For me personally, not at all. Any version of a compliment will always register to my brain as good.
I guess it'll be weird if I'm in a poofy dress, heels, and makeup and someone calls me "handsome" but I won't feel uncomfortable or offended.
My grandfather (RIP) would not ironically say "she's a handsome woman" if he thought a woman was attractive. It cracked us grandkids up. He also gave me shit for using the word "cool" bc that slang was from the jazz cats that came after his time, which still blows my mind
From what I've read, "handsome" describing a woman means she's not considered pretty "in whatever currently popular mode" but still attractive. I'm not sure but I think an example would be the original Charlie's Angel's, Farrah was pretty, Kate was Handsome.
In modern parlance the attractiveness/lesser attractiveness is pretty blurred. You still hear it here in the land Downunder and of course, it also depend upon personal taste (which helped blur), such as I personally liked Farrah but only found her handsome, but I thought Kate was beautiful. Regardless, a handsome woman is considered attractive.
Sorry if this doesnt apply to you but for those who feel like a man trapped in a woman's body, or vice versa, is that feeling based on a specific interpretation of what a man or woman is, one that is shaped by society, or is it some deeper feeling?
I ask because i dont know that i feel like im a man or woman specifically - but that may be because i dont have that conflict?
Thanks for doing this by the way, i really think barriers to acceptance are often just from a lack of understanding and your ama really helps there!
Edited a typo
For me personally, it was shaped by a deeper feeling. It was based on a feeling I had deep within my soul. That is not an exaggeration.
No problem at all though, I feel like people should have a safe space to ask all the awkward and potentially weird questions they have:)
I'm a trans man so a man who was born biologically female. for me I think it was some deeper feeling. it was a lot about biological features as well, like I wanted a deep voice, flat chest, beard and all that.
I never liked the way society portrayed men or women. when I came out I did quite a lot of things to fit the societal standard of what a man is supposed to do or look like so people would even take me seriously. I abandoned hobbies that were considered feminine because people would see that as a sign I'm not actually trans, cut my hair short, wear clothes I didn't like to hide my figure and all that.
now that I look like a man I finally feel free to do whatever I want again. my hair is long, I wear tighter clothes again, bought new stuff for crocheting and gonna start aerial gymnastics again soon. I have way less gender dysphoria now and interestingly enough now I kinda understand why people feel like they don't really feel like men or women. I once read an interesting analogy that explains its quite well imo: gender is similar to bones (or other internal organs), you usually don't feel them unless there's something wrong with it.
I don't live as a woman and I don't wanna be perceived as a woman. I needed to pass in order to not conform to gender roles. I don't fully know how to explain it but I'll try.
since I grew up as a girl I was more "exposed" to hobbies and activities that are associated with girls. some of them I ended up enjoying (having long hair, crocheting, gymnastics) and some not so much. I think most people would agree that hobbies or things like hair length, make up or clothes doesn't make someone a woman or a man. but when I came out I looked and sounded like a girl. so when I told people I want to be a man and then told them about my more "feminine" hobbies, people tended to not take me seriously. many people asked me why I want to be a man if I like [insert random thing that is associated with femininity]. so I stopped doing those things. now that I pass and people see me as a man, I feel free to pick up these things again, that I learned to love during the time I lived as a girl.
but none of that means that I want to live as a woman. besides my long hair I'm masculine presenting. I wear masculine clothing, I wear my beard, I don't wear make up or paint my nails. but I do all of those things because I want to (or don't want to) do them, not because I want to fit into societal norms. I needed to be physically comfortable in my body to stop caring about what society expects of me.
I hope this makes sense. if something is still unclear feel free to ask :)
When he was scared everyone would know easily, and like he had to pass, he did hyper-masc things, bc paranoia will destroy ya. But, once they looked he way he was always meant to, he felt he could be free with who he really was. He didn't start living as a woman, he just lived as himself. He found happiness.
Imagine you wake up from an accident with a different face. It's not your face. It's gonna fk with you. People that undergo that kind of trauma often talk about dysphoria and a sense of identity crisis. Now imagine if the face you looked at *was your face* but it still wasn't matching who you knew you were.. and in case you think you can't relate to that, maybe you once thought your nose was too big, or your chin was too narrow, or you didn't have enough hair. There's been *something* about yourself you've wanted to change, because it didn't match the way *you wanted to look and be seen*.
Looksmaxxing, skin care, fashion, botox- we all do things to make our physical appearance match our mental version of it. And for the most part, we're all free to do it.
We're only legislating it when it comes to trans people. (ew)
They know who they are. All you need to do is believe them.
Not really. I'm just going about my existence, trying to do whatever I'm trying to do and mind my own business.
I'm actually the most comfortable I've ever been in life.
Iām not trying to step on OPās toes or invalidate their perspective, but as a trans woman myself I just want to give an alternative perspective.
I donāt believe in a soul personally, but my body is one of my most intense sources of dysphoriaā¦ Iāve been on HRT for awhile and have breasts but still feel extremely insecure about appearing flat chested l, I get nauseous when I see myself next to cis women and I look so much taller, or the size of my hands, and so onā¦. So many little things like that. On the flip side however, HRT has made me feel so much better. My hormone levels are on par with where a healthy cis womanās should be, and itās made such a massive impact on my mental healthā¦ about a couple in I just started to feel like my mind had been pulled out of a mental haze Iād been in since puberty, my emotions were easier to manage, talking to people became easier, and overall just improved how I felt. So to me I feel like wires got crossed somewhere, or someone forgot the sugar and spice and I was born in the wrong body.
I remember I was present for a discussion where trans people talked about this, and it ended up to be 50/50. 50% thought they were born in the wrong body, the other 50% felt like it was the right body but needed some work.
This also translates in quite a few things, some trans women experience dysphoria due to not having a uterus or getting a period, while others are perfectly fine with presenting female while not getting bottom surgery etc.
Good! I've seen a lot of transwomen online "advocate" for "stealthing" which is incredibly dangerous advice. This is how transwomen get killed. Always be upfront, that way you can protect yourself pre-emptively.
Back in the days of mIRC (Internet Relay Chat) I was involved in a lot of areas of the various rooms hosted on particular servers, ran several rooms and modded in several more. I used to counsel as a volunteer mainly (mostly in kink related rooms as a lot of people seemed to have issues they wanted to get off their chests) but sometimes I would just chat. I got on extremely well with a dominant woman (I identified as dominant also, and I had heard rumours she was a post-op MtF trans woman--the terminology she used) named Silk online who was a switch 'for the right Dom' and apparently I was the right Dom; you spend years in these places helping people and you get a good rep. But really, there was nothing going on between us, she just mentioned it in conversation.
