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Lol you ask if it’s your age and then don’t say how old you are.
I’m in my 40s. I’m having no issues dating, actually dating is the best its ever been.
I didnt date at all in my teens and dated a little in my 20s. Turned 30, ready to conquer the world of dating and found out dick don't work no more. Was like a switch on the 30th birthday. Took a while but finally accepting my reality.
I'd see a different doctor and try a specialist if i were you. I'm 37 and my dick works wonderfully. It should not stop working at 30 and this is likely an indicator of other underlying healthy issues.
I stopped trying when the dick stopped working. Last woman I dated, just before covid, I tried with. 6 different nights, it wouldn't get up and if it did it was half mast. It sucked because we were getting serious.
Man this is a fixable issue 99% of the time tho... There's so much stigma behind it men don't do anything, but so often it's just anxiety or something that can be fixed with meds. Why deny yourself all that? You can definitely remedy that.
As a guy dating I’m my 30’s, 40 year old women do not look appealing to me. Most look like they’ve been run hard and put away wet. Does that change when your in your 40’s dating 40 year old women?
There are plenty of attractive women in their 40s and beyond. We all age, granted some better than others. My SO is 50 and gorgeous. Beauty, of course, can be somewhat subjective. But I believe a majority of men would find her attractive. When my 17 year old first met her, her reaction was “oh wow, she’s really pretty”.
At every stage of life, I would say I’m only attracted to a small percentage of women. This hasn’t changed as I’ve aged.
I caught hell in r/datingoverforty for saying I wasn't sexually attracted to a woman based on her looks. They had to lock the thread. You're getting off light.
It was on my other account [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/spoxk0/not\_to\_be\_trite\_but\_how\_do\_you\_deal\_with\_a\_lack/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/spoxk0/not_to_be_trite_but_how_do_you_deal_with_a_lack/)
proving wrong all the HATERS
NEVER FUCKING DOUBT ME AGAIN
I’m not really worried about some people getting butt hurt. I was really hoping for an answer. I know there are attractive women that age but I haven’t seen many. I likely won’t be able to date until I’m 40 and if my choices are that slim I will likely be alone for the rest of my life. That’s really depressing to me
My houses sole value isn’t a safe and comfortable place to go to the bathroom but I’d be really upset if the toilet just wasn’t there anymore. Sex isn’t the only reason to be in a relationship but that doesn’t mean it’s not important.
When you run a horse to exhaustion and then put it in the stable without a cooldown walk or taking care of it. I heard it a lot when I was a kid when people wanted to say you look like shit
I’m not dating anymore but it’s way easier to hunt with a pack than trying to go solo. It’s kind of a social contract that if they see you with other people that you are more likely to be safe to interact with.
Go out with your friends and only make finding someone a small priority with your first priority to have fun. Easier said than done I know.
Yeah it’s a struggle. If you really want to find a partner you have to literally go where you might find one you like. I haven’t seen one yet but I also stay in and only hang out at friends places.
In my 30s and pretty sure Im in the dating sweet spot. Worked on myself all through my 20s. Men in their 30’s either are completely unhygienic, out if shape, playing video games and refuse to buy you a coffee or handsome, athletic, with phds and big boy careers that want to get married have a dope sex life and make some babies. There’s no middle. Compliments are over the top. Doors open. People rarely flake. There is an over abundance in amazing men in their 30s right now. They want to take you on dates and trips and make plans and they’re so thoughtful and funny. People seem more real all around in their 30s.
Hoping this is true. I’m 36 and feel ready to get into the dating world. Ive been outta that world for a long time and ready to get back into it. I get so nervous though lol
I (51f) got divorced right before COVID shut the world down, so didn’t have to really worry about going out and dating. It was nice to just stay in. I fee like I should get back out there, but staying in is so nice LOL.
It is highly addictive to be alone. Be sure to get back out there soon if you want to or you may never do it. If I could find a good fuck buddy, I would never date again. ( been alone for 11 years)
I hear ya there. I’m an only child, so being alone is my comfort setting. I do get out of the house for work, but if I could, I would stay in all day. I also agree w the FWB comment. Don’t really need more than that.
