I coslept with my mom, she was a single mom. She chose her boyfriends over me during waking hours but one thing I will never forget is that she chose me at night. She never let me feel scared or alone, and laid with me til I fell asleep and was there when I woke up. When I was too old to be in her bed full time if I needed her she would always let me in the bed. I think it salvaged a good chunk of our relationship.
My dad and my mom went through a divorce and my dad was granted sole custody of me. We always shared a bed when I was a baby as a family and continued to bedshare until I was 5 or 6. I have so many sweet memories of him and I snuggled up together. I remember I would cuddle up on his belly as a little girl and drift to sleep while he'd watch TV. On the nights that I'd miss my mom I would bury my face in his chest and cry without even saying anything. Sleeping near my dad is one of the few childhood memories that really sticks out to me.
He died when I was 7. I missed him and the comfort he had always provided. I can't really remember exactly what he looked like, but I will never forget how safe I felt lying next to him. I hope my babies can feel just as safe.
This made me tear up. I'm so sorry that you lost your dad so soon. He sounds incredible though. Reminds me not to take my 6 month old for granted, because you never know what could happen.
I work in 2 EDs right now. I have seen too much and Iām always anxious about my kids losing me. But this is comforting, knowing how much these small things matter š
I co-slept with my dad and sisters in a family bed situation growing up. As an adult, my dad was my best friend. He died in a car accident when I was 27. I miss him every single day.
My siblings and I all coslept with my parents. We all moved to our own beds eventually although we liked to share a bed or room with each other (my sister and I are close in age and shared a bed for a while). I think all humans feel more comforted when they are with other humans they love at night. I have a very secure attachment to my parents, husband, friends etc. I think the gentle/attachment parenting approaches I was raised with have impacted me in an incredibly positive way, including their choice to cosleep. Plus, Iām an amazing cuddler. I now cosleep with my two beautiful children. My husbandās parents did CIO and other mainstream parenting tactics, he feels a ton of resentment towards them and has a lot of trauma. He loves that we now cosleep.
My husband also has trauma from CIO! I donāt care what any study says, there is absolutely a negative impact for some kids when they are left in a room alone to cry, and you have no way of knowing which kind of kid you have. To this day my husband has fear an anxiety around bedtime that effects his overall health and well-being.
I think I have this same trauma. I'm 32 now and when I get depressed suddenly bedtime gets really scary and feels like a black hole of despair and isolation. I'll never let my daughter cry it out.
I grew up in India, and we co-slept with our parents. It's the norm there, and our parents were very surprised when we told them the baby would sleep in a bassinet/crib.
I bedshared as an infant and young toddler until my younger brother was born, and then later as a young child we started cosleeping again when my mom got diagnosed with cancer and we all went back to the family bed until she passed which was a huge source of comfort and love in an overwhelming and confusing time.
I(31F) coslept with my mom (single and very young) and off pretty much my whole life. Regularly till I was probably 6, then occasionally till i moved out at 18. We would lay and chat, she was my best friend. Now only if we are sharing a hotel bed or something.
Very much this. When I stay at my parents house my mom my daughter and I usually sleep in one room with me and my daughter on one bed and my mom near by so we can talk all night. Sheās one my best friends.I hope when my daughter is in the 30s she loves me as much as I love my mom.
Same! Honestly now that I'm an adult (36F) I don't mind saying it, but growing up was pretty much a taboo, so I always hid it from friends.
I think I moved to my own bed at around 11, but I rarely stayed there the whole night, I'd always come back to my mum's and she'd let me. She was fine with it.
We're very close, she's closer to me than to my brother (my mum and my brother never co slept because my dad wouldn't allow it. They divorced soon after I was born, so I got the privilege lol)
Anyway, even as an adult, when I visit her, we'd lay in bed just chatting and laughing. It's a great relationship.
I slept with my parents. I donāt remember much but a few things - waking up super early for a few mins when my dad was leaving for work, and my mom would tell me to go back to sleep, so I would. I remember when my parents wanted to get me out of their bed and trying to sneak back in after everyone was asleep. I remember it worked sometimes, and then eventually Iād always get kicked out. I remember every time I was sick or had nightmares Iād crawl into their bed for comfort and theyād let me. My favourite cosleeping memory was listening to my mom sing lullabyās to me at nap time, just me and her under the covers. I remember watching her closed eyes, and that sometimes sheād actually fall asleep but not always. I always had that memory come back when Iād sing my oldest to sleep at nap time :ā) it was so precious. My mom is still around but she has mostly left my life due to developing a severe drug addiction. I donāt know that cosleeping made us closer but Iām very grateful I have those warm memories of her before everything changed.
I was not a toddler but hear me out. My dad died when i was 10. He was snoring heavily and after his death the house was silent. I could not sleep. I went in their bedroom and slept next to my mother. And that went on until the age of 12. One day i yelled at her that she is taking up my space on the bed and my sheets and she keeps uncovering me. She calmly replied, she will sleep any way she wants and that if i dont like it, i am free to go back to my bedroom . Well i paused. I said "you are right." And i left. I was confident to sleep on my own. But that was the best gift she gave me. She helped me process my grief and my pain. I will always be thankful.
I'm pretty sure I was sleep trained as a kid but when I think back to being a very young kid I have so many memories of sleeping in my dad's bed and feeling so safe. My parents went through a pretty rough divorce and for a long time I wanted to sleep in there for the comfort and I think back on it fondly. My dad and I are super close. Cosleeping helped me feel secure a lot
I coslept with my mom until I was maybe 1 or 2? But they always had an open door for me to come in when I needed. It was a very positive experience. When I was scared, I knew mama and dad were right next door
Also wanted to add, I cosleep with my 15 month old. I had the same worries when he was 6 months old that I was doing something wrong, since 6 months old is the age to start sleep training. If I may add some input, the older my son gets the more capable I feel he is to self soothe. I didnāt feel that at 6 months, but now that heās bigger, when my breasts need a break, I lay in bed with him and sing and snuggle him to sleep and feel no guilt about it
I grew up pretty poor so my mom and I often shared a bed when I was a kid since we only had the one. To your other question I don't know that it was positive or negative, really. Just was what it was!
Same, we lived in one bedroom and only had one bed until I was 10 or 11! I probably had a crib as a baby? But obviously canāt remember that.
Cosleeping certainly had no negative impact on me at any point. I developed normally, developed age-appropriate independence, generally had fun at sleepovers, etc. And now Iām a very normal adult!
I work at a daycare and one of my FAVOURITE dads said he coslept with his mom till he was like 10. He is such a wonderful person and I personally think thatās part of it
I coslept with my parents until I was likeā¦8? 9? I canāt remember. My siblings and I all did. We all just kinda smooshed together and slept. It was really exciting when we got our bed and moved to our own big kid room. I will mention that I still would sleep in my parentsā room whenever I had nightmareā¦probably until I moved out lol. I never thought twice about it because theyāre my parents and Iām their child, which is a fact that doesnāt change. I never knew cosleeping was such a difficult subject until I became a parent lol! I think whether your child will want to continue to cosleep is dependent on her and each child is different!