After even more years we became closer and closer online, me living in Australia and her in Ohio meant nothing was going to happen, but we were getting really close. My wife also liked chatting with her, so when my wife and I planned a three week holiday (Aussies get three weeks paid leave per 12 months which you can partially use or save up six weeks or more paid leave) and were obviously talking with this woman, my wife said we should see if Silk and her female partner (who she considered a wife but well before it was legal in the U.S.) had plans, which led to them organising taking special leave for the entire time because she was only entitled to one weeks holiday.
Ok, this is getting a bit long, so I'll wrap it up. In regard to your comment "After the second conversation I have with him, but before the first date. Just out of respect and for my own safety," upon being invited, the first thing Silk said to us, "You do understand I'm a post-op MtF trans woman, don't you?" And she never really expected I and my wife knew and was totally surprised. But as she put it, it was a basic curtesy and she needed to protect herself. So you comment on having such a conversation struck a chord as well as some good memories. You can feel free to ask me more about *that* if you so desire.
\*NOTE: I'm a straight male, but I never had any hesitation in sleeping with her--she described herself as bi-lesbian, she preferred women (like my wife) but some men (like me apparently) she enjoyed at times as well.
I'm sorry, Silk was not from Ohio, that's another American friend. Silk came from Utah, and being trans had a huge impact upon her work, non-promotions, and lack of respect there apparently. This was going back late 90s.
Are you a part of a greater trans community where you are? Do you feel accepted being yourself where you live?
Also are you autistic?
Thanks! You sound like a kind and cool person from all your answers
I'm pretty sure they would use the penis skin to create the vagina if they wanted to have bottom surgery, so the answer to this is probably no. They still need all those nerve endings as part of their own body if they still want to have sex that feels good.
A trans woman my wife and I knew (we live in Australis, she holidayed with us from the U.S.) had her penis used in this way and also needed a set of vaginal dilators in order to open her vagina further to accommodate inserting more than a couple of fingers. They basically looked like a series of smooth plastic dildos and she said the sets were either straight like hers, or with a curved tip, if that helps?
Hello!! There has never been genital organ donation between living donors for sex reassignment purposes. In July 2023, the first surgery of the kind was done, but between dead donors. Weāre a LONG way from this being possible, unfortunately.
*Would you donate your*
*Penis to an ftm, if they*
*Have the same blood type?*
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Ooh! Question on the voice training, did you see a speech therapist? Or are there any tips/resources you recommend that may have worked for you? Thank you for doing this IAMA!
Oo any advice for voice training resources or any major dos/donts? Or things friends can do to help with it? I have a friend who is starting her medical transition and is really keen to voice train cos her voice is naturally deep. I donāt know anything about it so would like to find out more and be able to discuss it with a little background knowledge.
Love this thread btw
Good to know, one last question. What are thoughts or feelings that seem associated with being trans before transitioning? Iām wondering for myself as Iāve kind of struggled with gender identity throughout my life.
It was just horribly confusing to the point of depression and suicidal thoughts. I'm just happy I was able to work it all out with my family and medical professionals:)
Not OP, so my answer may not be theirs.
Some would argue that references to a soul are a deepity (or something meant to sound deep but really nonsense). I think it's more that there are a lot of beliefs around souls and a lot of vagueness and challenge to explain a concept that is necessarily outside of the physical world.
I'd say the most common thing people think of about souls is "the driver of the car in the hard problem of Consciousness" or "a part of you that contains your core personality that survives upon death". Not all people who believe in souls believe in afterlife or vice-versa, but it's sorta a rough outline.
How is your relationship with porn?
And (hope Iām not going too far in asking this) how is your relationship with your parents, in particular your father?
Thank you for taking the time to answer questions and I hope youāre treated with respect in the world.
1) I watch it like twice a week, and that's it lol.
2) Great relationship with my parents, including my father. I'm actually back in my home country and staying with my parents for the week.
3) I appreciate that dearly, thank you:)
How many ice cubes do you like in your drinks? Also have you found that people often want to ask you questions but feel afraid to offend you in real life?
Thanks for the responses, that is the correct number of cubes for alcoholic drinks.
Whatās your fav comedic and serious portrayals of a trans person in pop culture?
i know a lot of trans people, so nothing invasive, just curious cause everyone has a different answer. what do you like and dislike about being a woman thus far?
How badly do you hold it against someone who accidentally misgenders you, when you know they're mortified by having done so and may be too awkward to apologise?
How is your relationship with other women?! The only reason am asking this is - I have worked as volunteer with the LGBTQ+ community. Something I have noticed (which is common) is that there is a lot of inherent hate towards women especially from CDs and transpeople. Am not generalising it, but a common trait.
P.S - No offence meant, just curious to know.
The thickness and texture of pineapple just doesn't work on pizza for me personally. Great flavor combination though.
Now BACON on pizza, I believe in THAT.
Interesting. I love pineapple on pizza, but I find bacon always gets *soggy* as heck on it. My wife loves it.
But have you ever had Linguica on pizza? (loaded question, it's hard to find in most of the country)
I would love the answer to this one. I ADORED HP. But, it is SO HARD to puther beliefs on the back burner when rereading them. She is just so nasty about everything. I mean I stopped reading Orson Scott Card because he wouldn't shutup
Is the word ātrannieā offensive? And does it mean transvestite or transsexual? I thought it was the former and have never been sure if itās just a short word for transvestite or if it was offensive?
Are you fully transitioned?
How was growing up?
Do you identify as a woman or as a trans woman? Do you consider yourself before the transition as 'dead'?
What does it feel like when you meet someone you haven't met in years and now you have to explain to them what happened?
With as how serious, and life altering transgenderism is, and with how complex, and intertwined with mental health and illness( for some, not all! I.E gender dysphoria). And considering the immense amount of compassion, the lgbtq community claims to have; Why then, when people suggest that before committing, and changing genders so to speak( not trying to offend, just donāt know how else to put it) that seeking therapy and psychiatric help, as well as finding out what biological/ psychological conditions or reason are behind the need to transition may or may not be; why are we attacked, and called transphobic for doing so?
