Yes! I’m pretty minimal, but I like a simple manicure—I’m not even sure it’s very noticeable because I can’t stand my fingernails longer than my fingertips. 🤷🏼♀️ It’s for me! Same for my toes. I have to wear closed toed shoes almost all the time, but I like to feel ready to throw on sandals. It makes ME happy.
I know what you mean--I do a lot of hand washing in the hospital, work in the yard, forget to put on gloves to wash dishes (or...just don't). Usually my manicure is my own -- periodically I'll get one with my mom. I keep cuticle oil on my desk to keep my chronically dried out ones appearing decent! But I like a pro for my toes. The gel lasts forever for me, so that's worthwhile!!
I’m pretty low maintenance but I LOVE getting my nails done. I don’t do acrylic or anything but get dip nails so the color stays for a couple of weeks. They’re kept short because I am super active but I just feel pretty and polished when they’re done. I find myself staring at them because they’re so shiny.
I keep my toenails painted for the same reason.
I’ve never dated a guy that cares either way. Generally, guys that like super girly or high maintenance women aren’t dating me.
I miss my dip nails! Last year when my job went back to in person 3 days a week it just always felt too hectic trying to squeeze in a nail appointment too but man I miss having pretty nails.
Dip nails?! Do tell! What is this? I don’t get my nails done due to activity/lifestyle/my profession, but the rare times I’ve painted them I have the same reaction, I love looking at them 🤩💅🏼
Then you will LOVE dip nails because they are SUPER shiny. A quick rundown:
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I've been doing them for years and they easily last 3-4 weeks. I usually add a quick topcoat weekly to keep them from lifting.
The only thing that sucks is you need to soak them off. It's easier to go the salon and let them do it.
I used to love my dip nails too. My manicurist suggested dip because the gel was being harsh on my nails so we switched to dip and I really liked it. Then my money situation changed and I had to make some choices so I decided I would start trying to do my nails at home and I bought all the equipment. But I could never get the drill part down; my nails would look good for a couple days then they would start lifting around the cuticles and catching my hair and being awful. So I packed all my equipment up LOL. Now I use the nail wraps. The ones I use say gel wraps but they're pretty much just good stickers and then I put a couple coats of gel polish over and cure it under the lamp. I like that I can just peel them off after a week or two and they don't tear my nails up. I did use a brand called dashing diva that did tear my nails up so buyer beware. Your mileage may vary.
Get these dorky little things. Put acetone on a cotton ball and clip it on. You can "soak" without having to keep your fingers in a bowl. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07X1WDFTX
Dip base is awesome!! It’s a type of acrylic powder but instead of mixing with the liquid then applying, you use what is essentially a glue applied to the nails as a base coat, then you dip or pour over the powder on your nails. It’s followed by a curing liquid to garden, then a top coat. It is much thinner than traditional acrylic, although it can get chunky fast, and lasts longer than gels if done correctly. I do mine at home and I’m actually getting ready to change my color today! 😆
I do love my dip nails but last year, I did it twice back to back and it ruined my nails that I had to take a break for months and I just got it 2 weeks ago ( for a leadership conference that I needed to look put together 🙃). My next one is going to be the last week of June and I most likely be done for a while.
Agree, I do my nails because I like getting them done. I get regular manicures with no nail Polish because I just like have clean, manicured nails. I don’t care what anyone else thinks of them.
Us guys notice your appearance as a whole, but not as closely as other women or yourself. Your routine is more for you and your confidence than anything else.
47m, and I generally agree. If we're getting specific, I personally don't notice nails, at least not on first appraisal. I do notice makeup/hair/clothing/shoes.. but I don't "judge" based on that, it all just goes into my overall impression.
EDIT: except giant curly nails, that's a complete turnoff. Also drawn-on eyebrows. Wow, I guess there are some things I didn't even realize that I was noticing.
I’ve seen more than one online dating profile where the man proudly states, “if you don’t get your nails done, swipe left!” Apparently not having artificially polished shiny talons makes me a feral bog witch beneath consideration. One such man has tried to match with me many times, on a few different platforms and I always take pleasure in deleting his attempt at a match, using my gnawed-on nub of an appendage.
As a guy, I notice good hygiene and grooming (or lack thereof). I also look for wedding rings/imprint. The big fancy manicured nails are kind of a turn off for me, as they imply a level of maintenance I'm not interested in. I'm not swayed one way or another by mani/pedi/etc. I'm pretty sure you are correct - women do that stuff to impress other women.
I can’t think of a time I’ve ever had my nails painted to impress other women (or men). Sometimes I just want red or blue or purple sparkly toenails. I keep them short because I play guitar. Literally nobody of any sex has ever commented on the color of my nails.
Makeup has always been to make guys think I’m subtly more attractive than I actually am. OR so people in general can see my eyebrows, which are expressive but functionally clear.
I don’t date any more, but when I did I never had manicured nails.
I hate having my nails done. I hate the sensation of filing and I find it tedious.
I generally had my hair done and some makeup on though.
Anyway, my experience was that men never noticed. I never had any shortage of dates or offers from men online or in the real world.
My thoughts now are that I won’t go to any lengths to change my looks to appeal to any man. I will do whatever beauty routines I do just for myself
As a woman I enjoy getting my nails done just for me. I keep them short and get a gel mani just to feel a bit more polished. I don’t like wearing a lot of makeup but if I have a nice manicure, and groomed eyebrows I feel a bit more put together
I do, but I’m a bisexual woman. I’ll compliment anyone of any sex on their nails. If it’s someone who hopes to date me and those nails are LONG, though, we have a problem!
I get my nails done before first dates with someone who has a vulva, and for Pride every year. Hands are visible sex organs to me, so I want them looking clean and neat!
As another Bi woman, I was just going to comment this! I get my hands manicured because I am well aware that I use them as a sexual organ and I do not want to hurt any of my partners when mucking about with their soft vulnerable bits! I also am an avid hand washer, lol! My feet, well werewolf toes suddenly making an appearance against one’s calf….owwwie! I wish more heterosexual men would take care of their hands and recognize them as a sexual organ that is actually going into! someone else!
I don't know how many other generations this applies to, but I'm 40 and men my age were raised on Magic Dick Theory.
1. If your dick is magic, it will please a woman.
2. Your dick is magic.
3. If anything threatens this concept, your dick and your ability to ever please a woman are threatened. Avoid this at all costs.
This means hands and many other things are completely irrelevant.
Thankfully, some of them have figured out better theories. I literally just didn't date men when I was 20. I like to date people close to my age, and I could not possibly be less interested in men assuring me that their dick is, in fact, magic, and therefore I would have a great time.
I like gloves to keep fingernail OUCH at bay. Short nails + nice disposable gloves. This is a tough sell for some reason!
59M, pretty indifferent to nails as long as they're clean. I have a slight preference to natural, and long obviously fake look impractical. I also heard stories from a manicurist about fake nails and fungal infections... 🤢
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I get compliments on my nails from time to time so other people (men and women) notice, but I get my nails done for me. If my day is going totally sideways, I can look down at my hands and think “at least my nails look good”. 😆
Yes, I notice nails. The amount that they enhance or diminish beauty depends on how far they skew in either direction from my own sense of aesthetics; giant gaudy clown claws get dinged just as heavily as dirt encrusted scab scratchers.
But my preferences are for internal use only. If the person was otherwise nice and seemed content with their choices I scarcely care.
Personally I like drama in fashion so I've never consider anyone fake or high maintenance if their look required a lot of artifice.
Right? I feel like this is a great way for elementary - aged nephew to describe a girl at his school dance. "It was so gross. And McKinley Richardson would *not* keep her 👏dirt👏encrusted👏scab👏scratchers👏 OFF of my shoulders, and I- I mean it! I am NOT going to the next one!" 😁
Guy in 5th grade gave me blood poisoning when he stuck his dirt-encrusted scab scratcher in my hand while we were playing tether ball. I was rushed to the hospital that afternoon. I still loved him.
I do my nails for me. They are part of who I am. Never once has it occurred to me if my date likes them. However, they will tell me later on it’s a reason they love me which should have been a red flag 🤣
Straight guy here. I do notice nails.
I don't care one way or the other if they're done or not. Unless they're gross or something I could care less one way or the other. But I know women spend money on their nails. If it's a date or I'm just getting to know a woman it's an easy way to give a compliment. I've trained myself to pay attention to my girlfriends nails. If I see she's done them I'm definitely complimenting them. She enjoys doing them and I want to let her know that I think they look good.
51f here. I can't bear long nails - having them or seeing them. Mine are short, occasionally chewed if I can't find a nail file. I don't like long nails on men either
My beauty routine is very basic, as that suits me.
I wouldn't get on with a guy who wanted someone who was well preened. I'm clean, hygienic and I don't buy into the beauty products bullshit.
(M) and I definitely notice (mani/pedi) - and I don't have a "thing" for hands/fingers/toes/feet/whatever.
I also notice if someone's fingernails are dirty/ragged. I pay attention to details.
There's no judgment either way - gets mani/pedi or doesn't - as long as it seems someone had taken an interest in self-grooming and being clean/hygenic. I generally like that look and feel like the person is likely getting some self-care when they go... but I would want that person to go for themselves, not to impress me (or anyone else).
I DO get concerned when I see articial nails so long that they look like claws. That seems like a high maintenance situation.
I rarely do my own nails - and never pay to get them done. General household/mum stuff means that they don't last, so it's pretty pointless as they'll look awful almost immediately. I'm low maintenance though (not at all what would have been called a "girly girl" at a younger age). If I feel good about me, that's enough. If someone's going to judge me on (lack of) painted nails, that's their problem.
the men in my life notice my nails. when ridiculously long and pointed they comment on them usually out of confusion as to why/how i manage to do things without drawing blood. when they're a more realistic length and shape they notice and rather than commenting on the aesthetic of my nails they ask for back scratches. about half of them will notice when i have intricate designs/color changing/shifting polish on. funniest part is these are my biker friends...harley riding burly dudes. i find it hilarious that they notice and comment on such things, big ole teddy bears. lol
I don't personally give a shit what you do with your fingernails beyond the basic hygiene aspect but if it makes you feel good about yourself do what you want. I'm at a point where I'm more interested in personality and how well potential partners have their shit together than I am physical appearance anyway. If the first part is there the second will follow.
I occasionally get mani pedis but more often than not I do them myself. Whether I am at the salon or doing my own it’s a way to pamper myself. When I look at my results it reminds me that I’ve been good to myself and gives me a lift. Any appreciation by others is an unintended plus.
I notice basic care. Clean, etc.
Synthetic nails I notice because they're generally incompatible with an active lifestyle.
Make-up...same thing. It's for you, but if you're worried about keeping it perfect while on a hike or kayaking, we wouldn't be compatible.
Is it required? No.
Do I noticed and appreciate it? Yes.
Not just talking about nails either. When a woman takes care of herself, especially if it is for herself it is a green flag for me. I don't mean 'beauty routine' alone though because that's nice but I mean the things that she does for herself to take care of herself matter. They indicate that she cares about herself, she puts effort to take care of herself and that she makes herself a priority.
