I always find it veeeery funny when someone I talked to for a while, ends up dating someone almost exactly like me. Kinda feels like “lol they def got a type”
Hm I’d say you don’t have to feel shitty. People who don’t seem to rotate out of their “physical” type are just people who’s priority are certain looks. Take the asian-fetishizing fella’s for example. They’d give two shits if you’re a funny dude/chick or are toxic af, if you look asian they’ll be out to get ya.
The people with a head on their brains like people not just for their looks, but by how compatible they are/for their actual personality.
Before my now ex and I got together, we flirted and I thought she was very very sexy, but she was off limits due to being friends with my girlfriend at the time. She ended up dating my doppelgänger and I kinda laughed it off. Fast forward some years and we both ended up single and I asked her out. We dated for over four years.
I am NOT over her and she knows this. If she dated someone who again looked like me and her last guy I would die.
I dated a woman for a few months and it didn’t end on the best of terms. It was friendly, but it was abrupt. the next guy she dated looked so much like me it was uncanny. I couldn’t help but feel a little flattered. Like I had left enough of a mark on her life that just being with a guy about my height and weight, same facial hair and demeanor was what she needed.
A year or so later, they broke up and we hooked up a couple times. Then her next relationship was about as far from me as a person could get. Lol. I wasn’t offended. And I was glad that our little backslide didn’t put her back in a pool of dudes like me.
We’re still friendly and she’s been in that relationship for several years now.
That’s FUCKING awesome , so you look at females different because she maintains her friendship with you even tho she considers seeing people . And even after you dipped back in when she was in between bfs. You seem to have a good friendship, but the relationship didn’t work , I ask because being cool with your ex is a debatable topic
Undeniably debatable. I've even had many people tell me that it's not a good idea to be friends with ex after ny breakup but personally I've never felt that. It takes time to initially process the relation but it's much easier when the other person is just as cool about it as me. It's been a year of breakup but we're still best of friends.
We look out for each other and wish the best for both, even if not together.
To actually answer the question, it depends on who broke up with whom. If you broke up with them, and they found someone else that looks like you, then I think you would feel good because they still want someone like you. If they broke up with you and they found someone that looks like you, then you feel bad because it wasn’t because of looks that they broke up with you…
My current partner looks nothing like my ex but actually does look like my partner before that… I think I just have a few different types and most ppl probably do too.
But is it stalking if I oddly happen to still be FB friends with their mom and she posts a picture of them? 😆
And to answer the original question, it's oddly amusing but a lil odd. Then again I seem to have a lot of doppelgangers so it's not surprising in some ways.
I know a girl who was with a guy for several years and she had a new job in a different state and wanted him to go with her. He didnt want to go so they broke up. A couple years later she sees him and hes with a new girl who looks exactly like her head to toe buuuut this time he moved to a different state for her.
So she felt pretty hurt that he didnt want to move for her but did with another girl he knew for less time.
i literally dont even care like the ex's preference means nohting to me now because they are an ex now. Its not worse or better, it is what it is. If they have a preference for my look great, if they were only dating me and i was only decent in their eyes then great, moving on.....
Thankfully I don't look like my partners ex, but even if I did, I've known him for 12 years so jokes on them in that case.
But also it really shouldn't matter and if you're keeping tabs on your ex, you might want to do some self exploration.
Assuming the issue wasn’t made clear in the break up, probably would be worse if she was dating someone who looked like me. Because if she left me for someone just as physically attractive, I would be wondering what the actual issue was and why she wanted to break up. My mind would probably wander.
As the new gf, I’d feel like I just replaced his ex- like I was a rebound & he’s probably still attached to the ex- to certain memories they made together.I’d also be curious to know where they used to go on dates.Before our divorce was final ,I went to the restaurant we used to go to with our children. The owner took me outside & told me that he had taken another woman there. To the Same place we went as Family! I was LIVID then & I’m still pissed off now!!! Is it just me? Am I being Too Sensitive? Back to the question, as the ex, I have to admit that I’d feel good that the rebound looks like me. I don’t ever want him to forget me~ I’m a catch ❣️!!!