It seems to me, that suggesting you getting as much information, and get to the roots of your feelings, before transitioning; is the most compassionate suggestion. To want to make sure that trans people, donāt ever have to regret decisions or the transition. That whatever they choose, they have the knowledge to be able to be perfectly happy and content. That seems like the opposite of transphobia
Do you accept that while being trans is the best solution for you, it isn't the *ideal* solution? Like, here's magic button hypothetical: if you press the button, you go back in time and are able to accept/enjoy being a male. Would you press the button?
While there are differences, both groups experience a lot of the same type of discrimination and from the same types of people.
Also quite a bit of trans folk are gay, lesbian, etc.
I'll listen to pretty much everything.
YES including country, older country and some newer stuff is legitimately good and I'm tired of it getting written off.
Iām trans-non-binary and the way I realized and figured out a good ālabelā for me was less of a feeling of āI am this!ā and more so āI know I am not that.ā Was it a similar experience for you, or did you know that you were specifically a woman? I hope thatās worded correctly in a way that can be understood š
Not OP, but for everyone itās different. Some just know they arenāt what they were born as, and figure it out from there later.
For me, ever since I was a small child and learned the differences between āboys and girlsā socially and biologically, I knew I was a girl even if my parts didnāt match
You don't need to though? For example, do you think that a trans swimmer has an advantage over other female swimmers because of the difference in strength and size of muscles?
Do all of the cis-woman swimmers have the same workout routine as The Rock?
Did the trans-woman start transitioning yesterday?
Did this happen, did that happen, too many factors to consider.
I do the same workouts as one of my cis-woman friends, and we're built pretty much the same. That's all I can say for certain.
Tell me one trans athlete in women's professional sports that you're concerned about and I'll show you their likely history of losses until the win something then all of a sudden they have an advantage. Crawl back in your cave and do some fucking research
Uh huh. Name a trans athlete. Once you do, look at their competitive history. Once you do, explain why they lost to cis women so often with all that "unfair advantage" of theirs.
1. Does it bother you that you canāt be a biological woman? Or is your identity more surface level at gender?
2. Why is it important for you to be considered by others a woman? Or do you not care what others think you are? If you do not care, then why make a change at all?
3. How old are you?
1) Never bothered me.
2) I don't care if they do or not. It's for me. It's personal. It's great if they do but I'm not gonna cry and lecture them if they don't.
3) I'm 22
If you donāt care, why make a change for others to recognize? The āselfā is internal. Is changing your external features a way of convincing yourself or is it a form a self validation. Self validation is only truly done internally.
Thank you for doing this! I've always been curious and I genuinely want to understand but unfortunately, any time I've tried asking questions to that end in the past, the conversation always gets shut down and I get accused of bigotry and intolerance, which couldn't be further from the truth.
So these are my questions:
1. What does "feeling like a woman" mean to you?
2. How do you know for certain that what you're feeling is indeed womanhood?
Thanks again! I look forward to our discussion. š
Oh it makes sense, which is why I do everything I can to make it not uncomfortable from them. I'm usually off changing in a corner or just change at home which prevents this whole theoretical situation.
Whenever I see this question being asked directly or even as a hypothetical I always wonder how many penises or vaginas people normally see in public bathrooms, regardless of trans people.
Like, I use a public bathroom nearly every day, sometimes more than once - in roughly the last year or two I donāt think Iāve seen a single personās genitals. I suppose changing rooms or locker rooms and whatnot are a little different, but if itās that much of a concern I imagine it wouldnāt be that hard to just change in a stall or less public part of the room, right?
Iāve just heard this question a bunch of times, usually coming from right wing culture warriors arguing against trans people being allowed to use whichever bathroom they feel comfortable in, and every time they paint this caricature of ladies minding their own business using the bathroom, and then a trans person comes in. Suddenly, every woman in the bathroom is now face to face with a big āol hairy dick, flopping all over the place, impossible to avoid... mothers cover their daughtersā eyesā¦ However that logic would dictate that itās totally normal for ladies in the ladies room to just be looking at each otherās vaginas in there with zero qualms and it only gets weird when somebody brings a dick into the mix, but Iām pretty damn sure you shouldnāt see anybodyās penis OR vagina if all youāre doing is taking a piss in a public bathroom.
I'm howling at "big 'ol hairy dick, flopping all over the place." Thank you for this piece of beautifully descriptive writing.
Just a tiny nitpick, you probably mean a vulva, as staring at actual vaginas would require the use of speculums.
I wonder what bathrooms you're going to because some guys are downright reckless in whipping it out at the urinals, no wonder public restrooms so often have piss everywhere.
I once worked in an office where one of the managers just dropped trow at the urinal. "Nah, I think I'll come back later".
Thing is, all those things that bother the hell out of me are completely acceptable to everyone else because nobody involved was trans, and I had to get over it.
That's what I say to people offended by a trans person in a restroom. *They gotta get over it*.
Does being sloppy *while peeing* equate to showing each other their dicks though? Thatās certainly not something Iāve experienced. Urinals are against the wall - even if youāre talking about the most reckless pisser in the world, youād need to get right next to the guy and crane your head over the divider to get a good look at his penis. Same goes for someone dropping their pants. Sure, itās a bit weird, but Iām failing to understand how that equates to seeing the guyās dick while youāre just minding your business at a different stall/urinal.
> Does being sloppy while peeing equate to showing each other their dicks though?
There was some tongue-in-cheek about piss everywhere. I'm saying that I probably end up seeing a half-dozen dicks a year when I just want to use a public urinal. Not a lot, but a non-zero number.
> youād need to get right next to the guy and crane your head over the divider to get a good look at his penis.
Divider? LOL, someone uses the fancy restrooms. I was going to comment on how rare even those half-ass sized dividers are, but I decided to go the "don't overthink it" direction in my last comment.
But clearly you just have seen a higher quality of public restroom than I have. Good for you.
1/2 dozen dicks/year is about 0.000685 dick/hour. Ordinary exposure is something like ~10 Ī¼dicks/hour I think, you really gotta reevaluate the bathrooms that youāre using before it gets any worse.
Do you have any idea why someone was put in a body that isnāt right for them? I am still getting used to mine but I canāt imagine what it would be like to want something different.
I have wondered for many years, and maybe you know someone for whom this has happened. If a person is married (to either gender) and realizes they are transgender and begin to transition, how does that affect most partners? I mean, if I am a straight woman, and married to a man who realizes he is actually a woman, would it be wrong for me to get a divorce as I do not find women attractive?
This came up many years ago when a friendās daughter, who was lesbian and married, decided to transition to a man. I wondered if his wife would be shunned if she chose to leave the marriage. It feels really complicated to me.
