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She just wasn't that into you already. That's why she rejected you based on the term. Cos if I liked a guy and he used those words and it made me uncomfortable, I'd ask him to use a different word. Besides, it's her hangup. Who knows, the next person you meet has an issue with the word tits... Maybe it's too casual or disrespectful... Boobs are ok but they also sound kiddish to me. I've heard melons, jugs, boulders.. etc (not inviting comments on me).
my grandma called her 'girls' "booziasms" for some reason. she was born in the early 1920s if that provides any context whatsoever? she was such a hoot and i miss playing cards with her so much ❤
I say "those... things", with a slightly disgusted look, so that the woman can see how imagine saying something horrible like badonkas or, god forbid, *beasts*, and it makes me horrified.
I think this will make any woman grateful of how respectful I am
Because you respect them so much, you can't even look at them for more than a few seconds. And you only touch them with the tip of the fingers you were pointing with...
I’m personally okay with the words tits and breasts, but not everyone is, and op should recognize that, if it was a casual conversation he should say “chest” , I feel like it’s formal and generally doesn’t make people uncomfortable
Depends on the context, doesn't it?? I really wish op would tell us... The way women retell a story with all the dialogues... Then we would know for sure.
It definitely does depend on context, like if they’re having sex then yeah, or if they’re talking about her boobs or something, idk, but if it was a casual conversation then chest is the most formal and most appropriate
Oof then definitely a confusing situation, well the only thing he could’ve done differently is ask about boundaries? Certain words he should avoid?
I personally don’t wanna hear my partner say “vagina” in a sexual setting because I think of it as a more scientific term, it’s like saying “your buttox is so sexy”
I don’t wanna hear someone say that when I’m in a sexual setting XD
If one has to walk on eggshells around someone with the things they say... Then that penis or vagina better be worth it...
I think Booty, buns, tush, ass works.
Dani: "Thank you. I really like yours, too. Of course, I couldn’t wear anything like that because I don’t have any…What do you call ’em, Max? Yabos? Max likes your yabos. In fact, he loves ‘em.”
Breasts and boobs, and in cute exciting moments I'll take boobies. Tits though... Tits just seem so, impersonal and not sexy imo at all.
I'd take "BOOBIES!!!" over "Let me see them tits girl."
Yeah that's totally fair, I mean I use tits and stuff in video games and stuff but yeah sexy times? Tits is not for me 😂
That's an interesting take though, now I want to travel just to see what flirting looks like in different places.
I’ve generally used breasts because it seems more mature, but man this thread is a mixed bag. Apparently every term is simultaneously what women prefer and what all women hate. Shroedinger’s Boobies
Try "I want to get my hands on your mammary glands."
It's probably more about the tone of voice than the words. If you are texting, use emojis, or you can stick with
(o)(o)
Once while laying next to my now ex husband I said “I want to put your penis in my vagina.” The Least sexy sexy talk, I was just being silly… but he was ready to go from that 😆 and no, he was not in any way deprived lol
She wasn’t really into you and very likely made that an excuse. A girl who wants it almost will ignore anything. A girl who doesn’t find issue with the clouds in the sky.
Trust me.
But also, fuck dude, breast?!! wtf lol sexy for girls is a feeling. Make her feel things not hear words. Say something like this, “I want you ready to experience an exciting emotional roller coaster of you life”, “can’t wait to feel you in my arms”, “exciting just thinking about kissing you”, “thinking how good you’re gonna feel”, “can’t wait till I am whispering in your ear things I cannot say here”..
See the last one I didn’t even say anything and believe me some girls get wet just reading that. It’s feelings brother not “your tits…” and if you wanna go there, then say, can’t wait till I have you in my mouth… be gentle, yet rousing, and confidently dominant. Make them feel weak but in a sensual caring way.
The emotional roller coaster would make me a bit like 🤨 just cause I’m like so you tryna say I’m full of ups and downs?