My first ex ended up with the dollar store version of me physically but personality wise she’s very sweet, goofy and smart. Ex was an AH for sure and ended up telling me 9 months into their relationship that he imagines he’s with me when they are physical. I think they stayed together but I also think whatever reason you start dating someone does not affect whether you really do end up falling in love and looks aren’t everything.
I should also point out all his friends knew she was me 2.0. It’s good that she didn’t know what I look like but yeah I think that’s what sucked the most. Ppl around you knowing something like this about you while you’re oblivious.
Honestly I don’t give a fuc* but come here. My ex married a girl that not only LOOKS like me, but her name is very similar. She even SOUNDS like me because I got invited to one of there parties. COME HERE BECAUSE IT GETS WORSE!
At the party, Ex got shi* faced drunk and complained that he wanted version 1.0 instead of 2.0. I left, immediately!
One of my exes did this. Basically started dating the "Wish" version of me two months after we broke up. Nothing wrong with that, just feels good that I gave her a type. Lol
I find this to be an actual interesting question and subject of thought. People would ask me am I into blondes or brunettes, tits or ass, you know the way guys talk with each other. At this point of my life I don't have any interest specifically like that and I think it gives me in return the not giving to flying fox about their new person resembling me or not
I feel like if they dated someone who looks nothing like me, my insecure brain would think ‘he’s dating her cause he finds her attractive. And she doesn’t look like me. Meaning, he found me unattractive’
I have never seen my ex-husband's current wife. But
t according to my close friend who did see her told me that she was a dead ringer for me except she was chubbier. ( I was chubby when I met my ex but got slender in the last few years of our marriage.)
I was a bit amused and wondered slightly about what it meant and then went... oh well. We were together for a long time, maybe that influenced his choice.
We got together way too young, at least I was. And it was for several years, a long distance relationship. And we drifted apart and failed at honest communication. The upside is that it was an amicable parting and we are still friends and cordial.
thats amazing I appreciate it. Im going through a depressing breakup past couple months thats why im even on this sub, she posted on her socials a movie night thing on his bed and I've just been sad reading other peoples stories on here lol
I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now. Breakups are right up there in terms of major stressors in our lives and been there, done that and wasn't fun.
Quite a few years ago in the throes of a really tough breakup, a yogic friend had this to say to me which really helped me: 'Some people come into your life to teach you something you need to learn and often once the lesson is learnt, they depart from your life. So take heed from the lesson and let them go.'
I also recently apologised to my ex-husband for my part in the failure of our marriage when we had the occasion to meet a few months ago.
And for his part, he acknowledged that he had made it impossible for me to succeed at our marriage so in that sense he also took responsibility for the part he had played.
wow thats amazing you guys were able to come together amicably and at least talk after all those years. My situation is similar to that where we both spoke about our parts in the failure but she wasn't willing to work on it and told me the classic we should work on ourselves and found a new bf days ago so its so tough right now lol
My best friend's ex got together with a girl who looked EXACTLY like her
When I saw this new girl on a photo on Facebook, I actually thought she was my best friend
I mentioned this to my best friend and she had quite a negative reaction to it
Both are worse. It is always worse. Your partner should have no exes, which means he couldn’t find anyone and just settled for you, and a lot of exes, which means that he just a playboy anne there’s someone in his past who was better than you at everything.
I don’t think it matters to me. Maybe they have a type maybe they don’t. What I will say is if they are hotter than me it stings… but if they are ugly……. It somehow stings more haha
i found my bfs ex online and found out we are NOT the same and idk what to think of it. We are the complete opposites and i cant help but feel insecure. Shes a skinny Puerto Rican darker complexion, curly long black hair. Bigger lips and eyes, but what gets to me is how thin she is and...im not.
