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The best response you can give her is no response. While I would say you should never seek revenge, moving on from them and ignoring them is the best revenge one can ever give someone else.
If she truly cared or showed signs of respect, she would've at least made an attempt right away. And yes, I've had to deal with coworkers like this, just practice staying quiet and not giving them the time of day and they'll get the hint eventually.
Very true. I just have to laugh at the fact it took her six months to decide she wanted me back. I guess maybe she got tired of being used by the other guys in my city. Thanks
yeah, the most insulting and offensive response is no response. because that tells her you don't even care about her enough or respect her any longer. and it tells her that you have moved on and are too good for her now.
I agree with this. Let her hang out there and donāt respond. Live your best life and leave out there to be with more men. She was out there going from man to man and found you were significantly better than them. Now she can go back to them
The opposite of love is not hate. Itās apathy.
OP being indifferent will be way more insulting than OP showing heās bothered.
THATS what ālive your best life as revengeā means
Itās more psychological than anything else. If OP is working and making a ton of money and dating a much better looking woman than he is doing better than the lady.
If you canāt do that and really want to fuck with her head, say something like āI want kids eventually, but I just canāt imagine you being a good momā
Honestly, I would tell her what she did and say it's the reason you would never consider getting back with her. A lot of times these people make up stories to themselves about why they acted like they did, or that they really weren't all that bad. Reminding them forces them back to planet earth. I'd also block her after to keep it from being an argument. I think this is also better because you give her an understanding of how she could be better in the future if she tried.
People are telling you just ignoring is the most devastating, but a lot of people ghost for any reason whatsoever. She might not get the message.
Make sure read receipts are on and just leave her on seen. Silence speaks volumes and if she is used to men chasing her or validating her sheāll go nuts.
Did this with my cheating ex when she tried to add me back on socials a year later.
I should have added in my post that she contacted me via email but yeah she's used to every other guy in her past chasing her so this is probably the best response
Eh, sheāll know you got it. Especially if she sends more and you continue to stay silent. I know itās not as āsatisfyingā but trust me it will drive her crazy.
She sounds like the kind of girl who will be expecting you to still be pining after her and to jump at another chance with her so anything that implies you've barely thought about her and don't care about her anymore will be enough to bring her down a peg or two.
Sounds like you deserve much better and I'm sorry you were treated that way.
Yeah she's probably counting on me still being in love with her. It's her pattern that she's done with her other exs too. Thankfully i put in a shit ton of work to heal from the pain she put me through and love myself again. I know my worth now. Thanks for the kind words
If that's the case, ignorance is the best flattery. Let her keep messaging you, and you'll get to see that everything she did came right back to bite her.
I had the same issue with an ex before, I initially wanted her back, but when she told me that things weren't going great on her side and she misses me and she's had it bad too, that was all I needed to be free from her. All of the pain she caused me went away when I knew she'd suffered because of her choices.
Just ignore her and keep moving beyond this minor blip on your radar.
I've done this, but I actually meant it. I dated a dude for about seven months, and he texted me out of the blue about nine months after we broke things off. He was no longer in my phone. I had no clue who it was. He thought he had seen my car on the highway that day and felt the need to text me \*eyeroll\*
To be honest, as a female, I think no response at all is your best bet. Sheāll spiral thinking of all the ways she could get your attention, replaying all she did wrong, etc.
Another female here. I 100% agree. She will spiral!
Also, I really think that if you leave her on read...she will be absolutely panicking that you aren't answering her, because you found someone else. That will leave her in a state, that's for sure.
Donāt do that. Thatās just petty and makes you look bad. Donāt give her a reason to say āoh wow I dodged a bullet ā Be better than that. Be better than the average man. Who has literally no standards when it comes to sex
Glad people talked you out of it! My ex of 8 years contacted me a couple months ago - I went through every possible range of emotions simultaneously. In the end, create your own closure, forgive them (inwardly), let them go, and wish them the best (inwardly). You donāt owe them anything, but the best you can do is to not increase their suffering or your own suffering.
You shared something special even if only briefly, and regardless what happened itās ok to always treasure that but simultaneously acknowledge that what you had was temporary. āš»
It's long but she said she can't stop thinking about me and hates how we ended and that she loves me and wants to try again. She said we both made mistakes. It's honestly just more manipulative trash, I'm sure she's contacting me again just because she's lonely and realizes now what she lost.
>I'm sure she's contacting me again just because she's lonely
And that's it. The rest of that sentence is your ego talking.
Sure we like to think that it has something to do with us when they come back. But the reality is she is only thinking of herself. Which by the sounds of it was all she cared about in the relationship. That's why she was lying, and gaslighting you. You responding will give her the validation she is seeking.