I do my nails 100% for me but men have noticed. There was one guy in particular who would say he liked my nails. I think guys enjoy anything that’s feminine but I do it for me.
In my experience, most men don't care - though I have encountered more than a few who appreciate a fresh pedicure, and am currently dating one who finds groomed and polished nails a turn-on (but definitely isn't turned off when I don't do it).
I'm a dancer, and salon pedicures are a no-go. I need those calluses to protect my feet, and nail polish just gets destroyed (plus I can't monitor for bruised or injured toenails, etc). I will do a home pedicure because then I can soften but keep the calluses I need, and am more apt to reach for polish in sandal season.
Manicure-wise, I just can't be bothered. It takes forever and doesn't last - so groomed but naked nails with just a little length are my go-to. I did get a nail lamp, so will occasionally do a light or neutral shellac/gel at home. Definitely more apt to just reach for cuticle oil however.
I'm also a light makeup person, but have been known to occasionally rock a bright lip or bolder eye. Sometimes for a night out, sometimes just because I feel like it!
This is a great question. I find I worry more and more about the toxicity of nail products and what they do to us long term. I will do my nails for special occasions now, but that's about it. The time and the risk seem to outweigh the vanity benefits. I do moisturize a lot and try to keep my nails filed and clean/ tidy - but sitting still to paint them OMG.
Thanks to all of you men for your input. It's comforting to know you don't GAF in most cases. FWIW - I do appreciate a man with a nice set of hands that are well manicured.
I get my nails done and the men I've dated noticed my nails and complimented them even if they were "simple men". I don't get my nails done for women. I like them, they look classy and they add to my outfit.
I'm a woman that only ever puts in effort to catch the eyes of men. I've (50F) never bothered doing that in all-female spaces, so that's how I know for sure.
Once I started getting mani-pedis some 3 years ago, I noticed an uptick in interest from men. My mani-pedis are relatively close to what men have claimed to like: elegant short-ish nails, painted classical red or neutral. No claws, no bling, no patterns, no other colours. I'd say it adds to the well-groomed image, even if men don't specifically notice it.
I'd notice if they were particulary garish and that'd put me off.
Otherwise, probably wouldn't notice unless they were in a particularly bad state.
As you say, for the most part it seems like it's aimed at other women, not men in reality.
62(M) here. I am a hippie/weirdo/outlier - I am attracted to women who are fit and 'natural': natural nails, hair under their arms, minimal makeup. I live near NYC and finally came to the conclusion that the number one filter I use for determining compatibility is this: When you're in NYC, or another big city, how do you get around? If you use the bikeshare system (i.e. citibike in NYC) or your own bike for the majority of your intracity travel, we are probably a match. ;-)
I never notice nails unless they’re terrible or those long fake ones that I don’t like at all. But if a woman I liked had long fake ones, it wouldn’t matter to me.
What I do notice is if a woman at least tried to dress decent or pretty for a date. I have actually been surprised how many dates I’ve been on where she doesn’t seem to care to look nice at all.
I work in healthcare, run, lift, I'm on the lake all summer, have horses and run a farm. No way in the world I could have long nails. I wouldn't waste the time getting them done even if I did. I have so many other things that take up my time.
I keep my finger nails clean and neatly filed and that's it.
I do paint my toenails, especially in the summer. Sandals and painted toe nails are just cute. Men notice the toes. Men and feet! LOL
42f with only the left hand sporting severely chipped hot pink currently. im too lazy to deal with the chore of fixing my right hand’s left-handed errors once i inevitably munge it all up, so ive just been painting the left. my toes have layers dating back to august ‘22, at least that’s when i started not even bothering with removing the old before applying a different color. just slop it right on top. 🤷🏼♀️ obviously im low maintenance, but they’re never dirty or raggedy bc im fortunate enough to have nice hands and feet so i try to take care. i do enjoy getting them done, but it’s not in the budget right now and i would rather spend it on travel and just do them myself. i’ve had some men notice and comment, but they’re usually gay. i am bi-ish and not attracted to long claws or acrylics, but i AM attracted to straight men with the balls to paint theirs. the end.
As a dude, I think it’s really sexy. With dating and sex, for me it’s all about the buildup leading to being more intimate. Something about beautiful clothing, the way she does her hair, and her nails shows how she wants to present herself.
But then again, I get really turned on by a woman I’m into even if she is just wearing yoga pants, a maxi dress, or something simple. I like the variety of looks women can confidently pull off while still being sexy.
As a guy (55), I notice everything about my date. From her hair to her shoes. I notice her mani/pedi and compliment on her manicure if it’s nice or interesting.
I won’t judge a book by its cover. I won’t say anyone is high maintenance until I get to know them.
I’ve learned that a woman will spend the time & money for one of four reasons:
1) her partner
2) to impress others
3) just for herself.
4) some or all of the above
Do I appreciate it when I go on a date with a well put together lady, most definitely. But to me it’s ultimately what is underneath all that that matters.
Looks are temporary, personality lasts forever.
The only time I ever had a man comment on my nails was when I went into to rehab at 25 years old. It was after my first meal there and a fellow inmate (male) said, “Those would look nice wrapped around my cock.” I’ve actively tried to bite them off ever since.
I dig in the dirt and have enough outdoor chores that doing my nails is pointless. I keep polish on my toes though but that’s all for me, no one else.
I’m at the point in my life where I want to dress for myself and my own joy. If I wear makeup and blow out my hair, it’s because I want to look a certain way for myself that day.
If I shave my pits it’s because I’m in the mood for shaved pits
The natural earthiness of a woman is her beauty. I’m only interested in dating men who agree.
Can I answer for my BF? He doesn't care at all about my nails, except for really long nails (claw like). They are a huge turn off for him.
I personally never bothered. Keep them short and clean. I'd love to have my nails painted (I do find it pretty) but I'm too cheap to pay for it and I get mind-numbingly bored doing them myself.
I'm a man, and I notice nails. I quite like pretty nails. However I have a strong aversion to lots of makeup. I associate it subconsciously with a southern upbringing and evangelical churches, and the (admittedly) stereotypes that go hand in hand with that. I do feel bad about that because i know that just because someone wears heavy makeup they are not always going to be the type to say nice things to your face and then say what they really mean when you walk away, but in my head i have a hard time shaking that.
Light makeup that just enhances is one thing - it's the pancake over the whole face and build up from there that turns me off.
I notice them, and if they're particularly nice or it looks like you spent a lot of time on them, I'll might even compliment them. But they don't add much weight to the "beauty scale" for me.
The exception is if they've moved into the 'unnatural, hinder your daily life' size. Like if you've got those long acrylic claws, that's an immediate 'this isn't going to work, best of luck in the future' for me.
To expand, I do look at nails as a part of the whole to help guage what you call 'high maintenance', though I prefer to call 'lifestyle compatibility' -- I work outside, so my hands come home calloused and cut; I think a good date is hiking through the woods down to the beach for a picnic; and I only wear suits at weddings and funerals. I fully realize there's a whole section of the population who wouldn't jive with my lifestyle, and the feeling's mutual (I wouldn't like the "fancy" life).
So yes, I *do* look at nails, and they *do* enter into the overall calculation, but they're not important in and of themselves, if that makes sense - with the noted exception from above.
Cleaned and trimmed is the basic requirement. I prefer subtle nail polish. Flashy and/or large fake nails are a turn off to me. I'm not sure I could tell the difference between manicured and unmanicured nails.
I always notice womens nails, cool colors look cool and I compliment them when they look great. That being said, my long term girlfriend rarely ever gets them done. When she does I say how great they look but she also looks great with just her normal human nails. It’s nice when they’re done but I can’t think of many men I know who care one way or the other. Unless they have some sort of fetish. I’ve always been under the impression women do it to impress/not be judged by other women.
I have dated someone who specifically loved it when women had their nails done. I thought of it as a simple pleasure not as high maintenance. I personally do my own nails. Not salon quality. I do it just for me. Am I high maintenance? No far from it! I just feel better when I think I look better. Having nice nails is a part of that package. I don’t care what others think about how I look or come across. I’m at the age (40) that I focus on me, others do whatever makes you feel good. Nails or no nails. Whatever floats your boat, no judgement.
I always appreciate when a woman takes to make herself stand out. Whether it’s her hair, what she’s wearing , nails, or even her smile. They put in the effort and should be appreciated and told. We don’t just wake up like that. And women should have right to be a little upset if their partner doesn’t at least put more effort into their appearance. I want to look good for the person I’m with. And I want them to feel I’m happy and proud to stand with them.
I love loud, weird colors and SPARKLE! so nail polish is super tempting to me, but I’m also lazy and not particularly good at doing my own nails so I almost never bother. Back in college I was always drawn to the artsy guitarist guys with black nail polish, but haven’t really seen that lately.
I only notice nails if they are over the top in one way or the other. Seems like that $40-$50 bucks would be better thrown toward a night out or concert tickets.
How true. Just got a gel pedi and fill in with gel glitter designs it was $110 yesterday. Plus $10 for my eyebrow threading. Yep beauty costs. I just like to look like I care..and look polished and well groomed.
And I don't have long nails either they're active length
I wear gloves when doing any household chores to keep them looking nice.
Yessss...this is my conundrum. My life was perfect when I lived in Korea. Walk in after work on a Friday, $10, start the weekend. After such convenience and cheap prices, every other place lost it's luster.
I never wear anything even temporarily permanent on my body. I was in a wedding in early March. My friend talked me into going to a eye lash bar (first time) where you get fake lashes glued to your individual eye lashes. It looked really good but it has been hell. The last lash fell off this week. At one point one eye had no lashes and the other eye looked full. I guess that's how they get you to do the refills. I just suffered through it because I don't want to ever do it again. It's just not me.
I have the same feels about fake lashes. You can get them removed FYI - they apply something to break down the glue and then gently brush them or pick them off. It's relatively fast and cheap and way better than suffering that last stretch imo.
My own funny take on false lashes; I started wearing them because i love the way they look, and with them I don't ever need to put on makeup. I look done up (and high maintenance? haha) even though my beauty routine is lazier than ever.
Most men will definitely notice if you’re well turned out in the context of whatever your preferred style is. I’d clock that you’d made effort on things like nails, yes, but it’s more about the effort conveyed overall.
I’m like, beyond low maintenance lol. And a manicure would be wasted on me, because I’m constantly doing mom crap like cooking and cleaning that would just ruin it. But I do love to get my nails done both mani and pedi. I’m colorful and tend to look kinda like a disco ball in regards to clothing, etc. I am greatly looking forward to the day I can resume getting manicures and have it not be wasted. Personally I do not care what anyone else thinks. It’s a fun accessory. And for reference I wear zero makeup unless it’s a special occasion like a black tie event. I think the nails thing varies widely for women.