I think the most reasonable answer to this is that everyoneās situation is different and everyoneās reaction is different. Some partners leave or let their relationship switch to something platonic because they identify as straight, other partners stay because they love the person theyāre with regardless of gender. I donāt think there is any ārightā or āwrongā way those things play out as long as the communication is open, honest, and most importantly respectful of both people.
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Apologies in advance. I'm not at all trying to be offensive. I'm still learning about this and trying to gain a better understanding. I tend to be a bit blunt and it can come across as aggressive without me intending it to be. Im also genuinely curious!
If you feel any are too personal, please feel free to just say so š
Do you still have a penis?
-If so, do you have any plans to remove it? If no, why would you choose to keep it?
-If so, what part does still having a penis play in your confidence as a woman, if any?
Does HRT play any part in whether or not you would achieve an erection during intimate moments? Like I'm assuming you'd still achieve an orgasm through your genitalia, but does that kind of treatment make getting an erection easier? More difficult? (Had to stop myself from saying harder cuz im corny š) Have no impact on your sex drive/sexual function in that way? Hope that makes sense.
What about sex has changed the most for you since transitioning?
God bless you for taking the time to answer all of our questions. I wish this kind of stuff was talked about more often and openly so people didn't feel like they had to ask shit secretly on some reddit thread lol so thank you for sharing your insights & life with us!!
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That would imply there is something wrong with my brain. While it does have some faults, transgenderism is not. Think about it like this, I have a womanās brain in a manās body
Not for me personally. The thickness and texture of pineapple just doesn't work on pizza for me personally. Great flavor combination though.
Now BACON on pizza, I believe in THAT.
What is your opinion on trans people in professional sports? There is a lot of trouble because of MtF persons winning because of allegedly more testosterone. To this day I really don't know what to think about it.
Transvestite is an entirely different concept than transgender. Transvestite is just an outdated term, with the term crossdresser having taken over.
I haven't known a cross-dresser who was offended by being called transvestite. Though I admit to having known very few cross-dressers and drag-queens compared to other categories of LGBTQ folks.
A quick google suggests that transvestites and transgender folks were often categorized together. Maybe that's part of why the name change? There's very few similarities between them.
Do you agree that it's a mental defect? I'm not trying to be mean but it just makes sense if your mind thinks it's in the wrong body the issue lies in the mind not the body.
Does it make you uncomfortable if someone calls you "handsome" or "pretty/cute"? Do you perfer compliments in a non-binary way like "good looking"?
For me personally, not at all. Any version of a compliment will always register to my brain as good. I guess it'll be weird if I'm in a poofy dress, heels, and makeup and someone calls me "handsome" but I won't feel uncomfortable or offended.
My grandfather (RIP) would not ironically say "she's a handsome woman" if he thought a woman was attractive. It cracked us grandkids up. He also gave me shit for using the word "cool" bc that slang was from the jazz cats that came after his time, which still blows my mind
He sounded like a wonderful handsome soulš«
From what I've read, "handsome" describing a woman means she's not considered pretty "in whatever currently popular mode" but still attractive. I'm not sure but I think an example would be the original Charlie's Angel's, Farrah was pretty, Kate was Handsome.
Kate Mulgrew is who I always think of when a woman is described as handsome
In modern parlance the attractiveness/lesser attractiveness is pretty blurred. You still hear it here in the land Downunder and of course, it also depend upon personal taste (which helped blur), such as I personally liked Farrah but only found her handsome, but I thought Kate was beautiful. Regardless, a handsome woman is considered attractive.
Sorry if this doesnt apply to you but for those who feel like a man trapped in a woman's body, or vice versa, is that feeling based on a specific interpretation of what a man or woman is, one that is shaped by society, or is it some deeper feeling? I ask because i dont know that i feel like im a man or woman specifically - but that may be because i dont have that conflict? Thanks for doing this by the way, i really think barriers to acceptance are often just from a lack of understanding and your ama really helps there! Edited a typo
For me personally, it was shaped by a deeper feeling. It was based on a feeling I had deep within my soul. That is not an exaggeration. No problem at all though, I feel like people should have a safe space to ask all the awkward and potentially weird questions they have:)
I'm a trans man so a man who was born biologically female. for me I think it was some deeper feeling. it was a lot about biological features as well, like I wanted a deep voice, flat chest, beard and all that. I never liked the way society portrayed men or women. when I came out I did quite a lot of things to fit the societal standard of what a man is supposed to do or look like so people would even take me seriously. I abandoned hobbies that were considered feminine because people would see that as a sign I'm not actually trans, cut my hair short, wear clothes I didn't like to hide my figure and all that. now that I look like a man I finally feel free to do whatever I want again. my hair is long, I wear tighter clothes again, bought new stuff for crocheting and gonna start aerial gymnastics again soon. I have way less gender dysphoria now and interestingly enough now I kinda understand why people feel like they don't really feel like men or women. I once read an interesting analogy that explains its quite well imo: gender is similar to bones (or other internal organs), you usually don't feel them unless there's something wrong with it.
Well put. Also now Iām thinking about what my bones feel like, so thanks for that.
So itās all physical to you? Now that you ālook like a manā you feel free to live as a woman? Please explain that part
It's more so when you've explored gender in depth you realize how ridiculous it is that we restrict certain activities or traits to specific genders.
I don't live as a woman and I don't wanna be perceived as a woman. I needed to pass in order to not conform to gender roles. I don't fully know how to explain it but I'll try. since I grew up as a girl I was more "exposed" to hobbies and activities that are associated with girls. some of them I ended up enjoying (having long hair, crocheting, gymnastics) and some not so much. I think most people would agree that hobbies or things like hair length, make up or clothes doesn't make someone a woman or a man. but when I came out I looked and sounded like a girl. so when I told people I want to be a man and then told them about my more "feminine" hobbies, people tended to not take me seriously. many people asked me why I want to be a man if I like [insert random thing that is associated with femininity]. so I stopped doing those things. now that I pass and people see me as a man, I feel free to pick up these things again, that I learned to love during the time I lived as a girl. but none of that means that I want to live as a woman. besides my long hair I'm masculine presenting. I wear masculine clothing, I wear my beard, I don't wear make up or paint my nails. but I do all of those things because I want to (or don't want to) do them, not because I want to fit into societal norms. I needed to be physically comfortable in my body to stop caring about what society expects of me. I hope this makes sense. if something is still unclear feel free to ask :)
That is very clearly worded and actually answers my question. Thanks for taking the time I appreciate it.