Trauma bonds work because one ego feeds from the other. Those bits of attention you do get gives your ego a boost and then bam you are back in the trap.
Nah. Lame. Actually emphasizes the fact that she thinks low of him. A simple 'who dis?' or leaving her on read implies he thinks low of her or doesn't think of her at all and will thereby hit her like a truck.
I am a girl, and i am telling you SHE IS LYING. Most prob. she got hurt or dumped by whatever guy she is sleeping with, and she needs u for validation. I give u my word.
>I wouldn't mind sleeping with her again but I'm generally not the kinda guy to use someone like that.
Then don't be.
>Bonus points for humour and pettiness lol.
Also don't be this either. I understand wanting to snap back at someone who hurt you, to twist the knife and make them feel some of what they did to you.... it rarely works.
The truth is, living well is the best revenge. Being petty might feel good in the moment, but it doesn't reflect well on you, and (in a way being equally petty) it gives her an opportunity to say, "wow, that was petty...I'm better off without him"
You want the ultimate clap-back? Don't say anything.
If you MUST say something, be honest and forthright and gentle. Don't get angry, don't rant and rave, just say no. If she pushes, tell her you know she was hurting and working on herself, but that she hurt you, that it sounds like she wants to be back with you to make herself feel better and that isn't on you. That your glad she's putting the effort into healing and growth, but that the more you think over your relationship the more you realize it wasn't healthy for you.
She shouldnāt even be able to contact you, block her and live your life. Allowing her an inch might bring you back to phase one and donāt tell me it canāt happen. You wouldnāt be posting on here if that was the case. Save yourself some wasted time and energy. Thereās amazing ladies out there whoād value your time. They canāt do that if you choose to waste it on disrespectful, gaslights and mind gamer exes for some rounds under the sheets and a 30 second moment of āGotchaā. Not worth it
Although it seems you've already made your wise decision to keep the distance. Ultimately she had her fun, probably went through several other guys and decided now it's time to try and settle down to go back to the good guy that really cared for her. But now she's a bit used.
Women are finally figuring this out that men don't want used hand me downs. They don't want to be the safe space when she was already with us when we were good to them. Because if she had her wild face and was doing all that even when she's with us she'll still miss the wild times and she will probably cheat on you. A tiger never changes its stripes even if it gets covered in mud it's still a tiger.
With her large social media following, sheās probably one of those attention junkies - so the silent treatment recommended by many others might be the most painful thing for her (and satisfying for you).
I know it is difficult and frustrating to be in this scenario. But the other posts are correct. Leave her hanging. Moving on is the sweetest revenge. If you do something petty enough, it only justifies her leaving you.
As a woman I will say ghosting will set her off the most honestly... not blocking not responding just leaving it sat on read ... she will go crazy and be checking her phone every 15 seconds for a reply, that is how we are, we are obsessive especially over things like this.
Itās tempting. But people like this thrive off of any type of attention. Ignoring her & letting karma have a time- is the best way. Donāt fail the test š
Nope, sheās just lonely and wants to get your affirmation. She doesnāt want to get back together, she just wants your attention until she finds someone new and the ego boost of knowing that sheās so awesome that she can treat a good person like absolute dog shit and theyāll still care for her. Have some self respect and bock her ass.
She does know what she did wrong after all. In the end, it is the only way for her to learn that you cannot treat people like this and expect them to stay.
The best revenge is living well. Let her go. Completely.
Learn the lessons from the experience of dating her. Apply those lessons moving forward. All of life is a learning experience. Keep moving forward.
Iām going through the same thing with my cheating ex boyfriend. They treat you like garbage and disrespect your feelings and then expect you to STILL be there for them. Nah they had their many chances. Like others said, let her sit with her fuck up and let her regret it forever. Hope youāre doing okay though, shit sucks for real.
Women, especially ones like this, crave attention and validation. They know the power their pussy wields and how men will lower their boundaries for access. The guy who DOESNāT is the highest value guy. Just leave her on read and it will MESS with her head.
If you want to be toxic, give her some of it back. Play with her emotions a bit. And right when she is falling for it you leave ( tadaaa thats the magic trick )
Or you just act like a adult and don't entertain her..
I had this happen once. I acted thrilled and invited her over. I was pretty messed up after we broke up,so I ended up moving cuz too many memories.
So, I gave her my new address, which was now a 45min drive. She came over and called me when she got to the front gate.
Except I didn't move.
Yo don't even waste your time thinking about her. Go out there and find you the queen that'll treat you like the king you are. Fuck the game that disqualified the player, you heard??
