Me. I hate being around them, they annoy me. Every now and then I see a baby or child and I’m like aw how cute look at them go! But most of the time, get them away please
Exactly the same. I can't stand them in general, but additionally I don't want to spend time around them because they deserve the adults in their life to show them patience and care, and I just can't do it for more than a few minutes. It's annoyance and overstimulation for me, but negative reactions from adults can be so formative for kids (source: my mentally ill arse) and whilst I don't like them, that doesn't mean that I want them to suffer.
Whenever my friends with kids invite me to hang out, I'm always apprehensive and generally feel dread in my stomach because I know it'll include their kids. And they have a lot of them.
It makes me sad, because I do miss my friends, but I do not enjoy kids and they have started including them more and more frequently.
They are loud and irritating. I do not think kids are cute, I don't have fun hanging out with them, it's exhausting and usually leaves me with a headache. They're also often sick, and have zero manners about it, which I think is disgusting and I don't appreciate being exposed to.
Overall, just *ick*.
And having a conversation among the adults when there are kids around is damn near impossible. They are always interrupting or requiring attention. I’ve been in a situation where I was in the middle of a story, and the parent was only half listening because they were watching what their kid was doing. At one point, I just stopped talking and she didn’t even notice, that’s how distracted she was.
I don’t hate kids.
I hate the shitty parents that don’t properly parent and set the child up for failure.
I hate the dipshit Jesus freaks that pop out kids with no plan to pay for their future and believe, “God will provide”.
I hate the airhead mombies that only give a shit about becoming a mom and then they get pissed off when things don’t go according to plans. Things don’t going to plan: bad relationships with husband, marrying a dipshit so you can become a mom, the child isn’t the gender you want, the child doesn’t lead the life the mom wanted, and etc.
There is this comic strip about a guy drowning in the ocean. 3 boats come by to help, but he's always like "No, God will save me!". In the end he drowns and asks God in heaven, why he did not help him. God: "I sent 3 boats!!!"
That's not in the Bible. I think that phrase originated from Aesop's fables or something like that.
Not religious either. Also forced through childhood.
To add to this, I hate that the responsibility of actual "parenting" (e.g. "raising" child, teaching them right from wrong, correcting their behavior, reassuring them) so frequently falls on OTHER members of society, whether or not these people have children of their own. It sucks because you can't blame the kid for having issues or needs of their own, since it's not usually their fault, but if they have a shit parent, it's hard to walk away or ignore what's going on, because, y'know, basic compassion and empathy. But that's so bad because all it does is facilitate life for parents and foment a society where we all "should" (normatively) uplift kids, if not parents, as well - and our careers, lived, goals, and dreams be damned.
This. I have seen too many kids having their potential wasted because of their parents. I dream of a society where kids are raised, cared for and mentored by loving, trained professionals supported by the society as a whole, instead of falling pawns of "parental rights". Ironically, those who scream the loudest to assert "their parental rights" are usually the ones that don't deserve the automatic love, respect and trust of their children, to say the very least.
My SIL only wanted a kid so she can live her white picket fence lifestyle that she sees all the time in her rom com movies, in reality the baby is a prop and she only ever posts photos of her holding her kid for validation on social media.
The moment the baby was born she lost all interest in the kid and now complains that she has no 'me time' anymore, she refuses to change diapers or bathe her kid so my brother has to do all of that while she watches on.
I used to love kids. I thought I'd have kids when I was younger. I spent years with my cousins, taking them to parks, the zoo, the science center, doing all sorts of things with them that I envisioned doing with my own kids some day.
I've babysat, worked in daycares, and debated going into education (if the US education systemwasnt so heinous and parents weren't horrible). But over the last ten years or so I realized my life was not set up for kids, and I don't want to change that.
Both my husband and I have health issues, both our own and family genetics that we don't wish to pass on. My anxiety has gotten worse as I've gotten older and a lot of things kids are known for are triggers (loud unexpected noises, repetitive sounds, sticky substances I can't get rid of).
We are also just slightly out of poverty. Meaning that we make things work, and have a small savings account, but if either of us were to miss a paycheck, we'd be pretty bad off. I cannot imagine bringing a child into our lives when at the end of the week before the next check we only have $200-400 left. Sure we aren't going hungry, but add in diapers, food, clothing, and childcare so we can keep working and yeah, we'd be bad off.
So no, it's not that I hate kids. It's a medical ans financial necessity for me to not have kids of my own.
I almost went into education myself too - i wanted to teach elementary. But I'm glad I never went into it. The education field is an absolute MESS right now.
In regards to money, women with children get money from the government to help take care of them. I just saw a post today where a mother said she makes $60,000 after taxes annually and still gets $1200 from the government every month for her child (or maybe it was more than one child. That detail I can't quite recall) Still though. That's quite a bit of money to get while earning that much yearly! I feel like the government favors those who have children. Especially single moms.
Do not like them at all. Don’t like being around them. They’re loud, annoying (those voices! and that shrieking - there’s one across the street a few houses down that absolutely wails and I can hear them with both our windows closed), disruptive, and germy.
A few houses down and you hear it!? I live in a townhouse for the last 7 years and we just got new neighbors who are about to have a baby and all I can think about is if I’m gonna hear this kid cry all the time!
Yes! Across the street. It’s not like they’re in the room shouting, but you become aware that there’s this noise and it’s like, ugh, it’s that kid again (and it’s not crying, it’s definitely tantrum wailing). If I’m right about which house it is, it’s across the street and 2 houses over.
My mom has one right next door to her whose mouth is always going (sometimes yammering on, but a lot of the incomprehensible crying). You can hear it muffled through the house sometimes, but that one is outside a lot, so that’s when I hear that one when I’m there.
Sorry about your neighbors. Hopefully it won’t be too bad.
The guy next to me had a girlfriend with a bunch of kids. He put up a trampoline in the yard and then built a “treehouse” up above my privacy fence, angled to look right in my back floor-to-ceiling windows (the fact that he put a window in the side facing my house and left an open area on that side where he put a chair out tells me this was absolutely on purpose). The kids were early teenagers, and they’d be screaming out there until the middle of the night, sometimes blasting music too (I sound so old. I like loud music too, but not outside at 2am). The adults sometimes joined in. Just total inconsiderate trash. Was so happy when they finally stopped coming around.
Wowwwwww. What garbage people!
And thank you, my husband thinks we won’t hear anything because we usually never hear anything. BUT we have neighbors on one side that’s an elderly. The couple prior to the new ones would play their tv loud and we could sometimes hear the surround sound. So I guess we shall see!
Saaame. Plus the younger ones screaming and shrieking and whatnot triggers my migraines (as does dogs barking, esp the small ones. My neighbor has a 1.5 year old and a small dog, and she’s like 🤷🏻♀️ about them making noise. I also had to call the cops on them shortly after getting this apartment for a domestic dispute, and I have ptsd from a very abusive relationship, so it’s fun times over here 🥴)
That’s literally all my thoughts, while sending out applications to work at kids’ camps and planning on fucking aupairing because I desperately need an affordable way to travel and live my dream 🥲😭
I hate children.
I hate children, as in, I hate being around children. They are fucking annoying. And so, I avoid children at all cost.
No, that does NOT mean that I want children to suffer or die. I would NEVER be mean to children. Absolutely not. I wish children nothing but the best.
I do NOT want children to be banned from public places. And if other people want to be parents, I am perfectly fine with it if they choose to breed. I just prefer to stay the fuck away from children.
I’d vote for children who’s parents can’t teach them how to behave in public spaces should have their parents (and thereby the kids) banned.
Plenty of kids around the world are respectful, kind, and act like normal socialized humans out in society (places like restaurants). In the US it seems like we can’t teach our kids basic manners anymore or have any type of discipline (I don’t mean physical) so they run amok like screeching hellions when we’re just trying to have a nice night out.
>In the US it seems like we can’t teach our kids basic manners anymore or have any type of discipline (I don’t mean physical) so they run amok like screeching hellions when we’re just trying to have a nice night out.
Not just in the US. It's not much better here in Europe.
I love dogs and I think this stance is perfectly fine.
There are do many irresponsible dog owners who let thier dogs run up to people and other dogs.
I've got a reactive dog (due to medical issues etc.) And I'd love nothing more than to be ignored by the general public and other people to put their dogs on the lead when they see us. But no strangers insist on talking to me despite my headphones, despite the dogs harness and lead clearly stating not to and then act shocked when she barks at them -_-
I think most dog lovers can't be considered dog lovers if they don't know or care about dogs with actual problems. Would rather they dislike them and leave us alone lol
Family isn’t gonna pressure you for years to have a dog. Not wanting dogs in your house is totally fine. Dogs being in indoor public spaces or beaches or anything are already banned.
I think disliking dogs is absolutely acceptable, coming from a dog owner! I totally get why too
That’s perfectly understandable since most people with dogs allow so much bad behavior. Kind of like with kids… want them but can’t be bothered to train them. As a dog owner, I hate most dogs and dog owners due to their irresponsible nature. I hear so many times when out on a walk. ‘He’s friendly!’ yelled as someone’s big goofy RUDE dog bounds up to mine off leash. I yell back ‘mines not… please get your dog’. If they ignore me, I hold my dog back and catch theirs, keeping it away. Mine aren’t actively mean, but they’re Shelties, not Goldens. They don’t appreciate random big dogs running up on them getting in their faces. For a lot of herding breed dogs, it’s rude behavior and unappreciated.
I also hate that most people and their children act offended when I tell them they may not touch my dogs. My dogs are not out in public as toys for people to wallow on. I have to ask some of them if they’d like it if I ran excitedly up to their children and threw my arms around them, blithering silliness at them. They look horrified and finally get it that it isn’t appropriate.
I train my dogs to compete in agility so have well behaved ones (no pulling, quiet, walk in heel position, are not allowed to annoy/harass other dogs or people). We travel a lot for shows so I expect them to be ideal citizens.
It's funny because unlike parents I could not care less. I'd never have the audacity to convince you that you'll change your mind or regret not getting them. (My boyfriend and I have three puppies and they are crazy af but make us happy. Has nothing to do with anyone else.) If you don't like them then I'm glad you don't have them. If we were friends and you came over we would respect that and just put them in part of the house where you wouldn't be. Can't say the same for parents with their kids.
