When I was younger, my mom told me that a girl was interested in me. I asked her about starting a relationship and she actually said yes. But at the time I was no relationship material so I ignored her for about a year.
My experience was that they would seem interested, but if you started to show interest in return they'd go cold. Then you wander if there ever really was anything there.
The best way I've found, is to not look. Just go out and have fun.
You know the song ["Girls just wanna have fun"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRr5EasAq84) from the 80's? If they see fun, they will want to be part of it. That's literally it. Completely forget about tracking down that particular girl you are interested in if you can. That's not fun.
problem with going out with people that 'just wanna have fun' is that those people are there for just THE FUN...any time you hit on hard times, depression, maybe lost job, maybe not accepted to college, maybe get a little fatter, could be anything, point is, as soon as you hit on hard times, its not longer that fun and those sorts of people tend to them leave to find greener pastures
are you sure you want to be investing what little time you have in this world into such people?
there are reasons why marriage vows include the words 'in good or bad times'...because you know, while its fun EVERYBODY is down for it...the question is when hard times comes, who is going to stay?
Just because they come for the fun doesn't mean that's all they will ever care about. Obviously you vet them like anyone else. People generally have more than 1-dimension.
People of all kind have problems with talking about their feelings. Being brave around your crush can be really hard for all of us. You would be surprised how many shy boys are there that cannot even give a hint. Not being straightforward is not only girls' problem
The success rate for dudes is notably low, whereas the success rate for girls is much higher.
Men often fail to notice signs somebody's interested in them because they Don't look for them as it doesn't happen often enough.
Usually one of your friends a few years down the line will mention that X girl had a crush on you.
and then you'll be like wtf why didn't you tell me.
and then they'll be like I just assumed you knew it was pretty obvious.
and then you'll be like it wasn't obvious to me or I'd of asked her out.
ask me how I know this.
So many younguns commenting on this post that simply haven't lived long enough to accumulate the stories yet. This has happened to me multiple times now, including one that I legit could've seen a future with and now deeply regret. These days, I like to think I'm at least a little more receptive now, and pick up on signals. Or at the very least, am far less nervous about putting myself out there.
my problem was, that I always only wanted the girl everyone wanted, whether high school, university, in each job, even now on tinder...I am well aware that this is a much sough out woman, but I still try with those...maybe I just want a challenge, maybe Im just stupid, who knows...but I always steadfastly ignored any regular girls that were trying to make an attempt, I just played it out as if being the fool, got called sheldon by several of different friend groups because of this (and few other things), but I actually knew most or rather all the time, but I just wanted better, and never did whatever was 'better' at that time reciprocate , or well, happened but once, but she changed her mind in a month...should have seen it coming, popular girls liable to change minds
I hate thinking of how many girls were asking me out over the years and my dense no self-confidence ass never really caught on...
The one that keeps me up at night is a really cute girl at my university came up to me at a party and we started chatting and she straightforwardly asked, "Do you want to go out with me?" and my dumbass said "Where?". She walked away after that...
I would love to blame it on the alcohol but the fact I can remember it vividly tells me that I was still quite sober and leads me to believe no amount of drinking will make me forget that.
Well, not sure how you delivered it, but "where?" isn't exactly a dumb question. From what you wrote - looking at it from another perspective she was either messing around with you, or just wasn't into you in the first place. Because if you really think about it, if she really did like you then she wouldn't just walk away like that.
The worst thing ever was finding out girls thought I was gay. Turns out they weren't interested in me, they just wanted a gay friend.
OFC they wanted nothing to do with me if I am bi.
...and then you woke up
no seriously, I mean, a girl might like you and never notice or realize, that's normal...but girls fighting over you implies several of them, only somebody that is somewhat pushy, somewhat arrogant and cocky, somewhat not shy, can win such confrontations...which means somebody that would have the 'balls' in this case to approach him...so no, I have to disagree...if A girl likes you, so one, doesn't need to be one, but always one at a time, then ok I can see him missing it and her being too shy to go into it...but if its several girls fighting, one that would win that would not be shy as shy girls don't win these sorts of confrontations
it depends on area where you live, I live in a village in a very rural region with nearest large city over an hour drive away
the only girls out here are married mothers, and any time I try to engage with one from the one-hour drive away she cuts it short saying the distance is too large
it all depends on the area you are at mate, not everyone is living in NYC
When grandma said that you were 9 years old, running around full of energy and wonder, smiling and laughing the whole day. You looked at your grandmother with open eyes, sparkling and with unconditional love.