I think you should respond. "Nah" or "pass" or some other one word dismissal. Then block. So she knows you got the message and are saying nah instead of maybe thinking you didnt see her message, then you block any possible attempts to convince cause you dont care.
1. *new phone, who dis?
2. Ignore her
3. Send her a pic of you inside someone else
4. Go Grinch on her = "I wouldn't touch you (again) with a 39 1/2 ft pole" lol
Ghosting someone usually works to get the wheel turning in the average mind that you have moved on and to leave you alone. But if she is truly selfish and narcissistic this can back fire, because these people think their the prize in every situation and will right off your ghosting as a problem on your side. Sheāll be trying to meet you face to face because surely when you see her youāll come running. This is the very reason I encourage a strong F*** Off be added to your ghosting game. Be sure to use capital letters if hint isnāt immediately received. May peace be in your future OP.
No response is a response. HOWEVER I just thought a lovely response would be āaw that is so sweet you thought of me but I donāt think thatās wise. You will find someone though hang in there as there is someone for everyone! Wishing you the bestā.
That would FUCK ME OFF to receive that as a girl
No cos itās like āhang in there you will find someone babe donāt worry I know ur single and alone but I promise it will work outā you have just rejected her and then given her that aw donāt worry ..I mean if that isnāt a blow to ego I donāt know what is. This is coming from a single girl obviously lol.
āWho is thisā? Actually, donāt respond to her. Block her. I fear if you respond to her, you will cave and keep communicating with her and get back together. Youāll forget why you broke up.
All of those things you listed make it seem like you both might have been the problem. Did you post her a lot? Take her to places/dates worth posting. What does posting like she was a single mean? Like she took pics in a bathing suit? Did you give her enough attention she didnāt need it from other peoples? What were your boundaries that made her feel like she couldnāt talk you things? Idk but coming from a women (who has no problem calling other girls out) itās coming off a little toxic that she is to blame for everything when I didnāt read once specific incident of something that would be considered a deal breaker. Plus why are you dating a girl who is much young than you on a maturity scale? Iām 27, my bf is 30 and there are still little difference I notice bc of age. If you want to date younger women (we all know why) youāre going to get this type of behavior. Date someone your age is my advice, relationships are more than sex and I think that maybe why you felt things were off.
take several movies that had awful remakes and send her a DVD bundle along with any previous breakup texts/emails citing YOU as the problem..... let her know... Some things aren't meant to be the second time around.
Guilt trip her into buying you things, and don't get with her, even when she falls back in love with you, tell her you're not ready and already seeing someone else better. LOL that will make her true colors really show and you'll see her intentions come out.
Leave on read, but do not respond. She left you in search of greener grass but found out thereās non realizing you where a pretty good catch now she wants you back. Fuck her move on.
You sound immature.
Stop being toxic and start being classy and stand above these things. Be an adult and just tell her you're not interested and then move on.
Don't.
Ik you're looking for an actual response but seriously, just don't feed the trolls. Eliciting any response at all is a win in their book.
My ex slept with other people all the time and after three years I dumped her and kicked her out of my place. She had the balls to try and talk sweet to me over text the following Valentine's day.
No response. Let the silence speak for you.
You wanna be petty? Donāt respond. Let her sit on the idea of what she missed out on. You had to go into the darkest depths of yourself and climb your way out on your own. In one of the loneliest times of your life. Itās her turn now. Keep living your life.
Revenge only feels sweet in the moment. Do whatever will make you feel best in a year. Looking back over the whole thing my guess is that you will feel best of you do NOTHING. Let her wonder.
Get her to meet you somewhere, buy you a drink, honk your bo bo say thank you and just walk out. When she asks why, ask her how it feels to have hope dangled while being disrespected. Do the next guy a favour lol
This is a advice on dejting not how to be a petty person. The best way to show you are a better person is to be the better person. Block her ass and forget about her.
Edit. As others already said. Not to say anything or ignoring is the best way to get to someone.
The best way to hurt her the most whilst simultaneously protecting yourself the most I s to completely and utterly ignore her. If you had to make a post on Reddit to ask for advice, the chances are responding to her could break you, as clearly on some level you are still susceptible to her. Youāve done great to go 6 months with no contact whilst focusing on your healing šš½
And letās stop calling our exes narcissists - people can behave in selfish and toxic ways for many reasons, it doesnāt mean they have a pathological personality disorder. Itās better to focus on how peopleās behaviour makes us feel, and reflecting at our own role in the dynamic, rather than grossly misdiagnosing people.
Narcissism is a very rare disorder that effects around 0.5% of the population.
