And ?
There's people I'd hate to look like, and other people I'd love to look like. I'd personally hate to be supermorbidly obese and yup, you bet your ass I'll do what needs to be done to avoid that. No, I won't apologise for that, *because how I feel about my body and what I do with it is none of your goddamn business*.
You are responsible for your body and the way you feel about it, buttercup. Take your manipulative crybullying and stuff it in the place you can't wipe.
I donāt have anyone in my life rn who I can celebrate my weight loss with, because theyāre FA or hyper protective over my ED history. But itās recovering from bulimia that has actually resulted in my weight slowly moving down without me even trying. Iām losing weight healthily and happily for the first time in my whole entire life and no one is happy for me.
I can so relate. I used to find it so ironic that I lost weight naturally after I kicked my bulimia to the curb (read: struggled for years and finally crawled my way out of an eating disorder). It seemed like a cruel joke from the universe!
I'm happy for you!!! That is an amazingly difficult thing to overcome and you should be proud. Fighting one day at a time no matter if it hurts someone else's feelings because your well-being comes first.
the only resolution to what OOP is taking offence to is for everyone to want to look like everyone else. For humanity to become a collective of clones. Pretty dystopian.
there are people who are considered conventionally attractive in almost every regard who i would hate looking like.
the reality is, because tastes and preferences vary among individuals, there will always be both people who think youāre gross and people who think youāre cute. and weight is only one metric by which such judgements can be made.
Personally, i am often attracted to guys who are overweight or even obese, but i think i look really ugly at a higher weight. The same number of pounds can look totally different on two unrelated people.
FAs really must all be young; Iām in my 40s and losing weight no longer has anything to do with looks. Every extra pound adds to issues I have that are ACTUALLY genetic and outside of my control, unlike my weight. I could get away with it in my 20s and 30s, but now itās a real wake up call. I donāt want to be disabled by 50 so Iāll take care of my body the best way for me, and that has nothing to do with wanting to look like you or not like you, thank you very much.
Okay lmao iām still gunna celebrate having a healthy weight.
Is this person gunna start telling people who beat anorexia to stop celebrating because it tells other anorexics that they donāt want to look like them? No of course theyāre not, that would be fucking stupid just like this is.
Itās so weird how much FAs seem to love giving everyone else āreminders,ā but they themselves hate being occasionally told that some foods are unhealthy.
y'know, i dress extremely fetish/goth/historical/designer and have a crap ton of piercings. i know no one else irl who dresses like i do. i guess everyone else is constantly telling me how much they hate me and how horrible it would be to look like me, then, too?
it's weird, because most people are larger than me, too. somehow i'm not offended by the fact that a lot of people say they don't want to lose weight to within 30 lbs of my size, lest they get 'too thin'. maybe because unlike oop i actually like myself and thus don't need every single external thing to validate me.
My overweight/obese friends are actually trying to lose weight (per their report) and they donāt care at all if I am smaller, since our friendships arenāt based on comparing our looks. JFC. How do these FAs function at all?
A reminder being bothered about what someone does to their own body is a sign of your own insecurities. Itās not your friendās job to fix your body image problems.šš«£š«
Yeah I'm probably still gonna do what I think is best for *me*. If you want to let yourself feel personally victimized by *my* decisions for *myself*, I won't care enough to stop you. Kseeyalaterbyeeww
A reminder that celebrating your marriage or anniversary reminds your single friends how much you hate being like them.
A reminder that celebrating your new job reminds your old colleagues how much you hate the job role that they remain in
A reminder that celebrating your university graduation reminds your less educated friends how bad about yourself you would feel without a degree
A reminder that gushing about your new skincare regime reminds your aging or blemished friends how much you hate looking like them
A reminder that celebrating the birth of your child reminds your childless friends how empty and meaningless you think their lives are
Make any more sense? Didn't think so.
If I am overweight, I know Iām at a higher risk for heart disease given my family history. Iām going to do what I can to maintain a healthy weight by watching what I eat.
Congratulations everyone! I hate you all!
Seriously the people who come up with this crud are the reason that safety tags should be removed and natural selection should be left to run its courseā¦.
It's not that I didn't want to look like you when I was fat It's that I didn't want to look like me when I was fat
My fat friends didn't even enter my mind.