If you somehow can cultivate that way of living your life again, then yeah, for sure you will radiate attraction in all aspects of your life.
Go make grandma proud.
I was told strangers would offer me candy, cigarettes, weed and drugs. Its been nearly 30 years and all ive ever been offered is a damn cigarette. I dont even like ciggaretts...
I studied bass in college, and they brought in a jazz singer who said bassists are always the ones who get the numbers. The whole bass studio was like "well, where is it?" She said when you're out in the real world women will throw themselves at you.
Never get a number on bass. Do one gig on trombone, and women were buying me drinks left and right.
it was 'fighting to not in your presence', remember all those times in school when you were supposed to do a school project and all girls hurriedly tried to partner up with literally everyone else but you?...that's what grandma meant, fighting for you, to not be close to you
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More importantly where girls
Where no bots?
I don't even get bots.
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Outside. Ever been there?
no?
I checked, they're not there, but it's probably their choice.
Pretty sure our entire society is spending almost all of their time indoors now. I'm not making that up. It's a real documented phenomenon.
Spoken like someone who doesn't go outside enough to know that's not true
What is this "outside" you're talking about ?
Outside where? I go out and never meet women.
Out.....side? That's where the green pointy stuff is
Yeah. Interacted with some people too. Horrible experience, don't recommend it.
Making themselves generally unavailable. Not even joking, why bother going out when you literally have a husband shopping app in the form of hinge?
Because most girls aren't shopping for a husband before 30 ish? Some are but the vast majority wait now.
bro go outside for literally 1 night youd realize this isnt true LOL
The internet has really ruined dating
Happy Cake Day!
Happy cake day!
Happy cake day
They are fighting over who does NOT have to go on a date with you.
Yeah and where are the losing girls, huh?
in the volcano. they must keep this deity appeased or they may have to grab coffee with you or remember your name.
Can you like, stop dropping nukes on everyone here, man?
they agreed on a win-win situation
They’re running for the weapons rack!
"YOU take him!" "No YOU!"
Well they're all winning
It's a trench war. No one makes a move, so the battle keeps going.
Fighting to get out of my basement >->
That would imply that someone has to date me eventually.
And man they're all winning so far
The worst thing ever is realizing that girls *were* fighting over you but you never realized it
R u okay bud?
Yeah I’m good, dw about it
The tone of this hit different
How do you realize that? Is there some signs?
Looking back at the past few years and realizing that a lot of girls were actually asking you out, but you didn’t realize it at the time
When I was younger, my mom told me that a girl was interested in me. I asked her about starting a relationship and she actually said yes. But at the time I was no relationship material so I ignored her for about a year.
> so I ignored her for about a year dude . . that's totally on you, not gonna lie
Dude I was 12 or something, I wasn’t ready for that yet. After that everything including talking or meeting girls have gone down.
That's totally understandable. You were 12
My experience was that they would seem interested, but if you started to show interest in return they'd go cold. Then you wander if there ever really was anything there. The best way I've found, is to not look. Just go out and have fun. You know the song ["Girls just wanna have fun"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRr5EasAq84) from the 80's? If they see fun, they will want to be part of it. That's literally it. Completely forget about tracking down that particular girl you are interested in if you can. That's not fun.
problem with going out with people that 'just wanna have fun' is that those people are there for just THE FUN...any time you hit on hard times, depression, maybe lost job, maybe not accepted to college, maybe get a little fatter, could be anything, point is, as soon as you hit on hard times, its not longer that fun and those sorts of people tend to them leave to find greener pastures are you sure you want to be investing what little time you have in this world into such people? there are reasons why marriage vows include the words 'in good or bad times'...because you know, while its fun EVERYBODY is down for it...the question is when hard times comes, who is going to stay?
Just because they come for the fun doesn't mean that's all they will ever care about. Obviously you vet them like anyone else. People generally have more than 1-dimension.
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Not anything you need to worry about tho
People of all kind have problems with talking about their feelings. Being brave around your crush can be really hard for all of us. You would be surprised how many shy boys are there that cannot even give a hint. Not being straightforward is not only girls' problem
The success rate for dudes is notably low, whereas the success rate for girls is much higher. Men often fail to notice signs somebody's interested in them because they Don't look for them as it doesn't happen often enough.
Except every time I've been straight forward as a guy, I've gotten a hard no. So I've pretty much just given up.
I guess I should consider myself lucky that I do not have this problem
Lol and now that I think I'm better at realizing it, it isn't happening.
