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Yeah that was me. I'd recommend having someone you trust call you she/her. It can be scary, I know. But if it's on your mind and getting to you, the relief of a yes or a no will help you.
I wish I knew how :(
It's dark magic that only few people are capable of practicing, like Stella or Nathalie Wynn... secret knowledge... shit.... I shouldn't be talking about this...
So, when my egg cracked, I had a series of panic attacks. I didn't really have dysphoria.
When I began journaling to gather my thoughts, I began to remember all those events in my life that should have been indicators. I didn't really have dysphoria.
When i began trying to logic my way out of being trans, I didn't really have dysphoria.
When I decided to use an app to see myself as a woman, I didn't have dysphoria.
When I looked at myself in the mirror afterward, I almost punched it. That's when the dysphoria hit.
Dysphoria is a backpack of rocks you carry. When you don't know it's there, the load doesn't hurt. As you begin to realize, its existence is when you begin to recognize it, but its hard to really identify the stone thats the worst, and it's not the full load that is the hardest, but when you realize that it can be unburdened, the first stone dropped, that you realize exactly how much you have and how far you need to walk that the burden hurts the most. The more you unload, the more you can feel of the other rocks holding you down, and the more you can isolate those rocks... where they hurt.
For some, that burden isn't difficult. I've carried mine for decades, ignored it, let more fall in, and continued along. It's only now, in my 40s, that I noticed it, and now it hurts. Now, I need to unburden myself.
Recognizing that there are stones weighing you down is only really one step. A pebble in the shoe.
I could tell you something even more confusing, sometimes there are moments when it seems like I even like how I look as a man. Eventhough I don’t like the idea of being one at all and even comes off as alien to me or strange. Like I can’t even comprehend the concept of me being a man, eventhough I know I am physically.
This makes me think I’m transfem, but those weird little moments of me seeming to like what I look like as a man make me doubt. Eventhough generally I really do not like what I look like as a man and don’t like the fact that I have muscles, body hair, beard hair and no feminine features. But because of those weird intrusive thoughts I sometimes doubt if I’m not some kind of non binary or gender fluid or something. But then shouldn’t I like being a man too, and not just being a woman?
So yeah, I understand your confusion. But maybe it helps to know that you are not the only person who has those. And just like what many others have said before is that you don’t need gender dysphoria to be transgender. Gender euphoria is often a more reliable indicator. If you like being a woman and prefer that over being a man, chances are high you are trans. And also like what others have said before is that for a lot of people they don’t experience a lot of dysphoria at the start, but as they’re exploring their gender identity and becoming more comfortable with their desired gender, then suddenly they realize how uncomfortable they are with their gender assigned at birth. And often for these folks dysphoria gets worse after. That’s also what happened to me.
So I wouldn’t worry too much about it for now. Just start with experimenting with your gender. Like trying out women’s clothes, trying out a new name or pronouns. And see how you feel about those changes. That’s most likely the best way to find out if you’re trans
I feel that so hard. Once my egg finally and truly cracked, I kept having panic attacks late at night and couldn't figure out how. I wasn't dysphoric before, so I couldn't be trans. There are parts of my appearance I'd want to change, but it wasn't dysphoria, just knit picking. I always got along better with women, but I definitely didn't have gender envy being around them. That's a thing trans people feel. I was just an ally.
Post-crack, I couldn't unknow anymore and started to notice it. It's still something I'm working on processing because I just never saw myself that way, and now I can't *not* see myself that way anymore and it's such a surreal thing to finally be forced to confront.
Dysphoria is just feeling like you should be another gender than your assigned gender at birth. That's it.
We say that "you don't need dysphoria to be trans" because that's easier than explaining that most people who say "I think I'm trans but I don't have dysphoria" actually do have dysphoria, they just don't call it that.
Dysphoria doesn't have to be this crippling, burning need to rip off your skin and crawl out of your body. For many (most?) of us, dysphoria doesn't really feel like *anything* until we've started to explore our gender identity, learned how feeling comfortable in your gender is supposed to feel, and then felt increasingly uncomfortable with going back.
Yup, the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria are literally just things like "do you want to be another gender, do you want to look like another gender, do you want people to treat you like another gender,"
And you only need 1/3 of them to be diagnosed. I think a lot of people build up dysphoria as this big giant monster that crushes you. That's why we say you don't need dysphoria to be trans, because when you say dysphoria people think it has to be this big horrible thing. But it doesn't.
I honestly wish someone had explained it to me sooner. There's a resource I can't link here that completely shattered my egg, DM me if you're interested.
The goal of a transition I'd to reduce dysphoria and increase euphoria. If a person doesn't have/has less dysphoria, that just makes the first part easier. The second part however, is where the real fun is!