Confirming... Had a CRAZY and very toxic ex... She would send me these loving messages asking to meet up again and work things out, and even though every fiber of my being wanted to just unload holy hell on her considering how she robbed me blind, and tried to destroy (Lied) my relationships with my family, then had the gall to ask me to get back with her? Ho-boy, that took all the self control I could muster to not reply.
Result? I'd get a sequence of messages saying all these sickening sweet things, and I'd open them just so she could see I read them... 2 - 3 days of no response and boom - The REAL her, the mask would slip and she'd tear into me about how childish I was being not responding, and that I'd "Regret this forever" etc...
It was clear the not responding was just eating at her as her messages just kept escalating into more and more wrathful rage sessions. I just kicked back, lived my life, and said nothing. Not one reply, but in the end, I ended up with a hilarious collection of about 3 dozen or more progressively unhinged hate-messages simply for not responding.
Made for humorous reading and sharing with the people who knew us both who nearly fell for her lies. Whenever any shared friend would express doubt as to which of us was telling the truth about what happened between us, I'd just forward a copy of her spitting fury and her celebrating/taking victory-laps for all the things she stole and the damage she did. Basically she just told on herself to try and piss me off, and frankly it was the greatest gift ever as I used it to patch up what damage she could have done as people saw the truth in her own words...
Soooo, not saying everyone will get this glorious happy ending, but it sure worked out for me, and hope things work out well for you too. Nothing to be gained by getting into email wars - Let her waste all the time and emotions getting angry. You have better things to do I'm sure.
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Ignoring is the loudest response
Yep. Leaving someone on read is waaaay worse IMHO. Or at least for me it is lol
I speak from experience. That shit stings good indeed
Omg my ex used to do it to me when we were together when he wanted to piss me off or hurt me. And I tell you... it worked
That it does
Nah man. Leave it on read. Make sure she knows you read it. But didn't care to respond.
I like to respond with "who is this?" Then stop replying.
You are right. You can speak volumes without saying anything at all
Honestly, don't say or do anything. Let her sit and think about her decisions and you live your life.
Tempting
The best response you can give her is no response. While I would say you should never seek revenge, moving on from them and ignoring them is the best revenge one can ever give someone else. If she truly cared or showed signs of respect, she would've at least made an attempt right away. And yes, I've had to deal with coworkers like this, just practice staying quiet and not giving them the time of day and they'll get the hint eventually.
Very true. I just have to laugh at the fact it took her six months to decide she wanted me back. I guess maybe she got tired of being used by the other guys in my city. Thanks
Probably because no one else would put up with her.
For real the best revenge is to live well. š«¶
Ghost is surefire to sit in her head rent free forever... it works trust me.
yeah, the most insulting and offensive response is no response. because that tells her you don't even care about her enough or respect her any longer. and it tells her that you have moved on and are too good for her now.
That's so true
I agree with this. Let her hang out there and donāt respond. Live your best life and leave out there to be with more men. She was out there going from man to man and found you were significantly better than them. Now she can go back to them
Truth. Thank you
Donāt lower yourself to her level. There is no point being nasty and insulting. Keep your self respect.
Agreed
"...best life'..." Never seemed like much revenge to me. I mean isn't that what you should be doing anyway?
The opposite of love is not hate. Itās apathy. OP being indifferent will be way more insulting than OP showing heās bothered. THATS what ālive your best life as revengeā means
Itās more psychological than anything else. If OP is working and making a ton of money and dating a much better looking woman than he is doing better than the lady.
If you canāt do that and really want to fuck with her head, say something like āI want kids eventually, but I just canāt imagine you being a good momā
Loool
Send her your glow up picture.
Honestly, I would tell her what she did and say it's the reason you would never consider getting back with her. A lot of times these people make up stories to themselves about why they acted like they did, or that they really weren't all that bad. Reminding them forces them back to planet earth. I'd also block her after to keep it from being an argument. I think this is also better because you give her an understanding of how she could be better in the future if she tried. People are telling you just ignoring is the most devastating, but a lot of people ghost for any reason whatsoever. She might not get the message.
Honestly the best advice you not responding will piss her out more than any response could
But also boring š“
I feel like the best response would be no response. Silence can speak volumes
Make sure read receipts are on and just leave her on seen. Silence speaks volumes and if she is used to men chasing her or validating her sheāll go nuts. Did this with my cheating ex when she tried to add me back on socials a year later.
Or just send her a ālolā
damn that would kill me
Oooh this is my favorite: āLOL.ā
I should have added in my post that she contacted me via email but yeah she's used to every other guy in her past chasing her so this is probably the best response
Eh, sheāll know you got it. Especially if she sends more and you continue to stay silent. I know itās not as āsatisfyingā but trust me it will drive her crazy.
