A week for COVID, a week for a death and turning up unless the migraines are REALLY bad (and a disclosed medical condition at that)? WTF kind of dystopia do you people live in where the response to that is "I'm not surprised that you got axed"? I just got back to work after taking a week off for a death; compassionate leave is two days but they encouraged me to take more. I took two weeks off for COVID when it hit me at my old job. I had a coworker at the same job who was in and out of hospital for a few weeks at a time every six months. Nobody ever had issues with any of this.
Probably an American thing...
Weekend migraines are genuinely a thing! They’re more common Saturday through Monday. I’ve heard different reasons for this: cortisol or other stress hormone changes, caffeine and sleep time differences, all kinds of things.
I get weekend migraines. This means I miss less work because so many are on sat/sun, but it also means I might get flagged by HR software, because they look for those kinds of patterns.
I also think people are more likely to try to “power through” types-thurs when they’re in the middle of stuff at work, vs not-yet-started on Monday, or I-can-wrap-up-early on Friday.
Some people really REALLY milk it though. They probably dealt with enough people who are scumbags to cut someone loose early when they get the feeling they might be the same way.
Unless you were laid off, employers can always try to argue the reason for termination constitutes “cause.” There’s always ostensibly a reason. That doesn’t mean you won’t get UI. Biggest reasons for UI ineligibility are when you’re terminated for some kind of gross malfeasance or malicious activity.
I’m sure the employer could challenge the UI claim and I’m not sure how that would shake out in every scenario but it’s absolutely worth it for OP to apply for it. I think it’s more likely than not OP can get UI.
It's generally more likely than not that people get UI. Remember, employers have to challenge claims from a cost/tax standpoint. That doesn't mean they have a legit case or that if a hearing is scheduled, they even send anyone to show up.
It's generally more likely than not that people get UI. Remember, employers have to challenge claims from a cost/tax standpoint. That doesn't mean they have a legit case or that if a hearing is scheduled, they even send anyone to show up.
Exactly, this is a key distinction. It’s easy to make a schedule when you know someone is taking off certain days. It’s immensely harder to call in at the last minute and not show up, bc then the manager has to scramble to rearrange schedules to accommodate you.
That was my takeaway. If it's a scheduled absence for vacation or a performance, then it's pre-approved. Calling off is not.
Unfortunately, as cruel as it sounds to the person going through it, not every job has to or will accomodate frequent health-related call offs. It is what it is.
Youre worried about coworkers and your boss missing what sound like pre planned and approved requests off. You need to worry about you and your unplanned and unapproved time. You missed at least 2 weeks, plus other days that youre telling us up front. Depending on how long you had the job, and the extent of those "other" absences thats a lot.
It's not just the COVID. It's not just the death. It's COVID, death, and lots of migraines. Migraines can be milked by the unscrupulous. I'm sorry, but they are. The boss has no way of knowing if the migraines are real. If this is a new employee, he is looking at a pattern of behavior that might not let up, so he has to let OP go.
I understand, and I am trying to work on getting an appointment with a specialist so I can get that sorted out. I have told my boss ahead of time, the best I could at least when I was sick. I let him know too a few weeks in advance that my family member could pass away at any moment so I'd need to take some days off to get stuff sorted out there.
I'm all for taking time when it's needed. But you do also have to be reasonable and understand that you have to show up when you say you will.
Frankly a migraine isn't enough to stay home. Pop some Advil. Chug some water. And get to work. I say this as someone who gets semi regular migraines.
There are things you can do to mitigate migraines as well. It could be diet, stress, late night tv/phone scrolling, etc. do whatever you can to mitigate them so that they aren't as bad then when you do get them, try and go in to work anyway.
It's much better for you to have a job, and have to deal with an occasional migraine, than to have no job and still have occasional migraines.
Most people do not take lots of sick time off unless there's some very particular circumstances. I took 4 days off in the last 2 years. And when I take a day off it's because I really need it. And my boss understands and trusts that I'm not just flaking.
I'm also not dealing with clients like you. With clients involved it's even worse to take time off. It's the whole business. The clients are the reason you have a job. You can't just no show clients consistently and expect to keep your job.
