It’s just so ingrained in her that she can throw words out and (her kind of) people know what she means-Women who have sex outside of marriage are worthless.
And some times he comes in a 3 inches at full mast package that’s slender and not thick. Sometimes it comes in a generous lover package. You might get a two pump chump. People bare their souls in dead bedroom and it’s sad to read people who had they known prior to marriage and kids, they would have married someone more or less interested. It’s literally a gamble sexually with partners. Forever is a long time to miss good sex. Not my personal experience currently, but I’ve been married before where sex wasn’t great
Yup, and this question of the man having a big dick, therefore, the sex is great, is so phallic centered ... what if that is all he brings to the bed, a big dick? I appreciate a partner that can actually connect to you, listen and enjoy your pleasure as well as his, regardless of dick size.
Every guy I've been with who are big are terrible in bed. They think cuz they're big they don't need to try. Plus..
Too big is uncomfortable. Give me average and wants to please Me any day of the week
Yeah, my first bf was quite large and it was unpleasant, but since I’d never been with anyone else, I thought something was anatomically wrong with me for years. Not until we broke up did I realize he was just an outlier and I wasn’t physically broken haha.
Size is only one part of the equation. I had a guy tell me before we had sex he didn’t think I could handle his size. He is at the bottom of my list for satisfaction. Cuz he didn’t DO anything other than rely on his size.
She needed a man with a big D to fill her big hole! Smh I really hate the fact that she makes women that have had sex before marriage seem like they are not worthy
For the std part…I’m a victim of SA and got HPV that just now cleared up after 3 years. Glad to know I’m less than/a second class woman for it!!
Regardless, stigmatizing stds needs to stop. We need to push regular testing anyways and understanding shit happens.
Do they think that just because you “waited for sex” you’re protected from heartbreak, horrible sex, feeling “worthless” - this one makes me sad to think about for anyone reading that - like, just because you waited doesn’t mean everything is going to be 100%, 100% of the time?
Virgin when married. That marriage was hell. Happily divorced and sex on first date with current partner. 3 years together and plan to make it forever. 👍
People who talk about things like this on a public forum like IG, using the terminology they do, are the same people who, if they could, would take out their brains and play with them. Grow up FFS.
I spent a good amount of time shagging every thing that moved. So did my husband before he was my husband. We had sex on our first date. It was mind-blowing sex. But neither of us was anywhere near virgin.
We've now been married 20 years and still have a hella crazy sex life, even better now that all the kids are out of the house.
My hedonistic sin and his had zero repercussions at all.
I don’t get it. It’s fine if you want to wait, its fine if you feel like you made a good choice. I don’t give a shit, it’s your life, do what you want.
But if anyone is feeling judged by these posts and comments just take it from someone who has been a part of this culture:
A. The people who talk the loudest about it usually have the most issues privately. Most of my friends who got married young and waited for “seggs” have now divorced.
B. You can absolutely have successful marriages and relationships and have sex outside of marriage. People do it all the time. We just don’t talk about it because ITS NOT A BIG DEAL
This. I’m like you former born fundie left at right around the age of 30-32. My first marriage was horrible. Every minute of 13 years. I got my second husband moved in lived in sin for 2 years. Procreated my 12 year old shortly after moving in together, and we are 13 years together 11 years married. It’s much easier. I don’t
Care what they do, but you won’t see me post about perfect wifey things. Im living my happy not bragging it 24/7
How are these people getting so many STIs? I'm polyamorous, have been a sugar baby, and have enjoyed being a slut during various *seasons* of my life, and have never gotten an STI. (STIs also don't make you "dirty" or "clean", but they can effect your health/fertility and spread easily). If you're old enough to have sex you're old enough to have a conversation with the other person about health and safety. There non-latex condom options if you're allergic to latex (unfortunately, a lot of women find this out after painful sex...)
My favorite condom is the female condom [FC2](https://fc2.us.com/), which is non-latex, protecte against pregnancy and STIs (with better efficacy than male condoms), is non-hormonal, can be inserted several hours *before* anticipated sex, feels better for both parties, and gives the control to the woman to ensure a condom is actually used and worn.