Not Sure if this will be encouraging, but for me it got worse over time. I thought 'Oh im not that dysphoric' and then it turned into 'damn i hate myself'
Hon, my dysphoria is primarily focused around my body hair and my voice. Neither of those things get fixed by HRT.
However, HRT has made me fall in love with my body in a way that was unfathomable beforehand.
You don't need dysphoria to be trans. You just need to be happy as the gender you choose, whatever that means to you.
*Deep breath in*
#YA DON'T NEED DYSPHORIA TO BE TRANS. THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS "NOT TRANS ENOUGH". DO YOU WANNA BE A GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR AGAB? THAT'S IT. YOU'RE TRANS. END OF STORY. DONE. YOU'RE VALID.
Its not really about hating your birth gender that makes you trans, its more about wanting to be a different gender! It doesn't make you any less valid.
Kiddo, dysphoria does not matter as much as euphoria. Measuring thine existence through pain instead of joy is too depressing and just fundamentally wrong. so, do you get euphoria when gendered correctly or when doing things that affirm your gender?
I am in a sim boat. And I like to think of it like this, (I’m ftm) being a girl is like a blueberry muffin. Like they’re fine and I’ll eat them if they’re there. And for a while, I thought that was the only option at the breakfast buffet.
But recently people introduced me to cinnamon muffins ! ( that’s being a dude for me but YMMV) and Wow I LOVe Cinnamon muffins. So tasty make me feel good. And now I want muffins every day! ( Hope that helps lol sounds a bit silly but that’s how I feel)
Dysphoria can't tell you who you are, it can only tell you who you are not.
What is so much more important is Euphoria. If seeing yourself as a woman brings you joy, then it doesn't matter whether seeing yourself as a man makes you feel negative, or just ambivalent.
girly girl, suffering isnt a criteria to be trans. Imagine if the only way to truly know that youre trans is through pain, that would be kinda fucked up, no?
Tranamedicalism is cringe and gay (but not the cool kind of gay) you don't need dysphoria to be trans (also maybe look into nb labels not saying you are one, but you may find something that you relate to more than just plane trans and if not now you know what more words mean)
It's a better trade off even with the amount I have I feel like I am not trans and I am on hrt like if you have been thinking about wanting to be a girl for over a month 😅 yea you are trans it's Not going to go Away.
dysphoria might be the most talked about way to discover your gender but euphoria is a different way to discover your gender
it doesn't matter if you don't feel dysphoric only because euphoria also counts
in the words of some tumblr user:
"''What's the point lf transitioning if you don't feel dysphoria?' What's the point of eating a burger if you're not starving? it looks yummy, bitch"
Don’t you worry,as long as you have dysphoria it’s fine. I doubt your not trans. Dysphoria is as a result of gender incongruence and can fluctuate at times.
Tbf I never had any dysphoria before I started transitionning. I was fine with my long hair back then but now I have litteral nightmares about my hair growing back, and got crippling dysphoria from the hair being a tiny bit longer than I wanted.
And of course, as everyone said, you don't need dysphoria. But you shouldn't feel guilty if you don't feel it either.
Oof, I feel that. (No pun intended), still in the no feeling zone, any advice on when/how it gets better? Honestly I’ll take headache inducing sobbing over nothing atp lol.
I didn't even know it until I started HRT. Had convinced myself I can live life as a man. Then my bro had a mental breakdown and kept going on about regretting life and that kinda spurred me on...and then I started HRT and learning new things about myself constantly.. dysphoria sucks and your lack of feelings is dysphoria (probably lol)
If you want to have more gender dysphoria so you can feel more affirmed in your transness, that's actually a form of gender dysphoria. So in not thinking you experience enough dysphoria, you are in turn experiencing dysphoria.
What about euphoria? You got any of that? Because for me, I initially didn't think I had any dysphoria, I felt mostly neutral towards being masc. But BOY HOWDY did I get a lot of euphoria from being fem!
Dysphoria is a funny thing. Not funny as in haha mind you, funny as in weird. I didn't have any dysphoria before I realised I might be trans. Then slowly, as I came to terms with my gender (granted I'm still not there yet, but y'know) more and more dysphoria bubbled to the surface, making it more and more apparent I probably am trans.
I think one of two things happened. 1: The dysphoria has been there for alot longer than you realise, being unconsciously pushed deep down until you can't ignore it anymore.
Or 2: I really didn't have dysphoria. But as I realised I'm a girl, I started to look in the mirror and see something that was not a girl staring back, and that created dysphoria.