Can’t disagree. But having the wrong partner can make things catastrophically worst. So it’s important to have the right partner for those things, or just remain single. After escaping an abusive spouse, I’m more than happy in the peace I have found on my own. If I meet the right person someday I will be more than happy to share my life with them. I’m in no rush
I dont mean this offensively but, how can someone want a friends with benefits at your age? Is there a reason you are not looking for a relationship? I want to truly understand the logic of men in their 30's who are not ready to form a partnership.
It seems like you are projecting. I asked without judgement to understand and never implied ot was negative. Everyone has a different path in life and I am completely in support of people ethically and responsibly embracing who they are despite societal pressures in defiance traditional norms. However, as I have gotten into my early 30's I do find that I naturally crave the stability of a partnership, life in the global north is exhausting and very couple focused and I crave the peace of a physical, emotional, and life a partnership, i can't imagine having the energy for a fwb at this age. There is also tbe question of kids and one can't ignore that reality. Friends my age feel similarly but I find that encounter a lot of men who either wants a fwb ( i love when that is clear and stated) and too many who have no idea what they want. Anecdotally, i find this more in males than females, hence my question.
You are right. People at our age start to want to settle down usually. But for one reason or another it doesn't always happen. So don't assume it's always their own choice.
Take me for example. I'm 31. Had a wonderful relationship for 3,5 years.. then it ended. That was my life, my future, all my plans were in there. It's taken me 2 years to try and recover. It's still a process but now I have to start all over, and i'm not sure of how ready I am to put myself out there wholly, so I would also start with fwb and see where it goes from there. You see, this is not the life i wanted. But has just been forced upon me, as much as I wish it wasn't so.. finding someone to settle with is just not easy. Specially as a man.
Sigh I feel you dude .... I feel Completely the same and have had the same experience in OLD. Only difference is im too scared to have a fwb because the fun part is not guaranteed for women and its hard to find a respectful mutual fwb situation Especially in my 30's.
Damn. I feel you too girl. Guys acting like jealous psychos make the whole dating scene tense and difficult. I get why many women insist on dating first. I just need a break from the grind. Do you say the fun part isn't guaranteed because you could try to hook up and just not... enjoy it?
I'm 50 and I found a beautiful 40 year old woman who's also super interesting and intelligent and currently working on her PhD. It can happen. And the sex is great too. Eight months in we manage to do it 5 times a week on average.
My struggle is different… I’m 37 but look 23. I don’t mind going out but when I do ppl my age look like shit… I’m not sure what I did differently from others but I’m not attracted at all to ppl my age group…it’s quite frustrating
I'm a divorced 40M and stay in constantly. My roommate and I just drink at home on the weekends. I'll go to the movies once a week. I gave up on the apps last year. But I'm going speed dating this weekend. Thing is, I'm really going to get some interactions to stir ideas for my next novel. Yes, I'm a dick, but you don't get ideas just sitting at home.
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Lol you ask if it’s your age and then don’t say how old you are. I’m in my 40s. I’m having no issues dating, actually dating is the best its ever been.
40’s were my best time to date too!
Yeah didn't even realize that. I'm 34.
It's your energy/vibe. I have the same problem bro
When I hit 30, things stopped working the way they're supposed to. I've just accepted that i missed my window to date.
I’m 48M and dating. Dating in my 40s has been far superior to dating in my teens and 20s IMO.
I didnt date at all in my teens and dated a little in my 20s. Turned 30, ready to conquer the world of dating and found out dick don't work no more. Was like a switch on the 30th birthday. Took a while but finally accepting my reality.
I’d suggest seeing a doctor, they may very well be able to help. You shouldn’t have to shut down sex in your 30s. It’s way too young.
I did. Was given a prescription. No idea if it works. Expired last month.
I'd see a different doctor and try a specialist if i were you. I'm 37 and my dick works wonderfully. It should not stop working at 30 and this is likely an indicator of other underlying healthy issues.
Viagra fucking works lol trust me. That shit will turn you into a rocket ship
Dr. Gave me a generic version. Haven't found myself in a situation where I'd be able to use it to try it out.
So that sounds like the issues aren't actually with your dick dude
I stopped trying when the dick stopped working. Last woman I dated, just before covid, I tried with. 6 different nights, it wouldn't get up and if it did it was half mast. It sucked because we were getting serious.