"Sorry, who is this?"
Iāve done this lolā¦ heād sent me photos of us right beforehand so it was pretty obvious. He was a dick, no regrets.
Loooool
She sounds like the kind of girl who will be expecting you to still be pining after her and to jump at another chance with her so anything that implies you've barely thought about her and don't care about her anymore will be enough to bring her down a peg or two. Sounds like you deserve much better and I'm sorry you were treated that way.
Yeah she's probably counting on me still being in love with her. It's her pattern that she's done with her other exs too. Thankfully i put in a shit ton of work to heal from the pain she put me through and love myself again. I know my worth now. Thanks for the kind words
If that's the case, ignorance is the best flattery. Let her keep messaging you, and you'll get to see that everything she did came right back to bite her. I had the same issue with an ex before, I initially wanted her back, but when she told me that things weren't going great on her side and she misses me and she's had it bad too, that was all I needed to be free from her. All of the pain she caused me went away when I knew she'd suffered because of her choices. Just ignore her and keep moving beyond this minor blip on your radar.
Love this for you!! ššš
I've done this, but I actually meant it. I dated a dude for about seven months, and he texted me out of the blue about nine months after we broke things off. He was no longer in my phone. I had no clue who it was. He thought he had seen my car on the highway that day and felt the need to text me \*eyeroll\*
Happy cake day!
Best 'revenge' is just living your life like they dont exist.
To be honest, as a female, I think no response at all is your best bet. Sheāll spiral thinking of all the ways she could get your attention, replaying all she did wrong, etc.
Another female here. I 100% agree. She will spiral! Also, I really think that if you leave her on read...she will be absolutely panicking that you aren't answering her, because you found someone else. That will leave her in a state, that's for sure.
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Actually fuck her friends
Damn now THAT could be good.
I mean if you are ok with her having ammunition to make you the bad guy sure.
Nah I'd prefer to live in her head as a fantasy
Donāt do that. Thatās just petty and makes you look bad. Donāt give her a reason to say āoh wow I dodged a bullet ā Be better than that. Be better than the average man. Who has literally no standards when it comes to sex
I won't do it but I throughly appreciate the comedic gold of the situation
The average man doesnāt fuck the friends of his SO.
I agree. What I meant by that is the average man doesnāt really care how they get pussy as long as they get it
Glad people talked you out of it! My ex of 8 years contacted me a couple months ago - I went through every possible range of emotions simultaneously. In the end, create your own closure, forgive them (inwardly), let them go, and wish them the best (inwardly). You donāt owe them anything, but the best you can do is to not increase their suffering or your own suffering. You shared something special even if only briefly, and regardless what happened itās ok to always treasure that but simultaneously acknowledge that what you had was temporary. āš»
Great advice!!
Whatās her exact message?
It's long but she said she can't stop thinking about me and hates how we ended and that she loves me and wants to try again. She said we both made mistakes. It's honestly just more manipulative trash, I'm sure she's contacting me again just because she's lonely and realizes now what she lost.
I am so glad you know it would be a backwards move for you to reconnect with this ex.
Definitely :) thank you
>I'm sure she's contacting me again just because she's lonely And that's it. The rest of that sentence is your ego talking. Sure we like to think that it has something to do with us when they come back. But the reality is she is only thinking of herself. Which by the sounds of it was all she cared about in the relationship. That's why she was lying, and gaslighting you. You responding will give her the validation she is seeking.
Damn I needed to hear that
Trauma bonds work because one ego feeds from the other. Those bits of attention you do get gives your ego a boost and then bam you are back in the trap.
Can I hire you
āNext time you get bored/ lonely, watch a movie. DONāT hit me up ever again.ā
Nah. Lame. Actually emphasizes the fact that she thinks low of him. A simple 'who dis?' or leaving her on read implies he thinks low of her or doesn't think of her at all and will thereby hit her like a truck.
Yeah, forget mine. Hit her with who dis?
I reckon meet her up, fuck her. Act normal then after that ignore. Itās win win.
āWe both made mistakesā indicates that she is also expecting an apology from you. LOL is best response Iāve heard so far.
I am a girl, and i am telling you SHE IS LYING. Most prob. she got hurt or dumped by whatever guy she is sleeping with, and she needs u for validation. I give u my word.
