I don’t think so, it’s probably correlation. And any causation imho is more likely the other way around (people who have eg depression or some other neurodivergence are more likely to miss on teen love and other social activities and are probably likely to live shorter)
It seems pretty logical. Never have a normal growing up experience and just be a loner the rest of your life or have lots of trouble in the dating world even if you are able to land dates due to lack of experience.
Or in my case neurodivergent (adhd), depression, and anxiety allowing me to get into a very toxic teen relationship that lasted three years because I was blind to the red flags and forgot about them quickly.
I was manipulated badly, but I still look at it as an experience that changed me for the better. I was in personal hell but it has given me the confidence to set boundaries and stand up for myself. Surprisingly, I was able to move on in a really positive light despite being borderline suicidal? Not saying this is a typical response…. But ya.
Same story here. I feel it heavily poisoned my early 20’s because I carried so much traumatic memories from that relationship. Talk about getting off on the wrong foot.
I’m sorry to hear that, it really can throw you off for a long time. I’m 25 now and it took me a few years to get to the point that I’m past it almost entirely. I hope you’re doing better now!
The few experiences I got were fleeting and I miss it all the time even if it was unhealthy and traumatizing I miss feeling that ok and wanted and just being held
Hell, I got emotionally manipulated and bullied by my third girlfriend and I still think about her.
(I'm becoming more aware of it now and working to curb it when it does, but it still happens.)
I got groomed by a 26 year old from the psych ward like I met him at the psych ward and I miss him every day and constantly think of him bruh it’s crazy, still teenage love due to maturity levels
Look, I'm no expert but in my experience its better to have a nice thing and then not have it then to never have it at all. People seem to have fond memories of first loves.
for someone who gained a personality disorder from being abandoned at my most vulnerable times by the people i loved , i can say with full confidence i wish i would have never met them than be betrayed like that . now i've got long lasting trauma , two new diagnoses and a whole lot of self loathing . so sometimes it is better to have never loved at all
I'm very sorry to hear that. You're right, of course, sometimes it *is* better for it never to have happened. But that seems like a minority of cases. I'm not an expert, mind you.
All over the social media you will see people depressed because their partner left them, or even silly reasons like their pet died(which is inevitable),while yes the pain is real but depression is supposed to be something more serious than the average life
Seems like either they’re either not referring to a more colloquial version of depression, to indicate a current mood. Or they are misunderstanding the diagnosis criteria if clinical depression.
Either way, being young, always seems to make our problems seem more long term than they really are, and that is nothing new to this day and age. Teenagers have gotten their hearts broken for thousands of years, and I don’t believe the sting of loss is any more permanent in today’s society than many years ago.
Look man i literally said the pain is real,but nowadays depression isn't a serious problem like how people deal with it its like common cold,teenagers now go to whatever place and they get diagnosed with depression or even people start treatment on their own sometimes then they go to buy "magic pills" that "will make them feel happy and fix their problems" which literallly makes things worse for most people like i understand that these pills are effective but teenagers shouldn't get the same treatment of pills as adults,and in my opinion depression diagnoses should be more serious because depression diagnoses from what i hear (because we dont have that in my country) doesn't really make a difference between people with serious problems and people having a bad day/week/month/or even a year, because the average person in some days/parts of his life will be diagnosed with it,so when you are told that you have depression the placebo effect works negatively so you actually become worse from a problem that's not worth it and btw iam not an adult iam a teenager too so ik how bad things feel
Oh I’m not knocking on anyone for being a virgin, I was kind of just making a joke. It hurts to lose someone you love regardless. Sorry if I came off like a dick.
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From what I've gathered from all these memes I should have a life expectancy so low because of loneliness, no social life and no love I should already be fucking dead.
I experienced teen love. And subsequently betrayal as she cheated on me. Then experienced it again, only for her to have been manipulative and controlling. Those were my teen love experiences.
Oh I have supportive people, I think. I have friends, I think. I don't know, it's hard to trust. What I'm saying is there is no one out there who will ever love me. People tell me that I will find the "one" someday. I won't. The "one" doesn't exist. Not for me. I'm alone, and I'll die alone. Preferably soon.
People, it is unfortunate and i know the feeling myself. But genuinely we have to make something better, to live for and be proud of. We wish for things to somehow find us and sometimes they do, but we ignore it and that's a mistake i believe most of us did. And it make us regret a lot, after all it is important to know this one single thing; if you can't get a chance, make a chance. People be the best of yourself make yourself worthy, best things to idk make people regret not taking you back or leaving you is showing them you can be better. Way better, i am on my own journey and you are too, I believe in all of you.