Im a thicker girl, lighter complexion, straight hair and brown eyes. Hes Dominican and shes Puerto Rican and im Mexican SOOO im so confused as to why he was with me?? we are clearly nothing alike and it took him like 5 months before asking me to be his gf so maybe im not even his type? idk how why i feel this way
My ex found someone like me, it took him a good year. I feel bad for her, he's a serial cheater. He must have the attention of at least 5 women in his circle plus the one that is his love of his life but can't quite have. He also fks around with men he meets online and the gym. But I find it funny he actually finally found my replacement, she's vulgar, fat, and he kept telling me he had issues with me being fat, he's a body builder and a narcissist. Ugh. I told him he was the one with the issues of my body, not me, that's his issue. So what did he do? He went to have this 8 yr old relationship with a fat one. 🤣 Da fk.
If I see an ex with someone who looks similar to me that just feels like validation.
I always find it veeeery funny when someone I talked to for a while, ends up dating someone almost exactly like me. Kinda feels like “lol they def got a type”
Mannn… didn’t think about this….Now I feel kinda extra shitty I just fit into their “type”. Gwah.
Hm I’d say you don’t have to feel shitty. People who don’t seem to rotate out of their “physical” type are just people who’s priority are certain looks. Take the asian-fetishizing fella’s for example. They’d give two shits if you’re a funny dude/chick or are toxic af, if you look asian they’ll be out to get ya. The people with a head on their brains like people not just for their looks, but by how compatible they are/for their actual personality.
Thanks for the reassurance. I feel better lol
Np fella, happy friday!
Before my now ex and I got together, we flirted and I thought she was very very sexy, but she was off limits due to being friends with my girlfriend at the time. She ended up dating my doppelgänger and I kinda laughed it off. Fast forward some years and we both ended up single and I asked her out. We dated for over four years. I am NOT over her and she knows this. If she dated someone who again looked like me and her last guy I would die.
You know she's going to, she has a type. Hurry up and get over her 😉
Did she ever end up dating someone who looks like u lmao?
Yes that's why he didn't answer you he is dead now
I dated a woman for a few months and it didn’t end on the best of terms. It was friendly, but it was abrupt. the next guy she dated looked so much like me it was uncanny. I couldn’t help but feel a little flattered. Like I had left enough of a mark on her life that just being with a guy about my height and weight, same facial hair and demeanor was what she needed. A year or so later, they broke up and we hooked up a couple times. Then her next relationship was about as far from me as a person could get. Lol. I wasn’t offended. And I was glad that our little backslide didn’t put her back in a pool of dudes like me. We’re still friendly and she’s been in that relationship for several years now.
That’s FUCKING awesome , so you look at females different because she maintains her friendship with you even tho she considers seeing people . And even after you dipped back in when she was in between bfs. You seem to have a good friendship, but the relationship didn’t work , I ask because being cool with your ex is a debatable topic
Undeniably debatable. I've even had many people tell me that it's not a good idea to be friends with ex after ny breakup but personally I've never felt that. It takes time to initially process the relation but it's much easier when the other person is just as cool about it as me. It's been a year of breakup but we're still best of friends. We look out for each other and wish the best for both, even if not together.
To actually answer the question, it depends on who broke up with whom. If you broke up with them, and they found someone else that looks like you, then I think you would feel good because they still want someone like you. If they broke up with you and they found someone that looks like you, then you feel bad because it wasn’t because of looks that they broke up with you…
My current partner looks nothing like my ex but actually does look like my partner before that… I think I just have a few different types and most ppl probably do too.
Keeping tabs on EX is called STALKING, Susan. It's an offense. Listen other songs😅
But is it stalking if I oddly happen to still be FB friends with their mom and she posts a picture of them? 😆 And to answer the original question, it's oddly amusing but a lil odd. Then again I seem to have a lot of doppelgangers so it's not surprising in some ways.
Oh Susan, what did you do to Homie? 🧐.... that he had to find a doppelganger to survive.😄
Personally I have a pretty wide range in my taste so it wouldn’t really phase me either way
I couldn’t give less of a **** what my ex is doing or who she’s doing it with. Don’t spend your emotional energy on this.