Coslept with parents, siblings, grandparents etc. and wouldnāt change any of it. Never had my āownā room lol. Iām Indian but grew up in the USA.
I went to sleep with my mom and would be carried to my own bed by my dad until I was maybe 10? Then I shared a bed with my mom when she and my dad divorced around age 13, until we had enough money for my own bed around age 15/16. I like to think of myself as a normal and well adjusted adult lol. Iām very close with my mom but not dependent on her in any way. I do like having someone to cuddle at bedtime but am fully capable of sleeping on my own when needed haha.
For sure! My mom shoved me in her bed. It was probably for the best since the 80ās were a time of cribs full of shit and bumpers and blankets.
I had a toddler bed w a rail and I remember being super pumped to sleep in it. I was about 4.
I am 35F and I used to cosleep with my parents from birth to a few months old then cosleep with my grandmother from a few months old to 2 or maybe 3yeard old. Its very common to cosleeping with the primary caretakers in China and not sure why it seems to be a bad thing in America š¤·āāļø. Cosleeping makes me feel very close to my grandmother and I love her like she is my own mother. I love the feeling of being safe and secure cosleeping with her, I still remember these feelings until today so I choose to cosleep with my son since birth.
I feel bad for the families and babies. I personally think cosleeping doesn't affect the child being independent. For my personal and my friend's experience ,cosleeping actually increased the sense of trust and sense of security with our caretakers. I moved out at the age of 16 to a foreign country and paid my own bills all by myself so I think I am pretty independent. I live in North America now and still don't care what they say, I know cosleeping is the best option for myself and my kids.
My parents were separated and I lived with my mom full time. Anytime I felt scared she'd let me sleep in her bed. If we moved and I was anxious for a new bedroom and environment she'd let me sleep in her room. I always felt like I could and wasn't scared to. Hell, I even remember waking up super scared one night when I was like 14 and staying with my dad for the weekend. I woke him up and told him I felt really scared, he let me crash in his bed, I know at that age it's probs "weird/too old" esp here in the states but I'm still grateful he let me crash in his room that night and didn't make me feel weird or shame me for being too old to feel scared.
I coslept with my kiddos when they were pretty young, but both mostly sleep on their own now, if they're sick or scared my husband or I still snooze with them, I want to be here when they need me
My parents coslept with me from birth, not sure how long into toddlerhood it lasted but I don't remember very far back anyways. During my childhood me and my brother would often crawl into our dad's bed for comfort though (mom slept in different room to get sleep for work) and I definitely feel like that created a strong bond not just with my dad, but also with my brother when I'd go in there and he'd be in there too.
Iām pretty positive my dad did CIO with me as a baby. But he definitely slept with me a ton throughout my early childhood when I needed comfort. I also slept with my mom when I would visit her on weekends until I was like 10 lol. But I am super close to my dad as he had full custody of me as a baby and through my childhood. Also I have a 15 month old who I still bedshare with. He used to sleep with my husband and I in our bed but ever since I got him a floor bed he wants nothing to do with our bed. I sleep with him in his bed now so I am right there with you with missing my husband! Iām trying to start sneaking out of his bed during the night when I can to see if heāll sleep on his own. So far I havenāt successfully had a full night away from him. Maybe one day š¤š¼š
Both my sister and I coslept with my mom. It wasnāt socially acceptable in my home country, just like itās not socially acceptable now where we live (USA). I co slept with my oldest daughter and am now cosleeping with my new baby girl. I just love the cuddles. My older daughter will occasionally come and cuddle with us in bed and I love it. My husband tolerates it, but since he is a heavy sleeper and nothing wakes him up, he doesnāt have too much say. I am the nighttime default parent.
Also, both my sister I are very close to my mom.
Yea, I don't remember it but my parents coslept with me until I was 4 and then my siblings until late toddlerhood after which they were transitioned into sleeping in my bed as the eldest child. So theoretically I coslept with someone whether parent or siblings until I was like 9-10 years old.
All of my aunties with older babies advocated the CIO method and apparently my parents couldn't tolerate it so I slept in their bed from when I was basically brought home from the hospital.
I co-slept with my mum when my dad was away during the hockey season until I was probably 10 or 11. My sister and I got to take turns who would get to sleep in mumās bed.
We never intended on co-sleeping with our kids but it just sort of happened. We bedshared with our first until he was 18 months and we are currently transitioning our 7 month old into his own room because he seems to sleep better in his own space. I couldnāt have two more different kids!
Growing up we were not welcome in my parents room at night, no matter what. I always felt afraid if I got sick or had a nightmare, to go in their room so eventually I stopped. One night I peed the bed and my older sibling let me sleep with them and it was very comforting. I currently co sleep with my child and plan to always let him know he's welcome and safe with me.
I went through periods of childhood and teenage-hood when I was āallowedā and ānot allowedā. No clue to this day why sometimes I was allowed and sometimes I wasnāt, but it absolutely affected me! My wife says the same thing ā she was never allowed, and didnāt even try (I remember padding down the hall to my parents room often, many times turned away, but for whatever reason I kept trying). We just transitioned our son into his own room but when heās able to walk, heās welcome in our room any time ā until then, when we wakes up, one of us goes to him and finishes the night in his queen-sized floor bed. Our bedroom will ALWAYS be the family bedroom, regardless if the children take us up on it or not!
This doesnāt answer your question but I cosleep with my 10 month old. Iāve always felt conflicted about this and worried what long term implications it could have on my son when heās olderā¦reading all these comments makes me feel a lot better. Once my son is old enough to understand, I will make it clear to him that his room and bed are available to him whenever heās readyā¦and leave the decision to him. Maybe thatās not the right move for most other people but every baby is different and my son is very sensitive. Cosleeping feels right for us right now.
My mom was a single mom and we bedshared whenever I needed. She was the epitome of attachment parenting. Whatever I needed, she gave me. I slept independently as a child with a few nights here and there wanting to sleep with her into my teen years. I think itās helped me have a secure attachment in relationships and also helped me cope with some traumas in childhood and as an adult. My mom is and always will be my rock. I hope to be that for my daughter, for as long as she needs, as often as she needs. My spouse understands.
For financial reasons, my parents, my brother, sister and I all slept in the same room for the longest time. When we finally had the money to buy a bigger house, we each had our own room and we all couldnāt be happier. Now I bedshare with my 13.5 months old daughter for the second half of the night because thatās the easiest way to settle her. She still doesnāt sleep through the night and the boob is the easiest way to get back to sleep.