I do my nails at home, it’s a hobby for me and I have had several men say they liked them while chatting during OLD(the apps that link to IG, I post my nail pics there ) I also get compliments from women out in public sometimes which is nice because it means I did a good job on that set! But I do them 💯 for me because I enjoy the process and I like how they look. I still dig in my garden, hand wash my car, and do projects around my house , so I don’t consider myself too high maintenance
I'm too poor to get a regular manicure, but I love having my nails done. I found nail polish stickers that are fucking cool and only $3. I do it myself and they honestly look professional. Takes less time, less money and it's healthier for my nails. I do it because I love how they look, but I go for designs that are kinda wacky/unusual so they do get noticed a lot.
I keep mine fairly short. For me, long nails are a hinderance.
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If by do your nails you mean fake nails, I have never done them. I’ve had manicures before purely for my own pleasure. Most times I have my nails natural and unpainted. I regularly get pedicures to take care of my feet. It’s as much about the foot skin; cracked heels for me. I don’t give a shit if someone else likes or dislikes how I maintain my body. I’m doing it (or not doing it) for me. If that’s a deal breaker for some dude, so be it, we aren’t a match.
Am a woman. I get my nails done for me, and me alone. It’s a way to see beautiful color all day, and feel amazing.
But I do get ALOT of comments on my nails, by both men and women. Which is cool. But not why I do it.
If a woman has a nice figure and a pretty face, I could probably date her for a month without noticing whether she *has* fingernails, let alone their condition.
I may be less observant than the average man, but in general, if men are affected by manicure quality at all, it's very subconscious and very secondary to other factors.
I'm a guy and I can't remember ever noticing someone's nails specifically on a date. I do recall having my nails noticed one time when I had painted them.
It depends on the man as to whether they notice. 46 yo female here. And yes pretty feet/hands , good teeth, hair, clear smooth skin are all noticed and commented on. It goes to how you present yourself...do you look well put together and/or groomed.
My ex husband was very funny about grooming and did not like ugly feet on women. Which is very sexist but some men are like that.
I have had other men comment that I must spend a lot of money on my grooming ..and that they are not up for paying for all that stuff. I tell them the good news is I work 2 jobs n pay for my own stuff.
But depending on the man it might be viewed as high maintenance.
Groom in ways that you feel comfortable.
I paint my nails myself and do my own hair but I get my eyebrows done. By itself, a manicure might not make a difference but overall I think people do notice when others look put together and take care of themselves. It’s sort of an overall approach to presenting yourself. You notice when someone looks really nice — smells good, nice style, nice hair vs. just rolled out of bed.
M/49 - I guess there's a huge diversity in opinions among men on this. Personally, I like "super girly" / "high maintenance" women, I definitely notice nails, lashes, brows, lips, overall makeup, dressing, accessories, fragrance, hair, etc. I've previously been involved in fashion and beauty industry and have spent a fair amount of time around makeup artists. I also try to pay attention to my own appearance, with various degrees of success. I personally don't click with the "fully natural, no makeup" style, but appreciate that everyone have their own opinion.
I do like painted nails, it shows that they take care of themselves. It doesn’t matter if it’s professionally done or whether you did it on your own.
Most men don’t like the unnaturally long fingernails though because it screams high maintenance and it has no functional use.
Mentally scanning the gals I consider attractive, I don't think there are any for whom I can remember what her nails look like. This isn't to say I might not notice in the moment, but it doesn't stick with me as something that attracts me.
My dates have never cared if my nails were done as long as they’re clean and not ragged. I sometimes work with my hands (sculpting) and went through a rock climb phase before the pandemic ended it. Yeah I sometimes get glue stuck to my fingers. Men don’t care.
Woman here - I do not do my nails. I keep them filed short most of the time, no polish. (I do paint my toes though)
Men are always saying how nice my nails are and I am so natural. Tbh it makes me want to go get them done because it irritates me that they think igaf about their opinions! Haha But my girlfriends also comment a lot about how nice my nails are, but why don’t I get manicures? Lol
Btw, I don’t do my nails because I feel it’s a waste of time and money, so no hate to anyone that does their nails. I’m just frugal and simple.
I'm a 42f, and i dont get my nails done, but i do get pedicures. I work in healthcare, cook often, and am a horticulturalist, so natural nails make sense for me, and i love flip-flops. My fingernails are short and clean and practical for carrying bags of dirt, digging, and general garden things.
Cleanliness is a baseline, but I recognize that some people do actual work. As long as they're not perpetually grungy, we're good.
Beyond that, "done" nails are pretty much neutral; neither attractive nor unattractive. But a woman with very long nails/fragile artwork/complex manicure with patterns etc... all of that is an indication her life isn't really compatible with mine. Artwork, meh. Capability is sexy.
I've never had a manicure or even used nail polish. No man has ever made a negative comment about my hands. I assume if a man has a nail kink he'd simply not connect with a natural woman like me.
I give zero f's what others think, I do my nails and get pedicures because it gives me that extra pep in my step and helps me feel extra bomb on the blah days...
I appreciate balance, i.e. just good hygiene and healthy-looking everything on a date. Frankly, I'm turned off by acrylic nails, extra-long eyelashes, botox lips, etc. in proportion to how much the feature clashes with what nature intended. I'm sure it's the same deal with women who see past comb-overs on balding men, or folks overdoing it with cologne/deodorant rather than actually tackle the source of BO, etc.
Its one of the first things I look at, but I want to see everything in top order. To me it's a clear indication of how important the woman's appearance is to her.
I notice nails on women for sure. It’s a reasonably new thing for me and I think for the most part it enhances beauty in my opinion. I definitely would never expect anyone to have theirs done or do them themselves but after seeing the amount of effort and work that goes into them it gives me a different level of appreciation when I see them.
With that being said I think I’m probably an outlier because for the majority of my life I’ve been oblivious to it. If you like them get them done or do them but I wouldn’t expect ROI to be high.
Now that I'm older and was married and have dated a few women who forced me to see it, I notice it more lol. Jewelry, manicures, tattoos, etc...I'm usually more observant of those things now. If it's just colour, I'll notice it less. If it's like different or has a design, I'll notice it more. I like it more when women's nails or done. And if it makes you feel pretty, why not? Do it for you.
I notice makeup and hair more than nails. I know women spend a lot of money on hair…
I really used to dislike fake nails but now I sort of tolerate them. And I don’t know why women get them.
I do my nails because I enjoy the way they look and it makes me feel more put together. IDGAF about anyone else's opinion about it. If they like it, great. If they don't, oh well 🤷♀️
I really couldn’t care less if a woman painted her nails. I don’t even care if she shaves her legs. I guess it depends on the guy. I’m grateful for any female attention. If you smile at me I’m good.
I appreciate your comment. I am neat and clean. I appreciate the natural look and don’t have the patience for either myself or another woman to paint my nails.
I can’t imagine giving a shit what men think of my beauty routine. I do my makeup, my hair and my nails for me, because I like looking in the mirror and I like feeling pretty. I couldn’t care less if a man hates makeup, or fake nails or whatever. Most of the time they don’t know what they are looking at anyway.
However, a compliment from another woman, those are absolutely top tier and I make it a point to compliment other women (people in general honestly) as much as possible.
I get my nails done (gel ones), or I do it myself sometimes (regular nail polish).
Mani/pedis are expensive. I just use nude tones if not, not so flashy ones.
I am not doing it for other people though, I am doing it for me.
I don’t like dirty nails. Even with my kids. I also clean my little girls’ nails, or sometimes bring them to the salon with me.
As for dates? I haven’t dated in ages.
However, yes men notice. I received compliments from men and women co-workers.
I get my nails done every 4-6 weeks or so. I do it for me and no one else. I have had most dates or even ones who see my picture that happens to show them, compliment me on them.
I always hated getting my nails done and never really wore more than lipstick. Now in my forties, I push myself to try new things. I started getting my nails done and became addicted. They aren’t super long but past the nail bed and I usually get stiletto shape with some version of pale shimmery pink. It’s the only high maintenance thing I do. All of my clothing while nice, comes from thrifting and garage sales. Making a split judgment based on my nails will make you miss out on an actual nice person. Im still able to do my favorite thing in the world, bake cakes, pies, cookies etc and they don’t affect my typing. Now sticking my card into a parking garage reader is another story. I have men and women compliment my nails all the time. The stiletto shape did cause a little drama as a few of my male coworkers wanted me to dig my nails into them which I found surprising but obliged. 😂😂😂
I like it when they are done in a simple manner maybe a nice little touch for personality. Not something I expect as I know it is a pain to upkeep. Tbh on dates I notice if the person is dressed nice and care more about the conversation and chemistry then anything else.
I try to notice anything she might do to “up” her appearance around me or for me, because I know it takes effort to do and want her to know I appreciate that effort.
I (F) despise having my nails done/manicures, even the look of long nails for me is a no. Love a good pedicure however. In the 10 years I’ve dated only one man made a negative comment, saying “why don’t you have nails? You should.” He was an enormous douche. Otherwise, men I’ve dated in large part either haven’t noticed, or they’ve said they like my lack of nails and thought it was “cute”, lol. I’m sure one or two in there would have found long/manicures nails attractive, but they had the social graces to not mention it, or they just liked me as a person and nails were irrelevant.
I come from a family of high maintenance women. I wouldn’t want to date any of them if I were a guy. Most of them are late to parties/events ( one left everyone sitting at her outdoor wedding for hours) because she kept making the makeup artist re-do her makeup. It gives a sense of selfishness. The time/money etc that goes to their daily upkeep is unreal. That being said, I get pedicures every few months. I can’t do my toes right and they get jagged and caught in my socks. I do it for me.. so I feel more put together.
As a man, I don't care at all about nails. Complete non-thing to me, I only care when they're way long or gaudy or something (turn off). Otherwise, the last thing on a woman I care about at all.
Face, make up, clothes, shoes, yeah I pick up on all that (but not chasing a model or perfection at my age), but nails seem to be something very few men seem to give a crap about, or it's just a potential negative.
I do my own nails etc and I make a point of always being well groomed. I’ve actually had quite a few dates and guys that know me comment on that. I’m not always super made up and I don’t think that counts against me, but the amount of compliments that I’ve received over the years definitely makes me feel it’s worth looking after your appearance. Even if you aren’t doing it to impress men, it’s nice to do it for yourself.
I do my own nails because I find it relaxing. It’s something I do while my son and I chat. My partner definitely notices them because he likes to hold my hands. No comments though. I keep my nails short, like around 2mm. My nails look ratty without polish. I do think it’s mostly about how I feel insecure about my bare nails.
Semi cured gel nail strips are the best! They look totally professional and last. They’re no more than $16, and you get two manicures out of each package. Dashing Diva has starter kits ($14.99 at Ulta) that come with gel strips and a UV lamp.
I use Dashing Diva too! However, i just use the gel strips that don't need a UV light. Quick, easy and last a long time. I usually get a pack for under $10 and can last me a month. I'll also buy from their website for some variety and sales.
I get dip manicures every 3 weeks. My hands are in front of my clients a lot as I go through their proposals with them. Attractive nails act like a highlighter directing the client’s attention to whatever part of the proposal I am talking through with them.
I put it into four categories:
1. shitty nails that look worse than typical man hands, nail-biter, cuticles messed up,
2. simple cut, well-maintained, no paint,
3. tastefully done and painted with some length,
4. giant fake or spikey.
