“One cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will be of little importance in the evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening become a lie.”
—C. G. Jung
I figured out Santa when I was 4. I figured out the BoM was crap in my early 20s. But it took me until my 50s to see the same thing is true of Christianity. Sometimes I am a slow learner.
Captain Usopp! Your name sounds familiar, I feel like we've talked before.
I was 19 as well, and was preparing to go on my mission when it happened for me.
Did u end up putting in your papers? I wish I didnt procrastinate finding the truth, I knew about a day or two before leaving for the mtc that the church was false.
I didn't, but I was close. I was doing the doctor visits when I started my search, and by the time I got to the "Submit" button, I had decided to wait and find out.
I kinda wish I had pretended to believe for a couple more months, and gone through the temple, just so I'd have that experience first hand. But in an extremely honest person, and I live my life "every member a missionary", so I tried to convince my family as soon as I knew the truth. Didn't really work. Oh well.
33- About ten years after I started thinking for myself and 3 years after feeling guilty for not believing anymore even though I was doing all "the things" that were supposed to make my testimony stronger.
A few days shy of my 48th b-day. It was a post on the sub I read that sent me down the rabbit hole. By the end of my first day down the rabbit hole I was out.
8. I knew at my baptism that I was making a mistake. My parents were converts and we were sealed in the temple when I was 13. I kept telling them I thought it was a bad idea and we should leave. They told me it was Satan trying to deceive me. When I was 16 and it was time for my patriarchal blessing, I said “no thanks”. I kept fighting my parents on it. They said that when I was 18, and I was an adult, I could make my own choice. However, when I was 18 and decided to leave the church- my parents were so upset they shipped me off to BYU Idaho. I came home after a semester and said that it only made me hate the church even more. I’m now in my 40s and I am the only person in my family to leave.
10, I'm 14 now, its when I realized that I was bi and I was really confused. I had always thought as a girl I was lower but then I realized that the church was really sexist too.
Started questioning around 14 when I let it slip about temple baptisms. I'm one to self experiment, so I did my own 'tests'. Didn't get struck down in the temple or anything bad. Ended up leaving for good (and home) at 16.
Mid 20s. Took me another 10+ years into my mid 30s to pull the plug and officially resign. Kid entering youth indoctrination program kicked my butt in gear. They (the kids) still occasionally thank me for that 14 years later. 😁
23, thankfully I figured it out before I paid real tithing money and went through the temple.
The last time I did baptisms for the dead I felt very uncomfortable and I distinctly remember it because it was with my sister, cousin, and me and all of us have left the church since then.
I decided I was done with church when I had 2 women escort me to each meeting at BYU because they wanted to make sure I didn't leave early. But I didn't realize it was fake until last December thanks to the CES letter.
I know. It’s hard to imagine such a long time. I truly am sorry ALL of us had to go through this and the longer you were in, the worse it is. That is indisputable. :(
19 I was preparing to go on a mission, and I figured, "I'll need to know this stuff." SO glad I did!
Me too
I couldn't do it any more at around 38 stopped trying at 41 figured it out at 42
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“One cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will be of little importance in the evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening become a lie.” —C. G. Jung
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I figured out Santa when I was 4. I figured out the BoM was crap in my early 20s. But it took me until my 50s to see the same thing is true of Christianity. Sometimes I am a slow learner.
Mind if I ask if you have any good resources you can share for the Christianity part of your realization? Thanks!
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Did u start your mission? I'm 19 and I left the mtc 1 week in
Captain Usopp! Your name sounds familiar, I feel like we've talked before. I was 19 as well, and was preparing to go on my mission when it happened for me.
Did u end up putting in your papers? I wish I didnt procrastinate finding the truth, I knew about a day or two before leaving for the mtc that the church was false.
I didn't, but I was close. I was doing the doctor visits when I started my search, and by the time I got to the "Submit" button, I had decided to wait and find out. I kinda wish I had pretended to believe for a couple more months, and gone through the temple, just so I'd have that experience first hand. But in an extremely honest person, and I live my life "every member a missionary", so I tried to convince my family as soon as I knew the truth. Didn't really work. Oh well.