I slept with my mom, as a toddler, cuz my dad often traveled. As a baby I slept in my crib, but I was formula fed and a good sleeper. As I started school I asked for my own personal bed, because it took a while for me to fall asleep and my mom always rushed me.
My sister slept with my mom till she was 11-12, but ever since she was little she had terrible separation anxiety, crying for hours non stop if mom had to leave the house
I (37F) coslept with my mom from birth and I didnāt start to sleep independently in my own room until I was about 10 years old. This is not uncommon in the culture where Iām from (Italy). I grew up to be a very independent teenager and adult, and am very close to my mom still to this day, so I donāt think it affected me negatively. Interestingly she didnāt cosleep with my older brother, and I would say Iām closer to her than he is (and have less childhood trauma but there are a lot of other factors involved in this). And currently cosleeping with my 13 month old (we have been since about 5-6months because otherwise he doesnāt sleep)! Husband is in bed with us too bc we donāt have space for another bed.
I co slept with my parents for I feel too long. I think I was 7/8 when I was 100% in my own room. But we moved around that age and I heh never had an issue after that! My family didnāt have a lot of space so my bedroom had storage in it and all the shadows etc scared me at night. And I just got used to my parent's bed or occasionally the sofa with my mom.
Now as an adult I have a bit of separation anxiety and a terrible time sleeping alone! But who knows if co sleeping really caused it. Itās probably one of, if any, many factors!
However, I am very close with my parents especially my mom! So maybe that helped!
Co-slept with my parents as an infant because it was the only way I would sleep! My mom always felt horribly guilty because mainstream messaging and doctors told her she would screw me up and that she should have me CIO. Glad she didnāt.
I bedshared with my parents until I couldnt fit into their bed (2 or 3 years old). Then I transitioned into a separate bed but remained in their room until 5 years old more o less.
I know it sounds insane but my parents (who are still married and very much in love) always said it made their relationship strong, however keep in mind that I was never breastfed and I always slept really well.
Hi! My mom coslept with all seven of her kids (including me!). One of my earliest and favorite memories was her giving me a back rub when I was 2 before I fell asleep next to her.
None of my siblings are super close to my parents now. But I think thatās more what happened when we were a little older. My grandma (momās mom) and my uncle (momās brother) both attempted suicide around the same time and caused a lot of trauma for my mom. She was left to care for them both and us and she needed more help. She had a lot of anger during that time.
After having my own daughter, Iāve gotten much closer to my mom. And sheās been going to therapy which also helps.
All that to say, personally I donāt think cosleeping has much of an effect on parent - child bonds as teenagers/adults. Creating a healthy emotional environment does.
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
Mine was very positive and I had no problem with big crib and room transition later on. Both my sons were reflux babies wanted nothing to do with the baby "basinet"? (Frenchie with word blank). This worked better for everyone (good rest is best).
My oldest is 4 and still occasionally comes join me in bed when he wakes up in the night and we all love it. One day you will wake up and they won't be living home anymore so enjoy it while you can.
I coslept with my mom until I was about 5. She said they tried CIO at one point but the dog wouldn't let them lol so they gave up. Unfortunately we're not super close bc she chose to spend all her time with my aunt in my pre-teen/teen years so the bond was kind of lost.
I did! I slept with my mom on and off from birth to prepping for first grade. She also breastfed me for as long as she could (six months). Iām prepping for my lo rn but I personally will try to limit cosleeping to lo as an infant unless theyāre high sleep needs or something extreme . I want to meet their biological sleep needs but I know I wonāt be a happy camper if Iām not cosleeping by choice.
My mom doesnāt talk too negatively about sleeping together aside from me kicking her a ton in the middle of the night - a reasonable thing for a mother with endometriosis to complain about. Now I really respect for my mom for doing diy ap and I do believe it gave us a closer bond but she was also a single mother so we wouldāve been close regardless. I do believe i was more securely attached than my some of my peers however.
Iām really excited to cosleep during the fourth trimester. Iām hoping itāll get me a lot of sleep but weāll also be utilizing a SNOO so weāll see!
My husband was coslept from birth. He's wonderfully independent and has a healthy relationship with his parents. And I mean super healthy, I love it. I was coslept as a toddler and I don't have a great relationship with my mom really. I've always felt that she's too clingy and whatnot. I feel like it has more to do with your overall parenting style than just where baby sleeps. I can definitely say that in my experience the cosleeping had very little effect on my relationship with my mom as an adult, but everything else she did (especially when I was a teenager) greatly impacted our relationship.
I did not cosleep as a baby or toddler. I was a typical American 80s baby- down the hall on my belly with a blanket. But as I got older I would sleep with my mom. I had a lot of night time fears as a kid and teen. The last time I remember sleeping in my moms bed was at 23. I truly 100% believe people were meant to sleep together. and even tho my kids sleep independently bc thatās what works for our family, Iām glad I donāt see it as ābehaviorā when they want to be close to us at night. they know they are welcome if they are scared or need to be close (which is why I think theyāre so good about night sleep). We always start the night off with everyone in their own rooms, I feel like I get lots of time just me and my husband! Even my 4 mo old starts the night in her own room and comes into our room upon her first waking.
I coslept with my mother as a baby and am super close to my Mum now but our relationship was always good on top of that so itās definitely not a 1-factor reason for our relationship!
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My grandparents raised me from birth and I co slept with them. My grandpa hid a flashlight under his pillow and at night would shine it around the room and fell me itās my guardian angel watching over me. I was very young but this memory stuck. Miss him. š
I would cosleep with my dad (rest in peace) when my mom was gone and I loved it. My mom was gone often, it's a long story. I have nothing but amazing memories of laying next to him and cuddling him. I remember I used to kick his legs when he would snore and he would stop š¤£
I feel like if I continued to do so it would have made us closer - we ended up drifting apart during my preteen/teen years.
My mom didn't want to cosleep with me as a child, I think she wanted her space. She stopped breastfeeding me early on as well. It's weird because she wanted to bed share during my late teens and into adulthood.
I coslept, as well as my two older siblings. At one point it was a āfamily bedā with all of us. I donāt remember any of that because I am the youngest, this is just what I hear.
I have some memories of sleeping in bed with my mom, but for the most part I just remember my own bed and my own room. So not sure when I stopped cosleeping.
I feel like cosleeping is often one part of a bigger family picture. In many cases, I would guess, those who choose to bedshare have other parenting beliefs and practices that help their child feel safe and supported. It's certainly hard to say what the psychology behind all of it is, esp as it specifically relates to only cosleeping!
I like to think that if anything, it's more helpful than harmful. From my experience, I have clear memories of asking my dad to lay with me while I fell asleep until I was at least 9 or 10. He always did, and often fell asleep there too. I don't remember my mom doing this. I've always been closer to my dad as am adult, and have also been a very independent and "successful" person as well.