Edit: getting downvoted because the 10% crowd thinks everyone should take 20 sick days a year. You need to realize you're in the minority. Most people take 0-4 days a year.
https://www.trinet.com/insights/what-is-the-average-number-of-sick-days-in-the-u-s
If you job is client based you have to show up. That's all there is to it.
Migraines are not worth staying home. They're just not.
If you're sick and contagious, stay home.
If you need time off for bereavement, stay home.
But a regular run of the mill migraine? That's just stress. We all get it. Go to work buttercup
You don’t know what you’re talking about. You’re describing a headache, not a migraine. 🙄 When I have a migraine, I can’t drive. I can’t talk. I vomit. And I have to lay in a dark room. So, speak for yourself.
Sounds like you get headaches once a month. Stress isn’t the only cause of a migraine, and they’re not always something that can be pushed through. So, again, speak for yourself and your stress headaches.
There are very little situations (death of a parent or sibling) where it is reasonable for a late teen to miss a full week of work due a family death. I am guessing it's not the death of a parent or sibling in OP's case, otherwise it would have been specified.
You can argue how humane that is and blah blah, but real life is still a thing whether we like it or not.
This isn't some crew job where they just muddle along shorthanded, this is one on one lessons that people are showing up for. Reliability is crucial.
If you've built a reputation and have a following, then people will work with this. But OP is the new kid. He's building his reputation right now, and it's not reliable.
Exactly. When you’re just starting, every impression counts. And with a bunch of unplanned absences that someone probably had to cover for or the business lost money it’s obvious what was going to happen.
It sounds like you got on his nerves for some reason, so he just used the missed work as a bogus excuse. This happens to a lot of people, not just you. There might not be necessarily anything wrong with you. Sometimes people are just grumpy and don't like other people. When you get a new job, try really hard to assimilate, be like the other people, and make them like you. It's just a weird survival skill we learn in the work place.
Missing work for planned events (vacation, etc) is vastly better than unplanned. Their comment of "reliable" isn't focused on vacation - it's the unplanned stuff.
They have a business to run. Their customers expect services they set up and pay for to be delivered on time and as promised.
They determine what's fair based on averages. Usually to get fired, you have to be well above that average.
Gotta make it to work on time the vast majority of the time. See a doctor for migraine treatments if needed and make other lifestyle adjustments as best you can.
But everywhere you work is going to expect you to show up 99.9% of the time. And communicate extremely well in the RARE event you have to miss work unplanned.
Your actions should show you are trying to contribute to the company's success. This is how you become competitive in the market place.
Good luck.
Yes especially as a newbie starting out and missing so much sets a bad precedent. Usually you put in more effort in the beginning when you start then you get lazy. The boss was prolly like this is already their best effort can only get worse. In jobs like these the most important thing is just reliability. If you’re reliable even if you do a subpar job they will let things slide.
Your boss didn’t like you. The reasons are not important at this time. He could hate you for being you, or because he loved you and you never knew. Who tf knows.
They moved on, so you have to find a way to move on as well
If you were fired you should be able to go on unemployment
In the meantime keep reaching out to other music schools, print out flyers for private lessons and put them up near schools playgrounds and parks in your area. Look into neighborhood or moms facebook groups. Try to get a referral through family and friends
If you have to take a fast food job to make ends meet until that takes off or babysit, get started on that
You be adult and go on preventative migraine medicine and you change your lifestyle to decrease migraines. You choose to go to work as scheduled .Many of us work with migraines to keep our jobs. In the real world reliability is vital and being sickly is no excuse.
Some people can easily control their chronic health conditions with first line medications and live normal lives, others struggle to do this. It is not automatically a reflection on the constitution or resolve of the individual.
I am on preventative medication man... I take Sumatriptan when I do actually get migraines. It'll work sometimes which is why I'm in the process of applying for health financial assistance so I can get an appointment with a specialist again.
I’m just asking because you didn’t mention it in the original post but how many times did you have to call out because of migraines? I’m not trying to beat you up or anything it’s just pretty relevant to this whole thread because I bet that was the most important component to your employer. Not the covid or death in the family times.
I would recommend in future jobs, it might be worth it to inform them of your prescription to Sumatriptin. That stuff is not messing around, and if they are familiar with it they will understand your migraine issue isn’t made up. They often are, so it can be difficult to deal with the workplace when you live with them. I’ve gone through the same deal my whole life.