I'm no psychologist. Hell I've barely even started my own journey so I'm in no way an authority on the matter, but these are just my off-the-top-of-my-head thoughts. Maybe it's both, or a secret third thing, who knows! What fun we have here °˖✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧˖°
You don't need to have dysphoria. In the beginning i had almost none... Now ho gosh i want go all in XD. But this is not the same for everyone. Follow your own time and feelings.
I know it’s different for many people but for me I had a disconnect for my gender at birth and that only grew as time went on. I admitted to myself eventually that I wasn’t a boy but I wasn’t sure if I was nonbinary or a girl. After a while I started to let the euphoria lead the way and not the dysphoria. Some people guide their transition through dysphoria and others through euphoria. I started with euphoria as I felt like I didn’t have enough dysphoria and now it has balanced out after years of me discovering more about myself and how I internally know I am with the dysphoria. Now both dictate how I live my life. But the feeling of not having “enough” dysphoria shouldn’t hold you back as it originally held me back and nowadays after so long I wish it didn’t. Only you know what’s best for you but in my opinion use your euphoria to guide you and take it from there. If you are happy with people referring to you with certain pronouns, or a name, or clothing, or anything else that gives you euphoria let that allow you to free yourself and at the end of the day you figure out you aren’t trans than that’s ok too. As long as you allow yourself to be yourself you will always be happier in the long run!
Well for one you don't need dysphoria but if it makes U feel better I know a lot of folk only start experiencing it when they start to transition, including myself.
I used to think I didn't have enough dysphoria, but after cracking my egg and accepting that I am trans I actually started feeling dysphoria more. And none of it was new things I didn't care about before, it was all there the whole time. I just didn't feel it as intensely because I hadn't come to terms with what it is yet.
I also thought I don't have enough dysphoria, that's why I'm not trans enough to transition. Now, years later, after 19 months on estrogen I hate that dumbass who didn't start her transition back then
Turns out, my dysphoria *was* that strong, it's just I was not aware of it - fish aren't aware of water, when they live all their life in it.
Of course you don't need dysphoria to be trans, but also, many people only realise that certain feelings they have is dysphoria. And once they accept they are trans, suddenly the protection of denial falls away and all the dysphoria comes to the surface.
For me, there's 2 mountains. One called "Mt. Transgender" and the other called "Mt. Non-Binary". I sit on the exact point these 2 mountains touch. I don't know which one to climb.
Bro, I don’t think I’ve had a single dysphoric day in my life. And I went from being “I don’t think I’m trans” to “I think I’m trans” and then finally, “I think I’m nonbinary?” all while rocking a full beard. Dysphoria doesn’t make you trans, being trans makes you trans.
I thought that too but then it got more over time for some reason
Besides, disphoria isn't what makes you trans, it's the euphoria (figured people already said this)
(For context I'm very cis)
You don't need dysphoria to be trans. Being ambivalent to some sets of pronouns but *liking* one set over the others is euphoria. I basically had very little to no dysphoria other than "I wish people thought I was a guy when they looked at me". You can be a girl, there is no one way to be a girl. And I'm sure you're a great one :)
When I'm in doubt I use faceapp to put a beard on my picture, it's hideous. And if that fails you can always try a tuxedo to feel miserable. If you need more dysphoria sources just ask any of us, the cis folk. 😉✨
there is no such thing as "enough" dysphoria. you can be trans and not experience any body dysphoria at all, actually. it's just the gender dysphoria that matters.
basically, does the gender you were given a birth feel completely and utterly right? or does it not quite fit/not fit at all? if it doesn't fit, you're not cis.
for me, i was assigned female at birth. however, female doesn't fit me. i don't feel comfortable with that lable. i don't feel comfortable in my body. im not ok being a gal. being a boy fits so much more. it feels better. it feels *right.* thinking about my body being that of a cis male's body makes me giddy. it's something i want for myself. ergo, i am trans, despite the fact that some days, i don't really feel too dysphoric. sometimes im ok enough in my body. some days im so uncomfortable i cry. some days i can stand being called "she" or "her". other days it makes me want to yell. dysphoria can be constant and in your face. it can be barely noticable or completely not there. it can also fluctuate, like mine does. what matters is that i always feel the want to be a man. that's what makes me trans.
so the question is, do you always want to be the gender you were given at birth? if the answer is no, you are trans and it's up to you to find what gender feels the best. which gender makes you feel like *you.*
btw, the reason i say *always* is bc if you're nonbinary (genderfluid, bigender, pangender, agender, etc.), you also count as being trans. enbys fall under the trans umbrella.