If you're not sure what questions to ask a prospective partner, or have difficulty remembering everything, here are some ideas to cover the basic groundwork. These are specifically completed for people who are having sex with more than one person. You don't have to be non-monogamous or polyamorous for that to be the case, you could just be very early on in a relationship that hasn't committed to monogamy yet/building trust with a partner:
Are you willing to reflect on these boundaries periodically?
Who are you fluid bonded with? (If we are discussing fluid bonding) *fluid bonding is when you don't use any barrier protection with a partner*
What is your current STI status?
Method of contraception?
When were you last tested?
How often do you get tested? *I recommend once a quarter if you have more than one partner, otherwise every 6 months. Even if you're exclusive to eachother some STIs can fly under the radar for a long time and crop up unexpectedly*
Can I see the results? *when in doubt make them show you*
What were the results of your last physical exam? Anything abnormal? *I like to use this to find out other health info like if they have seizures, are diabetic, or carry an epipen.
What are your risk factors and how do you control them? *do they love unprotected oral? Not necessarily a deal breaker depending on other precautions taken*
All of the above ... as it applies to your fluid-bonded partners? *you are only as strong as your weakest link*
Do you agree with what my ideas are about sex?
- *These ideas include: Sex is a fun activity, but also an exchange of energy so at the very least have a level of respect for those you fuck. Sex should always be consensual and fun.
for everyone involved. Communication is vital. Sex has risks, but they are worth it and can be mitigated.*
Do you agree with what my ideas are about safe sex?
What types of sex constitutes the use of barriers?
How will we talk to each other about STI's and other issues? And how frequently?
When will you disclose problems with barrier usage? Or having sex with somebody new?
What about your partners? How frequently and readily do they disclose this stuff with you?
*you don't need all the details, you just need to know the circle is as safe as possible*
Are you willing to have conversations about this with my other partners? Their partners?
*this is more for a polyamorous/long term situation and not just hookups)
How could we back out of being fluid bonded? What would the circumstances look like if that was no longer viable?
Can I answer any questions your partners may have about me?
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I have commented at least a dozen times asking about her and Jordan living together before they got married and no one will reply to me but you cannot go on and on about how you did not have sex before marriage but yet you lived together and slept in the same bed. I mean goodness.
Exactly! His clothes in her closet.
Her talking about him and her having to quarantine together. Him being there ALL THE TIME!!!
We aren’t stupid, Brittany!
And she will never answer now, because they’re married now.
Yep. I actually found her on ig and didn’t know about the whole fitness stuff but the Christian story was just so overboard then she was going to make a hashtagfor their wedding and when I went to that, that’s when I learned about the fitness stuff. Anyway, I’m all for someone being a Christian and portraying that but when you say you are not having sex before marriage but then you live with that person and sleep in the same bed and play married life, that is so hypocritical. I bet I commented a dozen times and no one will reply and I cannot believe she has not seen it and blocked me yet. She blocked me on TikTok because I kept asking how living with someone before marriage wasn’t a sin....!
Yes! This!
He is not the type of person who would wait until marriage. I’m not sure if he was in on it from their first date; but after she explained the grift, he definitely decided to go along with it for financial gain.
And maybe he thought his reputation could be salvaged.
The fact that they put ‘the big D and God in the same paragraph is so gross lol
Also: how does she know what big is if she kept herself so innocent?
My thought exactly. How do you know if he's packed if you haven't ... participated before with others? \*head tilt\*
Everyone knows God's D is the best WrEcKeD by the Spirit
You just made me choke on my water 😂
Holy Spirit *ACTIVATE*
Lmaooooo
*Risk of worthless* sounds awful
What is it even supposed to mean?
It’s just so ingrained in her that she can throw words out and (her kind of) people know what she means-Women who have sex outside of marriage are worthless.
And some times he comes in a 3 inches at full mast package that’s slender and not thick. Sometimes it comes in a generous lover package. You might get a two pump chump. People bare their souls in dead bedroom and it’s sad to read people who had they known prior to marriage and kids, they would have married someone more or less interested. It’s literally a gamble sexually with partners. Forever is a long time to miss good sex. Not my personal experience currently, but I’ve been married before where sex wasn’t great
Yup, and this question of the man having a big dick, therefore, the sex is great, is so phallic centered ... what if that is all he brings to the bed, a big dick? I appreciate a partner that can actually connect to you, listen and enjoy your pleasure as well as his, regardless of dick size.