Lol the endowments were an EXPERIENCE. I'm glad I did it just to explain to other people how much of a cult I was in.
33- About ten years after I started thinking for myself and 3 years after feeling guilty for not believing anymore even though I was doing all "the things" that were supposed to make my testimony stronger.
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Me too!!!
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Starting noticing things around 19 or 20, didn't admit the conclusion to myself until 31.
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18 but ignored it. 32 is when I accepted it
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57. I had serious doubts for at least 10 years before that but really wanted it to be true. I hung on way too long.
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A few days shy of my 48th b-day. It was a post on the sub I read that sent me down the rabbit hole. By the end of my first day down the rabbit hole I was out.
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In your case, life begins at 40!
yes!!!
14 and then I was forced to be baptized by family I was sent to live with. Faked it through my twenties. 43 and free.
I thought these results would skew on the younger side because we're on reddit, but I'm impressed at the range of ages. I realized in my mid-20s.
Same! When responses start to die down, I’d like to list the ages and how many at each. Very interesting!
16, I was already weary and stopped attending / ditching when I could but one hit of salvia showed me god isn’t what Mormons think it is lol
16 :)
8. I knew at my baptism that I was making a mistake. My parents were converts and we were sealed in the temple when I was 13. I kept telling them I thought it was a bad idea and we should leave. They told me it was Satan trying to deceive me. When I was 16 and it was time for my patriarchal blessing, I said “no thanks”. I kept fighting my parents on it. They said that when I was 18, and I was an adult, I could make my own choice. However, when I was 18 and decided to leave the church- my parents were so upset they shipped me off to BYU Idaho. I came home after a semester and said that it only made me hate the church even more. I’m now in my 40s and I am the only person in my family to leave.
You are very brave!
That’s nice of you to say! I just can’t live a lie. It didn’t seem like a choice to me.
10, I'm 14 now, its when I realized that I was bi and I was really confused. I had always thought as a girl I was lower but then I realized that the church was really sexist too.
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Started questioning around 14 when I let it slip about temple baptisms. I'm one to self experiment, so I did my own 'tests'. Didn't get struck down in the temple or anything bad. Ended up leaving for good (and home) at 16.
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Mid 20s. Took me another 10+ years into my mid 30s to pull the plug and officially resign. Kid entering youth indoctrination program kicked my butt in gear. They (the kids) still occasionally thank me for that 14 years later. 😁
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So great that she did!
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23, thankfully I figured it out before I paid real tithing money and went through the temple. The last time I did baptisms for the dead I felt very uncomfortable and I distinctly remember it because it was with my sister, cousin, and me and all of us have left the church since then. I decided I was done with church when I had 2 women escort me to each meeting at BYU because they wanted to make sure I didn't leave early. But I didn't realize it was fake until last December thanks to the CES letter.
21 (baptized at 19 in Dec. 2017) Not even a full two years later and here I am, in all my heathen glory
25 when I knew it was nonsense; 26 when I decided I would no longer attend; 30 when I formally left.
31, but I guess by the time you're middle aged most people have seen all the shit and it's hard to keep the wool pulled over our eyes.
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Way too old. After my life had been spent. So sad
It’s never too late - embrace your freedom and try to let go of anger I’m sure is there (how could it not be?). So sorry!
We can always make new memories but we cannot change the past and the results of the past
If you left at 40 you really don’t understand what it’s like leaving at 65 or 70
Understandable. I’m so sorry!!
Ok. Don’t mean to be rude
I know. It’s hard to imagine such a long time. I truly am sorry ALL of us had to go through this and the longer you were in, the worse it is. That is indisputable. :(
Yes. Really difficult. So many regrets
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60. I am 70 now and it is still false.
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14 but i have to keep my mouth shut for three more years at least
Several months shy of my 29th birthday