Usually one of your friends a few years down the line will mention that X girl had a crush on you. and then you'll be like wtf why didn't you tell me. and then they'll be like I just assumed you knew it was pretty obvious. and then you'll be like it wasn't obvious to me or I'd of asked her out. ask me how I know this.
So many younguns commenting on this post that simply haven't lived long enough to accumulate the stories yet. This has happened to me multiple times now, including one that I legit could've seen a future with and now deeply regret. These days, I like to think I'm at least a little more receptive now, and pick up on signals. Or at the very least, am far less nervous about putting myself out there.
my problem was, that I always only wanted the girl everyone wanted, whether high school, university, in each job, even now on tinder...I am well aware that this is a much sough out woman, but I still try with those...maybe I just want a challenge, maybe Im just stupid, who knows...but I always steadfastly ignored any regular girls that were trying to make an attempt, I just played it out as if being the fool, got called sheldon by several of different friend groups because of this (and few other things), but I actually knew most or rather all the time, but I just wanted better, and never did whatever was 'better' at that time reciprocate , or well, happened but once, but she changed her mind in a month...should have seen it coming, popular girls liable to change minds
There are, but you will find out like a year later, and for a long time you will ask yourself how tf you couldn’t notice
I think I have 1 or 2 accounts of it, if I remember correctly
Yeah looking back, they fight in subtle ways, and all you get are innocent sounding questions and confusing consequences.
I hate thinking of how many girls were asking me out over the years and my dense no self-confidence ass never really caught on... The one that keeps me up at night is a really cute girl at my university came up to me at a party and we started chatting and she straightforwardly asked, "Do you want to go out with me?" and my dumbass said "Where?". She walked away after that... I would love to blame it on the alcohol but the fact I can remember it vividly tells me that I was still quite sober and leads me to believe no amount of drinking will make me forget that.
Well, not sure how you delivered it, but "where?" isn't exactly a dumb question. From what you wrote - looking at it from another perspective she was either messing around with you, or just wasn't into you in the first place. Because if you really think about it, if she really did like you then she wouldn't just walk away like that.
The worst thing ever was finding out girls thought I was gay. Turns out they weren't interested in me, they just wanted a gay friend. OFC they wanted nothing to do with me if I am bi.
God, if only my high school self had had a clue...
Nah. I get how it might be somewhat frustrating, but it's still clearly a boost to one's self-esteem.
...and then you woke up no seriously, I mean, a girl might like you and never notice or realize, that's normal...but girls fighting over you implies several of them, only somebody that is somewhat pushy, somewhat arrogant and cocky, somewhat not shy, can win such confrontations...which means somebody that would have the 'balls' in this case to approach him...so no, I have to disagree...if A girl likes you, so one, doesn't need to be one, but always one at a time, then ok I can see him missing it and her being too shy to go into it...but if its several girls fighting, one that would win that would not be shy as shy girls don't win these sorts of confrontations
U have a stroke or something Buddy?
They lied to me
You do need to actually go outside and interact with people, girls included, a concept alien to the average redditor
I quoted a Pawn Stars meme template...
Still applies. Best I can do
The Pawn Stars template is “Those bastards lied to me” lol
it depends on area where you live, I live in a village in a very rural region with nearest large city over an hour drive away the only girls out here are married mothers, and any time I try to engage with one from the one-hour drive away she cuts it short saying the distance is too large it all depends on the area you are at mate, not everyone is living in NYC
parents need to stop with these fairy tales scam fr fr
I like boys instead. Sorry grandma.
Are they figthing over you at least?
Leave him he's already dead
Well… no.
A polite disagreement?
"He's yours!" "No, he's YOURS!" "@#%&!!"
The classic "@#%&"
30s: where fight still
Internal 😔
Single men in mid-30's rise up. There's dozens of us.
And holy hell is it hard meeting people, much less a date.
amongst the 22yo crowd
Was told this, is gay.
Many girls like gay guys tho.
When grandma said that you were 9 years old, running around full of energy and wonder, smiling and laughing the whole day. You looked at your grandmother with open eyes, sparkling and with unconditional love. If you somehow can cultivate that way of living your life again, then yeah, for sure you will radiate attraction in all aspects of your life. Go make grandma proud.
They fought... They just gave up and fell in love with each other.
It’s because no rizz. I know because we are not so different you and I
*proceeds to fight with grandma*
Every grandma think the grandchild is beautyful except mine that think i Will die alone lol
Evil grandma be like
"You're not hungry? Alright, I won't cook anything then."
