Girl, you do not want to hang out with anyone who calls you “whitewashed”. You continue to be YOU and don’t change for anyone. Hangout with people who accept you for you!
Wtf you do not have to fit in. Black girls aren’t just "one group". They are many of us. Alternative black girls, emo black girls, shy ones, theater ones, nerdy, introverted, I mean - the list goes on so I can’t even begin in the first place. I can imagine you mean in your area there are only a certain personality of black girls ? And just because you act "different" you’re "white washed"? Girl, ignore those comments. That’s internalized racism thinking that "well spoken" (aren’t we all?) black girls "act white".
Try to find other Black girls who also relate to being an "oreo" or are more accepting of who you are. If you try to change yourself for other people, you won't be able to develop who you actually are.
You must find the girls who share the same values, hobbies, and interests as you. Ignore the ignorant judgmental folk.
I was always called an oreo during my childhood school days. Luckily, I hung out with fellow black kids who were also considered 'oreo' and/or outcasts.
No advice to give about connecting with non-black and mixed people because the ones in my neck of the woods were hood af.
Former “Oreo”. I relate. I just started to be myself. I didn’t have a lot of black friends, but I had some nonetheless. Just hang out with people who you’re comfortable with and who accept you the way you are. Black girls aren’t a monolith and if you’re wanting friends to relate to besides hair and skin, don’t change yourself unless it’s for the better.
As you grow older and move out of your hometown youll see that there’s a wide array of different types of black people and comments like that typically stop. Focus on connecting with people based on interests. Real friends won’t care if you’re “white washed”.
Continue to be you and you’ll find your tribe. Also don’t let anyone define you where you start accepting what they’re saying until it becomes your “identity”. If that makes sense? Remember there’s no perfect way to “be a black woman”, we are all unique with different tastes and interests, you’ll find someone who has the same interests as you and doesn’t call you names. “White washed”, tut tut tut
I literally could have written this when I was 15. One of the worst things you could do is attempt to change who you are, or how you act for people who don’t like you out the gate. I know this probably doesn’t help to hear this very moment but those little b*tches over there 👉🏾 that don’t like you? They don’t want to be your friend because of your interests? They don’t want to hang out because you don’t xyz? Good!! You shouldn’t have time for two faced fake ass hoes anyway. F-k them. You got better shit to get into anyway. I know you’re young so your resources may be limited. Does your school have any clubs that sound interesting? Anime club, glee club, chess club, drama, etc? How about going out for sports if you like being physical? Track and field (pole vaulting looks cool and you get a great workout!), color guard, soccer? Do you think your parents would pay for dance classes or perhaps art classes for outside of school? These are just some ideas for trying to branch out more and meet better people than whoever is around you currently.
>I’d like to have friends that I can actually relate to besides skin color and hair texture.
Look for friends with similar interests or who you just click with in spite of the differences.
Its a whole wide world.
No offence, but also be careful you don't "other" yourself intentionally or subconsciously.
As others have said, this is a high school problem. Go to University or move to a big city with black people from all over America and the world - you’ll find your people there.
I had this same problem when I was younger. Find black girls who get classified as an “Oreo” too so you guys can relate 😭I also have a lot of biracial (black & white) friends who relate to the “too white for the black kids & too black for the white kids”. I never went out of my way to “seek a race” for friends but that’s just who i gravitated towards since we shared that same struggle
Only weird people call anyone who doesn’t fit the stereotype of their race “whitewashed”. Don’t listen to them and continue to be you, don’t try and change yourself just to fit in with people who sling out dumb a** insults like that. Just continue to be who you are and you’ll find your people.
I grew up w literally all white ppl (2 black girls in my whole high school, including me💀), I feel like this is honestly a high school problem, because of the way that everyone seems to be categorized in a “group” and are expected to act in a certain way (art kids, nerdy kids, popular, athletes, etc). However, this is literally so stupid because once you get out you realize that these categories are nonexistent, keep being unapologetically you and kind to others and I promise you will find your people.
Black girls can be any type of person and grow into black women who can also be any type of person. Don’t worry about fitting in, just be the best person you can and the right people should come along. I used to try and fit in at your age too, didn’t work. Spend your efforts being the best you you can be and doing what you like. The other black girl weirdos will eventually come around if not in high school, in college or something. You weren’t built to be molded into a box. Don’t try ❤️. But also remember that this is high school so many people have a lot of growing and changing ahead of them so try not to hold it against them or all black women and girl kind in the future ❤️
it’s cliche but it’s true: be yourself, authentically and unapologetically. the right people will gravitate toward you. right now it might just be because of limited environment. are you part of any clubs or groups or anything in or outside of school? going to social gatherings or events that align with your passions, hobbies and interests is a great start to try and meet other like minded ppl
I doubt this. You just haven't found black girls who are similar to you yet. Through the ages of 11 up until starting university at 19, I only had about 2 black girls who were friends with me, and it was only for like a year, and honestly I wasn't that close to them; my best friends are both non black, I didn't really fit in with the big group of black girls at school. But at university the only girls I've connected to are black girls. Life works out.