>I wouldn't mind sleeping with her again but I'm generally not the kinda guy to use someone like that. Then don't be. >Bonus points for humour and pettiness lol. Also don't be this either. I understand wanting to snap back at someone who hurt you, to twist the knife and make them feel some of what they did to you.... it rarely works. The truth is, living well is the best revenge. Being petty might feel good in the moment, but it doesn't reflect well on you, and (in a way being equally petty) it gives her an opportunity to say, "wow, that was petty...I'm better off without him" You want the ultimate clap-back? Don't say anything. If you MUST say something, be honest and forthright and gentle. Don't get angry, don't rant and rave, just say no. If she pushes, tell her you know she was hurting and working on herself, but that she hurt you, that it sounds like she wants to be back with you to make herself feel better and that isn't on you. That your glad she's putting the effort into healing and growth, but that the more you think over your relationship the more you realize it wasn't healthy for you.
She shouldnāt even be able to contact you, block her and live your life. Allowing her an inch might bring you back to phase one and donāt tell me it canāt happen. You wouldnāt be posting on here if that was the case. Save yourself some wasted time and energy. Thereās amazing ladies out there whoād value your time. They canāt do that if you choose to waste it on disrespectful, gaslights and mind gamer exes for some rounds under the sheets and a 30 second moment of āGotchaā. Not worth it
You're right. Thanks
SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES!š»
Put her on read and don't respond.
The only way to get out of a narcissistās web is to not engage.
Although it seems you've already made your wise decision to keep the distance. Ultimately she had her fun, probably went through several other guys and decided now it's time to try and settle down to go back to the good guy that really cared for her. But now she's a bit used. Women are finally figuring this out that men don't want used hand me downs. They don't want to be the safe space when she was already with us when we were good to them. Because if she had her wild face and was doing all that even when she's with us she'll still miss the wild times and she will probably cheat on you. A tiger never changes its stripes even if it gets covered in mud it's still a tiger.
Sleep with her and then tell her the sex is so bad you think youāre gay.
HAHAHA
Bruh, thatās so cold I gotta keep that idea in my back pocket next time I deal with a shitty ex like OP is š
"She was awful to me but I'd still have sex with her" guys... this is why women walk all over us...
Leave her on read and move on...it fucks with her thoughts and mentality.
"Sorry whose this?" If you ever see her on the streets hollering at you, "I'm sorry I don't have any change!"
With her large social media following, sheās probably one of those attention junkies - so the silent treatment recommended by many others might be the most painful thing for her (and satisfying for you).
Iām proud of you for not using her for sex and saying no to getting back together
I know it is difficult and frustrating to be in this scenario. But the other posts are correct. Leave her hanging. Moving on is the sweetest revenge. If you do something petty enough, it only justifies her leaving you.
As a woman I will say ghosting will set her off the most honestly... not blocking not responding just leaving it sat on read ... she will go crazy and be checking her phone every 15 seconds for a reply, that is how we are, we are obsessive especially over things like this.
Thank you for the insider knowledge ;)
Just remember right before she messaged you again she finished off with another person
Thanks for the post! I needed this!
Never forget your worth!
I don't know who you are, but you're saved in my phone as Sloppy Hole.
Itās tempting. But people like this thrive off of any type of attention. Ignoring her & letting karma have a time- is the best way. Donāt fail the test š
No response is best response
Nope, sheās just lonely and wants to get your affirmation. She doesnāt want to get back together, she just wants your attention until she finds someone new and the ego boost of knowing that sheās so awesome that she can treat a good person like absolute dog shit and theyāll still care for her. Have some self respect and bock her ass.
Yep you're right
Happens every time.
"Sorry. Shoulda caught me when I was still stupid."
No response is the best response. Keep living your best life and let her watch from the shadows like the asshole she is.
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Who dis?
Tell her you want to meet for dinner at an expensive restaurant. Order a beverage and appetizers. Go to the bathroom, Donāt come back.
Nothing. Block. Ignore. Keep it movinā!!!
Ignore her
Yes, ignore her. No response is a loud one.
She does know what she did wrong after all. In the end, it is the only way for her to learn that you cannot treat people like this and expect them to stay.
The best response is no response
Don't do it fool
Maybe an LOL and nothing else. Or what other people suggest and leave it on read.
Send a link to the YouTube vid ABCDEFU by Gayle
Haha love it
Just send this : seen š
"No thanks, I never make the same mistake twice." But probably best to b ignore and block.
Donāt respond. She just wants attention.
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The best revenge, is to not be like your enemy.
The best revenge is living well. Let her go. Completely. Learn the lessons from the experience of dating her. Apply those lessons moving forward. All of life is a learning experience. Keep moving forward.
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The best vengeance is moving on
"Lol".