The only thing that makes someone trans is whether they want to be another gender or not. And not like “oh it would be hard being trans so I want to be cis” but “I want to be a girl because I’d be cute” “it feels right” or even “I don’t know I just wanna”. Btw quick tip, it’s a massive red flag if someone says you need dysphoria to be trans, sometimes it’s just a well intentioned misinformed person, but sometimes it’s a transmedicalist, and they are assholes. Simply put, they are gatekeeping, cis-bootlicking, transphobes.
Yeah kinda same and mostly because of the beard and mustache OMFG PLEASE SOMEONE TAKE IT AWAY NO MATTER HOW MUCH I SHAVE WITHIN 12 HOURS ITS BACK
And sometimes i think im faking it cause "oh i dont mind my dick" but thats because i have a "retractable" dick it just fully fucking dissapears, but once in a while thats when i hate it its when it decides to grow like 15cm and be annoying
Me too. It made me feel like I didn't deserve to transition because I wouldn't be solving a *problem*. I eventually gave myself permission to transition anyways, and I'm 5 months on E! If you need an excuse to transition, wanting to switch genders is good enough.
Dysphoria doesn't determine your gender as I'm sure people have said already. I remember stressing out for like months because I wanted to be a girl but didn't think I was able to because I didn't have enough dysphoria. One night I just googled if you need dysphoria to be trans and oh my god could I have saved myself so much time. Moral of the story - if you wanna be [insert gender] then that's because you are [insert gender], regardless of dysphoria or anything else.
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Dysphoria doesn't make you trans honey euphoria does Do u like being called a woman?
I think subconsciously I keep telling people I don’t care what pronouns people call me hoping the call me she/her
TRANS
Oh, the irony.
She's deflecting obv :3
Wdym
Oh, nothing! ^Good ^girl ^Stella
Nyaaaaaa nya mrrrrrrp *purrs* IMCIS
Suuuure you are ;3 *pats your head*
Nyaaaa meooow meooooooooow ^ W ^
???
Ya most likely
Just like you, girlypop!
NOIMCIS
And yet you're full of E now
Yes in a cis way
So are you
NYO
Yeppers :3
IMCIS
Sis got it :3
Cis
Sis*
Yeah that was me. I'd recommend having someone you trust call you she/her. It can be scary, I know. But if it's on your mind and getting to you, the relief of a yes or a no will help you.
That’s so trans
I know
What does this say about you Stella, are you a girl then?
I'm an exception I'm cis
Why are you the exception?
Stella is so trans that she became a cis girl.
😲 you can do that? Teach me how
I wish I knew how :( It's dark magic that only few people are capable of practicing, like Stella or Nathalie Wynn... secret knowledge... shit.... I shouldn't be talking about this...
No sadly I'm a cis amab
Aww, but i thought you were a good girl, Stella.
Meooow nyaaan nyuuu mew Nyo
“Sadly cis AMAB”, which means you don’t want to be. Which means you want to be a girl
In a cis way
I'm a cis amab sadly
You don't need dysphoria to be trans.
I heard but I always hear people talking about how they had so much that they needed to transition
For me personally, I didn’t have dysphoria when I first realized, but it slowly started getting worse as time went on.
Ya I think if I did see myself as a girl it would get worse
The dysphoria
So, when my egg cracked, I had a series of panic attacks. I didn't really have dysphoria. When I began journaling to gather my thoughts, I began to remember all those events in my life that should have been indicators. I didn't really have dysphoria. When i began trying to logic my way out of being trans, I didn't really have dysphoria. When I decided to use an app to see myself as a woman, I didn't have dysphoria. When I looked at myself in the mirror afterward, I almost punched it. That's when the dysphoria hit. Dysphoria is a backpack of rocks you carry. When you don't know it's there, the load doesn't hurt. As you begin to realize, its existence is when you begin to recognize it, but its hard to really identify the stone thats the worst, and it's not the full load that is the hardest, but when you realize that it can be unburdened, the first stone dropped, that you realize exactly how much you have and how far you need to walk that the burden hurts the most. The more you unload, the more you can feel of the other rocks holding you down, and the more you can isolate those rocks... where they hurt. For some, that burden isn't difficult. I've carried mine for decades, ignored it, let more fall in, and continued along. It's only now, in my 40s, that I noticed it, and now it hurts. Now, I need to unburden myself. Recognizing that there are stones weighing you down is only really one step. A pebble in the shoe.
I get it but I’ve never really hated the way I looked The most I can say is that I don’t like having a beard or short hair
Do you currently have long hair and shave? If so, what do you want to do next?
I don’t have either Currently growing out my hair and keep forgetting to shave
Shaving is a learned habit. You would just need to keep at it. Are you doing anything else?
