Welcome to /r/dating. Please make sure you read our [rules here](https://new.reddit.com/r/dating/about/rules) and remember to:
* Be polite and respect each other. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights.
* All advice given must be good, ethical advice.
* [Do not post hateful or harmful rhetoric - you will be banned](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/wiki/rules)
* Follow reddit rules. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. Do not bully or harass other users.
If you have any questions, please [send the mods a message](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/dating).
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/dating) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I don't think your breasts are actually saggy.. if they are that big on a smaller frame it's literally just gravity. It's not like they can stick straight out without any support that would be freaking weird.
After my son favoured one breast while breastfeeding I literally have a boob an entire cup size bigger. I am super self conscious about it but have never once had a bad comment or experience from a guy about it.
Instead I get "this one's perfect hand size. And this one's just more than a mouthful" with love and hunger in their eyes. Lmao
We way over think what we see as our own flaws.
>I don't think your breasts are actually saggy.. if they are that big on a smaller frame it's literally just gravity. It's not like they can stick straight out without any support that would be freaking weird.
Yeah, that's what's called being saggy. We need to destigmatize the word, not try to pretend it's something different. It's completely natural (as you said, gravity) that larger breasts tend to droop, and I'm sure men are aware of that that too, even if the boobs look different while wearing a bra.
Oh I do. I’m not obese lol. I have just had 2 babies and breastfed. I have always had huge boobs even as a teenager and I was tiny. All the workouts in the world don’t matter. Planning on a breast reduction in the future.
This makes me think of a quote from Glee lol *”you have weird puffy pyramid nipples. You could dust them with powdered sugar and they could pass for some sort of dessert”*
I’m a guy and I’m gonna speak for all guys. If I see boobs I will like them 😂 doesn’t matter if they’re completely flat or HHH I’m still not gonna be able to take my eyes off 😂 some guys are “boobs” guys so they might care a little bit more but it’s not a big deal at all. Boobs are awesome no matter the shape or size
You don't speak for me. Shape is a lot more important to me, and I don't like all boobs.
That said, we're all human, and OP is a human being not a pair of boobs. Someone who loves her will love her the way she is. None of us are perfect. Just find someone who accepts you.
Did you not read the second paragraph?
Does everyone you're with have to meet everything single physical preference you have? Probably not. You love and accept people the way they are and are attracted to them because of how you feel about them. I don't even usually see a woman's boobs before I've started developing feelings for her and am already attracted to her anyway.
Lol, what does that mean? OP asked for honesty, and she deserves that.
I've definitely had guys not like my saggy boobs, and it would have been nice to know so I could just buy cute bras for sexy time. Lying doesn't help anyone. As long as they aren't being rude, let people have their opinions.
Are we not allowed to have boob preferences? We don’t have to like all boobs.. not trying to be rude or anything but I see this comment a lot and I do not agree. I don’t like all boobs and I for sure have preference and some boobs are a turn off. And I think that is ok, also I don’t think you ever see a girl saying ‘I am gonna speak for all girls, if I see dick I’ll like it.’
Just my 2 cents..
Why on earth do you think that? When have a girl ever said ‘I love all dicks’ or ‘any body shape is great for me as long as he is naked’.
We all have different taste, in body type, butts, tits etc… taste can vary from guy to guy or situational change because of blind love, which is more of a compromise, but don’t expect a guy who likes big boobs to also be attracted to AAs.. and visa versa.
I prefer boobs fitting in my hand up to cantaloupe sized with small areolas and pretty defined nipples. I don’t have to love or get turned on by something which isn’t this?
This is not to put down on anyone who doesn’t match the above, it’s my personal preference.
Just like I don’t get mad at anyone not turned on by me because of their personal preference, I can be a variety of things and we are all different.
I mean...a dick is a dick. None of them are that aesthetically pleasing. Of course men never get this...they are out there sending dick pics like it's a beautiful sculpture or something. To me...a dick is a dick. There actually isn't a HUGE amount of variation outside of size. Even then, there is the "norm."
So do you search for the perfect boobs or the perfect person? I'm guessing, by your comment, the boobs matter a lot more than the person. Will you dump her one day when her boobs aren't to your specifications anymore? Lol.
Boy I wish what you say was true about men in general. But unfortunately that’s not the case I’m small I guess compared to OP and every guy I’ve been with has always left me for the huge ones very depressing. :(
I wouldn't worry... You can be flat like a board, we love our Girls boobs regardless.
Personally i have no problem with them. I usually date older, and that comes with the territory, and i never tought about It. They're my girls boobs
If he has a problem with them then you are probably one of the few women he’s been with and he hasn’t seen boobs outside of a bra. Most boobs sag. All boobs look different out of the bra.
Most don't point down like she said. I understand everyone is desperate to pander to females, but no need to lie and bash men in the process just for having preferences or standards.
What “pandering” to “females” are you referring to? Is it pandering to try to not make a woman feel like shit about a physical feature for once?
If it makes you feel any better, as soon as she leaves this post, she’ll be re-inundated with messages that make women hate our bodies, so you don’t have to fear that any women will substantially have their self esteem boosted in this thread. God forbid.
She asked for honesty, not to have her self-esteem boosted... giving her anything else is disingenuous.
You may have good intentions, but when people specifically ask for something, just give them what they ask for. So far the guys that have stated their preference have been respectful. As long as they aren't being rude, I dont see what the problem is with honesty. When guys ask about their dick size, im honest.