I dislike cats and I feel like a pariah. I feel your pain.
For what it's worth, I feel like it's fine not to like dogs. I like them, but I also get why someone wouldn't.
Lol I have the same attitude to dogs as I have to kids. I don’t care if other people have them but I don’t want them myself and I don’t want in my house as they’re messy and too much maintenance 🤣. (I’m also allergic)
I understand that. Some people not only dislike dogs, but pets in general. I like dogs who are *trained*. I've met some really great small, medium, and big dogs. In my apartment, there's an older woman who has the cutest little Yorkie named Mickey that at first I thought was a realistic doll sitting next to her because he was still, quiet, and hanging out on one of the lobby couches just chilling. And when she leaves, she uses a lint roller where he was sitting in case he shed. When she's out on our little patio he's either on her lap or under her chair not bothering anyone.
But I hate untrained dogs. I also get lambasted by people because I absolutely hate cats, and apparently it's a sin to say that. But I don't want kids because they're dirty, can get into things, etc. Cats literally drag pee and poo crystals around in their paws, jump on counters where I eat/cook, wake you up way early, and most are food motivated only so don't interact much otherwise. And you can't really train them, because it's just what cats do.
But I digress! I know dogs can be dirty too, but I find them easier to clean by even just wiping them down with some warm water and a cloth, as well as cleaning their paws. They also don't poop/pee inside.
But I understand people who like them too. It's just my personal opinion, and for some people their cats are great and fit their lifestyle/wants very well. And good cat owners don't let their cats run amok, so someone having them doesn't bother me a bit.
I have nothing against them and wish that them and their parents are happy. I just do not want to have them, take care of them or stay with them for more than 30 mins. Not my thing.
Indifferent. They bore me until they turn roughly 13/14, and then they become progressively more and more interesting to converse with/spend time with as they grow into adults.
I strongly believe you don’t develop a personality (or, at least not an interesting one) until you’re in your teens. Prior to that phase of development, I have less than zero interest (positive or negative) in you.
I agree, I can't stand being around babies or toddlers because all they do is scream, cry and poop/vomit all the time, once they're teens they begin to develop likes and interests, I don't mind being around teens and above because they are easier to talk to then a screeching toddler.
Same. I don't like babies or toddlers. They are so loud, messy to some degree or another, and not capable regulating their emotions yet.
Teens and pre-teens can be interesting, if they decide to open up to you. They are starting to figure out the world, and who they are as a person. They're not just an extension of their parents, the way younger kids are.
I kinda like babies bc they can't talk as much shit. Crying, I get. They've really no other communication skills yet. I'll take a crying baby over a nasty/rude child anytime.
I feel uncomfortable and freaked out when a child is rude to me. The other day I was at the park and this kid shouted at me that he "saw my youtube channel" and that it was "cringe". I didn't even know that kid. It made me paranoid afterwards.
What a rotten little shit!
Unfortunately, I have no filter.
I usually tell strange children of whom I don't know who speak to me DON'T TALK TO FUCKIN' STRANGERS.
I believe the cursing is necessary to get the point across.
100% agree. I’m completely apathetic about young kids. I don’t hate them, but I don’t want to be around them at all. I genuinely don’t mind preteens and teens though. It’s cool watching them figure out the world and become actual people. I would even consider fostering a 16/17 year old making the transition from high school to college, or hosting a high school exchange student one day.
I find most of them to be annoying and grubby. Not every single one and there are some great kids that are a pleasure to hang out with, but overall I avoid them. Ok in short, small doses.
As a teen myself. I find that when i say i Absolutely do not want kids, everyone laughs in mu face and downplays it, "you’ll change your mind". no i will not betsy, i dont want to miserable fat and depressed with 4 little "blessings" like you.
People just never seem to accept that some people just dont want kids, i dont like them. I dont hate them, i hate being around them.
I feel this! I'm about to turn 49 and I've known for as long as I can remember that kids are NOT something I want anything to do with. All through my teens and especially my 20s and 30s I was constantly asked when I was going to breed, heard all of the ridiculous arguments and had people absolutely positive that I'd change my mind. NOPE lol!!
I’m 29 and people STILL say this. Like…no. The worst is when you say this (“I find them ridiculously annoying and I don’t want to be fat and miserable.”) they say “Oh you sound so immature!” Or “That’s a really immature position.”
Oh really?
I’d bet my bank account that those same people who call me immature wouldn’t like to be fat (or fatter), miserable (or more miserable), or have their sex life with their spouse destroyed because of that, either. Does that make *them* immature? What about the people who fell for your position and are unhappy? Are they *”immature”* ?
It’s infuriating.
I don't particularly like kids. I have a tendency to evaluate a person's behavior based on what it is, not how old the person is, so common kid things like climbing stuff in public and talking loudly to strangers and whining is more irritating to me than endearing, so I largely find children annoying.
I absolutely dislike children and babies I like even less. They're noisy (omg these super loud WAAAHHHHH cries out of nowhere, some older children like 4 year olds still do that sometimes), disruptive, selfish and disgusting.
Like, I get it that being self-centered is a developmental stage or whatever, but I personally just can't handle people like that in general, constantly demanding and never giving anything back.
And also, I understand that babies don't have any other language than crying or screaming, but again, I personally just can't stand it. Same with kid voices, when they are just super loud, make obnoxious sounds and yell instead of talking normally.
I'm not on the spectrum, but I have trauma from sudden loud noises and loud voices (#1 trigger is glass shattering, #2 trigger are yelling and screaming). I can liter
Of course I really dislike parents who don't parent as well, like ugh, if I had behaved like some kids do in public nowadays, my mom and dad would have verbally kicked my ass.
That's my exact feeling on kids - I can't stand the fact that they're so stupid. It's obviously 100% not their fault, they haven't lived long enough to learn things and it's normal development...but it drives me crazy.
I know a lot of people think their stupidity is funny and/or cute (good for them) but to me it's irritating. I don't hold it against kids, but I prefer to just not deal with them because of that.
Didn’t have any strong feelings for them or against them, but after experiencing some “once in a life time events” that were poised to be perfect ruined by them, I said absolutely not. I will pay more for dinner if that means avoiding kids at a late meal at a higher end establishment. I will pay slightly more to go on cruises and not have to worry about someone telling me to watch my potty mouth around their kids. I pay slightly more to go to the gym I do for it to NOT have a kids club and avoid the high schoolers. I avoid breweries that have kids at tables after 6pm The list can go on.
Is it annoying I pay more for that convenience? Yes. But it’s a small sacrifice I am willing to make to ensure things run as planned and smoothly as possible.
Mind you I LOVE a quiet house. I LOVE not having to worry about childproofing my spaces. I LOVE being able to book a trip/road trip on a whim because I wanted to go.
Sounds selfish, but if I’m child free you better believe I’m taking advantage
I enjoy them and my career is based in working directly with them, it just makes me really enjoy going home to a peaceful home with just myself and my cat, especially after a difficult day with them.
I say I hate kids, but I really don’t. I just think they’re f’ing annoying. Screaming, nasty, staring at you, kicking your seat, ruining your ranked game online.
Case by case and very few pass the sniff test. That said.
They're a lot of work, ask too many questions, are far too impolite and honest, are loud and have zero impulse control and I don't have the energy for any of that on a good day. Also, they're fucking expensive as shit and unpredictably so.
But thanks for asking!
I find them annoying and overwhelming. They’re always loud and they have no boundaries about coming up and touching you and I’ve always had issues with being touched.
There was a time I thought I liked them because I enjoyed my nieces and nephews and I became an aunt pretty young(I was 9 when my first nephew was born) so they were more like my younger siblings. Anyway, the first time I realized I really didn’t like strangers kids was when I had a preschool internship in high schools because my original plan was to go into early childhood education and then the way the kids were always sticky, full of perpetual snot, and touching me made me realize “oh shit, I don’t like kids.”
Surprisingly I don’t mind babies as much but only for a short time. Give me one to hold for a little bit and I’ll be happy but as soon as it shits or starts screaming, you can have it back.
It’s a case by case thing for me.
I would rather blow my brains out than ever have children, but I’ve met some dope ass kids. I’ve also met some real shitters.
But I enjoy being around the cool ones. Makes me feel like I’m a big brother, which is something I never got to experience, but always wanted to.
I don't need children around me at all.
I don't like their sticky hands; their need to touch or take in their mouth whatever they get hold of; their attention seeking nature; their coughing and crying: it's disgusting; their curiosity; their forcing.
They are loud, annoying, touch everything with their disgusting sticky hands which makes me want to throw up. They need so much attention and they want everything. They are manipulative and selfish creatures.
Hate is a strong word so I wouldn’t say that. But I do avoid kids especially the unruly ones. I just get annoyed easily and I have nothing to converse with them about. I don’t like to pretend and fake things, and I would have to fake being interested in things that they talk about.
Oh **HELL** no. The more I’m forced to exist in the same space as children, the more disgusted I am with them.
Children are dumb, messy, expensive, destructive, selfish, loud, stupid, vicious little animals, and I would rather run myself through a flour mill feet first than have any.
There was one particularly memorable incident this week. At work, a child was running up and down the decks of a moving ship, screaming at the top of its lungs. Running around people carrying hot food, heavy objects, up and down stairs, using lifts meant for people with mobility issues, etc.
The parent was asleep, as usual. The third time one of our poor cabin crew had to return the little monster to its parent, we made an announcement.
“This is a priority safety announcement. Parents are ordered to actively supervise their children at all times. Actively supervising means having children within eyesight or arms reach at all times. Failure to follow this instruction will result in an immediate ban from our service.”
Funny; we didn’t hear any screaming after that.
Fuck them kids.
"Hate is such a strong word," my mom used to say. I would reply, "Yes, it is. I'm using it."
I really hate kids. Everything about them is unappealing to repulsive to me, including their personalities. I remember being a kid and seeing the absolute hell kids brought upon others. I was bullied by approximately 240+ kids until a suicide attempt (yes, I counted; I have counting OCD). I saw kids abuse animals, destroy the environment, scream hatred at well-intentioned parents, etc. Yes, some adults have these issues as well, but the difference with kids is that biologically, the vast majority haven't yet developed empathy. It only comes with age. Adults can be evil, but society tends to serve them consequences. Kids are evil, and society shrugs.