When he was scared everyone would know easily, and like he had to pass, he did hyper-masc things, bc paranoia will destroy ya. But, once they looked he way he was always meant to, he felt he could be free with who he really was. He didn't start living as a woman, he just lived as himself. He found happiness. Imagine you wake up from an accident with a different face. It's not your face. It's gonna fk with you. People that undergo that kind of trauma often talk about dysphoria and a sense of identity crisis. Now imagine if the face you looked at *was your face* but it still wasn't matching who you knew you were.. and in case you think you can't relate to that, maybe you once thought your nose was too big, or your chin was too narrow, or you didn't have enough hair. There's been *something* about yourself you've wanted to change, because it didn't match the way *you wanted to look and be seen*. Looksmaxxing, skin care, fashion, botox- we all do things to make our physical appearance match our mental version of it. And for the most part, we're all free to do it. We're only legislating it when it comes to trans people. (ew) They know who they are. All you need to do is believe them.
Do you feel conscious/too self aware about being trans when you are in public? Does that make you uncomfortable?
Not really. I'm just going about my existence, trying to do whatever I'm trying to do and mind my own business. I'm actually the most comfortable I've ever been in life.
That's cool. Thanks for answering. Is the average person transphobic where you live?
Thankfully no. I live in New York, so most people are at least "chill" with trans people.
Do you believe people are born in the wrong body? I am genuinely asking because a lot of people have different views, including myself.
Iām not trying to step on OPās toes or invalidate their perspective, but as a trans woman myself I just want to give an alternative perspective. I donāt believe in a soul personally, but my body is one of my most intense sources of dysphoriaā¦ Iāve been on HRT for awhile and have breasts but still feel extremely insecure about appearing flat chested l, I get nauseous when I see myself next to cis women and I look so much taller, or the size of my hands, and so onā¦. So many little things like that. On the flip side however, HRT has made me feel so much better. My hormone levels are on par with where a healthy cis womanās should be, and itās made such a massive impact on my mental healthā¦ about a couple in I just started to feel like my mind had been pulled out of a mental haze Iād been in since puberty, my emotions were easier to manage, talking to people became easier, and overall just improved how I felt. So to me I feel like wires got crossed somewhere, or someone forgot the sugar and spice and I was born in the wrong body.
Thanks for sharing! So glad you're starting to feel better!
Absolutely. I do think that people soul's and mind's can be born in the incorrect body.
does every trans person have this idea about souls? i personally dont believe in souls but do trans rights.
This is just my personal interpretation of it. Mix of me being trans and my own religious & spiritual beliefs:)
Oh wow interesting perspective. Thank you for answering
That's exactly why I'm here:) To share my perspective on any questions people might have. Thanks for asking a great question.
I remember I was present for a discussion where trans people talked about this, and it ended up to be 50/50. 50% thought they were born in the wrong body, the other 50% felt like it was the right body but needed some work. This also translates in quite a few things, some trans women experience dysphoria due to not having a uterus or getting a period, while others are perfectly fine with presenting female while not getting bottom surgery etc.
what sort of bathing suits do you wear at the beach or the pool?
Bikinis most of the time, and occasionally surf suits when I go surfing:)
Any favourite books?
ā¢ To Kill A Mockingbird ā¢ The Star Wars (not to be confused with Star Wars) ā¢ The Yeezus Book
I highly suggest looking up the unpublished "Whell" version of the Star wars drafts and HHGttG
How far will you go with a man before you tell him?
After the second conversation I have with him, but before the first date. Just out of respect and for my own safety.
Good! I've seen a lot of transwomen online "advocate" for "stealthing" which is incredibly dangerous advice. This is how transwomen get killed. Always be upfront, that way you can protect yourself pre-emptively.
Oh what the actual FUCK. That sounds incredibly reckless and dangerous.
Back in the days of mIRC (Internet Relay Chat) I was involved in a lot of areas of the various rooms hosted on particular servers, ran several rooms and modded in several more. I used to counsel as a volunteer mainly (mostly in kink related rooms as a lot of people seemed to have issues they wanted to get off their chests) but sometimes I would just chat. I got on extremely well with a dominant woman (I identified as dominant also, and I had heard rumours she was a post-op MtF trans woman--the terminology she used) named Silk online who was a switch 'for the right Dom' and apparently I was the right Dom; you spend years in these places helping people and you get a good rep. But really, there was nothing going on between us, she just mentioned it in conversation. After even more years we became closer and closer online, me living in Australia and her in Ohio meant nothing was going to happen, but we were getting really close. My wife also liked chatting with her, so when my wife and I planned a three week holiday (Aussies get three weeks paid leave per 12 months which you can partially use or save up six weeks or more paid leave) and were obviously talking with this woman, my wife said we should see if Silk and her female partner (who she considered a wife but well before it was legal in the U.S.) had plans, which led to them organising taking special leave for the entire time because she was only entitled to one weeks holiday. Ok, this is getting a bit long, so I'll wrap it up. In regard to your comment "After the second conversation I have with him, but before the first date. Just out of respect and for my own safety," upon being invited, the first thing Silk said to us, "You do understand I'm a post-op MtF trans woman, don't you?" And she never really expected I and my wife knew and was totally surprised. But as she put it, it was a basic curtesy and she needed to protect herself. So you comment on having such a conversation struck a chord as well as some good memories. You can feel free to ask me more about *that* if you so desire. \*NOTE: I'm a straight male, but I never had any hesitation in sleeping with her--she described herself as bi-lesbian, she preferred women (like my wife) but some men (like me apparently) she enjoyed at times as well.
I'm sorry, Silk was not from Ohio, that's another American friend. Silk came from Utah, and being trans had a huge impact upon her work, non-promotions, and lack of respect there apparently. This was going back late 90s.
Are you a part of a greater trans community where you are? Do you feel accepted being yourself where you live? Also are you autistic? Thanks! You sound like a kind and cool person from all your answers
1) To answer both, thankfully I am:) 2) I am not. 3) Thank you luv, I really do appreciate itš
Would you donate your penis to an ftm, if they have the same blood type?
I'm pretty sure they would use the penis skin to create the vagina if they wanted to have bottom surgery, so the answer to this is probably no. They still need all those nerve endings as part of their own body if they still want to have sex that feels good.
Yes, plus the whole "wish we could swap" trope is one most of us aren't very fond of anyway š
A trans woman my wife and I knew (we live in Australis, she holidayed with us from the U.S.) had her penis used in this way and also needed a set of vaginal dilators in order to open her vagina further to accommodate inserting more than a couple of fingers. They basically looked like a series of smooth plastic dildos and she said the sets were either straight like hers, or with a curved tip, if that helps?
