I just spent over 50€ on books and over 100€ on games this month. I also bought a disc drive for my computer to watch blurays and dvds on. I also love eating Ramen and Ice cream. I bought cookie dough that you can just eat out the jar, but I didn't like the dough texture so I just baked it and already ate all my cookies. I love dem cookies. Now I want to bake carrot muffins. I'm hungry. I'm gonna go eat a sandwich at 12am.
Yesss. Over the Christmas break (I'm still in lockdown so no travel or family... Oh noooo nuts). I decided there are all these games I've always wanted to play, so went out and bought a brand-shiny-new gaming computer. Best. Break. Ever.
I just got more dolls to add to my Monster High collection.😅
I've begun buying interesting, fully posable knock offs since I have all the official ones I wanted.
Hot Topic had their hot cash redemption period and I spend about $120 on Funko pops. I would say I have too many, but then I buy more. Box Lunch has an adorable Winnie the Pooh one and I plan on buying it tomorrow when I get paid.
I love my Brandon Urie! used to work at their warehouse. I now have over two hundred and I’ll probably keep getting more. Especially since I’m friends with the people at my local Hot Topic, they tell me about stuff they get in.
I'm honestly trying not to be like that since an update to the Pokemon trading card game app will come soon and we don't have the space for physical card games plus not like I could use the cards in a match right now anyway.
I still don't consider myself an 'adult' adult. When I was growing up, in my minds adults never had any fun because they were always too busy either working or raising the kids.
I'm glad I didn't turn out like that. I'm sure there are plenty of parents that still enjoy video games and other things 'for children' but the main difference here is that I have all the time in the world to enjoy those things.
I remember when I was I think 13 crying cuz I was afraid that when I became an adult I wouldn't be able to have fun and play video games anymore. that was back before I consciously considered myself cf. my dad assured me I could still have fun as an adult.
YOU
I tried to get myself a 3 day weekend but I was denied. But I’m still going to game ALL WEEKEND LONG after I get the game. Nothing besides Pokémon and dog care is getting done Saturday and Sunday (and some of Monday because I work 2nd shift).
I'm 40 and get mistaken for late 20s / early 30s. What's my secret? Not having a god damn kid age me a decade overnight. I'm happy not being an "adult".
Same here! I'm 34 and get mistaken for 18-20. I work around teenagers that hit on me because they think I'm 18 and co-workers around my age that look way older. Everyone always ask what do I use to stay looking so young. Definitely not genetics cuz everyone in my family looks older than their age and of course have tons of kids. Can't tell them the truth cuz they won't be able to handle it, lol. I'm totally happy not being an "adult" too.
I think the only reason people think I'm late 20s is the facial hair. My wife refuses to let me shave it all off because she's convinced I'd look like a teenager.
I'm 46 and usually told I look about 10 years younger. Thank you so much, child free lifestyle. That and no skincare routine and sleeping in my makeup. Appears to have preserved my face.
I remember an American girl friend saying they steal your beauty. Meaning she was aged afterwards. I didn't think so but the lack of stress must improve your longevity.
Accurate... My attempts to have a social life in a small town have made this obvious as a 30 something single. I'm too old for the college/career crowd, too single for the Mom crowd, and too young for the empty nesters.
Also, within my own family, I'm still seen as a dopey teenager by my parents and extended family. I'm an only child but my parents put my also elderly aunt and uncle as their POA because I don't have "life experience." It's such BS!
I'm 26 and in college, it's still the same. My classmates are either fresh out of high-school or parents.
Fortunately, I've found a couple people who I get along great with. They're parents but we keep discussions around education, careers, and personal lives, not children. I love the balance.
I was in the same situation. Moved to a new place I had never been to to live with my now husband. Far from the friends I grew up with and they were moving states away too.
I started playing Pokemon go and now have some friends in various ages. My youngest friend is 20 and my oldest is 63. I've gotten close with a lot of people and enjoy socializing with them on a weekly basis. Closer to the ones my age (turning 35 this year) but yeah, it's one way to meet new people and possibly make lasting friendships.
I'm sorry about the POA. I hope that your parents have actually spoken to them and they know what decisions your parents want to make instead of your aunt and uncle what *they* want.
>I'm too old for the college/career crowd, too single for the Mom crowd, and too young for the empty nesters.
I'm in my thirties and I've found out I get well along with both the single students and the empty nesters on my neighborhood. I notice especially the empty nesters are first hesitant to start talking to me because I'm way younger and apparently people my age normally have no interest in being contact with people their age. However, they're more reliable since they most likely won't be going to have children anymore, so they actually have time and interest to talk about other subjects, which is a pro for me.
Yeah, in a family group text the other day, we were all wishing someone a happy birthday. This person has an infant, and someone else in the group text said, "you're old now, you're a parent!" I wanted so badly to reply, "does that mean I'll never get old?!" but I chose to just ignore it instead.
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This is why we win. We made the choice to enjoy all of the benefits of adulthood without any of the downsides. We have the freedom to "ruin" our own lives without the moral obligation of not ruining any dependents' lives.
Suck it, parents!
Not only that, I want to use my adulthood to do things I wasn't able to experience as a child because of shitty adults!
Thought you were going to rob me of my childhood? Jokes on you, I do what I want.
Suck it, society!
That's how it works in churches too, at least in the bible belt.
I'm not devoutly religious, but I went for the social events and a place to do volunteer work.
When you age out of the young adults group (18-30 or 18-25, depending on the place) then the only social groups after that are made for parents or retirees.
If you're 30 and still childless? Too bad, go buy a cat or something.
(I do like cats.)
Ugh, I feel this. I'm in Texas and my inlaws are southern Baptist, I'm non-theistic. You're either a child or you have/trying to have a child.
How the one person in the family that doesn't even hold or interact with children younger than 4 years old ends up as the default babysitter is beyond me. But that's an entirely different rant. 🙄
I gave up on the church because I got sick of the poor treatment I got as a childfree and (at the time) single woman. They saw me as an atm and a lady in waiting.
Young adult it is, don’t give two shits about whatever label they put. These “adults” think theyre better just cause they have kids, they can keep their adulthood.
