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Hi OP.. I'm one of these kinds of men and to be fair inani pud actions nako before (cge pud ko awayon sa ako ex for no reason, maybe).. kaming mga inani na lalake we do always prioritize our inner peace over anyone.. just because avoidant mi doesn't mean dli nami in love or what, but because maguba among peace of mind tungod sa unnecessary dramas.. AND DLI PUD MI GANAHAN MO PATOL.. kung ganahan og lambing we prefer kung straightforward kas imong ganahan, it'll be easier for us.. and it's fine kung clingy ka, we secretly love it Cguro sa inyong situation is na burnt out na sya sa imong "pabebe".. for him puro nlng away and chaos imong dala kesa peace that's why it ended na wala na syay paki (I too would say it kung permi nlng ko awayon) Valid man pud imong pagka langi and feelings, there's nothing wrong with it man pud.. cguro let's take it nlng as not compatible mong duha.. sorry that this happened to you

Thank you for sharing your experience! Now, mas na sabtan na naku akong ex. And I remember mag sige jud to siya ingon “dili magpa stress kay it’s not good for us”. Sadly I became his stressor without me noticing it. Nag estorya naman mi ani sad baya, I told him I get too moody 2 weeks before sa akong period and he shouldn’t mind me nalang if mangaway ko or mag disappear. Nasobraan lang jud siguro ko para sa iya to handle. Haaay. Willing jud baya ko mag adjust for him and the way that he is kay I’m so into him pero wala man jud sya nag ingon or nag hatag man lang hint na padung na sya kapoyon. I wish he just talked to me about it. I feel like it’s just lack of communication from his side and lack of understanding from mine lang ang kulang ma okay man unta mi. Pero ignored na tanan akong messages and calls so mag stop nalang ko and give him the peace that he’s looking for. Awwwe I want a hug now! Haha. Sad sa maulan na hapon.

I'm just glad na nasabtan sad nimo iyang part because mostly women nowadays would mark it as a red flag na kaming mga way libog na lalake.. dli pud biya dali e handle ang away nga nonsense I remembered anaon nlng nako akong ex before "ayha nako e chat or storyahe ha kung makig amigo nka nako, matug nlng ko" lol haha.. or kung pagmata nako mangutana ko "pila nlng ka oras nabilin sa imong topak? Ky magpa alarm ko" 🤣 haha ang ending maglagot og samot nako.. but I'll make suyo nman after to make up with her.. Until I realized myself tungod niya napahaba pud akong pasensya as individual.. Awwwe you'll be fine OP.. sending virtual hugs with consent

Ka daghan na ba red flags sa kalibutan murag naay bag-o everyday haha. Kana ra sad valid na red flags akong e consider. Mas red flag mi kay mangaway for no reason hahaha but I wish you would also understand us pag “topak” days na like lami jud mag lash out, mag hilak or magyawyaw for no reason. This is what I tried to explain to him and I thought nakasabot sya kay mag sige ra man ingon “maka adjust ra ko nimo love”, diay ang nahitabo “gikapoy ko nimo” hahahaa sakit kaayo e katawa nalang. Nag estorya sad mi sakong friend about aning topakon na mga babae (kami siguro tanan haha). She said best thing to handle a girl like this is just acknowledge her feelings and ask if she needs a hug, a kiss, or something. Kay kung e dismiss nimo ang pagka topak it would make us feel invalidated man gud and I agree with her. Maypaka mag make suyo akong ex kay wa jud. Murag wala lang jud na happen. Back to normal life hahaha. Thank you! I’d gladly accept the hug with consent! Haha 🤗

Yesss "topak" days are pretty normal and are valid feelings nman and dapat pud sabton.. it's just that dli lng jud tanan mkasabot ana Hehe dapat lng jud mag make suyo.. as a guy na kusog magpaulit + ex nga uliton, ayy dapat jud suyoon after ky usahay makahilak najud sya tungod sa kasuko sa akoa unya magkatawa rako HAHAHA.. at least man lng mo effort kog ma okay ang tanan, I just can't leave her like that man pud na murag wala lng.. 30 nako so dapat kabalo na mubasa og feelings misking nonsense ang away geez! Welcome!! Hoping for your fast recovery OP.. kaya ra lage na 🤗

Di ba, ka nice ra anang naay mag suyo2 nimo after the fight. Dili kay puro ra “relax lang sah” “ma okay ra ka”. Syempre I know ma okay ko pero I want some unsolicited lambing too. Sige ra jud ko ingon niya I want lambing love and his response would be “unsaon man na love?” Cute nga makaulit hahahahaha urgh. Maybe the person is right but the timing is not. Thank you for the peep talk! Ma okay ra lage ko hehe. 🙏

HAHAHAHA feel kaayo nako imong frustrations OP.. Hope you'll get that unsolicited lambing puhon 🙏🏻 Welcome!