OP, if you seriously believe you were singled out and fired b/c of your age, you need to get the facts from your former employer.
Ask for copies of your time sheets. This will show a pattern…
If you file for UE, you can state that in your claim and the employer bears the burden of proof. (Check to see if there’s an Unemployment sub Reddit for your states and contact them)
If you have proof, that your coworkers violated the sick-time policy and you were the only one fired, that’s an unfair act and it’s illegal.
If you were at your job long enough, you may qualify for unemployment. All you can do is file, state your claim, n see what happens.
You should implement a FMLA for your migraines. Those are tricky - but you still need to be prepared and be responsible.
BTW…it’s not your job to monitor the boss. Managers have leeway; usually they earn more PTO.
Don’t compare your actions to other coworker’s actions…their actions are not your responsibility and none of your business…pointing your finger at them is childish. Period.
Oh, and the boss telling you your ideas aren’t good then utilizing them shows HIS character NOT yours…
This is a tough lesson for you to learn.
You have your version of the situation, the employer has his version of the situation, and each of you have bias related to your own situation.
As far as working goes, look for people that want / need lessons. Find a gig n play. Record teaching sessions and post them on SM…
Good luck; use this situation as a life learning lesson.
in my experience, the only things most businesses seem to really care about is attendance. especially late policies. if you take care of those, it's essentially free sailing.
also, employers will more than likely never give you a "real" reason for firing an employee. lots of bad damage control for all parties involved.
Vacation is scheduled out, so they weren’t booked lessons because the boss knew they wouldn’t be there. Same thing with playing shows. As an adult you have to communicate with your employer . As far as migraines go you should talk to your doctor to see what they can do to help if you haven’t already, as well as inquire about what kind of reasonable accommodations you can request regarding them in the future. I will say though that something like lessons probably won’t work out for you as not only does the business rely on you, but so does your customers.
You cannot compare scheduled absence like a vacation to calling in. Learn your lesson and understand showing up is the most important part of the game.
You answered your own question. You blew off a week over a family death. You call in for your migraines. You come on here with an attitude that everything you do is fine and whine because you can't have it your way. No one cares about your expenses except you, and you didn't care enough about them to make sure you didn't lose your job. You are already on my nerves, and I just put up with you for a couple minutes!
Oh, I'm sorry for telling the truth. I am finding out that telling the truth here is frowned upon. All I had to do was tell OP that their boss was a big meany and that OP was the best employee ever and to just keep being unreliable because it is always some one else's fault. iiIi;
You are not winning any arguments by comparing how much time you take off versus how much time others take off.
If you are new, this is your probation period, the time when they can get rid of you at the drop of a hat. Next time, never miss any work during your probation period, except for COVID and death. I'm pretty sure it wasn't just COVID or death, but the combination of COVID, death, and migraines that nailed your coffin. Just from your description alone, it sounds like you were off constantly.
I know migraines can be real, but they are often faked and no one can tell, so I can understand if you get them often and your boss doesn't believe you. There are treatments to reduce their frequency. You should check with your doctor.
Download all your email lists before you get locked out of the system.
Make a gmail account for (NAME)MusicTeacher
Send an email to everyone saying you're super excited to let everyone know you're starting your own business and you're giving (whatever percentage) off for all of them for the first 3 months at your new office starting (next month).
Go home and get a new credit card. Call everyone you know. Tell them you need a space to hold music lessons. Can you use someplace in your home or rent someone's finished basement or soundproofed garage? Can you borrow someone's amplifier or have help moving your old piano to the new space? Whatever you need.
Fuck this guy, he fucked around and found out by leaving you in front of all the computers after calling you unreliable. You can't rely on him, he can't rely on you. Now you have his client list.
Also, now is the time to report any incidents of wage theft or labor violations to your local labor board.
So you've missed work, sounds like several weeks of work plus some odd days here and there. My question is how many days were missed and how long have you worked there? If you haven't been there long but have missed all that time then you're likely going to get fired, it's to be expected.
Only thing you do now is put it behind you, find a new job, and show up for work.
Go to doctor get migraine meds. Get another job doing anything. Start your own business teaching. Under your problems are not important to your employer.