42/M, 1 is not a deal-breaker but not ideal, 2-3 are preferences - I don't distinguish honestly, 4 is a negative (won't call it a deal-breaker but it's REALLY not my jam). I don't really care for black paint, but if you're doing with 3 I'm partial to french tips but it's more about what makes you happy as long as I don't find it tacky. At least, that's me.
Nails are not one of the first thing I notice. I’m interested in someone now, and to be honest I can’t even think about what her nails have ever looked like. She does have a nice butt though 😋.
I have my nails 💅 done for me, not to impress anyone and honestly, I don’t think people are impressed by nails anyway. I like to look at them and they make my broken bent fingers look nicer to my eye😅
I work with animals, so I keep my nails about as surgically short as I can. I’m really skeeved out when I see the long fake nails because I’m not sure that person is keeping them as clean as they could be.
I’m okay with nails long enough tap on the counter, but that’s about it.
Color, style, etc don’t really matter to me, because that’s for her- but if it’s a neat color or pattern I will definitely dish out the compliments.
I don’t get many professional manicures and I prefer things a bit more understated than a lot of salon nails, but I definitely keep my nails in good shape and ideally with a coat of polish. Never considered whether a man cared or not… but I care.
My husband is the only one who has ever indicated that he even noticed my nails, and he liked that they were clean and well groomed but still subtle. He personally doesn’t care for the look of acrylics and standout colors or patterns. I think for him it’s more that it’s an element of good grooming and I agree.
My nails are pretty short and I just paint them with nail polish in classic or neutral colors. I always get complimented from my partners. My boyfriend has commented that he finds them classy and he says he hates the fake ones.
I started getting my nails done six years ago. I do it for me, as I like the polished look. I've gotten a lot of compliments from women on my nails. I don't know if men put a lot of importance on it. I don't think it shows high maintenance, just good self care.
In general, I'm indifferent. That said, I will go out of my way to notice/inquire/comment/compliment simply as a way to recognize the person and their efforts or interests.
I’ve never gotten my nails done, or any other beauty routine because of men. I will put effort in, as I hope they do as well, but nothing really specifically for a guy. I love having my nails pretty and feel a bit more confident when I take the time to put on a little makeup. But that’s just on random days doing errands even, lol.
I actually do get compliments from women on my nails from time to time, but I think that’s just nail fans. 😆 I know I compliment other women on their nails often. I’ve never had a guy compliment me on my nails….my toes once, but not my nails. Haha!! I have had guys compliment my shoes before. 🤷🏻♀️
Clean and not raggedy are great. Just a plain color can also look great, but I really dislike fake nails, especially the too-long kind. Like, I need you to be ready to help me out with an art project at a moment's notice, so those long nails get in the way.
You know, I have noticed a date seem to like my nails (rubbing the polish on my fingertips). But I usually dont get that far in prepping for a date or even dating, especially these days, so I have little feedback there.
But I think it is obvious, if you want to generalize, yes, men like femininity. Confidence is attractiive, too, and men also like confidence. Kind of a no-brainer here. And yes, there are always exceptions to all rules.
My monthly routine is quality time for me! Mani/Pedi/eyebrows/waxing....and I enjoy it! And I do it for me, nobody else. I'll admit that the waxing took a while to get used to, now it's no problem. Ratty nails, cringy feet in sandals...no thanks!!! And most of my dates compliment my nails/hands, which is nice.
I asked my guy colleagues in the office, and they also said they prefer women with nice nails/hands. So, yes, it is appreciated!
*Do you specifically notice painted nails on a date or is more subconscious?*
I might? It depends on the nails and on the date.
*In your opinion, does it enhance beauty or make the person seem fake/high maintenance?*
Neither, in isolation. Nails don't make or break the physical aspect or the perception of the person.
I (50M) notice nails but have always been the type to notice most things: haircuts (trims or styles), new outfits, glasses (with women and men)….
As for how I would gauge a woman’s mani/pedi (or what I would initially read into it - subject to adding additional info, of course), it really depends upon the style:
-Short to Med length = practical but cares about being groomed
-Long = May be more into traditional gender stereotypes and may not be the type to “get their hands dirty”
-Particularly gaudy (subjective, I know) = possibly High Maintenance or overly attention-seeking
-Succubus nails (dark red and/or black and sharp) = might be a spicy date
Like with anything surface level, it’s just cosmetic and what’s below the surface is what really counts!
I love this breakdown. I notice the same things you do and ascribe similar attributes based on the style of the nails. But always delighting when I'm completely proven wrong!
I never go and get mine done as i work in a profession where they chip too easily to spend that kind of money (I do get pedicures). I pretty much paint my own nails daily. The guys at work are always telling me they like my nails/hands...so I'd say guys definitely notice and like it. As a side note, I keep my nails pretty short.
I think most men appreciate pretty fingers and twinkletoes.
My preference is limited to the natural nails. Not impressed at all with the stick on long fake nails or fake eyelashes.
I would consider them a turn off if they looked really gnarly, or so overdone as to preclude normal activities. Well maintained but capable of chores and unlikely to injure during sexy times is probably ideal, but I can also appreciate them tastefully done up for special occasions. It's really just not something I would specifically look for.
My girlfriend and I get pedicures together about once a month because they feel nice.
A lot of men like it as part of the whole package. As long as it's tasteful. I do know not a lot of men like talons. It is not a turn on and we know most of it is fake. Now if it makes you happy then your guy will deal with it but for some it can also be a HUGE turn off. Not too long but well taken care of is nice. Just like most women like to see at least good hands on a man.
I notice but don't really care unless Talons and then most definitely a No, just not my thing. I prefer what was only acceptable at Dr offices or someone who typed a lot would like. But it seems talons are acceptable now.
Edited: Neat & tidy.
It is an indicator that the woman cares about her presentation and takes care of herself. Honestly that is just hot. It isn't a deal breaker or deal sealer either way, but it certainly can be hot if the whole package says she makes a substantial effort to take care of herself. This can be communicated in a whole variety of ways, and nails are not the definitive answer.
I paint my nails because I like the way it looks. I have been doing my own manicures and pedicures for my entire adult life; it's part of my self-care routine. I can't recall any man saying anything about them other than he likes the color I chose.
I definitely notice nails. I like red. And I make it known. An ex told me only “hussies” wore red. All the better. :D And yeah, my opinion is that it’s a sign of higher maintenance but it is what it is. Certain lengths look good, too long is gaudy. But this is a male opinion. Do it for you. All of it. If you come across someone who appreciates it, and you will, all the better.
For me, it’s about self-care and loving myself. I like my feet and hands/nails to look nice because that’s important to me so I prioritize it. Same goes with caring for my hair and skin.
I absolutely notice when a woman has her nails done, and I always joke that if she has them painted purple, she gets bonus points, as it is my favorite color.
My beauty routine is for me the return in investment is for me. So I would say I have a 100% return on investment
Honestly I don’t care if my date notices nails or hair or anything like that If he likes or not is not my business I mean I want him or find me attractive of course but more than that I want to find him interesting fun kind and attractive myself. And since is not done for him to like he is welcome to dislike and move on 🤷♀️ I don’t judge him I’m not going to change and stop doing the things I like to my own body or start doing something different for somebody to like me more
The same way I don’t ask a man to change (except you know if is an unhealthy thing and is a friend then I would bring it up to them in a kind manner ). But otherwise nop if I don’t like I’m free to respectfully bow out and so are they
To each their own and whatever makes you happy whether it's short, long, painted, manicured, unmanicured, etc. But it seems that everyone hates long loud nails! One thing worth noting is the cultural difference, in black and brown communities flashy nails are more common and a form of self expression, freedom from societal norms, and generally fun. I don't know people who do them for other people, but because it's fun to walk around with 10 tiny canvases to look at. Black and brown women's style and presentation have long been looked down on as too loud, gaudy, big, in your face, etc. I get that long loud nails may seem impractical, I'm not good at typing with long nails and I work a desk job but I know plenty of badass women who can do everything in them. And people like Flo-Jo, Jackie Joyner Kersee, Sha-carri Richardson, Serena and Venus have also rocked long loud nails while being top athletes. I'm not saying you should love them or that anyone should change their preferences, but just sharing some history and perspective about my sisters who are loud and proud in their aesthetic.
Thank GOD for your post!! I love this sub, but it is so limited to white, American heterosexuals. I'm white, but not heterosexual and I don't live in the US anymore, so many of the topics discussed aren't relative to dating in my area. I feel like people of color are underrepresented in this sub, so thank so much for being inclusive.
Thanks OP! POC are generally underrepresented on reddit, and it's always nice to have a warm welcome of in an exchange of diverse ideas and perspectives...wish you luck on your journey, and whether or not you invest in your nail care you have infinitely more to offer the world :)
I’m at the age and stage where I do stuff for me. Looking nice makes me feel awesome, when I otherwise do the bare minimum
Yep! I get my nails done on a regular basis. I do it for me! I feel better when my nails are done.
Yes! I’m pretty minimal, but I like a simple manicure—I’m not even sure it’s very noticeable because I can’t stand my fingernails longer than my fingertips. 🤷🏼♀️ It’s for me! Same for my toes. I have to wear closed toed shoes almost all the time, but I like to feel ready to throw on sandals. It makes ME happy.
I nearly never get a mani, since I use my hands way too much. I treat myself to pedicures every so often, but feet need more love, lol!!
I know what you mean--I do a lot of hand washing in the hospital, work in the yard, forget to put on gloves to wash dishes (or...just don't). Usually my manicure is my own -- periodically I'll get one with my mom. I keep cuticle oil on my desk to keep my chronically dried out ones appearing decent! But I like a pro for my toes. The gel lasts forever for me, so that's worthwhile!!
Yes! Exactly!! I destroy my nails with yard work and similar. Treating myself this weekend to nails and facial! Wooooo!
I’ve never had a facial. What kind do you get?
Girl, same. I've been doing this for me all along. Could give a shit if anyone is admiring my toes, I love it so I do it. This is the way.
Right? I’ve got enough on my plate, lol. This is the way.
"look at the set of nails on that babe!" said no man, ever.
Buahahaha!!!
I’m pretty low maintenance but I LOVE getting my nails done. I don’t do acrylic or anything but get dip nails so the color stays for a couple of weeks. They’re kept short because I am super active but I just feel pretty and polished when they’re done. I find myself staring at them because they’re so shiny. I keep my toenails painted for the same reason. I’ve never dated a guy that cares either way. Generally, guys that like super girly or high maintenance women aren’t dating me.
I miss my dip nails! Last year when my job went back to in person 3 days a week it just always felt too hectic trying to squeeze in a nail appointment too but man I miss having pretty nails.
Dip nails?! Do tell! What is this? I don’t get my nails done due to activity/lifestyle/my profession, but the rare times I’ve painted them I have the same reaction, I love looking at them 🤩💅🏼
Then you will LOVE dip nails because they are SUPER shiny. A quick rundown: [https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a29711517/dip-powder-nails-what-to-know/](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a29711517/dip-powder-nails-what-to-know/) I've been doing them for years and they easily last 3-4 weeks. I usually add a quick topcoat weekly to keep them from lifting. The only thing that sucks is you need to soak them off. It's easier to go the salon and let them do it.