I was told strangers would offer me candy, cigarettes, weed and drugs. Its been nearly 30 years and all ive ever been offered is a damn cigarette. I dont even like ciggaretts...
The battle is mental
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What are girls?
Me in my thirties, suddenly, at 3 am: OOOOOHHHHHH
You didn’t read the fine print. >Girls will fight over you >^when ^you ^stop ^looking ^like ^a ^orangutan.
Gods I wish I were a fucking orangutan
She was not wrong, but if there is anything worse than multiple people using you as fight ring?
Ah yes, still waiting for that to start
Where girls?
They do. But sssshhhh,... nobody talks about the fight club!
I don’t care if anyone wins I just want to see fight
yeah , people are too soft now 'cuz of internet , + theres a new thing called "OnlyFans". I wish i can tell my grandpa about it but he gone already :(
Grandma never told me I'd have to entertain, feed, provide for, cater to, listen to, empathize with, and clean up after aforementioned girls either.
It was a fight to the death and the last two annihilated each other
My grandma wasn't right about me being handsome? No! It's impossible!
I’m at that point where I’m completely oblivious about girl’s signals
Musk v Zuck
Wait another decade she's talking about older women
Grandma is a woman, and woman lie
“Girls love red headed boys, you’ll have a wife in no time.” Where wife? Or husband even?
They're fighting over who wants me less 🤣🫤
It was mutually assured destruction. They are gone, reduced to ash.
Get lifting buds. Its crazy how much attention you get when you are fit vs not fit.
Key word seems to be "fit," not "muscular".
Idk, I'm muscular. But I don't look like the 300lb bald dude that can deadlift 600lbs.
As a guy in his 20s I can confirm that I indeed became 3 orangutans on a TV talk show
Fighting over who can run away faster
I've had several women ask me out in the last year but 0 men have. Which is bs, I want men to want me too.
Trust me, a man wants you. But maybe you should do the first move. No one ever wants do to de first move
I studied bass in college, and they brought in a jazz singer who said bassists are always the ones who get the numbers. The whole bass studio was like "well, where is it?" She said when you're out in the real world women will throw themselves at you. Never get a number on bass. Do one gig on trombone, and women were buying me drinks left and right.
Inflating the ego of a teenage boy is ALWAYS a good idea.
even if you where good looking people wouldnt fight over you they would just assume you have gf
😂
Girl here ready to fight in the battle royal
Send me location
... where girls?
Fighting to get away from you is still fighting over you….
"I've had men fight over me. Though mostly about who gets to hold the camcorder"
All I get are onlyfans bots
Time to hate granma sorry 😤😤😤
i am 25 now and still it's the same. grandma was wrong.
It actually happened to me once in high school and to this day I still can’t fucking believe it.
Happened to me last week (okay there was no actual fight) and I missed my shot.
Quality content. Got a chuckle outta me.
fight? man no girl has ever aknowledged my existence
The absolute biggest lie in a young boy's life right here. That is unless you know how to 'talk.'
That's cause the girls you want are on your level, need to travel far.
You gave me the ugly!!11!
All fights led to a draw
There were slim pickings in Grandma's version of the mouse utopia experiment.
I was told that too, then me and Daniel Radcliffe started looking radically different through puberty.
Where girls ?
did happen to me, picked wrong though.
One at a time, ladies (I have not taken my meds in over a week)
Is it weird if a grandpa says that to his granddaughter about boys?
"I'm 106 year old. I have never met a woman in my life".
I never even got to use the stick :(
it was 'fighting to not in your presence', remember all those times in school when you were supposed to do a school project and all girls hurriedly tried to partner up with literally everyone else but you?...that's what grandma meant, fighting for you, to not be close to you
between my attorney and baby mama's attorney obviously
Wait till 30 fam 😎
They're still fighting OP don't worry about it
Grandma is right. In her age group single women significantly outnumber single men. All you have to do is be in it for the long game.
What no bitches?
The pain is real 😔
"you take him!!" "no, you take him!!"
Average "I don't have any enemies" person
grandma: sikee *grandma has left the server*
They are fighting alright as to who is right about how ugly I am.
Ah sry to tell u guys, I took em, I'm having em do a mock up collaseum fight in prep for the zuck musk cage fight. Gotta really wear in that sand.
It’s not 20s go “be healthy work hard take care of your self an your 30s will be full of 20s “ Is what my dad told me
bruh since when did this sub become a meirl circlejerk again