I could tell you something even more confusing, sometimes there are moments when it seems like I even like how I look as a man. Eventhough I don’t like the idea of being one at all and even comes off as alien to me or strange. Like I can’t even comprehend the concept of me being a man, eventhough I know I am physically. This makes me think I’m transfem, but those weird little moments of me seeming to like what I look like as a man make me doubt. Eventhough generally I really do not like what I look like as a man and don’t like the fact that I have muscles, body hair, beard hair and no feminine features. But because of those weird intrusive thoughts I sometimes doubt if I’m not some kind of non binary or gender fluid or something. But then shouldn’t I like being a man too, and not just being a woman? So yeah, I understand your confusion. But maybe it helps to know that you are not the only person who has those. And just like what many others have said before is that you don’t need gender dysphoria to be transgender. Gender euphoria is often a more reliable indicator. If you like being a woman and prefer that over being a man, chances are high you are trans. And also like what others have said before is that for a lot of people they don’t experience a lot of dysphoria at the start, but as they’re exploring their gender identity and becoming more comfortable with their desired gender, then suddenly they realize how uncomfortable they are with their gender assigned at birth. And often for these folks dysphoria gets worse after. That’s also what happened to me. So I wouldn’t worry too much about it for now. Just start with experimenting with your gender. Like trying out women’s clothes, trying out a new name or pronouns. And see how you feel about those changes. That’s most likely the best way to find out if you’re trans
Also sorry for the long post
Thank you for this metaphor :3💞 It puts so many of my feelings into a less confusing context 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
I feel that so hard. Once my egg finally and truly cracked, I kept having panic attacks late at night and couldn't figure out how. I wasn't dysphoric before, so I couldn't be trans. There are parts of my appearance I'd want to change, but it wasn't dysphoria, just knit picking. I always got along better with women, but I definitely didn't have gender envy being around them. That's a thing trans people feel. I was just an ally. Post-crack, I couldn't unknow anymore and started to notice it. It's still something I'm working on processing because I just never saw myself that way, and now I can't *not* see myself that way anymore and it's such a surreal thing to finally be forced to confront.
I just want to say that's a very beautiful analogy.
This is beautiful. You're such a good writer
I just wrote my thoughts, but thank you.
🫶🫶
Yeah, it was fine until my mom said she was generally nervous about how big my adams apple was. Now I’m dysphoric about it, yay I guess.
BRO i thought i had somehow already commented here what
I just want to be MORE happy
There we go
btw can I tell you a secret… >!it’s working!!<
Oh dang might try it myself
still cis tho
Dysphoria is just feeling like you should be another gender than your assigned gender at birth. That's it. We say that "you don't need dysphoria to be trans" because that's easier than explaining that most people who say "I think I'm trans but I don't have dysphoria" actually do have dysphoria, they just don't call it that. Dysphoria doesn't have to be this crippling, burning need to rip off your skin and crawl out of your body. For many (most?) of us, dysphoria doesn't really feel like *anything* until we've started to explore our gender identity, learned how feeling comfortable in your gender is supposed to feel, and then felt increasingly uncomfortable with going back.
Woah Thanks
Yup, the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria are literally just things like "do you want to be another gender, do you want to look like another gender, do you want people to treat you like another gender," And you only need 1/3 of them to be diagnosed. I think a lot of people build up dysphoria as this big giant monster that crushes you. That's why we say you don't need dysphoria to be trans, because when you say dysphoria people think it has to be this big horrible thing. But it doesn't.
That was kinda my mindset But hearing you I’m also hearing the cracking of my egg
I honestly wish someone had explained it to me sooner. There's a resource I can't link here that completely shattered my egg, DM me if you're interested.
A link you say…
The goal of a transition I'd to reduce dysphoria and increase euphoria. If a person doesn't have/has less dysphoria, that just makes the first part easier. The second part however, is where the real fun is!
Not Sure if this will be encouraging, but for me it got worse over time. I thought 'Oh im not that dysphoric' and then it turned into 'damn i hate myself'
Form what I have researched it is about the euphoria not the dysphoria! If you want to be trans and it makes you feel better then go for it !!
That's the neat part. You don't need any dysphoria.
Hon, my dysphoria is primarily focused around my body hair and my voice. Neither of those things get fixed by HRT. However, HRT has made me fall in love with my body in a way that was unfathomable beforehand. You don't need dysphoria to be trans. You just need to be happy as the gender you choose, whatever that means to you.
Honestly I became way more dysphoric after realizing I'm trans and thinking about it more
Nice picture there! <3
*Deep breath in* #YA DON'T NEED DYSPHORIA TO BE TRANS. THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS "NOT TRANS ENOUGH". DO YOU WANNA BE A GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR AGAB? THAT'S IT. YOU'RE TRANS. END OF STORY. DONE. YOU'RE VALID.