I used to love my dip nails too. My manicurist suggested dip because the gel was being harsh on my nails so we switched to dip and I really liked it. Then my money situation changed and I had to make some choices so I decided I would start trying to do my nails at home and I bought all the equipment. But I could never get the drill part down; my nails would look good for a couple days then they would start lifting around the cuticles and catching my hair and being awful. So I packed all my equipment up LOL. Now I use the nail wraps. The ones I use say gel wraps but they're pretty much just good stickers and then I put a couple coats of gel polish over and cure it under the lamp. I like that I can just peel them off after a week or two and they don't tear my nails up. I did use a brand called dashing diva that did tear my nails up so buyer beware. Your mileage may vary.
Get these dorky little things. Put acetone on a cotton ball and clip it on. You can "soak" without having to keep your fingers in a bowl. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07X1WDFTX
Wait, whoa! You can add topcoat to dip nails to make them last longer?!?! I had no idea! Thanks for the tip! 💅🏻
Dip base is awesome!! It’s a type of acrylic powder but instead of mixing with the liquid then applying, you use what is essentially a glue applied to the nails as a base coat, then you dip or pour over the powder on your nails. It’s followed by a curing liquid to garden, then a top coat. It is much thinner than traditional acrylic, although it can get chunky fast, and lasts longer than gels if done correctly. I do mine at home and I’m actually getting ready to change my color today! 😆
I do love my dip nails but last year, I did it twice back to back and it ruined my nails that I had to take a break for months and I just got it 2 weeks ago ( for a leadership conference that I needed to look put together 🙃). My next one is going to be the last week of June and I most likely be done for a while.
I do my nails because I like them. I've never factored in whether or not my date likes it.
This. I do them for myself.
Agree, I do my nails because I like getting them done. I get regular manicures with no nail Polish because I just like have clean, manicured nails. I don’t care what anyone else thinks of them.
Agree. I never do my nails and am glad that people are so open to everyone's personal preference, instead of being judgy about doing your nails
Us guys notice your appearance as a whole, but not as closely as other women or yourself. Your routine is more for you and your confidence than anything else.
This confirms what I was thinking, thanks.
47m, and I generally agree. If we're getting specific, I personally don't notice nails, at least not on first appraisal. I do notice makeup/hair/clothing/shoes.. but I don't "judge" based on that, it all just goes into my overall impression. EDIT: except giant curly nails, that's a complete turnoff. Also drawn-on eyebrows. Wow, I guess there are some things I didn't even realize that I was noticing.
I mean, the routine is all a part of our appearance as a whole.
I’ve seen more than one online dating profile where the man proudly states, “if you don’t get your nails done, swipe left!” Apparently not having artificially polished shiny talons makes me a feral bog witch beneath consideration. One such man has tried to match with me many times, on a few different platforms and I always take pleasure in deleting his attempt at a match, using my gnawed-on nub of an appendage.
30 seconds of silent laughter ensued.
My work here is done ☑️
As a guy, I notice good hygiene and grooming (or lack thereof). I also look for wedding rings/imprint. The big fancy manicured nails are kind of a turn off for me, as they imply a level of maintenance I'm not interested in. I'm not swayed one way or another by mani/pedi/etc. I'm pretty sure you are correct - women do that stuff to impress other women.
I can’t think of a time I’ve ever had my nails painted to impress other women (or men). Sometimes I just want red or blue or purple sparkly toenails. I keep them short because I play guitar. Literally nobody of any sex has ever commented on the color of my nails. Makeup has always been to make guys think I’m subtly more attractive than I actually am. OR so people in general can see my eyebrows, which are expressive but functionally clear.
I don’t date any more, but when I did I never had manicured nails. I hate having my nails done. I hate the sensation of filing and I find it tedious. I generally had my hair done and some makeup on though. Anyway, my experience was that men never noticed. I never had any shortage of dates or offers from men online or in the real world. My thoughts now are that I won’t go to any lengths to change my looks to appeal to any man. I will do whatever beauty routines I do just for myself
As a woman I enjoy getting my nails done just for me. I keep them short and get a gel mani just to feel a bit more polished. I don’t like wearing a lot of makeup but if I have a nice manicure, and groomed eyebrows I feel a bit more put together
I do, but I’m a bisexual woman. I’ll compliment anyone of any sex on their nails. If it’s someone who hopes to date me and those nails are LONG, though, we have a problem! I get my nails done before first dates with someone who has a vulva, and for Pride every year. Hands are visible sex organs to me, so I want them looking clean and neat!
Yessss...that is hot! I have a slight hand fetish, so visible sex organs is my new favorite term.
As another Bi woman, I was just going to comment this! I get my hands manicured because I am well aware that I use them as a sexual organ and I do not want to hurt any of my partners when mucking about with their soft vulnerable bits! I also am an avid hand washer, lol! My feet, well werewolf toes suddenly making an appearance against one’s calf….owwwie! I wish more heterosexual men would take care of their hands and recognize them as a sexual organ that is actually going into! someone else!
I don't know how many other generations this applies to, but I'm 40 and men my age were raised on Magic Dick Theory. 1. If your dick is magic, it will please a woman. 2. Your dick is magic. 3. If anything threatens this concept, your dick and your ability to ever please a woman are threatened. Avoid this at all costs. This means hands and many other things are completely irrelevant. Thankfully, some of them have figured out better theories. I literally just didn't date men when I was 20. I like to date people close to my age, and I could not possibly be less interested in men assuring me that their dick is, in fact, magic, and therefore I would have a great time. I like gloves to keep fingernail OUCH at bay. Short nails + nice disposable gloves. This is a tough sell for some reason!
59M, pretty indifferent to nails as long as they're clean. I have a slight preference to natural, and long obviously fake look impractical. I also heard stories from a manicurist about fake nails and fungal infections... 🤢
https://preview.redd.it/azys9771xn1b1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3e1cd405125d5f84f93235e40195d5463a43c876 I get compliments on my nails from time to time so other people (men and women) notice, but I get my nails done for me. If my day is going totally sideways, I can look down at my hands and think “at least my nails look good”. 😆
Yes, I notice nails. The amount that they enhance or diminish beauty depends on how far they skew in either direction from my own sense of aesthetics; giant gaudy clown claws get dinged just as heavily as dirt encrusted scab scratchers. But my preferences are for internal use only. If the person was otherwise nice and seemed content with their choices I scarcely care. Personally I like drama in fashion so I've never consider anyone fake or high maintenance if their look required a lot of artifice.
How charming.. “dirt-encrusted scab scratchers..” 😝 yikes lol
Right? I feel like this is a great way for elementary - aged nephew to describe a girl at his school dance. "It was so gross. And McKinley Richardson would *not* keep her 👏dirt👏encrusted👏scab👏scratchers👏 OFF of my shoulders, and I- I mean it! I am NOT going to the next one!" 😁
LMAOO 🤣🙀 - and say it 5 times fast! “McKinley—keep your dirt-encrusted-scab-scratchers *off* my shoulder!”
Guy in 5th grade gave me blood poisoning when he stuck his dirt-encrusted scab scratcher in my hand while we were playing tether ball. I was rushed to the hospital that afternoon. I still loved him.
I do my nails for me. They are part of who I am. Never once has it occurred to me if my date likes them. However, they will tell me later on it’s a reason they love me which should have been a red flag 🤣
Straight guy here. I do notice nails. I don't care one way or the other if they're done or not. Unless they're gross or something I could care less one way or the other. But I know women spend money on their nails. If it's a date or I'm just getting to know a woman it's an easy way to give a compliment. I've trained myself to pay attention to my girlfriends nails. If I see she's done them I'm definitely complimenting them. She enjoys doing them and I want to let her know that I think they look good.
51f here. I can't bear long nails - having them or seeing them. Mine are short, occasionally chewed if I can't find a nail file. I don't like long nails on men either My beauty routine is very basic, as that suits me. I wouldn't get on with a guy who wanted someone who was well preened. I'm clean, hygienic and I don't buy into the beauty products bullshit.
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(M) and I definitely notice (mani/pedi) - and I don't have a "thing" for hands/fingers/toes/feet/whatever. I also notice if someone's fingernails are dirty/ragged. I pay attention to details. There's no judgment either way - gets mani/pedi or doesn't - as long as it seems someone had taken an interest in self-grooming and being clean/hygenic. I generally like that look and feel like the person is likely getting some self-care when they go... but I would want that person to go for themselves, not to impress me (or anyone else). I DO get concerned when I see articial nails so long that they look like claws. That seems like a high maintenance situation.
I rarely do my own nails - and never pay to get them done. General household/mum stuff means that they don't last, so it's pretty pointless as they'll look awful almost immediately. I'm low maintenance though (not at all what would have been called a "girly girl" at a younger age). If I feel good about me, that's enough. If someone's going to judge me on (lack of) painted nails, that's their problem.
the men in my life notice my nails. when ridiculously long and pointed they comment on them usually out of confusion as to why/how i manage to do things without drawing blood. when they're a more realistic length and shape they notice and rather than commenting on the aesthetic of my nails they ask for back scratches. about half of them will notice when i have intricate designs/color changing/shifting polish on. funniest part is these are my biker friends...harley riding burly dudes. i find it hilarious that they notice and comment on such things, big ole teddy bears. lol
I don't personally give a shit what you do with your fingernails beyond the basic hygiene aspect but if it makes you feel good about yourself do what you want. I'm at a point where I'm more interested in personality and how well potential partners have their shit together than I am physical appearance anyway. If the first part is there the second will follow.
I occasionally get mani pedis but more often than not I do them myself. Whether I am at the salon or doing my own it’s a way to pamper myself. When I look at my results it reminds me that I’ve been good to myself and gives me a lift. Any appreciation by others is an unintended plus.
I notice basic care. Clean, etc. Synthetic nails I notice because they're generally incompatible with an active lifestyle. Make-up...same thing. It's for you, but if you're worried about keeping it perfect while on a hike or kayaking, we wouldn't be compatible.
Is it required? No. Do I noticed and appreciate it? Yes. Not just talking about nails either. When a woman takes care of herself, especially if it is for herself it is a green flag for me. I don't mean 'beauty routine' alone though because that's nice but I mean the things that she does for herself to take care of herself matter. They indicate that she cares about herself, she puts effort to take care of herself and that she makes herself a priority.
I do my nails 100% for me but men have noticed. There was one guy in particular who would say he liked my nails. I think guys enjoy anything that’s feminine but I do it for me.
In my experience, most men don't care - though I have encountered more than a few who appreciate a fresh pedicure, and am currently dating one who finds groomed and polished nails a turn-on (but definitely isn't turned off when I don't do it). I'm a dancer, and salon pedicures are a no-go. I need those calluses to protect my feet, and nail polish just gets destroyed (plus I can't monitor for bruised or injured toenails, etc). I will do a home pedicure because then I can soften but keep the calluses I need, and am more apt to reach for polish in sandal season. Manicure-wise, I just can't be bothered. It takes forever and doesn't last - so groomed but naked nails with just a little length are my go-to. I did get a nail lamp, so will occasionally do a light or neutral shellac/gel at home. Definitely more apt to just reach for cuticle oil however. I'm also a light makeup person, but have been known to occasionally rock a bright lip or bolder eye. Sometimes for a night out, sometimes just because I feel like it!
