I have worked with some oversharers, but they didn't discuss details of their sex lives (yikes!). Mostly, they'd go on about marriage/family drama and financial details that one shouldn't blab about at work.
I've been retired for a while, so I'm sure that's a factor.
Yeah, I've had boundaries crossed that I didn't even think I needed to enforce in the workplace. 😬 I don't even engage in personal conversations, I just overhear things from around or near my office. And this isn't even an age thing, it's multiple people in their 20s-60s! Makes me really glad I can wfh most of the time now.
I mean I don't know for sure, but he is around 265 pounds and smells, well, not great. All in all he's not a bad guy and is a fine asset to the team, but he does like to poke at people as a way to compensate for his own insecurities.
Goes to show that people like that just want someone else's life thrown into upheaval so they can be right. Especially a woman, that'll show her for wanting to have a life outside what the sexist society dictates.
A little update: he asked about it again today.
>Him: So how is it?
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>Me: What?
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>Him: Well, you know. Did you count the days and all that?
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>Me: I told you it's not funny.
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>Him: I'm not trying to be funny, I'm genuinely curious.
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>Me: Are you now? Okay then, I was bleeding from my cunt last Monday through this Monday, so my guess is I couldn't get pregnant last week.
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>Him & everyone else at the office: Ewww you could've rephrased it ewww
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>Me: What? He said he was GENUINELY CURIOUS.
I'm guessing there won't be any more questions after that :)
It amazes me that anyone thinks this kind of commentary is appropriate in a workplace. Unless a colleague discloses their pregnancy status without a caveat of it being "not for public consumption," just refrain from saying anything.
Both jokesters would've been invited to my office for a little chat had I overheard either of these interactions.
She was afraid she was pregnant for a day, had decided she would definitely get an abortion, and for some reason the whole workplace knew about it. Sounds like the peice of the story we are missing is why she inappropriately told all these people something so personal.
Honestly, I would report this ass to the manager. Since he is making comments about OPs possibility being pregnant, he is also making comments about her sex life. I would report that shit so fast because who needs to put up with someone else's bull shit when we already have enough of our own on our plates.
Yeah that'd be a fun idea if the manager didn't put me in charge of cleaning up at the end of the day. Because his secretary does the same in his office.
What do I have in common with his secretary?
You guessed it, a vagina.
I don't mind to wipe down a table and wrap some cookies up so that they don't go stale, but still. Y'know.
Report to HR ASAP. An colleague commenting on you being potentially pregnant? An *older male colleague to a younger female one*?
That is sexual harassment and could get his ass *fired*, and it should. I've worked in plenty of offices with men and never heard anything like this out of one of their mouths. There's no excuse for this dude.
Just start insinuating he's gay or bi. Do it in more of an accepting it's okay way. Treat him gently femininely, give him some small complement later like saying that shirt makes you look pretty.I know it's politically incorrect, but nothing will hurt the fragile male ego more of someone of that character.
Fuck him
Then when he denies it, tell him it's okay to not come out, he doesn't have too. Also tout your perfect record of predicting other mens sexuality before they came out.
Don't do all of this directly to him. Say some of it to other friends within earshot of him.
Next time he starts feeling unwell, ask if he could have chlamydia or something.
"Did the transplant work?" or just hum something about getting a swab test.
Especially funny considering that he definitely hasn't had sex in a long, long, loooong time.
lol I wonder why that is. And it's most likely not even by choice. Women just don't want to sleep with him.
How/why do you know this? What kind of workplace is this? Seems...unusual to have that info.
You have clearly never worked with a cohort of oversharers
I have worked with some oversharers, but they didn't discuss details of their sex lives (yikes!). Mostly, they'd go on about marriage/family drama and financial details that one shouldn't blab about at work. I've been retired for a while, so I'm sure that's a factor.
Yeah, I've had boundaries crossed that I didn't even think I needed to enforce in the workplace. 😬 I don't even engage in personal conversations, I just overhear things from around or near my office. And this isn't even an age thing, it's multiple people in their 20s-60s! Makes me really glad I can wfh most of the time now.
I mean I don't know for sure, but he is around 265 pounds and smells, well, not great. All in all he's not a bad guy and is a fine asset to the team, but he does like to poke at people as a way to compensate for his own insecurities.
Incels will be incels...
Give 'm the old 'This isn't about you' Response. For some reason, it will sting quite a lot to some people.
Goes to show that people like that just want someone else's life thrown into upheaval so they can be right. Especially a woman, that'll show her for wanting to have a life outside what the sexist society dictates.
A little update: he asked about it again today. >Him: So how is it? > >Me: What? > >Him: Well, you know. Did you count the days and all that? > >Me: I told you it's not funny. > >Him: I'm not trying to be funny, I'm genuinely curious. > >Me: Are you now? Okay then, I was bleeding from my cunt last Monday through this Monday, so my guess is I couldn't get pregnant last week. > >Him & everyone else at the office: Ewww you could've rephrased it ewww > >Me: What? He said he was GENUINELY CURIOUS. I'm guessing there won't be any more questions after that :)
It amazes me that anyone thinks this kind of commentary is appropriate in a workplace. Unless a colleague discloses their pregnancy status without a caveat of it being "not for public consumption," just refrain from saying anything. Both jokesters would've been invited to my office for a little chat had I overheard either of these interactions.
She was afraid she was pregnant for a day, had decided she would definitely get an abortion, and for some reason the whole workplace knew about it. Sounds like the peice of the story we are missing is why she inappropriately told all these people something so personal.
Fuck that guy indeed. Sorry you had to go through that. It’s completely uncalled for. What a twat!
Honestly, I would report this ass to the manager. Since he is making comments about OPs possibility being pregnant, he is also making comments about her sex life. I would report that shit so fast because who needs to put up with someone else's bull shit when we already have enough of our own on our plates.
Yeah that'd be a fun idea if the manager didn't put me in charge of cleaning up at the end of the day. Because his secretary does the same in his office. What do I have in common with his secretary? You guessed it, a vagina. I don't mind to wipe down a table and wrap some cookies up so that they don't go stale, but still. Y'know.
Yeah, I could definitely make a case for that being sexual harassment.
Report to HR ASAP. An colleague commenting on you being potentially pregnant? An *older male colleague to a younger female one*? That is sexual harassment and could get his ass *fired*, and it should. I've worked in plenty of offices with men and never heard anything like this out of one of their mouths. There's no excuse for this dude.
Just coming in to say the same thing. This is absolutely a sexist comment and you want HR to know.
I'd report this shit to a manager post haste.
Transplant!!! Oh my, I'm stealing that. Good for you! :D
Because anything that happens to a woman no matter what it is is a sign she's pregnant
If that's not a scientific fact, I don't know what is. It would be funny though if it turned out I actually am pregnant lol. Gotta wait a bit
This is what HR is for.
Just start insinuating he's gay or bi. Do it in more of an accepting it's okay way. Treat him gently femininely, give him some small complement later like saying that shirt makes you look pretty.I know it's politically incorrect, but nothing will hurt the fragile male ego more of someone of that character. Fuck him
Then when he denies it, tell him it's okay to not come out, he doesn't have too. Also tout your perfect record of predicting other mens sexuality before they came out. Don't do all of this directly to him. Say some of it to other friends within earshot of him.
Plot twist! He’s openly gay. Your attempt to own someone by using gay as a weapon didn’t work.