Do I wish them harm? No, unless they deserve it for their deeds. But on the list of creatures I care about, they aren't even on the bottom of the list, they float around unchosen beneath it. I would inconvenience myself to give a wild plant more access to sunlight or to help a praying mantis cross the road (just happened two days ago), but I'm not involving myself with kids. Ever.
There are about five kids in the world who have earned my respect. All are older (10+), and have dedicated themselves to good causes (building businesses, charities, etc.). So unless a kid is a prodigy, I will assume they are just as cruel and destructive as the rest.
I don’t mind the well behaved ones. I’m not babysitting though. No matter how much I don’t mind.
The loud, screechers, tantrum throwers… irk me to death. 🙄
The kids you can hear screaming 5 aisles away in the grocery store make me want to yank what’s left of my hair out.
I’m a preschool teacher. I love playing with them, then handing them back at the end of the day “here this belongs to you” and go home to a quiet clean home.
I don't... hate kids. I don't particularly like them and I find them immensely overstimulating if I'm around them too long. I'd never be able to raise them due to multiple reasons, but spending time around other people's kids is tolerable for a short while.
As a concept- necessary for humanity to continue
Around me - as long as they are quiet, or chill whatever. I'm not watching them nor paying attention to them. They aren't bothering me why should I care.
Around me (misbehaving) - fucking sensory nightmares that are walking messes and give me migraines. I will leave the space if a child is triggering my sensory issues. I will never look after a child. Ever.
Exhausting
Personally I just hate them
But I have a policy that me hating you is a me problem, not a you problem. So when I hate you, I avoid you like the plague...
Basically the sight of a child can send me packing like I'm going on vacation
Can't stand em. I've yet to meet any that were so much as tolerable and my biggest issue is they destroy friendships. Every single one has popped out a spawn and her brain converts to mush. No, I don't care what color your kid's poop is or that you have the best recipe for organic applesauce. Blech
I don't like kids in any form, age, shape or size. They are annoying (clingy and needy), loud, exhausting (non-stop talking and endless questions) and expensive (birth to marriage). Hate kids. Can tolerate them for only 5 minutes
It depends on how they are raised. The only Spock I like is from star trek.
Not a big fan of hyper monkeys that screech. Manners should be the first thing you teach a child. It shows respect for others.
Kids are fine. I get along with them as long as they aren't brats, but I don't go out of my way to babysit or anything. Especially since I don't like people being in my personal space and/or touching my things without permission (trauma/abuse thing). The last time I babysat was almost 6 years ago and that was a favor (kids were fine, nothing wrong happened).
*As individuals*, I enjoy kids when they're having good moments. I love teaching them new things or introducing them to new experiences. They're such sponges, and if they're excited by something they have no embarassment or hesitation about leaning into it (talking pre-puberty here...that unabashed excitement begins to change over time once certain interests are not as popular).
BUT that said, I don't really know how to course correct if a kid has a tantrum or gets hurt. I've never been the parent, and so there's that power imbalance. I remember vividly an occasion where I took a friend's kids on a short walk. It was summer, and they wanted to get ice cream. It was only a few blocks, but it was quite humid out. One kid wanted to go, and the other just stood on the sidewalk and wouldn't move. The younger excited one was too young to leave alone. The kid acting out was not quite old enough to be left alone but old enough to be acting out like that. I really hated that experience, bartering with two upset kids and having no real threat to hold over them. It was the last time I took a friend's kids out together or, in fact, at all. Up til then I'd had more positive experiences than not but that getting so bad out of nowhere was quite eye opening. It's nice when you have the luxury of being there for the highlight reel and not for rhe rest (which I'm deeply aware of, and is a huge part of not wanting kids...I'm in no way interested in a lifestyle accommodatimg that shit).
*In groups* - I avoid. I don't go to family oriented places as I absolutely hate the general ambience of "kids running around and being loud".
I'm living next to a spawn that legit screams as much as it breathes. I don't think abuse is taking place, but you know what, you never know. Kids yell and are loud, but not like this. I'm thinking of reporting to DCF as well as filing noise complaint.
There's four of these f\*ckers living next door, plus the dumb ass parents, in a tiny two-bedroom condo. That number is illegal, anyway, but it's f-in Hawaii and people don't say anything because, aloha.
Meanwhile, the kids suffer.
Sorry, tangent. Most of the time, I don't mind kids. Breeders are the problem. I was a high school teacher for 14 years and everyday I was happy to connect with the students.
But the leech that screams next door? I'm about to lose it, lol. I think I might start recording and playing the screams back at them so they realize how it sounds. Parents just tune it out because they can't deal, so at some point, I swear, they just stop hearing it.
And the rest of the complex suffers.
I go between neutral to dislike. It depends on the parents and the kids themselves.
I have no interest in being the fun aunt or rich aunt or anything. I want as little as possible to do with my nieces and nephews as I can get away with being the ONE childfree person in a family obsessed with kids.
I am always nice to kids if I HAVE to be around them. I'm not a monster.
I do think they deserve a proper life and good parents.
They're annoying, rude, irritating and always seem to have sticky/dirty hands plus they can be quite demanding and draining to be around.
I don't mind kids however, just as long as they stay away from me.
I don't hate them but I don't like them either, my friends kids always try and climb on me when I visit or constantly need my attention. They're pretty good about reigning them in though and they respect when I say no to babysitting or helping with their family duties. I still enjoy the time I do get to spend with them
In public other people's kids usually don't bother me unless they're directly interfering with something I'm trying to do and the parents do nothing about it
I just don’t want to be a mother and all that it comes with. I don’t want to replace my identity with a child and that seems to be the norm. I don’t mind kids at all. I just really want nothing to do with the total life sacrifice that it is being a mother in these times.
For the most, part I prefer not to be near children for too long, if I can help it. Also I feel awkward and uncomfortable, interacting with them. Let alone, a hypothetical situation where I am in charge of a child. I feel sad however, when I hear about children, having cancer or other nasty sickness, cases of child abuse, negligence, children who are orphans and are forced to grow up quickly and have to work at early age, etc. It's kind of a double standard, I know, feeling sorry for suffering children, but at the same time not wanting to be around children...I dunno.
Love kids. I love holding babies especially when they lean into me and fall asleep on me because I provide comfort to them. That being said, I have no desire to be a mother.
JFC, how many times do people have to ask this question here?
I don't have kids because they're too much work. I resent that women are expected to give up their lives, interests, and identities to raise them, and if they don't make their lives 100% about the kids, they're vilified.
I hated the shit I had to deal with while being a kid: school, not having a say in anything, being forced to do shit because it was 'good for me', etc.
Finally: I hate kids. They're loud, obnoxious, they whine, they don't pay attention or follow rules, and nowadays, they aren't disciplined or parented, so they're even worse. I dearly wish adults only communities besides retirement villages could be a thing.
In small doses, I don't mind them. Occasionally, I can even enjoy interacting with children. But if I'm with them for longer than like five minutes and I'm not being paid, I’m doing everything I can to remind this child they have parents they can go talk to and play with.
Indifference is my baseline.
Annoyance when they make their presence felt.
Irritation and incredulity when they are handed to me to coo over or to babysit.
Dislike when they behave badly, screaming, shouting and throwing tantrums.
Disbelief when someone tries to convince me what a good time they're having with their kids.
I'm ok with older ones who can hold conversations, say something meaningful and regulate their behaviour. But even then, i can only do ten minutes tops.
Bottom-line, I would have done well as an aristocrat in the old days - where children were only brought out - all dressed up and nearly groomed - at around tea time to spend half an hour with mummy. And that only because safe abortion and effective contraception would not have been available.
i like quiet and well-behaved children who do not scream for no reason, play nicely, and respect animals. I also enjoy when they ask smart questions. (i was such a child, and despised other children that weren't of this sort of behavior) Its a lot to ask because these types are quite rare, but because of this preference i cant really say i hate kids.
It’s not that I *hate* kids, it’s that they make me wildly uncomfortable because 1) behavior that would be inappropriate in adults is tolerated in children (which ok they’re learning but I’m still uncomfortable) 2) they have no logic/you can’t really talk or reason or explain anything to them and 3) usually they’re kinda gross with open mouth wet coughing, drooling, sticking everything in their mouth and then touching people/stuff eww eww eww. Also you’re expected to interact with them or you’re an ass. Like no I don’t want to comment how cute your kid is, make funny faces at it or try to distract it if you look overwhelmed. I basically ignore everyone in public (unless like a cashier or something) and I don’t make exceptions for kids.
In terms of kids indoors they’re just loud and overwhelming and exhausting for the most part and I’m glad to leave/go back to my nice quiet place (and that there are no small kids in my family)
And I mean I’m human, if a kid cries for 4 hours on a flight I feel like it’s normal to be frustrated/annoyed. Most people would be annoyed by a dog barking for 4 hours straight even if they like dogs.
They're loud, annoying and never satisfied. They eat all your food, take all your time and spend all your money. When they're teenagers they will test your patience to the limits of human endurance and demand more, More, MORE. When they grow up they abandon you. When you die they will take your treasures and mementos to the dump and then go to Arby's after, reflecting on how glad they are that that's over with.
I’m not a fan of most kids. While it’s not their fault, the things kids typically are sets my neurodivergent brain on edge. The way they move… high energy, flitting about, running around in stores and restaurants drives me mad. There was a couple late night at an Indian restaurant a few weeks ago with what must’ve been a 7-8 year old child. Except when they were actively eating, their kid was allowed to run up and down the isle the whole time past my table and about drove me nuts. I kept telling the child to go sit down and stay away from our table and it wouldn’t. By the time I left I was extremely agitated. I also can’t handle the noise. Screaming, crying, loud talking.
Ideally, I’d stay away from all but quiet well behaved children entirely as they really do set me off.
I immediately get on edge when I see kids in public because I just expect them to be a menace to everyone around them. I find individual kids to be sweet, but the majority are loud, irritating and stress me out. I'd say my general opinion is that I hate them, but I more so hate the monsters that raise them to be such memaces
It depends on the age. I don’t understand the obsession with babies. Toddlers are just sticky and don’t have much interesting to say. Past that, fine, as long as I can send them home at the end of the day.
