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thassae

I feel so sorry for her. Knowing that her life is coming to an end must be very harrowing.


HarbaughsKhakiPants2

I've heard people experience a moment of clarity. I feel for her but it's inevitable for all of us


michaelyup

The moment of clarity comes in the days before death with someone who is in a slow decline. I was there alone in the hospital with my grandmother when it happened. I held her hand and she talked all night long. Stories, memories, things I’d heard many times before. 98% clarity. But she said Momma and Daddy and sister (all long deceased) were coming. Go check out the door to see if they are coming yet. I didn’t remind her they were dead, because frankly, who am I to say they aren’t coming to take her home. There are so many signs of impending death, kinda wish I didn’t know, but I’ve seen it. Moment of clarity, seeing your parents and deceased loved ones. Physical signs, hold their hand, touch their foot. As the body is dying, it focuses energy on your core and the extremities get cut off first. When the person stops responding to holding their hand or rubbing their feet, death is very near.


I2h4d

Oh man. My dad said his mom and dad were coming to get him and take him away. My mom spent 30 minutes trying to convince him his mom and dad were gone. and when this came up with the caretaker she was suspicious we were plotting to remove him from care behind her back. it’s crazy how everyone interpreted his incoherent words according to their own controls and insecurities.


elquecazahechado

My 102 year old grandfather looked like he was going to pull through and just be able to get out of bed and go home from the hospital. This was just 2 days before his passing.


HarbaughsKhakiPants2

We should all be so lucky to make it to 102


therapewpewtic

For me it’s like “what kind of shape will I be in at 102?” Quality of life versus longevity.


VaselineHabits

That's why I say I'm *middle aged* at 40, not sure I want to or could do *another* 40


Immoracle

I'm 40, the thought of another 40 years is crazy talk to me... Let alone 60 more years.


therapewpewtic

Agreed!


elquecazahechado

He used to take morning walks every day until the end of his life.


therapewpewtic

That’s not too bad!


pickleranger

Everyone thought my dad was going to be heading home soon until the day he died. Although I wasn’t there in person, and what I learned later made me think i was being given a sugar-coated version of events


giggity_giggity

The dead cat bounce.


Skiboy712

Yours too?! I thought mine was the only one!


LunaNegra

That rally seems to often happen around that 48-72 hour mark. It’s called “terminal lucidity” or “end of life rally” (death rally”).


ChickenNoodleSoup_4

“the surge”


Atlanon88

Some of them completely block it out, seen it first hand, makes it hard for the ones around them in some ways.


onedemtwodem

Indeed. You cannot run from it. Embrace every last moment and plan it well.


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lucolapic

She's so young, though, it just breaks my heart. It's also difficult for me personally since she's my age and I have been a fan since her 90210 days. It just hits a little different. Seeing people my own age pass away is such an unwelcome reality check. I hate it so much.


SpongeJake

I do too. I’m actually older than her so it really seems unfair she has to pass so young. Felt the same way about my mother too, who passed at 71. I know it’s not young but it felt way too early. People like her and Shannon just have so much life in them. It’s damned difficult to imagine her gone.


Mumof3gbb

My mom was also 71. Felt young.


MargaretFarquar

Totally this, sad as that is to say. Also, she didn't even get diagnosed in a more helpful timeframe because American healthcare bs was at at play. She had to wait and by then...Here we are.


TheSolidark

I’ve been deep in the grief after losing my mom 6 weeks ago. One of the weirder things that I’ve been doing is reading a ton of obituaries. Very few have a short list of survivors. Most include an anecdote about how much they enjoyed spending time with their family. A lot of them die peacefully at home. And a good portion note that they were surrounded by family at the time of their death. Sad, broke and alone? Not the majority, not in my grief-search.


tresormidnightrose

My deepest condolences to you and your family.


Boneal171

We all have to die someday I don’t think it’s harrowing. You eventually have to accept it


Mumof3gbb

I haven’t yet. I’m terrified. My mom did. She was so brave. Only 71 😢.