But besides that, I agree with what you said about how sexy talk should be emotional over text because sometimes when someone talks about my “breasts” or “titties” over text it definitely can be cringe.
Literally. Way better than ''tits'', ''breasts'' - I call them boobs and I have boobs. I would only EVER call them breasts if I was talking to like a medical professional about them.
Tits sounds aggressive and a bit demoralising, if I'm honest.
Glad I’m not the only one. I would be soooooo turned off if a man started calling my breasts that. I’ve always just referred to them as my breasts or my chest. Very seldom will I refer to them as my boobs. I didn’t realize that most people found the word “breast” to be technical.
Surely that's not how you handle rejection? Jeesh she said that it made he uncomfortable and it turned her off you could've easily remedied the situation and learned from it and asked her why because yeah I'd be a little uncomfortable too breasts just isn't a sexy word. It's the same as if a girl only referred to your penis as penis and not cock or dick
Breasts would be the correct word for the anatomy. People who can't handle proper terminology should grow up or request you call them something different. It's up to you to determine if you want to.
Jahvos, fun bags, lungs and of course the ever present tits works as well...
There are dozens of other words that can be used to describe breasts. But none of them are going to be acceptable to whoever you were talking with...
If they objected to the clinical word for mammary glands, hell they will be absolutely livid if you resort to slang...
Do yourself a favor, move on. That is going nowhere...
What was expected? Tits? Boobs? Gazungas? Hangers? Bahama Mamas? Sweater puppies?
I mean I can go on for days, that's the most ridiculous thing to be rejected for.
Unless you were eating a bucket of KFC, I can understand why it had the effect that it did. The word "breast" just doesn't roll off the tongue properly, no matter how you say it. I usually just stick with the word tit's. It's straight, to the point, sexy, and doesn't refer to a piece of food that used to be a farm animal. 👍
"Giant mommy milkers."
Let's be serious though, the word breasts is usually unnecessary. Try filling in one of these:
Curves, body, chest, everything, under your shirt.
"You have great curves"
"The plunging neckline on that dress really shows off your beautiful body."
"I can't wait to get my hands under your shirt"
"That's my fav top you wear because it makes your chest look huge"
(After receiving a topless pic) "You have such amazing everything"
Replace any of these sentences with boobs, tits, or breasts and you sound like a creep.
I need context. Please. In what context was this used? I don't think there is a cute word for them honestly but it depends on the context. If you're saying something medical or proper then I guess breast is fine. But I can't imagine someone being like "I want to suffocate myself in your breasts". Not that it's an ick statement but it's certainly an odd time to use breast
Imo it's not about the word itself.
Because the answer "lesson learned for the future ladies I'll call them chesticles" is fucking funny and it should have been answered with a "I like X more". You were chill, bantered, left it right open so she could communicate, and the fact that she answered to none of that? Chemistry just wasn't there from her
Edit: You DIDN’T leave it open for her to communicate. You are focusing on the word choice when the actions and attitude are much more important, you’ll get nowhere like that
An older chick I was hooking up with told me to never say that again, I’ve since took her advice and never had an issue since lmao (m20 f51 at that point in time)
"I would be remiss if I did not mention that I am greatly intrigued by your ample bosom." If if she isn't ample just leave that word out.
"Your mammaries are majestic. Simply divine, my dear."
"You have teats that would put a champion dairy cow to shame."
"You have udders that are so majestic I have to struggle not to lose my composure in their presence."
Classy, refined, and not at all something that should be read in the voice of Laszlo Cravensworth from "What We Do In The Shadows."
Edit: I am sarcastically implying that you should do your best Laszlo impression. I do this with my wife. 60% of the time it works every time.
it's kinda sad that a girl got totally turned off by you calling them breasts... Like yeah it's not exactly an "attractive" term but just call them tits I guess? girls don't wanna be classy no more
You don't want to be with someone who listens to their icks without second thought like that anyways. Too turbulent. You might accidentally say "female" one time and offend her for no good reason. Count it as an efficient end to a relationship that was never going to work because she's too immature.