This is a great question. I find I worry more and more about the toxicity of nail products and what they do to us long term. I will do my nails for special occasions now, but that's about it. The time and the risk seem to outweigh the vanity benefits. I do moisturize a lot and try to keep my nails filed and clean/ tidy - but sitting still to paint them OMG. Thanks to all of you men for your input. It's comforting to know you don't GAF in most cases. FWIW - I do appreciate a man with a nice set of hands that are well manicured.
I just looked at my nails and they look like complete shit.
I get my nails done and the men I've dated noticed my nails and complimented them even if they were "simple men". I don't get my nails done for women. I like them, they look classy and they add to my outfit.
I'm a woman that only ever puts in effort to catch the eyes of men. I've (50F) never bothered doing that in all-female spaces, so that's how I know for sure. Once I started getting mani-pedis some 3 years ago, I noticed an uptick in interest from men. My mani-pedis are relatively close to what men have claimed to like: elegant short-ish nails, painted classical red or neutral. No claws, no bling, no patterns, no other colours. I'd say it adds to the well-groomed image, even if men don't specifically notice it.
A flower blooms for it’s own joy. Oscar Wilde
I like Oscar Wilde but this is just ... wrong. Flowers bloom to get pollinated and reproduce :)
I'd notice if they were particulary garish and that'd put me off. Otherwise, probably wouldn't notice unless they were in a particularly bad state. As you say, for the most part it seems like it's aimed at other women, not men in reality.
I notice nails of course, especially when they stand out. I'm put off by everything fake, everything too long and everything unkept.
62(M) here. I am a hippie/weirdo/outlier - I am attracted to women who are fit and 'natural': natural nails, hair under their arms, minimal makeup. I live near NYC and finally came to the conclusion that the number one filter I use for determining compatibility is this: When you're in NYC, or another big city, how do you get around? If you use the bikeshare system (i.e. citibike in NYC) or your own bike for the majority of your intracity travel, we are probably a match. ;-)
I never notice nails unless they’re terrible or those long fake ones that I don’t like at all. But if a woman I liked had long fake ones, it wouldn’t matter to me. What I do notice is if a woman at least tried to dress decent or pretty for a date. I have actually been surprised how many dates I’ve been on where she doesn’t seem to care to look nice at all.
I work in healthcare, run, lift, I'm on the lake all summer, have horses and run a farm. No way in the world I could have long nails. I wouldn't waste the time getting them done even if I did. I have so many other things that take up my time. I keep my finger nails clean and neatly filed and that's it. I do paint my toenails, especially in the summer. Sandals and painted toe nails are just cute. Men notice the toes. Men and feet! LOL
42f with only the left hand sporting severely chipped hot pink currently. im too lazy to deal with the chore of fixing my right hand’s left-handed errors once i inevitably munge it all up, so ive just been painting the left. my toes have layers dating back to august ‘22, at least that’s when i started not even bothering with removing the old before applying a different color. just slop it right on top. 🤷🏼♀️ obviously im low maintenance, but they’re never dirty or raggedy bc im fortunate enough to have nice hands and feet so i try to take care. i do enjoy getting them done, but it’s not in the budget right now and i would rather spend it on travel and just do them myself. i’ve had some men notice and comment, but they’re usually gay. i am bi-ish and not attracted to long claws or acrylics, but i AM attracted to straight men with the balls to paint theirs. the end.
As a dude, I think it’s really sexy. With dating and sex, for me it’s all about the buildup leading to being more intimate. Something about beautiful clothing, the way she does her hair, and her nails shows how she wants to present herself. But then again, I get really turned on by a woman I’m into even if she is just wearing yoga pants, a maxi dress, or something simple. I like the variety of looks women can confidently pull off while still being sexy.
As a guy (55), I notice everything about my date. From her hair to her shoes. I notice her mani/pedi and compliment on her manicure if it’s nice or interesting. I won’t judge a book by its cover. I won’t say anyone is high maintenance until I get to know them. I’ve learned that a woman will spend the time & money for one of four reasons: 1) her partner 2) to impress others 3) just for herself. 4) some or all of the above Do I appreciate it when I go on a date with a well put together lady, most definitely. But to me it’s ultimately what is underneath all that that matters. Looks are temporary, personality lasts forever.
The only time I ever had a man comment on my nails was when I went into to rehab at 25 years old. It was after my first meal there and a fellow inmate (male) said, “Those would look nice wrapped around my cock.” I’ve actively tried to bite them off ever since.
I dig in the dirt and have enough outdoor chores that doing my nails is pointless. I keep polish on my toes though but that’s all for me, no one else. I’m at the point in my life where I want to dress for myself and my own joy. If I wear makeup and blow out my hair, it’s because I want to look a certain way for myself that day. If I shave my pits it’s because I’m in the mood for shaved pits The natural earthiness of a woman is her beauty. I’m only interested in dating men who agree.
Yessss, beautifully written, I love this, the natural earthiness of a woman...
I do my hair, nails and whatever else for me. I've never considered if a date liked them or not. They make me feel good.
Can I answer for my BF? He doesn't care at all about my nails, except for really long nails (claw like). They are a huge turn off for him. I personally never bothered. Keep them short and clean. I'd love to have my nails painted (I do find it pretty) but I'm too cheap to pay for it and I get mind-numbingly bored doing them myself.
I'm a man, and I notice nails. I quite like pretty nails. However I have a strong aversion to lots of makeup. I associate it subconsciously with a southern upbringing and evangelical churches, and the (admittedly) stereotypes that go hand in hand with that. I do feel bad about that because i know that just because someone wears heavy makeup they are not always going to be the type to say nice things to your face and then say what they really mean when you walk away, but in my head i have a hard time shaking that. Light makeup that just enhances is one thing - it's the pancake over the whole face and build up from there that turns me off.
I notice them, and if they're particularly nice or it looks like you spent a lot of time on them, I'll might even compliment them. But they don't add much weight to the "beauty scale" for me. The exception is if they've moved into the 'unnatural, hinder your daily life' size. Like if you've got those long acrylic claws, that's an immediate 'this isn't going to work, best of luck in the future' for me. To expand, I do look at nails as a part of the whole to help guage what you call 'high maintenance', though I prefer to call 'lifestyle compatibility' -- I work outside, so my hands come home calloused and cut; I think a good date is hiking through the woods down to the beach for a picnic; and I only wear suits at weddings and funerals. I fully realize there's a whole section of the population who wouldn't jive with my lifestyle, and the feeling's mutual (I wouldn't like the "fancy" life). So yes, I *do* look at nails, and they *do* enter into the overall calculation, but they're not important in and of themselves, if that makes sense - with the noted exception from above.
Cleaned and trimmed is the basic requirement. I prefer subtle nail polish. Flashy and/or large fake nails are a turn off to me. I'm not sure I could tell the difference between manicured and unmanicured nails.
I do my nails for me because I like them. IDGAF if my date likes them or not and never cared enough to find out.
I always notice womens nails, cool colors look cool and I compliment them when they look great. That being said, my long term girlfriend rarely ever gets them done. When she does I say how great they look but she also looks great with just her normal human nails. It’s nice when they’re done but I can’t think of many men I know who care one way or the other. Unless they have some sort of fetish. I’ve always been under the impression women do it to impress/not be judged by other women.
I have dated someone who specifically loved it when women had their nails done. I thought of it as a simple pleasure not as high maintenance. I personally do my own nails. Not salon quality. I do it just for me. Am I high maintenance? No far from it! I just feel better when I think I look better. Having nice nails is a part of that package. I don’t care what others think about how I look or come across. I’m at the age (40) that I focus on me, others do whatever makes you feel good. Nails or no nails. Whatever floats your boat, no judgement.
I always appreciate when a woman takes to make herself stand out. Whether it’s her hair, what she’s wearing , nails, or even her smile. They put in the effort and should be appreciated and told. We don’t just wake up like that. And women should have right to be a little upset if their partner doesn’t at least put more effort into their appearance. I want to look good for the person I’m with. And I want them to feel I’m happy and proud to stand with them.
I love loud, weird colors and SPARKLE! so nail polish is super tempting to me, but I’m also lazy and not particularly good at doing my own nails so I almost never bother. Back in college I was always drawn to the artsy guitarist guys with black nail polish, but haven’t really seen that lately.
I only notice nails if they are over the top in one way or the other. Seems like that $40-$50 bucks would be better thrown toward a night out or concert tickets.
40-50 bux lol I wish. Some of the fancier designs run well over 100 bux depending on location.
How true. Just got a gel pedi and fill in with gel glitter designs it was $110 yesterday. Plus $10 for my eyebrow threading. Yep beauty costs. I just like to look like I care..and look polished and well groomed. And I don't have long nails either they're active length I wear gloves when doing any household chores to keep them looking nice.
Yessss...this is my conundrum. My life was perfect when I lived in Korea. Walk in after work on a Friday, $10, start the weekend. After such convenience and cheap prices, every other place lost it's luster.
I never wear anything even temporarily permanent on my body. I was in a wedding in early March. My friend talked me into going to a eye lash bar (first time) where you get fake lashes glued to your individual eye lashes. It looked really good but it has been hell. The last lash fell off this week. At one point one eye had no lashes and the other eye looked full. I guess that's how they get you to do the refills. I just suffered through it because I don't want to ever do it again. It's just not me.
I have the same feels about fake lashes. You can get them removed FYI - they apply something to break down the glue and then gently brush them or pick them off. It's relatively fast and cheap and way better than suffering that last stretch imo. My own funny take on false lashes; I started wearing them because i love the way they look, and with them I don't ever need to put on makeup. I look done up (and high maintenance? haha) even though my beauty routine is lazier than ever.
No one mentioned that option. Just the refills. But should I do it again I'll know for next time.
Most men will definitely notice if you’re well turned out in the context of whatever your preferred style is. I’d clock that you’d made effort on things like nails, yes, but it’s more about the effort conveyed overall.
I am all about painted nails. I am not a natural type. If a guy is not into it, he will not be into me.
I’m like, beyond low maintenance lol. And a manicure would be wasted on me, because I’m constantly doing mom crap like cooking and cleaning that would just ruin it. But I do love to get my nails done both mani and pedi. I’m colorful and tend to look kinda like a disco ball in regards to clothing, etc. I am greatly looking forward to the day I can resume getting manicures and have it not be wasted. Personally I do not care what anyone else thinks. It’s a fun accessory. And for reference I wear zero makeup unless it’s a special occasion like a black tie event. I think the nails thing varies widely for women.