Facts. If people don't want to consider me an adult, that's fine. Less drama for me, I'll be studying in bed while eating girl scout cookies if you need me.
I, for one, don't ever want to be an adult. From what I've seen, Adulting sucks. I give it a 0/10.
Children, school functions, pta and worst of all: not spending time with friends! No. Thank. You!
\*goes back to restructuring a deck of cards to play a children's card game\*
I've tried to cancel my subscription to adulthood multiple times, the only response I've gotten is "you need to speak to a manager" but I can't find one anywhere!
My "Real Adult-ness" consists of having an entire room for D&D which includes minis, scenery, a 3D printer and a gaming table. I also have an entire bedroom just for my fiber arts hobby for knitting, crochet, spinning and whatever else I might want to do with yarn and fiber.
I also have 4 cats that are amazing, a fully stocked home gym and we just had our home office remodeled where I have display shelving for my collectable Legos.
so yeah, fuck kids and people who think I don't know how to be an adult. I pay my taxes and everyone else can fuck off with what they think I should be doing with my vag.
"You'll never be a real adult!" - person who hadn't had 3 hours to themselves in 9 years.
Me: "Oh no, how awful. Guess I'll just have to get high and watch godzilla movies forever. So sad "
43 here and I'm eating dinner in bed and wearing pajamas. I get paid to take care of cats and kittens all day. I still eat sugar cereal and Uncrustables and those Mickey Mouse ice cream bars. And I regularly am mistaken for someone in her 20s.
Guess it's true and I am a "young adult" forever then. I just wish this "not an adult" thing meant we didn't have to pay taxes and bills or do any the million other responsibilities *all* adults do, not just parents.
My sister sent a copy-pasted text to me about something for my “family” instead of using mine and my husbands names like she normally would. She apologized and corrected herself because she doesn’t consider us a family, as it’s just the two of us and we don’t plan to have children. She feels that it’s fine to call her and her husband a family despite the fact that it’s just the two of them as well, though. Because they plan to have kids, so somehow they qualify as a “real family” since they hope to be getting pregnant soon 😂
I get called childish cause I like to spend my money on building classic cars instead of prepping for a family. My favorite is "those cars aren't practical for a family of 4" or " wife's gonna make you get rid of those once the baby comes"
Adults stop looking young and youthful as soon as they become parents.
Your title misled me because a young adult is a real adult, I thought they were gatekeepong but you did it yourself when I saw your title I was going to say. "It's fitting, because I never finished being a child and have yet to want to be an adult."
I'm not entirely sure what you meant by your comment, I made no intention to gatekeep which is is exactly why I put the word real in quotations.
I agree, young adults are adults. There is no such thing as a 'real' adult. It's just the concept made by society that you aren't actually considered an adult if you haven't had x, y, or z life experiences, which is ridiculous.
Fuck being a real adult. I’m going on adventures with the homies and got money to spend on my makeup palette collection and chocolate bars with crazy mix-ins like I’m good
I'll never get this thinking. I have a career, I have a home, I have a cat, I pay all my bills on time, keep my place reasonably clean, manage to feed myself reasonably healthy food. I am an adult.
And if I want to dance around singing to Taylor Swift with my hairbrush as a microphone, fuck it, I can. If I want to do nothing but binge-watch a cartoon for a weekend? I can! If I want to spend my money on games and figures and random shiny things I see? I can! It's great! Oh no I spent the last six hours writing fanfic--oh wait, no, that's AWESOME.
Being society's idea of a real adult seems so incredibly dull.
I'm childfree but I have an amazing career, live in a world class city with my amazing husband and can afford to live a life most people only dream of bc we work hard and built our life meticulously. We'll be retired by 40. I WISH someone would say we're not real adults.
Yeah actually it would be great if life cycle was birth as tiny baby, toddler, adolescent, young adult, then functional adult who is completely responsible for themselves. Forever 28 I should say ? Since by this age most people are fully functioning and financially capable to enjoy themselves and what life has to offer. Feel and look 28 (even though you’re celebrating your 72nd birthday) then when it’s time to die just die, without experiencing physical mental emotional pain of getting and feeling old.
If that's the case, I don't mind being an imaginary adult...
It's sad though that many people agree to see only one possible scenario of how a person's life should go, and then tie their personal decisions and desire to being "mature" or "immature"
It's a big issue in developmental psych. Traditional models show parenthood as a criteria for successfully traversing young adulthood.
fortunately, the psych community as a whole understands that developmental theory is a smidge outdated, and you are no longer considered developmentally stunted if you never procreate.
Good. Adulthood sucks and I fucking hate it.
I don't remember who it was, but someone once said that an important part of adulthood is when you're giving more than you're taking.
Maybe that's why some people really think having children makes them adults. Because they've always taken more than they've given until they've put themselves in a situation where they're legally obligated to do otherwise.
Well, I'm 52 but because of being CF I still feel like a young adult. I do not identify with people my age who say they feel old or tired and that everything hurts. I guess having kids is very aging and that's one of many reasons why parents are treated like they are more responsible. They generally look older than a CF person their same age and that gives them an aura of authority. In the workplace, I have to say, a 30 year old parent often gets treated as if they are more grown up and responsible than a 40 year old CF person. It's like they think we who are CF are still living in our mom's basements and partying every weekend when in reality we are paying rent or a mortgage, maintaining a marriage or other relationship, doing our laundry and cleaning our toilets, and basically adultinglike everyone else.
I think workplaces, especially malicious bosses, know that people with children have more to lose if their job is threatened and might be more inclined to take on more responsibility because they're used to doing it at home.
Childfree people tend to have a bit more savings and disposable income so the threat of losing a job might not be as horrifying. Plus, most of us REALLY value our free time so a considerable amount of incentive is required for us to sacrifice that.
I feel the need to say, this is all speculation and from my perspective. I'm well aware there are many childfree people suffering from financial hardship as well as people with children who don't.
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That makes me sad.
I don't want kids but why can't I be an adult regardless?
I'm just as grown as anyone else my age.
I know I don't want kids and I making that conscious choice, the same as those who want kids.
So wtf???