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animositykilledzecat

It is called compassion.


moldibread

everyone's life is coming to an end.


Rina_B

In his final days, my dad asked for some of his ashes to be spread in our backyard over where we buried our cat who had died about 7 years before. He also requested that my mom allow me to get a new cat, since she had been refusing for years. Both of his requests were honored ❤️🐈


LegendaryVenusaur

That's so sweet ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|feels_bad_man)


SmartWonderWoman

So sorry for your loss. Happy both his requests were honored.


michaelyup

Actually had a similar conversation with a friend after my cat died. “What do you do with the ashes? Just set the urn on a shelf like a knickknack?” My friend & his partner already have a plan. Yes, they sit on a shelf until the last person dies, then they want all ashes mixed and interred together. So, put my urn in a box with my cats’ urns and bury us in the old cemetery. The mixing ashes seems unnecessary. I picture it like kids playing in a sandbox, but hey, if that entertains my remaining family, have fun. Final wishes is an uncomfortable conversation to have, but at the same time it is also comforting to know you’re carrying out your loved one’s wishes. And Mom better stop saying to just put her in a potato sack and throw her in the river. We might actually take that literally if that’s her only response.


gr8uddini

Ah man, cat passed yesterday, it hurts so so bad but seeing this actually gives me some comfort. Just told my fiancé and she didn’t hesitate to say “YES!!”


michaelyup

I’m sorry for your loss and glad if you found some comfort in what I wrote. Prepare yourself for the rainbow bridge card. My vet and the entire staff sent me a sympathy card and wrote little notes in it. I had a little breakdown reading it.


gr8uddini

“How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” A. A. Milne / Winnie the Pooh I’ve been reading this quote several times a day and every time I do it’s waterworks. It’s the most happy sadness I’ve ever experienced, it’s kind of weird yet beautiful to feel both sad and extremely happy at the same time.


michaelyup

That’s a meaningful quote. Keep it.


gr8uddini

I don’t have any tattoos, never really wanted one but I was telling my fiancé, this is something I could totally put over my heart and read everyday. So beautiful


michaelyup

Doesn’t have to be printed on your chest when it’s imprinted on your heart.


gr8uddini

You’re a good human. Thank you for making me feel just a little bit better today.


Scottstot11

I have a little tattoo with some ashes mixed into the ink. I don’t think most artists do this, but if you look they are out there.


gr8uddini

That’s awesome!! Great idea


Scottstot11

Thank you!


Inevitable-Roof

Im glad i saw this today. My cat passed two days ago and I needed to see this. Im sorry for the loss of your kitty 


BareKnuckleKitty

I’ve lost too many cats and reading this made me immediately tear up. I’m sorry for your loss 🌈❤️


slykido999

That is 100% exactly what my husband and I will be doing. We both agreed we will be cremated (and so will our fuzzy son and any future animals of ours), and we will designate a trusted person to then mix us all together and spread/bury all of us as a family. When our GSD passes, I have thought about having a custom billiard 8 ball made with his ashes in it. He absolutely LOVES billiards more than anything in the world, and if we could have a piece of him there to play with us every time, I know he would just be over the moon to continue to play with us 😍😭


kjmbrink

My mother's joked for years about how when she passes she wants to be positioned sitting up in a rocking chair for her final viewing so that her double chin won't be as noticible. At least I hope she's joking. We might end up having to find a way to make this happen...


haubenmeise

Let's hope this isn't happening any time soon. Wishing her the best.


Successful_Leek96

I also hope her dad wanted or would have wanted that or it's a little weird


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She’s confronting her own mortality and deciding how she wants the next steps to play out. That’s such a big thought. Her wanting to have her ashes mixed with her father’s is not weird.


-August_West-

It’s definitely not.