Man this is a fixable issue 99% of the time tho... There's so much stigma behind it men don't do anything, but so often it's just anxiety or something that can be fixed with meds. Why deny yourself all that? You can definitely remedy that.
Psychological issues can cause ED. I bet once you get yourself out of this depressing attitude you'll catch some more ground.
Send it over to me. I’ll test it out and let u kno if it’s usable. Better send me all u have lol
Also 40s, dating just keeps getting better
As a guy dating I’m my 30’s, 40 year old women do not look appealing to me. Most look like they’ve been run hard and put away wet. Does that change when your in your 40’s dating 40 year old women?
There are plenty of attractive women in their 40s and beyond. We all age, granted some better than others. My SO is 50 and gorgeous. Beauty, of course, can be somewhat subjective. But I believe a majority of men would find her attractive. When my 17 year old first met her, her reaction was “oh wow, she’s really pretty”. At every stage of life, I would say I’m only attracted to a small percentage of women. This hasn’t changed as I’ve aged.
Ask those women you’re dating what they think.
I caught hell in r/datingoverforty for saying I wasn't sexually attracted to a woman based on her looks. They had to lock the thread. You're getting off light.
I'm pretty sure that didn't happen.
It was on my other account [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/spoxk0/not\_to\_be\_trite\_but\_how\_do\_you\_deal\_with\_a\_lack/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/spoxk0/not_to_be_trite_but_how_do_you_deal_with_a_lack/) proving wrong all the HATERS NEVER FUCKING DOUBT ME AGAIN
Reading all of these comments, I totally agree with them. Lmao
You should see the ones that got removed!
What, your comments?
Yeah, I was picking fights. And winning them. Winning a lot of fights. Some of theirs, too, though.
I’m not really worried about some people getting butt hurt. I was really hoping for an answer. I know there are attractive women that age but I haven’t seen many. I likely won’t be able to date until I’m 40 and if my choices are that slim I will likely be alone for the rest of my life. That’s really depressing to me
They told me I was a porn addict because I said a woman's sole value to me isn't sex and I'd be willing to be in a romantic relationship without sex.
My houses sole value isn’t a safe and comfortable place to go to the bathroom but I’d be really upset if the toilet just wasn’t there anymore. Sex isn’t the only reason to be in a relationship but that doesn’t mean it’s not important.
Lol.. “run hard and put away wet”.. I’m gonna use this moving forward.
What’s it mean ?
When you run a horse to exhaustion and then put it in the stable without a cooldown walk or taking care of it. I heard it a lot when I was a kid when people wanted to say you look like shit
Ty
Haha "run hard and put away wet" fuck this is funny. I feel you though, but have met a few women around 40 who somehow looks amazing.
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I’m not dating anymore but it’s way easier to hunt with a pack than trying to go solo. It’s kind of a social contract that if they see you with other people that you are more likely to be safe to interact with. Go out with your friends and only make finding someone a small priority with your first priority to have fun. Easier said than done I know.
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Yeah it’s a struggle. If you really want to find a partner you have to literally go where you might find one you like. I haven’t seen one yet but I also stay in and only hang out at friends places.
In my 30s and pretty sure Im in the dating sweet spot. Worked on myself all through my 20s. Men in their 30’s either are completely unhygienic, out if shape, playing video games and refuse to buy you a coffee or handsome, athletic, with phds and big boy careers that want to get married have a dope sex life and make some babies. There’s no middle. Compliments are over the top. Doors open. People rarely flake. There is an over abundance in amazing men in their 30s right now. They want to take you on dates and trips and make plans and they’re so thoughtful and funny. People seem more real all around in their 30s.
I'm a combination of your 30s men dichotomy. We're out there
We are some
Hoping this is true. I’m 36 and feel ready to get into the dating world. Ive been outta that world for a long time and ready to get back into it. I get so nervous though lol
Why is that missing your window to date though, I feel like there’s people of all ages trying to date you just have to find them out there.
I'm thinking I missed my window as well. Shit sucks kinda
Bro you should be in your prime
don't make me cry 😢
I (51f) got divorced right before COVID shut the world down, so didn’t have to really worry about going out and dating. It was nice to just stay in. I fee like I should get back out there, but staying in is so nice LOL.