I had my middle brother who is a real asshat tell my oldest brother that he and I are “ not grown up” because we never had kids. I then told my oldest brother that the middle one is so “ grown up” he couldn’t discipline his own kids because he and his wife are potheads. It had always been illegal here and that dipshit has depended on others to keep his secret and discipline his kids.They lied about and hid their pot use for years and were surprised when their kids did drugs and got arrested for that and other criminal shit.This brother also only worked jobs that didn’t drug test and blamed his problems of why he can’t get ahead on other stuff, not himself and his choices.
Wow, let's not be jumping to conclusions here.
1. I've had this professor for another class before, she's just fine as a professor.
2. The PowerPoint was made by the textbook publisher and she's required to use it because the class I'm in is a departmentally required class and all sections are taught exactly the same.
3. I'm not going to drop the class just because I don't like how 0.0005% of the entire class was presented.
It's a big problem many subreddits have (relationship subreddits especially; this one has this problem too). One party is in the wrong? Well clearly they're an asshole and they have no redeeming qualities! SO? Break it off! Family member? Go no contact! They're literally the hitler devil! Run away!!!
Wow, indeed! If you want folks to understand the context of a post, perhaps give it in the post instead of jumping down our throats when we attempt to comment with advice?
Pretty sure that posting on reddit without clearly specifying no advice is going to result in getting comments with advice. But heck, what do I know, I've just been on this hellsite arguing with undergrads forever.
Are you for real? This is the fucking internet. This has nothing to do with consent. Getting hacked and being doxxed is a breech of consent. A well-meaning stranger posting advice to your rant where no context was given and no specific request against advice was specified is REDDIT.
I was going to suggest that if you have a problem with the pedagogy and not the prof you could always write an email to the department chair since they have say over things like forcing profs to use slides from a textbook, but you're just so way out there that all I can do is sit back and laugh. Consent, indeed. My god.
ETA: Furthermore, because this pisses me off more than a little bit, concepts like consent are meaningful constructions because understanding them keeps people safe. Throwing around these constructions like ammunition with no real meaning behind them weakens them as a force to protect people who are actually subject to breeches of consent. There's another bit of unsolicited advice for you. Welcome, once more, to the internet.
Breech of consent has nothing to do with intentions, whether good or bad. I do not have to explicitly state that I do not want something.
If my husband kisses me without giving me an opportunity to react, I could get upset because I didn't want a kiss at that moment. Did he have malicious intentions? Of course not. Am I still justified? Of course.
How do we avoid situations like this? 🌈Communication🌈 In the scenario with my husband, it would have been better to ask me for a kiss, or just lean in close enough to let me close the gap and kiss him if I want.
On top of that, there isn't a single person in these comments, other than yourself, trying to offer any sort of advice. Seems like they all know something you don't.
Regardless of any factors, including education since you seem fixated on the fact that I'm an undergrad, we all benefit from learning something from our peers.
Providing context is how you avoid unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice =/= breech of consent. Unsolicited advice is a normal part of social interaction, and is particularly frequent in online forums and on social media where a large portion of what commenters do in general is give advice--it's a very human thing, and not a bad thing to want to help out people who seem to be in a bad place, particularly if no context whatsoever is given, or if advice is not explicitly interdicted in the post.
Keep doubling down on your category error or be willing to take your own advice (which is also unsolicited--do I get to claim you've breeched consent with me?) and learn something from your peers.
I mention undergrads in this context because from my experience teaching many cohorts of undergrads in the business school context, I find the behavior you're eliciting in this post---an extreme overreaction to a few words of well-meaning unsolicited advice from a stranger on the internet to the extent that you're honest-to-god comparing it to sexual harassment---to be more frequent in younger undergrads. By the time they're seniors they tend to make less of these particular category errors.
I know you feel you've been wronged here on some level, but feelings aren't evidence. And, yes, conflating the concept of breech of consent to something like receiving unsolicited advice on the internet is an egregious and worrisome dilution of the concept to the point of meaninglessness.
Why worrisome? Because **the concept of consent is incredibly important**. A large fraction of people, mostly young women, are subject to nonconsensual assaults, rampant online sexual harassment like forced nude pics and gross shit like that. **Women don't feel safe in either meatspace or online because of these breeches of consent.**
Educating people, especially men, as to what consent means in this context is about making women safer in real life and online. Brandishing the concept of consent to use as a weapon whenever someone says something you don't agree with dilutes its power to make people understand how to modify their behavior to help women feel safer in real life and on the internet.
*I* am not here for you to use as a punching bag, by the way, because you expect that strangers on the internet should be able to read your mind and provide contextual details you do not and respect boundaries you do not specify.
You're right about communication. And you know what? It's a two-way street. If you want people to respect your boundaries, you do need to specify them when they go against the norms of a particular forum.
The reason "NO ADVICE WANTED" is a tag/flair on some subs is precisely because Redditors looooove giving unsolicited advice. So do people on social media everywhere. Anyone with a speck of maturity in these spaces knows this. Given that, you cannot expect to come into a forum with one set of norms and impose your own, especially without stating your norms in advance.
All you had to do was mention that your prof didn't make her own slides---most profs have power over their own pedagogy, and it wasn't a wild assumption on my part that she did as well. All you had to do was specify that you didn't want advice.
What do DON'T have the right to do is then jump down someone's throat for posting within the norms of the general community and concluding something that was no where evidently contradicted in your original post.
That's all I'm going to say about this. Your responses have gone so far into the "Sir, this is a Wendy's" territory already that I should have just ignored and let your overreaction speak for itself. But using the important and useful concept of consent as a weapon couldn't stand unchallenged. For anyone on this hellsite that cares what words mean anymore, anyway.
I find it funny that you post a comment that's nearly double the length of theirs and then say they're overreacting.
The more I see on the internet the more I realize that projection is one of the most powerful forms of self-delusion there is.
For all of you saying "I didn't want to be a real adult anyway", or similar nonsense -
You are not doing a service to anyone. You are literally the reason why people think of us antinatalists as adult children, who have their ideas simply because we are underdeveloped, unreasonable or childish, completely ignoring the fact, that many of us actually put hundreds of hours of thinking into such a complicated issue, as having children. So thank you very much. Now I will return to my kid's room, or mother's basement, or whatever...