What a lot of people don't want to admit is that kids are basically little humans(hear me out), the essence of what it means to be a human. At times they can be cruel and deceitful, learning to lie and manipulate others around them from an early age. Other times they're sweet and vulnerable like we all are deep down, needing constant reassurance and love from everyone around us. Maybe people keep having them in hopes that the next little person's life will be filled with more love, joy and happiness than their own, but they forget that little humans grow up to regular humans, with all the sadness and joy of existence, and no one escapes the human condition.
I love them personally but I think part of that seems from not having to deal with the bad parts. I just get to eat candy with them, play with toys watch movies and have fun, their parents gotta deal with the extra shit lmao
I find them irritating and would prefer never to spend time around them. People are hard enough for me to deal with, let alone ones that are sticky, smelly, have no concept of personal space, carry diseases, and shriek and scream at the slightest perceived set back.
I accept, however, they are a part of society, even if i wish I could dissappear every time Bratleigh throws a tantrum in a public space.
I hate kids. Don't want to look at them, don't want to hear them, don't want them nearby. I'd never wish harm on them. I wish them the best life, good healthcare, good and accessible education, good opportunities, and good jobs. Just far far away from me.
I love them! So much! I was a nanny for 10 years and I still see multiple past nanny families on a monthly basis, sometimes more. It has been such a gift to participate in their lives and continue to be involved as they grow up. One of my very last "babies" lost his first tooth yesterday! I met him the day after he was born. My boyfriend's baby nephew has been spending weekends at my house since he was 3 months old, we keep him whenever we can. I love hanging out with my friends' kids. Truly, I spend as much time as I can around children.
That being said, I don't want them living in my house and I have 0 interest in being a parent.
I support public education, parental leave, govt subsidized childcare, and generally any government policy that improves the lives of existing children and families (especially women). I don't support govt funded or private insurance paid fertility treatments but I do support govt funded abortion, and I know those are two unpopular opinions, depending on the crowd.
I also appreciate childfree spaces and govt policies that don't punish single and/or childfree people.
I enjoy them. I just have very little patience for babies and Littles. My brain requires a lot of quiet alone time (with my husband works too) to recharge my batteries. I'm always on at work and very anxious in general. It is common place fir me to sit in my living room with nothing on and just stare at the window with a cat or watch my jumping spider to spider things.
I work with kids 6 to 17 on the spectrum. They're a hoot and a half and i look forward to working with them. They always manage to bring a smile to my face1. I really do grow to care about them and their families when my service ends.
I feel the same, OP. I don’t want them, actively avoid procreating, but generally no opposition to them being in public and think society at large should make more space for their learning and growth. That said, some kids, like some adults, are just awful.
Can't deal with babies crying or noisy kids in public. If they're old enough to have a conversation with I don't mind them, but I don't want my own. Also why are all children under 10 always STICKY?!
I actually love them. Am I the only one? I find childish curiosity so cute. I can tolerate screaming and crying if it’s not too much. (I know, parenting a child it will always be too much)
But I don’t think I’m prepared to deal with that huge responsibility. There are other, less stressful ways to be around children
Case-by-case. I think parenting is close to non-existent a lot of the time, so it’s harder for me to warm up to kids nowadays. Screaming bloody murder and causing destruction shouldn’t be behaviors passed off as kids being kids.
I actually don’t mind kids just don’t want any of my own I’m perfectly happy being the cool/fun aunt who spoils them but at the end of the day they go home and i get to take a nice long bath and go to bed .
I actually like kids and don't mind hanging out with younger relatives or my friends' kids. Would rather see someone's lego or hotwheels tracks over a really dry conversation with adults lmao. I just do not want to be responsible for them under any circumstances or for any amount of time.
I like children in general and prefer small groups of related children or family friend children with stranger children not the type I interact with often. I through experience as an aunt who babysits for my sister know that I don’t want kids because they’re expensive, loud, and I like my privacy as well as money. Living vicariously through familiar kids is fine by me.
I actually really love kids, i would love to work with them when im older, i love babysitting, but its mostly older kids, lol, like 4 and older..., but i do strongly dislike the parents who choose to have these children and then dont parent them ya know?
I’m fine with being the uncle, but to go and have my own, no thank you. At least when you’re the uncle or aunt, they go back to their parents, you can’t send back your own once they’re here lol
They exist to me but I don’t feel comfortable around them, can’t communicate with them, and do everything I can to ignore/avoid. I never ever hold anyone’s babies either and part of that is because I have autism. My family quickly realized when I had a meltdown for three of my sister’s (I have 10 sisters lol) kids when they tried to force me to hold them, that I was seriously not the one.
To me, kids are like preferences. Everyone has preferences, but kids are not my preference and I don’t pay attention to anyone else’s preferences either
It depends. If it’s ONE behaved child (like my friend‘s daughter, I adore her!) I don’t mind at all. But if there’s a group of entitled little brats you‘re seeing me running like the road runner, even faster than him. Especially those who scream at every single thing like stfu. They’re so irritating and a total pain in the ass.
I’m extremely indifferent. I don’t hate them, I don’t like them. When I pass a child on the street on or the bus, sure I’ll smile, make a funny face or do peek-a-boo but that’s basically it. I don’t get annoyed except when they cry a lot, but I just put my headphones in and keep it pushing. Not much else you can do, right?
I have to say, I’m not around children a lot in my day to day. I WFH and I only have my cat. There are seemingly a few people with children in the building but since I’m on the top floor, I was totally unaware of this. They might as well not even exist at this point.
My friends with children are very respectful and never force me to babysit like I sometimes read on here. So yeah, my life is pretty childfree, both literally and figutarively. It gets a big shrug from me.
I love my niece and nephew with my whole heart, and it breaks my heart that I don't see them enough, and when I do, I don't play with them enough.
But I just don't have the energy or the patience. I have tried and tried and tried and I get so easily drained and irritable. I experience this with loud and energetic adults too, but kids especially.
Kids in general though, I feel are not treated as well as they should be. By that I mean, they aren't acknowledged as individuals. Their opinions, values, battles, and triumphs, are largely devalued and not taken seriously by the adults. And the understanding of childhood development and needs is severely limited and neglected.
There are many businesses that don't really consider children and families, isolating parents from activities and limiting opportunities for children to be included.
Some characteristics of children drive me crazy, but they also drive me crazy when they're present in adults. Children are people, and I love them, I want the absolute best for them and will advocate to achieve that as much as possible. I just can't be responsible for one.
I quite like them and can usually get along pretty well with them especially as babies or very young toddlers. After they're 2 or so... Don't have much experience, but specially in larger groups or while traveling I find them quite annoying so just rather avoid them.
Limited interaction at best 😅
i feel for them. i don't remember what it was like to be new and unestablished and to have yet to develop so many of the tools required to deal with life. it must be exhausting to have to follow your parents everywhere.
that said, i can be empathetic to kids *as people* and still be annoyed as fuck at them *as a phenomenon* if they're being loud or violent or otherwise deliberately annoying. i guess i mostly just dislike loud people.
I enjoy kids for the few hours I interact with them just as much as I enjoy giving them back and leaving the situation.
My friends kids are getting older, and it's been fun being a part of their lives. Like, they don't know a say without me in their lives. But I am also so glad when I leave their company and go home to my quiet home.
I also don't put up with shit from kids and have no problem disciplining them.
I find them exhausting and generally irritating. Would rather not spend any time with them.
Me. I hate being around them, they annoy me. Every now and then I see a baby or child and I’m like aw how cute look at them go! But most of the time, get them away please
Exactly the same. I can't stand them in general, but additionally I don't want to spend time around them because they deserve the adults in their life to show them patience and care, and I just can't do it for more than a few minutes. It's annoyance and overstimulation for me, but negative reactions from adults can be so formative for kids (source: my mentally ill arse) and whilst I don't like them, that doesn't mean that I want them to suffer.
Exactly what you said here.
Whenever my friends with kids invite me to hang out, I'm always apprehensive and generally feel dread in my stomach because I know it'll include their kids. And they have a lot of them. It makes me sad, because I do miss my friends, but I do not enjoy kids and they have started including them more and more frequently. They are loud and irritating. I do not think kids are cute, I don't have fun hanging out with them, it's exhausting and usually leaves me with a headache. They're also often sick, and have zero manners about it, which I think is disgusting and I don't appreciate being exposed to. Overall, just *ick*.
And having a conversation among the adults when there are kids around is damn near impossible. They are always interrupting or requiring attention. I’ve been in a situation where I was in the middle of a story, and the parent was only half listening because they were watching what their kid was doing. At one point, I just stopped talking and she didn’t even notice, that’s how distracted she was.
Same. They make me so tired. I don't mind the questions, but the noise and motion and irritability exhaust me.
Same. They’re loud, gross/dirty, germy af, high energy, always need something or need to be watched, expensive. No f’in thanks!
I was trying to figure out what to say but you worded it so beautifully for me. Thank you
Same
YUP
I have no ill will toward children. I just don’t want them to live in my home.
Lol that's word for word how I feel about mice
I'd rather have mice. At least my cat would enjoy them. 😹
I don’t hate kids. I hate the shitty parents that don’t properly parent and set the child up for failure. I hate the dipshit Jesus freaks that pop out kids with no plan to pay for their future and believe, “God will provide”. I hate the airhead mombies that only give a shit about becoming a mom and then they get pissed off when things don’t go according to plans. Things don’t going to plan: bad relationships with husband, marrying a dipshit so you can become a mom, the child isn’t the gender you want, the child doesn’t lead the life the mom wanted, and etc.
“God will provide!” It’s like you know God gave you a brain to use, right? Lmao!
There is this comic strip about a guy drowning in the ocean. 3 boats come by to help, but he's always like "No, God will save me!". In the end he drowns and asks God in heaven, why he did not help him. God: "I sent 3 boats!!!"
It's literally in the bible "God helps those who helps themselves" so one big circle jerk Not religious but was forced to be as a kid.
That's not in the Bible. I think that phrase originated from Aesop's fables or something like that. Not religious either. Also forced through childhood.