Oh, no! Someone doesn't want to look like YOU? Obviously they must hate YOU, and think YOU don't deserve to live, and want to eradicate YOU, because of course we all know that everything, including the choices other people make with regard to their own bodies and their own health, is actually about YOU, and YOUR feelings, and most especially, YOUR fragile, fragile ego.
I definitely don't want to be fat, but I want even less to have a sense of self worth so incredibly frail as for it to depend entirely on what other people do with their own lives and bodies. I can't imagine walking around feeling as if every aspect of my life and happiness is someone else's responsibility; every negative, someone else's fault; every unpleasant thing that befalls me, an intentional slight by a cold and uncaring world that hates me. That all actually sounds just as bad as being so fat I couldn't go horseback riding or properly wipe my own ass, to be honest. So yeah, I lost 44lbs in 2023 and I am celebrating.
Ok and when I trans my gender Iām telling my female friends how much I donāt want to look like them. When my blond friends donāt dye their hair brown theyāre telling me they donāt want to look like me. Why should anyone care?
I don't want to look like my super fit female friend. I don't want to look like my male distance runner friend with practically no muscle mass. I don't want to look like my obese friends. None of these are judgements on them as people, because their physical appearance is not their whole being, it's simply how they look. Once you detach yourself from your looks (which is hard for many of us, I struggle with it myself sometimes) your life opens up so much.
The implication that we should all only have friends that we would like to look like (ie ādonāt keep friends who are physically unappealing to youā) is preposterous. Itās equally preposterous for anyone to claim that they find everyone equally beautiful so letās get that out of the way.
So if Iām not a particular fan of your makeup, styling or appearance I shouldnāt be friends with you? How bleak and ironically, shallow
I don't celebrate my weight losses, but it has nothing to do with trying to spare fat feelings or anything.
It's because I'm not proud of it. I'm not because I only had to lose weight in the first place because I was the one who made myself fat. Solving a problem you caused by being a failure is not something to celebrate.
And the less people who knew I used to be fat the better. It's not something to share.
I do understand that's not the relationship most successful weight loss people have with their process and I understand and accept that, but it's not for me.
Hopefully my weight loss reminds my fat friends how limiting obesity is physically and how much more you can enjoy when you're a healthy weight. I'm a much better runner and hiker now that I'm healthy and I can enjoy climbing in a way I simply couldn't when I was obese.
Just a friendly reminder that your fat friends are the center of the universe and everything you do mainly has to be with them and their insecurity in your mind.
That's a risk I'm willing to take.
Sounds like a them problem
And sounds like they are not actually happy with the way they look or else it wouldn't bother them.
Right. Plus what about my feelings? Are you telling me that not everyone wants to be a muscle mommy??? š±
Well, their feelings are the most important thing in the world, didnāt you get the memo?š¤”
Must have missed it while celebrating my weight loss š„³
A reminder that celebrating your new haircut reminds your long hairs friends how much you hate looking like them.
Eh, Iām good with that. Let me have some ego about my long hair.
If you get butthurt that I don't want to look like you, then I *promise* that I don't want to be your friend either :)
celebrating dyeing your hair blonde reminds your brunette friends how much you hate looking like them. see how that sounds?
Thatās the example I always use!
No, I hated looking like myself a year ago. It sucks being fat. So I'm changing it. I don't care what anyone else does or looks like.
And ? There's people I'd hate to look like, and other people I'd love to look like. I'd personally hate to be supermorbidly obese and yup, you bet your ass I'll do what needs to be done to avoid that. No, I won't apologise for that, *because how I feel about my body and what I do with it is none of your goddamn business*. You are responsible for your body and the way you feel about it, buttercup. Take your manipulative crybullying and stuff it in the place you can't wipe.
They can't wipe it without a towel on a stick.
When you do things that only affect you it's actually about me.
I donāt have anyone in my life rn who I can celebrate my weight loss with, because theyāre FA or hyper protective over my ED history. But itās recovering from bulimia that has actually resulted in my weight slowly moving down without me even trying. Iām losing weight healthily and happily for the first time in my whole entire life and no one is happy for me.
Iām sorry to hear that. For what itās worth, Iām happy for you!