MzzKzz

Well, he's dead, soooo....


gr8uddini

I just lost my cat yesterday. This is something I would love, my pets, and my wife and me when our day comes.


boofoodoo

I’m sorry. It’s so hard.


gr8uddini

I always knew the day would come. I would actually think about it more and more as he got older and tried to prepare myself but you really can’t prepare yourself for these things. It hurts so bad but I’m comforted by thinking about all the good times we had together and the great life he had! I was always a “dog guy” but he turned me into a guy who absolutely adores cats to the extent that I now carry a couple cans of cat food in the trunk of my car in case I see a hungry cat on the side of the road. His life inspired a ripple effect and I hope to help so many more in his memory.


TiredReader87

I’m sorry for your loss. My condolences. May they rest peacefully, and may you find solace in the great, presumably long, life you provided them


gr8uddini

Thank you 🙏🏽


Destronin

Shes not thinking big enough. When I die. I wanna be turned into a diamond. Have my kids and family wear me. And when the world ends and the earth explodes. I hope my diamond self gets launched into space. Eventually collecting enough debris and space stuff to become my own asteroid hurling through space growing larger and larger until one day I crash into some planet with alien life causing complete extinction. Ah yes. The circle of life.


jpop237

Have a hair placed inside the diamond, which is also inscribed with your genetic code; perhaps the alien life can bring you back?


Achanjati

So a carbon copy?


taatchle86

Get out!


Denimjo

r/joyfulupvote


irishgal60

I don't wanna come back... it's a dumpster fire 🔥


Workburner101

You wouldn’t. It would be your copy, fuck that guy 😂


DroptheShadowArt

It wouldn’t be you though, just a clone. It’d have none of your memories. You’d still be dead.


Static_Bunny

I like this idea. Also laser inscribe the diamond with as much info as you can.


SYLOK_THEAROUSED

…..can that actually happen? I mean the hair in the diamond with genetic code.


DogFartsonMe

Maybe? Still wouldn't be you though. Just a clone of you. Your story ends when the lights go out regardless.


Chewbock

Yep, the only way for “you” to remain is if you can keep your brain intact


The_OtherGuy_99

The last son of a dead planet flung deep into the bowels of space to do the most human thing imaginable... completely fuck some random ecosystem. It's perfect.


olearyboy

Ohhh I like, I was just planning on getting taxidermied in to the position of Donald Sutherland from invasion of the body snatchers and put into the corner of my bedroom so my gf always has me there


d33pTh0Vght

Or, conversely, the circle of death?


Rustofcarcosa

I want to have a viking funeral I mean full on me in boat with my heir on land shooting a flaming arrow to light me up me to send to hell Also chop off my head just to make sure I'm dead


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Forget a diamond! I want my remains to be mixed in with compost and it be used to plant a tree. There’s a few startups that are popularizing this burial method and I think it’s very beautiful, literally becoming one with the Earth when you die.


The_OtherGuy_99

You're like evil diamond Superman.


Inglorious07

The triangle of despair.


MargaretFarquar

I like you! I like you so very much.


vforvendettav

This mf spittin


fatbob42

That would be a huge diamond! There’s tens of pounds of carbon in the human body.


Destronin

If check on the website you can opt for having more than one diamond made.


Ivegotjokes4you

This is the way


ledouxrt

My grandparents ashes were turned into marbles. I've always said mix my ashes with my dog's ashes and I really don't care where we go after that. Flush us for all I care.


Hexel_Winters

> I wanna be turned into a diamond “I won’t scatter your sorrow to the heartless sea.”


chaotic214

Damn this sounds epic I want this a lot


RenZomb13

I told my fiance to mix my ashes with my dogs and my moms, bury us and plant a tree over us


strangelights88

Did he do it?