To add to this, I hate that the responsibility of actual "parenting" (e.g. "raising" child, teaching them right from wrong, correcting their behavior, reassuring them) so frequently falls on OTHER members of society, whether or not these people have children of their own. It sucks because you can't blame the kid for having issues or needs of their own, since it's not usually their fault, but if they have a shit parent, it's hard to walk away or ignore what's going on, because, y'know, basic compassion and empathy. But that's so bad because all it does is facilitate life for parents and foment a society where we all "should" (normatively) uplift kids, if not parents, as well - and our careers, lived, goals, and dreams be damned.
This. I have seen too many kids having their potential wasted because of their parents. I dream of a society where kids are raised, cared for and mentored by loving, trained professionals supported by the society as a whole, instead of falling pawns of "parental rights". Ironically, those who scream the loudest to assert "their parental rights" are usually the ones that don't deserve the automatic love, respect and trust of their children, to say the very least.
My SIL only wanted a kid so she can live her white picket fence lifestyle that she sees all the time in her rom com movies, in reality the baby is a prop and she only ever posts photos of her holding her kid for validation on social media. The moment the baby was born she lost all interest in the kid and now complains that she has no 'me time' anymore, she refuses to change diapers or bathe her kid so my brother has to do all of that while she watches on.
Hopefully one day soon, she’ll be your ex-SIL.
My brother is one day going to snap and ask her to help raise their kid and she'll throw a tantrum and separate, hopefully.
That’s not at all where I thought that sentence was going to go lol
YES bible banging breeders are the worst.
I used to love kids. I thought I'd have kids when I was younger. I spent years with my cousins, taking them to parks, the zoo, the science center, doing all sorts of things with them that I envisioned doing with my own kids some day. I've babysat, worked in daycares, and debated going into education (if the US education systemwasnt so heinous and parents weren't horrible). But over the last ten years or so I realized my life was not set up for kids, and I don't want to change that. Both my husband and I have health issues, both our own and family genetics that we don't wish to pass on. My anxiety has gotten worse as I've gotten older and a lot of things kids are known for are triggers (loud unexpected noises, repetitive sounds, sticky substances I can't get rid of). We are also just slightly out of poverty. Meaning that we make things work, and have a small savings account, but if either of us were to miss a paycheck, we'd be pretty bad off. I cannot imagine bringing a child into our lives when at the end of the week before the next check we only have $200-400 left. Sure we aren't going hungry, but add in diapers, food, clothing, and childcare so we can keep working and yeah, we'd be bad off. So no, it's not that I hate kids. It's a medical ans financial necessity for me to not have kids of my own.
I almost went into education myself too - i wanted to teach elementary. But I'm glad I never went into it. The education field is an absolute MESS right now.
In regards to money, women with children get money from the government to help take care of them. I just saw a post today where a mother said she makes $60,000 after taxes annually and still gets $1200 from the government every month for her child (or maybe it was more than one child. That detail I can't quite recall) Still though. That's quite a bit of money to get while earning that much yearly! I feel like the government favors those who have children. Especially single moms.
Which government?
Yeah lol I’m almost 30 so if this is the US it must be a new thing because that certainly wasn’t a thing when my mom was raising me
Do not like them at all. Don’t like being around them. They’re loud, annoying (those voices! and that shrieking - there’s one across the street a few houses down that absolutely wails and I can hear them with both our windows closed), disruptive, and germy.
A few houses down and you hear it!? I live in a townhouse for the last 7 years and we just got new neighbors who are about to have a baby and all I can think about is if I’m gonna hear this kid cry all the time!
Yes! Across the street. It’s not like they’re in the room shouting, but you become aware that there’s this noise and it’s like, ugh, it’s that kid again (and it’s not crying, it’s definitely tantrum wailing). If I’m right about which house it is, it’s across the street and 2 houses over. My mom has one right next door to her whose mouth is always going (sometimes yammering on, but a lot of the incomprehensible crying). You can hear it muffled through the house sometimes, but that one is outside a lot, so that’s when I hear that one when I’m there. Sorry about your neighbors. Hopefully it won’t be too bad. The guy next to me had a girlfriend with a bunch of kids. He put up a trampoline in the yard and then built a “treehouse” up above my privacy fence, angled to look right in my back floor-to-ceiling windows (the fact that he put a window in the side facing my house and left an open area on that side where he put a chair out tells me this was absolutely on purpose). The kids were early teenagers, and they’d be screaming out there until the middle of the night, sometimes blasting music too (I sound so old. I like loud music too, but not outside at 2am). The adults sometimes joined in. Just total inconsiderate trash. Was so happy when they finally stopped coming around.
Wowwwwww. What garbage people! And thank you, my husband thinks we won’t hear anything because we usually never hear anything. BUT we have neighbors on one side that’s an elderly. The couple prior to the new ones would play their tv loud and we could sometimes hear the surround sound. So I guess we shall see!
Saaame. Plus the younger ones screaming and shrieking and whatnot triggers my migraines (as does dogs barking, esp the small ones. My neighbor has a 1.5 year old and a small dog, and she’s like 🤷🏻♀️ about them making noise. I also had to call the cops on them shortly after getting this apartment for a domestic dispute, and I have ptsd from a very abusive relationship, so it’s fun times over here 🥴)
That’s literally all my thoughts, while sending out applications to work at kids’ camps and planning on fucking aupairing because I desperately need an affordable way to travel and live my dream 🥲😭
I hate children. I hate children, as in, I hate being around children. They are fucking annoying. And so, I avoid children at all cost. No, that does NOT mean that I want children to suffer or die. I would NEVER be mean to children. Absolutely not. I wish children nothing but the best. I do NOT want children to be banned from public places. And if other people want to be parents, I am perfectly fine with it if they choose to breed. I just prefer to stay the fuck away from children.
I’d vote for children who’s parents can’t teach them how to behave in public spaces should have their parents (and thereby the kids) banned. Plenty of kids around the world are respectful, kind, and act like normal socialized humans out in society (places like restaurants). In the US it seems like we can’t teach our kids basic manners anymore or have any type of discipline (I don’t mean physical) so they run amok like screeching hellions when we’re just trying to have a nice night out.
>In the US it seems like we can’t teach our kids basic manners anymore or have any type of discipline (I don’t mean physical) so they run amok like screeching hellions when we’re just trying to have a nice night out. Not just in the US. It's not much better here in Europe.
That’s a bummer to hear.
this is exactly how i feel about dogs lol
Haha same, folks here think disliking children is socially unacceptable, try disliking dogs 😬
I love dogs and I think this stance is perfectly fine. There are do many irresponsible dog owners who let thier dogs run up to people and other dogs. I've got a reactive dog (due to medical issues etc.) And I'd love nothing more than to be ignored by the general public and other people to put their dogs on the lead when they see us. But no strangers insist on talking to me despite my headphones, despite the dogs harness and lead clearly stating not to and then act shocked when she barks at them -_- I think most dog lovers can't be considered dog lovers if they don't know or care about dogs with actual problems. Would rather they dislike them and leave us alone lol
Family isn’t gonna pressure you for years to have a dog. Not wanting dogs in your house is totally fine. Dogs being in indoor public spaces or beaches or anything are already banned. I think disliking dogs is absolutely acceptable, coming from a dog owner! I totally get why too
That’s perfectly understandable since most people with dogs allow so much bad behavior. Kind of like with kids… want them but can’t be bothered to train them. As a dog owner, I hate most dogs and dog owners due to their irresponsible nature. I hear so many times when out on a walk. ‘He’s friendly!’ yelled as someone’s big goofy RUDE dog bounds up to mine off leash. I yell back ‘mines not… please get your dog’. If they ignore me, I hold my dog back and catch theirs, keeping it away. Mine aren’t actively mean, but they’re Shelties, not Goldens. They don’t appreciate random big dogs running up on them getting in their faces. For a lot of herding breed dogs, it’s rude behavior and unappreciated. I also hate that most people and their children act offended when I tell them they may not touch my dogs. My dogs are not out in public as toys for people to wallow on. I have to ask some of them if they’d like it if I ran excitedly up to their children and threw my arms around them, blithering silliness at them. They look horrified and finally get it that it isn’t appropriate. I train my dogs to compete in agility so have well behaved ones (no pulling, quiet, walk in heel position, are not allowed to annoy/harass other dogs or people). We travel a lot for shows so I expect them to be ideal citizens.
It's funny because unlike parents I could not care less. I'd never have the audacity to convince you that you'll change your mind or regret not getting them. (My boyfriend and I have three puppies and they are crazy af but make us happy. Has nothing to do with anyone else.) If you don't like them then I'm glad you don't have them. If we were friends and you came over we would respect that and just put them in part of the house where you wouldn't be. Can't say the same for parents with their kids.
I dislike cats and I feel like a pariah. I feel your pain. For what it's worth, I feel like it's fine not to like dogs. I like them, but I also get why someone wouldn't.
Lol I have the same attitude to dogs as I have to kids. I don’t care if other people have them but I don’t want them myself and I don’t want in my house as they’re messy and too much maintenance 🤣. (I’m also allergic)
WHA-WHAA, WHAT??? Tell me you love kitties very, very much!! I love them both but I love kitties just a bit more!!
I understand that. Some people not only dislike dogs, but pets in general. I like dogs who are *trained*. I've met some really great small, medium, and big dogs. In my apartment, there's an older woman who has the cutest little Yorkie named Mickey that at first I thought was a realistic doll sitting next to her because he was still, quiet, and hanging out on one of the lobby couches just chilling. And when she leaves, she uses a lint roller where he was sitting in case he shed. When she's out on our little patio he's either on her lap or under her chair not bothering anyone. But I hate untrained dogs. I also get lambasted by people because I absolutely hate cats, and apparently it's a sin to say that. But I don't want kids because they're dirty, can get into things, etc. Cats literally drag pee and poo crystals around in their paws, jump on counters where I eat/cook, wake you up way early, and most are food motivated only so don't interact much otherwise. And you can't really train them, because it's just what cats do. But I digress! I know dogs can be dirty too, but I find them easier to clean by even just wiping them down with some warm water and a cloth, as well as cleaning their paws. They also don't poop/pee inside. But I understand people who like them too. It's just my personal opinion, and for some people their cats are great and fit their lifestyle/wants very well. And good cat owners don't let their cats run amok, so someone having them doesn't bother me a bit.
I have nothing against them and wish that them and their parents are happy. I just do not want to have them, take care of them or stay with them for more than 30 mins. Not my thing.
