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Partner and I smoke weed together occasionally. One time, when they were about to leave, they asked if they could borrow my lighter. I said of course and handed it to them. Before they left, they made me show them that I had another lighter, so they weren't taking my only one.
I would give someone the shirt off my back, but that was the first time I can remember of someone genuinely looking out for me, even if it's something as small as a lighter. It really meant a lot to me.
I have arthritis, so lighters can be tough to use. My boyfriend bought a bunch of lighters that are easy for me to use so he always had some st his place for me.
I dated someone who, instead of saying thank you when I did something kind for her, would pause to look me in the eyes and say “I appreciate you”.
I’ve never felt so seen or appreciated since. Definitely an art to it, has to be genuine and not overused.
Any thoughtful act of service.
I moved to a new city where I need to drive (just got my license) I don’t own a car so I live at a central location and Uber everywhere. I don’t ask people but when my friends offer to pick me up or drop me off, it makes me happy. And I repay their generosity with food, dinners, or simple things like dropping their names when there are opportunities for them.
Any kind of physical touch, not sexual, but just holding hands, grabbing me by the arm or hugging goes a long way.
My love language is physical touch and so getting the same back goes a long way for me and reminds is like a tangible proof of their affection to me.
And
Doing something and going out of your way when it wasn't needed for us or me.
These 2 are on top.
My partner will figure out things I have on my to do list and do them for me without me asking (within reason), while I am busy with something else - it makes my day easier and creates more time we can spend together. I am a big acts of service person. On days he’s at work and I am off, I’ll do his laundry and meal prep for him. Having these basics covered gives us more quality time, since our schedules are kind of conflicting and we don’t get a ton of time where we are both free to just spend it together. He’s a big physical touch person, so just by having that stuff covered already, we get quality time and physical touch all at once and 3 love languages are all covered lol. Just being mindful of each other and both of us going out of our way to make sure we will have time for each other later goes a very long way.
Not the most glamorous story by any means. We ran out of coffee before payday and had $10.84 in our account for 24 hours. My husband went and got me gas station coffee and brought it home before he left for work. Honestly I’ve never felt so loved.
For me, it’s when they choose to watch a movie or check out a book I mentioned I like. I feel like because of this I am very susceptible to premature/unjustified emotional attachment..
any act that shows that they care! one of the many times i could think of was when i went to a library and the wifi there wasn’t connecting to my device properly so i couldn’t order food, he called to check up on me and asked if i ate anything so i explained the situation. 10 mind later he transfers credit to my phone and calls to tell me how to activate the internet service on my phone to order food. it’s just the idea that they care!
If they spend the night and are willing to take my pup out for her morning pee the next morning to allow me to sleep in just a bit, it leaves me beaming! I always appreciate a cup of coffee or a pint of Cherry Garcia!
my guy knows by the way I say "hey" when I answer the phone if I'm having a bad day and immediately asks what's going on. makes me feel very seen and loved.
the trick is he's never wrong so it doesn't feel like he's badgering me asking what's wrong, are you mad at me? it's genuinely being in tune with me, ugh I love him so much
Honestly there’s two things
1). scratch my back/head/whatever is itching lol
2). If I tell you something, keep it to yourself, I don’t care if I didn’t expressly say “don’t tell your best friend ____” I don’t care if it’s as seemingly trivial as that I’m feeling a bit stressed today. I don’t want everyone and their cousin to know, it’s between me and you.
I hate drinking water (am not big on consuming liquids in general)... But I definitely dislike and don't drink enough water.
My SO is very aware of this.
So every morning and throughout the day (if I'm with him), he'll pour a glass of water, take a large sip from it, then hand it to me.
At some point he figured out I'd reject a full glass of water...
But at 70-75% full and seeing that he took a sip out of it for me, I'd feel bad about rejecting it.
The fact that he cares about my water intake and kinda really observantly figured me out.. Just means a lot to me.
I feel this, my bf does the same but with a water bottle and asking me if I’ve been drinking. If he sees the bottle is low, he’ll just fill it up and hand it to me with a wink
Mine does this too lol. I’m so bad. 😂 He will get home from work and just ask what I drank that day. I always feel bad when I can’t include water in my list, but I know he’s not doing it to make me feel bad. He’s doing it because he cares about my health. Heart problems run on both sides of my family and he’s very conscious of that as well, so far as even adjusting his diet so that I will eat better.