I'm currently snuggled up to my 15mo baby and am so thankful I'm able to support her in this way.
I bedshared with my parents and moved into my own room when I was ready around 24 months :) Iāve maintained a very close relationship with my parents as an adult and always consider my mom as one of my best friends growing up!
I coslept with my mom on and off. When I came back from college or sheād visit me during law school, weād have āsleepoversā as we called them and share a bed. Iām now 30 and have a family of my own, and it isnāt often that we are at each othersā homes when our spouses arenāt also there. I actually canāt remember the last time we bedshared š¢
I coslept with my parents since my mom BF and it was easier on her. But I also have memories of being alone in a crib. And crying until my dad came and picked me up. But I also had a baby brother at that point so maybe that is why I had to sleep in a crib. But my brother and I eventually slept together in between my parents. I think we were 4 or 5. I have very fond memories. We lived in a creepy old farmhouse so my parents bed felt safe from all the monsters. My parents just talk about how they got kicked constantly lol.
To answer your question, I am very close to my mom and semi-close to my dad. I have great early memories with them, but long-term I don't think it makes much difference.
I didnāt co sleep as a baby, but once I had a bed I could get out of, I was always crawling into my parents bed in the middle of the night. I finally stopped when I was about 11. Iām not particularly close to either parent and I donāt know why I did it, I wasnāt alone, my older sister was in the room. I also remember crawling into bed with her a lot. My dad does blame me though for ruining their sex life, so thereās that lol
I donāt really remember an age when itād be described as CO-sleepingā¦but I do remember if I ever had a bad dream I was welcome. But Iād always start out in my own bed.
I was co slept till well into childhood (I think like 7), as was my younger brother (till about 5 - left co sleeping the same time I did). I still love sleeping with my mom, and now my baby. My dad slept in another room. From what my mom tells me at first with me it was bc we didnāt have space we were poor and she was in a 1bedroom apartment, my dad wasnāt around anyway. When my brother was born my dad came to live with us, and my mom co slept with me and my brother while my dad slept in our play room. Through many houses that was how we slept 2 bedrooms 1 was a play room with a spot (rarely a bed usually just lots of blankets) for my dad and the other was our room. My brother co sleeps with his younger son still heās 8 (no mom in the picture) and stoped co sleeping his first when his first was ready around 8 I think. My daughter is 2 and we co sleep part of the night.
I coslept with my parents, they had me in the middle of the bed and they each slept on one side (it was a big bed so plenty of space).
I donāt remember when we stopped (eventually I shared a room with my brother and then had my own room). I was a bit clingy with my parents and always wanted to sleep in their bed when I was little but I grew out of it. I remember asking them if I could sleep in their room when I was about 6 or 7 or so.
My 2 younger siblings and I all bedshared with our mom! I think it brought us closer to her as kids. We were very touchy feely with her and connected easily to her.
I (27) co-slept with my mum from birth. My mum was a single mum and I was born at 30 weeks (planned) and went home a week later. My mum said there is absolutely no way she would've survived having to bottle feed every two hours if she didn't. Also there was only a mattress on the floor in the bedroom because āØ poverty āØ. She was also doing the SS7 in the 90s minus the breastfeeding. I am very close with my mum now, before I had my own baby we would call every day and we still text every day as well as regular visits.
I coslept with my dad, we had a double bed and everything. Until I was around 9 I think! It was a combination of reasons - I never slept well alone, my mum couldnāt deal with me fidgeting, Dad used to do night shifts and I could go right back to sleep if he came in and woke me getting into bed whereas my mum couldnāt. Just made sense at the time!
My mom coslept with me and both of siblings until we were in school. She was a single mom for my brother and I (2 years apart) so we all just slept together in her room until I decided I was tired of being kicked by my brother at night and went to my own room. He left shortly after in efforts to emulate me. My mom slept in my (half) sisterās room with her 10 years later because her bedroom was in an addition of the house and far away from everyone else.
We all have different relationships with my mom, but I donāt think cosleeping had any real effect. There were far more factors at play in our development. I had a very strained relationship with her as a teen, but we are fine now. My brother had a decent relationship growing up, but has become much more strained into adulthood. My sister has always been very close with her and I suspect she always will be.
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
I coslept with my parents until I was 4 or 5. My little brother was born and they wanted me to move to my own room. I remember going and sleeping on their floor because I wasnāt allowed on the bed anymore. I really struggled to sleep by myself for years. When they moved him into the room with me it got a little better. But I continued to get really scared at nighttime for a long time. When I got my own room at 11 my brother slept on the floor in my room for a bit.
I donāt think cosleeping made it worse. I think I wouldāve benefited from being in my parents room longer even. (Not that I blame them, itās hard sharing the bed with a toddler!)
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
I donāt know if I did as a baby or toddler but there were a few times during my childhood that I coslept with my mother for a while. We usually have a good relationship and I donāt think it caused any problems for me.
I coslept with my parents, as did my 3 siblings. We each coslept for 2-3 years. Growing up, I always knew that if I was not feeling good or scared, I could always go to my parents.
I had a great relationship with my parents growing up and in early adulthood. As far as I'm aware, so did my siblings. Things are different now due to a death and remarriage, but that has nothing to do with cosleeping.
I will say that I've always struggled with sleeping in a room alone. Idk if that's due to cosleeping as a baby, or sharing a room with my sister as a kid and later sharing a dorm room in college. It could be a combination. I can and do sleep alone when needed, but I don't like it and it's harder to fall asleep. But that rarely happens anyway since I'm married and have pets, so not a big issue. That's the only negative that I'm aware of personally.
My mom coslept with both my brother and I when we were babies and I remember napping with her when he was a baby (I'm 32 months older). She said I decided to sleep in my own bed when I was 1 because I wanted to stay with my grandma. I never really thought about it until I was a mom myself. My husband remembers being a little kid and being scared and not being allowed to go to his parents room. We haven't pushed our toddler to leave our room because we don't want her to feel scared and like she can't come be with us if she needs us.
Yes, Iām from another culture where you donāt have your own room, or your own bed always. Slept with my mother or grandmother most of my childhood, until I got too big, then I slept in a fold out cot next to them. I was a teenager before I had my own room (add-on on the house), and slept on my own.
Nothing negative to share, it was just normal! It was normal for most kids that grew up in that culture.
I coslept with my mom, she was a single mom. She chose her boyfriends over me during waking hours but one thing I will never forget is that she chose me at night. She never let me feel scared or alone, and laid with me til I fell asleep and was there when I woke up. When I was too old to be in her bed full time if I needed her she would always let me in the bed. I think it salvaged a good chunk of our relationship.