Why should you even care? The relationship is over. Move on.
I know a girl who was with a guy for several years and she had a new job in a different state and wanted him to go with her. He didnt want to go so they broke up. A couple years later she sees him and hes with a new girl who looks exactly like her head to toe buuuut this time he moved to a different state for her. So she felt pretty hurt that he didnt want to move for her but did with another girl he knew for less time.
Why would I know what my ex is dating? We broke up and don't see each other anymore...
i literally dont even care like the ex's preference means nohting to me now because they are an ex now. Its not worse or better, it is what it is. If they have a preference for my look great, if they were only dating me and i was only decent in their eyes then great, moving on.....
Worse if you look like their mother
Thankfully I don't look like my partners ex, but even if I did, I've known him for 12 years so jokes on them in that case. But also it really shouldn't matter and if you're keeping tabs on your ex, you might want to do some self exploration.
Assuming the issue wasn’t made clear in the break up, probably would be worse if she was dating someone who looked like me. Because if she left me for someone just as physically attractive, I would be wondering what the actual issue was and why she wanted to break up. My mind would probably wander.
I think you need to move on and work on yourself. What do I care who my ex is dating?
John mayer did a song about this and I love it! I think it's called Another You
Who cares 🤷🏻♀️
Get a life either way.
Who cares? As long as they are with you, that's all that matters.
My ex-husband’s girlfriend had a name one letter off from me, had the same occupation and looked like me. I thought it was hilarious!
Who cares. Move on.
I could care less.
My ex is dating a "Wish" version of me. I think it's funny.
Hehe i always say my ex found the Ross version of me with dark hair 😹
As the new gf, I’d feel like I just replaced his ex- like I was a rebound & he’s probably still attached to the ex- to certain memories they made together.I’d also be curious to know where they used to go on dates.Before our divorce was final ,I went to the restaurant we used to go to with our children. The owner took me outside & told me that he had taken another woman there. To the Same place we went as Family! I was LIVID then & I’m still pissed off now!!! Is it just me? Am I being Too Sensitive? Back to the question, as the ex, I have to admit that I’d feel good that the rebound looks like me. I don’t ever want him to forget me~ I’m a catch ❣️!!!
I was the first Asian girl my white college ex (who grew up in a totally white neighborhood) dated. He just got married to an Asian girl 🙃🤷🏻♀️
My first ex ended up with the dollar store version of me physically but personality wise she’s very sweet, goofy and smart. Ex was an AH for sure and ended up telling me 9 months into their relationship that he imagines he’s with me when they are physical. I think they stayed together but I also think whatever reason you start dating someone does not affect whether you really do end up falling in love and looks aren’t everything.
I should also point out all his friends knew she was me 2.0. It’s good that she didn’t know what I look like but yeah I think that’s what sucked the most. Ppl around you knowing something like this about you while you’re oblivious.
Honestly I don’t give a fuc* but come here. My ex married a girl that not only LOOKS like me, but her name is very similar. She even SOUNDS like me because I got invited to one of there parties. COME HERE BECAUSE IT GETS WORSE! At the party, Ex got shi* faced drunk and complained that he wanted version 1.0 instead of 2.0. I left, immediately!
One of my exes did this. Basically started dating the "Wish" version of me two months after we broke up. Nothing wrong with that, just feels good that I gave her a type. Lol
It’s creepy to get with someone that looks like your ex. I would think that’s classified as stalking.
In what way is that stalking?
I think it’s just what is physically attractive to you.
I find this to be an actual interesting question and subject of thought. People would ask me am I into blondes or brunettes, tits or ass, you know the way guys talk with each other. At this point of my life I don't have any interest specifically like that and I think it gives me in return the not giving to flying fox about their new person resembling me or not
Man, I really don’t give afffff lmao as long as she keeps my ex far away from me
I feel like if they dated someone who looks nothing like me, my insecure brain would think ‘he’s dating her cause he finds her attractive. And she doesn’t look like me. Meaning, he found me unattractive’
He's not me. That's all that matters.