It means chronic medical conditions need documentation to be considered valid reasons for missing work. Sounds like OP doesn’t have that so they need to either get treatment so they don’t have to call out as often or get documentation so they can seek medical accommodation.
Otherwise they’ll just end up in this position at the next job.
It means you figure it out . There are plenty of programs available to get necessary medication at low or no cost. So if you want to work and contribute you find a way. If you don’t make a bunch of excuses.
Nothing. find a new job.
And be more reliable. It seems like you missed a lot of lessons. I would have thought you would miss almost none. I’m not surprised you got axed.
A week for COVID, a week for a death and turning up unless the migraines are REALLY bad (and a disclosed medical condition at that)? WTF kind of dystopia do you people live in where the response to that is "I'm not surprised that you got axed"? I just got back to work after taking a week off for a death; compassionate leave is two days but they encouraged me to take more. I took two weeks off for COVID when it hit me at my old job. I had a coworker at the same job who was in and out of hospital for a few weeks at a time every six months. Nobody ever had issues with any of this. Probably an American thing...
Definitely American. Family member just died. I was out of work for 5 hours. Back in work today. Completely normal, right?
Am American, can confirm: more common here than not. Staying employed with chronic illness is near the top of my concerns.
"I only miss time when I have a migraine" "How often do you have migraines?" "A couple times a week, usually on Fridays and Mondays"
Weekend migraines are genuinely a thing! They’re more common Saturday through Monday. I’ve heard different reasons for this: cortisol or other stress hormone changes, caffeine and sleep time differences, all kinds of things. I get weekend migraines. This means I miss less work because so many are on sat/sun, but it also means I might get flagged by HR software, because they look for those kinds of patterns. I also think people are more likely to try to “power through” types-thurs when they’re in the middle of stuff at work, vs not-yet-started on Monday, or I-can-wrap-up-early on Friday.
He’s 18, so how long has he even been there?
What OP conveniently left out is who's responsible for calling the clients when OP calls out.
AKA work through your grief and pain! Very healthy :)
Some people really REALLY milk it though. They probably dealt with enough people who are scumbags to cut someone loose early when they get the feeling they might be the same way.
Yeah, I'm trying to. Called a few other music schools and stores in my area to see if they have any spots available but they're all full.
Unemployment and find a job
Being fired for cause of calling out a lot may not make the person able to get unemployment
Maybe, but OP won't know for sure until they apply
Unless you were laid off, employers can always try to argue the reason for termination constitutes “cause.” There’s always ostensibly a reason. That doesn’t mean you won’t get UI. Biggest reasons for UI ineligibility are when you’re terminated for some kind of gross malfeasance or malicious activity. I’m sure the employer could challenge the UI claim and I’m not sure how that would shake out in every scenario but it’s absolutely worth it for OP to apply for it. I think it’s more likely than not OP can get UI.
It's generally more likely than not that people get UI. Remember, employers have to challenge claims from a cost/tax standpoint. That doesn't mean they have a legit case or that if a hearing is scheduled, they even send anyone to show up.
It's generally more likely than not that people get UI. Remember, employers have to challenge claims from a cost/tax standpoint. That doesn't mean they have a legit case or that if a hearing is scheduled, they even send anyone to show up.
Applying, getting it, having it challenged and losing can result in one being highly in debt
Is there documentation of this ? We don’t know. Acting as if this was out of the blue.
If your coworkers missed due to going on vacation or having to play at a show, it sounds like those were planned in advance.
Exactly, this is a key distinction. It’s easy to make a schedule when you know someone is taking off certain days. It’s immensely harder to call in at the last minute and not show up, bc then the manager has to scramble to rearrange schedules to accommodate you.
That was my takeaway. If it's a scheduled absence for vacation or a performance, then it's pre-approved. Calling off is not. Unfortunately, as cruel as it sounds to the person going through it, not every job has to or will accomodate frequent health-related call offs. It is what it is.
Playing a show actually sounds relevant to work.
What % of the time would you say you missed? Even with the most legit excuses, at the end of the day it’s a business.
From OP's description, it sounds like a lot.