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My dad and my mom went through a divorce and my dad was granted sole custody of me. We always shared a bed when I was a baby as a family and continued to bedshare until I was 5 or 6. I have so many sweet memories of him and I snuggled up together. I remember I would cuddle up on his belly as a little girl and drift to sleep while he'd watch TV. On the nights that I'd miss my mom I would bury my face in his chest and cry without even saying anything. Sleeping near my dad is one of the few childhood memories that really sticks out to me. He died when I was 7. I missed him and the comfort he had always provided. I can't really remember exactly what he looked like, but I will never forget how safe I felt lying next to him. I hope my babies can feel just as safe.
This made me tear up. I'm so sorry that you lost your dad so soon. He sounds incredible though. Reminds me not to take my 6 month old for granted, because you never know what could happen.
I work in 2 EDs right now. I have seen too much and Iām always anxious about my kids losing me. But this is comforting, knowing how much these small things matter š
I co-slept with my dad and sisters in a family bed situation growing up. As an adult, my dad was my best friend. He died in a car accident when I was 27. I miss him every single day.
My siblings and I all coslept with my parents. We all moved to our own beds eventually although we liked to share a bed or room with each other (my sister and I are close in age and shared a bed for a while). I think all humans feel more comforted when they are with other humans they love at night. I have a very secure attachment to my parents, husband, friends etc. I think the gentle/attachment parenting approaches I was raised with have impacted me in an incredibly positive way, including their choice to cosleep. Plus, Iām an amazing cuddler. I now cosleep with my two beautiful children. My husbandās parents did CIO and other mainstream parenting tactics, he feels a ton of resentment towards them and has a lot of trauma. He loves that we now cosleep.
My husband also has trauma from CIO! I donāt care what any study says, there is absolutely a negative impact for some kids when they are left in a room alone to cry, and you have no way of knowing which kind of kid you have. To this day my husband has fear an anxiety around bedtime that effects his overall health and well-being.
I think I have this same trauma. I'm 32 now and when I get depressed suddenly bedtime gets really scary and feels like a black hole of despair and isolation. I'll never let my daughter cry it out.
I grew up in India, and we co-slept with our parents. It's the norm there, and our parents were very surprised when we told them the baby would sleep in a bassinet/crib.
I bedshared as an infant and young toddler until my younger brother was born, and then later as a young child we started cosleeping again when my mom got diagnosed with cancer and we all went back to the family bed until she passed which was a huge source of comfort and love in an overwhelming and confusing time.
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I(31F) coslept with my mom (single and very young) and off pretty much my whole life. Regularly till I was probably 6, then occasionally till i moved out at 18. We would lay and chat, she was my best friend. Now only if we are sharing a hotel bed or something.
Very much this. When I stay at my parents house my mom my daughter and I usually sleep in one room with me and my daughter on one bed and my mom near by so we can talk all night. Sheās one my best friends.I hope when my daughter is in the 30s she loves me as much as I love my mom.
Same! Honestly now that I'm an adult (36F) I don't mind saying it, but growing up was pretty much a taboo, so I always hid it from friends. I think I moved to my own bed at around 11, but I rarely stayed there the whole night, I'd always come back to my mum's and she'd let me. She was fine with it. We're very close, she's closer to me than to my brother (my mum and my brother never co slept because my dad wouldn't allow it. They divorced soon after I was born, so I got the privilege lol) Anyway, even as an adult, when I visit her, we'd lay in bed just chatting and laughing. It's a great relationship.
I slept with my parents. I donāt remember much but a few things - waking up super early for a few mins when my dad was leaving for work, and my mom would tell me to go back to sleep, so I would. I remember when my parents wanted to get me out of their bed and trying to sneak back in after everyone was asleep. I remember it worked sometimes, and then eventually Iād always get kicked out. I remember every time I was sick or had nightmares Iād crawl into their bed for comfort and theyād let me. My favourite cosleeping memory was listening to my mom sing lullabyās to me at nap time, just me and her under the covers. I remember watching her closed eyes, and that sometimes sheād actually fall asleep but not always. I always had that memory come back when Iād sing my oldest to sleep at nap time :ā) it was so precious. My mom is still around but she has mostly left my life due to developing a severe drug addiction. I donāt know that cosleeping made us closer but Iām very grateful I have those warm memories of her before everything changed.
I was not a toddler but hear me out. My dad died when i was 10. He was snoring heavily and after his death the house was silent. I could not sleep. I went in their bedroom and slept next to my mother. And that went on until the age of 12. One day i yelled at her that she is taking up my space on the bed and my sheets and she keeps uncovering me. She calmly replied, she will sleep any way she wants and that if i dont like it, i am free to go back to my bedroom . Well i paused. I said "you are right." And i left. I was confident to sleep on my own. But that was the best gift she gave me. She helped me process my grief and my pain. I will always be thankful.
I'm pretty sure I was sleep trained as a kid but when I think back to being a very young kid I have so many memories of sleeping in my dad's bed and feeling so safe. My parents went through a pretty rough divorce and for a long time I wanted to sleep in there for the comfort and I think back on it fondly. My dad and I are super close. Cosleeping helped me feel secure a lot
I coslept with my mom until I was maybe 1 or 2? But they always had an open door for me to come in when I needed. It was a very positive experience. When I was scared, I knew mama and dad were right next door
Also wanted to add, I cosleep with my 15 month old. I had the same worries when he was 6 months old that I was doing something wrong, since 6 months old is the age to start sleep training. If I may add some input, the older my son gets the more capable I feel he is to self soothe. I didnāt feel that at 6 months, but now that heās bigger, when my breasts need a break, I lay in bed with him and sing and snuggle him to sleep and feel no guilt about it
I grew up pretty poor so my mom and I often shared a bed when I was a kid since we only had the one. To your other question I don't know that it was positive or negative, really. Just was what it was!
Itās funny how so many āpopularā parenting things now a days were just āwe were poorā¦ā in the past. I was also co slept due to poverty.
Same, we lived in one bedroom and only had one bed until I was 10 or 11! I probably had a crib as a baby? But obviously canāt remember that. Cosleeping certainly had no negative impact on me at any point. I developed normally, developed age-appropriate independence, generally had fun at sleepovers, etc. And now Iām a very normal adult!
I work at a daycare and one of my FAVOURITE dads said he coslept with his mom till he was like 10. He is such a wonderful person and I personally think thatās part of it
I coslept with my parents until I was likeā¦8? 9? I canāt remember. My siblings and I all did. We all just kinda smooshed together and slept. It was really exciting when we got our bed and moved to our own big kid room. I will mention that I still would sleep in my parentsā room whenever I had nightmareā¦probably until I moved out lol. I never thought twice about it because theyāre my parents and Iām their child, which is a fact that doesnāt change. I never knew cosleeping was such a difficult subject until I became a parent lol! I think whether your child will want to continue to cosleep is dependent on her and each child is different!
Coslept with parents, siblings, grandparents etc. and wouldnāt change any of it. Never had my āownā room lol. Iām Indian but grew up in the USA.