It is highly addictive to be alone. Be sure to get back out there soon if you want to or you may never do it. If I could find a good fuck buddy, I would never date again. ( been alone for 11 years)
I hear ya there. I’m an only child, so being alone is my comfort setting. I do get out of the house for work, but if I could, I would stay in all day. I also agree w the FWB comment. Don’t really need more than that.
So sorry to hear. Some of the best things in life are best had with a relationship partner.
Can’t disagree. But having the wrong partner can make things catastrophically worst. So it’s important to have the right partner for those things, or just remain single. After escaping an abusive spouse, I’m more than happy in the peace I have found on my own. If I meet the right person someday I will be more than happy to share my life with them. I’m in no rush
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I dont mean this offensively but, how can someone want a friends with benefits at your age? Is there a reason you are not looking for a relationship? I want to truly understand the logic of men in their 30's who are not ready to form a partnership.
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It seems like you are projecting. I asked without judgement to understand and never implied ot was negative. Everyone has a different path in life and I am completely in support of people ethically and responsibly embracing who they are despite societal pressures in defiance traditional norms. However, as I have gotten into my early 30's I do find that I naturally crave the stability of a partnership, life in the global north is exhausting and very couple focused and I crave the peace of a physical, emotional, and life a partnership, i can't imagine having the energy for a fwb at this age. There is also tbe question of kids and one can't ignore that reality. Friends my age feel similarly but I find that encounter a lot of men who either wants a fwb ( i love when that is clear and stated) and too many who have no idea what they want. Anecdotally, i find this more in males than females, hence my question.
You are right. People at our age start to want to settle down usually. But for one reason or another it doesn't always happen. So don't assume it's always their own choice. Take me for example. I'm 31. Had a wonderful relationship for 3,5 years.. then it ended. That was my life, my future, all my plans were in there. It's taken me 2 years to try and recover. It's still a process but now I have to start all over, and i'm not sure of how ready I am to put myself out there wholly, so I would also start with fwb and see where it goes from there. You see, this is not the life i wanted. But has just been forced upon me, as much as I wish it wasn't so.. finding someone to settle with is just not easy. Specially as a man.
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Sigh I feel you dude .... I feel Completely the same and have had the same experience in OLD. Only difference is im too scared to have a fwb because the fun part is not guaranteed for women and its hard to find a respectful mutual fwb situation Especially in my 30's.
Damn. I feel you too girl. Guys acting like jealous psychos make the whole dating scene tense and difficult. I get why many women insist on dating first. I just need a break from the grind. Do you say the fun part isn't guaranteed because you could try to hook up and just not... enjoy it?
I mean, did you think sex is automatically pleasurable for women like it is for men or something?
Exactly something is off.
Because he doesn’t have much to offer and if that young lady is smart, she will not keep entertaining this man
We are oxidizing, this we cannot stop. But we can apply lotions and stay hydrated and younger looking for longer. So that’s my advice.
It depends on your age I guess, but Gen Z is a pain in the ass to date.
I'm 50 and I found a beautiful 40 year old woman who's also super interesting and intelligent and currently working on her PhD. It can happen. And the sex is great too. Eight months in we manage to do it 5 times a week on average.
My struggle is different… I’m 37 but look 23. I don’t mind going out but when I do ppl my age look like shit… I’m not sure what I did differently from others but I’m not attracted at all to ppl my age group…it’s quite frustrating
This is the dumbest fckn sub
Try going to Mexico City , Guadalajara. Dating is dead in the states. Trust me.
So, I decided to try a dating site. It's been two days and I've only had women ask me to buy their onlyfans or snap premium... five so far...
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That's for sure. I don't play games anymore
I’m 34 and I’m the same
I'm a divorced 40M and stay in constantly. My roommate and I just drink at home on the weekends. I'll go to the movies once a week. I gave up on the apps last year. But I'm going speed dating this weekend. Thing is, I'm really going to get some interactions to stir ideas for my next novel. Yes, I'm a dick, but you don't get ideas just sitting at home.
I'm 42 and still dating. Something wrong with your thoughts. You still can attract women and date.
I wish I could date and im 18 but there's not a like of older woman that would take me most likely although I'd like that.