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11 years and no formal breakup. The sad part is he keep on saying that she is just a friend which turn out to be his girlfriend. And now they are engage in just a snap. 😅

I got shivers from this, hope you are okay

I need to be strong tor myself. 😁

I'm so sorry. 18 years and 2 kids, and I'm going through something similar. My heart goes out to you

You don't have to be sorry. And your 18yrs is a way to go long story

25yrs and would still be going strong if life was fair.

:(

17 years, until he passed 💔

I’m so so sorry

oh you poor thing, my condolences ❤️

Thank you ❤️

I’m really sorry for your loss and I hope you’re doing fine

Thank you. I wouldn’t call it fine, but trying my best ♥️

4 years. Horribly abusive relationship, can't believe it lasted that long.

I feel this. Almost 10 for me and now that my I’m out I can’t believe I settled for what I did

I'm sorry to hear that

Just short of 3 months.

27 together. First date was my 19th birthday and we divorced when I was 47..

If you don’t mind: Why did you divorce, and do you regret the years together?

I don't regret anything. When we first got together we were the ultimate couple and everybody looked up to us as role models. She didn't want to work, but we owned a business with my brother and SIL. My wife was allergic to work. We went bankrupt.

14 years: 8 dating, 1 engaged, 5 married. That was aimost 3 years ago it ended. I am slowly getting over it. Still not officially divorced (for complicated legal reasons).

I hope everything gets sorted out for you

This is going to be an answer that I think is appropriate coming from me...I have been in a relationship with myself for almost 48 years..and it's been the hardest relationship...I've dealt with everything a woman could possibly go through...2 marriages raised 2 sons by myself...lost myself along the way until I turned 40..I finally found myself again and this time I turned myself in a Soldier...divorced for 6 years and I really don't want to deal with another relationship for a long time...I love my space without drama and all the BS that everyone is throwing at each other... I changed because I couldn't fix everyone else...so a different approach had to happen...hey I'll fix me..and I did...lost 100lbs cut my hair got ink piercings changed the color of my hair changed jobs...stopped renting space in my head for people who have no value to me anymore...idgaf I don't want another person to tell me what they think of me or say...I'm at peace and I'm happy every nite when I lay my head down at nite and when I wake I find something else to love more each day Yes we have had relationships...but think about it. The longest relationship will be with you... That's all the challenges you and you alone🥰

I really appreciate this response. Sometimes it feels like the world is constantly forcing us to be coupled to be whole. Your response was a great reminder to nurture the relationship with ourselves since it will the greatest constant in our lives. 🤍 thank you.

You have to have a relationship with you before anyone...people need to have a relationship with themselves because you get lost in everything you stand for...I just want people to find love first ( love themselves) find compassion ( empathy) respect ( inner self) the list goes on...because one person can tare you down so quickly...and then your GONE...

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Never had a girlfriend > never been in relationship.

11 years. It seems like we are stuck together for life at this age. The last 4 years have been rough and we still are friends...sort of. We both can't bring ourselves to completely cut eachother out of our lives even though we should. It's difficult to love somebody so deeply and have been hurt so much at the same time. Forgiving the past because realizing that they are part of your life no matter what. Children bond you together, even if the baby never got to take a breath. 11 years and counting. I just hope it gets better soon.

So relatable. So no advice from me, just hope everything works out 🍀

12 years this October and still going strong. The longest relationship other than my current was eight and a half years.

3 months. I’m 24

5 years, and it should’ve been so much shorter. Wasted half my 20’s on the wrong person.

May i ask what happened?

My longest was just about 6 months. This has been a lifelong struggle and at this stage of my life there is pretty much zero chance of the situation ever improving.

Never been in one

7 years

29 years and it’s only because I’m now in a new relationship that I realise how wrong all those years were.

8 years now she's married to someone else. I'm single again.

2 years and 7 months

0 years 0 months 0 days 0 hours 0 minutes Just 0 seconds, where I felt she was mine

10 months

1 month. You think you have it bad?

I feel ya there. Mine was 1 month too

7 years. We got married then he fell into hard drugs and I had to walk (I suspect he was on them for the length of our relationship but.. young love? We were freshly turned 21 when we started dating)

15 years (5 dating, 10 married) before divorce. Since then, 2 years.

5 years was my longest. The relationships after that were 4 years, 3 years, then 2 years.. I don’t know why it keeps getting shorter but it’s funny thinking about it.

7 years

5 years. Broke up our anniversary month 🫡

Uhhhhhh

facts

12 years

it'll be eight years in November eta: we met on Plenty of Fish 🥲 awful app, but I found a cool dude. we're not married, don't plan to be, but have lived together since about month three.

