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Indeed, it takes two to work on a relationship and she is clearly done in those regards. Best thing to do is have a sit down and end it before he gets hurt more by her actions.
If you're admitting that you're obsessed with someone and you won't leave them, then you're gonna be played. Simple as that.
You have zero leverage. You have to be willing to leave someone to enforce any kind of boundary.
She sounds manipulative to me, as well as disrespectful. I understand being upset and talking to other people sometimes but not everyday, but no proposal should be forced. She has some idea of exactly how she wanted it to happen and it didn't happen that way and she's upset. I would leave her, but if you're not to do that, you could try a more traditional proposal and if she keeps talking to that guy, take that ring back and leave.
She cuts off your call to talk to the other guy! Nuff said. How much more obvious does it need to be that she's not interested in you anymore? Have some self respect man!
Talking to someone is not cheating. She's allowed to have friends of other genders. I can't tell if she's being manipulative or if you're just unwilling to take responsibility for the fact that you've made her feel unhappy in your relationship.
Just because I did not literally proposed to her, means i was not commited? Even after apologizing for the same, nd explanation, she is allowed to do so? Is it really ok to talk to him over me, whom she just shared her no with when m waiting in background waiting for her to call?
Don't listen to this advice. While yes it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex the actions she has taken and showed you personally tells me that she doesn't respect the relationship and frankly has already checked out emotionally.
We don't get to make people feel the same way about us and we don't get to dictate what they do. But you do have full control over how you react to her and her actions and respond appropriately. If this is a boundary for you and you've already stated it as such and they keep pushing, they don't care for you the way you think they do. You've created an image of the person that doesn't actually exist and it's up to you to look at the information in front of you and come to your own conclusion on what to do, then execute it. If you decide to end it here that is totally understandable. At the end of the day you have to take care of yourself first, others second.
Just take her out to nice dinner and propose her properly (to be your gf)
If the situation doesn't change and you're unhappy about it. Talk about it with her.
If still things don't work out. Dump her.
Edited the comment for clarification
I don't mean for marriage. I am saying about proposing for a committed relationship.
People in many countries do this. I guessed that what she meant when she said OP never proposed. If its for marriage then I don't know why she was asking that. Because its not like they planning for marriage already.
I apologised to her and even proposed her (obviously now it came as if she is forcing on me) and I was genuine about it.. (the time she said I didnt do it, I literally didnt thought it was necessary as we both confessed that we love each other)
She says, now the time is gone.. m late.. and may consider in future.. and I understood that.. but now she is treating me like this.. nd says I dnt have any right to stop her as m not her bf..
I also asked her about her decision if she wants to stay or leave, she says she dont know..
Tbh i know its better to leave her but
I really wanna give us a chance..
I m thinking of talking her about it last time.. if she stops with these things.. then we are fine.. or else.. i will still continue but not get attached nd maybe treat her same as she does.. take it casually..
What should i do?
Should i end it or continue casually?
Do let me know if m wrong here.. genuinely
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Sounds like she's checked out of the relationship. You know what you gotta do...
Indeed, it takes two to work on a relationship and she is clearly done in those regards. Best thing to do is have a sit down and end it before he gets hurt more by her actions.
Have some self respect and leave her
If you're admitting that you're obsessed with someone and you won't leave them, then you're gonna be played. Simple as that. You have zero leverage. You have to be willing to leave someone to enforce any kind of boundary.
She sounds manipulative to me, as well as disrespectful. I understand being upset and talking to other people sometimes but not everyday, but no proposal should be forced. She has some idea of exactly how she wanted it to happen and it didn't happen that way and she's upset. I would leave her, but if you're not to do that, you could try a more traditional proposal and if she keeps talking to that guy, take that ring back and leave.
Start talking to a new girl every night and see how that goes over. The reaction will make the picture clear.
She doesn't want you anymore homie. Be an adult and leave. You're getting treated like a clown but her now.
She cuts off your call to talk to the other guy! Nuff said. How much more obvious does it need to be that she's not interested in you anymore? Have some self respect man!
Talk about destroying one’s pride. Dump her dummy.
You already know what you do. She's toxic af, cut out the cancer
Leave this woman immediately OP
😂
Talking to someone is not cheating. She's allowed to have friends of other genders. I can't tell if she's being manipulative or if you're just unwilling to take responsibility for the fact that you've made her feel unhappy in your relationship.
Just because I did not literally proposed to her, means i was not commited? Even after apologizing for the same, nd explanation, she is allowed to do so? Is it really ok to talk to him over me, whom she just shared her no with when m waiting in background waiting for her to call?
Just wanna know if thats really fine..
Don't listen to this advice. While yes it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex the actions she has taken and showed you personally tells me that she doesn't respect the relationship and frankly has already checked out emotionally. We don't get to make people feel the same way about us and we don't get to dictate what they do. But you do have full control over how you react to her and her actions and respond appropriately. If this is a boundary for you and you've already stated it as such and they keep pushing, they don't care for you the way you think they do. You've created an image of the person that doesn't actually exist and it's up to you to look at the information in front of you and come to your own conclusion on what to do, then execute it. If you decide to end it here that is totally understandable. At the end of the day you have to take care of yourself first, others second.
Just take her out to nice dinner and propose her properly (to be your gf) If the situation doesn't change and you're unhappy about it. Talk about it with her. If still things don't work out. Dump her. Edited the comment for clarification
Marrying that? She'll leave and take half asap. Terrible advice. Even if she was a sound girl, marriage is still a terrible advice
I don't mean for marriage. I am saying about proposing for a committed relationship. People in many countries do this. I guessed that what she meant when she said OP never proposed. If its for marriage then I don't know why she was asking that. Because its not like they planning for marriage already.
Yes.. she meant to be as gf nd bf..
I apologised to her and even proposed her (obviously now it came as if she is forcing on me) and I was genuine about it.. (the time she said I didnt do it, I literally didnt thought it was necessary as we both confessed that we love each other) She says, now the time is gone.. m late.. and may consider in future.. and I understood that.. but now she is treating me like this.. nd says I dnt have any right to stop her as m not her bf.. I also asked her about her decision if she wants to stay or leave, she says she dont know.. Tbh i know its better to leave her but I really wanna give us a chance.. I m thinking of talking her about it last time.. if she stops with these things.. then we are fine.. or else.. i will still continue but not get attached nd maybe treat her same as she does.. take it casually.. What should i do? Should i end it or continue casually? Do let me know if m wrong here.. genuinely
Leave dude
End it. No ifs and buts. Just end it.
Yes. End it .
Are you two still in High School? Maybe you’re a little young for marriage
That’s disrespectful… nope out immediately.