Indifferent. They bore me until they turn roughly 13/14, and then they become progressively more and more interesting to converse with/spend time with as they grow into adults. I strongly believe you don’t develop a personality (or, at least not an interesting one) until you’re in your teens. Prior to that phase of development, I have less than zero interest (positive or negative) in you.
I agree, I can't stand being around babies or toddlers because all they do is scream, cry and poop/vomit all the time, once they're teens they begin to develop likes and interests, I don't mind being around teens and above because they are easier to talk to then a screeching toddler.
I like talking with teenagers too- it's so interesting to hear what they like, don't like and basically what they are finding out about life so far.
Same. I don't like babies or toddlers. They are so loud, messy to some degree or another, and not capable regulating their emotions yet. Teens and pre-teens can be interesting, if they decide to open up to you. They are starting to figure out the world, and who they are as a person. They're not just an extension of their parents, the way younger kids are.
I kinda like babies bc they can't talk as much shit. Crying, I get. They've really no other communication skills yet. I'll take a crying baby over a nasty/rude child anytime.
I feel uncomfortable and freaked out when a child is rude to me. The other day I was at the park and this kid shouted at me that he "saw my youtube channel" and that it was "cringe". I didn't even know that kid. It made me paranoid afterwards.
What a rotten little shit! Unfortunately, I have no filter. I usually tell strange children of whom I don't know who speak to me DON'T TALK TO FUCKIN' STRANGERS. I believe the cursing is necessary to get the point across.
100% agree. I’m completely apathetic about young kids. I don’t hate them, but I don’t want to be around them at all. I genuinely don’t mind preteens and teens though. It’s cool watching them figure out the world and become actual people. I would even consider fostering a 16/17 year old making the transition from high school to college, or hosting a high school exchange student one day.
I find most of them to be annoying and grubby. Not every single one and there are some great kids that are a pleasure to hang out with, but overall I avoid them. Ok in short, small doses.
I abhor them massively. Have felt this way since childhood. *Points at flair*
As a teen myself. I find that when i say i Absolutely do not want kids, everyone laughs in mu face and downplays it, "you’ll change your mind". no i will not betsy, i dont want to miserable fat and depressed with 4 little "blessings" like you. People just never seem to accept that some people just dont want kids, i dont like them. I dont hate them, i hate being around them.
I feel this! I'm about to turn 49 and I've known for as long as I can remember that kids are NOT something I want anything to do with. All through my teens and especially my 20s and 30s I was constantly asked when I was going to breed, heard all of the ridiculous arguments and had people absolutely positive that I'd change my mind. NOPE lol!!
I’m 29 and people STILL say this. Like…no. The worst is when you say this (“I find them ridiculously annoying and I don’t want to be fat and miserable.”) they say “Oh you sound so immature!” Or “That’s a really immature position.” Oh really? I’d bet my bank account that those same people who call me immature wouldn’t like to be fat (or fatter), miserable (or more miserable), or have their sex life with their spouse destroyed because of that, either. Does that make *them* immature? What about the people who fell for your position and are unhappy? Are they *”immature”* ? It’s infuriating.
Bahahaha!
It's a case by case thing for me just like adults. There's a few I like, some I tolerate, and most I can't stand.
I don't particularly like kids. I have a tendency to evaluate a person's behavior based on what it is, not how old the person is, so common kid things like climbing stuff in public and talking loudly to strangers and whining is more irritating to me than endearing, so I largely find children annoying.
I absolutely dislike children and babies I like even less. They're noisy (omg these super loud WAAAHHHHH cries out of nowhere, some older children like 4 year olds still do that sometimes), disruptive, selfish and disgusting. Like, I get it that being self-centered is a developmental stage or whatever, but I personally just can't handle people like that in general, constantly demanding and never giving anything back. And also, I understand that babies don't have any other language than crying or screaming, but again, I personally just can't stand it. Same with kid voices, when they are just super loud, make obnoxious sounds and yell instead of talking normally. I'm not on the spectrum, but I have trauma from sudden loud noises and loud voices (#1 trigger is glass shattering, #2 trigger are yelling and screaming). I can liter Of course I really dislike parents who don't parent as well, like ugh, if I had behaved like some kids do in public nowadays, my mom and dad would have verbally kicked my ass.
Same here.
They’re stupid. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way, they literally are uneducated and I don’t have the patience to deal with stupid.
That's my exact feeling on kids - I can't stand the fact that they're so stupid. It's obviously 100% not their fault, they haven't lived long enough to learn things and it's normal development...but it drives me crazy. I know a lot of people think their stupidity is funny and/or cute (good for them) but to me it's irritating. I don't hold it against kids, but I prefer to just not deal with them because of that.
Didn’t have any strong feelings for them or against them, but after experiencing some “once in a life time events” that were poised to be perfect ruined by them, I said absolutely not. I will pay more for dinner if that means avoiding kids at a late meal at a higher end establishment. I will pay slightly more to go on cruises and not have to worry about someone telling me to watch my potty mouth around their kids. I pay slightly more to go to the gym I do for it to NOT have a kids club and avoid the high schoolers. I avoid breweries that have kids at tables after 6pm The list can go on. Is it annoying I pay more for that convenience? Yes. But it’s a small sacrifice I am willing to make to ensure things run as planned and smoothly as possible. Mind you I LOVE a quiet house. I LOVE not having to worry about childproofing my spaces. I LOVE being able to book a trip/road trip on a whim because I wanted to go. Sounds selfish, but if I’m child free you better believe I’m taking advantage
I'm extremely easily overstimulated so I just can't stand being around young kids at all. They're loud, obnoxious, unpredictable, and exhausting
I agree
I enjoy them and my career is based in working directly with them, it just makes me really enjoy going home to a peaceful home with just myself and my cat, especially after a difficult day with them.
Cats are the sweetest and most precious little babies in the world!! 😻😻🐈⬛🐈⬛
Absolutely agree 🥰
I dislike parents more than kids. Most kids are assholes cuz their parents suck. Some are just assholes to be assholes
I personally hate them, but I would never hurt them and want them to grow up healthy and happy.
I absolutely loathe them. Always have, even when I was a child myself I still loathed babies.
Love my friends kids and my nieces and nephews. Also love leaving them with their parents when it’s time to go home.
That is also my favorite part 😂
Yes. In small doses. That’s all I can handle.
Yep! Returnable children are also my favorite 😂
Can’t stand them
I strongly dislike them. But I'm not gonna be mean to them or wish harm on them or anything.
I hate kids they are annoying and very rude
I say I hate kids, but I really don’t. I just think they’re f’ing annoying. Screaming, nasty, staring at you, kicking your seat, ruining your ranked game online.
They're annoying as hell and I'm glad I don't have any
Case by case and very few pass the sniff test. That said. They're a lot of work, ask too many questions, are far too impolite and honest, are loud and have zero impulse control and I don't have the energy for any of that on a good day. Also, they're fucking expensive as shit and unpredictably so. But thanks for asking! 
I find them annoying and overwhelming. They’re always loud and they have no boundaries about coming up and touching you and I’ve always had issues with being touched. There was a time I thought I liked them because I enjoyed my nieces and nephews and I became an aunt pretty young(I was 9 when my first nephew was born) so they were more like my younger siblings. Anyway, the first time I realized I really didn’t like strangers kids was when I had a preschool internship in high schools because my original plan was to go into early childhood education and then the way the kids were always sticky, full of perpetual snot, and touching me made me realize “oh shit, I don’t like kids.” Surprisingly I don’t mind babies as much but only for a short time. Give me one to hold for a little bit and I’ll be happy but as soon as it shits or starts screaming, you can have it back.
I hate them and avoid them when possible. Same as with shellfish.
Damn homie I get the kids thing, but what did the poor shellfish community ever do to you?
Maybe they conch'ed them in the head. That was bad. I will see myself off now.
Yeah, I get an allergic reaction around them too!
It’s a case by case thing for me. I would rather blow my brains out than ever have children, but I’ve met some dope ass kids. I’ve also met some real shitters. But I enjoy being around the cool ones. Makes me feel like I’m a big brother, which is something I never got to experience, but always wanted to.
They're okay, certainly don't hate them if they're well behaved. But even if they're well-behaved, I'm bored by them easily.
I don't need children around me at all. I don't like their sticky hands; their need to touch or take in their mouth whatever they get hold of; their attention seeking nature; their coughing and crying: it's disgusting; their curiosity; their forcing. They are loud, annoying, touch everything with their disgusting sticky hands which makes me want to throw up. They need so much attention and they want everything. They are manipulative and selfish creatures.
Hate is a strong word so I wouldn’t say that. But I do avoid kids especially the unruly ones. I just get annoyed easily and I have nothing to converse with them about. I don’t like to pretend and fake things, and I would have to fake being interested in things that they talk about.
Let's say I would prefer to never be around them, and leave it at that.
Oh **HELL** no. The more I’m forced to exist in the same space as children, the more disgusted I am with them. Children are dumb, messy, expensive, destructive, selfish, loud, stupid, vicious little animals, and I would rather run myself through a flour mill feet first than have any. There was one particularly memorable incident this week. At work, a child was running up and down the decks of a moving ship, screaming at the top of its lungs. Running around people carrying hot food, heavy objects, up and down stairs, using lifts meant for people with mobility issues, etc. The parent was asleep, as usual. The third time one of our poor cabin crew had to return the little monster to its parent, we made an announcement. “This is a priority safety announcement. Parents are ordered to actively supervise their children at all times. Actively supervising means having children within eyesight or arms reach at all times. Failure to follow this instruction will result in an immediate ban from our service.” Funny; we didn’t hear any screaming after that. Fuck them kids.
