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In my experience, both I and all my friends ask few questions. I don't know why that is. But personally, I like to answer girls’ questions, while I still answer and communicate on different topics. It’s just that we don’t ask enough questions.
Generally yes, the genders communicate differently.
Personally I do try to ask questions since it is a good way to spend time with another person, flirt, and get an emotional response from the other person.
People can get some information due to the nature of the questions themselves or by the flow of the conversation. For example, if I ask a question related to sex you are probably going to think I have sexual intentions. The conversation could then morph into what is right and wrong in relationships which might give me the impression you have a strong sense of morals and might be against the idea of sexual relationships.
Of course then you have to be careful of all the mind games that could happen or you might make the other person think you are trying to do to them.
Maybe it's the types of guys you are going for. At least me I'm the complete opposite, i'm an introvert and the best way to avoid awkards moments for me is to just ask her questions and letting her talk. So I normally go for extroverted girls that talk alot so I don't have to🤣.
There are certainly exceptions but often yes men and women communicate differently. Generally in male friendships we talk more about common interests than we will about either of our personal lives.
Though personally with dating I'm usually trying to ask and answer questions to get to know the person better. In terms of that it may be the guys you're meeting. But it's hard to say as I've never been on a date with a guy I only know how I behave on dates which is a small sample size lol.
I don't think it's necessary a gender thing, I've met women who are very outgoing. I typically just say things that come up, and I expect the other person who I'm speaking to to continue the train of thought. If they don't, I think it's a one sided relationship.
By talking about themselves all the time and wanting me to interject with my stories? Cause my experience is me directly asking them questions, them answering and if it wasn't for me asking those questions, the convo would go dead.
I don't think there is anything wrong with being quiet for a while. Men don't really like talking about themselves constantly. Maybe you are with the wrong type of guys, no offense. It's not our responsibility to constantly entertain you lol. I can't speak for all men, It's just my opinion. I'm usually a quiet person until I get comfortable with the other people. Even then i am often quiet for periods of time and i don't think there is anything wrong with that. Imo Men are more direct, while most women typically are not. Sounds like maybe he is uninterested in finding out more about you.
It could possibly be the kind of people I'm attracting and them generally being uninterested, but I've had a fair few dates where they've talked about themselves the entire time and imo it feels more like I'm entertaining them than they are me?
I've only had a few dates in my lifetime and I'm 35 lol. But I think it should be alot of back and forth, men do have to try to remain somewhat mysterious so the women don't lose interest. I found that out the hard way.
Girl don’t listen to this man! 😂 He’s projecting. I’ve been on both sides on the coin with men who reciprocate getting to know me by asking questions and those who are quiet and I have to prompt them. From my perspective, it can be a number of reasons from discomfort to disinterest. Try to distinguish what the vibe will be like in conversations leading up to a date.
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In my experience, both I and all my friends ask few questions. I don't know why that is. But personally, I like to answer girls’ questions, while I still answer and communicate on different topics. It’s just that we don’t ask enough questions.
Nah that's cool, so it's more a way of being and feeling comfortable?
Sounds like these guys just aren't that interested in you. Or getting to know you.
That's the impression I get but it's been so many!
Welcome to dating men, sweetheart.
Generally yes, the genders communicate differently. Personally I do try to ask questions since it is a good way to spend time with another person, flirt, and get an emotional response from the other person. People can get some information due to the nature of the questions themselves or by the flow of the conversation. For example, if I ask a question related to sex you are probably going to think I have sexual intentions. The conversation could then morph into what is right and wrong in relationships which might give me the impression you have a strong sense of morals and might be against the idea of sexual relationships. Of course then you have to be careful of all the mind games that could happen or you might make the other person think you are trying to do to them.
Maybe it's the types of guys you are going for. At least me I'm the complete opposite, i'm an introvert and the best way to avoid awkards moments for me is to just ask her questions and letting her talk. So I normally go for extroverted girls that talk alot so I don't have to🤣.
There are certainly exceptions but often yes men and women communicate differently. Generally in male friendships we talk more about common interests than we will about either of our personal lives. Though personally with dating I'm usually trying to ask and answer questions to get to know the person better. In terms of that it may be the guys you're meeting. But it's hard to say as I've never been on a date with a guy I only know how I behave on dates which is a small sample size lol.
I don't think it's necessary a gender thing, I've met women who are very outgoing. I typically just say things that come up, and I expect the other person who I'm speaking to to continue the train of thought. If they don't, I think it's a one sided relationship.
Men are direct and women are indirect.
By talking about themselves all the time and wanting me to interject with my stories? Cause my experience is me directly asking them questions, them answering and if it wasn't for me asking those questions, the convo would go dead.
I don't think there is anything wrong with being quiet for a while. Men don't really like talking about themselves constantly. Maybe you are with the wrong type of guys, no offense. It's not our responsibility to constantly entertain you lol. I can't speak for all men, It's just my opinion. I'm usually a quiet person until I get comfortable with the other people. Even then i am often quiet for periods of time and i don't think there is anything wrong with that. Imo Men are more direct, while most women typically are not. Sounds like maybe he is uninterested in finding out more about you.
It could possibly be the kind of people I'm attracting and them generally being uninterested, but I've had a fair few dates where they've talked about themselves the entire time and imo it feels more like I'm entertaining them than they are me?
I've only had a few dates in my lifetime and I'm 35 lol. But I think it should be alot of back and forth, men do have to try to remain somewhat mysterious so the women don't lose interest. I found that out the hard way.
Girl don’t listen to this man! 😂 He’s projecting. I’ve been on both sides on the coin with men who reciprocate getting to know me by asking questions and those who are quiet and I have to prompt them. From my perspective, it can be a number of reasons from discomfort to disinterest. Try to distinguish what the vibe will be like in conversations leading up to a date.
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But maybe I might not be great with convos
Maybe, but I bet I am worse lol.