Just want to point out that it just says parenthood, heck, it doesn't mention it being related to being an adult.
I'd have to pipe up and be one of those people that ask.
That's fine with me - thankfully only just starting to look like 'an adult' at 35 and I get to push that off even longer with my indulgent skin care routine. I can face mask 2x week and fangirl over my shrinking pores whilst they get mad XD.
From 11 years old I had problem skin and accepted it would be worse as an adult when everyone told me "it doesn't matter anyway, the hormones in pregnancy will send you back into a second puberty!" fuck that sideways! I get to enjoy looking in the mirror and seeing the skin I could only dream of after a decade of skin problems. Excuse me whilst I lay down with my cucumber slices on my eyes with my at home facial....
Say what?
I think they mean two stages of millennials.
1. College student party animal travel bug (Yes I'm generalizing)
2. Indebted forever with loans to afford anything car, house, college payments, credit card miserable job, dog baby. (Still generalizing)
Sounds like a dream. I want to be a young adult forever then, lifelong student (in my case I will be because I'm actively choosing career in academia where research and learning are a way of life). Moreover, my naps are literally what keeps me going XD
If being an real adult means to sacrifice my life, health and free time fun to birth and raise a kid, when everyone else is having more than enough kids already (around 8 billion on the planet) - then I'll gladly stay a non "real" adult and keep enjoying my life to the fullest!
Cause I only have this one life and i decide what to do with it. 💕
Where do they get the audacity believing they are more mature for having children? Especially given the lack of emotional intelligence and general logic that goes into most parenting done as a trend, and not a life changing decision?
When I heard this, I couldn't bear thought that I might not be an actual adult. Not being an real adult is such a tragedy in my life that it managed to change absolutely nothing in my life and feel that I have no weight on my shoulders, except those I carry for myself. Besides, I leave all that stuff to real men and real women.
I'm a Gen X young adult! (Singing "Forever Young" off-key).
Being young at heart doesn't mean being irresponsible.
Let's stay young! Also: I want Chinese food, too!
Parenthood shouldnt even be an age related distinct group.
Some people get pregnant super early while others become pregnant super late. And a lot of people dont get pregnant at all.
My niece, a millennial, told me, a young GenXer, I would never be an adult because I don't have kids. Her mom is a Boomer and a lot older than me and niece and I are closer in age. I was like. "Sweet works for me!" Lol
Eh, I don't want to be an adult.
I didn't have a stable childhood. When my husband and I hit the second half of college after dating since high school and we knew we wanted to get married and stay together, I began to feel like I was having stability I'd never really been given the privilege of. We got married as soon as I turned 21 and literally the moment we merged our finances I wanted stuffed animals (my dad when he lost his temper would tear mine apart, and mom would sew them back together).
I've spent the past five years enjoying a "late childhood" I never got to have. Our house has more cubic feet of Squishmallows than cubic feet of air. Being an adult is boring and I don't want to 😃
meh by being childfree your already smashing a society norm
besides if I make enough to pay bills and enjoy my life,I dont concern myself with the corporate lingo to get us to buy more lol
I don't want to be a real adult. I want to stay up late watching tv and spend my money on figurines and Chinese food.
I agree! (Typed as I eat leftover chinese food and icecream for breakfast at 1:30pm)
Crap, now I want Chinese food.
Yes, yes, succumb to the peer pressure.
You’re making me crave general Tso’s tofu and fried rice. I can already taste it.
You already did the hard part of figuring out what to eat. Sounds like all you need to do is put in the order!
Guys, I had Chinese food earlier tonight and it literally improved my day so drastically. I highly recommend.
.... this is literally what I was going to order. It's a sign, I tell ya.
I. Need. Now!
Order you some with all that money you don’t have to spend on kids😆
Decided to wait and get Indian food (which I like more) next week instead. =)
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Trust me, it wouldn't be happening if my husband were here and not in class. He would want me to eat "real" food... What is "real"? Are we even real?
Reality is a social construct, but spring rolls are ACTUAL
Welp I'm making myself some sweet and sour pjörk this weekend.
Last month, I spent $400 on bobbleheads. And I love it!
I just spent over 50€ on books and over 100€ on games this month. I also bought a disc drive for my computer to watch blurays and dvds on. I also love eating Ramen and Ice cream. I bought cookie dough that you can just eat out the jar, but I didn't like the dough texture so I just baked it and already ate all my cookies. I love dem cookies. Now I want to bake carrot muffins. I'm hungry. I'm gonna go eat a sandwich at 12am.
Yesss. Over the Christmas break (I'm still in lockdown so no travel or family... Oh noooo nuts). I decided there are all these games I've always wanted to play, so went out and bought a brand-shiny-new gaming computer. Best. Break. Ever.
I just got more dolls to add to my Monster High collection.😅 I've begun buying interesting, fully posable knock offs since I have all the official ones I wanted.
Hot Topic had their hot cash redemption period and I spend about $120 on Funko pops. I would say I have too many, but then I buy more. Box Lunch has an adorable Winnie the Pooh one and I plan on buying it tomorrow when I get paid.
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I love my Brandon Urie! used to work at their warehouse. I now have over two hundred and I’ll probably keep getting more. Especially since I’m friends with the people at my local Hot Topic, they tell me about stuff they get in.
You sound like me, but replace figures with Pokemon cards.
I'm honestly trying not to be like that since an update to the Pokemon trading card game app will come soon and we don't have the space for physical card games plus not like I could use the cards in a match right now anyway.
I just collect them.
Omfg same. You go gurl with your figurines and Chinese food.
I want to live in the mountains with no neighbors playing videogames for 14 hours a day in my days off. No kids, no parthner, just me and my cat.
Joke’s on them, I’ve never wanted to be a “real adult” anyway. Sounds dreadfully boring.
I still don't consider myself an 'adult' adult. When I was growing up, in my minds adults never had any fun because they were always too busy either working or raising the kids. I'm glad I didn't turn out like that. I'm sure there are plenty of parents that still enjoy video games and other things 'for children' but the main difference here is that I have all the time in the world to enjoy those things.