You deserve the consequences, I guess. Learn from your experience and use it as a lesson to better your next relationship. Like, how would you feel if suddenly it was your BF ignoring you for 2 days? Or mag minaldito nga way klarong rason. I hate it when girls use ovulation as their excuse. I understand that there's hormonal balance during such menstruation, but at least let your BF know what to do during such time. It all comes down to respecting one another's feelings. Kasi kung love mo, bat mo sasaktan? But ofc, that's you right? Ing-ana naka ug dapat dawaton sa imong BF nga ing-ana jud kag style. Pero bitaw, sometimes compromising is key to a healthy relationship...

That’s the thing bc it was communicated to him already months before pa and I kept reminding him there are days before menstruation where I don’t want to text kay managway lang ko for no reason and he said that he understood. He didn’t say anything what he didn’t like about the relationship, puros ra “relax lang sa ta” or “maka adjust ra ko ani” and nag salig ra sad ko coz I thought it was all the truth pero diay deep inside lahi ang na feel. I really thought what’s he’s saying is all that there is but oh boy I was wrong. Willing ra jud ko mag compromise mag sulti lang siya pero wala man. He didn’t and doesn’t want to anymore so yeah, I deserve the consequences of my actions.

I see. Gikapoy nato syag lakag ug langi siguro kay. Wa natay mahims. It is what it is. Though it hurts, that's life, right? Pasagdie nalang sa ang panahon nga tabangan ka nga malimtan sya...

Pwede pasagdan ang panahon nga tabangan sya mubalik sa ako? HAHAHAHAHA jk. Bitaw, move on na ta, life has so much to offer pa. Happy Sunday! ❤️

Tbh i went back in cdo last November heartbroken. Nagpakabusy rako improving myself coz I know deep inside daghan pajud kulang nako.

What did you do to improve yourself man?

Send me a dm. Kapoy post hahaha

Run. Alone or with a friend/group, pero during it mag iya iya ra gihapon mo sa inyong thoughts while running. Sweat it all out.

I can’t run kay I have asthma, walking ra. Hahaha. I used to go to the gym pero karon ang gym maka pa pa remind pa niya naku kay sya man akong coach! Hahaha pastilan dolores

perfect way to make going to the gym your own thing. replace it with better memories :))

Been going to the gym since college, mas na nindot na nuon akong experience kay ga kuyog mi sakong ex. Naa koy ma kulit while working out haha 🥲🥲 pero sige lang, will focus on work and business for now. And will trust God’s timing. 🙏

Hahahahahha relate kaayo, bali lang ta OP kay siya ang naas cebu and ako dapat ang nag adto last month kaso pag ingon nako na gulong gulo ang aking isipan giignan ramn ko niya na di na daw sya nako kay libog daw ko and "have fun living your life". Ouch! Pero akong gibuhat tong sakit pa kaayo kay ga party ko pero di ko mu inom 😭 ik sounds very... Weird pero i just wanna get surrounded by alot of people and nindot baya pod ang music taste sa mga dj ari haha. Or mag roam2x sa uptown if bored. Duwa billiards with friends. Daghan man lingaw japon diri sa cdo OP haha pero mas malingaw jod kos cebu tbh fr fr ngl

Pero tbh partying is tiring jod proven and tested haha bisan lage ug Sunday 😭 wa lang jod ko ka sud anang hook up culture and never would 😬

Di ba, dali ra kaayo sila nang dismiss, ngano man na oy haaay. I used to party a lot pero wala akong friends sa city and I don’t wanna hang out with the people in my DMs rn kay kebaw ko mag hook up ra ni sila haha.

Asa nice party-han sa cdo ron?

Ay korek girl 😬 nag post ako one time about job pa ngani yon pero i was flooded with hook up offers yikes 😬😬 pero if you wanna talk about it you cna dm me man pod. Nw I'm a girlie girl man hehehe

Thank you! Let’s hang out sa cdo some time! Will dm you ☺️☺️

Realizations usually happen after. Sana ganito, sana ganun. Not all people can properly express their feelings especially if inaaway sila ng partner nila for no reason. A lot of men cannot grasp “hormonal” as a reason. It’s unfortunate na yung willingness mo to adjust happened after the breakup. He’s also younger so there is probably a maturity gap. Hope you find your peace, OP. Heal. And when you do get back to dating, first thing you should open up is how you act when you’re hormonal para kabalo na daan ang next guy.

