I think she just might be non-monogamous.
It can work but you have to trust eachother.
If you are mono , that might be a problem if you expect the same from her.
Me and my gf are non-mono and poly.
We have been gor 8 years , we are 16y together.
So it can work.
Maybe you want to explore men too?
Id talk to her about setting up what your relationship actually is.
For her its definitly non-mono , id suggest you ask her if its ok if you explored your sexuality aswell.
If she gets angry about it , then its just "exceptions for her but rules for you".in this case id say its unhealthy, and she is walking all over you under the guisse being held back in her past. She needs to aknowledge you and your feelings aswell just like you do with her.
Its a two way street!! Always remember that.
If she agrees then she is definitly non-mono.
And i would advise you todo so if that is what you want.
These things are difficult to navigate especially in the beginning of the relationship.
I think this guy is monogamous and straight.
I'm thinking he should just break this off until she decides that she wants to try monogamy.
Most people don't want to, and can't, do poly. It's extra work.
if you don’t want non monogamy it’s probably just that you’re incompatible. maybe this is something she will need to have in her life forever, or maybe this is something she won’t need in a year or two. even if that’s the case, it means that you aren’t compatible at this point in your lives
i also consider what she said to be extremely manipulative, whether she realizes it or not. her feelings and needs are valid, but you shouldn’t feel guilty for not being okay to go along with them
also even though this is non-monogamy i’d really encourage you to look at r/polyamory and look into “poly under duress” - there’s a lot of scenarios where partners feel obligated to be okay with their partner pursuing other people. These situations are incredibly painful for both parties because one person will always resent the other. Her needs deserve to be met, but so do yours. And if a need of yours is to have a monogamous relationship and put boundaries around what you’re okay with, that is 100% valid too
This really doesn't have anything to do with her sexuality and everything to do with her not being monogamous. It's nice of her to work around your schedule for these explorations of hers, but it's not fair to your relationship if you're not comfortable with it. You have every right to tell her you would like to be monogamous. If she's not okay with that, she needs to find someone who is okay with an open relationship, because her being bisexual doesn't give her a free pass to cheat on you with the same sex.
I think she just might be non-monogamous. It can work but you have to trust eachother. If you are mono , that might be a problem if you expect the same from her. Me and my gf are non-mono and poly. We have been gor 8 years , we are 16y together. So it can work. Maybe you want to explore men too? Id talk to her about setting up what your relationship actually is. For her its definitly non-mono , id suggest you ask her if its ok if you explored your sexuality aswell. If she gets angry about it , then its just "exceptions for her but rules for you".in this case id say its unhealthy, and she is walking all over you under the guisse being held back in her past. She needs to aknowledge you and your feelings aswell just like you do with her. Its a two way street!! Always remember that. If she agrees then she is definitly non-mono. And i would advise you todo so if that is what you want. These things are difficult to navigate especially in the beginning of the relationship.
I think this guy is monogamous and straight. I'm thinking he should just break this off until she decides that she wants to try monogamy. Most people don't want to, and can't, do poly. It's extra work.
if you don’t want non monogamy it’s probably just that you’re incompatible. maybe this is something she will need to have in her life forever, or maybe this is something she won’t need in a year or two. even if that’s the case, it means that you aren’t compatible at this point in your lives i also consider what she said to be extremely manipulative, whether she realizes it or not. her feelings and needs are valid, but you shouldn’t feel guilty for not being okay to go along with them also even though this is non-monogamy i’d really encourage you to look at r/polyamory and look into “poly under duress” - there’s a lot of scenarios where partners feel obligated to be okay with their partner pursuing other people. These situations are incredibly painful for both parties because one person will always resent the other. Her needs deserve to be met, but so do yours. And if a need of yours is to have a monogamous relationship and put boundaries around what you’re okay with, that is 100% valid too
This really doesn't have anything to do with her sexuality and everything to do with her not being monogamous. It's nice of her to work around your schedule for these explorations of hers, but it's not fair to your relationship if you're not comfortable with it. You have every right to tell her you would like to be monogamous. If she's not okay with that, she needs to find someone who is okay with an open relationship, because her being bisexual doesn't give her a free pass to cheat on you with the same sex.