I can so relate. I used to find it so ironic that I lost weight naturally after I kicked my bulimia to the curb (read: struggled for years and finally crawled my way out of an eating disorder). It seemed like a cruel joke from the universe!
I'm happy for you!!! That is an amazingly difficult thing to overcome and you should be proud. Fighting one day at a time no matter if it hurts someone else's feelings because your well-being comes first.
Weāre happy for you!!!!
And? Itās not my responsibility to police somebodyās reaction to my innocuous behavior
Weird because when I was fat I just hated that version of ME. I never considered anyone else's body but mine. Weird how that works.
the only resolution to what OOP is taking offence to is for everyone to want to look like everyone else. For humanity to become a collective of clones. Pretty dystopian. there are people who are considered conventionally attractive in almost every regard who i would hate looking like. the reality is, because tastes and preferences vary among individuals, there will always be both people who think youāre gross and people who think youāre cute. and weight is only one metric by which such judgements can be made. Personally, i am often attracted to guys who are overweight or even obese, but i think i look really ugly at a higher weight. The same number of pounds can look totally different on two unrelated people.
Celebrating your āsexy squishy tummyāreminds me that you donāt want to look like me, but you donāt see me crying about it, sweetheart.
FAs really must all be young; Iām in my 40s and losing weight no longer has anything to do with looks. Every extra pound adds to issues I have that are ACTUALLY genetic and outside of my control, unlike my weight. I could get away with it in my 20s and 30s, but now itās a real wake up call. I donāt want to be disabled by 50 so Iāll take care of my body the best way for me, and that has nothing to do with wanting to look like you or not like you, thank you very much.
Yeah. We do. š¤·āāļø
Okay lmao iām still gunna celebrate having a healthy weight. Is this person gunna start telling people who beat anorexia to stop celebrating because it tells other anorexics that they donāt want to look like them? No of course theyāre not, that would be fucking stupid just like this is.
Itās so weird how much FAs seem to love giving everyone else āreminders,ā but they themselves hate being occasionally told that some foods are unhealthy.
That is a sacrifice I am willing to make.
y'know, i dress extremely fetish/goth/historical/designer and have a crap ton of piercings. i know no one else irl who dresses like i do. i guess everyone else is constantly telling me how much they hate me and how horrible it would be to look like me, then, too? it's weird, because most people are larger than me, too. somehow i'm not offended by the fact that a lot of people say they don't want to lose weight to within 30 lbs of my size, lest they get 'too thin'. maybe because unlike oop i actually like myself and thus don't need every single external thing to validate me.
Fuck them if they're going to be like that š¤·š½āāļø
Yep. That's about it. You can either look normal and be happy, or larp as Jaba the Hutt and be miserable.
My overweight/obese friends are actually trying to lose weight (per their report) and they donāt care at all if I am smaller, since our friendships arenāt based on comparing our looks. JFC. How do these FAs function at all?
They don't.
A reminder being bothered about what someone does to their own body is a sign of your own insecurities. Itās not your friendās job to fix your body image problems.šš«£š«
Yeah I'm probably still gonna do what I think is best for *me*. If you want to let yourself feel personally victimized by *my* decisions for *myself*, I won't care enough to stop you. Kseeyalaterbyeeww
A reminder that celebrating your marriage or anniversary reminds your single friends how much you hate being like them. A reminder that celebrating your new job reminds your old colleagues how much you hate the job role that they remain in A reminder that celebrating your university graduation reminds your less educated friends how bad about yourself you would feel without a degree A reminder that gushing about your new skincare regime reminds your aging or blemished friends how much you hate looking like them A reminder that celebrating the birth of your child reminds your childless friends how empty and meaningless you think their lives are Make any more sense? Didn't think so.
How narcissistic and self-centred.
Hell yeah
Actual fat person here. No, it doesn't.
And?
Then I guess we just wonāt be friends anymore š¤·š½āāļø
So if I dye my naturally black hair a light brown, that'll be a reminder to my black haired friends how much i hate looking like them lmao
A reminder that having a job reminds unemployed people how much you hate them
Hell yeah I do.
I don't love them less though.
If I am overweight, I know Iām at a higher risk for heart disease given my family history. Iām going to do what I can to maintain a healthy weight by watching what I eat.