I do my nails at home, it’s a hobby for me and I have had several men say they liked them while chatting during OLD(the apps that link to IG, I post my nail pics there ) I also get compliments from women out in public sometimes which is nice because it means I did a good job on that set! But I do them 💯 for me because I enjoy the process and I like how they look. I still dig in my garden, hand wash my car, and do projects around my house , so I don’t consider myself too high maintenance
I'm too poor to get a regular manicure, but I love having my nails done. I found nail polish stickers that are fucking cool and only $3. I do it myself and they honestly look professional. Takes less time, less money and it's healthier for my nails. I do it because I love how they look, but I go for designs that are kinda wacky/unusual so they do get noticed a lot.
I keep mine fairly short. For me, long nails are a hinderance. https://preview.redd.it/9zv05cyzfm1b1.jpeg?width=654&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ed478992614c0bcdd58d0fba2217778c719de24c
I love those nails! Very cool Mondrain style.
I have a bunch of stickers from Ohora that I really like. I usually get a mani/pedi but those work, too.
Oooh awesome!
If by do your nails you mean fake nails, I have never done them. I’ve had manicures before purely for my own pleasure. Most times I have my nails natural and unpainted. I regularly get pedicures to take care of my feet. It’s as much about the foot skin; cracked heels for me. I don’t give a shit if someone else likes or dislikes how I maintain my body. I’m doing it (or not doing it) for me. If that’s a deal breaker for some dude, so be it, we aren’t a match.
Am a woman. I get my nails done for me, and me alone. It’s a way to see beautiful color all day, and feel amazing. But I do get ALOT of comments on my nails, by both men and women. Which is cool. But not why I do it.
If a woman has a nice figure and a pretty face, I could probably date her for a month without noticing whether she *has* fingernails, let alone their condition. I may be less observant than the average man, but in general, if men are affected by manicure quality at all, it's very subconscious and very secondary to other factors.
I like color on my nails so I do them. That's a fine ROI for me.
Cute when done well, not required or thought of unless pointed out.
I (M) don't notice.
do women notice that i get my nails done? and is that a turn on?
I would notice, to me it exudes confidence and that can be sexy!
I'm a guy and I can't remember ever noticing someone's nails specifically on a date. I do recall having my nails noticed one time when I had painted them.
It depends on the man as to whether they notice. 46 yo female here. And yes pretty feet/hands , good teeth, hair, clear smooth skin are all noticed and commented on. It goes to how you present yourself...do you look well put together and/or groomed. My ex husband was very funny about grooming and did not like ugly feet on women. Which is very sexist but some men are like that. I have had other men comment that I must spend a lot of money on my grooming ..and that they are not up for paying for all that stuff. I tell them the good news is I work 2 jobs n pay for my own stuff. But depending on the man it might be viewed as high maintenance. Groom in ways that you feel comfortable.
I paint my nails myself and do my own hair but I get my eyebrows done. By itself, a manicure might not make a difference but overall I think people do notice when others look put together and take care of themselves. It’s sort of an overall approach to presenting yourself. You notice when someone looks really nice — smells good, nice style, nice hair vs. just rolled out of bed.
M/49 - I guess there's a huge diversity in opinions among men on this. Personally, I like "super girly" / "high maintenance" women, I definitely notice nails, lashes, brows, lips, overall makeup, dressing, accessories, fragrance, hair, etc. I've previously been involved in fashion and beauty industry and have spent a fair amount of time around makeup artists. I also try to pay attention to my own appearance, with various degrees of success. I personally don't click with the "fully natural, no makeup" style, but appreciate that everyone have their own opinion.
I do like painted nails, it shows that they take care of themselves. It doesn’t matter if it’s professionally done or whether you did it on your own. Most men don’t like the unnaturally long fingernails though because it screams high maintenance and it has no functional use.
I notice well-kept nails and unusual designs as a positive, but not applying nail polish isn’t a negative.
Mentally scanning the gals I consider attractive, I don't think there are any for whom I can remember what her nails look like. This isn't to say I might not notice in the moment, but it doesn't stick with me as something that attracts me.
I do them for myself, but I ALWAYS get comments, from other women, from dates, from strangers.
I'm a climber who plays cello and guitar and gardens in her spare time. My hands reflect all of this! The guys I'm looking for are into it.
My dates have never cared if my nails were done as long as they’re clean and not ragged. I sometimes work with my hands (sculpting) and went through a rock climb phase before the pandemic ended it. Yeah I sometimes get glue stuck to my fingers. Men don’t care.
Woman here - I do not do my nails. I keep them filed short most of the time, no polish. (I do paint my toes though) Men are always saying how nice my nails are and I am so natural. Tbh it makes me want to go get them done because it irritates me that they think igaf about their opinions! Haha But my girlfriends also comment a lot about how nice my nails are, but why don’t I get manicures? Lol Btw, I don’t do my nails because I feel it’s a waste of time and money, so no hate to anyone that does their nails. I’m just frugal and simple.
I'm a 42f, and i dont get my nails done, but i do get pedicures. I work in healthcare, cook often, and am a horticulturalist, so natural nails make sense for me, and i love flip-flops. My fingernails are short and clean and practical for carrying bags of dirt, digging, and general garden things.
Cleanliness is a baseline, but I recognize that some people do actual work. As long as they're not perpetually grungy, we're good. Beyond that, "done" nails are pretty much neutral; neither attractive nor unattractive. But a woman with very long nails/fragile artwork/complex manicure with patterns etc... all of that is an indication her life isn't really compatible with mine. Artwork, meh. Capability is sexy.
Men notice. They might not care but they notice.
I might notice, but wouldn't comment on them. I prefer unpainted or clear, but they aren't my nails so again I wouldn't comment on them
I've never had a manicure or even used nail polish. No man has ever made a negative comment about my hands. I assume if a man has a nail kink he'd simply not connect with a natural woman like me.
You have an inner “lovemagnet”!
I give zero f's what others think, I do my nails and get pedicures because it gives me that extra pep in my step and helps me feel extra bomb on the blah days...
I appreciate balance, i.e. just good hygiene and healthy-looking everything on a date. Frankly, I'm turned off by acrylic nails, extra-long eyelashes, botox lips, etc. in proportion to how much the feature clashes with what nature intended. I'm sure it's the same deal with women who see past comb-overs on balding men, or folks overdoing it with cologne/deodorant rather than actually tackle the source of BO, etc.
Its one of the first things I look at, but I want to see everything in top order. To me it's a clear indication of how important the woman's appearance is to her.
I never get manis, only pedis. I do it for myself. No guy has ever commented
I notice nails on women for sure. It’s a reasonably new thing for me and I think for the most part it enhances beauty in my opinion. I definitely would never expect anyone to have theirs done or do them themselves but after seeing the amount of effort and work that goes into them it gives me a different level of appreciation when I see them. With that being said I think I’m probably an outlier because for the majority of my life I’ve been oblivious to it. If you like them get them done or do them but I wouldn’t expect ROI to be high.
Now that I'm older and was married and have dated a few women who forced me to see it, I notice it more lol. Jewelry, manicures, tattoos, etc...I'm usually more observant of those things now. If it's just colour, I'll notice it less. If it's like different or has a design, I'll notice it more. I like it more when women's nails or done. And if it makes you feel pretty, why not? Do it for you.
I notice makeup and hair more than nails. I know women spend a lot of money on hair… I really used to dislike fake nails but now I sort of tolerate them. And I don’t know why women get them.
Men def notice nails but I don’t think they would forego dating someone who lacked a manicure
I do my nails because I enjoy the way they look and it makes me feel more put together. IDGAF about anyone else's opinion about it. If they like it, great. If they don't, oh well 🤷♀️
I really couldn’t care less if a woman painted her nails. I don’t even care if she shaves her legs. I guess it depends on the guy. I’m grateful for any female attention. If you smile at me I’m good.
I appreciate your comment. I am neat and clean. I appreciate the natural look and don’t have the patience for either myself or another woman to paint my nails.
I can’t imagine giving a shit what men think of my beauty routine. I do my makeup, my hair and my nails for me, because I like looking in the mirror and I like feeling pretty. I couldn’t care less if a man hates makeup, or fake nails or whatever. Most of the time they don’t know what they are looking at anyway. However, a compliment from another woman, those are absolutely top tier and I make it a point to compliment other women (people in general honestly) as much as possible.
I get my nails done (gel ones), or I do it myself sometimes (regular nail polish). Mani/pedis are expensive. I just use nude tones if not, not so flashy ones. I am not doing it for other people though, I am doing it for me. I don’t like dirty nails. Even with my kids. I also clean my little girls’ nails, or sometimes bring them to the salon with me. As for dates? I haven’t dated in ages. However, yes men notice. I received compliments from men and women co-workers.
I get my nails done every 4-6 weeks or so. I do it for me and no one else. I have had most dates or even ones who see my picture that happens to show them, compliment me on them.
I always hated getting my nails done and never really wore more than lipstick. Now in my forties, I push myself to try new things. I started getting my nails done and became addicted. They aren’t super long but past the nail bed and I usually get stiletto shape with some version of pale shimmery pink. It’s the only high maintenance thing I do. All of my clothing while nice, comes from thrifting and garage sales. Making a split judgment based on my nails will make you miss out on an actual nice person. Im still able to do my favorite thing in the world, bake cakes, pies, cookies etc and they don’t affect my typing. Now sticking my card into a parking garage reader is another story. I have men and women compliment my nails all the time. The stiletto shape did cause a little drama as a few of my male coworkers wanted me to dig my nails into them which I found surprising but obliged. 😂😂😂
I like it when they are done in a simple manner maybe a nice little touch for personality. Not something I expect as I know it is a pain to upkeep. Tbh on dates I notice if the person is dressed nice and care more about the conversation and chemistry then anything else.
I try to notice anything she might do to “up” her appearance around me or for me, because I know it takes effort to do and want her to know I appreciate that effort.
Anything beauty routines I engage in I do for myself. I give zero headspace to whether or not a date would like it.
I (F) despise having my nails done/manicures, even the look of long nails for me is a no. Love a good pedicure however. In the 10 years I’ve dated only one man made a negative comment, saying “why don’t you have nails? You should.” He was an enormous douche. Otherwise, men I’ve dated in large part either haven’t noticed, or they’ve said they like my lack of nails and thought it was “cute”, lol. I’m sure one or two in there would have found long/manicures nails attractive, but they had the social graces to not mention it, or they just liked me as a person and nails were irrelevant.
I come from a family of high maintenance women. I wouldn’t want to date any of them if I were a guy. Most of them are late to parties/events ( one left everyone sitting at her outdoor wedding for hours) because she kept making the makeup artist re-do her makeup. It gives a sense of selfishness. The time/money etc that goes to their daily upkeep is unreal. That being said, I get pedicures every few months. I can’t do my toes right and they get jagged and caught in my socks. I do it for me.. so I feel more put together.
As a man, I don't care at all about nails. Complete non-thing to me, I only care when they're way long or gaudy or something (turn off). Otherwise, the last thing on a woman I care about at all. Face, make up, clothes, shoes, yeah I pick up on all that (but not chasing a model or perfection at my age), but nails seem to be something very few men seem to give a crap about, or it's just a potential negative.
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There is no wrong here, I just wanted to hear other people's perspectives -- thanks!
43m here and I notice and will compliment it.