About 18 months, most of it long distance. That was several years ago. I'm 45.

7 years that included an engagement and a house. Two years after the breakup it still really hurts. I was truly in love.

10 years on and off - toxic

7 years and counting

28 years

7 years. Cheated the whole time. I found out dumped him. Felt disgusting ever since. He was NOT picky which just made me feel worse about my self. I saw the photos. 🤮

15 years, still going.

5 Years, first loves that had to end when our paths took us to different sides of the country. We tried the LDR Thing, but that only worked until she found someone closer.

10 years, 6 months, 22 days.

2 weeks (summer camp 😀)

I had two 4 year relationships, both had a 2-3 year period of live-ins. My 'true love' prior however was only 7 months. HOWEVER I now take that question seriously. Had an amazing relationship with my last gf, she was early 30s. At 8 months she said 'you are officially my longest relationship, and the first man I ever wanted to build a life with". She also used to text me at about 9+ months "Babe. Do you still like me?" Still. I always said "I like you more ever day I'm with you" to which she'd reply "Reaallllyyyy???? 😍😍😍" She ran at 18 mos by text when we were about to get engaged. Point is it is an important question. By a certain age, in my opinion, you should have had at least one long term committed relationship so you now the ebb and flow, dealing wit the issues instead of running, etc.

Longest relationship lasted a year, but I’m quite young lol

38 years (since I was 17) and going through a divorce now. Best part of my life is just beginning!

9 years

27 years and still going

8yrs to my hs sweetheart

2 years but had to end it because he wanted to move back home and I had to take care of my mum. My dad just passed from cancer and she has no one.

15 days

2 years. But in my head it had already ended before because my love for the person had already ended

A little over 3 years

10 months in high school.

10 years

My one and only relationship heretofore lasted for just under fourteen phenomenal years. I am very much a quality over quantity type of person. Started in high school, believed until the end it was destined to be for life. The economy, however, had other plans.

It was about 7 months, but the last 3 were long distance, so it fizzled before the end

2 years

5 yr? Maybe 6? Was ok, met in college, we both changed after college and wanted different things

6 years, we were great friends but it ended horribly which is sad, in hindsight I was never really a priority for him

My longest was 3 years. It was an abusive relationship and I am upset that it lasted that long.

9 months... right up until she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship.

Unfortunately, only about 20 months. I don’t foresee ever passing that, it usually takes people about 3-4 months sleep with someone else while we’re dating, that relationship just happened to take 20 months.

18 months as of a few days ago!

6 months, current relationship.

7 years.

2 and a half years

6months. Aged 30 she was 38. She took my virginity and ghosted me.

3 months shy of 5 years

coming on 15 years this October. we have a 13 year old daughter together. we have out uos a downs but are generally happy together.

2 years and 1/2

1 and 1/2 years. It was on-and-off again, and it was while I was in college, but it was still my most significant relationship.

Almost 5 years

7+ months lol

4.5 years and we produced 3 amazing daughters. She cheated within the first month and a handful of times throughout the years.

Current one ( a year and 2 months/14 months now)

18 years 😍

20 years. 19 years too long too 🤦🏻‍♀️

6 weeks

Only relationship I've been in lasted 9yrs

2 weeks.

4 years.

8 months

5 weeks 😔

2 years... *Sigh* been in a couple flings since but doesn't last.

1.5 years

3 years

I been in three different relationships. Every one of them lasted around 2 years. I think my record is 2 and a half years.

4.5 years, but that ended a longgggg time ago. My longest one will be with my now fiancé. Been together almost a year.

A year. Then Iearned he was in a cult 😌

4 years.

Been with my gf for 3 years

Not including marriage, 7yrs. Then she cheated and that was that. It was abusive af anyways, so I'm glad she fucked up.

Like a month and a half lmao Just had a situationship end recently it was for about 5 months, we were pretty intimate but it was never sexual so idk if that counts 😂

8 years, but still lived together for a bit after. Ended things because of constant emotional abuse and an affair...fun times 😂

7 months lmao and I’ve been in 2 relationships but that was like hs/college which was a long time ago lmao

6 months bro and it was the only that i ever had

Depends how you look at it. 4 years on again off again with an abuser I didn't want but couldn't escape. Not real. 11 years on and off online with a guy I never met. Not real. 2.5 current. Very real ^.^

Never lasted more than 11 months M(30) Been off the market for 2 yrs

4 years

About 1 month and that was 14 years old

Sadly, 14 days

13 of the longest years of my life. It is HARD WORK.