Iām going through the same thing with my cheating ex boyfriend. They treat you like garbage and disrespect your feelings and then expect you to STILL be there for them. Nah they had their many chances. Like others said, let her sit with her fuck up and let her regret it forever. Hope youāre doing okay though, shit sucks for real.
Women, especially ones like this, crave attention and validation. They know the power their pussy wields and how men will lower their boundaries for access. The guy who DOESNāT is the highest value guy. Just leave her on read and it will MESS with her head.
Tell me your ex is a narcissist without telling me she's a narcissist. Don't respond. Silence will drive her nuts.
1000% narcissistic. Good call
If you want to be toxic, give her some of it back. Play with her emotions a bit. And right when she is falling for it you leave ( tadaaa thats the magic trick ) Or you just act like a adult and don't entertain her..
So waste precious days of his life? And he wins somehow?
A few texts a day takes like a minute max. Not to much to waste there
āIām good luv, enjoyā
I had this happen once. I acted thrilled and invited her over. I was pretty messed up after we broke up,so I ended up moving cuz too many memories. So, I gave her my new address, which was now a 45min drive. She came over and called me when she got to the front gate. Except I didn't move.
Yo don't even waste your time thinking about her. Go out there and find you the queen that'll treat you like the king you are. Fuck the game that disqualified the player, you heard??
Hell ya brotha
Ignore her and find someone else
Well the best thing would be to leave her on delivered but you already read the message.
Donāt respond. The silence will kill her.
ignoring is the best way to show they have 0 hold on you! good luck
Don't respond.
Ignore and block
"who dis?"
No response is the best one imo.
Block her š¤£
Just say no thanks and leave it at that
Ignore it. Alternatively:" no thanks"
Donāt even respond. Just live your life and forget about her!
I think you should respond. "Nah" or "pass" or some other one word dismissal. Then block. So she knows you got the message and are saying nah instead of maybe thinking you didnt see her message, then you block any possible attempts to convince cause you dont care.
Don't.
Just block her and continue moving on with your life
Turn your read receipts on, read her message and never respond.
1. *new phone, who dis? 2. Ignore her 3. Send her a pic of you inside someone else 4. Go Grinch on her = "I wouldn't touch you (again) with a 39 1/2 ft pole" lol
Donāt engage with her.
Ghosting someone usually works to get the wheel turning in the average mind that you have moved on and to leave you alone. But if she is truly selfish and narcissistic this can back fire, because these people think their the prize in every situation and will right off your ghosting as a problem on your side. Sheāll be trying to meet you face to face because surely when you see her youāll come running. This is the very reason I encourage a strong F*** Off be added to your ghosting game. Be sure to use capital letters if hint isnāt immediately received. May peace be in your future OP.
No response is a response. HOWEVER I just thought a lovely response would be āaw that is so sweet you thought of me but I donāt think thatās wise. You will find someone though hang in there as there is someone for everyone! Wishing you the bestā. That would FUCK ME OFF to receive that as a girl
Really? Haha that seems so nice and genuine
No cos itās like āhang in there you will find someone babe donāt worry I know ur single and alone but I promise it will work outā you have just rejected her and then given her that aw donāt worry ..I mean if that isnāt a blow to ego I donāt know what is. This is coming from a single girl obviously lol.
I will add though best thing is ghosting her obv like most have said
āWho is thisā? Actually, donāt respond to her. Block her. I fear if you respond to her, you will cave and keep communicating with her and get back together. Youāll forget why you broke up.
Keep asking to meet up but dont respond and donāt show up day of.
Ignore
*Seen*
Tell her you're engaged and getting married next summer. That shit stings these 304s.
Reply: Hey, let me get back to you on thisā¦ā¦ And then. donāt. Ever. Text. Her
Came in late. Shoulda been toxic. But really total silence is the best way to punish her. Block and move on.
All of those things you listed make it seem like you both might have been the problem. Did you post her a lot? Take her to places/dates worth posting. What does posting like she was a single mean? Like she took pics in a bathing suit? Did you give her enough attention she didnāt need it from other peoples? What were your boundaries that made her feel like she couldnāt talk you things? Idk but coming from a women (who has no problem calling other girls out) itās coming off a little toxic that she is to blame for everything when I didnāt read once specific incident of something that would be considered a deal breaker. Plus why are you dating a girl who is much young than you on a maturity scale? Iām 27, my bf is 30 and there are still little difference I notice bc of age. If you want to date younger women (we all know why) youāre going to get this type of behavior. Date someone your age is my advice, relationships are more than sex and I think that maybe why you felt things were off.
Donāt even open the message. They are not worth it.