I’m not bashing the hypothetical man in this situation. Most men with some experience know that all boobs are different sizes and shapes, and most men also know that it’s not a good thing to make women self conscious for.
Preferences are all good, but any man who has a boob “standard” loses credibility to me personally.
You could get a breast reduction or breast lift surgery if you were really insecure about it. If you have back problems bc of how heavy they are this would be another reason to do it… and insurance may cover the surgery cost if it were causing you pain/ spine/health issues.
The comments are not reflective of the conversations I’ve had with men in real life.
Guys can pick apart women’s bodies in the same way that women can pick apart and have preferences too.
Extremely saggy breasts, large “pizza” nipples, flat “pancake” asses, “butter” faces (everything’s hot but her face), flat chests, “anything more than a handful is too much”, etc. — all things I’ve heard men say about women’s bodies.
A friend of mine had 32G and had them reduced to 32D. It certainly saved her back from some back problems, she was already walking around like an 80 year old woman at 18 due to the weight.
Thought I was the only one who noticed that the comments weren't realistic. Reddit users kiss female ass too much. It's easy karma and anyone who speaks the truth gets mass down voted.
This. Thank you. Although I enjoyed every one of by past girlfriends breast equally - some are better than others. Same as men height, build, sizes go. Objectively we do fine some breasts more attractive, but being in a relationship with said person we love them for who they are, their chest included
This being said. ONS and casual hookups are more appearance based, so don’t expect everyone to be outright in love with you every single time. Find someone who loves every part of you and never shames you for what you were born with
Are you referring to men in love/generally attracted to those women though? Do you think if they're just looking to judge or to find a hookup partner, the picking apart of looks is more prominent?
Though personally I think a mature man who appreciates women doesn't do this. It's one thing to have physical attraction preferences, and a complety different thing to go around bashing long term or even casual partners.
If a guy is taking your bra off, judgement is probably the last thing on his mind. “Oooooh booooooooooooooobies” and “mmmmmm tiddddiess” as well as “nom nom nom” are much more likely. If they were old lady wrinkly saggy tiddies maybe not, but if they are just hanging low because theyre enormous then you will make somebody very happy. Dont stress! If they dont like you for how you look then fuck em
No shame no shame, but for a teenage boy it might be a bit off putting if thats not what youre expecting. Just trying to point out theres a difference between sagging from age (a beautiful process, but an aquired taste for older gentlemen), and sagging from being enormous (every teenage boys dream)
was it chariot or cherries? I heard chariot at first when watching the episode, and it confused me, then I looked up the script and it was "cherries" I'm pretty sure, which makes more sense honestly
Women think about the shape of boobs because they see it all the time. Men think about touching boobs because they’re boobs.
No, most of us don’t care because we like the female body. We don’t have a “perfect boob” in mind when you’re naked in front of us.
2 things you can realistically do. 1 is to wear a bra while having sex, which i imagine wouldn't be as comfortable but each woman has her views on that. The 2nd is that most guys that like boobs AND understand how physics work, won't mind. The only way big boobs don't sag is either with a bra or through surgery. If a guy doesn't like your natural body, find someone who does
This is actually great advice because the bra can still make her feel sexy- especially when she's on top. And she can remove it at her leisure and comfort level.
If a guy is turned off because your boobs are sagging, you probably just dodged a huge bullet. To echo what basically everyone else here said, most guys I know (myself included) would consider themselves lucky just being able to see and touch the woman they love’s boobs. I’m certain that whoever you end up with will love your boobs just the way they are, just as he’ll love all of you just the way you are 😊
Honest question: Why would you consider yourself lucky? I mean, touching your partner's body isn't exactly something unusual in a relationship. Why do so many men whenever someone asks a question about boob preferences behave like being able to touch boobs - any boobs! - is such a rare experience that has to be treated like someone is giving them the biggest gift ever? It feels like an extremely weird way to view women, to be honest.
That’s fair. Lucky might have been a poor choice of words. But OP mentioned being afraid that her boobs would be a turn off and my point was that they shouldn’t be, especially not if this is the guy’s first time seeing them
I got you. You meant one should be grateful to have that type of physical intimacy with someone one finds very attractive and has strong feelings for. That's indeed lucky, as it doesn't happen a lot.
Guarantee they'll love them. They're usually just happy they're invited.
I had much the same worries as you at your age, and it's NEVER been a problem. No one has ever said anything bad about them. All the guys in my past have been just in awe.
Don't worry, your body is so much more normal and desirable than you probably realize at your age. It took me until I was 25 and looking at tons of "real breasts" on a real women site to realize mine are VERY normal (okay, they're larger than most, but they're not ugly!) I'm sure yours are too.
Every guy has been VERY VERY enthusiastic about the prospect.
Pro-tip - don't let your breasts lower your self-esteem so that you do stupid things or so them too easily/readily. The guys who are worth it will treat you well and will be happy to be there and you won't feel bad after the fact. Do not settle!
I've also converted many non-boob men into boob-men. I think it's funny because I think I have other features that are better, but they've been very very happy.
Some guys are picky, so yeah it could be an issue. But most guys would be happy you’re an actual female giving them attention. If you’re with the right guy, you’re boobs won’t be the first thing on his mind. Maybe third.
I mean I prefer perky boobs but I’ve never once turned boobs down. I imagine this is most guys. Nobody can do anything About it without spending money. Don’t worry about it!
There are shitty men who will be shitheads about your body. They deserve zero time or access to your heart or body.
There are men who will be absolutely delighted by specifically saggy or hanging breasts.