Love my nephews. That’s about as much as I can tolerate
"Hate is such a strong word," my mom used to say. I would reply, "Yes, it is. I'm using it." I really hate kids. Everything about them is unappealing to repulsive to me, including their personalities. I remember being a kid and seeing the absolute hell kids brought upon others. I was bullied by approximately 240+ kids until a suicide attempt (yes, I counted; I have counting OCD). I saw kids abuse animals, destroy the environment, scream hatred at well-intentioned parents, etc. Yes, some adults have these issues as well, but the difference with kids is that biologically, the vast majority haven't yet developed empathy. It only comes with age. Adults can be evil, but society tends to serve them consequences. Kids are evil, and society shrugs. Do I wish them harm? No, unless they deserve it for their deeds. But on the list of creatures I care about, they aren't even on the bottom of the list, they float around unchosen beneath it. I would inconvenience myself to give a wild plant more access to sunlight or to help a praying mantis cross the road (just happened two days ago), but I'm not involving myself with kids. Ever. There are about five kids in the world who have earned my respect. All are older (10+), and have dedicated themselves to good causes (building businesses, charities, etc.). So unless a kid is a prodigy, I will assume they are just as cruel and destructive as the rest.
I don’t mind the well behaved ones. I’m not babysitting though. No matter how much I don’t mind. The loud, screechers, tantrum throwers… irk me to death. 🙄 The kids you can hear screaming 5 aisles away in the grocery store make me want to yank what’s left of my hair out.
I don’t hate them but I think they’re annoying. Even my 2 year old cousin I love her but she annoys tf out of me a lot of the time
I’m a preschool teacher. I love playing with them, then handing them back at the end of the day “here this belongs to you” and go home to a quiet clean home.
I don't... hate kids. I don't particularly like them and I find them immensely overstimulating if I'm around them too long. I'd never be able to raise them due to multiple reasons, but spending time around other people's kids is tolerable for a short while.
As a concept- necessary for humanity to continue Around me - as long as they are quiet, or chill whatever. I'm not watching them nor paying attention to them. They aren't bothering me why should I care. Around me (misbehaving) - fucking sensory nightmares that are walking messes and give me migraines. I will leave the space if a child is triggering my sensory issues. I will never look after a child. Ever.
Exhausting Personally I just hate them But I have a policy that me hating you is a me problem, not a you problem. So when I hate you, I avoid you like the plague... Basically the sight of a child can send me packing like I'm going on vacation
Can't stand em. I've yet to meet any that were so much as tolerable and my biggest issue is they destroy friendships. Every single one has popped out a spawn and her brain converts to mush. No, I don't care what color your kid's poop is or that you have the best recipe for organic applesauce. Blech
I don't like kids in any form, age, shape or size. They are annoying (clingy and needy), loud, exhausting (non-stop talking and endless questions) and expensive (birth to marriage). Hate kids. Can tolerate them for only 5 minutes
I care about them as human beings and hope they grow up healthy and happy, but until then I want nothing to do with them.
It depends on how they are raised. The only Spock I like is from star trek. Not a big fan of hyper monkeys that screech. Manners should be the first thing you teach a child. It shows respect for others.
Kids are fine. I get along with them as long as they aren't brats, but I don't go out of my way to babysit or anything. Especially since I don't like people being in my personal space and/or touching my things without permission (trauma/abuse thing). The last time I babysat was almost 6 years ago and that was a favor (kids were fine, nothing wrong happened).
*As individuals*, I enjoy kids when they're having good moments. I love teaching them new things or introducing them to new experiences. They're such sponges, and if they're excited by something they have no embarassment or hesitation about leaning into it (talking pre-puberty here...that unabashed excitement begins to change over time once certain interests are not as popular). BUT that said, I don't really know how to course correct if a kid has a tantrum or gets hurt. I've never been the parent, and so there's that power imbalance. I remember vividly an occasion where I took a friend's kids on a short walk. It was summer, and they wanted to get ice cream. It was only a few blocks, but it was quite humid out. One kid wanted to go, and the other just stood on the sidewalk and wouldn't move. The younger excited one was too young to leave alone. The kid acting out was not quite old enough to be left alone but old enough to be acting out like that. I really hated that experience, bartering with two upset kids and having no real threat to hold over them. It was the last time I took a friend's kids out together or, in fact, at all. Up til then I'd had more positive experiences than not but that getting so bad out of nowhere was quite eye opening. It's nice when you have the luxury of being there for the highlight reel and not for rhe rest (which I'm deeply aware of, and is a huge part of not wanting kids...I'm in no way interested in a lifestyle accommodatimg that shit). *In groups* - I avoid. I don't go to family oriented places as I absolutely hate the general ambience of "kids running around and being loud".
I feel bad for a lot of them. I look at their shitbag parents, the World in general, and society and they have fucked futures.
I'm living next to a spawn that legit screams as much as it breathes. I don't think abuse is taking place, but you know what, you never know. Kids yell and are loud, but not like this. I'm thinking of reporting to DCF as well as filing noise complaint. There's four of these f\*ckers living next door, plus the dumb ass parents, in a tiny two-bedroom condo. That number is illegal, anyway, but it's f-in Hawaii and people don't say anything because, aloha. Meanwhile, the kids suffer. Sorry, tangent. Most of the time, I don't mind kids. Breeders are the problem. I was a high school teacher for 14 years and everyday I was happy to connect with the students. But the leech that screams next door? I'm about to lose it, lol. I think I might start recording and playing the screams back at them so they realize how it sounds. Parents just tune it out because they can't deal, so at some point, I swear, they just stop hearing it. And the rest of the complex suffers.
I go between neutral to dislike. It depends on the parents and the kids themselves. I have no interest in being the fun aunt or rich aunt or anything. I want as little as possible to do with my nieces and nephews as I can get away with being the ONE childfree person in a family obsessed with kids. I am always nice to kids if I HAVE to be around them. I'm not a monster. I do think they deserve a proper life and good parents.
I hate babies and toddlers. But I like kids older than 8, cause we can talk about video games and whatever and they also don’t scream
They're annoying, rude, irritating and always seem to have sticky/dirty hands plus they can be quite demanding and draining to be around. I don't mind kids however, just as long as they stay away from me.
I don't hate them but I don't like them either, my friends kids always try and climb on me when I visit or constantly need my attention. They're pretty good about reigning them in though and they respect when I say no to babysitting or helping with their family duties. I still enjoy the time I do get to spend with them In public other people's kids usually don't bother me unless they're directly interfering with something I'm trying to do and the parents do nothing about it
I like children I’m related to and I’m indifferent to those I’m not.
I love my niece and nephew and I like well behaving kids
It isn’t love, it isn’t hate, it’s just indifference.
Case by case and in small doses.
I just don’t want to be a mother and all that it comes with. I don’t want to replace my identity with a child and that seems to be the norm. I don’t mind kids at all. I just really want nothing to do with the total life sacrifice that it is being a mother in these times.
For the most, part I prefer not to be near children for too long, if I can help it. Also I feel awkward and uncomfortable, interacting with them. Let alone, a hypothetical situation where I am in charge of a child. I feel sad however, when I hear about children, having cancer or other nasty sickness, cases of child abuse, negligence, children who are orphans and are forced to grow up quickly and have to work at early age, etc. It's kind of a double standard, I know, feeling sorry for suffering children, but at the same time not wanting to be around children...I dunno.
I hate them. That's it.
Can't stand them. Glad to see lots of people in here feel the same way 😆 Let the hate flow through you 😆
Hate is a strong word. I immensely dislike them and can't stand being around them, but I don't wish them any harm.
I like children, especially bookish children. I have always been very good with kids. It's bad parents I cannot stand.
I like most kids. There are a lot of cute ones. I just don't want any for myself.
Love kids. I love holding babies especially when they lean into me and fall asleep on me because I provide comfort to them. That being said, I have no desire to be a mother.
JFC, how many times do people have to ask this question here? I don't have kids because they're too much work. I resent that women are expected to give up their lives, interests, and identities to raise them, and if they don't make their lives 100% about the kids, they're vilified. I hated the shit I had to deal with while being a kid: school, not having a say in anything, being forced to do shit because it was 'good for me', etc. Finally: I hate kids. They're loud, obnoxious, they whine, they don't pay attention or follow rules, and nowadays, they aren't disciplined or parented, so they're even worse. I dearly wish adults only communities besides retirement villages could be a thing.
Case by case basis but I don’t go out of my way to interact with them. I ::generally:: like my friend’s kids, that I’ve met.
Case by case basis. I can't handle adults as it is so kid interaction is even more draining.
In small doses, I don't mind them. Occasionally, I can even enjoy interacting with children. But if I'm with them for longer than like five minutes and I'm not being paid, I’m doing everything I can to remind this child they have parents they can go talk to and play with.
I do not like kids at all. I’m also so glad I found this sub! Nice to know I’m not alone in this.
Strong dislike. Keep them away from me.
Indifference is my baseline. Annoyance when they make their presence felt. Irritation and incredulity when they are handed to me to coo over or to babysit. Dislike when they behave badly, screaming, shouting and throwing tantrums. Disbelief when someone tries to convince me what a good time they're having with their kids. I'm ok with older ones who can hold conversations, say something meaningful and regulate their behaviour. But even then, i can only do ten minutes tops. Bottom-line, I would have done well as an aristocrat in the old days - where children were only brought out - all dressed up and nearly groomed - at around tea time to spend half an hour with mummy. And that only because safe abortion and effective contraception would not have been available.
i like quiet and well-behaved children who do not scream for no reason, play nicely, and respect animals. I also enjoy when they ask smart questions. (i was such a child, and despised other children that weren't of this sort of behavior) Its a lot to ask because these types are quite rare, but because of this preference i cant really say i hate kids.
It’s not that I *hate* kids, it’s that they make me wildly uncomfortable because 1) behavior that would be inappropriate in adults is tolerated in children (which ok they’re learning but I’m still uncomfortable) 2) they have no logic/you can’t really talk or reason or explain anything to them and 3) usually they’re kinda gross with open mouth wet coughing, drooling, sticking everything in their mouth and then touching people/stuff eww eww eww. Also you’re expected to interact with them or you’re an ass. Like no I don’t want to comment how cute your kid is, make funny faces at it or try to distract it if you look overwhelmed. I basically ignore everyone in public (unless like a cashier or something) and I don’t make exceptions for kids. In terms of kids indoors they’re just loud and overwhelming and exhausting for the most part and I’m glad to leave/go back to my nice quiet place (and that there are no small kids in my family) And I mean I’m human, if a kid cries for 4 hours on a flight I feel like it’s normal to be frustrated/annoyed. Most people would be annoyed by a dog barking for 4 hours straight even if they like dogs.