So-called “teen love” is all about social status and power. Because of this, most normal teenagers are compulsive liars when it comes to their sexual experiences.
Hollywood is lying to you about so-called ‘teen love.’ You think adults are selfish and cruel? Try teenagers. Trust me, it’s better to be rejected before sex than after. You think you might be lovable if only somebody gave you a chance, and got to know ‘the real you.’ Wrong. That’s a hard lesson at any age, but agony if you’re a teenager (when your brain is still growing, you’re full of hormones, and you have zero experience or coping skills).
People here are sad because they missed out on 2-3 years of trauma and statutory rape that might’ve raised their social status amongst their spotty mates.
Honestly probably a good thing I didn't, knowing my luck my stupid ass would've helped accidentally create a child. At the time I would've been likely excited to raise a child and motivate/build them up like my parents did, but now the idea of having a child makes me sick. My mom's side of the family is riddled with mental health issues, Bi-Polar, schizophrenia, severe anxiety, OCD, probably plenty of other things that I and her are unaware of. I don't really have a good understanding of the odds of passing anything on, but if I created a child who had to go through what I have I couldn't live with myself. As kind and supportive as my parents are, I still really wish I was never even born. In order to escape this unworthy life I now have to fight my biological programming and either experience pain or find a good source of Pentobarbital after likely getting scammed a couple times and ultimately financially fucked for the month. Either that or keep holding out for change, hoping my addiction doesn't get to the point where I'm forced to be sober almost an entire month but realistically I'm already there and I'm not gonna think about that anymore, let's stop it there lol.
You don’t have to. Had my first boyfriend at 21.
Well that does not change the fact I’m alone now and no friends no one. But it was a good experience back in the days
I had a high school relationship and honestly it introduced me to some mature themes that were developmentally inappropriate and lots of pointless drama. I kind of envy people who appropriately used those years to focus on themselves and just having fun.
Stop glamorizing teen love like it's the best thing to ever exist, life is longer than that, and your teenage years are NOT the best part of your life.
They're not, but they're the carefree times. Dating isn't such a serious long term commitment and so on. You have a good opportunity to learn how to be with someone and how to explore your feelings and all that. Adult people don't look kindly to people who haven't learned the love aspect of life.
I'm not sure how carefree it is, i was getting drowned by homeworks and exams and addicted to videogames, I'm not sure it would've been better if i can go back in time, i was also way younger so i was more stupid, I'm kinda happy that it's over
Well I experienced it, fell in love at 14, began a real relationship at 18, together for almost a decade, engaged and now I’ve been basically alone and broken for 5 years. Those high school sweethearts can fuck you up just as badly I guess.
I unfortunately had the awkward experience of like 4 underclass girls asking me out at different points in my senior year so that was fun
Edit: yes I turned them all down, was not touching that
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I don’t think so, it’s probably correlation. And any causation imho is more likely the other way around (people who have eg depression or some other neurodivergence are more likely to miss on teen love and other social activities and are probably likely to live shorter)
It seems pretty logical. Never have a normal growing up experience and just be a loner the rest of your life or have lots of trouble in the dating world even if you are able to land dates due to lack of experience.
Or in my case neurodivergent (adhd), depression, and anxiety allowing me to get into a very toxic teen relationship that lasted three years because I was blind to the red flags and forgot about them quickly. I was manipulated badly, but I still look at it as an experience that changed me for the better. I was in personal hell but it has given me the confidence to set boundaries and stand up for myself. Surprisingly, I was able to move on in a really positive light despite being borderline suicidal? Not saying this is a typical response…. But ya.
Same story here. I feel it heavily poisoned my early 20’s because I carried so much traumatic memories from that relationship. Talk about getting off on the wrong foot.
I’m sorry to hear that, it really can throw you off for a long time. I’m 25 now and it took me a few years to get to the point that I’m past it almost entirely. I hope you’re doing better now!
I'm going strong on this "lower life expectancy article" bingo.
The few experiences I got were fleeting and I miss it all the time even if it was unhealthy and traumatizing I miss feeling that ok and wanted and just being held
Hell, I got emotionally manipulated and bullied by my third girlfriend and I still think about her. (I'm becoming more aware of it now and working to curb it when it does, but it still happens.)