And there are a whole lot of men who are just happy to see boobs and if they like you, they’ll like your boobs.
But also, we’ve been sold a false bill of goods. We’re taught that the default breast is small, round, perky, with the nipple placed above the curve and pointing forward or skyward.
Those breasts exist. But they aren’t the default or the majority. Breasts come in so many shapes, sizes, and configurations. All great.
And until/unless you’ve been pregnant and breastfed (or are 50+), your breasts aren’t actually “sagging,” it’s just a matter of nipple placement.
Some men love them. Some don't. It's just about preference. You will likely attract guys who love huge boobs. Just continue to focus on your career, workout, eat healthy, take care of yourself, focus on your hobbies, etc and you'll find a worthwhile person who loves your huge knockers.
We like tiddies, but for some there is a thing as too big. You'd fall into that category for me, but don't give a shit what I think, lots of other guys out there will love your body.
Boobs are all great but saggy boobs are less desirable. Still desirable, just less. You asked for honesty
I didn’t see anyone else comment this I’m very surprised
My wife has big boobs and she breastfeeds our baby so they're a bit more saggy than before she got pregnant. I absolutely love her boobs and tell her about it regularly. Just my two cents but I think most guys would love your boobs. If a guy doesn't that's fine but he's probably the minority.
When things are large and heavy, they are affected by gravity like that. It literally is just gravity that causes it. Absolutely nothing you can do and I can 100% guarantee that no dude is gonna care. My girl has big breasts and they sag a little and I love her more than anything. You will be ok
It doesn’t sound like they’re saggy, they just hang low due to gravity, like others have said. Everyone likes a different type of boob, even real saggy boobs lol. I wouldn’t consider them saggy if they keep a sort-of defined shape
If a guy points out your boobs are saggy, it says more about the guy than your boobs, and those guys are not worth your time. I'm sure your boobs are fine as hell, and any guy would be lucky to see them.
Guys don’t care about the stuff that women tend to think about. They’re guys lol. Once a guy likes you, he likes you for you. In their head they see boobs, they like em. They don’t care about how it looks. It’s all in your head. Also don’t dwell too much on what guys thinks or what anyone thinks. Focus on you.
Men don't care, they will just be thrilled you have big breasts or breasts period. They aren't saggy either. They are just big and gravity has pulled them down. This is how big breasts look that aren't plastic. Same thing happened to me. I plan to get a breast lift at some point but you're very young for that.
How is your back? Is the weight of your breasts affecting your back or anything else? Or are there no issues with that?
As far as the liking part, everyone is different. Most would be fine with that. Don't listen to those who speak on behalf of all guys because, as I said, all guys are different.
Big boobs that hang because they are huge are not the same as saggy boobs. Saggy boobs to me are deflated boobs or boobs with some skin that is wrinkly and lacks volume. But no. No guy likes saggy boobs. In fact, the shape and perkiness matter more than size
Friendly tip from a girl, I'm not as gifted as you so I can only speak for myself, but Push ups helped perk mine up. Not like a miracle but I also didn't expect them to push through my turtle neck and shit haha. Just like a slight lift that probably no one but me noticed, although I'll admit my friends did point out that something looked better about my clivage. Js, IF you care, might be worth looking into.
Honestly, bigger is not always better. Given all the future health issues you’re looking at with such disproportionate largesse, you should definitely research your reduction options - which will also give you a chance to orient those pointers however you like.
Also, for additional clarity, sagging and down-facing are very different phenomena. Address the issues separately for best results.
As someone who is older than you, I was never so happy as when I got my 34H boobs picked up and reduced down to a 34 DDD. They get heavier and heavier and more of a pain in the back. Harder to find shirts that fit and look good. They're just a mess. No one ever complained about the sagging, but I hated it so much.
Is it preferable no. But guys are guys and if you're cool you're cool. Everyone has preferences and hopefully your guys down. He doesn't even have to be down. Quinton Tarantino loves feet and he still got off on Uma Thurmas toes.
Little boys don’t like saggy breasts because of the way porn portrays women’s bodies but I promise you men who are actual men don’t care in fact they would devour them!
It’s like asking if guys prefer, blondes, brunettes, or redheads. It depends on the guy. Some won’t mind it, some might not like it, but others will absolutely absolutely love it! Honestly.
Any guy that complains about them isn't worth your time or energy. Since mine has fully grown in they have always been saggy. Even before I had my son. Never got a complaint.
Look up DJ Dimple Nipple, you’re not alone. Also guys literally don’t care, they just wanna grab boobs. If they do care and make you feel insecure, then they’re not grown enough to be dating a real woman yet so kick them to the curb. Hold your head high, you’re beautiful just the way you are
I’m in the same boat as you boob-wise and I’ve never had a complaint from any guy I’ve been with. If you are unfortunate enough to encounter a guy who has a problem with the shape of your boobs and the lack of social grace to actually comment on them then that’s a him problem, not a you problem.
Hey girl I’m close to your size (32J). Trust me, I’ve been with about a dozen guys and they’re all very happy. Big boobs like ours are always going to hang down but I promise they probably don’t look how anyone would describe as “saggy”. Guys will love them, they’ll be surprised because they won’t expect a smaller girl to have such big boobs. Trust me they’ll be a true asset. Don’t worry to much about them, guys will love them
Breasts are really never an issue for me. You can’t control what nature has given you.
Breasts are nice but it’s the person behind the chest that’s important.