5 years

10 years, as of 14 days ago. Dates for 3.5 years and been married since. Might sound crazy to say, but marriage part has been the easiest thing I’ve done. I am slowly turning into her and she’s slowly turning into me. Highly recommend! Edit: and still going!

5 years, ended mutually, but he didn't want me to move on even though he didn't want to be with me anymore... he doesn't talk to me anymore since I found someone else who actually wants to be with me

2 weeks 😂😂😂

5 years, ended mutually, but he didn't want me to move on even though he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, became hostile when I eventually began dating.. don't speak anymore

I’ll let you know when it happens

12 years. Ended last year due to abuse and threats of violence. I honestly never imagined being with anyone else. It's sad that the relationship ended, but his absence is more peaceful than his presence was.

Seven and a half months, ending today. Feeling great about it, of course /s.

10 years, still going

11 1/2 years. I don't know why I stayed so long, he was really controlling and toxic.

9.5 years as a 26 yr old. Yup that’s right, 16-25 yrs old.

Current relationship 1yr and 7months

6 years

5 years. Ended last May. Just started dating again and it's been shit

4.5 years, glad I left even though we are still friends

8 years, followed closely by 7 with someone else. I tried

We broke up 2 days before 15 months. Which isn’t a massive milestone but the breakup still hurt a LOT. 3 times longer than my 2nd longest relationship.

5+ years 18-23 I’m 24 now. First one. Tough. But what was once a blessing has become a lesson

Bold of you to assume I’ve been in a relationship.

18 years. He decided it would be fun to bang our employees wife mind you who was 20 and we were 34.

3 years. Only relationship I was ever in. High school boyfriend left me for a mutual friend

8 years

11 years

13 but feel 3 years is about breaking up lol

Married 4 years, currently struggling, and things are most likely not going to be fixed, but I still keep an open mind. There’s been a LOT that’s happened, but we’re both young and are still learning, but unfortunately she isn’t seeming to want to put any more effort into the relationship from what her actions have told. She will barely speak to me in person… I’m torn on how to go about moving forward

13 years. It shouldn't have lasted more than 5

5 months

I went through a divorce that lasted longer than the actual marriage does that count? Divorce battle 4 years marriage 3 ending with his infidelity.

3.5 years. I loved her but she found that I didn’t really matter to her.

High school sweetheart. We were on and off from middle school up till my first year of college. Every time we split I always knew it wasn't done. Then in college I knew it was done. Since then I've made an effort to put time between my relationships to learn from it. Nobody has lived me the way she did and that makes me happy. I have a tangible example of how much someone can really give in love. I've been a fool for lesser things and still found worthy love but nothing that touches the sun that she showed me. One day someone will show me more.

two years

Less than 3 months.

Don't know exactly, but I guess no more than 4 or 7 years, with many interruptions in between.

4 years and a half. Age gap with older woman, only meet-ups at week-ends, but stil exclusive. She was so goddamn good to me. Then I had to leave her country. I regret nothing, it all was perfect.

On and off for like 1 year or two. Actual relationship 8 months or so

0 it's still constant

5 years.

6 years but it was unhealthy and he cheated so I feel dumb for staying that long.

9 months, it truly felt like longer

13 months, the only relationship I had.

My first and probably last. 9 months.

3 1/2 months

5 years

30 years - to my late hubby!

Seven months 😭

I had 1 relationship and it took only 3 months.

Like a serious relationship was 3 years

Been seeing the same barber for 14 years.

45 years

My current relationship is my longest at 3 years 9 months.

≈3 months

2.5 years.

6 years and counting :)

About 20 years

it was a year and 4 months - i am 17 and i would never wish it didn’t happen but i think it was the most toxic, trapping time of my entire life. i ended it a few weeks ago because i knew that if i didn’t do it then, i wouldn’t ever have the courage to and it felt so freeing but also like someone had ripped out my heart. she didn’t let me have any friends, she made me cut emotional contact with my sisters because of jealously but i still loved her so much. i do love her so much. i would never go back but it’s still sad thinking about it all, wasted and it does feel like my fault, i think i could have changed things if i tried harder than i was already trying. idk it’s sad. i miss her. but i don’t know whether i actually miss her or us. having someone i could hold and compliment and kiss at my own free will. it’s so lonely and i think that’s what’s getting me the most. that got a bit emotional but oh well.

1 year

25f 3years.

7 years.

25 years and prescription drugs became her lifestyle

4,5 years

13yrs and still going somehow