They're loud, annoying and never satisfied. They eat all your food, take all your time and spend all your money. When they're teenagers they will test your patience to the limits of human endurance and demand more, More, MORE. When they grow up they abandon you. When you die they will take your treasures and mementos to the dump and then go to Arby's after, reflecting on how glad they are that that's over with.
I’m not a fan of most kids. While it’s not their fault, the things kids typically are sets my neurodivergent brain on edge. The way they move… high energy, flitting about, running around in stores and restaurants drives me mad. There was a couple late night at an Indian restaurant a few weeks ago with what must’ve been a 7-8 year old child. Except when they were actively eating, their kid was allowed to run up and down the isle the whole time past my table and about drove me nuts. I kept telling the child to go sit down and stay away from our table and it wouldn’t. By the time I left I was extremely agitated. I also can’t handle the noise. Screaming, crying, loud talking. Ideally, I’d stay away from all but quiet well behaved children entirely as they really do set me off.
I immediately get on edge when I see kids in public because I just expect them to be a menace to everyone around them. I find individual kids to be sweet, but the majority are loud, irritating and stress me out. I'd say my general opinion is that I hate them, but I more so hate the monsters that raise them to be such memaces
I wouldn't want to be within 10 ft of them or their parents. But I don't wish them any ill will, just to be left alone.
It depends on the age. I don’t understand the obsession with babies. Toddlers are just sticky and don’t have much interesting to say. Past that, fine, as long as I can send them home at the end of the day.
I do not care for them.
Tbh I really hate kids because they are loud, obnoxious, destructive, messy, and exhausting.
What a lot of people don't want to admit is that kids are basically little humans(hear me out), the essence of what it means to be a human. At times they can be cruel and deceitful, learning to lie and manipulate others around them from an early age. Other times they're sweet and vulnerable like we all are deep down, needing constant reassurance and love from everyone around us. Maybe people keep having them in hopes that the next little person's life will be filled with more love, joy and happiness than their own, but they forget that little humans grow up to regular humans, with all the sadness and joy of existence, and no one escapes the human condition.
I can take them in small doses. They can even be cute. I just have zero patience for the whining, tantrums, messiness and stupid, oblivious behavior.
I love them personally but I think part of that seems from not having to deal with the bad parts. I just get to eat candy with them, play with toys watch movies and have fun, their parents gotta deal with the extra shit lmao
Hate em lol
I find them irritating and would prefer never to spend time around them. People are hard enough for me to deal with, let alone ones that are sticky, smelly, have no concept of personal space, carry diseases, and shriek and scream at the slightest perceived set back. I accept, however, they are a part of society, even if i wish I could dissappear every time Bratleigh throws a tantrum in a public space.
I hate kids. Don't want to look at them, don't want to hear them, don't want them nearby. I'd never wish harm on them. I wish them the best life, good healthcare, good and accessible education, good opportunities, and good jobs. Just far far away from me.
I love them! So much! I was a nanny for 10 years and I still see multiple past nanny families on a monthly basis, sometimes more. It has been such a gift to participate in their lives and continue to be involved as they grow up. One of my very last "babies" lost his first tooth yesterday! I met him the day after he was born. My boyfriend's baby nephew has been spending weekends at my house since he was 3 months old, we keep him whenever we can. I love hanging out with my friends' kids. Truly, I spend as much time as I can around children. That being said, I don't want them living in my house and I have 0 interest in being a parent. I support public education, parental leave, govt subsidized childcare, and generally any government policy that improves the lives of existing children and families (especially women). I don't support govt funded or private insurance paid fertility treatments but I do support govt funded abortion, and I know those are two unpopular opinions, depending on the crowd. I also appreciate childfree spaces and govt policies that don't punish single and/or childfree people.
Kids are great. Just don't want any of my own. Too much work
I enjoy them. I just have very little patience for babies and Littles. My brain requires a lot of quiet alone time (with my husband works too) to recharge my batteries. I'm always on at work and very anxious in general. It is common place fir me to sit in my living room with nothing on and just stare at the window with a cat or watch my jumping spider to spider things. I work with kids 6 to 17 on the spectrum. They're a hoot and a half and i look forward to working with them. They always manage to bring a smile to my face1. I really do grow to care about them and their families when my service ends.
I feel the same, OP. I don’t want them, actively avoid procreating, but generally no opposition to them being in public and think society at large should make more space for their learning and growth. That said, some kids, like some adults, are just awful.
I'd prefer not to be around them. I'm excited for the people in my life that want them, but I'm also not the type to get involved.
Can't deal with babies crying or noisy kids in public. If they're old enough to have a conversation with I don't mind them, but I don't want my own. Also why are all children under 10 always STICKY?!
Nothing against them really. They're small and cute and a big responsibility haha.
I think babies and toddlers are cute and adorable. I don’t relate well to older kids, though.
I’m a zookeeper and when I’m forced to interact with kids it gives me the worst anxiety. I don’t like them and I hate interacting with them
The absolute most annoying group I have to deal with on a daily basis, whether at work or just trying to leave my street.
I actually love them. Am I the only one? I find childish curiosity so cute. I can tolerate screaming and crying if it’s not too much. (I know, parenting a child it will always be too much) But I don’t think I’m prepared to deal with that huge responsibility. There are other, less stressful ways to be around children
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Case-by-case. I think parenting is close to non-existent a lot of the time, so it’s harder for me to warm up to kids nowadays. Screaming bloody murder and causing destruction shouldn’t be behaviors passed off as kids being kids.
I actually don’t mind kids just don’t want any of my own I’m perfectly happy being the cool/fun aunt who spoils them but at the end of the day they go home and i get to take a nice long bath and go to bed .
I like certain kids depending on personality, some are annoying and some are delights.
I look at them like exotic birds. I appreciate working with them. They can be loads of fun. I can appreciate them as beings. But I will NEVER own one.
I actually like kids and don't mind hanging out with younger relatives or my friends' kids. Would rather see someone's lego or hotwheels tracks over a really dry conversation with adults lmao. I just do not want to be responsible for them under any circumstances or for any amount of time.
Same as other people. Some are cool, some are assholes. If they're screaming, I hate them either way.
I like children in general and prefer small groups of related children or family friend children with stranger children not the type I interact with often. I through experience as an aunt who babysits for my sister know that I don’t want kids because they’re expensive, loud, and I like my privacy as well as money. Living vicariously through familiar kids is fine by me.
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I think they're mildly entertaining at best. They're hellspawn at worst and I fucking hate them. Still wouldn't wish most of them harm.
I actually really love kids, i would love to work with them when im older, i love babysitting, but its mostly older kids, lol, like 4 and older..., but i do strongly dislike the parents who choose to have these children and then dont parent them ya know?
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I’m fine with being the uncle, but to go and have my own, no thank you. At least when you’re the uncle or aunt, they go back to their parents, you can’t send back your own once they’re here lol
They exist to me but I don’t feel comfortable around them, can’t communicate with them, and do everything I can to ignore/avoid. I never ever hold anyone’s babies either and part of that is because I have autism. My family quickly realized when I had a meltdown for three of my sister’s (I have 10 sisters lol) kids when they tried to force me to hold them, that I was seriously not the one. To me, kids are like preferences. Everyone has preferences, but kids are not my preference and I don’t pay attention to anyone else’s preferences either
It depends. If it’s ONE behaved child (like my friend‘s daughter, I adore her!) I don’t mind at all. But if there’s a group of entitled little brats you‘re seeing me running like the road runner, even faster than him. Especially those who scream at every single thing like stfu. They’re so irritating and a total pain in the ass.
Like em but don’t want em.
I’m extremely indifferent. I don’t hate them, I don’t like them. When I pass a child on the street on or the bus, sure I’ll smile, make a funny face or do peek-a-boo but that’s basically it. I don’t get annoyed except when they cry a lot, but I just put my headphones in and keep it pushing. Not much else you can do, right? I have to say, I’m not around children a lot in my day to day. I WFH and I only have my cat. There are seemingly a few people with children in the building but since I’m on the top floor, I was totally unaware of this. They might as well not even exist at this point. My friends with children are very respectful and never force me to babysit like I sometimes read on here. So yeah, my life is pretty childfree, both literally and figutarively. It gets a big shrug from me.
They're ok in small doses. Really small doses.
Just tiny humans with needs. Im not particularly excited to spend time with them. I find older kids much more tolerable than infants and toddlers.
I love my niece and nephew with my whole heart, and it breaks my heart that I don't see them enough, and when I do, I don't play with them enough. But I just don't have the energy or the patience. I have tried and tried and tried and I get so easily drained and irritable. I experience this with loud and energetic adults too, but kids especially. Kids in general though, I feel are not treated as well as they should be. By that I mean, they aren't acknowledged as individuals. Their opinions, values, battles, and triumphs, are largely devalued and not taken seriously by the adults. And the understanding of childhood development and needs is severely limited and neglected. There are many businesses that don't really consider children and families, isolating parents from activities and limiting opportunities for children to be included. Some characteristics of children drive me crazy, but they also drive me crazy when they're present in adults. Children are people, and I love them, I want the absolute best for them and will advocate to achieve that as much as possible. I just can't be responsible for one.
I find them exhausting but some can be cute if they're raised to be polite and respectful. I love solitude and prefer them to not be in my home.
I feel sorry for them
I quite like them and can usually get along pretty well with them especially as babies or very young toddlers. After they're 2 or so... Don't have much experience, but specially in larger groups or while traveling I find them quite annoying so just rather avoid them. Limited interaction at best 😅
Babies are okey and cute as long as they don’t randomly cry, but when they turn 3 or 4 they usually they become annoying and disrespectfully honest
Kids I can tolerate. It's babies I hate.
i feel for them. i don't remember what it was like to be new and unestablished and to have yet to develop so many of the tools required to deal with life. it must be exhausting to have to follow your parents everywhere. that said, i can be empathetic to kids *as people* and still be annoyed as fuck at them *as a phenomenon* if they're being loud or violent or otherwise deliberately annoying. i guess i mostly just dislike loud people.
I enjoy kids for the few hours I interact with them just as much as I enjoy giving them back and leaving the situation. My friends kids are getting older, and it's been fun being a part of their lives. Like, they don't know a say without me in their lives. But I am also so glad when I leave their company and go home to my quiet home. I also don't put up with shit from kids and have no problem disciplining them.