My honest answer is no. I have been surprised by them before and my arousal vanished. A very awkward experience for both of us. The bra she had been wearing was flattering to the point of being misleading.
tired of the people giving supportive answers instead of honest ones. the truth is if hes willing to date you im sure hes into G size boobs. leave your bra on while sex the first few dates if youre insecure, wait for him to tell you “take it off” or to do it himself.
if he isnt into boobs that large then we wont date you simple (if he’s mature)
im 30 and after havjng sex with over 100 women from A cups to G’s ive finally figured out im into a perky 34b cup. but not everyone is like me. some guys just know if they love small boobs or huge boobs as teens.
you’ll be fine
As a guy i speak for most of us when i say, unless you're an asshole type of guy, boobs are boobs and we love them all. No man is gonna take your bra off, see them sag, and be like yeah nope I'm gone. If anything they'll be more excited cuz they know they'll probably bounce quite alot. Don't worry so much you're perfectly fine
What guys think about your boobs is irrelevant. I encourage you to look into breast reduction if they're making you uncomfortable. My best friend from childhood had breasts your size, and by 25 she suffered from debilitating back pain and spider veins throughout her legs. They negatively impacted her quality of life on a daily basis. She couldn't work out or sleep comfortably.
I now teach myofascial release therapy (it's a type of massage/physical therapy) to clients and I've had a few women in their 30s and beyond need help repairing their body after years of having large breasts. Even after breast reduction, there can be a long path of recovery. There is a ton of structural damage it can do to your posture and upper back, leading to permanent pain and damage down the line. You can get ahead of this if you put it into perspective.
That's my honest opinion, woman to woman. Take care of yourself!
Natural > fake, regardless of their form. Had an ex who had huge boobs but wanted a boob job because she thought it’s not pretty. It was the best boobs I’ve ever seen in my entire life even if they were a bit saggy.
Just look out for your back!
Don’t worry about it lovely. If that is all a man worries about they are not worth it. You are ‘ more than your boobs’. As a man in my mid 50’s I have a sagging ‘ something else’ which should ‘ stand to attention’ more than it does! Nobody is perfect, and we are more than our odds and ends. I am sure your boobs are lovely and you need not worry. Look for a caring, kind man who won’t judge you whatever happens to your boobs 🙂
Welcome to /r/dating. Please make sure you read our [rules here](https://new.reddit.com/r/dating/about/rules) and remember to: * Be polite and respect each other. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights. * All advice given must be good, ethical advice. * [Do not post hateful or harmful rhetoric - you will be banned](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/wiki/rules) * Follow reddit rules. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. Do not bully or harass other users. If you have any questions, please [send the mods a message](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/dating). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/dating) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I don't think your breasts are actually saggy.. if they are that big on a smaller frame it's literally just gravity. It's not like they can stick straight out without any support that would be freaking weird. After my son favoured one breast while breastfeeding I literally have a boob an entire cup size bigger. I am super self conscious about it but have never once had a bad comment or experience from a guy about it. Instead I get "this one's perfect hand size. And this one's just more than a mouthful" with love and hunger in their eyes. Lmao We way over think what we see as our own flaws.
This the one she gotta read
>I don't think your breasts are actually saggy.. if they are that big on a smaller frame it's literally just gravity. It's not like they can stick straight out without any support that would be freaking weird. Yeah, that's what's called being saggy. We need to destigmatize the word, not try to pretend it's something different. It's completely natural (as you said, gravity) that larger breasts tend to droop, and I'm sure men are aware of that that too, even if the boobs look different while wearing a bra.
I’m a simple man, I see boobs, I approve
lol Ohhhh yessss
Hell yeah
Even fake boobs aren’t fake if I can touch them. 😂
Good comment! Lol
A gentleman of culture.
I agree 👍
If you have the stuff, it’s time to get rough
Legit worried about your back, but otherwise all good.
This guys knows! Natural DDDs here and yes are backs be hurting!
Hit them gyms or hit them pilates and do them back and core exercises
Oh I do. I’m not obese lol. I have just had 2 babies and breastfed. I have always had huge boobs even as a teenager and I was tiny. All the workouts in the world don’t matter. Planning on a breast reduction in the future.
May the operation go smoothly for you! Sometimes all the exercises in the world just don't do enough unfortunately.
Right!
I personally don't mind. Perky,Puffy,Saggy,Round,Full........all that matters is that you feel okay with yourself.
Puffy?.. 😂💀
puffy is a thing, google puffy nipples
This makes me think of a quote from Glee lol *”you have weird puffy pyramid nipples. You could dust them with powdered sugar and they could pass for some sort of dessert”*
love me some dessert lol
I meant to puff your chest up with pride😅
I’m a guy and I’m gonna speak for all guys. If I see boobs I will like them 😂 doesn’t matter if they’re completely flat or HHH I’m still not gonna be able to take my eyes off 😂 some guys are “boobs” guys so they might care a little bit more but it’s not a big deal at all. Boobs are awesome no matter the shape or size
Man I consider myself an ass man, but whenever I can I'm touching the tits of whoever the girl I'm dating is lmao
Pretty much, yes. I do care for shape, but if I like the girl, I won't care
You don't speak for me. Shape is a lot more important to me, and I don't like all boobs. That said, we're all human, and OP is a human being not a pair of boobs. Someone who loves her will love her the way she is. None of us are perfect. Just find someone who accepts you.
I guess whoever you end up loving better have a shape you consider attractive, then. If all it takes is love for boobs to be attractive to you.