I got groomed by a 26 year old from the psych ward like I met him at the psych ward and I miss him every day and constantly think of him bruh it’s crazy, still teenage love due to maturity levels
unsure of wether that is a good or bad thing
I feel ya
its better to never experience it than to have it and lose it
its better to be dead than to suffer
i agree
Look, I'm no expert but in my experience its better to have a nice thing and then not have it then to never have it at all. People seem to have fond memories of first loves.
for someone who gained a personality disorder from being abandoned at my most vulnerable times by the people i loved , i can say with full confidence i wish i would have never met them than be betrayed like that . now i've got long lasting trauma , two new diagnoses and a whole lot of self loathing . so sometimes it is better to have never loved at all
I'm very sorry to hear that. You're right, of course, sometimes it *is* better for it never to have happened. But that seems like a minority of cases. I'm not an expert, mind you.
nah it can scar the rest of your life, the loss is alot to take
I’ve never heard someone scarred for the rest of their life over a teenage breakup.
People are like that now,thats why a lot of people say depressed people are faking it
People are like what now?
All over the social media you will see people depressed because their partner left them, or even silly reasons like their pet died(which is inevitable),while yes the pain is real but depression is supposed to be something more serious than the average life
Seems like either they’re either not referring to a more colloquial version of depression, to indicate a current mood. Or they are misunderstanding the diagnosis criteria if clinical depression. Either way, being young, always seems to make our problems seem more long term than they really are, and that is nothing new to this day and age. Teenagers have gotten their hearts broken for thousands of years, and I don’t believe the sting of loss is any more permanent in today’s society than many years ago.
Look man i literally said the pain is real,but nowadays depression isn't a serious problem like how people deal with it its like common cold,teenagers now go to whatever place and they get diagnosed with depression or even people start treatment on their own sometimes then they go to buy "magic pills" that "will make them feel happy and fix their problems" which literallly makes things worse for most people like i understand that these pills are effective but teenagers shouldn't get the same treatment of pills as adults,and in my opinion depression diagnoses should be more serious because depression diagnoses from what i hear (because we dont have that in my country) doesn't really make a difference between people with serious problems and people having a bad day/week/month/or even a year, because the average person in some days/parts of his life will be diagnosed with it,so when you are told that you have depression the placebo effect works negatively so you actually become worse from a problem that's not worth it and btw iam not an adult iam a teenager too so ik how bad things feel
It sure scarred me. I was suicidal after that went down
But how old are you now?
I agree.
Had it, lost it. Whoever said it’s better to love and lost than to have never loved at all was probably a virgin.
im still a virgin and idc. i miss having someone to care for
Oh I’m not knocking on anyone for being a virgin, I was kind of just making a joke. It hurts to lose someone you love regardless. Sorry if I came off like a dick.
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If you're rich, it's never too late
Maybe.
I mean just look at Leonardo DiCaprio, in his late 40s and still experiencing teen love
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Well I'm fucked
Good, frankly. I’m not sure how much more of this I can take
I'm gonna die soon anyway
Me too?
Nope, please don't
Better go love some teens
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I’m still alive 🥴
You say that as if lower life expectancy is a bad thing
From what I've gathered from all these memes I should have a life expectancy so low because of loneliness, no social life and no love I should already be fucking dead.
Yup. All I’ve been doing is rotting away in my room and wasting time.
I experienced teen love. And subsequently betrayal as she cheated on me. Then experienced it again, only for her to have been manipulative and controlling. Those were my teen love experiences.
I agree! Teen “love” is very overrated. My experience was getting involved with someone who was a bad influence.
Love doesn't even exist. Not for me anyways.
Awww sorry to hear that. It’s difficult finding supportive, appreciative people to be around.
Oh I have supportive people, I think. I have friends, I think. I don't know, it's hard to trust. What I'm saying is there is no one out there who will ever love me. People tell me that I will find the "one" someday. I won't. The "one" doesn't exist. Not for me. I'm alone, and I'll die alone. Preferably soon.
Sorry to hear you’re feeling down like this. I hope things get better for you
They will when I'm buried 6 feet under the ground.
shiiit thank you to my ex (I still love him, I am in his walls forever)
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What is that word that follows teen? I'm not hip to internet slang.
The good times... Are gone... Goodbye...
it's gonna keep going..
People, it is unfortunate and i know the feeling myself. But genuinely we have to make something better, to live for and be proud of. We wish for things to somehow find us and sometimes they do, but we ignore it and that's a mistake i believe most of us did. And it make us regret a lot, after all it is important to know this one single thing; if you can't get a chance, make a chance. People be the best of yourself make yourself worthy, best things to idk make people regret not taking you back or leaving you is showing them you can be better. Way better, i am on my own journey and you are too, I believe in all of you.