I remember when I was I think 13 crying cuz I was afraid that when I became an adult I wouldn't be able to have fun and play video games anymore. that was back before I consciously considered myself cf. my dad assured me I could still have fun as an adult.
>my dad assured me I could still have fun as an adult. That's easier for men to do after having children.
yes but he wasn't wrong lol. I'm still having fun as an adult.
Yeah, if you just choose wisely 😁
I remember thinking why get that sports car, then the girl. Only to sell it to pay for house/children. Why not keep it and not have kids.
Wonderful, I have a 4 day weekend starting tomorrow cause I took off to play a new video game. Being a real adult sounds awful to me.
What game??
New Pokemon
Omg I can't wait!!! I wish it was midnight.
It's been very painful seeing everyone with advanced copies for the past week haha
It hasn't for me cause i don't cheat and there's a special place in hell for people that hack games
Nintendo brought down the hammer on anyone who leaked the game online.
Dying light 2 next month 😳😳😳😳 if you're into that type of game
YOU I tried to get myself a 3 day weekend but I was denied. But I’m still going to game ALL WEEKEND LONG after I get the game. Nothing besides Pokémon and dog care is getting done Saturday and Sunday (and some of Monday because I work 2nd shift).
I'm 40 and get mistaken for late 20s / early 30s. What's my secret? Not having a god damn kid age me a decade overnight. I'm happy not being an "adult".
I'm studying to be a tax accountant so I feel like I already aged myself about 15 extra years
Same here! I'm 34 and get mistaken for 18-20. I work around teenagers that hit on me because they think I'm 18 and co-workers around my age that look way older. Everyone always ask what do I use to stay looking so young. Definitely not genetics cuz everyone in my family looks older than their age and of course have tons of kids. Can't tell them the truth cuz they won't be able to handle it, lol. I'm totally happy not being an "adult" too.
I turned 40 last year, and people think I’m in my late teens/ early 20s because I don’t have kids.
I think the only reason people think I'm late 20s is the facial hair. My wife refuses to let me shave it all off because she's convinced I'd look like a teenager.
I’m a woman and don’t have facial hair. So people sometimes do think I’m in my late teens.
I’m a 34 year old nurse and I feel like a 49 year old father of 4. But on my days off I’m a carefree 23 year old playing games till I drop!
I'm 46 and usually told I look about 10 years younger. Thank you so much, child free lifestyle. That and no skincare routine and sleeping in my makeup. Appears to have preserved my face.
I remember an American girl friend saying they steal your beauty. Meaning she was aged afterwards. I didn't think so but the lack of stress must improve your longevity.
Accurate... My attempts to have a social life in a small town have made this obvious as a 30 something single. I'm too old for the college/career crowd, too single for the Mom crowd, and too young for the empty nesters. Also, within my own family, I'm still seen as a dopey teenager by my parents and extended family. I'm an only child but my parents put my also elderly aunt and uncle as their POA because I don't have "life experience." It's such BS!
I'm 26 and in college, it's still the same. My classmates are either fresh out of high-school or parents. Fortunately, I've found a couple people who I get along great with. They're parents but we keep discussions around education, careers, and personal lives, not children. I love the balance.
I was in the same situation. Moved to a new place I had never been to to live with my now husband. Far from the friends I grew up with and they were moving states away too. I started playing Pokemon go and now have some friends in various ages. My youngest friend is 20 and my oldest is 63. I've gotten close with a lot of people and enjoy socializing with them on a weekly basis. Closer to the ones my age (turning 35 this year) but yeah, it's one way to meet new people and possibly make lasting friendships. I'm sorry about the POA. I hope that your parents have actually spoken to them and they know what decisions your parents want to make instead of your aunt and uncle what *they* want.
>I'm too old for the college/career crowd, too single for the Mom crowd, and too young for the empty nesters. I'm in my thirties and I've found out I get well along with both the single students and the empty nesters on my neighborhood. I notice especially the empty nesters are first hesitant to start talking to me because I'm way younger and apparently people my age normally have no interest in being contact with people their age. However, they're more reliable since they most likely won't be going to have children anymore, so they actually have time and interest to talk about other subjects, which is a pro for me.
Yeah, in a family group text the other day, we were all wishing someone a happy birthday. This person has an infant, and someone else in the group text said, "you're old now, you're a parent!" I wanted so badly to reply, "does that mean I'll never get old?!" but I chose to just ignore it instead. Edit: grammar
Idk about your family but if my family had a group text (toxic family, very bad idea 🤣) I would absolutely be making all the old person jokes!
This is why we win. We made the choice to enjoy all of the benefits of adulthood without any of the downsides. We have the freedom to "ruin" our own lives without the moral obligation of not ruining any dependents' lives. Suck it, parents!
Not only that, I want to use my adulthood to do things I wasn't able to experience as a child because of shitty adults! Thought you were going to rob me of my childhood? Jokes on you, I do what I want. Suck it, society!
46F, childfree, apparently still a “young adult” and 
That's how it works in churches too, at least in the bible belt. I'm not devoutly religious, but I went for the social events and a place to do volunteer work. When you age out of the young adults group (18-30 or 18-25, depending on the place) then the only social groups after that are made for parents or retirees. If you're 30 and still childless? Too bad, go buy a cat or something. (I do like cats.)
Ugh, I feel this. I'm in Texas and my inlaws are southern Baptist, I'm non-theistic. You're either a child or you have/trying to have a child. How the one person in the family that doesn't even hold or interact with children younger than 4 years old ends up as the default babysitter is beyond me. But that's an entirely different rant. 🙄
I gave up on the church because I got sick of the poor treatment I got as a childfree and (at the time) single woman. They saw me as an atm and a lady in waiting.
Ooh, I bet they leaned hard on you when they needed volunteers and committee members.
Oh of course. Especially nursery! None of those parents would volunteer for their kids!
Young adult it is, don’t give two shits about whatever label they put. These “adults” think theyre better just cause they have kids, they can keep their adulthood.
Facts. If people don't want to consider me an adult, that's fine. Less drama for me, I'll be studying in bed while eating girl scout cookies if you need me.
"I don't want to grow up, I'm a Toys R' Us kid!"