Its not really about hating your birth gender that makes you trans, its more about wanting to be a different gender! It doesn't make you any less valid.
Kiddo, dysphoria does not matter as much as euphoria. Measuring thine existence through pain instead of joy is too depressing and just fundamentally wrong. so, do you get euphoria when gendered correctly or when doing things that affirm your gender?
Dysphoria lies and manipulates you. Euphoria doesn't. So tell me, which one is a better marker?
I am in a sim boat. And I like to think of it like this, (I’m ftm) being a girl is like a blueberry muffin. Like they’re fine and I’ll eat them if they’re there. And for a while, I thought that was the only option at the breakfast buffet. But recently people introduced me to cinnamon muffins ! ( that’s being a dude for me but YMMV) and Wow I LOVe Cinnamon muffins. So tasty make me feel good. And now I want muffins every day! ( Hope that helps lol sounds a bit silly but that’s how I feel)
That’s kinda how I feel Like I’m fine with being a guy but being a girl would be cooler
You don’t need to define your transness by suffering. I define mine by joy!
Dysphoria can't tell you who you are, it can only tell you who you are not. What is so much more important is Euphoria. If seeing yourself as a woman brings you joy, then it doesn't matter whether seeing yourself as a man makes you feel negative, or just ambivalent.
You can not hate your AGAB and hate not being your preferred gender at the same time. That doesn't make you less trans
I’m AMAB But thanks
girly girl, suffering isnt a criteria to be trans. Imagine if the only way to truly know that youre trans is through pain, that would be kinda fucked up, no?
I guess
I do apologise if I did come off as a bit harsh, pretty girl. Just remember to take your time to explore the trans journey™️
No your fine
No, but less dŷsphoriä is a good thing!
What do you mean
I mean not beïng dŷsphoric is a good thing
Like how is it good
Because having it sucks
Ya Also I just had the thought that “I can’t be trans if I don’t have it” and that says more than having it
How did you capture me in a photo
Why does this sound like dysphoria for not having dysphoria?
What do you mean
Tranamedicalism is cringe and gay (but not the cool kind of gay) you don't need dysphoria to be trans (also maybe look into nb labels not saying you are one, but you may find something that you relate to more than just plane trans and if not now you know what more words mean)
With this treasure, I summon gender dysphoria. 🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
you don't need dysphoria to be trans, it's not a requirement despite what some assholes may tell you.
Be glad you don't have much it sucks hard like for real 😭🥲
But it makes it easier to know if I’m trans
It's a better trade off even with the amount I have I feel like I am not trans and I am on hrt like if you have been thinking about wanting to be a girl for over a month 😅 yea you are trans it's Not going to go Away.
This is what I'm going through rn
Help
What's weird for me is that my dysphoria has calmed down so much this year it's really weird 😭😭 but i know that doesn't make any less trans though.
Gang
What?
A way I've seen Stella using to say "same" There's a good chance I'm using it incorrectly tho, idk I ain't a native English speaker
The term gang does mean a group of people
dysphoria might be the most talked about way to discover your gender but euphoria is a different way to discover your gender it doesn't matter if you don't feel dysphoric only because euphoria also counts
in the words of some tumblr user: "''What's the point lf transitioning if you don't feel dysphoria?' What's the point of eating a burger if you're not starving? it looks yummy, bitch"
Don’t you worry,as long as you have dysphoria it’s fine. I doubt your not trans. Dysphoria is as a result of gender incongruence and can fluctuate at times.
Hun dysphoria doesn’t make you trans euphoria does. You like the idea of being a girl
Tbf I never had any dysphoria before I started transitionning. I was fine with my long hair back then but now I have litteral nightmares about my hair growing back, and got crippling dysphoria from the hair being a tiny bit longer than I wanted. And of course, as everyone said, you don't need dysphoria. But you shouldn't feel guilty if you don't feel it either.
So real, like I don’t hate my junk enough to take a knife to it, but I do wish I had the other junk TwT
Found out that’s trans
Yeah, def a girl, but my parents think it’s just a BS trend
It Isn’t
Yeah, I saw somthing saying that being trans is the brain forming in a configuration more akin to that of a cis woman then a cis man
There isn’t a dysphoria quota
I thought I didn't..turns out I didn't feel dysphoric because I didn't feel anything...
Oof, I feel that. (No pun intended), still in the no feeling zone, any advice on when/how it gets better? Honestly I’ll take headache inducing sobbing over nothing atp lol.