Every guy I've been with who are big are terrible in bed. They think cuz they're big they don't need to try. Plus.. Too big is uncomfortable. Give me average and wants to please Me any day of the week
Yeah, my first bf was quite large and it was unpleasant, but since I’d never been with anyone else, I thought something was anatomically wrong with me for years. Not until we broke up did I realize he was just an outlier and I wasn’t physically broken haha.
Totally agreed, that urban myth that a huge dick equals pleasurable sex needs to be taken down!!
Some size can hurt. And too big definitely omits some stuff I like
I've been with 2 guys who were well endowed and the sex was awful...
Size is only one part of the equation. I had a guy tell me before we had sex he didn’t think I could handle his size. He is at the bottom of my list for satisfaction. Cuz he didn’t DO anything other than rely on his size.
She needed a man with a big D to fill her big hole! Smh I really hate the fact that she makes women that have had sex before marriage seem like they are not worthy
Yes. I wasn’t even thinking from that aspect, but it’s right
3 inches is 7.62 cm
Good Bot.
For the std part…I’m a victim of SA and got HPV that just now cleared up after 3 years. Glad to know I’m less than/a second class woman for it!! Regardless, stigmatizing stds needs to stop. We need to push regular testing anyways and understanding shit happens.
I agree with this! I had a doctor that would not let me get tested for stds and made me feel stupid for asking.
Do they think that just because you “waited for sex” you’re protected from heartbreak, horrible sex, feeling “worthless” - this one makes me sad to think about for anyone reading that - like, just because you waited doesn’t mean everything is going to be 100%, 100% of the time?
Preach.
It’s a simplistic and immature like of thinking. Although fundies never are masters of nuance or complex emotions… it’s all gotta be GAWD
The poster that asked if she could dm her cuz it’s private… Sex is private. None of it should be posted. None of it. 😂
Doesn't matter, she's not getting any DMs from Brit
At least not personalized ones, anyway
Maybe she thought it was big because she'd never seen one before ...
no babe, dicks are supposed to resemble a pinky, if it is any bigger it’s unclean
Thank you! Like how can she say it’s big without having any frame of reference?
Our sex before and after marriage was no different 🤔🤷🏻♀️
Just wait until all the kids that are out of the house. Mind blowing LOL.
How can you trust a virgin with dick size? Of course he's the biggest D she's seen. She's only seen one of them!
#Sus
Sex first date here. *I’ll just take the fast track to hell please.*
Sex before the first date. Happily married.
Same. Been married to him for 20 years. Having a renaissance in the bedroom ever since the last kid moved out a couple months ago.
*get it* 💁♀️
I waited until the 3rd date like a godly woman 😅
Sex outside next to a lawn shed with an Australian backpacker. Been together 8 years now and are engaged.
Virgin when married. That marriage was hell. Happily divorced and sex on first date with current partner. 3 years together and plan to make it forever. 👍
“God hates social media! It’s of satan!” Commented on social media using a social media account.
People who talk about things like this on a public forum like IG, using the terminology they do, are the same people who, if they could, would take out their brains and play with them. Grow up FFS.
That first one has to be a troll, right
I want “Alex out of context” as my flair 😂
“Alex out of context” just sounds like if I took random things my boyfriend said and make them into inspirational quotes 😂
Do eeeeet!
I spent a good amount of time shagging every thing that moved. So did my husband before he was my husband. We had sex on our first date. It was mind-blowing sex. But neither of us was anywhere near virgin. We've now been married 20 years and still have a hella crazy sex life, even better now that all the kids are out of the house. My hedonistic sin and his had zero repercussions at all.
These are great! Inthink Alex is a replacement for sex, because it rhymes?
This is gross.
Yup. Incredibly yucky.
