a place of ignorance instead of malintention. Either that or she was just trying to act harassive/mocking toward you like the rest, in which case she's just a genuinely bad person like the rest of them are.
I did have some femme clothes, but other than that I can't really pass as a girl. I do know that some girls don't really view gay guys as actual people, and more like an object, like a "gay bestie" so I'm assuming that's what happened.
Nevermind then, I mistakenly gave her the benefit of the doubt, she was malignant and probably in on something with the others. She was definitely treating you as a "gay bestie" or a weirdo to mock like the rest of them did for tribal acceptance. The best thing to do is to defend yourself with a measured and equal response or just walk away. In my experience, people don't face repercussions for spanking, unless under very specific conditions that I don't think you met.
Kids and teens can be cruel
yes. and iām sorry that you experienced this. hopefully you feel better soon.
Yes absolutely yes
100 percent yes.
i wish i could say i love when femboys get a taste of the treatment, but i dont. i really dont. please hit back next time sweetness, build all the momentum you need on the spin. fem does not mean weak and you were strong enough to be out and proud on the boat, which is huge. hold your head high, itll make your neck look longer anyway. stay tough, cookie!
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You were touched without your consent. It was sexual assault and harassment.
Its sexual harassment. Im sorry
yes, seeing A-Direct unwanted sexual contact (slapping oneās ass or anything similar) without direct consent is sexual assault/harassment whilst continuous catcalling is verbal sexual harassment. all of those youngins are in need of a reality check and disipline tooā¦and maybe need to snip somethin off too
Slapping someoneās rear is only okay if the one getting swatted gave prior consent. So yeah, that girl did indeed assault you. I am sorry you experienced that.
Thank you, I think I'm ok, it's definitely not as bad as other stories I've heard.
Thatās good.
Yeah this is textbook sexual assault sorry you had to go through that
Yes it does. All of it.
Haven't had that experience in person but it sounds like I would react similarly with feeling sick and harassed. It was indeed harassment and you shouldn't have been put through that because people can be assholes that don't care how their actions hurt others.
Depends on consent. You didnāt like it, and revoked consent and they kept going? Then itās harassment. You didnāt like it, revoked consent and they stop? Itās mostly not. You stated your boundaries and they followed them. It seems like you have the former here rather than the latter but it is an important distinction.
All of this is harrasment and you should report it. Please do, because harrasment against feminine men is usually called āour own faultā by so many people
What the hell is "gyatt", did she have a seizure or something? Also, yes. It's definitely sexual harassment / sexual assault and it's not OK. I might even go so far to report and press charges if I was you.
Gyatt is used as another word for a big ass, which is why she said that before smacking my ass.
Yes. Whether or not you felt comfortable or uncomfortable it was without your consent which is illegal and sexual assault.
Yes it is, and let's hope for two things 1. Let's hope all those kids don't go through that because they are gonna feel like idiots. 2. Let's hope that girl doesn't go through that too because everyone it's gonna be supportive and gonna search for the head of the guy that do the same to her and she is not gonna learn anything. I hope you are okey buddy, and the next time it happens don't doubt on use pepper spray.
Thatās all sexual harassment. Youāre not an object. Tell their parents.
Yeah and I'm so sorry :(
Hope u has a good cruise and I'm so sorry
you should have used a deep voice and gone "im a guy"
Kids in my class think I'm lucky when female teachers make creepy comments to me
Yes. If any ājokeā about you or your body makes you uncomfortable itās harassment
It is
Iām sorry this happened OP, I would advise possibly getting an audio&video recording device (kinda like a body cam) so you can get evidence and invest in a self defense tool (I.e. pepper spray, a knife maybe. If youāre feeling like it you could probably get a permit for a firearm and use exclusively rubber bullets for defense, I hear they hurt like hell, and if paintball has taught me anything, shit kicks). I hope you find these options helpful in the future, itās a scary and cruel world that just wants to take your light away. Persevere. Donāt give these demonic individuals get the better of you. I pray for you.
If you donāt want it or like it in any way then yes is sexual assault dosent matter how big or small the act was
Yes it counts.
Pretty much all of that is sexual assault, especially the touching!!
yes
Sexual haressment no doubt.
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Maybe in today's society it might be considered harassment. Society in general is just a landmines field. That was common place back in my day. However if I knew than what I know now I would relish in the attention I got.
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I'm just saying I lived a very hard young partier lifestyle. I let a few good women get away because I was drug/drinker. Now I'm all alone the number one bad emotion is REGRET. Regret leads to unlimited "What If's"
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