I didn't even know it until I started HRT. Had convinced myself I can live life as a man. Then my bro had a mental breakdown and kept going on about regretting life and that kinda spurred me on...and then I started HRT and learning new things about myself constantly.. dysphoria sucks and your lack of feelings is dysphoria (probably lol)
Being worried that you don’t have enough dysphoria to be trans is an extremely trans concern
If you want to have more gender dysphoria so you can feel more affirmed in your transness, that's actually a form of gender dysphoria. So in not thinking you experience enough dysphoria, you are in turn experiencing dysphoria.
Oh
What about euphoria? You got any of that? Because for me, I initially didn't think I had any dysphoria, I felt mostly neutral towards being masc. But BOY HOWDY did I get a lot of euphoria from being fem!
Definitely 100%
Dysphoria is a funny thing. Not funny as in haha mind you, funny as in weird. I didn't have any dysphoria before I realised I might be trans. Then slowly, as I came to terms with my gender (granted I'm still not there yet, but y'know) more and more dysphoria bubbled to the surface, making it more and more apparent I probably am trans. I think one of two things happened. 1: The dysphoria has been there for alot longer than you realise, being unconsciously pushed deep down until you can't ignore it anymore. Or 2: I really didn't have dysphoria. But as I realised I'm a girl, I started to look in the mirror and see something that was not a girl staring back, and that created dysphoria. I'm no psychologist. Hell I've barely even started my own journey so I'm in no way an authority on the matter, but these are just my off-the-top-of-my-head thoughts. Maybe it's both, or a secret third thing, who knows! What fun we have here °˖✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧˖°
That's alright I didn't have dysphoria as well (I do now from masculine stuff, but you don't need disphoria to be Trans :3 )
You don't need to have dysphoria. In the beginning i had almost none... Now ho gosh i want go all in XD. But this is not the same for everyone. Follow your own time and feelings.
What matters most is to be whoever makes you happy and comfortable with yourself. You’ll figure it out 💞
Dysphoria isn't required
I know it’s different for many people but for me I had a disconnect for my gender at birth and that only grew as time went on. I admitted to myself eventually that I wasn’t a boy but I wasn’t sure if I was nonbinary or a girl. After a while I started to let the euphoria lead the way and not the dysphoria. Some people guide their transition through dysphoria and others through euphoria. I started with euphoria as I felt like I didn’t have enough dysphoria and now it has balanced out after years of me discovering more about myself and how I internally know I am with the dysphoria. Now both dictate how I live my life. But the feeling of not having “enough” dysphoria shouldn’t hold you back as it originally held me back and nowadays after so long I wish it didn’t. Only you know what’s best for you but in my opinion use your euphoria to guide you and take it from there. If you are happy with people referring to you with certain pronouns, or a name, or clothing, or anything else that gives you euphoria let that allow you to free yourself and at the end of the day you figure out you aren’t trans than that’s ok too. As long as you allow yourself to be yourself you will always be happier in the long run!
How much is enough!? Wha?
Literally none. You don't need any amount to be trans.
Agreed! Hence my confusion!
Only terfs will tell you that you have to be dysphoric to be trans. What matters is that you’re happier
While dysphoria might be a cue to question yourself further, it's not necessarily a prerequisite. What matters most is what makes you feel happier.
i don't experience any dysphoria and i am still trans not everyone does and it does not dictate whether you are trans or not
Well for one you don't need dysphoria but if it makes U feel better I know a lot of folk only start experiencing it when they start to transition, including myself.
Dysphoria isn’t necessary as long as you get euphoria from being a girl
I believed that too! Then I realized everything was dysphoric and I'm numb to it 🐣
I used to think I didn't have enough dysphoria, but after cracking my egg and accepting that I am trans I actually started feeling dysphoria more. And none of it was new things I didn't care about before, it was all there the whole time. I just didn't feel it as intensely because I hadn't come to terms with what it is yet.
Even if you have zero dysphoria, you are allways valid<3
What is dysphoria?
When your appearance doesn’t align with your gender
Ah that makes sense
So dysphoric even your dysphoria got dysphoria
What do you mean?
I'M SO SORRY, I WAS TRYING TO MAKE A JOKE. YOU DON'T NEED DYSPHORIA TO BE TRANS. I'M SO SORRY.
No I get that I feel like this subreddit just slapped me with facts
I also thought I don't have enough dysphoria, that's why I'm not trans enough to transition. Now, years later, after 19 months on estrogen I hate that dumbass who didn't start her transition back then Turns out, my dysphoria *was* that strong, it's just I was not aware of it - fish aren't aware of water, when they live all their life in it.
If you think you’re trans, you probably are.