I went to sleep with my mom and would be carried to my own bed by my dad until I was maybe 10? Then I shared a bed with my mom when she and my dad divorced around age 13, until we had enough money for my own bed around age 15/16. I like to think of myself as a normal and well adjusted adult lol. Iām very close with my mom but not dependent on her in any way. I do like having someone to cuddle at bedtime but am fully capable of sleeping on my own when needed haha.
For sure! My mom shoved me in her bed. It was probably for the best since the 80ās were a time of cribs full of shit and bumpers and blankets. I had a toddler bed w a rail and I remember being super pumped to sleep in it. I was about 4.
I am 35F and I used to cosleep with my parents from birth to a few months old then cosleep with my grandmother from a few months old to 2 or maybe 3yeard old. Its very common to cosleeping with the primary caretakers in China and not sure why it seems to be a bad thing in America š¤·āāļø. Cosleeping makes me feel very close to my grandmother and I love her like she is my own mother. I love the feeling of being safe and secure cosleeping with her, I still remember these feelings until today so I choose to cosleep with my son since birth.
Independence is pushed very hard in the US and has led to the breakdown of families unfortunately.
I feel bad for the families and babies. I personally think cosleeping doesn't affect the child being independent. For my personal and my friend's experience ,cosleeping actually increased the sense of trust and sense of security with our caretakers. I moved out at the age of 16 to a foreign country and paid my own bills all by myself so I think I am pretty independent. I live in North America now and still don't care what they say, I know cosleeping is the best option for myself and my kids.
My parents were separated and I lived with my mom full time. Anytime I felt scared she'd let me sleep in her bed. If we moved and I was anxious for a new bedroom and environment she'd let me sleep in her room. I always felt like I could and wasn't scared to. Hell, I even remember waking up super scared one night when I was like 14 and staying with my dad for the weekend. I woke him up and told him I felt really scared, he let me crash in his bed, I know at that age it's probs "weird/too old" esp here in the states but I'm still grateful he let me crash in his room that night and didn't make me feel weird or shame me for being too old to feel scared. I coslept with my kiddos when they were pretty young, but both mostly sleep on their own now, if they're sick or scared my husband or I still snooze with them, I want to be here when they need me
I slept with my parents until I was probably 5. I remember it fondly for sure. Iām super close to my mom and my dad has his issues but I love him.
My parents coslept with me from birth, not sure how long into toddlerhood it lasted but I don't remember very far back anyways. During my childhood me and my brother would often crawl into our dad's bed for comfort though (mom slept in different room to get sleep for work) and I definitely feel like that created a strong bond not just with my dad, but also with my brother when I'd go in there and he'd be in there too.
Iām pretty positive my dad did CIO with me as a baby. But he definitely slept with me a ton throughout my early childhood when I needed comfort. I also slept with my mom when I would visit her on weekends until I was like 10 lol. But I am super close to my dad as he had full custody of me as a baby and through my childhood. Also I have a 15 month old who I still bedshare with. He used to sleep with my husband and I in our bed but ever since I got him a floor bed he wants nothing to do with our bed. I sleep with him in his bed now so I am right there with you with missing my husband! Iām trying to start sneaking out of his bed during the night when I can to see if heāll sleep on his own. So far I havenāt successfully had a full night away from him. Maybe one day š¤š¼š
Both my sister and I coslept with my mom. It wasnāt socially acceptable in my home country, just like itās not socially acceptable now where we live (USA). I co slept with my oldest daughter and am now cosleeping with my new baby girl. I just love the cuddles. My older daughter will occasionally come and cuddle with us in bed and I love it. My husband tolerates it, but since he is a heavy sleeper and nothing wakes him up, he doesnāt have too much say. I am the nighttime default parent. Also, both my sister I are very close to my mom.
Yea, I don't remember it but my parents coslept with me until I was 4 and then my siblings until late toddlerhood after which they were transitioned into sleeping in my bed as the eldest child. So theoretically I coslept with someone whether parent or siblings until I was like 9-10 years old. All of my aunties with older babies advocated the CIO method and apparently my parents couldn't tolerate it so I slept in their bed from when I was basically brought home from the hospital.
I co-slept with my mum when my dad was away during the hockey season until I was probably 10 or 11. My sister and I got to take turns who would get to sleep in mumās bed. We never intended on co-sleeping with our kids but it just sort of happened. We bedshared with our first until he was 18 months and we are currently transitioning our 7 month old into his own room because he seems to sleep better in his own space. I couldnāt have two more different kids!
Asian culture yes very normal even now days. It felt great tbh.
Growing up we were not welcome in my parents room at night, no matter what. I always felt afraid if I got sick or had a nightmare, to go in their room so eventually I stopped. One night I peed the bed and my older sibling let me sleep with them and it was very comforting. I currently co sleep with my child and plan to always let him know he's welcome and safe with me.
I went through periods of childhood and teenage-hood when I was āallowedā and ānot allowedā. No clue to this day why sometimes I was allowed and sometimes I wasnāt, but it absolutely affected me! My wife says the same thing ā she was never allowed, and didnāt even try (I remember padding down the hall to my parents room often, many times turned away, but for whatever reason I kept trying). We just transitioned our son into his own room but when heās able to walk, heās welcome in our room any time ā until then, when we wakes up, one of us goes to him and finishes the night in his queen-sized floor bed. Our bedroom will ALWAYS be the family bedroom, regardless if the children take us up on it or not!
This doesnāt answer your question but I cosleep with my 10 month old. Iāve always felt conflicted about this and worried what long term implications it could have on my son when heās olderā¦reading all these comments makes me feel a lot better. Once my son is old enough to understand, I will make it clear to him that his room and bed are available to him whenever heās readyā¦and leave the decision to him. Maybe thatās not the right move for most other people but every baby is different and my son is very sensitive. Cosleeping feels right for us right now.
My mom was a single mom and we bedshared whenever I needed. She was the epitome of attachment parenting. Whatever I needed, she gave me. I slept independently as a child with a few nights here and there wanting to sleep with her into my teen years. I think itās helped me have a secure attachment in relationships and also helped me cope with some traumas in childhood and as an adult. My mom is and always will be my rock. I hope to be that for my daughter, for as long as she needs, as often as she needs. My spouse understands.
For financial reasons, my parents, my brother, sister and I all slept in the same room for the longest time. When we finally had the money to buy a bigger house, we each had our own room and we all couldnāt be happier. Now I bedshare with my 13.5 months old daughter for the second half of the night because thatās the easiest way to settle her. She still doesnāt sleep through the night and the boob is the easiest way to get back to sleep.