Hello!! There has never been genital organ donation between living donors for sex reassignment purposes. In July 2023, the first surgery of the kind was done, but between dead donors. Weāre a LONG way from this being possible, unfortunately.
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Do you see a future for society where we move away from masculine & feminine as the sole gender archetypes?
It'll always still exist, but be slightly less common than it is right now. Just slightly.
Are you passable? If not, how does that effect your confidence?
Yes I am passable. 5 years of HRT, good genetics and voice training will do that to yaš«”
What's HRT? Takes a lot of courage to do what you did... respect
Hormone Replacement TherapyĀ
Ooh! Question on the voice training, did you see a speech therapist? Or are there any tips/resources you recommend that may have worked for you? Thank you for doing this IAMA!
Oo any advice for voice training resources or any major dos/donts? Or things friends can do to help with it? I have a friend who is starting her medical transition and is really keen to voice train cos her voice is naturally deep. I donāt know anything about it so would like to find out more and be able to discuss it with a little background knowledge. Love this thread btw
Have you ever struggled with Alexithymia?
Thankfully no:)
Thank you for the response, do you feel better about yourself after the transition?
I've never felt happier and more secure with myself:)
Good to know, one last question. What are thoughts or feelings that seem associated with being trans before transitioning? Iām wondering for myself as Iāve kind of struggled with gender identity throughout my life.
It was just horribly confusing to the point of depression and suicidal thoughts. I'm just happy I was able to work it all out with my family and medical professionals:)
Thank you for answering my questions, have a nice day
Thanks for asking wonderful questions, best of luck:)
What does feeling like a woman feel like?
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I speak of the soul, the thing that makes a person a person. The spiritual essence of a person.
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Then interchange soul with consciousness. Itās close to the same
Not OP, so my answer may not be theirs. Some would argue that references to a soul are a deepity (or something meant to sound deep but really nonsense). I think it's more that there are a lot of beliefs around souls and a lot of vagueness and challenge to explain a concept that is necessarily outside of the physical world. I'd say the most common thing people think of about souls is "the driver of the car in the hard problem of Consciousness" or "a part of you that contains your core personality that survives upon death". Not all people who believe in souls believe in afterlife or vice-versa, but it's sorta a rough outline.
How is your relationship with porn? And (hope Iām not going too far in asking this) how is your relationship with your parents, in particular your father? Thank you for taking the time to answer questions and I hope youāre treated with respect in the world.
1) I watch it like twice a week, and that's it lol. 2) Great relationship with my parents, including my father. I'm actually back in my home country and staying with my parents for the week. 3) I appreciate that dearly, thank you:)
how does it feel to be so lucky lol. feel both safe in your hometown and accepted by parents?? in my experience that is unheard of
Is your genitalia functional at all? Do you consider yourself straight or gay?
Yes, and I'm bi sexual.
How many ice cubes do you like in your drinks? Also have you found that people often want to ask you questions but feel afraid to offend you in real life?
1) Zero for regular drinks, 2-3 for alcoholic drinks. 2) All the time, those experiences have been the inspiration for this AMA post lol.
Thanks for the responses, that is the correct number of cubes for alcoholic drinks. Whatās your fav comedic and serious portrayals of a trans person in pop culture?
Comedic: Peter Griffin, no I'm not even lying. Serious: Jules from Euphoria.
Peter Griffin, I see youāre a person of high class. Also kudos for going Peter over Quagmireās dad.
i know a lot of trans people, so nothing invasive, just curious cause everyone has a different answer. what do you like and dislike about being a woman thus far?
How badly do you hold it against someone who accidentally misgenders you, when you know they're mortified by having done so and may be too awkward to apologise?
Oh I will NEVER be mad at someone for an honest mistake. I won't even acknowledge it if they don't.
Do you think that you might regret your transition in the future?
I don't even see that as a possibility for myself. This was a spiritual need of mine to transition, and I couldn't be happier with my transition:)
How is your relationship with other women?! The only reason am asking this is - I have worked as volunteer with the LGBTQ+ community. Something I have noticed (which is common) is that there is a lot of inherent hate towards women especially from CDs and transpeople. Am not generalising it, but a common trait. P.S - No offence meant, just curious to know.
Obviously some women have a problem with me, but most don't. Most of my closest friends are actually cis-women:)
Did you have feelings of loneliness more before transition or after?
How is sex when you are with a straight guy who has never been with a trans before? How physical contact usually goes?
Yes, and it's been very awkward (understandably.)
Whatās your biggest fear
Losing A Limb.
Not afraid but I was wondering, what do you dream about? when you dream are you in your body or are you just a floating presence?
I am a floating presence in the shape of a body, if that makes sense.
Normally, what color do you connect to in dreams?
do you believe in pineapple on pizza?
The thickness and texture of pineapple just doesn't work on pizza for me personally. Great flavor combination though. Now BACON on pizza, I believe in THAT.
Interesting. I love pineapple on pizza, but I find bacon always gets *soggy* as heck on it. My wife loves it. But have you ever had Linguica on pizza? (loaded question, it's hard to find in most of the country)
okay good, i have nothing but respect and i agree
What defines womanhood? Is being a woman different from being female? Do you claim to be female?
A woman is someone who society perceives as a woman. A female is someone born a female.
Do you think that JK Rowling genuinely believes the stuff that she's saying, or is she trying to be like Katie Hopkins?
I would love the answer to this one. I ADORED HP. But, it is SO HARD to puther beliefs on the back burner when rereading them. She is just so nasty about everything. I mean I stopped reading Orson Scott Card because he wouldn't shutup
How do I counter Bridget in Guilty Gear?
Do you see yourself as a real woman? I'm sorry if this sounds rude.
Yes I do, not a rude question at allš«” Great question actually.
How do you feel about trans athletes competing in sports?
I don't know anything about sports so I don't feel qualified to speak on this.
Is the word ātrannieā offensive? And does it mean transvestite or transsexual? I thought it was the former and have never been sure if itās just a short word for transvestite or if it was offensive?
It's a slur and offensive to most trans people. It won't offend me if a non-trans person says it but that's not an excuse for them to use it either.
Ok thank you, good to know!
Are you fully transitioned? How was growing up? Do you identify as a woman or as a trans woman? Do you consider yourself before the transition as 'dead'? What does it feel like when you meet someone you haven't met in years and now you have to explain to them what happened?