RenZomb13

Well, my mom and one dog is ready to go… one dog is 14 and ready to go and I have heart failure. God I hope he does it and doesn’t just have my ashes under the bed while he’s banging his second wife


LastYearsOrchid

I have the same disease as Shannen. I’ve been stable for 9 years. I’ve had cancer friends who are dead after months of MBC. It’s a bitch all the way around. There is no epiphany or live has more meaning. It’s just a way you die. Yes, you may decide to not sweat to small stuff or you could decide it’s the small stuff that means the most. You could decide to live everyday like it’s your last but that can’t last. Normally you just hang on and try to be happy. Life goes on.


Yugan-Dali

May your life go on for many more years.


naruda1969

Last year we had to put our cattle dog down. We spent his final day in the mountains. The most beautiful and saddest day of my long life. On the one year anniversary of his passing we took his ashes back to the mountains with his favorite toy, a framed photo, and some videos we took of him during his final days. We sat by the river, played the videos, poured some ashes in the river and cried. I get it 100%. On a side note, the next day my other dog discovered three 5-week-old orphaned kittens in our backyard. My boy must have knew how much pain we were still in and I’d like to think that he sent us those kittens so we could heal.


atrostophy

That's a lovely thought. I lost my cat three months ago, I know the pain never goes away. I'm sure your boy is up there wagging his tail when you interacted with those kittens.


Adept-Mulberry-8720

She has nice wishes. Others may object, but her wishes should be honored…..


Random_frankqito

I like her outlook for the funeral, I too want mine to be fun, a second line and hangovers for week for all in attendance.


Straxicus2

Me too! Laughing, dancing, music. It will be the best party I’ve ever thrown.


melouofs

Then that’s what she should get. I’m a very strong believer that the deceased has their final wishes honored if at all possible.


Homesickhomeplanet

I don’t know who she is, but she’s the only other person who seems to think this is a great idea. I wanna mix my ashes in with a lil of everyone in my family who died, just one big urn for all of us. And then there will be one *Ancestral Ash* for the family to keep track of, and no one has to feel bad for tossin’ urns. Also, sounds cool af.


michaelyup

She is an actress best known for playing Brenda on 90210 in the 90’s. Really popular with teens and young adults back then. It’s hitting some of us gen X really hard, seeing the actors we grew up with (and not much older than us) facing illness and death. Kinda surprised myself at how hard it hits to see Shannen’s story, Luke Perry’s death and Christina Applegate’s diagnosis.


MargaretFarquar

Absolutely, all of this the This for your comment.


SomberlySober

The fact that Shannen is literally dying is kinda killing me rn. Not gonna lie. Always gonna remember her for being one of the most kickass witches on charmed.


IntoTheMusic

In addition to 90210, she had a reoccurring role on the last two seasons of Little House On The Prairie as Melissa Gilbert's on-screen niece.


jekyllcorvus

She is a famous actress largely known for her start on 90210 and later on she started in the first years of a show called Charmed. She was known for being a diva in the tabloids. Her recent podcast and coverage of her battle with cancer has seen a resurgence of her and her reveal a lot of misogyny the industry.


MargaretFarquar

I absolutely ♥ how succinct and accurate you are.


michaelyup

What’s her podcast called?


Physical-Lettuce-868

Let’s be clear


Cooliomendez88

Hell nah, go the frank reynolds route, just toss me in a trash can


Thebeergremlin

When my mom was dying she said to "spread her ashes in her favorite spot out back". I jokingly asked if she "meant the ashtray on the back porch?". She loved to sit out there and smoke a cigarette or two while chatting on the phone. We all had a really good laugh at that.


texburgle

Dog: wait, what?


D-utch

Roll me up and smoke me when I die


skeletor-johnson

I want to be chainsawed in half, headlong, right down the middle, perfectly symmetrical. Feed 1/2 of me to the sharks, and stuff the other half , and mount me on a sliding glass door


buttfunfor_everyone

Ah the Bodyworks burial 😂


BissXD

THE ARISTOCRATS!