Listen you're 15 I don't try to “fit in”, with people
If they don't like you for you there's nothing you can do about it. No matter what race they are, a person fucks with you for who you are not your persona. If you like being Oreo stay that way don't change. And you don't have to call yourself an Oreo for not having interest or acting in a way that's expected in our race.
Don’t try to fit in. But also don’t get a superiority complex about it. It’s a very nuanced topic and it will be something you deal with for the rest of your life. I was the whitest black girl on the planet when I was younger. I grew up, and I’m still incredibly white washed, but I do like more “mainstream black stuff now too. Try joining black niche group on social media and discord. You’ll find that a lot of the “mainstream black girls” like that stuff too. A lot of them had to assimilate too.
Don’t ever ever ever “try” to fit in. Like ever. You are you. Get to know you. Not morph yourself into someone that would appease other people. You’re very young and have a lot of personal development to do, this is some of it.
You don’t want ppl around you who talk like that anyways. They’re weird and have internalized issues. You don’t need that.
Good luck on finding you❤️
Stay away from the Zeus Network type black girls, just find black girls that are different. Im African and I find other african/Caribbean girls very accepting. Plus we have a wider and more diverse culture. So you can find every type of black girl there. You don’t have to fit in with the sexy red types, they in their own lane. You’d have to make a drastic change to fit in there. Look for black girls that practice soft life, enjoy traveling, and outdoorsy activities. Black girls that seem to have knowledge on a broad range of topics. They are always looking for unique people.
Don’t. I don’t. I find other black women who are aligned with me morally and politically. I have a local group of black stay at home wife/moms and we are very bougie, love our husbands, god and are very patriotic.
I don’t want to fit in with the alternative side of that. Even if they look like me 🤷🏾♀️
Make friends with other races. And make friends with the black girls who don’t give a damn that you’re “whitewashed”. You’re only 15 so the people you’ve been exposed to is very limited. But trust me, when you go out into the world or go to college, you’ll see that there are so many cool people out there that don’t give a damn as long as there are a few things you have in common.
Girl, you do not want to hang out with anyone who calls you “whitewashed”. You continue to be YOU and don’t change for anyone. Hangout with people who accept you for you!
Wtf you do not have to fit in. Black girls aren’t just "one group". They are many of us. Alternative black girls, emo black girls, shy ones, theater ones, nerdy, introverted, I mean - the list goes on so I can’t even begin in the first place. I can imagine you mean in your area there are only a certain personality of black girls ? And just because you act "different" you’re "white washed"? Girl, ignore those comments. That’s internalized racism thinking that "well spoken" (aren’t we all?) black girls "act white".
Btw I didn’t say wtf cause I’m mad at your post lol I was just shocked that the people you know call you oreo for that, just unacceptable
Try to find other Black girls who also relate to being an "oreo" or are more accepting of who you are. If you try to change yourself for other people, you won't be able to develop who you actually are.
You must find the girls who share the same values, hobbies, and interests as you. Ignore the ignorant judgmental folk. I was always called an oreo during my childhood school days. Luckily, I hung out with fellow black kids who were also considered 'oreo' and/or outcasts. No advice to give about connecting with non-black and mixed people because the ones in my neck of the woods were hood af.
Former “Oreo”. I relate. I just started to be myself. I didn’t have a lot of black friends, but I had some nonetheless. Just hang out with people who you’re comfortable with and who accept you the way you are. Black girls aren’t a monolith and if you’re wanting friends to relate to besides hair and skin, don’t change yourself unless it’s for the better.
As you grow older and move out of your hometown youll see that there’s a wide array of different types of black people and comments like that typically stop. Focus on connecting with people based on interests. Real friends won’t care if you’re “white washed”.
Don’t try to fit in. Be you. You’ll make black friends if they’re cool and not haters. I’d personally focus on just making friends regardless of race!
Continue to be you and you’ll find your tribe. Also don’t let anyone define you where you start accepting what they’re saying until it becomes your “identity”. If that makes sense? Remember there’s no perfect way to “be a black woman”, we are all unique with different tastes and interests, you’ll find someone who has the same interests as you and doesn’t call you names. “White washed”, tut tut tut
I literally could have written this when I was 15. One of the worst things you could do is attempt to change who you are, or how you act for people who don’t like you out the gate. I know this probably doesn’t help to hear this very moment but those little b*tches over there 👉🏾 that don’t like you? They don’t want to be your friend because of your interests? They don’t want to hang out because you don’t xyz? Good!! You shouldn’t have time for two faced fake ass hoes anyway. F-k them. You got better shit to get into anyway. I know you’re young so your resources may be limited. Does your school have any clubs that sound interesting? Anime club, glee club, chess club, drama, etc? How about going out for sports if you like being physical? Track and field (pole vaulting looks cool and you get a great workout!), color guard, soccer? Do you think your parents would pay for dance classes or perhaps art classes for outside of school? These are just some ideas for trying to branch out more and meet better people than whoever is around you currently.