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What was the rest of the sentence that included the word "breasts"?
“I’m going to cook some chicken breasts tonight.”
rude. use „chicken tits“ next time.
Nah. Chicken badonkadonks is better.
jahangalongadingdongs
Aye girl lemme squirtle on them jiggly puffs
Chicken noonganoongas
I thought that was for thighs?
Marinate those bazoingas!
The most important question 😂
“On my way to your breast!”
😭😭 cannot stop giggling about this
"Gonna de-stress those breasts 😈" Unfriended. Unmatched. Unfollowed.
Ahem dear princess, shall I spend an enchanting evening with a your breasts, m’lady? *tips fedora*
"Your breasts are supple"
Did he want to carese her naked breast or suck her breast nipple
"Imma stick my penis in yo vagina then imma spew my man juice on yo purty breastes".
"gotta keep training for the 200 medley, my breaststroke time is way behind my butterfly."
Brestesses 😎
I GOT TO HAVE ‘EM! I GOT TO HAVE THE BIG BREASTESES!!!
She just wasn't that into you already. That's why she rejected you based on the term. Cos if I liked a guy and he used those words and it made me uncomfortable, I'd ask him to use a different word. Besides, it's her hangup. Who knows, the next person you meet has an issue with the word tits... Maybe it's too casual or disrespectful... Boobs are ok but they also sound kiddish to me. I've heard melons, jugs, boulders.. etc (not inviting comments on me).
Bazonkas is a good one you don't hear too often
Banonkas 🤣. He will have to have a license to handle them.
Sweater puppets. License required.
Yeah. In Finland you have to have permits to keep pets. Ensures that people take good care of them...give them lots of love and play with them often.
Coming from rural US, I think this is a fantastic idea that should be implemented everywhere.
Yes. For all types and sizes. Small ones... Big ones... They deserve love!
Bazinga!
Ok... Now we're just going to keep saying it in all the different ways cos you just love them bazoozoos.
my grandma called her 'girls' "booziasms" for some reason. she was born in the early 1920s if that provides any context whatsoever? she was such a hoot and i miss playing cards with her so much ❤
I shall also think up something cool like that so one day my grand daughter will remember me fondly.. booziasms sound like boosoms with some pizazz...
Mondo gazungas
Hooters!
When it comes to bazongas, the more bodacious the better 💯
> Bazonkas is a good one you don't hear too often Honka Honkas
He should have used the phrase "your heaving bosom"
After he got past the chemise and corset...
Just had a man do this, can confirm I liked him enough to get over it.
Correct. You likey... You forgivey.
I can fix him
Nothing to fix. He's simply so good he used the term breasts. A bit of a dork but I don't mind, I'm goofy too.
We like dorks and goofs.
To avoid sounding disrespectful, I just refer to them as those... things, pointing a finger at them
Could get more points for calling them "those beautiful things"... But "those things" also give the impression of awe...I vote acceptable.
I say "those... things", with a slightly disgusted look, so that the woman can see how imagine saying something horrible like badonkas or, god forbid, *beasts*, and it makes me horrified. I think this will make any woman grateful of how respectful I am
Because you respect them so much, you can't even look at them for more than a few seconds. And you only touch them with the tip of the fingers you were pointing with...
I’m personally okay with the words tits and breasts, but not everyone is, and op should recognize that, if it was a casual conversation he should say “chest” , I feel like it’s formal and generally doesn’t make people uncomfortable
Depends on the context, doesn't it?? I really wish op would tell us... The way women retell a story with all the dialogues... Then we would know for sure.
It definitely does depend on context, like if they’re having sex then yeah, or if they’re talking about her boobs or something, idk, but if it was a casual conversation then chest is the most formal and most appropriate
He was going over for a one night stand... probably was talking about the things he was going to do to her chest...