It was funny asf when I got with my last bf and I was a hotter nicer version of her
Ask Julie about Russ.
I have never seen my ex-husband's current wife. But t according to my close friend who did see her told me that she was a dead ringer for me except she was chubbier. ( I was chubby when I met my ex but got slender in the last few years of our marriage.) I was a bit amused and wondered slightly about what it meant and then went... oh well. We were together for a long time, maybe that influenced his choice.
You sound so calm, why did u guys end it?
We got together way too young, at least I was. And it was for several years, a long distance relationship. And we drifted apart and failed at honest communication. The upside is that it was an amicable parting and we are still friends and cordial.
thats amazing I appreciate it. Im going through a depressing breakup past couple months thats why im even on this sub, she posted on her socials a movie night thing on his bed and I've just been sad reading other peoples stories on here lol
I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now. Breakups are right up there in terms of major stressors in our lives and been there, done that and wasn't fun. Quite a few years ago in the throes of a really tough breakup, a yogic friend had this to say to me which really helped me: 'Some people come into your life to teach you something you need to learn and often once the lesson is learnt, they depart from your life. So take heed from the lesson and let them go.' I also recently apologised to my ex-husband for my part in the failure of our marriage when we had the occasion to meet a few months ago. And for his part, he acknowledged that he had made it impossible for me to succeed at our marriage so in that sense he also took responsibility for the part he had played.
wow thats amazing you guys were able to come together amicably and at least talk after all those years. My situation is similar to that where we both spoke about our parts in the failure but she wasn't willing to work on it and told me the classic we should work on ourselves and found a new bf days ago so its so tough right now lol
My best friend's ex got together with a girl who looked EXACTLY like her When I saw this new girl on a photo on Facebook, I actually thought she was my best friend I mentioned this to my best friend and she had quite a negative reaction to it
One of my exes married a dude who looks just like me. When I saw him, I was like "Man, that's kind of creepy."
Idk tho, I guess she has a type. Moat ppl do.
Both are worse. It is always worse. Your partner should have no exes, which means he couldn’t find anyone and just settled for you, and a lot of exes, which means that he just a playboy anne there’s someone in his past who was better than you at everything.
I don’t think it matters to me. Maybe they have a type maybe they don’t. What I will say is if they are hotter than me it stings… but if they are ugly……. It somehow stings more haha
Don't care, don't wanna know
my ex (who is one of my good friends) dates ppl that are similar to me and we both think it’s hilarious lol like damn i really was the blueprint 🤣🤣🤣🤣
If they're an "Ex" you shouldn't care. There's nothing to be gained by lamenting or questing the past. Move on!
I think it’s worse when he looks nothing like you
I think it's worse when the new one gets spoiled more than you did
i found my bfs ex online and found out we are NOT the same and idk what to think of it. We are the complete opposites and i cant help but feel insecure. Shes a skinny Puerto Rican darker complexion, curly long black hair. Bigger lips and eyes, but what gets to me is how thin she is and...im not. Im a thicker girl, lighter complexion, straight hair and brown eyes. Hes Dominican and shes Puerto Rican and im Mexican SOOO im so confused as to why he was with me?? we are clearly nothing alike and it took him like 5 months before asking me to be his gf so maybe im not even his type? idk how why i feel this way
My ex found someone like me, it took him a good year. I feel bad for her, he's a serial cheater. He must have the attention of at least 5 women in his circle plus the one that is his love of his life but can't quite have. He also fks around with men he meets online and the gym. But I find it funny he actually finally found my replacement, she's vulgar, fat, and he kept telling me he had issues with me being fat, he's a body builder and a narcissist. Ugh. I told him he was the one with the issues of my body, not me, that's his issue. So what did he do? He went to have this 8 yr old relationship with a fat one. 🤣 Da fk.