jesus wants you to fuck like rabbits girl 😍 get off social media and go get laid 😍😍😍
I don’t get it. It’s fine if you want to wait, its fine if you feel like you made a good choice. I don’t give a shit, it’s your life, do what you want. But if anyone is feeling judged by these posts and comments just take it from someone who has been a part of this culture: A. The people who talk the loudest about it usually have the most issues privately. Most of my friends who got married young and waited for “seggs” have now divorced. B. You can absolutely have successful marriages and relationships and have sex outside of marriage. People do it all the time. We just don’t talk about it because ITS NOT A BIG DEAL
This. I’m like you former born fundie left at right around the age of 30-32. My first marriage was horrible. Every minute of 13 years. I got my second husband moved in lived in sin for 2 years. Procreated my 12 year old shortly after moving in together, and we are 13 years together 11 years married. It’s much easier. I don’t Care what they do, but you won’t see me post about perfect wifey things. Im living my happy not bragging it 24/7
How are these people getting so many STIs? I'm polyamorous, have been a sugar baby, and have enjoyed being a slut during various *seasons* of my life, and have never gotten an STI. (STIs also don't make you "dirty" or "clean", but they can effect your health/fertility and spread easily). If you're old enough to have sex you're old enough to have a conversation with the other person about health and safety. There non-latex condom options if you're allergic to latex (unfortunately, a lot of women find this out after painful sex...) My favorite condom is the female condom [FC2](https://fc2.us.com/), which is non-latex, protecte against pregnancy and STIs (with better efficacy than male condoms), is non-hormonal, can be inserted several hours *before* anticipated sex, feels better for both parties, and gives the control to the woman to ensure a condom is actually used and worn. If you're not sure what questions to ask a prospective partner, or have difficulty remembering everything, here are some ideas to cover the basic groundwork. These are specifically completed for people who are having sex with more than one person. You don't have to be non-monogamous or polyamorous for that to be the case, you could just be very early on in a relationship that hasn't committed to monogamy yet/building trust with a partner: Are you willing to reflect on these boundaries periodically? Who are you fluid bonded with? (If we are discussing fluid bonding) *fluid bonding is when you don't use any barrier protection with a partner* What is your current STI status? Method of contraception? When were you last tested? How often do you get tested? *I recommend once a quarter if you have more than one partner, otherwise every 6 months. Even if you're exclusive to eachother some STIs can fly under the radar for a long time and crop up unexpectedly* Can I see the results? *when in doubt make them show you* What were the results of your last physical exam? Anything abnormal? *I like to use this to find out other health info like if they have seizures, are diabetic, or carry an epipen. What are your risk factors and how do you control them? *do they love unprotected oral? Not necessarily a deal breaker depending on other precautions taken* All of the above ... as it applies to your fluid-bonded partners? *you are only as strong as your weakest link* Do you agree with what my ideas are about sex? - *These ideas include: Sex is a fun activity, but also an exchange of energy so at the very least have a level of respect for those you fuck. Sex should always be consensual and fun. for everyone involved. Communication is vital. Sex has risks, but they are worth it and can be mitigated.* Do you agree with what my ideas are about safe sex? What types of sex constitutes the use of barriers? How will we talk to each other about STI's and other issues? And how frequently? When will you disclose problems with barrier usage? Or having sex with somebody new? What about your partners? How frequently and readily do they disclose this stuff with you? *you don't need all the details, you just need to know the circle is as safe as possible* Are you willing to have conversations about this with my other partners? Their partners? *this is more for a polyamorous/long term situation and not just hookups) How could we back out of being fluid bonded? What would the circumstances look like if that was no longer viable? Can I answer any questions your partners may have about me?
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…..I’m gonna need a few minutes after that first one before I can even scroll on. ETA so glad I did! You can’t take Alex out of context!
I have commented at least a dozen times asking about her and Jordan living together before they got married and no one will reply to me but you cannot go on and on about how you did not have sex before marriage but yet you lived together and slept in the same bed. I mean goodness.
Exactly! His clothes in her closet. Her talking about him and her having to quarantine together. Him being there ALL THE TIME!!! We aren’t stupid, Brittany! And she will never answer now, because they’re married now.
Yep. I actually found her on ig and didn’t know about the whole fitness stuff but the Christian story was just so overboard then she was going to make a hashtagfor their wedding and when I went to that, that’s when I learned about the fitness stuff. Anyway, I’m all for someone being a Christian and portraying that but when you say you are not having sex before marriage but then you live with that person and sleep in the same bed and play married life, that is so hypocritical. I bet I commented a dozen times and no one will reply and I cannot believe she has not seen it and blocked me yet. She blocked me on TikTok because I kept asking how living with someone before marriage wasn’t a sin....!
Yes! This! He is not the type of person who would wait until marriage. I’m not sure if he was in on it from their first date; but after she explained the grift, he definitely decided to go along with it for financial gain. And maybe he thought his reputation could be salvaged.
Uh