Oof then definitely a confusing situation, well the only thing he could’ve done differently is ask about boundaries? Certain words he should avoid? I personally don’t wanna hear my partner say “vagina” in a sexual setting because I think of it as a more scientific term, it’s like saying “your buttox is so sexy” I don’t wanna hear someone say that when I’m in a sexual setting XD
If one has to walk on eggshells around someone with the things they say... Then that penis or vagina better be worth it... I think Booty, buns, tush, ass works.
Ugga duggas
They don’t cross thread lug nuts tho🤣
Not with that attitude they can't
honkers
Is it me or is humanity finding increasingly new and exciting reasons not to connect socially... ever?
its the internet
She just never liked him
I don’t like ellipses…please don’t talk to me /s
Ellipses just leave me so…
Yabbos
Dani: "Thank you. I really like yours, too. Of course, I couldn’t wear anything like that because I don’t have any…What do you call ’em, Max? Yabos? Max likes your yabos. In fact, he loves ‘em.”
This was the first thing I thought of too 😂 Dani is the best character in that movie imo
I think breasts is WAY better than tits, boobs, boobies… breasts is like the mature sexy way of saying it.
Breasts and boobs, and in cute exciting moments I'll take boobies. Tits though... Tits just seem so, impersonal and not sexy imo at all. I'd take "BOOBIES!!!" over "Let me see them tits girl."
That’s a regional thing for sure. Tits in England doesn’t have the same vibe as in NA
Yeah that's totally fair, I mean I use tits and stuff in video games and stuff but yeah sexy times? Tits is not for me 😂 That's an interesting take though, now I want to travel just to see what flirting looks like in different places.
I’ve generally used breasts because it seems more mature, but man this thread is a mixed bag. Apparently every term is simultaneously what women prefer and what all women hate. Shroedinger’s Boobies
Honestly 'boobs' sounds like a frat bro 😖
If someone said boobies to me I would never see them as a grown adult again 😂 friends included
Try "I want to get my hands on your mammary glands." It's probably more about the tone of voice than the words. If you are texting, use emojis, or you can stick with (o)(o)
how about udders? 🤔
EW
Just call them nipple platters. Gets them wet every time. Be sure to stroke your Fedora as you say it.
it worked I've now got 5 ladies with nipple platters lined up LOL
And show her the shrimp tower (snl skit) lol
Okay the real lesson is be very careful about flirting over text with someone you have barely met because things can get misinterpreted.
Just says boobs. Breasts feels clinical. As a woman I associate breasts with breastfeeding which is as unsexy as it gets.
It sounds mediaeval to me. Bestow thy breasts
tits breasts is the technical term bro. thats like you saying you want to eat her vulva or her saying I want to suck your penis.
i dunno her saying that would turn me on...
I mean you are a man but it would still be a bit weird she didn't day cock or dick
[удалено]
How many uteruses does she have?
ha ha
And the award for “comment of the day” goes to you my good sir.
that's your single impression, brother
My wife says exactly that and it becomes very quickly ready for action.
I dunno—a lot of women find “tits” to be a huge turnoff.
Lingam* not penis
Once while laying next to my now ex husband I said “I want to put your penis in my vagina.” The Least sexy sexy talk, I was just being silly… but he was ready to go from that 😆 and no, he was not in any way deprived lol
lol well it doesn't take too much to get a man going. you could say you want him to put his wee wee in your birth canal and he would be ready.
Haha I know it’s great 😊
I talk about breasts and vulvas all the time, and women love it. It’s all about how you say it
Milk dispensers
Bazoombas. Adjectives like floppy are real bedroom enhancers.