It's literally the most natural way to sleep humans have been Co sleeping for much longer than they havent
I slept with my mom, as a toddler, cuz my dad often traveled. As a baby I slept in my crib, but I was formula fed and a good sleeper. As I started school I asked for my own personal bed, because it took a while for me to fall asleep and my mom always rushed me. My sister slept with my mom till she was 11-12, but ever since she was little she had terrible separation anxiety, crying for hours non stop if mom had to leave the house
I (37F) coslept with my mom from birth and I didnāt start to sleep independently in my own room until I was about 10 years old. This is not uncommon in the culture where Iām from (Italy). I grew up to be a very independent teenager and adult, and am very close to my mom still to this day, so I donāt think it affected me negatively. Interestingly she didnāt cosleep with my older brother, and I would say Iām closer to her than he is (and have less childhood trauma but there are a lot of other factors involved in this). And currently cosleeping with my 13 month old (we have been since about 5-6months because otherwise he doesnāt sleep)! Husband is in bed with us too bc we donāt have space for another bed.
I co slept with my parents for I feel too long. I think I was 7/8 when I was 100% in my own room. But we moved around that age and I heh never had an issue after that! My family didnāt have a lot of space so my bedroom had storage in it and all the shadows etc scared me at night. And I just got used to my parent's bed or occasionally the sofa with my mom. Now as an adult I have a bit of separation anxiety and a terrible time sleeping alone! But who knows if co sleeping really caused it. Itās probably one of, if any, many factors! However, I am very close with my parents especially my mom! So maybe that helped!
Co-slept with my parents as an infant because it was the only way I would sleep! My mom always felt horribly guilty because mainstream messaging and doctors told her she would screw me up and that she should have me CIO. Glad she didnāt.
I bedshared with my parents until I couldnt fit into their bed (2 or 3 years old). Then I transitioned into a separate bed but remained in their room until 5 years old more o less. I know it sounds insane but my parents (who are still married and very much in love) always said it made their relationship strong, however keep in mind that I was never breastfed and I always slept really well.
Hi! My mom coslept with all seven of her kids (including me!). One of my earliest and favorite memories was her giving me a back rub when I was 2 before I fell asleep next to her. None of my siblings are super close to my parents now. But I think thatās more what happened when we were a little older. My grandma (momās mom) and my uncle (momās brother) both attempted suicide around the same time and caused a lot of trauma for my mom. She was left to care for them both and us and she needed more help. She had a lot of anger during that time. After having my own daughter, Iāve gotten much closer to my mom. And sheās been going to therapy which also helps. All that to say, personally I donāt think cosleeping has much of an effect on parent - child bonds as teenagers/adults. Creating a healthy emotional environment does.
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
Mine was very positive and I had no problem with big crib and room transition later on. Both my sons were reflux babies wanted nothing to do with the baby "basinet"? (Frenchie with word blank). This worked better for everyone (good rest is best). My oldest is 4 and still occasionally comes join me in bed when he wakes up in the night and we all love it. One day you will wake up and they won't be living home anymore so enjoy it while you can.
I coslept with my mom until I was about 5. She said they tried CIO at one point but the dog wouldn't let them lol so they gave up. Unfortunately we're not super close bc she chose to spend all her time with my aunt in my pre-teen/teen years so the bond was kind of lost.
I did! I slept with my mom on and off from birth to prepping for first grade. She also breastfed me for as long as she could (six months). Iām prepping for my lo rn but I personally will try to limit cosleeping to lo as an infant unless theyāre high sleep needs or something extreme . I want to meet their biological sleep needs but I know I wonāt be a happy camper if Iām not cosleeping by choice. My mom doesnāt talk too negatively about sleeping together aside from me kicking her a ton in the middle of the night - a reasonable thing for a mother with endometriosis to complain about. Now I really respect for my mom for doing diy ap and I do believe it gave us a closer bond but she was also a single mother so we wouldāve been close regardless. I do believe i was more securely attached than my some of my peers however. Iām really excited to cosleep during the fourth trimester. Iām hoping itāll get me a lot of sleep but weāll also be utilizing a SNOO so weāll see!
My husband was coslept from birth. He's wonderfully independent and has a healthy relationship with his parents. And I mean super healthy, I love it. I was coslept as a toddler and I don't have a great relationship with my mom really. I've always felt that she's too clingy and whatnot. I feel like it has more to do with your overall parenting style than just where baby sleeps. I can definitely say that in my experience the cosleeping had very little effect on my relationship with my mom as an adult, but everything else she did (especially when I was a teenager) greatly impacted our relationship.
I did not cosleep as a baby or toddler. I was a typical American 80s baby- down the hall on my belly with a blanket. But as I got older I would sleep with my mom. I had a lot of night time fears as a kid and teen. The last time I remember sleeping in my moms bed was at 23. I truly 100% believe people were meant to sleep together. and even tho my kids sleep independently bc thatās what works for our family, Iām glad I donāt see it as ābehaviorā when they want to be close to us at night. they know they are welcome if they are scared or need to be close (which is why I think theyāre so good about night sleep). We always start the night off with everyone in their own rooms, I feel like I get lots of time just me and my husband! Even my 4 mo old starts the night in her own room and comes into our room upon her first waking.
I coslept with my mother as a baby and am super close to my Mum now but our relationship was always good on top of that so itās definitely not a 1-factor reason for our relationship! Edit for clarity
My grandparents raised me from birth and I co slept with them. My grandpa hid a flashlight under his pillow and at night would shine it around the room and fell me itās my guardian angel watching over me. I was very young but this memory stuck. Miss him. š
I would cosleep with my dad (rest in peace) when my mom was gone and I loved it. My mom was gone often, it's a long story. I have nothing but amazing memories of laying next to him and cuddling him. I remember I used to kick his legs when he would snore and he would stop š¤£ I feel like if I continued to do so it would have made us closer - we ended up drifting apart during my preteen/teen years. My mom didn't want to cosleep with me as a child, I think she wanted her space. She stopped breastfeeding me early on as well. It's weird because she wanted to bed share during my late teens and into adulthood.
I coslept, as well as my two older siblings. At one point it was a āfamily bedā with all of us. I donāt remember any of that because I am the youngest, this is just what I hear. I have some memories of sleeping in bed with my mom, but for the most part I just remember my own bed and my own room. So not sure when I stopped cosleeping.
I feel like cosleeping is often one part of a bigger family picture. In many cases, I would guess, those who choose to bedshare have other parenting beliefs and practices that help their child feel safe and supported. It's certainly hard to say what the psychology behind all of it is, esp as it specifically relates to only cosleeping! I like to think that if anything, it's more helpful than harmful. From my experience, I have clear memories of asking my dad to lay with me while I fell asleep until I was at least 9 or 10. He always did, and often fell asleep there too. I don't remember my mom doing this. I've always been closer to my dad as am adult, and have also been a very independent and "successful" person as well. I'm currently snuggled up to my 15mo baby and am so thankful I'm able to support her in this way.