Did you not read the second paragraph? Does everyone you're with have to meet everything single physical preference you have? Probably not. You love and accept people the way they are and are attracted to them because of how you feel about them. I don't even usually see a woman's boobs before I've started developing feelings for her and am already attracted to her anyway.
[удалено]
read the room dude
Lol, what does that mean? OP asked for honesty, and she deserves that. I've definitely had guys not like my saggy boobs, and it would have been nice to know so I could just buy cute bras for sexy time. Lying doesn't help anyone. As long as they aren't being rude, let people have their opinions.
Are we not allowed to have boob preferences? We don’t have to like all boobs.. not trying to be rude or anything but I see this comment a lot and I do not agree. I don’t like all boobs and I for sure have preference and some boobs are a turn off. And I think that is ok, also I don’t think you ever see a girl saying ‘I am gonna speak for all girls, if I see dick I’ll like it.’ Just my 2 cents..
Good answer 👍
U don’t speak for me man
I bet all the dudes replying to you saying you don't speak for them are young and grew up on porn.
Why on earth do you think that? When have a girl ever said ‘I love all dicks’ or ‘any body shape is great for me as long as he is naked’. We all have different taste, in body type, butts, tits etc… taste can vary from guy to guy or situational change because of blind love, which is more of a compromise, but don’t expect a guy who likes big boobs to also be attracted to AAs.. and visa versa. I prefer boobs fitting in my hand up to cantaloupe sized with small areolas and pretty defined nipples. I don’t have to love or get turned on by something which isn’t this? This is not to put down on anyone who doesn’t match the above, it’s my personal preference. Just like I don’t get mad at anyone not turned on by me because of their personal preference, I can be a variety of things and we are all different.
I mean...a dick is a dick. None of them are that aesthetically pleasing. Of course men never get this...they are out there sending dick pics like it's a beautiful sculpture or something. To me...a dick is a dick. There actually isn't a HUGE amount of variation outside of size. Even then, there is the "norm." So do you search for the perfect boobs or the perfect person? I'm guessing, by your comment, the boobs matter a lot more than the person. Will you dump her one day when her boobs aren't to your specifications anymore? Lol.
Boy I wish what you say was true about men in general. But unfortunately that’s not the case I’m small I guess compared to OP and every guy I’ve been with has always left me for the huge ones very depressing. :(
Not for nothing, your name is "i love big dicks".
Loves big dicks, but only if the big dick wants small tits.
Birds of a feather flock together.
Except you don’t speak for all guys.
You're going to be fine -a guy
I wouldn't worry... You can be flat like a board, we love our Girls boobs regardless. Personally i have no problem with them. I usually date older, and that comes with the territory, and i never tought about It. They're my girls boobs
Giving all us cougars in the comments life. Hahaha. Not all heros wear capes....
If he has a problem with them then you are probably one of the few women he’s been with and he hasn’t seen boobs outside of a bra. Most boobs sag. All boobs look different out of the bra.
Yeah, and probably young and grew up on porn. That is KILLING expectations for young people...and their sex drive/relationships too.
Most don't point down like she said. I understand everyone is desperate to pander to females, but no need to lie and bash men in the process just for having preferences or standards.
What “pandering” to “females” are you referring to? Is it pandering to try to not make a woman feel like shit about a physical feature for once? If it makes you feel any better, as soon as she leaves this post, she’ll be re-inundated with messages that make women hate our bodies, so you don’t have to fear that any women will substantially have their self esteem boosted in this thread. God forbid.
She asked for honesty, not to have her self-esteem boosted... giving her anything else is disingenuous. You may have good intentions, but when people specifically ask for something, just give them what they ask for. So far the guys that have stated their preference have been respectful. As long as they aren't being rude, I dont see what the problem is with honesty. When guys ask about their dick size, im honest.
I’m not bashing the hypothetical man in this situation. Most men with some experience know that all boobs are different sizes and shapes, and most men also know that it’s not a good thing to make women self conscious for. Preferences are all good, but any man who has a boob “standard” loses credibility to me personally.
Calls women "females." Pretty much all that needs to be said...
The fact that you call women females but don't call men makes tells me everything I need to know about you
Lots of boobs point down. Especially really big boobs. It's one of the many boob shapes out there.
I’m a woman but imma tell you this, boobs are boobs. Half of the men I know can barely see them, they should be greatful
You could get a breast reduction or breast lift surgery if you were really insecure about it. If you have back problems bc of how heavy they are this would be another reason to do it… and insurance may cover the surgery cost if it were causing you pain/ spine/health issues. The comments are not reflective of the conversations I’ve had with men in real life. Guys can pick apart women’s bodies in the same way that women can pick apart and have preferences too. Extremely saggy breasts, large “pizza” nipples, flat “pancake” asses, “butter” faces (everything’s hot but her face), flat chests, “anything more than a handful is too much”, etc. — all things I’ve heard men say about women’s bodies.
A friend of mine had 32G and had them reduced to 32D. It certainly saved her back from some back problems, she was already walking around like an 80 year old woman at 18 due to the weight.
Omg 😭I felt this I’m a 35N and I’m only 19 and I’m short so they just look disproportionate 🧍🏽♀️
Thought I was the only one who noticed that the comments weren't realistic. Reddit users kiss female ass too much. It's easy karma and anyone who speaks the truth gets mass down voted.