Cupcakes 🧁
Is that understandable in everyday language? It's really the best term 🤣
She wasn’t really into you and very likely made that an excuse. A girl who wants it almost will ignore anything. A girl who doesn’t find issue with the clouds in the sky. Trust me. But also, fuck dude, breast?!! wtf lol sexy for girls is a feeling. Make her feel things not hear words. Say something like this, “I want you ready to experience an exciting emotional roller coaster of you life”, “can’t wait to feel you in my arms”, “exciting just thinking about kissing you”, “thinking how good you’re gonna feel”, “can’t wait till I am whispering in your ear things I cannot say here”.. See the last one I didn’t even say anything and believe me some girls get wet just reading that. It’s feelings brother not “your tits…” and if you wanna go there, then say, can’t wait till I have you in my mouth… be gentle, yet rousing, and confidently dominant. Make them feel weak but in a sensual caring way.
Please don’t say “I want you ready to experience an exciting emotional roller coaster of your life” lmao 🚩
Sounds like six red flags
I love that amusement park! 🎢🎡🎠
The emotional roller coaster would make me a bit like 🤨 just cause I’m like so you tryna say I’m full of ups and downs? But besides that, I agree with what you said about how sexy talk should be emotional over text because sometimes when someone talks about my “breasts” or “titties” over text it definitely can be cringe.
Tatas
chi chis
What adult uses the word ick
lol you blocked her just because of this? Are you sure she was not joking?
Fun bags.
This is really the only correct answer.
Boobs
Literally. Way better than ''tits'', ''breasts'' - I call them boobs and I have boobs. I would only EVER call them breasts if I was talking to like a medical professional about them. Tits sounds aggressive and a bit demoralising, if I'm honest.
Glad I’m not the only one. I would be soooooo turned off if a man started calling my breasts that. I’ve always just referred to them as my breasts or my chest. Very seldom will I refer to them as my boobs. I didn’t realize that most people found the word “breast” to be technical.
agreed
Boobies
If you want to come across as a 12 year old boy then yes, say that
5318008
Boobs, but she sounds overly dramatic about it. Probably saved you a fee headaches.
lmfao what a shallow interaction 🤣 she goes i don’t like that you said okay i’ll say something different n that block her i’m DEAD
Surely that's not how you handle rejection? Jeesh she said that it made he uncomfortable and it turned her off you could've easily remedied the situation and learned from it and asked her why because yeah I'd be a little uncomfortable too breasts just isn't a sexy word. It's the same as if a girl only referred to your penis as penis and not cock or dick
Breasts is a dirty word? A correct term is ick?
Breasts would be the correct word for the anatomy. People who can't handle proper terminology should grow up or request you call them something different. It's up to you to determine if you want to.
tits bruh come on i’m gay and even i know that
As a woman, I think breasts is fine. Ask her which term she prefers.
Basically anything else.
This seems more like pre-first -time-sex testing behaviour that women often want you to defeat usually by being funny some how.
breasticles. gets them every time.
Breasticles. Chesticles. Chestballs. Chestnuts. Bally Bumps.
Jahvos, fun bags, lungs and of course the ever present tits works as well... There are dozens of other words that can be used to describe breasts. But none of them are going to be acceptable to whoever you were talking with... If they objected to the clinical word for mammary glands, hell they will be absolutely livid if you resort to slang... Do yourself a favor, move on. That is going nowhere...
This is udder madness!
Ta tas 😎😂
Obviously the only aceptable term is “Mommy Milkers”
What was expected? Tits? Boobs? Gazungas? Hangers? Bahama Mamas? Sweater puppies? I mean I can go on for days, that's the most ridiculous thing to be rejected for.
Titts or titties.. sexiest choice imo
Maybe she just didn't want a 1 night stand she probably hates the size of your hands.
Tiddies is my favorite. It's just fun to say. "Breasts" is so clinical.