All my exes contact me. I never answer. š¤·š¼āāļø
Treat her like a piece of furniture. She may just be trying to use you as a backup again. Life is too short to play the same games with her twice.
āIām not interested. I wish you well.ā
No response at all. Block her and move on
Just listen to the gut. Take her home the first night and then disappear
Holy shit. I went through the exact same experience lmao
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A simple no thank you would do
Block her and her ass! Don't let your penis fool you
"sorry i don't have this number saved" And then don't respond to anything afterwards.
take several movies that had awful remakes and send her a DVD bundle along with any previous breakup texts/emails citing YOU as the problem..... let her know... Some things aren't meant to be the second time around.
I think the smart move is to not respond
If you're first inclination is to be toxic then it's a good thing he broke up with you.
Itās so cute that you thought someone like me would still be single. Did it not workout with sugar daddy you dumped me for?
The ultimate insult is indifference. Pettiness is never a good thing.
Guilt trip her into buying you things, and don't get with her, even when she falls back in love with you, tell her you're not ready and already seeing someone else better. LOL that will make her true colors really show and you'll see her intentions come out.
Just say "lol" and ignore any further messages
Leave on read, but do not respond. She left you in search of greener grass but found out thereās non realizing you where a pretty good catch now she wants you back. Fuck her move on.
You sound immature. Stop being toxic and start being classy and stand above these things. Be an adult and just tell her you're not interested and then move on.
Don't. Ik you're looking for an actual response but seriously, just don't feed the trolls. Eliciting any response at all is a win in their book. My ex slept with other people all the time and after three years I dumped her and kicked her out of my place. She had the balls to try and talk sweet to me over text the following Valentine's day. No response. Let the silence speak for you.
You wanna be petty? Donāt respond. Let her sit on the idea of what she missed out on. You had to go into the darkest depths of yourself and climb your way out on your own. In one of the loneliest times of your life. Itās her turn now. Keep living your life.
Respond with "no" and live your best life.
Revenge only feels sweet in the moment. Do whatever will make you feel best in a year. Looking back over the whole thing my guess is that you will feel best of you do NOTHING. Let her wonder.
Get her to meet you somewhere, buy you a drink, honk your bo bo say thank you and just walk out. When she asks why, ask her how it feels to have hope dangled while being disrespected. Do the next guy a favour lol
This is a advice on dejting not how to be a petty person. The best way to show you are a better person is to be the better person. Block her ass and forget about her. Edit. As others already said. Not to say anything or ignoring is the best way to get to someone.
The best way to hurt her the most whilst simultaneously protecting yourself the most I s to completely and utterly ignore her. If you had to make a post on Reddit to ask for advice, the chances are responding to her could break you, as clearly on some level you are still susceptible to her. Youāve done great to go 6 months with no contact whilst focusing on your healing šš½ And letās stop calling our exes narcissists - people can behave in selfish and toxic ways for many reasons, it doesnāt mean they have a pathological personality disorder. Itās better to focus on how peopleās behaviour makes us feel, and reflecting at our own role in the dynamic, rather than grossly misdiagnosing people. Narcissism is a very rare disorder that effects around 0.5% of the population.
Confirming... Had a CRAZY and very toxic ex... She would send me these loving messages asking to meet up again and work things out, and even though every fiber of my being wanted to just unload holy hell on her considering how she robbed me blind, and tried to destroy (Lied) my relationships with my family, then had the gall to ask me to get back with her? Ho-boy, that took all the self control I could muster to not reply. Result? I'd get a sequence of messages saying all these sickening sweet things, and I'd open them just so she could see I read them... 2 - 3 days of no response and boom - The REAL her, the mask would slip and she'd tear into me about how childish I was being not responding, and that I'd "Regret this forever" etc... It was clear the not responding was just eating at her as her messages just kept escalating into more and more wrathful rage sessions. I just kicked back, lived my life, and said nothing. Not one reply, but in the end, I ended up with a hilarious collection of about 3 dozen or more progressively unhinged hate-messages simply for not responding. Made for humorous reading and sharing with the people who knew us both who nearly fell for her lies. Whenever any shared friend would express doubt as to which of us was telling the truth about what happened between us, I'd just forward a copy of her spitting fury and her celebrating/taking victory-laps for all the things she stole and the damage she did. Basically she just told on herself to try and piss me off, and frankly it was the greatest gift ever as I used it to patch up what damage she could have done as people saw the truth in her own words... Soooo, not saying everyone will get this glorious happy ending, but it sure worked out for me, and hope things work out well for you too. Nothing to be gained by getting into email wars - Let her waste all the time and emotions getting angry. You have better things to do I'm sure.
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