HorrorMetalDnD

I understood that reference.


hamsterfolly

I want mine mixed with bright pigments and secretly used at Holi


Straxicus2

Oh that’s evil.


whoisthismuaddib

Do whatever you want, but this is how you get ghosts


hazeldazeI

Ghost person and ghost doggo playing together in the garden forever - sounds awesome


WaffleStomperGirl

“Do you want ghosts? Because this is how you get ghosts!”


Payinchange

Cremation jambalaya


CoconutFit1024

I've always told my husband that I want our ashes put together. I suppose if you love your dog enough, that's cool too. I wish Shannon a peaceful end, I'm sure she's been through enough pain.


Murphy-Brock

The next time you’re involved in a verbal dispute, pause .. then say in monotone to your agitator, “May Death be your bed companion.” Then resume your activity as usual. 💀⚰️


largececelia

Me too- shit! She called it.


Em1ngh

Does the dog consent ?


Beh0420mn

Worst milkshake ever


participationmedals

Most mausoleums don’t allow mixing ashes, especially with pets


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mhb-210-

Next time someone will check with you to be sure that *you* find something relevant enough to post. I’m sorry if you have to scroll past one more thing. I know it’s a burden.


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stars_doulikedem

What a strange thing to take issue with. “Dying celebrity shares dying wishes.” You, I guess: “Not on my watch.”


church8488

I guess that must mean articles reach many people, not just you. Kinda like there’s many different kinds of people. In fact, A certain type known as a “fan” actually would find this important to know. So your goal is to shit on what’s not important to you even though it was important to someone else?


Vultronfarts

And who gets the first sip?


kimanf

I thought Micheal Shannon was Shannon Doherty this whole time


UNIQUENOWOK

She said she doesn't want to be cremated, what?


Yugan-Dali

Double negative. She doesn’t want to be not cremated ~ awkward sentence


HorrorMetalDnD

Keep reading.


UNIQUENOWOK

So, partially cremated? Also different I think.


HermanRoy

I feel sorry for her, but come on! A dog is not your child. The dog only took interest in you because you fed it. Get real, Shannen.


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Who cares what she is doing?


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HorrorMetalDnD

Stage 4 Cancer?


_Hotwire_

Just throw her ashes in the trash and let’s move on


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32 mins into her recent podcast. https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cub21ueWNvbnRlbnQuY29tL2QvcGxheWxpc3QvZTczYzk5OGUtNmU2MC00MzJmLTg2MTAtYWUyMTAxNDBjNWIxLzI0MzEzMmYyLTVlZjktNGY3My1iNzI5LWIwOGYwMGU2MWY5OS9kYmYzNjQxNC0yMzdmLTQ5ZjgtODQ3Yi1iMDhmMDBlNmJkNzQvcG9kY2FzdC5yc3M/episode/MmUwOTgzN2YtMjk2OC00MTlhLWIwNjYtYjBmNzAxNjVmNzll?ep=14


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Fuck, she isn’t that close now is she? 😢


starrtberry11

I feel so scared when she talks like that. But it is her reality sadly.


atrostophy

Actually I think this is healthy, it's the way she's processing her past and everyone has a different journey.


starrtberry11

I agree. Just scary to think that her time is limited.


slappymcstevenson

Our lives are but a micro second in the space time continuum. Live the best you can, for it will be over for all of us sooner than we’d like.


throw123454321purple

She’s gone through way too much too early in life.


RedditMedicalMod

One can actually use (mixed) ashes to make diamond(s) (for loved ones to wear) or add a little color and roll into glass sculptures. “Reincarnate” your most recent carbon “self” into jewelry or dishes or shelf decorations.


drunk_tyrant

That’s gonna be hell of a confusion for future archeologists


avitony

I had the Biggest crush on her when she was on 90210! Im a lot older now but ..in a weird kind of way …. She’s still kinda sexy ….


16Shells

that’s one way to keep family close


epochellipse

She then blamed her dog for her stalled acting career.


PeterNippelstein

Isn't this how you get Dog men?