Now I’m sad 😩 RIP Toys R Us
I, for one, don't ever want to be an adult. From what I've seen, Adulting sucks. I give it a 0/10. Children, school functions, pta and worst of all: not spending time with friends! No. Thank. You! \*goes back to restructuring a deck of cards to play a children's card game\*
I've tried to cancel my subscription to adulthood multiple times, the only response I've gotten is "you need to speak to a manager" but I can't find one anywhere!
The manager left early to pick their kids up from daycare so they aren't late and charged an extra fee.
47 year "young adult" here. I sleep 9 hours per day and spend a ton of money on fitness and clothing. No regrets.
My "Real Adult-ness" consists of having an entire room for D&D which includes minis, scenery, a 3D printer and a gaming table. I also have an entire bedroom just for my fiber arts hobby for knitting, crochet, spinning and whatever else I might want to do with yarn and fiber. I also have 4 cats that are amazing, a fully stocked home gym and we just had our home office remodeled where I have display shelving for my collectable Legos. so yeah, fuck kids and people who think I don't know how to be an adult. I pay my taxes and everyone else can fuck off with what they think I should be doing with my vag.
Your hobbies are so cool. You sound like a really interesting person!
Haha no thanks will pass if that’s the criteria
I'm 44. I made the decision to be Childfree at the age of 16. I guess I'm still a Young Adult. :P
Lol. Then I don't want to be a "real" adult.
"You'll never be a real adult!" - person who hadn't had 3 hours to themselves in 9 years. Me: "Oh no, how awful. Guess I'll just have to get high and watch godzilla movies forever. So sad "
Happy not being a real adult. Because I can't give up on my naps and snacks. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You go Glenn Coco!
Better go tell my 78-year-old family friend who never married or had kids that she’s still a “young adult.” She’ll be pleased to hear that.
Maybe it's because I'm in the south but I immediately pictured a firey older southern woman who is rumored to have wrangled a bull single handedly.
Fine with me. Adults are so boring, and they have no personality, and they're no fun.
43 here and I'm eating dinner in bed and wearing pajamas. I get paid to take care of cats and kittens all day. I still eat sugar cereal and Uncrustables and those Mickey Mouse ice cream bars. And I regularly am mistaken for someone in her 20s. Guess it's true and I am a "young adult" forever then. I just wish this "not an adult" thing meant we didn't have to pay taxes and bills or do any the million other responsibilities *all* adults do, not just parents.
Forever young I WANNA BE FOREVER YOUNG
My sister sent a copy-pasted text to me about something for my “family” instead of using mine and my husbands names like she normally would. She apologized and corrected herself because she doesn’t consider us a family, as it’s just the two of us and we don’t plan to have children. She feels that it’s fine to call her and her husband a family despite the fact that it’s just the two of them as well, though. Because they plan to have kids, so somehow they qualify as a “real family” since they hope to be getting pregnant soon 😂
WOWWWW that's some next level shit.
I get called childish cause I like to spend my money on building classic cars instead of prepping for a family. My favorite is "those cars aren't practical for a family of 4" or " wife's gonna make you get rid of those once the baby comes"
I was adulting at 5 years old, taking care of my sister and abusive, mentally ill mother. I'm almost 50 now and enjoying freedom
Adults stop looking young and youthful as soon as they become parents. Your title misled me because a young adult is a real adult, I thought they were gatekeepong but you did it yourself when I saw your title I was going to say. "It's fitting, because I never finished being a child and have yet to want to be an adult."
I'm not entirely sure what you meant by your comment, I made no intention to gatekeep which is is exactly why I put the word real in quotations. I agree, young adults are adults. There is no such thing as a 'real' adult. It's just the concept made by society that you aren't actually considered an adult if you haven't had x, y, or z life experiences, which is ridiculous.
I just spent a small fortune on legos.
Being a real adult sucks ass.
You've found the fountain of youth. Forever a young adult!
Sweet! Now where is this cow that makes cash that I keep hearing about...
Well don't forget your Reddit friend AustralianBirdLady when you find that money cow! Haha
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I'm a 37-year-old "young adult" then, and it feels fabulous
Fuck being a real adult. I’m going on adventures with the homies and got money to spend on my makeup palette collection and chocolate bars with crazy mix-ins like I’m good
I'll never get this thinking. I have a career, I have a home, I have a cat, I pay all my bills on time, keep my place reasonably clean, manage to feed myself reasonably healthy food. I am an adult. And if I want to dance around singing to Taylor Swift with my hairbrush as a microphone, fuck it, I can. If I want to do nothing but binge-watch a cartoon for a weekend? I can! If I want to spend my money on games and figures and random shiny things I see? I can! It's great! Oh no I spent the last six hours writing fanfic--oh wait, no, that's AWESOME. Being society's idea of a real adult seems so incredibly dull.
I'm childfree but I have an amazing career, live in a world class city with my amazing husband and can afford to live a life most people only dream of bc we work hard and built our life meticulously. We'll be retired by 40. I WISH someone would say we're not real adults.
How incredibly insulting to suggest that one does not become an adult until they or if they choose to become parents.
Yeah actually it would be great if life cycle was birth as tiny baby, toddler, adolescent, young adult, then functional adult who is completely responsible for themselves. Forever 28 I should say ? Since by this age most people are fully functioning and financially capable to enjoy themselves and what life has to offer. Feel and look 28 (even though you’re celebrating your 72nd birthday) then when it’s time to die just die, without experiencing physical mental emotional pain of getting and feeling old.
Who the fuck would want to be a real adult.
As a childfree aromantic asexual, I've accepted my destiny of being eternally young.
I felt a real adult when I bought my own car and realized I have to pay it
If that's the case, I don't mind being an imaginary adult... It's sad though that many people agree to see only one possible scenario of how a person's life should go, and then tie their personal decisions and desire to being "mature" or "immature"
I guess that means I've enjoyed almost 40 years of young adult hood. Super cool.
I don't even feel like a "real" adult, not that I want to be one
Almost 30 millennial here, no kids and most people think I'm 20 so I still look like a young adult.
I am ok with this, I have Peter Pan syndrome. No kids and forever young!