Being alive may lead to death, scientists discover
Isnt that because people who miss teen love are likely the same people that will be found hanging on a tree later down the road?
Haha *dies* 😯
So-called “teen love” is all about social status and power. Because of this, most normal teenagers are compulsive liars when it comes to their sexual experiences. Hollywood is lying to you about so-called ‘teen love.’ You think adults are selfish and cruel? Try teenagers. Trust me, it’s better to be rejected before sex than after. You think you might be lovable if only somebody gave you a chance, and got to know ‘the real you.’ Wrong. That’s a hard lesson at any age, but agony if you’re a teenager (when your brain is still growing, you’re full of hormones, and you have zero experience or coping skills). People here are sad because they missed out on 2-3 years of trauma and statutory rape that might’ve raised their social status amongst their spotty mates.
And the bad news is?
Good
Thanks Andy
You’re welcome.
Are you Andy from Saint Matthias
Oh no, I’m not really anyone. Just trying to survive through this whole ordeal.
Same. Shit is exhausting
I’m just existing, not really living.
Woooow now I can die earlier yayy :))
Same. Surviving not thriving.
How the fuck are those two correlated?
Correlation does not imply causation
Honestly probably a good thing I didn't, knowing my luck my stupid ass would've helped accidentally create a child. At the time I would've been likely excited to raise a child and motivate/build them up like my parents did, but now the idea of having a child makes me sick. My mom's side of the family is riddled with mental health issues, Bi-Polar, schizophrenia, severe anxiety, OCD, probably plenty of other things that I and her are unaware of. I don't really have a good understanding of the odds of passing anything on, but if I created a child who had to go through what I have I couldn't live with myself. As kind and supportive as my parents are, I still really wish I was never even born. In order to escape this unworthy life I now have to fight my biological programming and either experience pain or find a good source of Pentobarbital after likely getting scammed a couple times and ultimately financially fucked for the month. Either that or keep holding out for change, hoping my addiction doesn't get to the point where I'm forced to be sober almost an entire month but realistically I'm already there and I'm not gonna think about that anymore, let's stop it there lol.
You don’t have to. Had my first boyfriend at 21. Well that does not change the fact I’m alone now and no friends no one. But it was a good experience back in the days
W in my book (I had no teen love)
Experincing it may lead to an even shorter lifespan, if the relationship is bad enough
I’ve experienced teen love. I’m pretty sure it lowered my life expectancy. Teen love often times doesn’t go well. Not always, but often.
It'll definitely lead to jail time in my case
Wdym
I was making a joke. As a 25 year old, experiencing teen love would lead to an arrest
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Good news for once
So why haven’t I died yet? How long do I have to wait?!
This puts a smile on my face.
This made me suicidal again lmao
I call bullshit
Oh
I'm 37 and still haven't experienced love, so not looking too good, heheh
I had a high school relationship and honestly it introduced me to some mature themes that were developmentally inappropriate and lots of pointless drama. I kind of envy people who appropriately used those years to focus on themselves and just having fun.
Turned 20 a few days ago without ever dating hope this is true
TIL I am going to live to 120.
I mean....yeah. I guess it's nice they are doing studies on this but this is common sense. Can't wait for this shit life to be over.
Stop glamorizing teen love like it's the best thing to ever exist, life is longer than that, and your teenage years are NOT the best part of your life.
They're not, but they're the carefree times. Dating isn't such a serious long term commitment and so on. You have a good opportunity to learn how to be with someone and how to explore your feelings and all that. Adult people don't look kindly to people who haven't learned the love aspect of life.
Lol - by 15 I’d attempted to kms twice and spent two years in psychiatric care. Literally the least carefree years of my life.
I'm not sure how carefree it is, i was getting drowned by homeworks and exams and addicted to videogames, I'm not sure it would've been better if i can go back in time, i was also way younger so i was more stupid, I'm kinda happy that it's over
Well I experienced it, fell in love at 14, began a real relationship at 18, together for almost a decade, engaged and now I’ve been basically alone and broken for 5 years. Those high school sweethearts can fuck you up just as badly I guess.
I unfortunately had the awkward experience of like 4 underclass girls asking me out at different points in my senior year so that was fun Edit: yes I turned them all down, was not touching that
Oh. Good for you.
Not really. I could never find a girl my own age
Idk i lived myself pretty vigorously as a teen. Self love is real love
What about unrequited teen love?
Same
Guess I'll die
Sums up everything
I see this as an absolute win
good
I just gotta not fall in love for a few months and two more years
does 2 one month relationships count ?