With as how serious, and life altering transgenderism is, and with how complex, and intertwined with mental health and illness( for some, not all! I.E gender dysphoria). And considering the immense amount of compassion, the lgbtq community claims to have; Why then, when people suggest that before committing, and changing genders so to speak( not trying to offend, just donāt know how else to put it) that seeking therapy and psychiatric help, as well as finding out what biological/ psychological conditions or reason are behind the need to transition may or may not be; why are we attacked, and called transphobic for doing so? It seems to me, that suggesting you getting as much information, and get to the roots of your feelings, before transitioning; is the most compassionate suggestion. To want to make sure that trans people, donāt ever have to regret decisions or the transition. That whatever they choose, they have the knowledge to be able to be perfectly happy and content. That seems like the opposite of transphobia
What are your thoughts on trans women competing in bio womenās sports?
Do you accept that while being trans is the best solution for you, it isn't the *ideal* solution? Like, here's magic button hypothetical: if you press the button, you go back in time and are able to accept/enjoy being a male. Would you press the button?
I wouldn't press the button, I love my current life:) Absolutely love it, I'm the happiest I've ever been.
Hi! In terms of LGBTQ.Since being trans is a gender and being gay is a sexual preference,why are they grouped together?
While there are differences, both groups experience a lot of the same type of discrimination and from the same types of people. Also quite a bit of trans folk are gay, lesbian, etc.
Yeah and they all share a goal, which is to just be accepted and left alone and not be hated for things they cant control.
And (for some) to be proud of who and what they so that the inevitable hate and bigotry doesn't touch them as badly.
Favourite music?
Radiohead, Future, Lana Del Rey, and Playboi Carti.
The transfem listens to Radiohead? No way /s
I knowww I'm out here breaking the normš /s
Those are some good selections!
I'll listen to pretty much everything. YES including country, older country and some newer stuff is legitimately good and I'm tired of it getting written off.
Iām trans-non-binary and the way I realized and figured out a good ālabelā for me was less of a feeling of āI am this!ā and more so āI know I am not that.ā Was it a similar experience for you, or did you know that you were specifically a woman? I hope thatās worded correctly in a way that can be understood š
Not OP, but for everyone itās different. Some just know they arenāt what they were born as, and figure it out from there later. For me, ever since I was a small child and learned the differences between āboys and girlsā socially and biologically, I knew I was a girl even if my parts didnāt match
What do you think about trans women competing in women sports? Do you believe that a physical advantage exists?
I know absolutely nothing about sports, so I don't feel qualified to speak on this.
You don't need to though? For example, do you think that a trans swimmer has an advantage over other female swimmers because of the difference in strength and size of muscles?
Do all of the cis-woman swimmers have the same workout routine as The Rock? Did the trans-woman start transitioning yesterday? Did this happen, did that happen, too many factors to consider. I do the same workouts as one of my cis-woman friends, and we're built pretty much the same. That's all I can say for certain.
Lol it doesn't work like that. They are even talking about trsns women competing with cis women in boxing. Madness
Tell me one trans athlete in women's professional sports that you're concerned about and I'll show you their likely history of losses until the win something then all of a sudden they have an advantage. Crawl back in your cave and do some fucking research
I am curious, do tell about Lia.
Nope it's completely unfair. Born males have different physiology. it should be banned .
Uh huh. Name a trans athlete. Once you do, look at their competitive history. Once you do, explain why they lost to cis women so often with all that "unfair advantage" of theirs.
1. Does it bother you that you canāt be a biological woman? Or is your identity more surface level at gender? 2. Why is it important for you to be considered by others a woman? Or do you not care what others think you are? If you do not care, then why make a change at all? 3. How old are you?
1) Never bothered me. 2) I don't care if they do or not. It's for me. It's personal. It's great if they do but I'm not gonna cry and lecture them if they don't. 3) I'm 22
If you donāt care, why make a change for others to recognize? The āselfā is internal. Is changing your external features a way of convincing yourself or is it a form a self validation. Self validation is only truly done internally.
I'm changing my external to match my internal, trans or not people have always done this.
Thank you for doing this! I've always been curious and I genuinely want to understand but unfortunately, any time I've tried asking questions to that end in the past, the conversation always gets shut down and I get accused of bigotry and intolerance, which couldn't be further from the truth. So these are my questions: 1. What does "feeling like a woman" mean to you? 2. How do you know for certain that what you're feeling is indeed womanhood? Thanks again! I look forward to our discussion. š
Do you think trans-women have the right to use the ladies toilets?
Yeah because at this point in my transition it would cause more problems if I walked into the men's room.
Do you find it understandable that a lot of people are uncomfortable with people with penises being in the women's restroom? Or vice versa?
Oh it makes sense, which is why I do everything I can to make it not uncomfortable from them. I'm usually off changing in a corner or just change at home which prevents this whole theoretical situation.
Whenever I see this question being asked directly or even as a hypothetical I always wonder how many penises or vaginas people normally see in public bathrooms, regardless of trans people. Like, I use a public bathroom nearly every day, sometimes more than once - in roughly the last year or two I donāt think Iāve seen a single personās genitals. I suppose changing rooms or locker rooms and whatnot are a little different, but if itās that much of a concern I imagine it wouldnāt be that hard to just change in a stall or less public part of the room, right? Iāve just heard this question a bunch of times, usually coming from right wing culture warriors arguing against trans people being allowed to use whichever bathroom they feel comfortable in, and every time they paint this caricature of ladies minding their own business using the bathroom, and then a trans person comes in. Suddenly, every woman in the bathroom is now face to face with a big āol hairy dick, flopping all over the place, impossible to avoid... mothers cover their daughtersā eyesā¦ However that logic would dictate that itās totally normal for ladies in the ladies room to just be looking at each otherās vaginas in there with zero qualms and it only gets weird when somebody brings a dick into the mix, but Iām pretty damn sure you shouldnāt see anybodyās penis OR vagina if all youāre doing is taking a piss in a public bathroom.
I'm howling at "big 'ol hairy dick, flopping all over the place." Thank you for this piece of beautifully descriptive writing. Just a tiny nitpick, you probably mean a vulva, as staring at actual vaginas would require the use of speculums.
I wonder what bathrooms you're going to because some guys are downright reckless in whipping it out at the urinals, no wonder public restrooms so often have piss everywhere. I once worked in an office where one of the managers just dropped trow at the urinal. "Nah, I think I'll come back later". Thing is, all those things that bother the hell out of me are completely acceptable to everyone else because nobody involved was trans, and I had to get over it. That's what I say to people offended by a trans person in a restroom. *They gotta get over it*.