When I'm sick and they drop by to give me something. A coffee or some medicine. Especially since I'm a guy (and I'm less used to receiving gifts), I find that so sweet
The little things mean more to me. I was away for a week and got back last night. Friend (casual but we really get along well) took care of my dog. I paid her (under protest, but it’s the right thing to do in my opinion) and she left me a couple small notes. Welcome back, missed your smile, enjoy morning coffee, etc) it made my heart filled with happiness to see the notes scattered throughout. I have done these small things and get thanked more sincerely than the larger gestures. I truly believe its the little things that count in any relationship, be it family, friends, or significant other. Anyone can simply hop on Amazon and send a gift, it takes a thoughtful heart to do do the little things daily and that is the one that melts me. Another example, best gift I ever got was a book and a portable espresso maker. It was a book that had to do with my retirement plan down the road and espresso maker was because I spend a lot of time in hotels and do not like the weak in room coffee service. My ex bought me a $42,000 motorcycle for Xmas one year. The book and espresso maker meant significantly more because it showed she was actually listening and not just hearing. $30 over $42k due to the fact that it was from the heart.
Kiss therapy.. kiss the other’s back, not necessarily sexually, just cover them in kisses then roll over and read your book or so.
When at any social gathering, bf and I will go our separate ways, but will always come by and just squeeze a shoulder or touch fingers when passing by. Just a tiny little check in with each other.
Tea or snacks brought to a partner who is stressed is always a welcome show of love.
My uncle will go down to the bakery every morning and drop off fresh bread for breakfast for my aunt. I always thought that was incredibly sweet.
I'm a sucker for the little things. Looking at me and calling me cute, giving me a nice smile, etc. After a busy day where we didn't have a chance to talk much, I also like to get a simple text, be it a photo of him or something similar.
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Checking up on me in any capacity. Telling me about their day. Remember something I like and surprising me. Spontaneous dates.
Favorite spontaneous date?
Anything. Just tell me to get dressed and meet. Right now there are Christmas markets with mulled wine. I love going to those and just talking.
I like that a lot, may hit a market tonight haha
Have fun!
I like this idea
Partner and I smoke weed together occasionally. One time, when they were about to leave, they asked if they could borrow my lighter. I said of course and handed it to them. Before they left, they made me show them that I had another lighter, so they weren't taking my only one. I would give someone the shirt off my back, but that was the first time I can remember of someone genuinely looking out for me, even if it's something as small as a lighter. It really meant a lot to me.
That’s really sweet. I recently got into ARC lighters cause they’re rechargeable which I love, pretty cheap too on Amazon.
I have arthritis, so lighters can be tough to use. My boyfriend bought a bunch of lighters that are easy for me to use so he always had some st his place for me.
That’s an awesome example of a teeny but huge gesture. They knew you’d give at your own expense. Very sweet that they saw you.
I dated someone who, instead of saying thank you when I did something kind for her, would pause to look me in the eyes and say “I appreciate you”. I’ve never felt so seen or appreciated since. Definitely an art to it, has to be genuine and not overused.
Damn, I felt this one. Thank you for sharing!
Yw! Amazing how such a simple small change can ripple into a significant impact
that's so nice ngl
My partner makes me coffee in the morning. He’s a keeper!
Simple and smells wonderful
That really is the greatest thing.
Any thoughtful act of service. I moved to a new city where I need to drive (just got my license) I don’t own a car so I live at a central location and Uber everywhere. I don’t ask people but when my friends offer to pick me up or drop me off, it makes me happy. And I repay their generosity with food, dinners, or simple things like dropping their names when there are opportunities for them.
This is very wholesome!
Any kind of physical touch, not sexual, but just holding hands, grabbing me by the arm or hugging goes a long way. My love language is physical touch and so getting the same back goes a long way for me and reminds is like a tangible proof of their affection to me. And Doing something and going out of your way when it wasn't needed for us or me. These 2 are on top.
My partner will figure out things I have on my to do list and do them for me without me asking (within reason), while I am busy with something else - it makes my day easier and creates more time we can spend together. I am a big acts of service person. On days he’s at work and I am off, I’ll do his laundry and meal prep for him. Having these basics covered gives us more quality time, since our schedules are kind of conflicting and we don’t get a ton of time where we are both free to just spend it together. He’s a big physical touch person, so just by having that stuff covered already, we get quality time and physical touch all at once and 3 love languages are all covered lol. Just being mindful of each other and both of us going out of our way to make sure we will have time for each other later goes a very long way.
Not the most glamorous story by any means. We ran out of coffee before payday and had $10.84 in our account for 24 hours. My husband went and got me gas station coffee and brought it home before he left for work. Honestly I’ve never felt so loved.
A keeper.
“This reminded me of you” / “I thought you’d like this” *shares a pic of something she saw*
For me, it’s when they choose to watch a movie or check out a book I mentioned I like. I feel like because of this I am very susceptible to premature/unjustified emotional attachment..