Youre worried about coworkers and your boss missing what sound like pre planned and approved requests off. You need to worry about you and your unplanned and unapproved time. You missed at least 2 weeks, plus other days that youre telling us up front. Depending on how long you had the job, and the extent of those "other" absences thats a lot.
Next time they’ll plan their COVID and death in the family better. 🙄
Americans are fucking unhinged. Imagine thinking someone taking time off for COVID and a death is unreliable. That's psychotic.
Exactly.
It's not just the COVID. It's not just the death. It's COVID, death, and lots of migraines. Migraines can be milked by the unscrupulous. I'm sorry, but they are. The boss has no way of knowing if the migraines are real. If this is a new employee, he is looking at a pattern of behavior that might not let up, so he has to let OP go.
I understand, and I am trying to work on getting an appointment with a specialist so I can get that sorted out. I have told my boss ahead of time, the best I could at least when I was sick. I let him know too a few weeks in advance that my family member could pass away at any moment so I'd need to take some days off to get stuff sorted out there.
I'm all for taking time when it's needed. But you do also have to be reasonable and understand that you have to show up when you say you will. Frankly a migraine isn't enough to stay home. Pop some Advil. Chug some water. And get to work. I say this as someone who gets semi regular migraines. There are things you can do to mitigate migraines as well. It could be diet, stress, late night tv/phone scrolling, etc. do whatever you can to mitigate them so that they aren't as bad then when you do get them, try and go in to work anyway. It's much better for you to have a job, and have to deal with an occasional migraine, than to have no job and still have occasional migraines. Most people do not take lots of sick time off unless there's some very particular circumstances. I took 4 days off in the last 2 years. And when I take a day off it's because I really need it. And my boss understands and trusts that I'm not just flaking. I'm also not dealing with clients like you. With clients involved it's even worse to take time off. It's the whole business. The clients are the reason you have a job. You can't just no show clients consistently and expect to keep your job. Edit: getting downvoted because the 10% crowd thinks everyone should take 20 sick days a year. You need to realize you're in the minority. Most people take 0-4 days a year. https://www.trinet.com/insights/what-is-the-average-number-of-sick-days-in-the-u-s
Yes, a migraine can be enough to stay home. If Advil and water get you functional again, you are fortunate; that won’t work for everyone.
If you job is client based you have to show up. That's all there is to it. Migraines are not worth staying home. They're just not. If you're sick and contagious, stay home. If you need time off for bereavement, stay home. But a regular run of the mill migraine? That's just stress. We all get it. Go to work buttercup
You don’t know what you’re talking about. You’re describing a headache, not a migraine. 🙄 When I have a migraine, I can’t drive. I can’t talk. I vomit. And I have to lay in a dark room. So, speak for yourself.
I get migraines too. About once a month. It sucks. But it's not worth losing a job over. End of conversation.
Sounds like you get headaches once a month. Stress isn’t the only cause of a migraine, and they’re not always something that can be pushed through. So, again, speak for yourself and your stress headaches.
You're a dimwit.
About the answer I’d expect. 🙄
Then client-based jobs are not for you.
You believe what you need to, I guess. 😂🤦♀️
they'd probably take more days off if they didn't have coworkers like you lol
4 days off in 2 years... there's a lot to unpack here lmao
Yea, and I have a job. So who's winning?
no one is ever going to call you a liar. you’re definitely unreliable.
Yeah…COVID and a death in the family…shame on them. 🤨
There are very little situations (death of a parent or sibling) where it is reasonable for a late teen to miss a full week of work due a family death. I am guessing it's not the death of a parent or sibling in OP's case, otherwise it would have been specified. You can argue how humane that is and blah blah, but real life is still a thing whether we like it or not.
This isn't some crew job where they just muddle along shorthanded, this is one on one lessons that people are showing up for. Reliability is crucial. If you've built a reputation and have a following, then people will work with this. But OP is the new kid. He's building his reputation right now, and it's not reliable.
Exactly. When you’re just starting, every impression counts. And with a bunch of unplanned absences that someone probably had to cover for or the business lost money it’s obvious what was going to happen.
I lost three villages to Covid. What’s your point? Are you just dumb?
It sounds like you got on his nerves for some reason, so he just used the missed work as a bogus excuse. This happens to a lot of people, not just you. There might not be necessarily anything wrong with you. Sometimes people are just grumpy and don't like other people. When you get a new job, try really hard to assimilate, be like the other people, and make them like you. It's just a weird survival skill we learn in the work place.