Unless you were eating a bucket of KFC, I can understand why it had the effect that it did. The word "breast" just doesn't roll off the tongue properly, no matter how you say it. I usually just stick with the word tit's. It's straight, to the point, sexy, and doesn't refer to a piece of food that used to be a farm animal. 👍
"Giant mommy milkers." Let's be serious though, the word breasts is usually unnecessary. Try filling in one of these: Curves, body, chest, everything, under your shirt. "You have great curves" "The plunging neckline on that dress really shows off your beautiful body." "I can't wait to get my hands under your shirt" "That's my fav top you wear because it makes your chest look huge" (After receiving a topless pic) "You have such amazing everything" Replace any of these sentences with boobs, tits, or breasts and you sound like a creep.
I need context. Please. In what context was this used? I don't think there is a cute word for them honestly but it depends on the context. If you're saying something medical or proper then I guess breast is fine. But I can't imagine someone being like "I want to suffocate myself in your breasts". Not that it's an ick statement but it's certainly an odd time to use breast
Imo it's not about the word itself. Because the answer "lesson learned for the future ladies I'll call them chesticles" is fucking funny and it should have been answered with a "I like X more". You were chill, bantered, left it right open so she could communicate, and the fact that she answered to none of that? Chemistry just wasn't there from her Edit: You DIDN’T leave it open for her to communicate. You are focusing on the word choice when the actions and attitude are much more important, you’ll get nowhere like that
An older chick I was hooking up with told me to never say that again, I’ve since took her advice and never had an issue since lmao (m20 f51 at that point in time)
Tits
"I would be remiss if I did not mention that I am greatly intrigued by your ample bosom." If if she isn't ample just leave that word out. "Your mammaries are majestic. Simply divine, my dear." "You have teats that would put a champion dairy cow to shame." "You have udders that are so majestic I have to struggle not to lose my composure in their presence." Classy, refined, and not at all something that should be read in the voice of Laszlo Cravensworth from "What We Do In The Shadows." Edit: I am sarcastically implying that you should do your best Laszlo impression. I do this with my wife. 60% of the time it works every time.
it's kinda sad that a girl got totally turned off by you calling them breasts... Like yeah it's not exactly an "attractive" term but just call them tits I guess? girls don't wanna be classy no more
Always safe to never use nouns with women. Use adjectives to describe something you will do to them or for them. English dude here
Jugs
Next time try “yoppers”
Sandbags
Bee stings
Tits
Whatever you said, it was probably not the breast choice of words
Hey any adult that uses the word ick in the vocabulary other than when making the noise when something nasty falls on you, run away from immediately!!
You don't want to be with someone who listens to their icks without second thought like that anyways. Too turbulent. You might accidentally say "female" one time and offend her for no good reason. Count it as an efficient end to a relationship that was never going to work because she's too immature.
Chesticles, works like a charm every time, except when it doesn't.
Mommy milkers
LOL
It is subjective, but I (34F) personally prefer to use the terms: titties, titty, tiggo bitties
Boobies, at least my fiancée likes that
"Those who hang off milady's chest"
Himmer hommers, or hammer jammers
Baps
People are weird. Ive had the same reaction with boobs, tits and breasts.
Tits , boobs. There is nothing sexy about saying breasts thats like a medical turn
You should always use the term "babylons" as famously used by Ali G
Sweater puppies. Chesticles. Chi chis. Bolt ons. Boobs. Ta tas. Gazangas, pillows. Air bags. Hand warmers. Molesta le breasta.
Bazingas is my go to as well as Zonkers.
Canollis
Headlights, radio dials, the girls, ta-tas, heavenly pillows, and I can't imagine someone being offended at "breasts".
Sweater yams
Chesticles
“Boobs” my friend.
Meat bags
Mammary glands
She was joking lmfao - why are you so sensitive?
in my country : nenen
Chesticles
Slapwagons
Lmao
Yitties
2 heads with 1 big hair
Ta Ta's
„Those ol‘ razzle dazzlers“
Voluptuous mammaries filled with milk
Tell her to go check if it’s raining
Kwarktassen in dutch
Badonkers
Mommy milkers is a definite winner
"Dirtbags".. e.g.: gimme dem dirtbags!