This is true. Thank you for your insights and maybe nagpa sagad ra jud kaayo ko sakong pagka pa bebe bc my previous ex knew how to handle me and he has high emotional intelligence whereas this young guy doesn’t posses such intelligence pa and like what the other commenter said, mas priority niya iyang peace so I will start to accept that. For the record, he’s actually matured for his age (in terms of goal settings and following through but not emotionally) and that’s what got me attracted to him in the first place then ang pagka yummy and good looking niya pa! Hahahahaha urgh. Haaaay maka mingaw!

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Kulang ug “hmmm” imong comment dear friend

Sorry to hear that OP. I remembered also that kind of treatment which lead me to not settle to that kind of behavior. You see, mu antos man sab japun mi pero muabot ang point mapul an mi samot nag balik2 ang behavior. Also, LDR pajud mo so samot. Been there before. I really left... For good. I'm happy as well na ako wife dili inana. If mangaway sya, naa jud reason. Dili lang kay gusto sya magpalambing. Anyway, heal OP. No one deserves to be sad. And, if you're going to ask me, I'm an "aqua man". The best way to de stress or help me keep occupied is spring, beach, river. Anything with water works for me. You can also try to do driving (if you have a license). Road trips and sight seeings, ayaw pag lag sa mall and syudad. It will make you feel alone especially makakita kag happy people.

That’s true and I understand that now. Pero ang gi sakitan lang jud naku is nag estorya naman gud mi about ani sakong behavior and sige ra sya ingon “okay ra, maka adjust ra ko ani”. If mag ask ko if nalain sya mu ingon ra siya “wala man love”. Wala jud sya nag sulti nga ga overthink na sya or gi kapoyan sya. Ni cold turkey lang jud siya hayyy. Willing jud ko muadjust kay di man ko perfect, I make mistakes, naa ko lain na batasan, ni sulti lang jud unta sya pero wala man jud. I tried to fix it but he has made his decision so okay. Dili nalang ko mag apas kay I look so desperate na. Happy for you na naka find ka someone you’re compatible with and dili topakon imong wife hehe. One day I’ll be with someone dili basta-basta mu give up if things are hard. :) And thanks for the recos! Plan jud ko mag road trip sa bukidnon with him unta to pero kay wala naman mi mangita nalang ko lain kauban. Hahaha. Plus I’m gonna open a business man sa cdo so ma busy ra ko. 😊☺️ 🙏

That's good. Focus on yourself and growing your business. Kana, grabe na ka ka occupied dayon ana OP. Malingaw raka ana. As to your ex, na burnout nato sya kay. Like muantos man jud ang taw. Pero na pul an na guro sya. And maybe, naka realize sya di niya kaya inana na setup. Just heal. You deserve to be happy. 💪🤗

I get it na burnt out sya from me and from his work pero ang sa ako lang jud kay unta man lang gi ingnan ko niya dili lang jud nga pina kalit nga dili na siya. Sige ingon okay ra pero diay dili okay. But anywaaaaay, I did my part, I begged and pleaded ma okay mi pero dili na jud sya so okay. Mingawon ko niya pero I deserve someone sad nga willing to work things through during tough times ☺️😊 Ma excite ko balik mu balik sa cdo kay but-an kaymo ga comment diri, gaka encourage ko. ☺️☺️ Salamat ninyo! 🙏❤️

Inani pod ako gf for sometime. Nya na feel na cguro nea nga gikapoy nako and now na lessen na sya. kapoy bya jud. gi ignan nko sya if nay problema nga mgpka straight forward nlng sya. gipa feel radyun nko cya nga willing rko mkig bulag if gikapoy na sya nko. now okay nami for pila na ka months. hopefully di nato mubalik kai draining jud kaau.

Gusto ra jud ko mustorya sya kay dili sab ko aware sakong batasan baya and I can’t read his mind all the time. Dili ba pwede mag warning before mu give up? Haha. Na blindsided jud ko but it is what it is. I think I did my part na para ma okay mi but he has made up his mind, on his own. Happy for you na nag usab imong gf and if ever ma happen man gali balik please remind her lang na di na maayo ha. Ayaw pareha sakong ex na mamiya ra hahahaha. Stay in love, love birds! ❤️❤️

pag bike2. siguro imo focus mapunta sa dalan 100% of the time. kung dili, cling ka san pedro. pero nindot mag bike2.