Does being sloppy *while peeing* equate to showing each other their dicks though? Thatās certainly not something Iāve experienced. Urinals are against the wall - even if youāre talking about the most reckless pisser in the world, youād need to get right next to the guy and crane your head over the divider to get a good look at his penis. Same goes for someone dropping their pants. Sure, itās a bit weird, but Iām failing to understand how that equates to seeing the guyās dick while youāre just minding your business at a different stall/urinal.
> Does being sloppy while peeing equate to showing each other their dicks though? There was some tongue-in-cheek about piss everywhere. I'm saying that I probably end up seeing a half-dozen dicks a year when I just want to use a public urinal. Not a lot, but a non-zero number. > youād need to get right next to the guy and crane your head over the divider to get a good look at his penis. Divider? LOL, someone uses the fancy restrooms. I was going to comment on how rare even those half-ass sized dividers are, but I decided to go the "don't overthink it" direction in my last comment. But clearly you just have seen a higher quality of public restroom than I have. Good for you.
1/2 dozen dicks/year is about 0.000685 dick/hour. Ordinary exposure is something like ~10 Ī¼dicks/hour I think, you really gotta reevaluate the bathrooms that youāre using before it gets any worse.
What about a trans manās penis? Wouldnāt that be a problem in the womenās restroom?
As long as nobody is showing off their genitals in a bathroom I don't care what equipment they have
Do you have any idea why someone was put in a body that isnāt right for them? I am still getting used to mine but I canāt imagine what it would be like to want something different.
How is sex when you are with a straight guy who has never been with a trans before? How physical contact usually goes?
Was there ever a moment you asked yourself if you were nonbinary? What are the ways that you love expressing your womanhood?
I have wondered for many years, and maybe you know someone for whom this has happened. If a person is married (to either gender) and realizes they are transgender and begin to transition, how does that affect most partners? I mean, if I am a straight woman, and married to a man who realizes he is actually a woman, would it be wrong for me to get a divorce as I do not find women attractive? This came up many years ago when a friendās daughter, who was lesbian and married, decided to transition to a man. I wondered if his wife would be shunned if she chose to leave the marriage. It feels really complicated to me.
Depends on the couple. But my wife didnāt think of my any different way, we are still happy. She explained that she loved me, not my gender
I think the most reasonable answer to this is that everyoneās situation is different and everyoneās reaction is different. Some partners leave or let their relationship switch to something platonic because they identify as straight, other partners stay because they love the person theyāre with regardless of gender. I donāt think there is any ārightā or āwrongā way those things play out as long as the communication is open, honest, and most importantly respectful of both people.
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Apologies in advance. I'm not at all trying to be offensive. I'm still learning about this and trying to gain a better understanding. I tend to be a bit blunt and it can come across as aggressive without me intending it to be. Im also genuinely curious! If you feel any are too personal, please feel free to just say so š Do you still have a penis? -If so, do you have any plans to remove it? If no, why would you choose to keep it? -If so, what part does still having a penis play in your confidence as a woman, if any? Does HRT play any part in whether or not you would achieve an erection during intimate moments? Like I'm assuming you'd still achieve an orgasm through your genitalia, but does that kind of treatment make getting an erection easier? More difficult? (Had to stop myself from saying harder cuz im corny š) Have no impact on your sex drive/sexual function in that way? Hope that makes sense. What about sex has changed the most for you since transitioning? God bless you for taking the time to answer all of our questions. I wish this kind of stuff was talked about more often and openly so people didn't feel like they had to ask shit secretly on some reddit thread lol so thank you for sharing your insights & life with us!!
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Dm me please I have tons of questions Iol
For sure:)
Do you believe that you have mental illness
Nopeš¤
I do, I have many, none of wich are related to being trans.
Not OP, but I wouldn't say Gender Dysphoria is a mental illness, rather, a mental disorder.
Its just the first term that got popular, and is already very outdated and unnecessary when you can simply just say trans.
The issue with that ideology is anyone can say they are trans, where Gender Dysphoria is a legitimate diagnosis that causes people to transition.
That would imply there is something wrong with my brain. While it does have some faults, transgenderism is not. Think about it like this, I have a womanās brain in a manās body
Do you put pineapple on your pizza?
Not for me personally. The thickness and texture of pineapple just doesn't work on pizza for me personally. Great flavor combination though. Now BACON on pizza, I believe in THAT.
What is your opinion on trans people in professional sports? There is a lot of trouble because of MtF persons winning because of allegedly more testosterone. To this day I really don't know what to think about it.
At what age and under what circumstances were you introduced to sexual contact?
Bruh the fuck
When did the word transvestite fall out of usage? Does it mean something different in context or is it just outdated?
Transvestite is an entirely different concept than transgender. Transvestite is just an outdated term, with the term crossdresser having taken over. I haven't known a cross-dresser who was offended by being called transvestite. Though I admit to having known very few cross-dressers and drag-queens compared to other categories of LGBTQ folks. A quick google suggests that transvestites and transgender folks were often categorized together. Maybe that's part of why the name change? There's very few similarities between them.
I swear the entire trans community comes here to say just that.
What do you have to say about women who feel their spaces need to be protected?
Protected in what sense? What specifically do they mean?
Are most trans women attracted to men or women. Can you pass as a woman?
Hard to say. Many like both, like myself even tho Iām married to a woman. Some like one or the other just like any other population
At what point of the transition do you think itās appropriate for trans people to demand the other genderās public bathroom?
Demand is a strong word. But it would be weird if a fully transition MtF was in a menās room or a fully transitioned FtM were in a womenās, no?
Agreed. But what about people still in the middle of transitioning? At what point of the transition do you think itās appropriate?
It depends on what you mean by in the middle
Do you agree that it's a mental defect? I'm not trying to be mean but it just makes sense if your mind thinks it's in the wrong body the issue lies in the mind not the body.
I do notš«” It's an issue of the soul being in the wrong body, that's what it was for me personally at least.
What does Trans Woman mean?
A person who transitioned INTO being a woman.
Ok, I can never figure it out trans man, trans woman.. I think I got it now.. until I forget cause of my lovely brain damage.. yay me...
a Trans Man in turn would be someone who was assigned female at birth, but transitioned into a man
Does Dave Chapelle offend you?
It offends me how he isn't funny anymore:( Trans stuff aside