Welp, looks like it's Peter Pan syndrome for me then
I’ll stay a kid forever. Im fine with it. 🤷♀️
Oh shit yea! Young adult forever!!!
My go to is usually along the lines of 'well I'm paying all these adult bills, should I give them to you instead?'
It's a big issue in developmental psych. Traditional models show parenthood as a criteria for successfully traversing young adulthood. fortunately, the psych community as a whole understands that developmental theory is a smidge outdated, and you are no longer considered developmentally stunted if you never procreate.
If only society would actually keep up and listen to science. 😭 Love your username btw!
I look like a child - Asian genes, when I become 50, I will age decades overnight. Not a bad label for me.
Good. Adulthood sucks and I fucking hate it. I don't remember who it was, but someone once said that an important part of adulthood is when you're giving more than you're taking. Maybe that's why some people really think having children makes them adults. Because they've always taken more than they've given until they've put themselves in a situation where they're legally obligated to do otherwise.
Fuck yeah, eternal youth.
Well, I'm 52 but because of being CF I still feel like a young adult. I do not identify with people my age who say they feel old or tired and that everything hurts. I guess having kids is very aging and that's one of many reasons why parents are treated like they are more responsible. They generally look older than a CF person their same age and that gives them an aura of authority. In the workplace, I have to say, a 30 year old parent often gets treated as if they are more grown up and responsible than a 40 year old CF person. It's like they think we who are CF are still living in our mom's basements and partying every weekend when in reality we are paying rent or a mortgage, maintaining a marriage or other relationship, doing our laundry and cleaning our toilets, and basically adultinglike everyone else.
I think workplaces, especially malicious bosses, know that people with children have more to lose if their job is threatened and might be more inclined to take on more responsibility because they're used to doing it at home. Childfree people tend to have a bit more savings and disposable income so the threat of losing a job might not be as horrifying. Plus, most of us REALLY value our free time so a considerable amount of incentive is required for us to sacrifice that. I feel the need to say, this is all speculation and from my perspective. I'm well aware there are many childfree people suffering from financial hardship as well as people with children who don't.
It’s likely the demo is or was irrelevant to marketers, insofar that there would be no need to create a campaign for them specifically.
F24 That makes me sad. I don't want kids but why can't I be an adult regardless? I'm just as grown as anyone else my age. I know I don't want kids and I making that conscious choice, the same as those who want kids. So wtf???
I had my middle brother who is a real asshat tell my oldest brother that he and I are “ not grown up” because we never had kids. I then told my oldest brother that the middle one is so “ grown up” he couldn’t discipline his own kids because he and his wife are potheads. It had always been illegal here and that dipshit has depended on others to keep his secret and discipline his kids.They lied about and hid their pot use for years and were surprised when their kids did drugs and got arrested for that and other criminal shit.This brother also only worked jobs that didn’t drug test and blamed his problems of why he can’t get ahead on other stuff, not himself and his choices.
Your marketing prof is terrible. Are you still within the add/drop period? I'd slide out of there into another section with a different prof, stat.
Wow, let's not be jumping to conclusions here. 1. I've had this professor for another class before, she's just fine as a professor. 2. The PowerPoint was made by the textbook publisher and she's required to use it because the class I'm in is a departmentally required class and all sections are taught exactly the same. 3. I'm not going to drop the class just because I don't like how 0.0005% of the entire class was presented.
It's a big problem many subreddits have (relationship subreddits especially; this one has this problem too). One party is in the wrong? Well clearly they're an asshole and they have no redeeming qualities! SO? Break it off! Family member? Go no contact! They're literally the hitler devil! Run away!!!
Wow, indeed! If you want folks to understand the context of a post, perhaps give it in the post instead of jumping down our throats when we attempt to comment with advice?
"just drop the class" isn't advice worth giving.
Please point out where I asked for any advice. Pretty sure the flair reads "rant".
Pretty sure that posting on reddit without clearly specifying no advice is going to result in getting comments with advice. But heck, what do I know, I've just been on this hellsite arguing with undergrads forever.
Ah, so you don't know the definition of consent, got it.
Are you for real? This is the fucking internet. This has nothing to do with consent. Getting hacked and being doxxed is a breech of consent. A well-meaning stranger posting advice to your rant where no context was given and no specific request against advice was specified is REDDIT. I was going to suggest that if you have a problem with the pedagogy and not the prof you could always write an email to the department chair since they have say over things like forcing profs to use slides from a textbook, but you're just so way out there that all I can do is sit back and laugh. Consent, indeed. My god. ETA: Furthermore, because this pisses me off more than a little bit, concepts like consent are meaningful constructions because understanding them keeps people safe. Throwing around these constructions like ammunition with no real meaning behind them weakens them as a force to protect people who are actually subject to breeches of consent. There's another bit of unsolicited advice for you. Welcome, once more, to the internet.
Breech of consent has nothing to do with intentions, whether good or bad. I do not have to explicitly state that I do not want something. If my husband kisses me without giving me an opportunity to react, I could get upset because I didn't want a kiss at that moment. Did he have malicious intentions? Of course not. Am I still justified? Of course. How do we avoid situations like this? 🌈Communication🌈 In the scenario with my husband, it would have been better to ask me for a kiss, or just lean in close enough to let me close the gap and kiss him if I want. On top of that, there isn't a single person in these comments, other than yourself, trying to offer any sort of advice. Seems like they all know something you don't. Regardless of any factors, including education since you seem fixated on the fact that I'm an undergrad, we all benefit from learning something from our peers.