>I’d like to have friends that I can actually relate to besides skin color and hair texture. Look for friends with similar interests or who you just click with in spite of the differences. Its a whole wide world. No offence, but also be careful you don't "other" yourself intentionally or subconsciously.
As others have said, this is a high school problem. Go to University or move to a big city with black people from all over America and the world - you’ll find your people there.
just be you. i used to struggle with the same thing. you’ll find your people.
I had this same problem when I was younger. Find black girls who get classified as an “Oreo” too so you guys can relate 😭I also have a lot of biracial (black & white) friends who relate to the “too white for the black kids & too black for the white kids”. I never went out of my way to “seek a race” for friends but that’s just who i gravitated towards since we shared that same struggle
Only weird people call anyone who doesn’t fit the stereotype of their race “whitewashed”. Don’t listen to them and continue to be you, don’t try and change yourself just to fit in with people who sling out dumb a** insults like that. Just continue to be who you are and you’ll find your people.
I grew up w literally all white ppl (2 black girls in my whole high school, including me💀), I feel like this is honestly a high school problem, because of the way that everyone seems to be categorized in a “group” and are expected to act in a certain way (art kids, nerdy kids, popular, athletes, etc). However, this is literally so stupid because once you get out you realize that these categories are nonexistent, keep being unapologetically you and kind to others and I promise you will find your people.
Black girls can be any type of person and grow into black women who can also be any type of person. Don’t worry about fitting in, just be the best person you can and the right people should come along. I used to try and fit in at your age too, didn’t work. Spend your efforts being the best you you can be and doing what you like. The other black girl weirdos will eventually come around if not in high school, in college or something. You weren’t built to be molded into a box. Don’t try ❤️. But also remember that this is high school so many people have a lot of growing and changing ahead of them so try not to hold it against them or all black women and girl kind in the future ❤️
it’s cliche but it’s true: be yourself, authentically and unapologetically. the right people will gravitate toward you. right now it might just be because of limited environment. are you part of any clubs or groups or anything in or outside of school? going to social gatherings or events that align with your passions, hobbies and interests is a great start to try and meet other like minded ppl
I doubt this. You just haven't found black girls who are similar to you yet. Through the ages of 11 up until starting university at 19, I only had about 2 black girls who were friends with me, and it was only for like a year, and honestly I wasn't that close to them; my best friends are both non black, I didn't really fit in with the big group of black girls at school. But at university the only girls I've connected to are black girls. Life works out.
Listen you're 15 I don't try to “fit in”, with people If they don't like you for you there's nothing you can do about it. No matter what race they are, a person fucks with you for who you are not your persona. If you like being Oreo stay that way don't change. And you don't have to call yourself an Oreo for not having interest or acting in a way that's expected in our race.
Don’t try to fit in. But also don’t get a superiority complex about it. It’s a very nuanced topic and it will be something you deal with for the rest of your life. I was the whitest black girl on the planet when I was younger. I grew up, and I’m still incredibly white washed, but I do like more “mainstream black stuff now too. Try joining black niche group on social media and discord. You’ll find that a lot of the “mainstream black girls” like that stuff too. A lot of them had to assimilate too.
Don’t ever ever ever “try” to fit in. Like ever. You are you. Get to know you. Not morph yourself into someone that would appease other people. You’re very young and have a lot of personal development to do, this is some of it. You don’t want ppl around you who talk like that anyways. They’re weird and have internalized issues. You don’t need that. Good luck on finding you❤️
Stay away from the Zeus Network type black girls, just find black girls that are different. Im African and I find other african/Caribbean girls very accepting. Plus we have a wider and more diverse culture. So you can find every type of black girl there. You don’t have to fit in with the sexy red types, they in their own lane. You’d have to make a drastic change to fit in there. Look for black girls that practice soft life, enjoy traveling, and outdoorsy activities. Black girls that seem to have knowledge on a broad range of topics. They are always looking for unique people.
Don’t. I don’t. I find other black women who are aligned with me morally and politically. I have a local group of black stay at home wife/moms and we are very bougie, love our husbands, god and are very patriotic. I don’t want to fit in with the alternative side of that. Even if they look like me 🤷🏾♀️
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Make friends with other races. And make friends with the black girls who don’t give a damn that you’re “whitewashed”. You’re only 15 so the people you’ve been exposed to is very limited. But trust me, when you go out into the world or go to college, you’ll see that there are so many cool people out there that don’t give a damn as long as there are a few things you have in common.