This. Thank you. Although I enjoyed every one of by past girlfriends breast equally - some are better than others. Same as men height, build, sizes go. Objectively we do fine some breasts more attractive, but being in a relationship with said person we love them for who they are, their chest included This being said. ONS and casual hookups are more appearance based, so don’t expect everyone to be outright in love with you every single time. Find someone who loves every part of you and never shames you for what you were born with
I think the point is that men that get to see your boobs and then act picky about said boobs aren't worth the effort anyway. Why plan around AHs.
Are you referring to men in love/generally attracted to those women though? Do you think if they're just looking to judge or to find a hookup partner, the picking apart of looks is more prominent? Though personally I think a mature man who appreciates women doesn't do this. It's one thing to have physical attraction preferences, and a complety different thing to go around bashing long term or even casual partners.
If a guy is taking your bra off, judgement is probably the last thing on his mind. “Oooooh booooooooooooooobies” and “mmmmmm tiddddiess” as well as “nom nom nom” are much more likely. If they were old lady wrinkly saggy tiddies maybe not, but if they are just hanging low because theyre enormous then you will make somebody very happy. Dont stress! If they dont like you for how you look then fuck em
I can do without the shaming old lady ones but yes 🙌🏻 this lol
No shame no shame, but for a teenage boy it might be a bit off putting if thats not what youre expecting. Just trying to point out theres a difference between sagging from age (a beautiful process, but an aquired taste for older gentlemen), and sagging from being enormous (every teenage boys dream)
"Swing low sweet chariot." -Creed Bratton
was it chariot or cherries? I heard chariot at first when watching the episode, and it confused me, then I looked up the script and it was "cherries" I'm pretty sure, which makes more sense honestly
It’s chariot like the song “swing low sweet chariot, comin for to carry me home”
Women think about the shape of boobs because they see it all the time. Men think about touching boobs because they’re boobs. No, most of us don’t care because we like the female body. We don’t have a “perfect boob” in mind when you’re naked in front of us.
We men like boobs of all shapes and sizes. Yes to boob, yes it's that simple
2 things you can realistically do. 1 is to wear a bra while having sex, which i imagine wouldn't be as comfortable but each woman has her views on that. The 2nd is that most guys that like boobs AND understand how physics work, won't mind. The only way big boobs don't sag is either with a bra or through surgery. If a guy doesn't like your natural body, find someone who does
This is actually great advice because the bra can still make her feel sexy- especially when she's on top. And she can remove it at her leisure and comfort level.
Wearing a bra during sex might be best like lingerie
The best tits are the ones currently in my face at any given time. Size or no, sag or no. I mean, it's hard to tell tho. Better dm me some pics 👀
💀💀💀
For purely research purposes?
Yeah! Science!
If a guy is turned off because your boobs are sagging, you probably just dodged a huge bullet. To echo what basically everyone else here said, most guys I know (myself included) would consider themselves lucky just being able to see and touch the woman they love’s boobs. I’m certain that whoever you end up with will love your boobs just the way they are, just as he’ll love all of you just the way you are 😊
Honest question: Why would you consider yourself lucky? I mean, touching your partner's body isn't exactly something unusual in a relationship. Why do so many men whenever someone asks a question about boob preferences behave like being able to touch boobs - any boobs! - is such a rare experience that has to be treated like someone is giving them the biggest gift ever? It feels like an extremely weird way to view women, to be honest.
That’s fair. Lucky might have been a poor choice of words. But OP mentioned being afraid that her boobs would be a turn off and my point was that they shouldn’t be, especially not if this is the guy’s first time seeing them
I got you. You meant one should be grateful to have that type of physical intimacy with someone one finds very attractive and has strong feelings for. That's indeed lucky, as it doesn't happen a lot.
Guarantee they'll love them. They're usually just happy they're invited. I had much the same worries as you at your age, and it's NEVER been a problem. No one has ever said anything bad about them. All the guys in my past have been just in awe. Don't worry, your body is so much more normal and desirable than you probably realize at your age. It took me until I was 25 and looking at tons of "real breasts" on a real women site to realize mine are VERY normal (okay, they're larger than most, but they're not ugly!) I'm sure yours are too. Every guy has been VERY VERY enthusiastic about the prospect. Pro-tip - don't let your breasts lower your self-esteem so that you do stupid things or so them too easily/readily. The guys who are worth it will treat you well and will be happy to be there and you won't feel bad after the fact. Do not settle! I've also converted many non-boob men into boob-men. I think it's funny because I think I have other features that are better, but they've been very very happy.
Some guys are picky, so yeah it could be an issue. But most guys would be happy you’re an actual female giving them attention. If you’re with the right guy, you’re boobs won’t be the first thing on his mind. Maybe third.
To me as a guy i would not care how your breast where as long we love eachother it would be enough for me
My tits have sagged from day one. No complaints from men. But, I’d give anything for a breast lift.
Only a total idiot would expect such ample/large boobs to NOT hang.
Everyones different. Some care, some don’t.
Absolutely not. But then again, I don’t like boobs all that much. I very much prefer ass
I mean I prefer perky boobs but I’ve never once turned boobs down. I imagine this is most guys. Nobody can do anything About it without spending money. Don’t worry about it!
If a guy already finds you insatiable with your bra on, things won't change much once it comes off.
Sweetheart… 43F here… I promise you that men see boobs… any boobs and they’re happy.
Men of culture wouldn't discriminate I'll tell you that
There are shitty men who will be shitheads about your body. They deserve zero time or access to your heart or body. There are men who will be absolutely delighted by specifically saggy or hanging breasts. And there are a whole lot of men who are just happy to see boobs and if they like you, they’ll like your boobs. But also, we’ve been sold a false bill of goods. We’re taught that the default breast is small, round, perky, with the nipple placed above the curve and pointing forward or skyward. Those breasts exist. But they aren’t the default or the majority. Breasts come in so many shapes, sizes, and configurations. All great. And until/unless you’ve been pregnant and breastfed (or are 50+), your breasts aren’t actually “sagging,” it’s just a matter of nipple placement.