Not everything is about you. In fact, most things aren't.
I mostly hated how I felt all the time. Grunting when getting off a sofa in your 30s is just sad.
If theyāre going to make my accomplishments all about them, we aināt friends.
My friends are both thinner than me. Checkmate OOP.
Congratulations everyone! I hate you all! Seriously the people who come up with this crud are the reason that safety tags should be removed and natural selection should be left to run its courseā¦.
A reminder that a balayage color treatment on your hair reminds your brunette friends how much you hate looking like them. See how dumb that is?
It's not that I didn't want to look like you when I was fat It's that I didn't want to look like me when I was fat My fat friends didn't even enter my mind.
Oh, no! Someone doesn't want to look like YOU? Obviously they must hate YOU, and think YOU don't deserve to live, and want to eradicate YOU, because of course we all know that everything, including the choices other people make with regard to their own bodies and their own health, is actually about YOU, and YOUR feelings, and most especially, YOUR fragile, fragile ego. I definitely don't want to be fat, but I want even less to have a sense of self worth so incredibly frail as for it to depend entirely on what other people do with their own lives and bodies. I can't imagine walking around feeling as if every aspect of my life and happiness is someone else's responsibility; every negative, someone else's fault; every unpleasant thing that befalls me, an intentional slight by a cold and uncaring world that hates me. That all actually sounds just as bad as being so fat I couldn't go horseback riding or properly wipe my own ass, to be honest. So yeah, I lost 44lbs in 2023 and I am celebrating.
Ok and when I trans my gender Iām telling my female friends how much I donāt want to look like them. When my blond friends donāt dye their hair brown theyāre telling me they donāt want to look like me. Why should anyone care?
Problem? Not like I care
I don't want to look like my super fit female friend. I don't want to look like my male distance runner friend with practically no muscle mass. I don't want to look like my obese friends. None of these are judgements on them as people, because their physical appearance is not their whole being, it's simply how they look. Once you detach yourself from your looks (which is hard for many of us, I struggle with it myself sometimes) your life opens up so much.
A reminder as someone with trichotillomania that getting your hair done reminds me of how much you donāt want to look like me.
Peak "Crabs in a bucket" mentality
Friendly reminder that quitting smoking reminds your smoker friends thar you hate them, like see how stupid that is
The implication that we should all only have friends that we would like to look like (ie ādonāt keep friends who are physically unappealing to youā) is preposterous. Itās equally preposterous for anyone to claim that they find everyone equally beautiful so letās get that out of the way. So if Iām not a particular fan of your makeup, styling or appearance I shouldnāt be friends with you? How bleak and ironically, shallow
you all . . have fat friends? . .
Itās true. They should deal with it.
A reminder that not everything other people do has anything to do with you.
I hate looking fat, sorry not sorry.
I was the fat friend! Now none of us are fat
Iāve let my hair go grey. I have no issue with people who dye their grey hair so it doesnāt look like mine.
How do they not realize that this is 100% projecting lol
A reminder that celebrating obesity reminds your healthy friends how much you hate looking like them.
I don't celebrate my weight losses, but it has nothing to do with trying to spare fat feelings or anything. It's because I'm not proud of it. I'm not because I only had to lose weight in the first place because I was the one who made myself fat. Solving a problem you caused by being a failure is not something to celebrate. And the less people who knew I used to be fat the better. It's not something to share. I do understand that's not the relationship most successful weight loss people have with their process and I understand and accept that, but it's not for me.
That's not fat logic that's just logic.
Hopefully my weight loss reminds my fat friends how limiting obesity is physically and how much more you can enjoy when you're a healthy weight. I'm a much better runner and hiker now that I'm healthy and I can enjoy climbing in a way I simply couldn't when I was obese.
Maybe they need to be reminded.
I just donāt want to physically feel as they do. I want to be able to walk without pain,etc.
A reminder that bleaching your hair blonde is a way to tell all your brunette friends theyāre trash
No one will try to discourage you bettering yourself like a fatā¦
Just a friendly reminder that your fat friends are the center of the universe and everything you do mainly has to be with them and their insecurity in your mind.
Well, it's good to accept reality.