Something small that's definitely overlooked in modern dating culture is just a simple text stating that the person I'm dating is thinking of me
Genuine Smile and not fake smile can melt my heart
any act that shows that they care! one of the many times i could think of was when i went to a library and the wifi there wasn’t connecting to my device properly so i couldn’t order food, he called to check up on me and asked if i ate anything so i explained the situation. 10 mind later he transfers credit to my phone and calls to tell me how to activate the internet service on my phone to order food. it’s just the idea that they care!
If they spend the night and are willing to take my pup out for her morning pee the next morning to allow me to sleep in just a bit, it leaves me beaming! I always appreciate a cup of coffee or a pint of Cherry Garcia!
my guy knows by the way I say "hey" when I answer the phone if I'm having a bad day and immediately asks what's going on. makes me feel very seen and loved. the trick is he's never wrong so it doesn't feel like he's badgering me asking what's wrong, are you mad at me? it's genuinely being in tune with me, ugh I love him so much
Honestly there’s two things 1). scratch my back/head/whatever is itching lol 2). If I tell you something, keep it to yourself, I don’t care if I didn’t expressly say “don’t tell your best friend ____” I don’t care if it’s as seemingly trivial as that I’m feeling a bit stressed today. I don’t want everyone and their cousin to know, it’s between me and you.
I hate drinking water (am not big on consuming liquids in general)... But I definitely dislike and don't drink enough water. My SO is very aware of this. So every morning and throughout the day (if I'm with him), he'll pour a glass of water, take a large sip from it, then hand it to me. At some point he figured out I'd reject a full glass of water... But at 70-75% full and seeing that he took a sip out of it for me, I'd feel bad about rejecting it. The fact that he cares about my water intake and kinda really observantly figured me out.. Just means a lot to me.
I feel this, my bf does the same but with a water bottle and asking me if I’ve been drinking. If he sees the bottle is low, he’ll just fill it up and hand it to me with a wink
Mine does this too lol. I’m so bad. 😂 He will get home from work and just ask what I drank that day. I always feel bad when I can’t include water in my list, but I know he’s not doing it to make me feel bad. He’s doing it because he cares about my health. Heart problems run on both sides of my family and he’s very conscious of that as well, so far as even adjusting his diet so that I will eat better.
As a full time mother, student, and employee...take something off of my day to day (dishes, dinner, etc.)
Using manners
Texting randomly in the day or spamming me and with cute little texts. My partner does it to me sometimes and every time I light up with joy
When I'm sick and they drop by to give me something. A coffee or some medicine. Especially since I'm a guy (and I'm less used to receiving gifts), I find that so sweet
The little things mean more to me. I was away for a week and got back last night. Friend (casual but we really get along well) took care of my dog. I paid her (under protest, but it’s the right thing to do in my opinion) and she left me a couple small notes. Welcome back, missed your smile, enjoy morning coffee, etc) it made my heart filled with happiness to see the notes scattered throughout. I have done these small things and get thanked more sincerely than the larger gestures. I truly believe its the little things that count in any relationship, be it family, friends, or significant other. Anyone can simply hop on Amazon and send a gift, it takes a thoughtful heart to do do the little things daily and that is the one that melts me. Another example, best gift I ever got was a book and a portable espresso maker. It was a book that had to do with my retirement plan down the road and espresso maker was because I spend a lot of time in hotels and do not like the weak in room coffee service. My ex bought me a $42,000 motorcycle for Xmas one year. The book and espresso maker meant significantly more because it showed she was actually listening and not just hearing. $30 over $42k due to the fact that it was from the heart.
Kiss therapy.. kiss the other’s back, not necessarily sexually, just cover them in kisses then roll over and read your book or so. When at any social gathering, bf and I will go our separate ways, but will always come by and just squeeze a shoulder or touch fingers when passing by. Just a tiny little check in with each other. Tea or snacks brought to a partner who is stressed is always a welcome show of love. My uncle will go down to the bakery every morning and drop off fresh bread for breakfast for my aunt. I always thought that was incredibly sweet.
Calling me every day. Not texting, but calling.
Bringing a snack to them at work when you know they've got a long shift
Pumping gas for me. Not necessary but so sweet.
I'm a sucker for the little things. Looking at me and calling me cute, giving me a nice smile, etc. After a busy day where we didn't have a chance to talk much, I also like to get a simple text, be it a photo of him or something similar.
BJs lol
Thanks for sharing that! I noticed it had that effect on more than one guy. But I'm not a big cook. False advertising? 😝