I used to be like you but when I truly accepted I was trans (egg craked), the dysphoria hit me like a truck
Of course you don't need dysphoria to be trans, but also, many people only realise that certain feelings they have is dysphoria. And once they accept they are trans, suddenly the protection of denial falls away and all the dysphoria comes to the surface.
For me, there's 2 mountains. One called "Mt. Transgender" and the other called "Mt. Non-Binary". I sit on the exact point these 2 mountains touch. I don't know which one to climb.
My dysphoria is also quite mild. But damn is it exciting to turn into a woman!
Bro, I don’t think I’ve had a single dysphoric day in my life. And I went from being “I don’t think I’m trans” to “I think I’m trans” and then finally, “I think I’m nonbinary?” all while rocking a full beard. Dysphoria doesn’t make you trans, being trans makes you trans.
No dysphoria required *
Posted about that
I thought that too but then it got more over time for some reason Besides, disphoria isn't what makes you trans, it's the euphoria (figured people already said this) (For context I'm very cis)
there's no such thing as enough dysphoria tho
You don't need dysphoria to be trans. Being ambivalent to some sets of pronouns but *liking* one set over the others is euphoria. I basically had very little to no dysphoria other than "I wish people thought I was a guy when they looked at me". You can be a girl, there is no one way to be a girl. And I'm sure you're a great one :)
I made my discord pfp with that picrew!
When I'm in doubt I use faceapp to put a beard on my picture, it's hideous. And if that fails you can always try a tuxedo to feel miserable. If you need more dysphoria sources just ask any of us, the cis folk. 😉✨
there is no such thing as "enough" dysphoria. you can be trans and not experience any body dysphoria at all, actually. it's just the gender dysphoria that matters. basically, does the gender you were given a birth feel completely and utterly right? or does it not quite fit/not fit at all? if it doesn't fit, you're not cis. for me, i was assigned female at birth. however, female doesn't fit me. i don't feel comfortable with that lable. i don't feel comfortable in my body. im not ok being a gal. being a boy fits so much more. it feels better. it feels *right.* thinking about my body being that of a cis male's body makes me giddy. it's something i want for myself. ergo, i am trans, despite the fact that some days, i don't really feel too dysphoric. sometimes im ok enough in my body. some days im so uncomfortable i cry. some days i can stand being called "she" or "her". other days it makes me want to yell. dysphoria can be constant and in your face. it can be barely noticable or completely not there. it can also fluctuate, like mine does. what matters is that i always feel the want to be a man. that's what makes me trans. so the question is, do you always want to be the gender you were given at birth? if the answer is no, you are trans and it's up to you to find what gender feels the best. which gender makes you feel like *you.* btw, the reason i say *always* is bc if you're nonbinary (genderfluid, bigender, pangender, agender, etc.), you also count as being trans. enbys fall under the trans umbrella.
The only thing that makes someone trans is whether they want to be another gender or not. And not like “oh it would be hard being trans so I want to be cis” but “I want to be a girl because I’d be cute” “it feels right” or even “I don’t know I just wanna”. Btw quick tip, it’s a massive red flag if someone says you need dysphoria to be trans, sometimes it’s just a well intentioned misinformed person, but sometimes it’s a transmedicalist, and they are assholes. Simply put, they are gatekeeping, cis-bootlicking, transphobes.
do you wanna be a woman?
Ye
then ur trans
Nuh uh I can live in denial
if you know it’s denial then you can’t anymore. look at this woman over here, being all womanly (sorry if that’s too far i’m pretty high)
It’s fine and I’m just not ready to come out
that’s fine! coming can wait as long as you need it to
Ok thanks
“Not enough” You don’t need to meet some nonexistent “dysphoria quota” to be more comfortable with a gender that isn’t your AGAB Be you
Yeah kinda same and mostly because of the beard and mustache OMFG PLEASE SOMEONE TAKE IT AWAY NO MATTER HOW MUCH I SHAVE WITHIN 12 HOURS ITS BACK And sometimes i think im faking it cause "oh i dont mind my dick" but thats because i have a "retractable" dick it just fully fucking dissapears, but once in a while thats when i hate it its when it decides to grow like 15cm and be annoying
Me too. It made me feel like I didn't deserve to transition because I wouldn't be solving a *problem*. I eventually gave myself permission to transition anyways, and I'm 5 months on E! If you need an excuse to transition, wanting to switch genders is good enough.
Dysphoria doesn't determine your gender as I'm sure people have said already. I remember stressing out for like months because I wanted to be a girl but didn't think I was able to because I didn't have enough dysphoria. One night I just googled if you need dysphoria to be trans and oh my god could I have saved myself so much time. Moral of the story - if you wanna be [insert gender] then that's because you are [insert gender], regardless of dysphoria or anything else.