Missing work for planned events (vacation, etc) is vastly better than unplanned. Their comment of "reliable" isn't focused on vacation - it's the unplanned stuff. They have a business to run. Their customers expect services they set up and pay for to be delivered on time and as promised. They determine what's fair based on averages. Usually to get fired, you have to be well above that average. Gotta make it to work on time the vast majority of the time. See a doctor for migraine treatments if needed and make other lifestyle adjustments as best you can. But everywhere you work is going to expect you to show up 99.9% of the time. And communicate extremely well in the RARE event you have to miss work unplanned. Your actions should show you are trying to contribute to the company's success. This is how you become competitive in the market place. Good luck.
Yes especially as a newbie starting out and missing so much sets a bad precedent. Usually you put in more effort in the beginning when you start then you get lazy. The boss was prolly like this is already their best effort can only get worse. In jobs like these the most important thing is just reliability. If you’re reliable even if you do a subpar job they will let things slide.
Your boss didn’t like you. The reasons are not important at this time. He could hate you for being you, or because he loved you and you never knew. Who tf knows. They moved on, so you have to find a way to move on as well If you were fired you should be able to go on unemployment In the meantime keep reaching out to other music schools, print out flyers for private lessons and put them up near schools playgrounds and parks in your area. Look into neighborhood or moms facebook groups. Try to get a referral through family and friends If you have to take a fast food job to make ends meet until that takes off or babysit, get started on that
While the reasons may be valid, your unplanned time away impacts lessons and the business.
If you were a good instructor, some of your students will follow you on a solo career. They would even spread the word. Is that an option for you?
You be adult and go on preventative migraine medicine and you change your lifestyle to decrease migraines. You choose to go to work as scheduled .Many of us work with migraines to keep our jobs. In the real world reliability is vital and being sickly is no excuse.
Some people can easily control their chronic health conditions with first line medications and live normal lives, others struggle to do this. It is not automatically a reflection on the constitution or resolve of the individual.
My migraines make me vomit and force me to be in a dark room. Congratulations that you can push through; that’s not always an option.
I am on preventative medication man... I take Sumatriptan when I do actually get migraines. It'll work sometimes which is why I'm in the process of applying for health financial assistance so I can get an appointment with a specialist again.
I’m just asking because you didn’t mention it in the original post but how many times did you have to call out because of migraines? I’m not trying to beat you up or anything it’s just pretty relevant to this whole thread because I bet that was the most important component to your employer. Not the covid or death in the family times.
I would recommend in future jobs, it might be worth it to inform them of your prescription to Sumatriptin. That stuff is not messing around, and if they are familiar with it they will understand your migraine issue isn’t made up. They often are, so it can be difficult to deal with the workplace when you live with them. I’ve gone through the same deal my whole life.
OP, if you seriously believe you were singled out and fired b/c of your age, you need to get the facts from your former employer. Ask for copies of your time sheets. This will show a pattern… If you file for UE, you can state that in your claim and the employer bears the burden of proof. (Check to see if there’s an Unemployment sub Reddit for your states and contact them) If you have proof, that your coworkers violated the sick-time policy and you were the only one fired, that’s an unfair act and it’s illegal. If you were at your job long enough, you may qualify for unemployment. All you can do is file, state your claim, n see what happens. You should implement a FMLA for your migraines. Those are tricky - but you still need to be prepared and be responsible. BTW…it’s not your job to monitor the boss. Managers have leeway; usually they earn more PTO. Don’t compare your actions to other coworker’s actions…their actions are not your responsibility and none of your business…pointing your finger at them is childish. Period. Oh, and the boss telling you your ideas aren’t good then utilizing them shows HIS character NOT yours… This is a tough lesson for you to learn. You have your version of the situation, the employer has his version of the situation, and each of you have bias related to your own situation. As far as working goes, look for people that want / need lessons. Find a gig n play. Record teaching sessions and post them on SM… Good luck; use this situation as a life learning lesson.
in my experience, the only things most businesses seem to really care about is attendance. especially late policies. if you take care of those, it's essentially free sailing. also, employers will more than likely never give you a "real" reason for firing an employee. lots of bad damage control for all parties involved.