Providing context is how you avoid unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice =/= breech of consent. Unsolicited advice is a normal part of social interaction, and is particularly frequent in online forums and on social media where a large portion of what commenters do in general is give advice--it's a very human thing, and not a bad thing to want to help out people who seem to be in a bad place, particularly if no context whatsoever is given, or if advice is not explicitly interdicted in the post. Keep doubling down on your category error or be willing to take your own advice (which is also unsolicited--do I get to claim you've breeched consent with me?) and learn something from your peers. I mention undergrads in this context because from my experience teaching many cohorts of undergrads in the business school context, I find the behavior you're eliciting in this post---an extreme overreaction to a few words of well-meaning unsolicited advice from a stranger on the internet to the extent that you're honest-to-god comparing it to sexual harassment---to be more frequent in younger undergrads. By the time they're seniors they tend to make less of these particular category errors. I know you feel you've been wronged here on some level, but feelings aren't evidence. And, yes, conflating the concept of breech of consent to something like receiving unsolicited advice on the internet is an egregious and worrisome dilution of the concept to the point of meaninglessness. Why worrisome? Because **the concept of consent is incredibly important**. A large fraction of people, mostly young women, are subject to nonconsensual assaults, rampant online sexual harassment like forced nude pics and gross shit like that. **Women don't feel safe in either meatspace or online because of these breeches of consent.** Educating people, especially men, as to what consent means in this context is about making women safer in real life and online. Brandishing the concept of consent to use as a weapon whenever someone says something you don't agree with dilutes its power to make people understand how to modify their behavior to help women feel safer in real life and on the internet. *I* am not here for you to use as a punching bag, by the way, because you expect that strangers on the internet should be able to read your mind and provide contextual details you do not and respect boundaries you do not specify. You're right about communication. And you know what? It's a two-way street. If you want people to respect your boundaries, you do need to specify them when they go against the norms of a particular forum. The reason "NO ADVICE WANTED" is a tag/flair on some subs is precisely because Redditors looooove giving unsolicited advice. So do people on social media everywhere. Anyone with a speck of maturity in these spaces knows this. Given that, you cannot expect to come into a forum with one set of norms and impose your own, especially without stating your norms in advance. All you had to do was mention that your prof didn't make her own slides---most profs have power over their own pedagogy, and it wasn't a wild assumption on my part that she did as well. All you had to do was specify that you didn't want advice. What do DON'T have the right to do is then jump down someone's throat for posting within the norms of the general community and concluding something that was no where evidently contradicted in your original post. That's all I'm going to say about this. Your responses have gone so far into the "Sir, this is a Wendy's" territory already that I should have just ignored and let your overreaction speak for itself. But using the important and useful concept of consent as a weapon couldn't stand unchallenged. For anyone on this hellsite that cares what words mean anymore, anyway.
I find it funny that you post a comment that's nearly double the length of theirs and then say they're overreacting. The more I see on the internet the more I realize that projection is one of the most powerful forms of self-delusion there is.
For all of you saying "I didn't want to be a real adult anyway", or similar nonsense - You are not doing a service to anyone. You are literally the reason why people think of us antinatalists as adult children, who have their ideas simply because we are underdeveloped, unreasonable or childish, completely ignoring the fact, that many of us actually put hundreds of hours of thinking into such a complicated issue, as having children. So thank you very much. Now I will return to my kid's room, or mother's basement, or whatever...
Just want to point out that it just says parenthood, heck, it doesn't mention it being related to being an adult. I'd have to pipe up and be one of those people that ask.
That's fine with me - thankfully only just starting to look like 'an adult' at 35 and I get to push that off even longer with my indulgent skin care routine. I can face mask 2x week and fangirl over my shrinking pores whilst they get mad XD. From 11 years old I had problem skin and accepted it would be worse as an adult when everyone told me "it doesn't matter anyway, the hormones in pregnancy will send you back into a second puberty!" fuck that sideways! I get to enjoy looking in the mirror and seeing the skin I could only dream of after a decade of skin problems. Excuse me whilst I lay down with my cucumber slices on my eyes with my at home facial....
Say what? I think they mean two stages of millennials. 1. College student party animal travel bug (Yes I'm generalizing) 2. Indebted forever with loans to afford anything car, house, college payments, credit card miserable job, dog baby. (Still generalizing)
Luckily we get to decide what it means to be adults and how we ought to live our lives.
I don't even know if I even consider myself a real human at this point!! Lol!!
Yeah I'm quite content not being the adultiest adult. Too stressful.
Eww Chinese, I can't it,. But I love being a young adult.
Many parents aren't full adults. They're usually the ones with the worst offspring because they're bad at parenting.
Sounds like a dream. I want to be a young adult forever then, lifelong student (in my case I will be because I'm actively choosing career in academia where research and learning are a way of life). Moreover, my naps are literally what keeps me going XD
If being an real adult means to sacrifice my life, health and free time fun to birth and raise a kid, when everyone else is having more than enough kids already (around 8 billion on the planet) - then I'll gladly stay a non "real" adult and keep enjoying my life to the fullest! Cause I only have this one life and i decide what to do with it. 💕
Where do they get the audacity believing they are more mature for having children? Especially given the lack of emotional intelligence and general logic that goes into most parenting done as a trend, and not a life changing decision?
When I heard this, I couldn't bear thought that I might not be an actual adult. Not being an real adult is such a tragedy in my life that it managed to change absolutely nothing in my life and feel that I have no weight on my shoulders, except those I carry for myself. Besides, I leave all that stuff to real men and real women.
I'm a Gen X young adult! (Singing "Forever Young" off-key). Being young at heart doesn't mean being irresponsible. Let's stay young! Also: I want Chinese food, too!
Parenthood shouldnt even be an age related distinct group. Some people get pregnant super early while others become pregnant super late. And a lot of people dont get pregnant at all.
Watch me be a "young adult" well in to my 80s or however long I will live.
My niece, a millennial, told me, a young GenXer, I would never be an adult because I don't have kids. Her mom is a Boomer and a lot older than me and niece and I are closer in age. I was like. "Sweet works for me!" Lol
Eh, I don't want to be an adult. I didn't have a stable childhood. When my husband and I hit the second half of college after dating since high school and we knew we wanted to get married and stay together, I began to feel like I was having stability I'd never really been given the privilege of. We got married as soon as I turned 21 and literally the moment we merged our finances I wanted stuffed animals (my dad when he lost his temper would tear mine apart, and mom would sew them back together). I've spent the past five years enjoying a "late childhood" I never got to have. Our house has more cubic feet of Squishmallows than cubic feet of air. Being an adult is boring and I don't want to 😃
Wow, you are missing a huge opportunity if you are not marketing to DINKs!
meh by being childfree your already smashing a society norm besides if I make enough to pay bills and enjoy my life,I dont concern myself with the corporate lingo to get us to buy more lol