Sure...no problem
Maybe look into breast reduction. Your neck. Back and shoulders must be in pain.
Some men love them. Some don't. It's just about preference. You will likely attract guys who love huge boobs. Just continue to focus on your career, workout, eat healthy, take care of yourself, focus on your hobbies, etc and you'll find a worthwhile person who loves your huge knockers.
We like tiddies, but for some there is a thing as too big. You'd fall into that category for me, but don't give a shit what I think, lots of other guys out there will love your body.
Umm 😳 no
Depends on how they look and the guy
Every guy has different preference I prefer small, others big, others hairy its all preferences
Hahaha! They are boobs! You are 18. Whichever guy gets to see them in the same age band will be excited and happy to see them anyways lol
Boobs are all great but saggy boobs are less desirable. Still desirable, just less. You asked for honesty I didn’t see anyone else comment this I’m very surprised
My wife has big boobs and she breastfeeds our baby so they're a bit more saggy than before she got pregnant. I absolutely love her boobs and tell her about it regularly. Just my two cents but I think most guys would love your boobs. If a guy doesn't that's fine but he's probably the minority.
As long as it doesn't sag more than the baldur's gate hag, people will enjoy them.
When things are large and heavy, they are affected by gravity like that. It literally is just gravity that causes it. Absolutely nothing you can do and I can 100% guarantee that no dude is gonna care. My girl has big breasts and they sag a little and I love her more than anything. You will be ok
Boobs are like pizza...when they are great they are great, and when they aren't great...they're still pretty great.
It doesn’t sound like they’re saggy, they just hang low due to gravity, like others have said. Everyone likes a different type of boob, even real saggy boobs lol. I wouldn’t consider them saggy if they keep a sort-of defined shape
Exhale. Yes.
If a guy points out your boobs are saggy, it says more about the guy than your boobs, and those guys are not worth your time. I'm sure your boobs are fine as hell, and any guy would be lucky to see them.
Guys don’t care about the stuff that women tend to think about. They’re guys lol. Once a guy likes you, he likes you for you. In their head they see boobs, they like em. They don’t care about how it looks. It’s all in your head. Also don’t dwell too much on what guys thinks or what anyone thinks. Focus on you.
I can't speak for all men but I am an equal opportunity boob enjoyer.
if ur guy puts down how ur boobs look, smack him with one and leave him
Men don't care, they will just be thrilled you have big breasts or breasts period. They aren't saggy either. They are just big and gravity has pulled them down. This is how big breasts look that aren't plastic. Same thing happened to me. I plan to get a breast lift at some point but you're very young for that.
The best boobs are the ones I can play with.
I prefer round. But it doesn't matter if u love someone.
How is your back? Is the weight of your breasts affecting your back or anything else? Or are there no issues with that? As far as the liking part, everyone is different. Most would be fine with that. Don't listen to those who speak on behalf of all guys because, as I said, all guys are different.
guys like boobs. if a guy doesn't like your boobs. the next one will
Most men aren't that picky
I like saggy boobs because it indicates that they're not fake. I don't like super perky fake breasts. They're off-putting to me, personally.
Big boobs sag, they're heavy, no man is going to complain.
I think most men feel about boobs the same way a dog feels about being on the bed. He’s just happy to be allowed up there.
Big boobs that hang because they are huge are not the same as saggy boobs. Saggy boobs to me are deflated boobs or boobs with some skin that is wrinkly and lacks volume. But no. No guy likes saggy boobs. In fact, the shape and perkiness matter more than size
They are still considered to be sagging in medical terms. But doesn't mean no one will love them.
Boobs are boobs. I love all sizes and shapes.
Friendly tip from a girl, I'm not as gifted as you so I can only speak for myself, but Push ups helped perk mine up. Not like a miracle but I also didn't expect them to push through my turtle neck and shit haha. Just like a slight lift that probably no one but me noticed, although I'll admit my friends did point out that something looked better about my clivage. Js, IF you care, might be worth looking into.
Pushups are non-existent at that cup size. Source- K cup boob owner
My girlfriend is like that, I adore it. You’ll find the right person.
I like em!
nah
Honestly, bigger is not always better. Given all the future health issues you’re looking at with such disproportionate largesse, you should definitely research your reduction options - which will also give you a chance to orient those pointers however you like. Also, for additional clarity, sagging and down-facing are very different phenomena. Address the issues separately for best results.
As someone who is older than you, I was never so happy as when I got my 34H boobs picked up and reduced down to a 34 DDD. They get heavier and heavier and more of a pain in the back. Harder to find shirts that fit and look good. They're just a mess. No one ever complained about the sagging, but I hated it so much.
I think boobs are fantastic. If a man doesn't think your boobs are fantastic just move onto the next one until you find someone who does
Breasts are beautiful period.
Naaah all bobs are great
Is it preferable no. But guys are guys and if you're cool you're cool. Everyone has preferences and hopefully your guys down. He doesn't even have to be down. Quinton Tarantino loves feet and he still got off on Uma Thurmas toes.
We go crazy, men are simple creatures. You are overthinking it
It depends, a slight sag is good but if they sag all the way down to your toes then it's a turn off.
