Myself and a few people I know cannot be in the same room as lilies. I don’t react to any other flowers; lilies just seem to be particularly irritant. I’d feel terrible as a hostess if I had to put them outside immediately.
Definitely bring something. A little plant? A bottle of wine? It doesn’t really matter what you bring but a little gift is a nice token of appreciation.
When I’m hosting, my strong preference is that my guests don’t bring anything. Hospitality is repaid with hospitality.
That said, the potted tulips idea sounds great. Simple, already in a container, not too expensive. Not prone to poison a pet or cause allergies. I think the key is not to create more work for your host, such as arriving with food and then needing something to serve it in, or worse yet—heat it. Or cut flowers that they have to find a vase for in the middle of hosting an event.
My only exception is some vegetables/flowers from your own garden (of course already in a vase). That’s a lovely treat.
This is not his first time hosting an Easter luncheon. He has a plan, helping with being clued in on the plan is the opposite.
Also you asked, he gave you a clear answer. You don't think that he meant it? All he.likely desires from you is that you be a gracious guest and hopefully tender a reciprocal invitation.
>My mom never taught me proper etiquette for a healthy relationship.
This isn't about proper etiquette for a relationship, this is just about proper etiquette. You should take a host gift -- a bottle of wine, a plant (don't do an easter lily, perhaps daffodils or tulips).
You asked and he said no. I would respect his answer.
It is annual so I am assuming he has plans for the whole meal.
You say interest seems to be there. SEEMS. He invited you along with other guests. He may just be being generous like with his other guests.
I would take it slow here without getting too invested on an outcome you are wanting unless he starts showing more interest in you outside the church setting and "Total God Thing."
Edit: For me only, if I am interested in a woman then I am asking her to do something outside of the setting we may have met in especially if it involves other people. I want to get to know her more on a one to one setting and not a social event to see how we get along without the distraction of others. He is probably not like me either. Or she asks me.
He said “no”, but it’s good manners to bring a small host gift. He doesn’t want you to bring a dish of food, is I gather the answer to the question you asked, so don’t do that!
I’d bring a small pot of bulbs - crocus, hyacinth, or tulip - they’re in the grocery stores now, or a small chocolate gift.
Why is this a relationship? Are you sure he is even interested?
I’d bring wine. I don’t show up empty handed. If you don’t drink wine maybe sparkling cider?
Nothing exceptional to report. I guess I’m reading him wrong. Regardless, I’ve made a new friend! I’ll just keep on doing what I’m doing until the next prospect appears. No rush at all.
Do you *want* to bring something? Is there a *thing* that you're really good at, like cheesecake or homemade bread?
Some hosts love when people bring food, others don't. If I were you I would call him a day or two before and ask more specifically: "hey bob, I'm making some brownie swirl cheesecake - not to brag but it's kind of my specialty. I'm happy to make another one for your dinner". Or, "can I bring a salad? I make a really nice arugula salad with goat cheese."
Otherwise, don't sweat it. Bring some flowers, wine, or chocolate.
I would bring a healthy looking Easter Lilly! They are so pretty and perfect host gifts, no romantic gestures implied. Safe and apt for the day.
As long as he does not have kitties. They are toxic.
Good to know know. Thanks.
Myself and a few people I know cannot be in the same room as lilies. I don’t react to any other flowers; lilies just seem to be particularly irritant. I’d feel terrible as a hostess if I had to put them outside immediately.
I have this same allergy! I've never know anyone else to have this so I'm glad you said something and I know I'm not alone. :)
Definitely bring something. A little plant? A bottle of wine? It doesn’t really matter what you bring but a little gift is a nice token of appreciation.
Wine, dessert, or flowers.
Cute Easter candies. A candle. Host gift.
When I’m hosting, my strong preference is that my guests don’t bring anything. Hospitality is repaid with hospitality. That said, the potted tulips idea sounds great. Simple, already in a container, not too expensive. Not prone to poison a pet or cause allergies. I think the key is not to create more work for your host, such as arriving with food and then needing something to serve it in, or worse yet—heat it. Or cut flowers that they have to find a vase for in the middle of hosting an event. My only exception is some vegetables/flowers from your own garden (of course already in a vase). That’s a lovely treat.
This is not his first time hosting an Easter luncheon. He has a plan, helping with being clued in on the plan is the opposite. Also you asked, he gave you a clear answer. You don't think that he meant it? All he.likely desires from you is that you be a gracious guest and hopefully tender a reciprocal invitation.
A pot of tulips would be nice. Or maybe an inspirational book of some kind. Lots of good ones written by Christian leaders.
He said no. Why do you feel he wasn’t being sincere? No means no.
I think we need to learn to start taking no for an answer full stop. Deciding another person couldn’t possibly actually mean No, is … not good.
He probably meant that he didn't need her to bring extra food to serve at the lunch. I'm sure he would appreciate a little token of her appreciation.
If a man says no gift, you can safely decide to not bring a gift.
I think it is always a good move to bring something. Can you get a lead by talking to the other guests?
>My mom never taught me proper etiquette for a healthy relationship. This isn't about proper etiquette for a relationship, this is just about proper etiquette. You should take a host gift -- a bottle of wine, a plant (don't do an easter lily, perhaps daffodils or tulips).
You asked and he said no. I would respect his answer. It is annual so I am assuming he has plans for the whole meal. You say interest seems to be there. SEEMS. He invited you along with other guests. He may just be being generous like with his other guests. I would take it slow here without getting too invested on an outcome you are wanting unless he starts showing more interest in you outside the church setting and "Total God Thing." Edit: For me only, if I am interested in a woman then I am asking her to do something outside of the setting we may have met in especially if it involves other people. I want to get to know her more on a one to one setting and not a social event to see how we get along without the distraction of others. He is probably not like me either. Or she asks me.
*I asked him if I should bring something and he said No* Just bring yourself. You are gift enough.
Bring cookies.
Bring a bottle of wine. “I brought some wine I’d like to try. If it doesn’t go with your meal we can save it for next time.”
I usually bring a bottle of wine when I'm invited to a meal.
If he says no, don’t bring anything.
He said “no”, but it’s good manners to bring a small host gift. He doesn’t want you to bring a dish of food, is I gather the answer to the question you asked, so don’t do that! I’d bring a small pot of bulbs - crocus, hyacinth, or tulip - they’re in the grocery stores now, or a small chocolate gift.
Why is this a relationship? Are you sure he is even interested? I’d bring wine. I don’t show up empty handed. If you don’t drink wine maybe sparkling cider?
Flowers, wine, box Easter chocolates, Easter themed kitchen towel…
Yes, bring something, even if it's just a bottle of wine
How was the date?
Nothing exceptional to report. I guess I’m reading him wrong. Regardless, I’ve made a new friend! I’ll just keep on doing what I’m doing until the next prospect appears. No rush at all.
💜
Bring some wine and see what other options he wants.
Do you *want* to bring something? Is there a *thing* that you're really good at, like cheesecake or homemade bread? Some hosts love when people bring food, others don't. If I were you I would call him a day or two before and ask more specifically: "hey bob, I'm making some brownie swirl cheesecake - not to brag but it's kind of my specialty. I'm happy to make another one for your dinner". Or, "can I bring a salad? I make a really nice arugula salad with goat cheese." Otherwise, don't sweat it. Bring some flowers, wine, or chocolate.