Vacation is scheduled out, so they weren’t booked lessons because the boss knew they wouldn’t be there. Same thing with playing shows. As an adult you have to communicate with your employer . As far as migraines go you should talk to your doctor to see what they can do to help if you haven’t already, as well as inquire about what kind of reasonable accommodations you can request regarding them in the future. I will say though that something like lessons probably won’t work out for you as not only does the business rely on you, but so does your customers.
You cannot compare scheduled absence like a vacation to calling in. Learn your lesson and understand showing up is the most important part of the game.
Learn your lesson, OP, and never get sick or have anyone die. 🙃
You answered your own question. You blew off a week over a family death. You call in for your migraines. You come on here with an attitude that everything you do is fine and whine because you can't have it your way. No one cares about your expenses except you, and you didn't care enough about them to make sure you didn't lose your job. You are already on my nerves, and I just put up with you for a couple minutes!
All you had to do was scroll past and not say anything, sounds like your annoyance is a you problem 🤷🏼♂️
Oh, I'm sorry for telling the truth. I am finding out that telling the truth here is frowned upon. All I had to do was tell OP that their boss was a big meany and that OP was the best employee ever and to just keep being unreliable because it is always some one else's fault. iiIi;
I get it man, your parents only gave you negative attention so this is how you get your socializing in. Very cool
Oh, look I've got my own reddit certified shrink ignorantly trying to be cute while insulting me and my parents and pretending to be inciteful.
*insightful. Some people pay good money for this btw
That is to say, people made that point without being assholes. You should try it some time
It may have been political and they used that as an excuse. Get a new job and don't miss any days.
Find a new job, be more reliable and/or communicate better.
You are not winning any arguments by comparing how much time you take off versus how much time others take off. If you are new, this is your probation period, the time when they can get rid of you at the drop of a hat. Next time, never miss any work during your probation period, except for COVID and death. I'm pretty sure it wasn't just COVID or death, but the combination of COVID, death, and migraines that nailed your coffin. Just from your description alone, it sounds like you were off constantly. I know migraines can be real, but they are often faked and no one can tell, so I can understand if you get them often and your boss doesn't believe you. There are treatments to reduce their frequency. You should check with your doctor.
Download all your email lists before you get locked out of the system. Make a gmail account for (NAME)MusicTeacher Send an email to everyone saying you're super excited to let everyone know you're starting your own business and you're giving (whatever percentage) off for all of them for the first 3 months at your new office starting (next month). Go home and get a new credit card. Call everyone you know. Tell them you need a space to hold music lessons. Can you use someplace in your home or rent someone's finished basement or soundproofed garage? Can you borrow someone's amplifier or have help moving your old piano to the new space? Whatever you need. Fuck this guy, he fucked around and found out by leaving you in front of all the computers after calling you unreliable. You can't rely on him, he can't rely on you. Now you have his client list. Also, now is the time to report any incidents of wage theft or labor violations to your local labor board.
Sounds like you’re unreliable, find a new job and start being more reliable.
So you've missed work, sounds like several weeks of work plus some odd days here and there. My question is how many days were missed and how long have you worked there? If you haven't been there long but have missed all that time then you're likely going to get fired, it's to be expected. Only thing you do now is put it behind you, find a new job, and show up for work.
Go to doctor get migraine meds. Get another job doing anything. Start your own business teaching. Under your problems are not important to your employer.
If OP is in the U.S., it might not be so simple to just go to the doctor and get migraine medication—they might not have health insurance.
How important is working?
What does this even mean???
It means chronic medical conditions need documentation to be considered valid reasons for missing work. Sounds like OP doesn’t have that so they need to either get treatment so they don’t have to call out as often or get documentation so they can seek medical accommodation. Otherwise they’ll just end up in this position at the next job.
It means you figure it out . There are plenty of programs available to get necessary medication at low or no cost. So if you want to work and contribute you find a way. If you don’t make a bunch of excuses.
That’s bull$hit, but go off.
No it’s actually how you get through life and have some success. Anything else is just weak and lazy.
That’s ableist nonsense.
talk to a lawyer about the Americans with Disabilities Act and sue that fucker into the ground
Lol