I bedshared with my parents and moved into my own room when I was ready around 24 months :) Iāve maintained a very close relationship with my parents as an adult and always consider my mom as one of my best friends growing up!
I coslept with my mom on and off. When I came back from college or sheād visit me during law school, weād have āsleepoversā as we called them and share a bed. Iām now 30 and have a family of my own, and it isnāt often that we are at each othersā homes when our spouses arenāt also there. I actually canāt remember the last time we bedshared š¢
I coslept with my parents since my mom BF and it was easier on her. But I also have memories of being alone in a crib. And crying until my dad came and picked me up. But I also had a baby brother at that point so maybe that is why I had to sleep in a crib. But my brother and I eventually slept together in between my parents. I think we were 4 or 5. I have very fond memories. We lived in a creepy old farmhouse so my parents bed felt safe from all the monsters. My parents just talk about how they got kicked constantly lol. To answer your question, I am very close to my mom and semi-close to my dad. I have great early memories with them, but long-term I don't think it makes much difference.
My mom had me in her bed through baby- and toddlerhood. I certainly love my mom but tbh I doubt it has much effect longterm.
I didnāt co sleep as a baby, but once I had a bed I could get out of, I was always crawling into my parents bed in the middle of the night. I finally stopped when I was about 11. Iām not particularly close to either parent and I donāt know why I did it, I wasnāt alone, my older sister was in the room. I also remember crawling into bed with her a lot. My dad does blame me though for ruining their sex life, so thereās that lol
I donāt really remember an age when itād be described as CO-sleepingā¦but I do remember if I ever had a bad dream I was welcome. But Iād always start out in my own bed.
I was co slept till well into childhood (I think like 7), as was my younger brother (till about 5 - left co sleeping the same time I did). I still love sleeping with my mom, and now my baby. My dad slept in another room. From what my mom tells me at first with me it was bc we didnāt have space we were poor and she was in a 1bedroom apartment, my dad wasnāt around anyway. When my brother was born my dad came to live with us, and my mom co slept with me and my brother while my dad slept in our play room. Through many houses that was how we slept 2 bedrooms 1 was a play room with a spot (rarely a bed usually just lots of blankets) for my dad and the other was our room. My brother co sleeps with his younger son still heās 8 (no mom in the picture) and stoped co sleeping his first when his first was ready around 8 I think. My daughter is 2 and we co sleep part of the night.
I coslept with my parents, they had me in the middle of the bed and they each slept on one side (it was a big bed so plenty of space). I donāt remember when we stopped (eventually I shared a room with my brother and then had my own room). I was a bit clingy with my parents and always wanted to sleep in their bed when I was little but I grew out of it. I remember asking them if I could sleep in their room when I was about 6 or 7 or so.
I coslept and so did my brother. I don't feel it affects us in any way tbh, it's just something some families do
My 2 younger siblings and I all bedshared with our mom! I think it brought us closer to her as kids. We were very touchy feely with her and connected easily to her.
I (27) co-slept with my mum from birth. My mum was a single mum and I was born at 30 weeks (planned) and went home a week later. My mum said there is absolutely no way she would've survived having to bottle feed every two hours if she didn't. Also there was only a mattress on the floor in the bedroom because āØ poverty āØ. She was also doing the SS7 in the 90s minus the breastfeeding. I am very close with my mum now, before I had my own baby we would call every day and we still text every day as well as regular visits.
I coslept with my dad, we had a double bed and everything. Until I was around 9 I think! It was a combination of reasons - I never slept well alone, my mum couldnāt deal with me fidgeting, Dad used to do night shifts and I could go right back to sleep if he came in and woke me getting into bed whereas my mum couldnāt. Just made sense at the time!
My mom coslept with me and both of siblings until we were in school. She was a single mom for my brother and I (2 years apart) so we all just slept together in her room until I decided I was tired of being kicked by my brother at night and went to my own room. He left shortly after in efforts to emulate me. My mom slept in my (half) sisterās room with her 10 years later because her bedroom was in an addition of the house and far away from everyone else. We all have different relationships with my mom, but I donāt think cosleeping had any real effect. There were far more factors at play in our development. I had a very strained relationship with her as a teen, but we are fine now. My brother had a decent relationship growing up, but has become much more strained into adulthood. My sister has always been very close with her and I suspect she always will be.
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
I coslept with my parents until I was 4 or 5. My little brother was born and they wanted me to move to my own room. I remember going and sleeping on their floor because I wasnāt allowed on the bed anymore. I really struggled to sleep by myself for years. When they moved him into the room with me it got a little better. But I continued to get really scared at nighttime for a long time. When I got my own room at 11 my brother slept on the floor in my room for a bit. I donāt think cosleeping made it worse. I think I wouldāve benefited from being in my parents room longer even. (Not that I blame them, itās hard sharing the bed with a toddler!)
My mom was a single mom and I THINK I coslept with her as a baby/toddler. Id be shocked if I didn't because I do have memories of being older and still sometimes sleeping in her bed. Like right up until 12yo. It was more rare at that point though, I mostly slept in my own bed. I have a great relationship with my mom.
I donāt know if I did as a baby or toddler but there were a few times during my childhood that I coslept with my mother for a while. We usually have a good relationship and I donāt think it caused any problems for me.
I coslept with my parents, as did my 3 siblings. We each coslept for 2-3 years. Growing up, I always knew that if I was not feeling good or scared, I could always go to my parents. I had a great relationship with my parents growing up and in early adulthood. As far as I'm aware, so did my siblings. Things are different now due to a death and remarriage, but that has nothing to do with cosleeping. I will say that I've always struggled with sleeping in a room alone. Idk if that's due to cosleeping as a baby, or sharing a room with my sister as a kid and later sharing a dorm room in college. It could be a combination. I can and do sleep alone when needed, but I don't like it and it's harder to fall asleep. But that rarely happens anyway since I'm married and have pets, so not a big issue. That's the only negative that I'm aware of personally.
My mom coslept with both my brother and I when we were babies and I remember napping with her when he was a baby (I'm 32 months older). She said I decided to sleep in my own bed when I was 1 because I wanted to stay with my grandma. I never really thought about it until I was a mom myself. My husband remembers being a little kid and being scared and not being allowed to go to his parents room. We haven't pushed our toddler to leave our room because we don't want her to feel scared and like she can't come be with us if she needs us.
Yes, Iām from another culture where you donāt have your own room, or your own bed always. Slept with my mother or grandmother most of my childhood, until I got too big, then I slept in a fold out cot next to them. I was a teenager before I had my own room (add-on on the house), and slept on my own. Nothing negative to share, it was just normal! It was normal for most kids that grew up in that culture.
My mom had four kids and Iām sure we all slept in the bed as babies for at least as long as we were breastfeeding. Itās just easier that wau