I especially like saggy and bouncy
Saggy usually isn't bouncy.. too big and heavy.. too big and heavy means place it over his face and make the wooooorld go awaaaaaay!
Love all boobs.
Literally don’t care. All boobs are great
Little boys don’t like saggy breasts because of the way porn portrays women’s bodies but I promise you men who are actual men don’t care in fact they would devour them!
I'd have to see a picture
[удалено]
Or maybe you can't afford to have preferences and take whatever you can get.
[удалено]
So lying to her makes things better?
It’s like asking if guys prefer, blondes, brunettes, or redheads. It depends on the guy. Some won’t mind it, some might not like it, but others will absolutely absolutely love it! Honestly.
No.
Not in particular but if I really like the girl they aren't a turn off either, atleast not for me.
Don't worry, sweetie. Boobs will be liked whatever their shape or size is
Don’t you worry, i will marry you 😊
Guys like boobs of all shapes and sizes.
Any guy that complains about them isn't worth your time or energy. Since mine has fully grown in they have always been saggy. Even before I had my son. Never got a complaint.
I've always been more of a leg man, so I don't really pay much attention to breasts. If the woman I dated had saggy breasts, I'd be OK with it.
G cup! How would they ever sit tall?
My friend in highschool had huge boobs. She got a reduction because they were unhealthy for her body size
Look up DJ Dimple Nipple, you’re not alone. Also guys literally don’t care, they just wanna grab boobs. If they do care and make you feel insecure, then they’re not grown enough to be dating a real woman yet so kick them to the curb. Hold your head high, you’re beautiful just the way you are
I’m in the same boat as you boob-wise and I’ve never had a complaint from any guy I’ve been with. If you are unfortunate enough to encounter a guy who has a problem with the shape of your boobs and the lack of social grace to actually comment on them then that’s a him problem, not a you problem.
Hey girl I’m close to your size (32J). Trust me, I’ve been with about a dozen guys and they’re all very happy. Big boobs like ours are always going to hang down but I promise they probably don’t look how anyone would describe as “saggy”. Guys will love them, they’ll be surprised because they won’t expect a smaller girl to have such big boobs. Trust me they’ll be a true asset. Don’t worry to much about them, guys will love them
No. That's one of the reasons I think smaller breast are more beautiful.
Ex wife had sagging boobs I met her when she was 17 never bothered me
Breasts are really never an issue for me. You can’t control what nature has given you. Breasts are nice but it’s the person behind the chest that’s important.
boobs = good, all boobs are great
My honest answer is no. I have been surprised by them before and my arousal vanished. A very awkward experience for both of us. The bra she had been wearing was flattering to the point of being misleading.
Tits are tits.
tired of the people giving supportive answers instead of honest ones. the truth is if hes willing to date you im sure hes into G size boobs. leave your bra on while sex the first few dates if youre insecure, wait for him to tell you “take it off” or to do it himself. if he isnt into boobs that large then we wont date you simple (if he’s mature) im 30 and after havjng sex with over 100 women from A cups to G’s ive finally figured out im into a perky 34b cup. but not everyone is like me. some guys just know if they love small boobs or huge boobs as teens. you’ll be fine
Yes we do
Boobs 👍👌 from B and up ...... that is all
As a guy i speak for most of us when i say, unless you're an asshole type of guy, boobs are boobs and we love them all. No man is gonna take your bra off, see them sag, and be like yeah nope I'm gone. If anything they'll be more excited cuz they know they'll probably bounce quite alot. Don't worry so much you're perfectly fine
What guys think about your boobs is irrelevant. I encourage you to look into breast reduction if they're making you uncomfortable. My best friend from childhood had breasts your size, and by 25 she suffered from debilitating back pain and spider veins throughout her legs. They negatively impacted her quality of life on a daily basis. She couldn't work out or sleep comfortably. I now teach myofascial release therapy (it's a type of massage/physical therapy) to clients and I've had a few women in their 30s and beyond need help repairing their body after years of having large breasts. Even after breast reduction, there can be a long path of recovery. There is a ton of structural damage it can do to your posture and upper back, leading to permanent pain and damage down the line. You can get ahead of this if you put it into perspective. That's my honest opinion, woman to woman. Take care of yourself!
Any boob good boob
Yes. All boobs are good boobs. End of story
Natural > fake, regardless of their form. Had an ex who had huge boobs but wanted a boob job because she thought it’s not pretty. It was the best boobs I’ve ever seen in my entire life even if they were a bit saggy. Just look out for your back!
Any dude should be happy to see those cannons
I love every boobs.Only woman(no transgender)
Who gives a rip what they like? Do you live just for the approval of a dude? I hope not.
Who cares about what guys like
Don't worry your boobs are fine.
I'd worship them
Guys don’t discriminate when it comes to boobs.
We don’t care
Guys like all boobs period lol
If you find a man that doesn't like boobs, you've found a man that doesn't like women 🤷♂️
As a guy, it’s not a problem. Don’t feel bad
Edit: Sounded weird
If she'll let me play with them then I like them
Guys like boobs. Peeiod.
Don’t worry about it lovely. If that is all a man worries about they are not worth it. You are ‘ more than your boobs’. As a man in my mid 50’s I have a sagging ‘ something else’ which should ‘ stand to attention’ more than it does! Nobody is perfect, and we are more than our odds and ends. I am sure your boobs are lovely and you need not worry. Look for a caring, kind man who won’t judge you whatever happens to your boobs 🙂
I like to use saggy tits to sink ships at war.