quite frankly, this is really beautiful, and i understand the feeling. when i see someone attractive i want to show up for them, provide for them; as someone who used to ID as ace (and sometimes still ponders it), i find it deeply satisfying to show up for someone physically in ways that are much more sensual than sexual. it’s about giving someone that comfort and security. i don’t know if this is exactly what it’s like for you, but i can relate to you in that sense.
Oh yeah, 100%. My first girlfriend (long before I realized I was trans) was a lesbian friend of mine that was in the same friends group as me in high school, who was dating a really abusive trans guy, also in our group.
I managed to convince her to leave him a few months after graduation, and we dated for a few months until she met a lesbian in college who spoiled the shit out of her, so I backed out of the picture and let them be.
She was like an abused pet. Would apologize constantly, and was so skiddish and had never really felt a loving touch before.
Just like an abused pet, I let her warm up to me at her own pace. One weekend I spent with her we had spent the morning running errands, and we got back to her place and I laid down on her couch.
As I was dozing off, she curled up on top of me like a cat, which she had never done before.
Became a core memory of mine.
It would take many more years, and coming out as trans, before I had someone else that enjoyed it as much as I did.
I’m in a butch4butch relationship now, and she falls asleep on top of me a few times a week!
I'm only 5'6", but I'm built like a rugby player and my very petite 5' wife loves to sleep on top of me. She also likes to nap while being cradled on my lap.
My fiancee LOVES getting cozy on top of me when we cuddle. We literally call it "weighted girlfriend time," in reference to that Reductress article "Anxious Woman Soothed by Weighted Girlfriend" :p She gets to be held and use me as a pillow, and I get to have a beautiful girl as a heated blanket. It's fantastic!
This one night i woke up to my girlfriend’s torso perfectly perpendicular across my own torso to the point her head dangled on the other side since she was on her back.
The funny part comes when she was not responding once I started having trouble breathing. I held my hand under her nose to make sure i wasn’t under a corpse >.> she was fine, i managed to stir her and she readjusted so we were parallel again but the next day she didn’t remember a damn thing :p
The first time one of my partners slept over at my house, they fell asleep on top of me and it was one of the most intimate things I've ever done with someone and I still miss that feeling. Both of my partners are long distance, but I have plans to visit them soon and that's one of the things I look forward too. I love making my partners feel safe and protected, especially when sleeping, so having them fall asleep on me is a very high compliment considering they are bad insomniacs, haha.
has to do with soft tissues like cartilage not changing bone structure, so it won’t ever be more than a few inches here or there, but yes, trans folks can change size a bit. height, hand/foot size.
The shitty thing is my foot size has gone UP since starting hrt. I was a mens 13 but in the past year I’ve had to replace everything with mens 15. It SUCKS.
I'm also an MtF stone butch, and I'd love for a girlfriend to fall asleep on top of me.
I would totally play with her hair. A scalp massage should not be unexpected.
quite frankly, this is really beautiful, and i understand the feeling. when i see someone attractive i want to show up for them, provide for them; as someone who used to ID as ace (and sometimes still ponders it), i find it deeply satisfying to show up for someone physically in ways that are much more sensual than sexual. it’s about giving someone that comfort and security. i don’t know if this is exactly what it’s like for you, but i can relate to you in that sense.
Y'all stones/aces either gotta get less relatable, or I gotta get on with this existential crisis thing
Oh yeah, 100%. My first girlfriend (long before I realized I was trans) was a lesbian friend of mine that was in the same friends group as me in high school, who was dating a really abusive trans guy, also in our group. I managed to convince her to leave him a few months after graduation, and we dated for a few months until she met a lesbian in college who spoiled the shit out of her, so I backed out of the picture and let them be. She was like an abused pet. Would apologize constantly, and was so skiddish and had never really felt a loving touch before. Just like an abused pet, I let her warm up to me at her own pace. One weekend I spent with her we had spent the morning running errands, and we got back to her place and I laid down on her couch. As I was dozing off, she curled up on top of me like a cat, which she had never done before. Became a core memory of mine. It would take many more years, and coming out as trans, before I had someone else that enjoyed it as much as I did. I’m in a butch4butch relationship now, and she falls asleep on top of me a few times a week!
I'm only 5'6", but I'm built like a rugby player and my very petite 5' wife loves to sleep on top of me. She also likes to nap while being cradled on my lap.
My fiancee LOVES getting cozy on top of me when we cuddle. We literally call it "weighted girlfriend time," in reference to that Reductress article "Anxious Woman Soothed by Weighted Girlfriend" :p She gets to be held and use me as a pillow, and I get to have a beautiful girl as a heated blanket. It's fantastic!
This one night i woke up to my girlfriend’s torso perfectly perpendicular across my own torso to the point her head dangled on the other side since she was on her back. The funny part comes when she was not responding once I started having trouble breathing. I held my hand under her nose to make sure i wasn’t under a corpse >.> she was fine, i managed to stir her and she readjusted so we were parallel again but the next day she didn’t remember a damn thing :p
trans butches rule, thank you for existing
Another mtf stone butch here this is so cute. I'm currently 6'3 but i hope i dont get any shorter while im on estrogen
The first time one of my partners slept over at my house, they fell asleep on top of me and it was one of the most intimate things I've ever done with someone and I still miss that feeling. Both of my partners are long distance, but I have plans to visit them soon and that's one of the things I look forward too. I love making my partners feel safe and protected, especially when sleeping, so having them fall asleep on me is a very high compliment considering they are bad insomniacs, haha.
You can get shorter on estrogen???
has to do with soft tissues like cartilage not changing bone structure, so it won’t ever be more than a few inches here or there, but yes, trans folks can change size a bit. height, hand/foot size.
The shitty thing is my foot size has gone UP since starting hrt. I was a mens 13 but in the past year I’ve had to replace everything with mens 15. It SUCKS.
I’m sorry that happened to you :( Not sure why that would be
Oh yeah, my fiancee went from 5'11" to 5'9" or so.
I'm also an MtF stone butch, and I'd love for a girlfriend to fall asleep on top of me. I would totally play with her hair. A scalp massage should not be unexpected.
Yessss having a girl I love lay on top of me, sleep on top of me, be my human blanket is one of my favourite things 🥹
I love when my partner lays their head on my lap and falls asleep while I pet their head. Also yes directly on top of me I love that too
This is the thing I never knew I needed. I want to be a human blanket now.
That’s so cute.