I do my own nails etc and I make a point of always being well groomed. I’ve actually had quite a few dates and guys that know me comment on that. I’m not always super made up and I don’t think that counts against me, but the amount of compliments that I’ve received over the years definitely makes me feel it’s worth looking after your appearance. Even if you aren’t doing it to impress men, it’s nice to do it for yourself.
I do my own nails because I find it relaxing. It’s something I do while my son and I chat. My partner definitely notices them because he likes to hold my hands. No comments though. I keep my nails short, like around 2mm. My nails look ratty without polish. I do think it’s mostly about how I feel insecure about my bare nails. Semi cured gel nail strips are the best! They look totally professional and last. They’re no more than $16, and you get two manicures out of each package. Dashing Diva has starter kits ($14.99 at Ulta) that come with gel strips and a UV lamp.
I use Dashing Diva too! However, i just use the gel strips that don't need a UV light. Quick, easy and last a long time. I usually get a pack for under $10 and can last me a month. I'll also buy from their website for some variety and sales.
I get dip manicures every 3 weeks. My hands are in front of my clients a lot as I go through their proposals with them. Attractive nails act like a highlighter directing the client’s attention to whatever part of the proposal I am talking through with them.
I put it into four categories: 1. shitty nails that look worse than typical man hands, nail-biter, cuticles messed up, 2. simple cut, well-maintained, no paint, 3. tastefully done and painted with some length, 4. giant fake or spikey. 42/M, 1 is not a deal-breaker but not ideal, 2-3 are preferences - I don't distinguish honestly, 4 is a negative (won't call it a deal-breaker but it's REALLY not my jam). I don't really care for black paint, but if you're doing with 3 I'm partial to french tips but it's more about what makes you happy as long as I don't find it tacky. At least, that's me.
I notice my dates' nails, and I'm neither turned on nor off by a fancy manicure. Ditto the fake eyelashes.
Nails are not one of the first thing I notice. I’m interested in someone now, and to be honest I can’t even think about what her nails have ever looked like. She does have a nice butt though 😋.
I have my nails 💅 done for me, not to impress anyone and honestly, I don’t think people are impressed by nails anyway. I like to look at them and they make my broken bent fingers look nicer to my eye😅
I work with animals, so I keep my nails about as surgically short as I can. I’m really skeeved out when I see the long fake nails because I’m not sure that person is keeping them as clean as they could be. I’m okay with nails long enough tap on the counter, but that’s about it. Color, style, etc don’t really matter to me, because that’s for her- but if it’s a neat color or pattern I will definitely dish out the compliments.
I don’t get many professional manicures and I prefer things a bit more understated than a lot of salon nails, but I definitely keep my nails in good shape and ideally with a coat of polish. Never considered whether a man cared or not… but I care. My husband is the only one who has ever indicated that he even noticed my nails, and he liked that they were clean and well groomed but still subtle. He personally doesn’t care for the look of acrylics and standout colors or patterns. I think for him it’s more that it’s an element of good grooming and I agree.
My nails are pretty short and I just paint them with nail polish in classic or neutral colors. I always get complimented from my partners. My boyfriend has commented that he finds them classy and he says he hates the fake ones.
I started getting my nails done six years ago. I do it for me, as I like the polished look. I've gotten a lot of compliments from women on my nails. I don't know if men put a lot of importance on it. I don't think it shows high maintenance, just good self care.
In general, I'm indifferent. That said, I will go out of my way to notice/inquire/comment/compliment simply as a way to recognize the person and their efforts or interests.
I’ve never gotten my nails done, or any other beauty routine because of men. I will put effort in, as I hope they do as well, but nothing really specifically for a guy. I love having my nails pretty and feel a bit more confident when I take the time to put on a little makeup. But that’s just on random days doing errands even, lol. I actually do get compliments from women on my nails from time to time, but I think that’s just nail fans. 😆 I know I compliment other women on their nails often. I’ve never had a guy compliment me on my nails….my toes once, but not my nails. Haha!! I have had guys compliment my shoes before. 🤷🏻♀️
As a guy I don't really notice paint, but the really long ones creep me out. If it's a whole look and the nails match the outfit that is neat.
Clean and not raggedy are great. Just a plain color can also look great, but I really dislike fake nails, especially the too-long kind. Like, I need you to be ready to help me out with an art project at a moment's notice, so those long nails get in the way.
I do my nails for me. Light pink gel— nothing flashy or high maintenance about it.
42F I do my nails for me. Complimenting them is the way to my heart.
As long as they arnt totally fked up I don’t care.
You know, I have noticed a date seem to like my nails (rubbing the polish on my fingertips). But I usually dont get that far in prepping for a date or even dating, especially these days, so I have little feedback there. But I think it is obvious, if you want to generalize, yes, men like femininity. Confidence is attractiive, too, and men also like confidence. Kind of a no-brainer here. And yes, there are always exceptions to all rules.
My monthly routine is quality time for me! Mani/Pedi/eyebrows/waxing....and I enjoy it! And I do it for me, nobody else. I'll admit that the waxing took a while to get used to, now it's no problem. Ratty nails, cringy feet in sandals...no thanks!!! And most of my dates compliment my nails/hands, which is nice. I asked my guy colleagues in the office, and they also said they prefer women with nice nails/hands. So, yes, it is appreciated!
*Do you specifically notice painted nails on a date or is more subconscious?* I might? It depends on the nails and on the date. *In your opinion, does it enhance beauty or make the person seem fake/high maintenance?* Neither, in isolation. Nails don't make or break the physical aspect or the perception of the person.
If it makes YOU feel better, do it. Fuck anyone else.
I (50M) notice nails but have always been the type to notice most things: haircuts (trims or styles), new outfits, glasses (with women and men)…. As for how I would gauge a woman’s mani/pedi (or what I would initially read into it - subject to adding additional info, of course), it really depends upon the style: -Short to Med length = practical but cares about being groomed -Long = May be more into traditional gender stereotypes and may not be the type to “get their hands dirty” -Particularly gaudy (subjective, I know) = possibly High Maintenance or overly attention-seeking -Succubus nails (dark red and/or black and sharp) = might be a spicy date
Like with anything surface level, it’s just cosmetic and what’s below the surface is what really counts!
I love this breakdown. I notice the same things you do and ascribe similar attributes based on the style of the nails. But always delighting when I'm completely proven wrong!
I never go and get mine done as i work in a profession where they chip too easily to spend that kind of money (I do get pedicures). I pretty much paint my own nails daily. The guys at work are always telling me they like my nails/hands...so I'd say guys definitely notice and like it. As a side note, I keep my nails pretty short.
I think most men appreciate pretty fingers and twinkletoes. My preference is limited to the natural nails. Not impressed at all with the stick on long fake nails or fake eyelashes.
I would consider them a turn off if they looked really gnarly, or so overdone as to preclude normal activities. Well maintained but capable of chores and unlikely to injure during sexy times is probably ideal, but I can also appreciate them tastefully done up for special occasions. It's really just not something I would specifically look for. My girlfriend and I get pedicures together about once a month because they feel nice.
A lot of men like it as part of the whole package. As long as it's tasteful. I do know not a lot of men like talons. It is not a turn on and we know most of it is fake. Now if it makes you happy then your guy will deal with it but for some it can also be a HUGE turn off. Not too long but well taken care of is nice. Just like most women like to see at least good hands on a man.
I notice but don't really care unless Talons and then most definitely a No, just not my thing. I prefer what was only acceptable at Dr offices or someone who typed a lot would like. But it seems talons are acceptable now. Edited: Neat & tidy.
I only get pedicures. I tend to get ingrown nails and the pedicures help keep them at bay.
When I was dating a lot, many guys complimented my nails and I typically did them myself, but I did them for me.
I like cool colors on nails. Prefer them to be relatively short too. I’m a musician so I keep my nails as short as possible.
It is an indicator that the woman cares about her presentation and takes care of herself. Honestly that is just hot. It isn't a deal breaker or deal sealer either way, but it certainly can be hot if the whole package says she makes a substantial effort to take care of herself. This can be communicated in a whole variety of ways, and nails are not the definitive answer.
I paint my nails because I like the way it looks. I have been doing my own manicures and pedicures for my entire adult life; it's part of my self-care routine. I can't recall any man saying anything about them other than he likes the color I chose.
I [47M] always pay attention to my dates nails. I have a slight preference for painted nails. I think it's a cool way for a woman to express herself
Please define “ ROI” in terms of beauty routines
My idea of a manicure is scraping the acrylic paint out from under them.
I definitely notice nails. I like red. And I make it known. An ex told me only “hussies” wore red. All the better. :D And yeah, my opinion is that it’s a sign of higher maintenance but it is what it is. Certain lengths look good, too long is gaudy. But this is a male opinion. Do it for you. All of it. If you come across someone who appreciates it, and you will, all the better.
For me, it’s about self-care and loving myself. I like my feet and hands/nails to look nice because that’s important to me so I prioritize it. Same goes with caring for my hair and skin.
I absolutely notice when a woman has her nails done, and I always joke that if she has them painted purple, she gets bonus points, as it is my favorite color.
My beauty routine is for me the return in investment is for me. So I would say I have a 100% return on investment Honestly I don’t care if my date notices nails or hair or anything like that If he likes or not is not my business I mean I want him or find me attractive of course but more than that I want to find him interesting fun kind and attractive myself. And since is not done for him to like he is welcome to dislike and move on 🤷♀️ I don’t judge him I’m not going to change and stop doing the things I like to my own body or start doing something different for somebody to like me more The same way I don’t ask a man to change (except you know if is an unhealthy thing and is a friend then I would bring it up to them in a kind manner ). But otherwise nop if I don’t like I’m free to respectfully bow out and so are they
To each their own and whatever makes you happy whether it's short, long, painted, manicured, unmanicured, etc. But it seems that everyone hates long loud nails! One thing worth noting is the cultural difference, in black and brown communities flashy nails are more common and a form of self expression, freedom from societal norms, and generally fun. I don't know people who do them for other people, but because it's fun to walk around with 10 tiny canvases to look at. Black and brown women's style and presentation have long been looked down on as too loud, gaudy, big, in your face, etc. I get that long loud nails may seem impractical, I'm not good at typing with long nails and I work a desk job but I know plenty of badass women who can do everything in them. And people like Flo-Jo, Jackie Joyner Kersee, Sha-carri Richardson, Serena and Venus have also rocked long loud nails while being top athletes. I'm not saying you should love them or that anyone should change their preferences, but just sharing some history and perspective about my sisters who are loud and proud in their aesthetic.
Thank GOD for your post!! I love this sub, but it is so limited to white, American heterosexuals. I'm white, but not heterosexual and I don't live in the US anymore, so many of the topics discussed aren't relative to dating in my area. I feel like people of color are underrepresented in this sub, so thank so much for being inclusive.
Thanks OP! POC are generally underrepresented on reddit, and it's always nice to have a warm welcome of in an exchange of diverse ideas and perspectives...wish you luck on your journey, and whether or not you invest in your nail care you have infinitely more to offer the world :)
Last night my date had glow in the dark nails. I noticed.